Do you and your spouse struggle in conflicts and arguments?
A lot of couples avoid discussing issues because they don’t like conflict. But, all conflicts are not negative. Essentially, put downs, anger, yelling, hurt feelings, and rudeness make conflicts negative. Overall, marriage counseling helps you feel love from your partner while in a conflict or argument. Do you feel alone or distant in your marriage? As well, do you and your spouse avoid talking about issues to avoid fighting? Does it feel like your spouse no longer cares about your dreams? Maybe, you want to feel like a team again and feel the “we” energy. Do you want to feel safe physically or sexually with your spouse again? Is your partner complaining about you non stop? Or, has there been an affair or infidelity? Working with the group of Wisdom Within Counseling marriage counseling specialists in Waterford, Ct helps you build a loving, nurturing, playful relationship.
How do holistic marriage counseling specialists in Waterford, Ct support communication tools?
Interestingly, couples will argue and communicate in negative ways longer than necessary. Getting stuck in negative communication impacts children and how they observe conflict resolution. Frequently, children will mirror and mimmic what they see in their parents. So, if there are cycles of negative comments and hurtful jabs, children may be repeating these phrases at school. Maybe, you really want a more peaceful, honest, and positive relationship with your spouse. Well, therapy can teach you specific skills to have safer conversations. Lastly, working with one of our holistic marriage counseling specialists in Waterford, Ct can help you improve your relationship.
Often, our holistic marriage counseling specialists in Waterford, Ct focus with couples in emotional pain, who are hurt, and who want change.
Maybe, you have tried couples therapy before and it has not worked. Or, you have never been to couples therapy before and are feeling scared. Plus, while helping you learn skills for better communication, our team looks at your relationships with your parents. Perhaps, your parents put guilt on you growing up. Maybe, one of your parents was an alcoholic or was emotionally neglectful. For instance, if you or your spouse saw your parents get separate and get divorced, that plays a role in your marriage today.
How does childhood trauma play a role when working with one of our holistic marriage counseling specialists in Waterford, Ct?
As well, if there was physical abuse in discipline from parents, spanking, or whipping, that plays a role in your marriage today. Manytimes, we do not learn how to repair conflict from our parents. As well, children who endue physical abuse as punishment continue to blame themselves into adulthood.
Overall, the team at Wisdom Within Counseling also looks at rape, molestation, unwanted touch, and sexual trauma as playing a role in marital therapy.
Essentially, what couples in arguments do not realize is that all of these past experiences play a role in the current conflict. So, from working with one of our holistic marriage counseling specialists in Waterford, Ct, you can learn to talk about these parts of your past and triggers with ease. With no doubt, marriage counseling specialists can help you bring the playfulness and joy back.
To begin, click the pink button below for a phone consult to work with one of our Wisdom Within marriage counseling specialists.
What happens in couples counseling sessions?
Sometimes, couples go through ups and downs. Perhaps, you are going through the process of marriage and union. Navigating in laws can be chaotic and challenging. Or, you have children and and need support around parenting values. Maybe, right now, you and your spouse don’t agree on religious views and how you want to raise your children.
What are the negative impacts of defensiveness?
Defensiveness is a response some couples show in conversations. Also, couples who report they they walk on eggshells around their spouse experience defensiveness. Manytimes, defensiveness is in an effort of self-protection.
And, couples therapy can help spouses understand responding with defensiveness is putting a guard up.
On the other hand, holistic relationship counseling promotes opening your heart, and remaining emotionally close. Also, defensiveness is a negative part of relationship communication.
Often, couples demonstrate defensiveness due to facing criticism from their spouse.
For example, if you feel that your partner criticized you, you may react initially with defensiveness. Then, you partner shuts down even more, or gets mad and snaps at you. Essentially, moving your marriage to the next level means learning a few key communication skills. Also, couples therapy can help you identify when your spouse feels defensive. To add, you can use the skills you learn in marriage therapy in Waterford, Connecticut to promote affection. Often, defensiveness blocks romance, love, and passion. However, when you feel anxious, overwhelmed, or feel criticism, marriage counseling can help you clearly communicate that.
On another note, you may feel distrustful or suspicion that your partner is having an affair.
Often, working with the group of Wisdom Within Counseling marriage counseling specialists in Waterford, Ct can prove a safe place to talk about intense issues. As well, other stressors couples go through include loss and grief around the death of a close relative, child or family pet. To add, losing a friend or relative can cause tension in a marriage. Sometimes, wanting to confide in your spouse, but feeling they would be upset with you, can lead to depression. Maybe, your spouse is not sensitive to you, doesn’t emotionally validate, or gets angry easily. Overall, loss, sadness, and grief can lead to anger and withdrawal that impacts a marriage. To add, working with one of our marriage counseling specialists in Waterford, Ct can help you feel emotional connection again.
What happens to couples in a frustrating argument, conflict or fight?
Furthermore, you and your spouse may be in the car and an argument begins. For some, fears, anxieties, wanting to be appreciated, and betrayals play a role in a fight. Sometimes, a fight is due to no longer having goals, dreams, and hopes as a couple. Manytimes, couples do not know how to address their partner in an argument or conflict. And, responding and reacting in an angry way or tense way creates a high conflict fight. Then, distant couples avoid talking about a set of issues and never address their underlying dreams. Maybe, you want to feel like a team and the “we” back in responsibilities and chores. Or, your dream may be to feel close and feel safe with your spouse again.
What is an avoidant attachment style?
Often, one person in a marriage will have an avoidant attachment style. So, when on person wants to talk about their emotions, the other person finds that overwhelming. Over time, marriage counseling can help spouses learn to emotionally validate and connect. Frequently, spouses with an avoidant attachment style feel unheard and like their spouse is trying to fix them. Often, learning to talk and listen together are skills distant couples can learn in marriage therapy.
How does an avoidant attachment style develop and what problems does it cause for couples seeking marriage counseling?
Sometimes, one person has an avoidant attachment style because they did not get a lot of support as a child. So, it is a struggle to offer marital support as a result of that upbringing. Let’s say your spouse has an avoidant attachment style due to not getting emotional validation in childhood. Often, when you have a spouse with an avoidant attachment style, you may feel alone in your marriage. And, when you want to talk and have your spouse listen, it feels like they are planning how to make you better. Also, if your spouse has an avoidant attachment style, you may feel depressed or sad when your spouse doesn’t listen to your feelings.
Maybe, you feel your spouse is cold, distant or critical when you desire support most.
At times, one person in a marriage may be dismissive when the other person wants emotional validation. Also, your spouse’s upbringing and family history play a role in their avoidant attachment style.
So, if you spouse experienced family rejection, that lack of childhood emotional support can play a role in marital conflicts today.
Often, an avoidant attachment style can lead to marital loneliness and sadness over time. Holistic couples therapy can help you strengthen your attachment together. At times, couples respond to each other with harshness and criticism.
Some couples get stuck in negative communication because they react from a place of fear or anger with out realizing it.
So, meeting with a couples therapist can help reduce this habit. In therapy sessions, your couples therapist will observe reactions and negative habits. Often, couples are not be able to notice these critical responses themselves. Over time, holistic couples therapy can help teach tools for building emotional intimacy. Lastly, marital therapy can teach communication tools if you have a spouse with an avoidant attachment style.
To begin, click the pink button below for a phone consult to work with one of our Wisdom Within marriage counseling specialists.
Frequently, Wisdom Within Counseling specializes with lonely couples who get stuck in a cycle of negativity and horrible arguments.
Perhaps, your spouse has been having an affair and you want to heal together. Frequently, couples think that affairs and infidelity immediately leads to separation. Manytimes, couples that come to marriage therapy for an affair need to learn to get to know each other again. Often, couples who have affairs have negative communication habits and patterns. Frequently, criticism and negative hurtful jabs are present in relationship where an affair was present.
How does marriage counseling in Waterford, Connecticut support couples in healing after an affair, infidelity, or betrayals?
Also, your couples therapist can help improve trust in the healing process. And, when one or both people have a chip on their shoulder, negative communication is present. Marriage counseling for affair healing teaches you skills to talk about intense emotions with a trauma sensitive perspective. Manytimes, couples yell and trigger each other. So, no positive communication is happening in the marriage. Essentially, couples therapy teaches both people how to believe in togetherness again.
Over time, marital therapy teaches distant couples post affair how to speak when they are triggered emotionally.
Often, couples going through affair counseling lose touch with each other and stop creating shared goals. Manytimes, working with one of the Wisdom Within Counseling marriage counseling specialists in Waterford, Ct can promote getting to know each other again. Maybe, fondness, admiration, and loving touch is gone, and you’re missing that. At the same time, you may feel a variety of emotions like anxiety, betrayal, sadness, loss, grief, and happiness. So, in the process of healing from a marital affair and betrayal, you can learn tools to build you sound relationship house. For instance, you can learn about the sound relationship house, which is a physical tool to help you level up your marriage. Manytimes, distant couples do not know where to start to break the cycle of negativity.
Often, couples will continue negative communication and fighting with out working with the group of Wisdom Within Counseling marriage counseling specialists in Waterford, Ct.
How does working with one of the Wisdom Within Counseling marriage counseling specialists in Waterford, Ct support emotional intimacy?
So, in order to process your past fights and hurt feelings, couples therapy can be helpful. Your therapist can guide a safe conversation that teaches you how to listen emotionally. From marriage counseling, the severity of your fights can change with coping skills and with time.
To add, couples therapy can help you slow down and stop major arguments from beginning.
If you feel hopeless after a marriage conflict, you may be missing important elements to repair after a fight. In general, holistic couples therapy can teach you and offer the education you didn’t learn in school. Furthermore, dealing with children, parenting, responsibilities, working, and career development can becomes stressful. Often, fight couples will become more distant, alone, upset and develop tension over life adjustments.
Do you fight able how to spend money, what to spend money on, and how to manage family finances as a couple?
Maybe, the spontaneity and playfulness is missing from your relationship. After some time, you and your spouse may realize you have different values about how to spend money. Perhaps, your spouse wants a big house remodel or new kitchen cabinets. Or, you want to travel the world and spend money on exploring. Also, working with the group of Wisdom Within Counseling marriage counseling specialists in Waterford, Ct supports laughter and playfulness in your relationship.
Now, it might seem like you fight and worry about finances, money, and spending money.
Essentially, your marriage counselor can help you have conversations around budgeting and finances your marriage.
Often, couples try to have these conversations by shutting each other out or one person doing it all. And, talking about money can be triggering for couples, which makes calm conversations turn into angry, negative fights quickly. Sometimes, couples will mock each other and not listen to each other. Also, working with the group of Wisdom Within Counseling marriage counseling specialists in Waterford, Ct can provide tools to have a calm conversation.
Many times, distant couples are missing key elements to have a successful, loving, nurturing marriage.
However, it is possible for fighting couples to achieve and work together to build a loving, trusting marriage. From working with the group of Wisdom Within Counseling marriage counseling specialists in Waterford, Ct, you can build a positive, caring, nurturing relationship bond.
In Gottman couples therapy, Wisdom Within Counseling teaches coping skills for closeness.
Our therapists look up to Dr. Julie and John Gottman. In couples therapy, your therapist will evaluate conflict management and relationship repairs. Not all couples therapists teach positive skills like the Wisdom Within Counseling team does. In marriage counseling, you may do role-play exercises to build healthy communication tools. Once again, you can feel like you have your best friend again. Often, marriage therapy supports couples in taking vacations together again. From marriage counseling, you can start having fun and be curious together again. Lastly, improving the emotional closeness marriage can also improve depression and anxiety.
