If you are fighting, feeling stuck and not knowing what to say because you feel so angry or flooded, or you feel hurt, you are in the right place.
Right now, your fights might include name-calling, yelling, slamming doors, and hurtful emotions. Additionally, you might be worried about the future of your marriage or relationship.
Our team at Wisdom Within Counseling specialize in helping fighting couples build inner peace, a calm home life, and passionate connection.
If you are getting stuck in frustrating fights that leave you hopeless or angry, your communication can improve through Space Coast couples therapy.
To begin, click the button below for a phone consult for holistic Space Coast couples counseling.
On the Space Coast in Florida, you get to work with Gottman level two trained marriage therapists at Wisdom Within counseling.
You can learn how to turn anger and resentment into healthy communication.
Couples therapy along the Space Coast in Florida supports healthy communication and playful connection
What are some types of communication that lead to separation without the help of Space Coast, Florida couples therapy?
If you or your partner resort to yelling, this is a negative communication style. Many times, fighting couples don’t realize how often they are yelling.
Also, speaking in a demeaning tone or raising voices is hurtful and negative for your marriage. Anytime you feel like you have to yell because feel hurt, couples therapy helps you calmly share emotions. As well, couples may yell to try to get a point across.
To begin, click the button below for a phone consult for a healthy relationship through holistic, Space Coast couples therapy.
However, yelling in a fight means that you are using negative communication. As well, the more often arguing couples use negative communication, the more distant and disconnected they feel.
What are examples of skills Space Coast couples counseling can teach me and my spouse?
Yelling frequently turns into name-calling, personal attacks, and creates an emotional shut down. You can learn to notice when your heart rate goes over 100 beats per minute.
The timing of having conversations is an art of healthy communication.
From Space Coast couples counseling in Florida, you can learn to notice this spike in anger in yourself. Many couples make the mistake of yelling, escalating fights, and belittling one another by talking when angry.
Essentially, when angry, your heart beat will increase a lot. When your heart beat is pounding out of your chest, don’t try to talk or work it out just yet.
When angry, it is not the right time to have a calm conversation when feeling heated and angry.
Anger means you need to practice self-soothing and self-regulation skills to feel calmer. Essentially, when your heart beat and heart rate increases, this is your body getting angry. You may also be feeling a lot of other emotions like anxiety, sadness, hurt, fear, and frustration.
Space Coast couples counseling helps with sharing intense emotions like anger and sadness calmly
Space Coast couples counseling at Wisdom Within is a safe place to talk about all these intense emotions. So, part of healthy communication is self-awareness to lower stress levels and practice self-care. Journal, go for a walk, pet your cat, do an art or craft project, or call a friend to calm down.
To note, any time you or your partner experience emotional shut down, this means you have been talking when angry. One of you is saying something hurtful to the other person.
How does Space Coast marriage and relationship counseling help with better communication?
Now, distant couples who are fighting also get into arguments to be the more right person and one up each other. So, your Melbourne, Florida couples therapist can teach you skills for repairing a conflict, apologizing. Also, saying, ”I am sorry for hurting you,” takes the help of a professional marriage therapist. Additionally, you can learn skills for ownership about your part in the situation. Learning how to take ownership, apologizing, and speaking about a big fight afterwards are parts of Space Coast couples therapy.
To begin, click the button below for a phone consult for a meaningful connection through Space Coast couples counseling.
Why do fighting couples start yelling in the first place?
You feel you are right and want to prove a point. But, its is not coming out in an effective way. Inside, we each have a wounded inner child that has unmet needs. There may be a hurt inner child within that needs love, but is yelling. If you experience yelling, sometimes you may have learned that growing up in your home environment.
Maybe, you were yelled at as a child and had unmet needs. Perhaps, your parents had a messy divorce where you were stuck in the middle all the time. Or, your parents had mental health issues like bi-polar disorder, anger, borderline personality disorder, or PTSD.
What are examples of childhood trauma that plays a role in communication in romantic and intimate relationships as adults?
Maybe, you grew up around sexual abuse or domestic violence. Overall, you didn’t get the love you deserved as a child. As a child, you observed your parents yelling or getting into high conflict fights. Yelling in childhood seemed normal to your spouse too. When two people with childhood trauma fall in love, that childhood trauma gets projected on to one another.
So, if your spouse also grew up in a traumatic environment, couples therapy in Melbourne, Florida can help.
Perhaps, your spouse needs to learn healthy communication skills to their parental relationships. Sometimes, people don’t learn how to talk kindly to each other or effectively communicate in childhood. So, all you both saw in childhood was negative communication.
Space Coast Florida marriage and couples therapy can be a safe place to learn how to communicate in a healthy, respectful, and mindful way.
As well, this may be the first time in your life you have the opportunity to learn these skills, in marriage counseling in Melbourne, Florida. Communicating calmly and playfully helps your children learn healthy communication tools too. You get to change your family pattern for the better through marriage therapy.
Therefore, your Space Coast Florida couples therapist can help you communicate these childhood unmet needs and big emotions with your partner in a way that helps you feel heard. And, you deserve to be loved and heard too!
To begin, click the button below for a phone consult for positive communication and holistic Space Coast couples counseling.
Why will you Space Coast, Florida couples therapist teach you alternatives to yelling?
If you are yelling, your partner is probably going to have a bad attitude about whatever you are saying.
When you yell, your partner may feel scared or afraid of you. Sharing emotions in a calm way is more effective long term for a healthy marriage. Also, marriage therapy can help promote peacefulness in your home environment for your children and as a couple.
Even if you grew up with parents who yelled a lot, calm communication skills can help you have less anxiety and calm your nervous system.
Maybe, you never saw healthy communication growing up. So, you can develop these playful, healthy communication skills through Space Coast, Florida marriage counseling. another benefit of healthy communication for couples is living more spiritually in tune.
And, you can feel closer and hopeful from talking together as a couple. You and your partner can feel like you have a friend in each other again from couples therapy.
Space Coast couples therapy can give you a safe space to live mindfully together and build passionate connection again.
A mixture of yoga therapies, art therapies and creative mind-body therapies are a part of couples counseling along the Space Coast. As well, as specialists with couples in therapy, we find the mind-body therapies promote non verbal communication. We believe in connection beyond just words. When couples relax together, it paves the way for emotional intimacy.
Art, painting, yoga, meditation, mindfulness, and holistic therapies support a language beyond words. Couples can feel a sense of relaxation and inner peace together through holistic, mind-body therapies.
