Learning how to get your power back after a toxic break up takes the help of a therapist who specializes in narcissism. Going through a break up, especially with a narcissist or toxic person, can be heartbreaking. There might be days where you feel sad and feel like crying.
As well, you might have days where you feel like a total rockstar and on top of the world. Taking your power back is a process and working with a therapist who specializes in relationships and break ups can really help. Counseling after a toxic break up with a narcissist can help you regain self-worth and self-confidence.
Working with the team at Wisdom Within Counseling supports self-love
Counseling after a toxic break up helps you gain self-confidence
Part of healing after a toxic relationship is regaining a sense of confidence. Learning about what hobbies you enjoy and what food you like to eat are all part of healing after a break up. Regaining your confidence means learning to live life without your abusive ex partner. Know that it is always okay to cry.
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You might want to pick up a journal or start a new art project. Finding a healthy outlet for all the emotions you are experiencing will help you get through this difficult and emotional time.
Should I still talk to my toxic, narcissistic ex?
Know that some people cut off their ex cold turkey and other people keep a line of communication open. No matter what you choose to do, working with a therapist can help you have a safe place to reflect on how you feel.
Some people choose to date again quickly. Other people like to be single for a period of time to understand their feelings. Working with a therapist who understands toxic relationships and narcissism can help guide you when you are ready for a healthy relationship again.
Counseling after a toxic break up supports self-love tools
Remember, all healthy relationships with a romantic partner begin from self-love and self connection. Having a therapist can help guide you in building a self-care routine and stop unhealthy coping strategies.
During a difficult time such as a break up from a toxic partner, you might find yourself taking part in drinking too much alcohol or working too much. Maybe, you started gambling, or have a shopping addiction. You might find yourself with obsessive thoughts or listening to the negative chatter of your mind. And, you might even find yourself pulled back to the trauma bond of your narcissistic ex.
How can counseling after a toxic break up help you gain strength?
Working with a therapist can help you trust yourself, trust the world, and attract a healthy romantic relationship again.
Remember, there is no rule book or map for going about this part of your life.
One of the most important things that you can do is repair your self-esteem after a break up through counseling. Know that you might feel rejected, depressed, excluded, sad, or even lonely.
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Working with a therapist can help you understand that you are not to blame for any narcissism or verbal or physical abuse that you experienced in the past.
Your therapist can help you see herself as a confident person with strong sense of self-esteem. If you feel worthless or low in self-esteem, these are great topics to bring to your counseling appointment.
As well, your holistic therapist can help you heal after a break up with a narcissist by learning to meditate, visualize positive affirmations, and even do a walk and talk therapy session outdoors. Working with a therapist can help you identify toxic and abusive tendencies that may have become normal to you.
Therapy after a toxic break up helps you learn to set boundaries for unacceptable behaviors
If you lived with someone that was domestically violent, psychologically abusive, or you were in a trauma bond, you may have learned that certain behaviors were acceptable. In reality, what you might think are normal behaviors, are really unacceptable and disrespectful behaviors. If you were living in an abusive relationship, you might feel confused about what is healthy and unhealthy. Working with a trauma therapist can help you identify traits of narcissistic people. As well, you can learn how to set healthy boundaries, and be confident in yourself after a break up.
From counseling, you can understand dysfunctional patterns from younger years, so you don’t end up with a domestically violent person ever again.
Recovering from being in a toxic and abusive relationship takes time. Every single day, take the time to love yourself and tell yourself how were you are of love.
At first, it might be hard for you to believe that you deserve respect and love.
But, by working with a therapist who specializes in helping people heal from narcissistic and toxic relationships, you can learn to live in the present moment.
Trauma counseling after a toxic break up can support you in this new chapter
Surrounding yourself with other outgoing, friendly, and positive people will help too. If you were in a domestically violent, narcissistic, or toxic relationship for many years, it might feel like the world is new. It might feel like you’re starting a brand new light for a whole new chapter.
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You might feel suspicious or skeptical if you start dating again. As well, if your toxic or narcissistic ex didn’t except your feelings, you might be used to bottling up your emotions. However, bottling up your emotions will not do any good in a future relationship. Working with a therapist can help you become aware of different emotions such as anger, jealousy, anxiety, and fear.
It is very normal to feel afraid and sad after leaving a toxic, narcissistic, trauma bond.
As well, it is also very normal to feel like you are missing your abuser. If you were in an abusive or domestically violent relationship, it is normal to feel sad and heartbroken that you are no longer with this person. Even though you realize that they are not good for you and abused you, it may still be heartbreaking to be alone.
Yes, toxic relationships can change, but if someone does not recognize they are abusive or narcissistic, the relationship will always remain abusive. Therapy can help you focus on creating and attracting a healthy, positive relationship.
How to find healthy coping skills through counseling after a toxic break up?
With the help of a professional, trauma bond therapist, you can find healthy ways to cope with the different feelings were experiencing. You might want to drink more water and stay more hydrated throughout the day.
Instead of going to the bar or going out to a party, you might want to go to a book club or a yoga class. Instead of staying up late till 3 AM on your cell phone comparing yourself on social media, you might decide to go to bed at 9 PM and have a healthy sleep routine.
Making small changes throughout your day can help you focus on the present moment and have a healthier lifestyle.
From having a healthier lifestyle, you will be more perceptive about what creates a toxic relationship and you can prevent yourself from being in a domestically abusive relationship again.
Understanding abusive childhood experiences can help you create a positive romantic relationship
Commonly, different childhood trauma experiences can make toxic, abuse a more normal. Working with a therapist can help you identify if you had a parent or caregiver in your childhood that treated you in an abusive way. From childhood years, you may have learned that abuse was normal or acceptable behavior.
Did you parents have drug or alcohol problems? Were your parents emotionally neglectful, violent, or aggressive?
Maybe, one of your parents had alcoholism, and you identify as an adult child of alcoholics. Growing up with a parent who is an alcoholic can make you think that you deserve less than. Working with a trauma bond therapist can help you gain self-worth and self-esteem tools to truly reflect on your childhood.
As much as your parents loved you, they may have been neglectful, emotionally distant, or emotionally unavailable.
Your parents may have been narcissistic at times or toxic in some of their behaviors too.
Children are helpless and learn from how parents behave. If your parents treated you in a disrespectful or abusive way, you may have learned that this was acceptable. And, this plays out in a romantic relationship in your adult years.
Also, any sort of yelling, domestic violence, throwing things, or belittlement makes you think this is okay. So, if you experienced these in your childhood, it can create low self-worth in adulthood.
To begin, click below to book your free phone consult for trauma counseling after a toxic break up with a narcissist.
Therefore, working with a therapist who understands trauma bonds, narcissism, and toxic relationships, can help you create healthy lifestyle patterns in your adult years.
From counseling, you can learn how to set healthy behaviors for yourself in adult years and attract a healthy partner.
Even though your parents may have been abusive or narcissistic, you can learn that you deserve respect and love in all of your relationships. By working with a therapist, you can learn how real love, care, and compassion feels. You are not to blame if you have been in a toxic relationship or if you identify as a victim of domestic abuse.
Learning about trauma bonds and the cycle of abuse can be very helpful in counseling.
Working with the team of therapists who specializes in trauma bonds and toxic relationships at Wisdom Within can be very helpful.
In addition to video counseling throughout the state of Connecticut and Florida, we offer painting, art and creative therapies, walk and talk therapy, yoga therapy, recreational therapy and drama therapy.
You get holistic, positive coping tools to gain self-worth tools after a toxic break up.
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Therapy helps you stay strong after a break up with a narcissist.
Our trauma bond therapists are also Gottman trained in marital counseling to help couples post affair, infidelity, and betrayal.
The team of marital and family therapists specialize in toxic relationships, narcissism, trauma bond, and complex post traumatic stress disorder.
We help children, teenagers, adults, and couples create meaningful, healthy relationships.
So, if you are located in the state of Florida or in the state of Connecticut, we would love to help! You can gain self-worth and self-esteem after a toxic break up.
