If you or your loved, one, is struggling with a porn addiction, multiple affairs, or compulsive sexual addiction issues, our team at Wisdom Within Counseling help. Addiction is often rooted in unresolved childhood trauma responses. But, negative sexual behaviors related to trauma show up as addiction. Addictive behaviors can lead to pain, loss, grief, fear, and anxiety within marriages and romantic relationships. Sex and porn addiction counseling for couples and adults is a speciality at Wisdom Within Counseling.
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How do I know if I am addicted to porn or sex?
If you are addicted to porn, you may find that watching porn is something you need to do every single day or multiple times a day. The behaviors of your porn addiction get in the way of everyday life. With a porn addiction, you desire to watch porn when you need to be doing other things. Your porn addiction gets in the way of living a healthy and happy life. Sometimes, you feel that you have to watch porn or touch yourself sexually in order to feel happy.
Sex and porn addiction counseling for couples can help you if you feel moody or angry when you can’t watch porn
If you don’t get to watch porn at your regular time, you may end up, feeling moody, angry, or irritable. When you are at work, and supposed to be concentrating on your next big project, you feel a compulsion to watch porn. You may have a porn addiction if you have intrusive sexual thoughts about the next time you can watch porn. Also, you might take breaks while you are are at work to go to the bathroom and watch pornography. Or, you might feel like you are not able to stop watching pornography when you get home.
Sex addiction, pornography addiction, and other behavioral addictions often go hand-in-hand.
If you are addicted to pornography, you might identify as having an addictive personality. You might like other thrill seeking activities, such as skydiving or car racing. As well, you may take part in drug use or struggle with alcoholism. You may find yourself with a technology addiction or other addictive behaviors in addition to sex and porn.
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If you are needing sex and porn addiction counseling, you may have been hiding this problem for a long time.
Deep down, you know you have had a problem with pornography and addiction for over a decade. However, your pornography use has been bothering your romantic partner and getting in the way of you having healthy thoughts. One way that you know you are struggling with multiple affairs, sex addiction, or pornography addiction is that you cannot stop. You feel an impulse to watch pornography. This impulse has been with you for years and years. Thinking back, you can remember starting your porn addiction in your late teens or early 20’s.
Sex and porn addiction counseling for couples and individuals provides positive coping tools for cravings and anxiety relief rather than porn and sex
After viewing pornography, you immediately feel calmer. Like with any addiction, there are intense cravings. Just like someone who is addicted to nicotine needs the next cigarette, it feels like you can’t stop watching pornography or having affairs. With sex and pornography addictions of all kinds, you may experience intense cravings. Your mind tells you that you deeply want some thing and you have to have it in order to meet that craving.
Another way you might notice that you are suffering from a pornography addiction, sex addiction, or issues with cheating is that you are not interested in partner sex.
You are more interested in masturbation or self pleasure experiences. When your partner tries to make a romantic advance, or come onto you, you feel disinterested. And, a overall sense of being uninterested in sexual experiences with your romantic partner can be a sign that you have a porn addiction. Even in a sexual experience with your partner, you might feel like you need to watch porn before hand to get in the mood.
Counseling at Wisdom Within for individuals and couples can treat be a safe place to talk about addiction, childhood sexual trauma, feeling desire, building, desire, and expressing romantic affection.
Often times, sexual issues are both emotional and physical. Being able to talk about both emotional and physical parts of a healthy sex life to make your sex life more satisfying.
Compulsive porn use can lead to unrealistic expectations around partner sex and marriage issues
Another reason to seek the help of an individual and couples therapist for porn use, is that getting addicted to porn can lead to unrealistic expectations around sex. The pornography industry is an acting industry. People are paid to put on a happy face and play a role.
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Pornography addiction can lead to false expectations around what a human body can do.
The female body takes about 45 to 90 minutes to reach an orgasm. This means that any female needs 45 to 90 minutes of foreplay to feel open sexually. The pornography industry does not adequately show this duration of foreplay time that is required for the female body to surrender to pleasure. Therefore, a partner with a porn addiction may develop unrealistic expectations around how quickly a female should be able to orgasm.
Due to watching pornography compulsively, expectations around sex become unrealistic. Additionally, a person may not understand how to provide both the emotional and physical stimulation. Pornography is often very physically oriented and leaves out the emotional elements that create a positive, satisfying sex life. A romantic partner may need guidance from couples therapy about the emotional side of sex. Sex may have become emotionless due to the porn and sex addiction
The team of therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling help couples through sex addiction, multiple affairs, and pornography addiction.
Addictions of all kinds are very similar. Therapy can help you work through shame, guilt, and even self-hatred. Learning to love and accept yourself is a skill from sex and porn addiction counseling for couples. If your romantic partner asks you about your pornography use, you may find yourself getting defensive or blaming them.
People who struggle with sex addiction, pornography addiction, or multiple affairs may struggle with anger.
You might feel angry that you have to report back to your romantic partner if you have watched porn. Your romantic partner might see you sneaking away to a bedroom to relieve this addiction. Marriage and individual therapy can help you work through the root of anger, the loss and grief that’s often underneath.
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If you struggle with sex and porn addiction, counseling for adults and couples can help you heal unresolved trauma
Many times, sex addiction, pornography addiction, and a history of multiple affairs means there is childhood trauma that is unresolved. Due to childhood trauma, numbing behaviors and addiction are common in adults. Problems with porn use and sex addiction are commonly rooted in childhood trauma. Maybe, you were sexually abused in your childhood, felt helpful, hurt, taken advantage of, and out of control. Sometimes, after sexual abuse in childhood from a friend, coach, or loved one, children either become hyper or hypo sexual.
One trauma response is not wanting to be touched and finding hugging disgusting. After childhood sexual abuse, you might not want to receive touch of any kind. On the other hand, after childhood sexual abuse, complex trauma symptoms evolve. For other people, a complex trauma symptom of experiencing childhood abuse is loving touch. Understanding where the need for touch comes from is part of sex addiction healing at Wisdom Within Counseling. This includes touch on the genital area which can lead to a sex and pornography addiction.
Some people love having their bodies touched because of sexual trauma and sexual abuse.
We often try to heal our past childhood trauma experiences in our adult lives, and in adult relationships. If you are struggling with a sex addiction, pornography addiction, or have challenges with cheating, the team at Wisdom Within Counseling can help you develop a more authentic sense of self. You can understand more about how these behaviors that cause problems in your romantic relationships are rooted in unresolved childhood trauma.
Talking about childhood, trauma and using holistic, mind-body therapies can help you feel more connected to yourself.
Rather than feeling reactive, or angry, you can feel centered and intentional about each of your sexual behaviors. Instead of feeling like your brain is being hijacked with a craving sex or to watch pornography, you can feel authentic and intentional about your choices from counseling. The team of marriage and family therapists specialize in sex and porn addiction counseling for couples and adults.
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From sex and porn addiction counseling for couples and adults, you can identify your personal triggers.
These can be different for each addict.
For some, a trigger is feeling small and helpless like in childhood again. But, for others, a trigger to use porn is feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or worried. Triggers are a thought or a feeling that leads to a negative, addictive behavior. Porn may have always been there for you in your life, when everything else was falling apart. Identifying personal triggers provides self-awareness. Counseling for sex and porn addiction can support alternative, positive coping tools when triggered.
If you need sex and porn addiction counseling, your body may be hurting, bruised, in pain, or sore from your addiction.
If you are struggling with a pornography or sex addiction, you may find your genital area is sore from compulsive, masturbation or self pleasure. You might be touching yourself in such a rough way. It is common for people with sex and porn addictions to be masturbating so much that they become desensitized.
A sex addict needs more and more pressure and touch in order to feel the same high from masturbation in self pleasure.
You might have physical pain or chafing around your genital area from touching yourself too much. More so, masturbation and self pleasure activities often involve repetitive movements. There can be muscular strain that comes from too much self pleasure and sex addiction. You might find you have a backache, your legs are cramping, or even there’s chafing on your genital area.
Sex addiction and porn addictions can be helped through the process of couples therapy in individual counseling.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, we offer couples a mix of individual counseling and couples therapy. We work with couples who are impacted by a partner’s porn addiction.
It’s normal for your spouse to feel very emotionally distant from you when they have uncovered your porn and sex addiction. To add, Wisdom Within Counseling specializes in sex and porn addiction counseling for couples and adults. In counseling for sex and porn problems, you can talk about shame, guilt, and self-hatred. It is common for addicts to hate themselves for the addictive part within. Seeing how hurt loved ones have been from addictive behaviors can lead to shame, guilt, and self-hatred.
Instead of self-hatred, Wisdom Within Counseling supports positive self-talk and self-worth skills. Healing from shame and guilt are important parts of sex and porn addiction counseling for couples and adults.
Couples therapy can help partners get honest with each other and rebuild meaningful connection
What comes along with realizing your partner has a porn and sex addiction may be more information. You spouse may have just realized you are having emotional and physical affairs. Talking about the variety of emotions, anxieties, and grief experiences in couples in individual counseling can help with emotional re-bonding.
What is sex and porn addiction counseling for couples like?
You and your spouse can work through porn and sex addiction and recover together. Counseling at Wisdom Within can be the safe place you need to have calm and effective conversations. To add, talking about sex, porn, and addictive behaviors helps to rebuild trust and meaningful connection. There may be a couple occurring mental health issues such as bipolar disorder, borderline, personality disorder, or complex post traumatic stress disorder that go along side of sex and porn addictions.
To begin, click below for your phone consult for sex and porn addiction counseling for couples and adults.
Talking about childhood trauma and using holistic therapies can help your body and mind gain connection together.
From self connection, we are able to extend that love and acceptance to our romantic partner. At Wisdom Within Counseling, our therapists offer adults and couples a variety of painting, art, yoga, and mindfulness therapies that support trauma recovery. It is possible to forgive your partner if they have been suffering from a sex and porn addiction and other addictive behaviors.
Our therapists believe that mind-body therapies and somatic therapy is support in complex trauma recovery.
Moving your body, you are more able to be in tune with what type of touch you like to give and receive. By practicing a body scan meditation with your couples therapist, you can be more calm to prevent yourself from lashing out at your partner.
If you notice anger as a result of your addiction, mindfulness practices, like meditation can help reduce feelings of irritability. Additionally, if you find yourself tense, deep breathing practices learned in couples therapy can help with training your mind to be present and calm.
As well, we offer outdoor walk and talk sessions by the beach. The video sessions are always available to help boost self-esteem, rebuild, self-worth, and heal, unresolved childhood trauma experiences.
The numbing symptoms related to childhood trauma, often play a role in greater marriage problems. Couples therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling can help you change addictive behaviors and get to the root cause of them.
A pornography addiction and sex addiction can leave your romantic relationship shattered, and sex and porn addiction counseling for couples can help rebuild it.
When your romantic partner finds out you’ve been cheating, or struggling with pornography addiction, they might feel heartbroken, or like you’ve been lying to them. Often times, pornography addiction and sex addiction issues can lead to betrayals and challenges in marriages. Talking about trauma, alternative coping tools, sexual attraction, interest in sex, and emotional presence can all the parts of recovering from sex addiction in marriage counseling.
