It can feel sad if you have lost your sex drive. Learning about women’s sexual health and feeling confident talking about sex can be healing and empowering. As a female, you may struggle with low desire and not know what to do. You don’t like having sex. After sex, you feel down. You find sex dull, boring, or painful. After having children, you may have shut out the sexual side of yourself. You might have performance anxiety around sex or feel self-conscious. Working with the intimacy and sex specialists and marriage therapists can help you start talking about your sexual goals and feel confident about your sexual needs.
Rebuilding sexual desire is a skill from working with the intimacy and sex specialists and marriage therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling. There can be physical and emotional challenges that come up around low libido. It can be common to be brainwashed by the myths due to lack of proper sexual education. Maybe, you grew up with sexual shame, guilt, and fear and think sex is a taboo subject.
Or, certain losses, traumas, or even medications have made you lose your sex drive. Medications can cause a low sex drive as well. Feeling positive about body size and shape can also make a different in sex drive and libido.
Working with the intimacy and sex specialists and marriage therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling support sex positive conversations.
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If you are a female and struggle with low sexual desire, you are not alone.
Many women feel they are broken if they can’t feel sexy or aroused sexually. You might not know where to start. And, you feel obligation to keep your partner happy by giving.
Furthermore, working with the intimacy and sex specialists and marriage therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling can help you gain positive skills. Our therapists help couples learn about how and why low desire occurs. You can gain sex positive skills to increase your sex life.
Working with the intimacy and sex specialists and marriage therapists helps couples rebuild a passionate relationship.
Why do women lose their sex drive?
Working with the intimacy and sex specialists and marriage therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling, supports women who lack sexual desire. We figure out where the sexual desire went and provide a map for how to rebuild it.
It is common for women to lose their passion to have sex for many reasons.
Couples therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling with a sex specialist can rule out issues. As well, you can learn what is needed to improve your sex drive and enjoy sexual pleasure more fully.
Learning about sexual desire for women means brining passion and emotional safety back.
If there is aggression, anger, or conflict in your relationship, your sex drive may go away.
Now, name-calling, criticism, or feeling dismissed by your romantic partner can make your sex drive drop. When you feel unimportant or insignificant, these emotions are the exact opposite of feeling wanted and desired.
Emotional intimacy is a huge foundational element for healthy sex life.
Couples therapy can help you and your partner learn how to rebuild emotional intimacy and empathy. To add, talking about different past hurtful experiences can be a positive part of rebuilding emotional empathy and intimacy.
From a physical standpoint, there are many issues that can cause problems.
What are the benefits of orgasming for women?
As well as relationship conflict and passive aggressive communication, couples therapy can help women understand the benefits of sexual pleasure.
So often, women push themselves to the back burner. Childcare, building a career, and financial stress I’ll take a toll. Being mentally overwhelmed and energetically drained does not support healthy sex life. So, couples therapy and working with an intimacy specialist can help women understand the benefits of setting aside time for orgasming.
Now, orgasming not a requirement from sexual pleasure. If a woman feels rushed sexually or like sex is an obligation, she will find it less pleasurable. Her sexual desire will decrease.
Meeting with the intimacy and sex specialists and marriage therapists supports orgasming and relaxing into sexual pleasure
But, orgasming a side effect and benefit of being mentally present and setting aside time for sexual activity.
Orgasming is beneficial for women on a psychological and emotional level. It might feel far away to reach an orgasm. However, taking the time from working with the intimacy and sex specialists and marriage therapists, you can learn about rekindling desire.
Orgasming and multiple orgasms can help build sexual desire for the future. Pleasure associations can help a woman want to be sexually intimate again in the future.
Having an orgasm is an emotional and physical release. An orgasm can lead to euphoric feelings and peacefulness. As well, women who orgasm can have an opportunity to feel mood boosting benefits.
Our intimacy and sex specialists and marriage therapists can help females learn how to relax to experience multiple orgasms.
An orgasm can be very positive for mental health and overall sexual wellbeing.
As a woman, you may need to take time to understand what your body needs from self-pleasure.
Using vibrators, sex toys, and lubricants can be healing and empowering. For females, intimacy therapy and marriage therapy can be that safe place to talk about the power of orgasming.
So, working with the intimacy and sex specialists and marriage therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling help couples create a successful, playful, and passionate sex life.
Emotional exhaustion leads to a need to work with the intimacy and sex specialists and marriage therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling
Do you lack good quality sleep?
Feeling tired, exhausted, not getting enough sleep can play into low sexual desire. If a woman feels the need to care for young children, she may feel challenges in sex drive. Caring too much for others can lead to low sex drive issues, and sexual rejection within your marriage.
For some women, when the to-do list is full, sex falls to the bottom of the list. It might feel difficult to have sex with other important things to get done.
Lack of foreplay can lead to dissatisfying sexual experiences and a low sex drive
For some women, it might feel like there is not enough foreplay to feel desire build up. Foreplay is essential for women to fully enjoy sex and feel desire. There are many aspects that lead to a low sex drive.
Caring for others can lead to resentment in a relationship, and create low sex drive. Emotional stress can cause low or no sexual desire.
As a result of stress, our intimacy therapists will prescribe sexual techniques to more effectively deal with low libido.
To begin, click the button below to book a phone consult for improving sexual desire by working with the intimacy and sex specialists and marriage therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling.
What is hypoactive sexual desire disorder?
Hypoactive sexual desire disorder is a diagnosis a woman receives when she struggles with low sex drive. A woman may feel no desire to take part in sexual activities, or a low desire. This disorder also notes that low sex drive needs to cause stress for the female.
Within a romantic relationship, hypoactive sexual desire disorder often comes up.
Hypoactive sexual desire disorder is a common sexual problems that all ages of people can have. For some women, they struggle with hypoactive sexual desire disorder for many year. Other women may recently be struggling with hypoactive sexual desire disorder.
Working with the intimacy and sex specialists and marriage therapists can help you and your partner deal with reduced sexual interest and low arousal. As a couple, working with the intimacy and sex specialists and marriage therapists can help you understand what emotional factors are at play.
From there, working with the intimacy and sex specialists and marriage therapists can provide couples therapy homework to rebuild sexual arousal.
Working with the intimacy and sex specialists and marriage therapists can treat low sexual desire in women.
Both partners are typically a part of marriage therapy. It is common that the partner with a higher sex drive feels sexually rejected.
When one person has a high sex drive and the other person has a low sex drive, partners need a safe place to talk. Working with the intimacy and sex specialists and marriage therapists can determine if low desire is due to a psychological problem.
Meeting with the intimacy and sex specialists and marriage therapists can be a safe place to talk about sexual fears and anxiety
For instance, a female may need to talk about fears, anxiety, or body image issues.
If a female feels her body is unlovable, this will play into her sex life. Self-love and self-acceptance are essential in having a healthy, satisfying sex life.
Fears about scents or smells can lead to sexual anxiety and self-consciousness
A female with low sexual desire may worry her body smells bad. If she was verbally abused in a past relationship for the scent of her body, she may feel insecure sexually.
As well, if in the past, a female was criticized for the smell of her vagina, she may feel afraid to let her partner eat her out and provide oral sex. She may feel afraid of experiencing more sexual bullying and sexual criticism.
Building a passionate, happy sex life means talking about fears and anxiety
A women may fear that her partner is only using her body for sex. Talking about what sex means and what love means are parts of intimacy therapy.
Two partners may associate different meanings with sex due to different past sexual experiences. Sexual partners may not realize they have different meanings they attribute to sex or love making.
To begin, click the button below to book a phone consult for improving sexual desire and skills for playfully rebuilding your sex life.
By improving communication around sex, couples can feel safer with one another.
Many women need a patient, reassuring partner to rebuild sexual desire. Sexual frustrations can lead to conflicts for intimate partners.
If a partner with a higher sex drive feels entitled to have sex, couples counseling can help. Talking about relationship and communication issues can improve sexual desire.
Emotional safety is a huge part in rebuilding a healthy, passionate sex drive in women.
Dealing with issues like an affair or cheating can lead to sex issues. If a woman feels hurt emotionally, she may no longer want to be sexual or feel safe being sexually open. Getting up to breast feed or care for a child with autism can play a role in a decreasing sex life. Being in the role of the responsible one can take away sexual desires. Caring for children can dampen sexual desire.
Working with the intimacy and sex specialists and marriage therapists can help address libido and orgasm challenges in women.
Nutrition can improve sexual functioning for females
In marriage therapy, your therapist can better understand if there are nutritional issues contributing to low desire. Skipping meals can contribute to low sexual desire. Drinking caffeinated sodas instead of eating real, fresh, whole foods leads to low sexual desire.
If a woman is lacking is fatty acids, she may have low sexual desire. Low potassium can lead to mood swings that play a role in your sex life. Fresh fruits and vegetables have a measurable and positive impact on sexual health.
A lack of nutrients like magnesium or vitamin D3 can lead to low sexual desire. If you are not eating leafy greens like spinach, kale, or romaine lettuce, you may experience nutritional deficiencies.
Food and mood have a major connection to sexual health and sexual pleasure.
Highly processed, fried foods can cause problems in how well you sexual hormones work. Eating foods high in processed sugar can lead to lethargy and exhaustion.
Skipping meals can throw off hormonal balance. And, hormones control sexual desires. Furthermore, fruits and vegetables can be important for a healthy sex life. One study showed that a single serving of spinach significantly increased sex drive.
If you are eating junk food or running off caffeine, your body is not getting adequate nutrition. Lack of proper nutrition can can add to low sexual desire. For females, taking good care from a nutritional perspective is key for a healthy sex life.
Foods athletes use for performance like fresh beets can improve blood flow. Beets can also improve circulation and your body’s oxygen use for sexual stamina.
Working with the intimacy and sex specialists and marriage therapists supports sexual passion, playfulness, and confidence around sexual expression
Getting into the mood can be a careful art. Building 45-90 minutes of foreplay can make a difference in female arousal.
To be aroused sexually, couples need to factor a longer duration of foreplay. Learning to discover sexual desire again means increasing time for foreplay. Foreplay can be anything from kissing on your partner’s neck to foot massages.
Mindfulness of touch is a key part of enjoying sex in marriage therapy
As well, foreplay can include building passion, desire and mindfulness of touch. Remember, that foreplay is about mindfulness. Feeling into your body where your partner is touching you is key in sexual desire.
When your partner is touching your hips or low belly, bring your mind into that touch. Foreplay allows a woman’s mind to open up sexually over time. When mindful in a foreplay experience, there can be teasing, edging, and build trust in a sexual experiences. Foreplay without being rushed can be a deeply connecting experience.
To begin, click the button below to book a phone consult for improving sexual desire by working with the intimacy and sex specialists and marriage therapists.
Focus on talking about sex to build upon past positive sexual experiences
Commonly, couples get focused on what isn’t working. Think about a good, pleasurable, memorable sexual encounter.
Be open to having a sexy conversation around sexual pleasure and sexual desire. Name sexual experiences that are very positive already. Maybe, there is low sexual desire. However, talk about the recent back rub or tight rub that felt heavenly.
Talk about what brings you both desire in your body.
Share what you want sexually, exactly.
Talking about what went well in a past sexual experience can build playfulness into future sexual experiences. Having a regular conversation around what makes a happy sex life for you is key. Talking about sex in therapy and at home can make both people happier.
Working with the intimacy and sex specialists and marriage therapists can encourage a healthy sex life and open the conversation too.
Can talking about sexual pleasure in when working with the intimacy and sex specialists and marriage therapists support a healthy sex drive?
Yes, opening the communication around sexual desires and needs is healthy. Many couples do not feel comfortable talking about libido and sexual needs. Depending on backgrounds, it can feel uncomfortable to talk about sex.
Couple therapy can be a safe place to talk about sex and fears and anxiety. Essentially, couples therapy helps women find their sexy mindset back. Building a better sex life can mean making time to talk about sex drive at home and in counseling.
As a holistic counseling practice, we help women better understand their bodies and sexual desires. Working with a sex specialist and marriage therapist can open the conversation around sexual fantasies too.
Sharing in erotic material can increase sexual desire
Further, relaxing and making quality time for sexy conversations can increase sex drive. Taking the time to text your partner in a sexy way can build sexual excitement. When couples read erotic books together, this can increase sexual desire and libido. It can help to get the female brain on other topics rather than paying bills.
When a female’s brain is focusing on non sexy things, it can be difficult to get in a sexy mood. Take the time to read erotic material individually and as a couple to build up sexual desire. Authors like Silvia Day may be next on your list for sexy, erotic material.
Trauma experiences can play a role in intimacy therapy and marriage therapy
It is easy to get emotionally fired up around sexual experiences. Partners who a history of sexual trauma ned help in couples counseling and marriage therapy to slow down.
Complex trauma symptoms can come into the bedroom and play into desire issues. Couples therapy can help partners stop trying to fix or do something, and instead listen.
Sharing a trauma story about being raped in college can be empowering to share, even if it is 30 years later. With your intimate partner, you may trust them, but negative trauma memories can cause anxiety.
Any touch, even from your sexual partner, can re-trigger complex trauma memories.
Couples counseling is a safe place to have a productive trauma conversation. Working with the intimacy and sex specialists and marriage therapists helps partners understand the lifelong shadow that sexual abuse and sexual trauma leaves.
Learning how to do grounding techniques and take triggers away from sex can be healing.
Coping in a positive way with trauma memories as they arise can be empowering and lead to improvements in desire. Holistic, mind-body therapies support couples recovering from sexual trauma and sexual abuse.
Medications can lower sexual desire
Surgeries like a hysterectomy for a female can change sex drive. SSRI’s and antidepressants can lower sexual desire.
SSRI’s and antidepressants can lead to issues experiencing orgasms for women.
So, even small changes in medication can help improve your sex life. If a female may be taking an SSRI or antidepressant, she may feel less sexual desire.
It may be more difficult, when using an SSRI or antidepressant, to become sexually aroused.
To begin, click the button below to book a phone consult for improving sexual desire by working with the intimacy and sex specialists and marriage therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling.
To note, a loss of sexual desire can be from many causes.
Some women may have low sexual desire due to medication side effects. Levels of exhaustion, nutritional issues, and over giving to to others can lead to sexual desire problems.
Other women may have different reasons why a woman has low desire that intimacy therapy and marriage therapy can help with.
What can bring a female’s sex drive back?
At Wisdom Within Counseling, your intimacy therapist will figure out why is a decline in sex drive. When you are experiencing a decrease in sex drive, do not shame or blame yourself. That can make it worse.
Many women struggle with low libido and it can feel overwhelming to get back into a sexy mindset.
Intimacy therapy and marriage therapy can be a safe place to rebuild sexual desires and passions. Feeling sexy takes the help of a professional therapist at times. You are not alone if you struggle with low libido and low sexual desire.
Working with the intimacy and sex specialists and marriage therapists supports expressing needs and desires
Expressing needs about desires can help the partner of a female know what is needed. Maybe, as a female, to feel sexy and wanted, you want more clitoral stimulation.
Right now, you partner may not be touching your clitoris. Or, your partner may be touching your clitoris too soon before you are craving or wanting that touch on such a sensitive area.
Your Wisdom Within Counseling intimacy therapist may encourage the use of sex toys and vibrators to support clitoral stimulation.
Many women want their clitoris touched, but not right away. Kissing the neck, the belly, inner thighs, breasts, and slowing working to the clitoris is key.
Your couples therapist at Wisdom Within Counseling will strive to understand what is happening for you.
For some couples, they need sexual education on how to find and properly simulate the clitoris.
Sometimes, a female will want a deep pressure or they may want a light touch. Other couples may need help taking time to adequately build foreplay.
Foreplay and teasing brings blood flow to the clitoris, like a male gets an erection.
As well, your sex therapist can provide sexual education on clitoral stimulation.
Education on female anatomy and female pleasure can help your partner feels confident and playful trying new things. Trying new sexy toys can bring a newfound sense of playfulness to a redundant sexual routine.
You may want to try a remote control vibrator or sex toy that adds mystery and suspense. Or, you may want to use a handheld vibrator to lay down in your bed and get to know what pleasures you sexually.
The team at Wisdom Within Counseling supports couples in rebuilding intimacy, closeness, sexual pleasure, and deep physical connection.
