In my experience, there is nothing more painful, heartbreaking, and hurtful than discovering that your partner is cheating on you. For some, healing after infidelity involves by loss, grief, mourning, and crying. Infidelity counseling in Southeastern Connecticut helps you understand all feelings are okay. But, others choose to numb out.
Regardless, it is exhausting, stressful, painful, and consumes every thought.
One moment, you are good to go. For example, you may feel happy you are on your own now. But, the next moment, you’re in tears sobbing. Overall, working with a therapist at Wisdom Within Counseling can help you if your partner has been lying, cheating, dishonest and is an alcoholic. Often, alcohol, substance use, and drugs, complicate conflicts and prevent clear resolution after infidelity. Let our holistic marriage and relationship therapists help you create confidence and clarity.
Do your conflicts quickly turn into explosive, angry arguments, or do you simply never talk about anything and sweep it under the rug?
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Another part of you feels like you’re losing your best friend even though they really hurt you by cheating. The betrayal is real. More then you realize, many couples struggle with infidelity. And, it is commonly a pattern that repeats itself without professional expertise on couples therapy. The team of therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling in Southeastern Connecticut teach you how to rebuild trust and security in your relationship after betrayal.
When your partner has had a sexual, romantic, or emotional affair with someone else, it is very normal to feel betrayal.
Betrayal is a very deep and painful emotion. When you feel betrayed, it can be very hard to even think about forgiveness. When you feel betrayed, you might be very angry, and even feel like your spouse owes you an apology.
The feeling of betrayal can come from many different ways from lying, unfaithfulness, even experiencing verbal abuse.
When a person grows up in childhood experiencing betrayal, they are even more deeply want a secure relationship in adulthood. However, when a romantic spouse breaks trust and creates betrayal, it can be even more hurtful because of past experiences related to the feeling of betrayal. This experience of infidelity creates complex trauma.
Sometimes, with infidelity, anger and betrayal might make it feel like your marriage can never be repaired.
Right now, it feels so broken because of the betrayal. However, with professional relationship therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling, you and your partner can talk about the emotional experience of betrayal. You can learn to have slow conversations about what it is like to feel betrayed. And, marriage therapy in East Lyme, Connecticut can help you truly understand the emotion of betrayal.
Errors most encounter in therapy
A lot of times, the partner having an affair wants to skip over the apology and repenting. But, with your couples therapist, these acts that build a sense of security to promote forgiveness in the future. Many couples do not understand how deeply betrayal affects the feeling of commitment. Therefore, at Wisdom Within Counseling, you can learn to safely communicate feelings of betrayal. From therapy, you can heal from mistakes that have been made. The idea of betraying someone is very hard for someone who is having an affair to understand without the help of a professional couples therapist.
How does Wisdom Within Counseling treat affairs?
Due to the nature of an affair, it often is treated like an addiction. However, when we look at an affair as addictive behavior, there is no ability to create true security in the marriage. Therefore, in order to have a successful couples therapy experience after an affair, the person having the affair must end it. And, it must end in order to begin the process of holistic couples therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling. Essentially, ending the affair is required in order to start marital and relationship counseling in East Lyme, Connecticut.
As well, relationship and marriage therapy after an affair or infidelity can help everyone communicate what they are feeling.
After an affair, and probably for many years into the past, partners have not been talking. So, affair and infidelity healing is about dealing with the issues couples have been avoiding communicating. Furthermore, the feeling of betrayal is a very strong emotion. It is okay to want to yell and scream. You can bring these intense feelings to the safety of your therapist’s office.
In order to create full healing, and allow a couple to truly build trust again after an affair, a couples therapist helps everyone see betrayal and cheating as the same thing.
Also, anytime a person steps outside the marriage to confide in another person, this is a form of betrayal. So, someone having an affair might not see talking to others as cheating at first. As well, marriage therapy helps a person learn to sense a feeling of betrayal in the marriage. So, your holistic couples therapist in East Lyme, Connecticut can help you if you feel confused about cheating and betrayal.
Infidelity counseling in Niantic, Connecticut can help you and your partner morn the loss of what was. And, we help you build a healthy foundation of trust to move forward with healthy love.
Healing after betrayal
Infidelity can happen on a spectrum, from little bits of cheating to a long-term affair. Sometimes, people start with an emotional affair. Furthermore, an emotional affair is something you keep secret. When you have a friendship, you want to tell you partner about your new friend, and you feel so many things. Let’s talk about couples therapy and emotional needs in counseling.
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Our team of couples therapists in CT help you communicate more clearly and heal after infidelity.
When you have an emotional affair, it is usually because you partner is not meeting your needs of support and you are seeking these needs to be met from someone outside of your partnership. An emotional affair is someone you want to text first thing in the morning and you get very excited when they text you back, more so than your partner. Emotional and sexual affairs are equally damaging. Instead of being clear and direct, you are numbing out. When cheating and infidelity is discovered, it feels like it breaks everything. Don’t stay stuck in these negative feelings alone, call for marriage and relationship counseling today.
Are you looking to better your relationship? Do you feel lonely and distant from your spouse, but desire playful, loving connection?
Relationship conflicts don’t have to leave you feeling angry, sad, lonely, or in chaos. In counseling, your East Lyme therapist can help you calmly share your feelings with your spouse and feel heard. Katie Ziskind, and her team, enjoy helping long-term couples develop trust and commitment together again after past experiences of unresolved hurt and betrayal keep causing fights.
Overall, our team of therapists can help you bring resilience, confidence, and joy into your relationship.
In relationship therapy, our therapy team works with adults couples supporting healthy emotional communication skills, playfulness, genuine closeness. In conclusion, our therapists offer in person and online video therapy for couples looking for closeness.
Is talking hard in your relationship?
Holistic marriage counseling in East Lyme, Connecticut can help you through this rough patch, get clear on your relationship goals, and valuing yourself.
For couples who are “stuck” in the roles of work, running a home, and parenting, the Wisdom Within Counseling team also offers creative art, painting, yoga, music, and outdoor walk and talk therapies, which provide a couples, relationship, and marriage therapy experience that fosters love, leadership, acceptance, and lifelong, healthy coping skills.
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It is possible to regain trust through couples therapy in Southeastern CT.
For one, after cheating, you may feel shame and be overcome with guilt. At the same time, you may be feeling excitement and bright again. And, experiencing cheating and infidelity, you may be may be angry, sad, or withdrawal.
Our team at Wisdom Within Counseling in Niantic, Connecticut help you create a much stronger, happier, secure, trusting, and intimate relationship than ever before.
Infidelity counseling in Southeastern Connecticut
Healing after infidelity takes time as well as the help and guidance of a marriage counselor in East Lyme, Connecticut . To note, infidelity counseling in Southeastern Connecticut is unique and different. It helps you and your partner(s) get clearer on communication. For one, there are a snowball of arguments and fights you may need to deal with.
Through infidelity counseling in Southeastern Connecticut, you can learn your pattern, so you can break the cycle for next time.
Often, infidelity counseling in Southeastern Connecticut involves a mix of individual sessions. Further, we talk about narcissism, gaslighting, verbal abuse, sexual abuse, trauma, shame, loss, winning, losing, childhood patterns, and more.
Rebuilding trust and healing in your marriage is possible.
Through painting, art, yoga, music, and outdoor therapies, the team at Wisdom Within Counseling offers you a holistic, creative approach to healing after betrayal, and re-building trust and love again. Wisdom Within Counseling offers online, video, and telehealth sessions as well as couples and infidelity counseling in Southeastern Connecticut.
We help you rebuild security, trust, and safety after an affair
Well, the best is to begin by having a challenging conversation with your partner and get clear in couples therapy of ending things or working on communicating better. It is possible to heal after cheating. However, it takes a great couples therapist, like one of our team members at Wisdom Within Counseling in Southeastern Connecticut. Also, it takes both of all people being fully committed in the relationship.
Marriage counseling and help healing after trust was broken and betrayal was experienced.
If you have been cheated on, you might feel like your partner could never be honest with you and lacks integrity. Whatever the experience is that is causing the feeling of betrayal and distrust in your marriage, professional marriage counseling in East Lyme, Connecticut can definitely help. Even if your partner has been in a relationship emotionally with someone else, or feels sexually attracted to someone else, and you find out, these are feelings that are important to listen to. What we are talking about in couples therapy after an affair is creating a shared sense of meaning in a shared sense of family values.
Emotional and physical infidelity do not promote healthy communication.
Essentially, emotional and physical cheating is a destructive behavior that not only impacts a spouse, but also children and extended family. Often times, a person rationalizes non-physical and emotional infidelity as okay. However, with the help of a professional marriage counselor, a person can realize that any form of infidelity even emotional cheating. Betrayal decreases the connection and promotes loneliness in a marriage. Often times, a person will rationalize friendship with someone of the other gender or someone who they might have physical feelings for, and this creates betrayal.
Couples therapy can help you discern, start to make better choices, and learn how to confide with your partner if you have a history of trauma related to an affair.
Remember, any keeping of secrets in your relationship is negative. So, secret keeping is a form of dysfunctional behavior that only perpetuates shame and guilt. As well, secret keeping also creates mistrust. And, this a lack of commitment trickles down to parent-child interactions.
So, if you are keeping things from your spouse or you feel like your spouse is keeping things from you, and you want honesty as part of your family values, one of our marriage therapists would love to help you.
You can learn how to have a trusting, loving relationship with integrity and speak about what boundaries you are okay with and ones you are not okay with.
As well, working with a couple therapist can help you rebuild your relationship, find curiosity, and create playfulness once again.
PTSD in the relationship after an affair
After affairs or infidelities, small betrayals can re-trigger traumatic feelings from these events. After an affair, the partner who was cheated on might have panic attacks or anxieties. Couples therapy can help you and your partner heal after an affair, learn to understand trauma, and create an environment of respect for each other. After you find out your partner has been cheating on you, any small issue of trust can be blown up into a large issue of commitment and betrayal. Overtime, your marriage therapist can help you communicate more clearly to overcome these small betrayals after an affair.
And, your therapist can give you tools to prevent them from eroding your new relationship.
Remember, being human is a process of dealing with emotional pain and discontentment. After an affair, it is normal to feel betrayed and angry. However, just because your partner has cheated on you, it doesn’t mean that you have to immediately and your marriage. A lot of times, partners can grow together and build an entirely new found, more playful, more trusting partnership after an affair.
In East Lyme, Connecticut marriage counseling, you can work through arguments and gain understanding about each other.
In addition, you can develop a strong, emotional foundation so that you can learn how to be best friends and romantic partners. If your marriage is failing, Wisdom Within Counseling would love to work with you to help give you the tools for lifelong marital success.
Work with one of our holistic marriage and family therapist at Wisdom Within Counseling today.
The team at Wisdom Within Counseling provide couples who are looking to rebuild trust a variety of holistic therapies to do so. Often times, couples do not receive positive experiences in counseling. Also, a lot of couples think that they come to counseling to talk badly about their partner and about all of the negative things going on in their life. However, at Wisdom Within Counseling in Southeastern Connecticut, distant couples can actually have a positive experience to build a foundation for their marriage.
Expressive arts with marriage therapy
Drama therapies help distant couples try on different roles. Maybe, you feel stuck in gender roles or stuck into a box. So, holistic, drama therapy specified for couples can help you emotionally expressed things that you might feel better acting out. To add, taking on different roles and doing improvisations can help you be playful with your partner in a way you never have imagined. Sitting and talking in a traditional way is always available, but we find holistic, expressive arts to be very valuable.
However, when it comes to dealing with big emotions like betrayal and anger, Wisdom Within Counseling finds that having mind-body therapies and somatic experiences is more helpful.
In addition, we help distant couples who are looking to rebuild trust, do yoga together, move their bodies, and meditate. Teaching couples meditation, yoga, and mindfulness practices help them deal with the trauma effects of anxiety and betrayal. Plus, panic attacks can be lessened by mindfulness, yoga and meditation in marriage therapy. As well, the practices of doing yoga poses and meditating together in couples therapy promote wholeness.
In a counseling session, your therapist teaches lifelong coping tools for reducing anger and self regulating.
You can use these tools in the middle of a conflict to soothe yourself. In addition, Wisdom Within Counseling offers couples art and painting who are healing after an affair and infidelity. To add, talking might bring about certain emotions whereas painting might bring about other emotions. Essentially, expressive art and painting and therapy can help you release anger, sadness, anxiety, and betrayal. Often, we can’t talk about these openly. You might be amazed at what you paint or what you make with clay in a a marriage counseling session.
As well, your therapist can use a mixture of creative therapies and holistic techniques to provide a foundation of love and trust for your partnership and marriage.
After betrayal, a big emotion, mind body therapies are most effective for helping with trauma healing. If you find yourself with a racing heartbeat, wondering if your partner is cheating on you again, or consumed with rage, these holistic therapy it would be a great fit for you. Couples tend to get into high conflict fights after infidelity and betrayal experiences. So, holistic counseling provides you and your partner with concrete lifelong coping tools through art, drama therapies, and outdoor nature therapies.
Infidelity counseling in Southeastern Connecticut
