First, you may have a family member who is an alcoholic or has problem drinking?
As well, you may worry about how much your family member drinks. Maybe, your child, parent, friend or spouse has begun drinking alcohol in excess. In addition, do you have financial problem’s due to your family member’s drinking problem? Also, have you been giving your parent, sibling, friend, or spouse who has problem drinking money to buy alcohol? If you are troubled by your family member’s alcoholism, you may also be enabling them or protecting them. You may be feeling anxious on a daily basis because you don’t know how they’ll be feeling. And, you cancel plans with your friends to focus on your alcoholic family member. Living with an alcoholic leads to low self-worth, self-doubt, and depression. Every day, you wish they didn’t drink so much. Sometimes, you wonder if there is anyone else struggling to love an alcoholic family member.
Do you tell lies in an effort to cover up for your friend or family member?
Maybe, you family member is asking you to call out sick for them, or lie that they are unwell. But, really they are out drinking in excess. Do you blame yourself for your family member’s problem drinking or alcoholism? And, do you reason, that if they loved you enough, they would stop drinking? Also, you may feel hopeless that you can’t get your family member with alcoholism to stop drinking.
To begin, click the button below if you are troubled by your family member’s alcoholism for a phone consult today.
Are you walking on eggshells in your own home? Because you don’t know if your family member will be mad or upset?
As well, other questions to ask yourself are below. Do you secretly try to smell the breath of your alcoholic family member to see if they have been drinking? Are you afraid to upset your family member for fear it will cause them to drink more alcohol?
Also, have you felt embarrassed, angry, hurt, or betrayed by for friend’s alcoholism?
In addition, are holidays and family gatherings ruined, cut short, or canceled due to problem drinking? And, do you have the take the key from your alcoholic family member so they don’t drive?
To begin, click the button below if you are troubled by your family member’s alcoholism for a phone consult today.
Do you wonder if you are in a relationship with an alcoholic?
When you have an alcoholic family member, you may find yourself canceling plans to help cover up for them. Often, alcoholics and problem drinkers often throw off fun plans and daily routines. Furthermore, problem drinking behavior may also disrupt regular family meals. Maybe, your family member can only eat with everyone as a family if they have alcohol in their hand. Or, when they join the family meal, they are angry, swearing, and not an appropriate parent. As well, you may try to threaten your spouse that you’ll finally leave them if they don’t stop drinking.
Are you troubled by your family member’s alcoholism?
You might even search for your family member’s hiding spots for alcohol bottles when they leave. Do you continually throw out alcohol only for them to keep buying more? As well, has your family member been arrested or received a DUI?
After the most recent experience, you thought about calling the police about the problem drinking. And, there was self-protection and fear about domestic violence. Also, you were scared and worried about physical abuse occurring. Furthermore, alcoholics often struggle to control their emotions when drinking. Fearing abuse from a family member who has alcoholism is very real.
To begin, click the button below if you are troubled by your family member’s alcoholism for a phone consult today.
In addition, when you are troubled by your family members’s alcoholism, you may decline plans to take care of them. For one, your friend may invite you out, but you decline out of fear and anxiety. So, having a parent, sibling, friend, or spouse who has problem drinking means you may start put them first. And, you may lose your social circle and suffer from depression yourself.
Do you feel like a failure because you can’t get your family member to stop?
As well, do you internalize shame because you can’t get your family member to stop drinking? Maybe, a part of you blames yourself or your beat yourself up. Often, having a parent, sibling, friend, or spouse who has problem drinking means having healthy self-care skills. In order to keep yourself healthy, counseling can be a great self-care tool. Manytimes, family members of alcoholics feel that no one understands their problems. In addition, you may experience depression, anxiety, worry, and trouble sleeping. Moreover, you may feel angry, hurt, confusion, and have trouble forgiving. Overall, counseling can help you gain mental clarity when you are troubled by your family members’s alcoholism.
Now, if you are troubled by your family members’s alcoholism, you can learn about Al-Anon.
Furthermore, before getting into counseling, it is important to learn about support groups. In addition to counseling, support groups like Al-Anon can be positive coping tools. Therefore, in combination with weekly therapy, Al-Anon can offer a surprising sense of additional support. Manytimes, having a family member who is alcoholic can lead to co-dependency. Commonly, a person will be high functioning and they may enable their alcoholic friend or family member.
If you are troubled by your family members’s alcoholism, how is stopping enabling possible through counseling?
Overall, therapy can teach you the difference between support and enabling. So, support is helping someone do something that they could otherwise do. And, if they don’t get it done, there are not often negative consequences. However, enabling is stepping in because they can’t do it themselves. As well, with enabling, the helping is in an effort to reduce negative consequences that would otherwise be a result. For example, a negative consequence would be being laid off, getting a DUI, or going to jail.
How does enabling an alcoholic begin?
Additionally, an alcohol and drug addiction affects the whole family. Maybe, enabling starts by giving your alcoholic family member a second chance. Perhaps, you step in and repair a door that an alcoholic broke after a drunk episode. That way their landlord never finds out. As well, enabling can be lying to the alcoholic’s employer to cover up them missing work from a hangover. After that, enabling may mean giving them money on a weekly basis and supporting them. Next, they lose their job and need to move in with you. Lastly, enabling could mean driving them to work or bailing them out of jail.
Often, Al-Anon can go well alongside therapy because it helps identify enabling behaviors.
Also, Al-Anon can support you on a daily basis where therapy is weekly. Frequently, saying the Serenity Prayer as a group can help promote positive thoughts. Living with an alcoholic is too much for many people. And, living with an alcoholic can lead to doubting your own healthy thoughts, because they are unhealthy. So, Al-Anon is a peer support group that can help challenge distorted thinking patterns that protect and enable the alcoholic. In addition, counseling and Al-Anon both teach that you can’t control the problem drinking behavior. So, as much as you may want to yell back, therapy teaches positive stress outlets. And, in Al-Anon you can make lifelong friends that are going through the same struggles, loving an alcoholic.
So, if you are troubled by your family members’s alcoholism, book a phone consult for therapy today.
Often, when you have a family member suffering with alcoholism, you may be living daily in fear. Maybe, you feel like you have trauma experiences from living with a problem drinker. Perhaps, your spouse’s grandmother and their mother were alcoholics. Sometimes, an alcoholic will also identify as an adult child of alcoholic parents. Often, growing up with alcoholic parents is traumatic.
Often, alcoholism is a family disease and gets passed down generationally.
Frequently, parents who are alcoholics will withhold love. Growing up, your loved one may have been subject to physical or sexual abuse an the hands of an alcoholic parent. Maybe, there was domestic violence occurring regularly. In addition, an alcoholic parent will be emotionally neglectful. Manytimes, when a child grows up with alcoholic parents, they lose out on a playful, secure childhood. Now, your spouse’s problem drinking plays a negative role in your marriage, family, and children’s lives. For one, counseling both as a family and individually can help with emotional healing.
How does alcoholism begin? Is it from trauma?
For some family members, alcoholism is part of a trauma story. Sometimes, after going through a trauma like abuse, PTSD develops. Maybe, night terrors, traumatic flashbacks, and anxiety are relentless. Then, after a trauma, a person tries so hard to push away those intense, painful emotions. Without therapy at a young age, a teenager may try drinking alcohol to cope. Many times, alcoholism is an effort to numb out unpleasant memories and unmanageable emotions. Alcoholism will not stop on its own.
With Connecticut therapy, alcoholics can come to understand how their behaviors impact their family members negatively.
Frequently, children do not know why their parent is yelling so loud or being grumpy. Manytimes, counseling can help children lean they are not to blame for their parent’s problem drinking behaviors. Also, children may develop poor behavior at school and at home when they have a parent with a drinking problem. Furthermore, counseling offers children a safe space to process their home life.
How does alcoholism in parents impact children?
In general, when a child has a parent who is alcoholic, they may feel scared, worry, and fear on a daily basis. Manytimes, children living with alcoholic parents have hyper vigilance and are more sensitive. Sometimes, a child living with alcoholic parents will have trouble concentrating and focusing in school. As well, a child living with alcoholic parents may not get to be playful like a child should. Manytimes, a child living with alcoholic parents will have to grow up much faster and parent themselves. Frequently, living with alcoholic parents means a child will not invite their friends over after school.
Commonly, children learn they can’t have friends over because they are embarrassed of their alcoholic parents.
Sometimes, a child is embarrassed to have their friends see a drunken fight break out. As well, a child may worry that if they bring friends home after school that their parent passed out on the living room floor drunk. Often, a child will get caught in the middle of physical and emotional abuse between their parents. Also, a child living with alcoholic parents does not have a sense of safety or consistency at home. On that note, children may have their own questions that they don’t feel safe asking to their parents. So, working with a therapist in Connecticut can help your children understand alcoholism as a family issue.
As well, with children and families, our therapists in Connecticut use play therapy, music, art therapies, and outdoor therapies.
Problem drinking leads children and teenagers to question if they caused their parent’s issues. Often, an alcoholic can only gain this awareness after reaching sobriety and being in recovery. In Connecticut, Wisdom Within Counseling offers support for individuals who have a family member in alcoholism recovery. Lastly, Wisdom Within Counseling specializes with children who have alcoholic parents and need a safe place to gain positive copping tools.
If you are troubled by your family member’s alcoholism, seek counseling today.
So, even when a family member gets help for alcoholism, make sure to attend regular therapy for yourself. Often, setting boundaries can be difficult with an alcoholic, even when they are sober. So, therapy and Al-Anon helps you understand alcoholism as a disease. With that said, alcoholism is a family disease. Lastly, if you are troubled by your family members’s alcoholism, you are not alone.
Often times, going to therapy alongside peer support groups can help you be patient with yourself.
Frequently, living with an alcoholic can lead to frustration, irritability, and loss. As well, you might even feel like you have a negative attitude at life itself. However, therapy can help you stop blaming yourself. You can learn positive coping tools and how to set healthy boundaries. Often times, an alcoholic family member will take and take and take.
Do you try to prevent bad consequences from happening to your family member who has alcoholism?
So, when you have a family member who is an alcoholic, you might try to solve their problems for them. As well, therapy in Connecticut can help you learn how to stop trying to solve their problems for them. They will have to learn how to solve their own drinking problem through rehab. However, from counseling, you can learn how to stop enabling.
How can therapy help rebuild self-worth if you are troubled by your family members’s alcoholism?
Frequently, relationships become unhealthy and high conflict when there is excess drinking and alcoholism. For one, you may constantly hear very critical comments when your family member drinks alcohol. Over time, from enduring verbal abuse, it might be hard to be positive about yourself. So, getting yourself healthy again can allow you to attract more nurturing friends and rebuild self-worth. So, from having healthier friendships, you can identify red flag behaviors that lead you to feel upset. From counseling, you can gain self-esteem, clear thinking, and you can start to have better self-worth. A lot of times, from living with an alcoholic, who is verbally abusive, you may develop low self-worth.
Simply put, going to therapy can help you think positively about yourself again and put yourself first.
Maybe, it’s been years since you have done some thing just for you. Essentially, therapy helps you improve your relationship with your mind, body, and spirit. This way, you can develop more self-confidence. As well, you can start to realize that you did not cause any of these problem drinking behaviors or drug use. With a big heart, you might try to fix or change your family members drinking. But, therapy can teach you that no matter how much you love them, they may still drink. Therefore, by going to counseling into peer support groups, you can realize what is outside of your control. As well, you can take back your personal power and make healthy choices. Additionally, from therapy, you can choose a path of happiness for yourself. You no longer have to act in a certain way out of fear.
To begin, click the button below for family counseling and individual support around family patterns of problem drinking.
What are some benefits of therapy?
As well, from holistic therapy, you can take pressure off yourself and remind yourself you don’t have to be perfect. Overall, attending holistic therapy can give you coping tools to handle problems in healthy ways. In Connecticut, holistic counseling teaches lifelong coping tools for mental clarity. From nurturing yourself, you can identify when it is best to support and when you may be enabling. Lastly, from Connecticut holistic counseling, you can have a safe place to vent and unload your problems.
What is a cycle of high conflict fighting like?
Maybe, you feel emotionally reactive or angry when your spouse comes home drunk after work. Perhaps, your typical pattern of reacting is to yell back and get into a high conflict fight. Maybe, you say mean and hurtful things back and fourth to each other. However, with holistic counseling, you can learn to remain calm and focus on self-care in conflictual moments. As well, we teach you how to truly nurture yourself without letting any negative comments your alcoholic family member might be staying, get into your mind.
If you troubled by your family members’s alcoholism, holistic can help you feel confident.
In addition, your holistic therapist can offer you a variety of creative counseling tools such as art, yoga, music, and walking. For instance, creative art therapies, yoga therapy, music, drama therapies, and walk and talk therapy by the beach are available. Or, you can do a mindfulness meditation with your therapist for inner peace. Moreover, meditation and yoga can help you stay calm and ground yourself.
Unique, creative, holistic therapies for living with an alcoholic
Also, along the Niantic Bay Boardwalk, you can smell the salty air, and go for a walk with your holistic therapist. In addition, you can paint and use clay to learn how to cope with difficult situations and angering emotions. Maybe, the last time you squeezed clay your hand was 20 years ago. So, art can help if you don’t want to talk or don’t have the words.In holistic counseling, you gain positive coping strategies to remind yourself that you are not alone. You can start to build your support network back up through holistic counseling. Overall, you can gain positive coping skills for self-confidence and emotional wellness through creative therapies. You can gain a self-care tool box such as going for a walk outside in the fresh air in therapy in Connecticut.
