Many couples find that overtime their sex life decreases. In the beginning, you were hot and heavy. You loved making out and your partner took all your stress away. But, after having children, responsibilities, health issues, and work stress, it seems to have taken a toll on your sex life. Right now, you feel hopeless, defeated, and frustrated sexually about your marriage. Intimacy and marriage counseling in Indian Harbour Beach, Florida can help when you are desiring more frequent sex in your marriage.
Maybe, you have sex once a month and consider yourself in a sexless marriage. Or, you might be desiring more diversity in your sexual experiences. You might want to use new sex toys, but not know how to start this intimate and sexual conversation with your spouse.
To begin, book your phone consult for a better sex life through intimacy therapy and marriage counseling in Grant, Florida.
How can intimacy and marriage counseling in Indian Harbour Beach, Florida help my sex life?
There may be amazing parts of your long-term marriage and you want to stay together. But, you need your sex life to get better too in order to feel closer. You feel like best friends and you have a great foundation together. However, your sex life is in the dumps.
You know you need a professional when it comes to intimacy, orgasming, and sex. When it comes to your sex life and intimacy, you feel helpless, lost, rejected, and frustrated. Working with an intimacy and marriage therapist at Wisdom Within Counseling in Viera, Florida can help you and your partner reboot your sex life. You can start to bring the sex back into your marriage and regain sense of sexual playfulness.
What to expect in intimacy and marriage counseling in Indian Harbour Beach, Florida?
Well, you can talk about what turns you on in intimacy and marriage counseling in Indian Harbour Beach, Florida. As well, you can explore sexual fantasies. We all have different things that turn us on, but couples rarely talk about them together. Couples can talk about building erotic desire.
From feeling wanted and desired, you can have passionate orgasms. Couples may need help lengthening foreplay to support female sexual satisfaction and sexual pleasure. Many couples stop making time for sexual pleasure and playfulness. Just like couples make time to go for a walk together every day or time to golf, rebuilding intimacy means setting aside time.
How can my partner and I start to be intimate and sexual together again?
First, you can lay naked in bed and just be together in that space. Or, prioritize sexual activities as well. Many couples rush through their days and are exhausted by the time they lay down at night. Sex falls to the back burner in many long term marriages.
They can be a number of different reasons why a couple seek intimacy therapy and marriage counseling in Cocoa, Florida. Essentially, working with a marriage therapist helps you bring sex and intimacy to the front of your priority list. Your sexual pleasure deserves to be valued by your partner and vis vera. Couples of any age, race, gender, or religion can benefit from sexual connection together.
To begin, book your phone consult for a better sex life through intimacy therapy and marriage counseling in Indian Harbour Beach, Florida.
Intimacy and marriage counseling in Indian Harbour Beach, Florida can help when you face sexual rejection
When are you are feeling sexually rejected by your partner, it might be because you have differences in libido. If your partner has a lower sex drive than you, it can lead you to feel sexually rejected. Your sexual needs are important and necessary to share in counseling.
Intimacy and marriage counseling in Indian Harbour Beach, Florida can help you express how you are feeling rejected. Your partner may not realize how you are feeling or what emotions you have. Rejection can lead to feeling unwanted or unimportant, which can trigger loneliness. Many spouses deal with sexual rejection in silence. But, overtime, sexual rejection can create a crack in your marriage that can lead to affairs and infidelity. From couples therapy, you can repair the cracks in your relationship. You can strength you bond and build a healthy sex life, that supports meaningful connection.
Sexual performance anxiety is a great topic for marriage and intimacy therapy in Indian Harbour Beach, Florida
Perhaps, when your partner makes sexual advances, you might feel overwhelmed. You fear that you have to have sex every time they go in for a kiss. Maybe, you are feeling frustrated or anxious with your own sexual performance due to negative past experiences.
There is a major connection between trauma and sexual performance anxiety. For instance, if a male partner was not able to maintain an erection, he may fear future sexual experiences. Intimacy and couples therapy can help reduce performance anxiety around sex.
Talking about sexual trauma can help couples develop closeness
As well, one of you may have some past sexual trauma that is getting in the way of feeling sexually expressive and open. As a child, your or your spouse may have been touched in an unwanted, sexual way. Molestation, incest, and sexual abuse in childhood leads to intimacy and trust issues in adult hood. Maybe, your partner has no ideas about your trauma story or where anxiety is coming from.
Talking with a couples therapist at Wisdom Within Counseling can help you get to the root of anxiety around sex. Some people who suffer from sexual performance anxiety need to share their worries with their spouse. Having the support of a therapist who specializes in intimacy can help you feel confidence being vulnerable.
Orgasming is a great topic for intimacy and marriage counseling in Indian Harbour Beach, Florida
Perhaps, a female partner wants to orgasm, but just can’t. When a female part is wanting to orgasm, but feeling unable to, Intimacy and marriage counseling in Indian Harbour Beach, Florida can help. Orgasming for females means having adequate foreplay, which many male partners lack education about.
Orgasming may be delayed or impossible to due lack of foreplay. Females need about 45-90 minutes of sexual foreplay. On the other hand, the male body only needs about 5-7 minutes of foreplay. So, Intimacy and marriage counseling in Indian Harbour Beach, Florida can support foreplay education to support orgasming. When a female partner orgasms and has multiple orgasms, she may feel close emotionally with her partner.
To begin, book your phone consult for a better sex life through intimacy therapy and marriage counseling in Satellite Beach, Florida.
Confidence for female partners is possible in intimacy therapy
As well, a female partner may feel insecure about experiencing orgasms.
She may need encouragement to take part in masturbation and self-pleasure activities. You can get more comfortable exploring your own body as a female. When females grow up in an environment of religious shame and guilt, they may feel unsure about masturbation. Shame and guilt from a religious upbringing can cause all genders of people to feel guilty for wanting sexual pleasure.
Instead, intimacy counseling can help you develop a positive relationship with your body. Couples can talk about sexual expression in positive ways. Sexual expression can mean masturbating and self-pleasure as well as partner sexual activities. To add, talking about religious shame and guilt can be liberating and positive for your marriage. Touching yourself sexually allows you to better communicate what you like to your spouse.
Couples therapy and marriage counseling can be a safe place to rebuild your intimacy and create a diverse and healthy sex life.
You can talk about new things that you want to try sexually as well as expanding upon your current routine. Many couples struggle with creating a satisfying sex life because they are stuck in the same boring routine. Often times, couples have been together long term get stuck doing the same thing every time. When it comes to your sex life, you might have sex in the same room. Maybe, you have sex in the same position, or at the same time of day. You might even find that you have scheduled sex and sex is not spontaneous. Working with a Wisdom Within Counseling couples therapist in Cocoa Beach, Florida, you can create a diverse sex life.
Rebuilding sexual desire when you have lost your sex drive means creative diverse sexual experiences
You and your marriage counselor in Indian Harbour Beach, Florida can talk about rebuilding sexual desire. Couples can understand what they need to build spontaneous desire too. Regular and diverse sexual experiences can be a beneficial part of Brevard County couples counseling. Marriage therapy can help you have more playful and diverse sexual activities, which can be very fulfilling.
To begin, book your phone consult for a better sex life through intimacy therapy and marriage counseling in Grant, Florida.
Your couples therapist at Wisdom Within Counseling can talk with you about different sex positions.
Certain sex positions help simulate the female G spot. Other sex position help to stimulate a female’s clitoris in different ways. Some sex positions may feel better for your partner.
You can talk about which sex positions you enjoy most, and what turns you on in marital and intimacy counseling. If you feel stuck in the same routine sexually, intimacy therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling can really help.
When sex is a boring chore, marriage counseling and intimacy therapy in Indian Harbour Beach, Florida can help make it fun
More often than not, couples have been together long term find sex to be a boring chore. A female partner might begin rejecting their male partner when sex feels like an obligation.
She may feel her body is her partner’s toy or property rather than having sex because she wants to. It might feel like sex is no longer fun. Your partner may seem like a dead fish when you are having sex, rather than excited. These are all great reasons to reach out to work with an intimacy specialist at Wisdom Within Counseling.
A female make fake an orgasm to simply be done having sex, especially when sex is painful.
Sex should never feel painful.
Due to lack of proper foreplay, sexual activities and penetration may be very painful. Foreplay allows a female’s vagina to have proper lubrication, naturally. As her body becomes more turned on, she becomes more wet. This wetness prepares her body for penetration from a sex toy or penis. Without 45-90 minutes of foreplay, sex is often painful. Females may share that sex burns or hurts. When sex is painful for a female partner, she may fake an orgasm to be done with the chore. Her partner may have no idea that sex is painful.
Why do women fake orgasms?
Well, women are good actors. With a few sounds and fake shakes, she can make her partner, often a male, think he is good at sex. Females are empathetic and don’t want to hurt a male partner’s self-esteem.
When sex is painful, faking an orgasm gets her male partner to stop. Faking an orgasm is normal for many women. However, faking an orgasm means sacrificing her own sexual pleasure to make her partner think they are pleasuring her. Instead of having to fake an orgasm, couples can talk about foreplay, sexual pleasure, intimacy, and erotic desire.
To begin, book your phone consult for a better sex life through intimacy therapy and marriage counseling in Melbourne Beach, Florida.
A sexless, pleasureless marriage doesn’t have to be your life anymore.
When sex feels like an obligation or chore, it is often no longer passionate or satisfying. Couples get stuck in the same boring, obligatory sexual routine. One or both people may lose their sexual drive and interest in each other as a result. Right now, it might be your normal right now. You have learned to live without sexual pleasure, but you miss feeling sexually expressive. It might feel like you have become sexually complacent as a couple. A sexless marriage has become your status quo, but it doesn’t have to be.
Couples can be encouraged to have sex in playful, diverse locations and various orgasms from therapy.
Couples therapy in Indian Harbour Beach, Florida helps partners talk about sex and feel comfortable exploring intimacy.
Instead of just focusing on sexual penetration, couples can create more diversity and novelty. Role playing, fun sex toys, and trying new sex positions can be adventurous. Marriage therapy can be a safe place to gain courage to try new sex toys and lubricants. Couples can meet with a therapist to gain confidence around creating more diverse sexual experiences.
From sexual playfulness and more intimacy, couples can gain closeness, bonding, and deeper trust.
You can have a safe place to talk about your body, nipple orgasms, multiple orgasms, and sex toys. Maybe, you have always wanted to try a specific sex toy, but feel apprehensive. You don’t know how your partner would react without the presence of a professional couples therapist. Couples in intimacy and marriage counseling in Satellite Beach, Florida can talk about what they can do to rebuild sexual desire. Lengthening foreplay and and being playful with one another again are great benefits of marriage therapy.
Brevard County intimacy and marriage counseling allows couples to feel a passionate connection again and take the pressure off sex.
Intimacy and couples therapy in Viera, Florida can help you the pressure of sex being the main outcome or goal. You might have anxiety that all forms of touch must lead to sex and that can be overwhelming. Before you are even sexually aroused, you are thinking about sex being the outcome. Many couples get stuck thinking that kissing must lead to sex. This can absolutely kill the mood and lead to sexual tension.
How to incorporate more mindful touch in your marriage?
Couples can do mindfulness practices like making out for one full minute. French kissing can help you be passionately in the present moment again.
See what happens to your body without the pressure of needing to pleasure your partner. Couples can let go of the need to take it further than french kissing. Another mindfulness practice can be giving and receiving back rubs. Set a timer fire ten minutes and then the receiver switches becoming the giver. Back rubs don’t need to and should lead to penetration or sex.
To begin, book your phone consult for a better sex life through intimacy therapy and marriage counseling in Grant, Florida.
Mindfulness practices help partners break the cycle of all touch leading to the same end goal of sex.
Intimacy and marriage counseling in Cape Canaveral, Florida, can help you take the pressure off having sex. Instead, mindfulness touching activities can bring comfort, nurturing and present moment experiencing. These mindfulness activities can help couples feel into the touch and be in the present moment. Learning to be present mentally is a huge part of building a healthy sex life. In marriage and intimacy counseling in Cocoa, Florida, couples can remove sexual anxiety by taking the pressure off having sex. Breathe together laying naked in bed and gaze into each other’s eyes.
Mindfulness and breathing skills can support a relaxed nervous system for all partners.
Breathing together can lower performance anxiety too. Enjoying touch, feeling your partner’s kiss, and warm touch can be important skills.
Taking sex off the table can allow you both to more fully explore and enjoy giving and receiving touch. These healthy forms of touch do not need to lead directly to intercourse and sex, and shouldn’t. Think about ways that you and your spouse can incorporate more mindful touch and awareness of touch. Learning to give and receive touch are beneficial parts of intimacy counseling in Viera, Florida.
Make your sex life a priority through intimacy and marriage counseling in Indian Harbour Beach, Florida
Many couples focus their energy so much on caretaking, parenting, building a career and other stressors. They forget how to get turned on sexually. All the energy goes to talking about lunches for the next day, finances, or career development. As well, couples can benefit from intimacy counseling and marriage therapy to learn to get in the mood.
Not only does your body play an important role in sex, but so does your mind.
Getting your mind in the present and thinking sexy thoughts can help with passion and building sexual desire.
Sending sexy texts can help you and your partner feel sexual through the day. Reading an erotic novel and listening to an erotic audiobook can help couples get in the a sexy mood. Don’t spend all your free time taking about your children, as much as you want to and love them. Unfortunately, couples often let financial stress, work stress, or family stress interfere with their intimate life. When living in Grant, Melbourne Beach, or Indialantic, it might be easy to get lost in your fast-paced career. You might feel pressure to be successful and to bring home the bacon. As well, you may be financially supporting relatives and loved ones, adding to the pressure to be successful.
To begin, book your phone consult for a better sex life through intimacy therapy and marriage counseling in Melbourne Beach, Florida.
Intimacy counseling and marriage therapy in Indian Harbour Beach, Florida helps you talk about sex and build erotic desire
Make a point to have conversations that are about sexual fantasies, sexual desires, and sexual needs. Don’t focus all your free time on anxiety or worry. Maybe, you are always venting to your partner or spouse about what you can’t change at work, or the co workers who bother you.
In order to get in a sexy mood, avoid complaining about work or finances. Listening to an erotic audio book or reading an erotic audio book can be helpful. At Wisdom Within Counseling in Indian Harbour Beach, Florida, couples can have a safe place to talk about sex, intimacy, sexuality, and emotional bonding. Hearing a sultry, seductive and sexy voice on an audio book can help your mind step into sexual pleasure. When you and your partner listen to a sexy audio book, you might even try to reenact your own scenes from the book. Erotic audio books and literature can be a part for foreplay too.
Do you talk to your partner or spouse about your stress?
Instead of talking about anxiety and stress, talk to your partner about what you like sexually. It’s super common for couples to get stuck complaining to each other about their stressors. Your partner may be your spouse there for you emotionally. However, it’s important to have stress management techniques of your own. Working with a therapist individually can give you a place to release tension and anxiety outside of your partner.
Your partner may become emotionally drained when they are your only outlet for stress. Therapy, yoga, meditation, dancing, swimming, and exercise can help you release stress in healthy ways. To add, talking to a therapist can help you feel emotionally supported and cope in positive ways. Your therapist can make recommendations regarding sleep, nutrition, painting, journaling, or walking that can help you release stress.
Gaining positive coping strategies can help you show up more clear and calm so you can have the most fun when you are with your spouse.
Couples who have individual therapists often handle conflicts, stress and anxiety in healthier ways than those who don’t. When partners don’t have individual therapists, they may take work, career and parenting stress out on each other in a negative way. Also, when partners don’t have individual therapists, they may speak in more critical or demeaning ways.
To begin, book your phone consult for a better sex life through intimacy therapy and marriage counseling in Indian Harbour Beach, Florida.
What are the benefits of each person having individual therapy sessions?
When your partner feels that you are critical, your therapist can help you rephrase what you are saying in a more clear and calm way. When partners don’t have individual therapists, they make take undue anger, aggression or tension out on each other rather than coping in a healthy way. As well, when spouses don’t have individual therapists, they may be unaware that they are using negative communication tactics like defensiveness.
Even when you feel upset, you can learn to express that intense feeling in a calm and clear way. Your partner shouldn’t be your dumping mat or stress outlet. Even if you don’t think you are complaining, your partner may feel like a doormat. Couples therapy can be a safe place for you and your partner to speak up and vocalize needs. Individual therapy alongside couples counseling can help spouses identify unhealthy forms of communication and be kind and respectful to one another.
Wisdom Within Counseling supports couples in Brevard County, Florida and throughout Florida
Intimacy and marriage counseling in Viera, Florida also supports couples in Cocoa Beach, Palm Bay, Cape Canaveral, Roseland, Melbourne Beach, Indian Harbour Beach, Grant, South Patrick Shores, Indialantic, Cocoa Beach, Melbourne, Rockledge, Satellite Beach, Malabar, Titusville, Florida. The marriage and intimacy therapists also help couples in Orlando, Jacksonville, Naples, Fort Lauderdale, Homestead, Key Largo, Key West, Saint Petersburg, Tampa, and Pensacola, Florida.
LGBTQIA+ exploration with your couples therapist
Couples can also talk about gender identity, gender expression, and sexual orientation in couples therapy. When you have a shame-based view from a strict religious upbringing about gender diversity, this can damage the emotional intimacy in your relationship. Couples can identify the negative, shame-based massages they have received due to a strict religious upbringing. Intimacy counseling and marriage therapy in Indian Harbour Beach, Florida gives you a confidential space to discuss gender and sexuality openly. You may not feel comfortable talking with friends and family about your gender or sexuality. Therefore, you can talk with your intimacy and marriage therapist in Brevard County, Florida about identifying as gay, non-binary, queer, lesbian, transgender, and gender expression.
Intimacy means turning towards your partner in an emotional, physical, and sexual sense.
Couples can learn to be LGBTQIA+ affirming of one another. As well, couples can talk about different feelings regarding sexuality and gender exploration. One spouse may feel excited they have realized they are gay, lesbian, or bisexual. However, the other spouse may feel worried, anxious, scared, or fearful. Working with a therapist who specializes in LGBTQIA+ can help you share these emotions in healthy ways. When you have questions, you can bring them to intimacy counseling.
Marriage counseling can help you gain proper LGBTQIA+ queer affirming education.
When you have been raised in a strict religious home, you may have a lack of education regarding LGBTQIA+, gender, and sexuality. Maybe, you have a closed mind, and need an LGBTQIA+ therapist to help you open your mind and gain LGBTQIA+ education. You may have received shame-based messages around being alternative or different. Maybe, you learned that boys have short hair and wear blue, and girls have long hair and wear pink. Intimacy counseling can help you expand upon your sexuality and gender perspectives. Talking about gender and sexuality, as well as the messages you have received growing up that limit your view. When you have a negative view about gender diversity, this can hinder and harm the intimacy in your relationship.
Explore ways to support your gender diverse spouse in intimacy therapy
Boys can wear pink and girls can wear blue and have short hair. Growing up in a strict religious home can cause you to feel fear, shame, and guilt. Instead of feeling negative emotions, you can learn to foster curiosity and kindness with your spouse. When you spouse shares they are questioning their sexuality or gender, couples can come together. It can be an opportunity to gain intimacy together as a couple.
Wisdom Within Counseling supports couples who are in a same sex relationship, gay marriage, who identify as transgender, or queer. The couples therapists in Melbourne, Florida help questioning couples, who may need help exploring their gender identity and sexual orientation. Sometimes, couples get married, but after a period of time, they identify differently.
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One or both people may be questioning sexual orientation, or wanting to come out as lesbian, gay, or bisexual.
Sexual orientation can be fluid. So, you may be married for ten or forty years, and you may be exploring your sexual orientation. You have recently realize your sexual orientation is more fluid and you want to try sexual experiences with a different gender. Your husband may want to express his gender in a more feminine way, get his ears pierced, wear pink, wear make up, or grow his hair out long.
A female in a marriage may want to express her gender in a more masculine way, having short hair, wrestle, or wear blue. LGBTQIA+ affirming couples therapy can be a safe place to support your partner. You may have different feelings regarding the coming out process for yourself or your spouse. Couples counseling can help you support your spouse as they explore their gender identity, gender expression, and evolving sexual orientation. If you husband comes out as enjoying cross dressing in feminine clothing, you don’t have to end your marriage. And, this doesn’t mean he is gay.
Explore opening your marriage, ethical non monogamy, swinging, and polyamory
Sometimes, when a male or female comes out as bisexual or pansexual, couples choose to open their marriage. An open marriage means that one or both people may have multiple sexual or emotional partners. Maybe, you and your partner are interested in opening your marriage, swinging, and polyamory. Exploring opening your marriage or dating multiple people can be a positive part of intimacy counseling.
How are the type of therapies unique and why work with an intimacy specialist?
Wisdom Within Counseling specializes in Gottman couples therapy. Gottman couples therapy teaches distant couples skills to fight fairly. You can reduce defensivness, criticism, and blame from Gottman therapy. As well, the team of couples therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling help couples after affairs develop a foundation of trust. Couples who feel distant can learn skills for long-lasting love, sexual desire, and playfulness. Marriage counseling in Indian Harbour Beach, Florida helps couples to feel safe growing together.
The team of marriage therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling in Brevard County also help couples with sexual dysfunctions and intimacy issues.
You and your partner can start talking about past sexual trauma that plays a role in sexual performance anxiety. When struggling sexually, couples can improve their sex life, have amazing orgasms, and sexual pleasure. A female partner can learn she doesn’t have to keep faking orgasms. Instead, her partner can learn sexual skills to lengthen foreplay and stimulate her clitoris. Couples can play around with multiple orgasms for a female partner. When couples improve their sexual pleasure, bonding, closeness, and meaningful connection also increase. Katie Ziskind, licensed marriage and family therapist, also have a sex and intimacy course on teachable that couples wanting help with pleasure, orgasming and sexual intimacy can take in addition to intimacy counseling sessions.
