Are you thinking the following? “I want an LGBTQIA+ specialist and LGBTQ therapist for cross dressing. My husband of 30+ yrs of marriage has told me that he likes dressing in women’s clothing. I am so confused.”
“I want to understand how the straight man that I married likes dressing in women’s clothing. How is he not gay?”
“I need someone professional to talk to, I cannot talk to my friends or anyone about this.”
“I want to be accepting, but I’m confused, sad and angry.” You are in the right place. The team at Wisdom Within Counseling specialize in LGBTQ therapy for cross dressing.
If you are a wife, and found your husband cross dressing, you are not alone. Many emotions may be surfacing for you right now as you think about your husband’s cross dressing. You may have anxiety and fear, as well as wanting to be supportive. Being married for so long makes you wonder how he could have kept this a secret. As a wife, you may want a safe, confidential space to talk about cross dressing. Meeting with an LGBTQIA+ therapist for cross dressing can help you and your husband slow down, express emotions, and have safe conversations about cross dressing.
To begin, book your phone consult to work with an LGBTQIA+ therapist for cross dressing.
Have you found your husband cross dressing in female clothing and are looking for an LGBTQIA+ therapist for cross dressing?
When you have found your male spouse cross-dressing, you might feel confused, shocked, anxious, and even angry. Working with an LGBTQIA+ therapist for cross dressing can give you a safe place to slow down and process your emotions. Reaching out for professional help from a therapist who specializes in cross dressing can provide you both with a safe place to talk. Rather than reacting out of anger, which can lead to rejection, humiliation, and anxiety, take the time to find the right specialist. At Wisdom Within Counseling, we offer therapy for couples to talk about cross dressing.
Has your husband came out to you as enjoying cross dressing or as bi-gender?
Cross dressing is a form of gender expressing where men dress up and wear clothing that’s traditionally associated with the feminine gender. It is not wrong or bad, as society and religion like to tell us it is. As a partner, you might have so many questions regarding your husband’s gender express. You may wonder who is he? Why does he like cross dressing in more female clothing?
Religious upbringings can prevent intimacy
You might even have your own background of religious viewpoints that get in the way of being an accepting wife or partner. As well, you might even wonder if cross-dressing means that your husband is gay. At Wisdom Within Counseling, we are LGBTQIA+ therapists for cross dressing and gender expression. You can talk about your feeling around your husband’s cross-dressing in the safety of LGBTQIA+ therapy. In counseling, you can learn important things to know about cross-dressing, and how your husband feels about his gender. As a wife and partner, you can learn ways to be accepting, verses afraid or rejecting. A mixture of individual counseling, and couples therapy can help you and your husband work together. You can team up, step into an LGBTQIA+ evolution of your marriage, and learn about cross dressing.
To begin, book your phone consult to work with an LGBTQ therapist for cross dressing.
When you find your partner of 20 or 30+ years of marriage cross dressing in female clothing, you might have a lot of emotions.
You may have a lot of questions you want to talk about with your LGBTQIA+ therapist for cross dressing. Additionally, you may wonder about how long your husband has been wearing feminine clothing.
Typically, boys cross dress from a very young age, but it is a shameful secret. There is so much cultural shame around wearing clothing that is associated from a different gender, that boys learn to hide this behavior. To note, cross-dressing is not normalized in our society. Some boys and men love dressing up in nylon stockings, vintage clothing, sparkly dresses, and high heels. It is common for boys and men to want to try new kinds of make up, blush, and mascara. Boys and men may want to buy high heels, fancy shoes, and dresses. Punishments do not stop boys from cross dressing, it only causes secrecy.
Boys become men who may save up to buy and wear silicone prosthetic breasts when dressing up. As a culture, we need to be more accepting of all forms of gender expression for all genders.
Fear and punishment as a result of cross dressing
As well, if a mother finds her boy wearing their high heels, or wearing make up, a boy is usually severely punished. A young boy might be physically beaten, spanked, or deprived of food if he is caught cross dressing. Boys who like to wear pink are bullied on the playground for being different. So, a boy learns quickly to “fit in,” and hide his true self. One severe punishment of physical or emotional abuse is all it takes for a young boy to realize cross dressing is not socially accepted.
Even though a boy may be punished by his parents for cross dressing, there is still a deep urge and desire to look pretty and beautiful. Men who cross dress enjoy expressing their gender in traditionally feminine ways. Cross dressing behavior becomes secretive. And, a boy usually does not stop cross dressing. Men just learn to keep this behavior all to themselves out of fear of rejection, abuse, hate crimes, and more.
Men who enjoy cross dressing get great joy from wearing bras, wigs, doing their make up, and dressing up as women. Cross dressing behavior should not be demonized and is not harmful. However, there are not places where boys who enjoy cross dressing can feel accepted. Parents may also carry their own religious viewpoints that get in the way of being an accepting parent. Cross dressing has been some thing that men do for centuries, in small, safe communities.
To begin, book your phone consult to work with an LGBTQIA+ therapist for cross dressing.
Why do boys and men cross dress, from an LGBTQIA+ therapist?
Well, many boys and men may enjoy cross dressing to feel beautiful. Other men cross dress for a sense of comfort, for a sense of entertainment, and for gender expression. Each man wants to feel beautiful and like a diva at times.
Gender identity
A man who enjoys cross dressing may identify as bi-gender or two spirited. Some men identify as non-binary who enjoy cross dressing. Other men may identify as gender fluid. Growing up, we do not get education on these important LGBTQIA+ topics. Counseling can be a safe place to get education on your sexuality, gender identity, and gender expression. At Wisdom Within Counseling, meeting with an LGBTQ therapist for cross dressing can give space to talk about gender identity. These are things you may have never talked about before. You can get more comfortable talking about gender and sexuality with the help of a therapist who specializes in LGBTQIA+.
Every man who cross dresses may have a different way that he speaks about his gender. One man may identify as both a male and female, and another man may identify as just male. Another man may identify as both male and female, or neither. Some men have a female name for themselves when they dress up in female clothing. Then, when he wears male clothing, he goes by his masculine name.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, meeting with an LGBTQ therapist for cross dressing can build confidence around gender and sexuality.
It’s important to be accepting of men who enjoy and find pleasure and joy in wearing clothes that are traditionally associated with the female gender. There is nothing wrong with cross dressing and it should not be shamed. It does not mean that your husband is gay. And, finding out your husband has been cross dressing does not need to cause divorce. At Wisdom Within Counseling, meeting with an LGBTQ therapist for cross dressing can help you and your partner explore gender and sexuality in healthy ways.
To begin, book your phone consult to work with an LGBTQIA+ therapist for cross dressing.
Sexual orientation is very different than gender expression.
Cross-dressing is a form of gender expression that allows a male to express himself by pushing stereotypical guidelines of gender. Homosexuality does not directly correspond with males who practice cross dressing and wear feminine clothing. Remember, sexual orientation and gender expression are two separate aspects of who we are.
Each person, including yourself, can talk about sexuality and gender expression with a Wisdom Within Counseling LGBTQ affirming therapist for cross dressing.
Someone who is biologically male may identify as being heterosexual, but also enjoy cross dressing. Another person who is biologically male may identify as gay and enjoy cross dressing. It’s different for each person and LGBTQIA+ affirming couples therapy can help you understand yourself and your partner better. From deeper understand, you and your husband can gain a deeper level of intimacy. As a result of couples therapy for more intimacy, you can gain closeness, more boding, and a more secure marriage.
How can working with an LGBTQIA+ therapist for cross dressing support my marriage?
Working with a LGBTQIA+ therapist for cross dressing can help you, as a wife, be accepting of your male spouse if they love cross dressing. LGBTQIA+ therapy for cross dressing can help you as a partner and wife learn how to love your husband’s feminine side. Having a husband who enjoys wearing clothing traditionally associated with the female gender may give you anxiety at first. Therapy for cross dressing can help you process all of your feelings in a calm way.
We have to look at how our beliefs are shaped by society when it comes to cross dressing and couples therapy.
Society likes to put males in one box in females and another. Anyone who looks different or behaves differently than these two boxes is considered an outcast. Think about how your belief system is shaped.
When you were growing up, did you have to attend Catholic classes or catechism classes? Were your parents very religious and never talked to you about sex or gender? When you think about your childhood Influences, you may never have seen a male dress in feminine clothing. All the males worked hard, never cried, and were non-emotional and stoic. You never had role models that portrayed male cross dressing as normal. We often grow up with fears around anything that is different. If you are different than the traditional male or female, you are immediately told to change yourself to fit in to society’s standards and boxes.
To begin, book your phone consult to work with an LGBTQ therapist for cross dressing.
Working with an LGBTQIA+ therapist for cross dressing at Wisdom Within Counseling can help you and your husband overcome religious shame and guilt
Often times, religious organizations that are Christian and Catholic perpetuate shame and guilt. These belief systems become engrained in us. If we disobey the church, we feel we will go to hell. We want to be accepted by our parents and their religious community. Our families might ostracize or reject us if we don’t follow God’s instructions. Strict religious upbringings label cross dressing as not normal, derogatory, and unhealthy. At Wisdom Within Counseling, meeting with an LGBTQ therapist for cross dressing can help challenge religious views that are unhealthy, fear-based, and limiting.
Religious shame and guilt creates so much shame, fear, anxiety, and guilt for boys and men who enjoy expressing their gender in feminine ways. Instead of basing your views on old religious doctrines, meeting with an LGBTQIA+ therapist helps you develop you own belief system. You can develop a positive perspective on LGBTQIA+ gender expression and cross dressing.
Did you know cross dressing has been around for centuries?
Working with an LGBTQIA+ therapist for cross dressing at Wisdom Within Counseling can help you see cross dressing as something that is a form of positive self expression. It doesn’t have to be bad and can be a positive element of gender expression for all people.
To begin, book your phone consult to work with an LGBTQIA+ therapist for cross dressing.
What happens when you find out your husband has been cross dressing?
Men who cross dress often feel a lot of shame and guilt when their partner finds out they are into this behavior. As a wife, or as a partner, you may feel confused, angry, upset, or even like this behavior is immoral. Your religious upbringing may influence your reaction. Working with an LGBTQIA+ therapist, who specializes in cross dressing counseling at Wisdom Within can help you step away from these very limiting and hurtful beliefs.
From LGBTQIA+ counseling, you and your partner can develop a sense of confidence and freedom around any type of gender expression with regard to your clothing. Let’s talk about gender expression for all genders. You, as a woman, want to wear pants or shorts sometimes and don’t want to wear dresses all the time. On that same note, it’s okay for your husband to want to wear bras and wear make up sometimes as well as wanting to wear pants or shorts too. Clothing of all kinds can be for all genders. A person should not be forced to wear clothing that is specifically associated with her biological gender.
Let’s talk about gender stereotypes over time with your LGBTQIA+ therapist for cross dressing
Women have fought for decades to be able to wear pants, and even have the right to vote. At one time, women were not allowed to own property. Not even 100 years ago, women had to be married to be valued. As well, only their male husband could be listed on the deed on their shared house. There have been a lot of different issues regarding gender stereotypes in the last hundred years. Now, we see women bring the breadwinner and working full time. More and more men are stay at home dads and taking an active role in parenting.
How can spouses and wives become more comfortable and familiar with cross dressing?
One thing that you can do to become a more accepting spouse is expose yourself to LGBTQIA+ figures and role models. Growing up, Jesus, or the pope may have been your family’s role model. Now, you might find a drag queen can be your role model, thus making cross-dressing more positive culturally. Think about your role models growing up and how you were influenced in your views. Growing up, you may have had a military father that was very masculine and dominating. Thinking back to your childhood, you may not have liked the ways in which your very masculine, military father, treated you, such as with physical abuse and harsh punishment.
Finding role models that are LGBTQ is expressive can help you and your partner realize that cross dressing behaviors are totally normal, positive, and healthy.
Just because a man cross dresses in women’s clothing, it doesn’t mean he is necessarily gay. Couples can talk about sexual orientation openly with their Wisdom Within Counseling LGBTQIA+ therapist for cross dressing.
Therapy can be a safe place to overcome fears, worries, and myths around cross dressing and talk about your marriage. Cross dressing has nothing to do with sexual orientation and doesn’t mean your husband gay. Some wives also fear their husband no longer finds them attractive.
To begin, book your phone consult to work with an LGBTQ therapist for cross dressing.
As a wife, you might be afraid that your husband is gay and doesn’t love you anymore because you found him cross dressing. You can bring your concerns, fears, and anxieties to your LGBTQIA+ counseling sessions. Working with an affirming LGBTQ therapist for cross dressing can help you gently express your emotions and anxieties. Just because your husband wears a skirt, wigs, make up, or female bras, he can still be madly in love with you as his wife.
Reaching out for help from a LGBTQIA+ affirming therapist for cross dressing can be very beneficial
When a child is shamed or punished for cross dressing, it does not stop cross dressing behaviors, but forces them to be secretive.
People keep secrets and lie for all different reasons. Mostly, men lie about and hide cross dressing because they feel they won’t be accepted or valued by the people they love. A man may fear his wife will divorce him if he comes out as enjoying cross dressing. As well, a man may remember when his parents horribly punished him as a boy, and fear his wife will embarrass and reject him in the same way. The sad thing is that cross dressing is normal and healthy, but demonized and shamed by out society.
When you have walked in on your spouse cross dressing, your husband might feel ashamed or afraid of your reaction.
Your husband might feel afraid that you are going to reject them in the same way their parents did in their childhood. Your husband’s parents rejected him as a boy in childhood and hear fears you may do the same.
Some men who cross dress go through phases of purging, where they feel such shame about cross dressing behaviors that they throw out all of the female clothing they have. Men go through a period of time where they do not cross dress out of fear and shame. And, then men purchase female high heels in their size, buy make up, and feminine clothing again. Purging can be a symptom of cultural, shame, and guilt. Cross dressing can be very enjoyable, for men, who are also happily married.
As a spouse, you might feel confused, concerned, and want the help of a professional, who truly understands cross dressing and LGBTQIA+ expression.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, our therapists specialize in LGBTQIA+ plus affirming therapy and men who cross dress. Couples can have a safe place to confidentially discuss gender, sexuality, and expression. Your LGBTQIA+ therapist for cross dressing can help you understand your gender identity and your spouse’s, gender identity. Talking about and opening up the conversation of gender expression can be positive. It might be the first time in your life that you have had a chance to talk about sexual orientation, cross dressing, and gender expression. In counseling, you can talk about sexual orientation. In the safe space of LGBTQIA+ counseling, you can share emotions and feelings in healthy ways.
To begin, book your phone consult to work with an LGBTQIA+ therapist for cross dressing.
Meeting with an LGBTQ therapist for cross dressing can give you a safe, confidential place to ask questions and talk about topics that you want to navigate with your husband.
And, you can do so in the presence of an LGBTQIA+ therapist and professional. At Wisdom Within Counseling, we specialize in working with men who enjoy dressing in female clothing,. As a female partner, you may feel confused, hurt, angry, and need help dealing with intense emotions regarding cross dressing.
Therapy can help you navigate the coming out process. Working with an LGBTQIA+ therapist supports coming out to relatives, children, and friends. You can talk about safe family member and who you wish to come out to, and when. At Wisdom Within Counseling, meeting with an LGBTQ therapist for cross dressing can foster closeness, intimacy, attraction, and emotional security.
Confidence around LGBTQIA+ exploration as a family and couple
Couples can gain confidence and let go of fear and worries around gender and sexuality. Men who engage in female cross dressing as a form of gender expression may be doing this for decades, in secrecy. Coming out means depending the level of intimacy and closeness couples share. When your spouse has been cross dressing, opening this conversation as a couple can build more trust. To build even more emotional intimacy, as a female partner, you can learn how to accept the feminine part of your husband.
Couples can stay together and become even stronger and closer through working with an LGBTQ therapist for cross dressing
Just because your husband dresses up in female clothing, wears make up, and has a female, expressive side, doesn’t mean that you have to to end the marriage. With your LGBTQIA+ counselor, you can talk about what building a healthy LGBTQIA+ affirming marriage.
You can talk about what closeness, intimacy, attraction, and bonding looks like in counseling. Having a husband who loves fashion and considers himself a fashion diva can be positive, rather than negative.
To begin, book your phone consult to work with an LGBTQ therapist for cross dressing.
Learning about your husband’s cross dressing behaviors can give you more perspective on his childhood, and the marginalization and oppression he has faced. As a wife and partner, you can benefit from LGBTQIA+ affirming cross-dressing therapy to better understand your husband’s gender expression.
Couples in therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling can bond over fashion, clothing, and gender expression.
You can talk about what type of fabric see both enjoy. Couples can bond and connect over bullying they faced as children. We have all felt oppressed. Talking about what you have experience in childhood, insecurities, and what helps you both feel confident can be parts of LGBTQIA+ affirming couples counseling. To add, talking about expressing your gender in many ways can be liberating and freeing.
Whether your husband enjoy dressing in drag, or just enjoys expressing his gender in a more feminine way, you can build a stronger marriage.
Through LGBTQ therapy for cross dressing, you can gain deeper intimacy. Intimacy means fully accepting and loving all parts of your spouse. when you feel limitations, your LGBTQIA+ affirming therapist can help you explore those emotional blockages. If you feel confused, or notices blockages to accepting your spouse, LGBTQIA+ counseling can help you work through those. LGBTQIA+ affirming counseling and cross, gender affirming counseling can help you better understand your husband and gender expression as a whole.
Your marriage is not failed just because you’ve walked in on your husband cross dressing.
This can be an opportunity for positive growth together and deeper intimacy. You can develop a more meaningful relationship and stronger marriage as a result of talking about cross dressing in couples therapy.
You can be LGBTQIA+ affirming to other members of your family from counseling.
When parents are raised with strict, Catholic viewpoints, having a child who is gay can be seen as a bad thing. Having a husband who is cross dressing can be seen as scary. By talking about LGBTQIA+ expression in counseling with a specialist at Wisdom Within, you can become an even more LGBTQIA+ affirming parent. You might have fears that your child is bisexual or transgender. So, being able to talk your anxiety with an LGBTQIA+ therapist can help you become more accepting. When children feel accepted by their parents, they are less likely to self harm, think of suicide, and gets into the wrong crowd. When children, experience family acceptance for their sexual orientation and gender identity, they are less likely to become drug addicts or alcoholics. There’s no need to none out when you feel loved and valued by your family.
To begin, book a phone consult for LGBTQIA+ therapy to learn about cross dressing, sexual orientation, gender identity, bisexuality, and more.
Changing fear-based, limiting beliefs can be helpful for you as a parent and as a spouse.
If there are different emotions that come up that prevent you from being accepting, LGBTQIA+ affirming counseling at Wisdom Within is a safe place to talk about them. When you have a child, who is transgender, you might experience grief and loss. You might need to have some individual counseling sessions to process anxiety about them getting bullied. Parents may have fears about their child’s coming out process and sexual orientation. If your son is gay, you might need to grieve the life you thought your child would be having individually with a therapist at Wisdom Within Counseling. When your husband is cross dressing, you might need to grieve the loss of the marriage you thought you had.
LGBTQIA+ affirming counseling can also help you gain acceptance skills.
Radical acceptance is an important coping skill that can help you be more loving to your LGBTQIA+ and queer family members and embrace them for who they are, rather than trying to change them into someone you want them to be. We often have idealized views for movies, society, religion, and culture, they tell us to be a certain way. You may have a son who is gay, or a daughter is bisexual. Learning to accept your loved ones, for who they are, can help them feel supported, and acknowledged, rather than than feeling like they need to change themselves to be lovable.
Talking about gender and sexuality in LGBTQIA+ queer affirming counseling can help you become a more LGBTQIA+ affirming parent as well. You might not realize that your young adult children are questioning their sexual orientation, wondering if they are queer, or even transgender. By learning about LGBTQ, gender expression, you can make your family and home more educated and affirming. Being conscious and gaining education in LGBTQ expression, you can have conversations with your young adult children. You can help them feel accepted, and let them know that they are lovable just the way they are.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, you can explore sex, intimacy, gender, LGBTQIA+ identities, and open up to more trust and connection.
Your therapist can help you and your husband talk about what helps you feel safe and what builds attractiveness. Couples can gain appreciation for one another and explore gender expression together in LGBTQ therapy for cross dressing.
