How does trauma look?
For one, you might feel fear of abandonment or like you’re a failure. As well, your spouse might have an eating disorder, have body image issues, and reject you sexually. And, this may be a symptom of their trauma experience. To add, adults develop limiting beliefs and self-destructive behaviors related to past trauma. Maybe, in your adolescent years, you attempted suicide or began self harming and cutting. At Wisdom Within Counseling, PTSD treatment and marriage therapy in Old Lyme, CT is available.
How does trauma feel?
To this day, you live with a high level of anxiety and daily panic. Each moment, you jump, and feel on edge. As well, you are easily startled. Maybe, you have been through so much loss that you are waiting for the other shoe to drop. Now, you are looking to understand where these feelings came from. As well, being abused or neglected by a trusted adult or caregiver can lead to trauma.
Often times, couples do not realize that the source of their high intensity conflicts is trauma.
Frequently, the impact of unresolved trauma on romantic relationships is monumental. Many times, couples therapists do not address the difficulties that can arise from unresolved traumatic experiences. We specialize in trauma therapy alongside marital counseling sessions. Are you in high conflict fights? Or, do you feel lonely in your relationship? Essentially, trauma responses are behaviors that look different in each person.
What exactly is trauma and how can PTSD treatment and marriage therapy in Old Lyme, CT help?
Frequently, children who grew up with a parent who is an alcoholic or abuses drugs goes through trauma. Furthermore, having a parent who was hospitalized for bipolar disorder is a trauma. To add, having a parent or sibling die suddenly and going through childhood loss is trauma. Many times, children who go through trauma do not realize other children are free from trauma. Unfortunately, children who go through trauma learn to push away feelings of emotional vulnerability.
Maybe, in your childhood, you were yelled at if you showed emotion, so you grew up pushing feelings away.
As children, we need a safe place to be playful and show our emotions. But, if you don’t have a safe place or someone to turn to, you may have learned that your emotions are shameful. But, through PTSD treatment and couples therapy in Old Lyme, CT, you can develop strategies to cope in positive ways. Maybe, alcoholism allowed you to get through your teenage years. However, now, in your romantic relationship, your alcoholism is interfering.
Want to work on being the best version of yourself? Maybe, you received a DUI, or you began cheating emotionally.
Or, you lost your job or spouse from alcoholism. To add, traumatic stress responses can linger into adult years. And, have negative impacts on important relationships too.
Now, how can trauma treatment and marriage therapy in Old Lyme, Connecticut support self-worth and healthy relationships?
From traumatic experiences, you might believe that you are unwanted or unworthy of love. And, if a parent made you feel shameful or unwanted, you might truly believe that your spouse doesn’t want you either. So, feeling unlovable is some thing that PTSD treatment and marriage therapy in Old Lyme, CT can help you overcome. As well, you can learn to build emotionally nurturing and satisfying relationships.
Plus, you can choose from art therapies, yoga therapies, and walking therapies in PTSD treatment and marriage therapy in Old Lyme, CT
But working with a trauma specialist and couples therapist, you can learn to recognize and understand your trauma responses.
As well, you can learn to understand your spouses emotional flashbacks and trauma responses. For some, irritability, outbursts, anger, and anxiety are signs of trauma. But, others experience timidness, insecurity, and fear as trauma responses. Maybe, you punch walls and yell. Or, maybe when triggered emotionally, you shut down and get quiet.
Over time, PTSD treatment and marriage therapy in Old Lyme, CT can teach you how to nurture your self.
Unfortunately, these trauma responses can push away loved ones and hurt children. From self-care, you can nurture your spouse and inner child. To conclude, self-nurturing allows you to begin extending that nurturing to others. Essentially, self-care skills create a secure, authentic, and truly intimate connection.
Many times, adults who have been through trauma will try to build romantic relationships based on drugs, alcohol, or sex.
And, these lead to defensive reactions in relationships later down the road. For one, you might’ve grown up in a chaotic environment where you could not show emotion. Now, in your marriage you are struggling to show emotion and to trust. Through PTSD treatment and marriage therapy in Old Lyme, CT, you can step away from this negative emotional state. And, with guidance, you can start to heal yourself.
Does your spouse withdraw emotionally? Walking on eggshells?
Maybe, you’re triggered because your partner emotionally through withdraws from you and withholds sex. It hurts. In PTSD treatment and marriage therapy in Old Lyme, CT, your therapist can help you know what to do next. And, you can learn to share intense emotions in calm ways.
If you have a trauma history, you might experience a higher level of anxiety when you don’t feel connected to your partner.
I don’t know too much, but I want to know more. What education is available in PTSD treatment and marriage therapy in Old Lyme, CT about trauma?
Often times, reactions are simply a byproduct of childhood experiences and complex trauma. In a reaction with your spouse, your mind might bring you back to childhood when you felt small or belittled. At Wisdom Within Counseling, we specialize with PTSD and couples therapy. In PTSD treatment and marriage therapy in Old Lyme, CT, your therapist can help you build emotional regulation. In time, you can learn your own unresolved trauma triggers and heal them.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, we teach couples how the body responds to trauma to effectively heal.
So, after sexual trauma, the body may be different. In sex positive therapy, we teach about the trauma blueprint. And, you can learn how trauma is released by new, positive mind-body experiences.
How do negative coping mechanisms like alcoholism or drug use hold you back?
Essentially, each person responds to trauma differently, but develops unique coping mechanisms. Often times, these negative coping mechanisms burden and hold you back from relationship growth. Maybe, you desire to feel numb. Well, therapy can support self-love and acceptance to overcome any emotion.
Through PTSD treatment and marriage therapy in Old Lyme, CT, you can develop a higher level of mind-body integration.
And, you can learn to re-process the trauma in a healthy way. Then, the trauma responses become less intense and severe. Essentially, reprocessing a trauma can mean using are therapies. As well, trauma healing can include yoga therapy, walking therapy, or simply crying to your therapist. Healing trauma is a process of loss, grief, and mourning in a positive way.
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You can develop emotional regulation, feel emotionally stable, and attract healthy friendships from self love. In couples therapy, your therapist can help you establish patterns of positive interaction.
From there, you can maintain and build upon that sense of emotional intimacy insecurity.
Your couples therapist can help you and your spouse identify when you experienced trauma in the past. And, you can learn how it plays into your marriage conflicts currently.
Frequently, explicit traumatic memories from childhood can prevent growth in your marriage. To add, your PTSD treatment and marriage therapy sessions in Old Lyme, CT can help you support your partner in releasing fear-based responses. Often, from trauma we learn to live and reply on survival mechanisms. With playfulness, you and your spouse can encourage each other to live in the present moment. Further, mind-body integration helps heal trauma responses. Lastly, from trauma therapy, you can take back your growth mindset.
Through PTSD treatment and relationship counseling in Old Lyme, CT, you can feel secure discussing your trauma.
And, trauma focused therapy for a couples in one of a kind at Wisdom Within Counseling. As well, your therapist can help you reduce alcohol and substance use and build authentic emotional well-being. Your couples therapist has extensive training to help you with the emotional challenges of trauma work.
From establishing a professional relationship with your couples therapist, you can feel safe opening up to your spouse again.
From there, you can learn to build security in your intimate and romantic relationship. With PTSD treatment and marriage therapy in Old Lyme, CT, you can begin to participate and engage in social recreational activities again. In counseling sessions, your therapist may share healthy coping skills. Therefore, these can include yoga, meditation, or art for emotional stability.
Oftentimes, trauma impacts children, teenagers, and adults more than people might realize.
Simply put, working with a therapist, sooner than later, can help you build a healthy relationship with yourself. And, you can regulate your emotions in a calm way. From therapy, you can have a positive experience to live in the present moment. Additionally, you get education on how underneath anxiety is often a host of negative childhood trauma experiences.
Work with your therapist to look negative coping mechanisms you might need to let go of and establish positive emotional responses.
From letting go of painful memories, you can learn that you don’t have to be afraid of them. The Wisdom Within Counseling team specializes in trauma therapy and couples therapy. Marriage therapy helps reduce high conflict fights. Each week in couples counseling, you can feel a sense of empathetic connection and release self blame. Often, people have been through trauma blame themselves. And, survivors feel like the trauma is their fault. Essentially, trauma healing means becoming aware of how it is not your fault. Furthermore, couples can work together to overcome adversity and communicate trauma responses together. Couples can learn to mourn the full extent of their childhood, trauma, neglect, and losses.
In counseling, we help distant couples build a shared sense of meaning and a shared sense of healing.
