Are you questioning your gender identity or is a family member questioning their gender?
Are you confused, because your child wants to shop in a different section of the store? And, wants to buy the opposite gender clothes?
Do you want to have healthy conversations with your male child about how buying makeup is okay, but don’t know where to start?
Is your spouse coming out to you as bisexual and you want positive coping tools to be supportive and accepting?
Are you looking to improve self-confidence and gender expression through mindfulness and yoga therapy for trauma?
Why work with a gender identity counseling and LGBTQIA+ specialist?
Well, good question. If you have a family member, or you are cross-dressing, it can feel shameful. Unfortunately, the American culture does not emphasize enough the importance of acceptance. Essentially, each of us expresses gender in different ways. So, if you like wearing masculine and feminine clothes, you are welcome here. When it comes to cross-dressing, it can feel secretive. for most of your life, you may fear insecure about your desire to wear dresses and be in hiding. Many times, men dress in women’s clothing in secret out of fear of rejection. Without therapy, the secrecy of cross-dressing, can be isolating. And, dressing up to feel like a woman can be scary after someone has found out.
For some, dressing in dag is a part of gender expression.
It is outward and showy. On the other hand, cross-dressing is a more secretive practice of gender expression. Drag is exotic, colorful, and involves glitter clothing. And, it is typically worn by males. For some, drag is in the same family as kink or fetishes. At times, some drag queens also have fetishes like foot fetishes or stocking fetishes. Other times, drag is standalone expression of gender.
In Madison, Connecticut, and the Southeastern Ct area, we offer gender and sexuality affirming counseling as an area of expertise.
Interested in drag? It is a part of gender identity counseling.
Work with an LGBTQIA+ specialist at Wisdom Within Counseling to gain confidence and positive coping skills.
Unfortunately, some people who are cross dressers are also called transvestites. Now, this is a negative term. Furthermore, men often dress up in drag, as women, for sexual pleasure. As well, a man may dress in drag for other gender expression reasons. As well, it is important to note that just because a man ins in drag, he may still identify as a man. Gender expression and sexual orientation and gender identity are different. When dressed up in drag, he may enjoy being called, “beautiful.” However, generally, he identifies by he, him, or male, but not often as being a woman. At Wisdom Within Counseling, we specialize in gender and sexuality counseling.
How to be polite and affirming if your family member is a drag queen or cross-dressing in female clothes?
For one, it is never okay to call someone a, “tranny” or “she-male.” In general, this is very rude. Some may even consider this bullying that perpetuates cultural shame. Always think about acceptance. Essentially, don’t talk about another person’s appearance in a critical way. Simply, focus on being kind and respectful. Lastly, it is totally okay for men to wear bras and paint their nails. In Madison, Connecticut, and the Southeastern Ct area, we offer a gender and sexuality counseling specialty. To be LGBTQIA+ affirming, treat a drag queen like everyone else.
We support expression through clothing. These feelings around sexual orientation and gender identity are a part of a person. For instance, just like brown hair naturally grows, gender is who someone is.
Is gender identity, dressing in women’s clothes, or being gay something a person can change?
Nope, no amount of effort can change brown hair to grow another color. And, sexual orientation is just like hair or skin color. At one time, prejudice and abuse who shown to African Americans. And, in that era, it was normal. So, at Wisdom Within Counseling, we proudly help children, teens, and couples explore gender and sexuality confidently. In Madison, Connecticut, and the Southeastern Ct area, we are happy to offer gender affirming care online and in person.
If you are experiencing any gender questioning feelings, think you may be gay or pansexual, or are in a polyamorous relationship, click the pink button below to book a phone call for counseling.
To conclude, not each trans person is a drag queen. However, some drag queens identify as transgender.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, your therapist can help you take steps to live a life you love. From counseling specialized for gender exploration, you can gain clarity. Plus, positive coping tools involve creative art, yoga, mindfulness, and nature. Creative, holistic therapy is so positive for LGBTQIA+ acceptance. As well, you can pick from video counseling or in person therapy. In person, you can go for a walk along the Southeastern shoreline and beach. To add, walking outdoors in the summer for therapy can improve confidence and lower anxiety. In counseling, you can have lifelong mental wellness skills. We help people in the LGBTQIA+ community from children to adults. Couples, children, and teenagers each experience gender expression and feelings.
Are you afraid or fearful of people finding out that you cross dress?
Maybe, your boss would fire you if knew you were transgender. Or, you fear your family will disown you if they saw you had women’s dresses. With a mix of these intense feelings of shame and guilt, it really helps to connect in gender identity counseling. As well, working with a LGBTQIA+ specialist can help you feel confident and accept yourself. The fear of rejection and shame is real. Now, the same is true for men who are drag queens and the attempt is often to pass as a woman. Dragging involves performance whereby the intent is an undoing of negative gender norms. Lastly, our therapists support and encourage breaking gender norms.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, we specialize in gender, sexuality, and LGBTQIA+ family therapy and building acceptance and confidence.
Essentially, dragging breaks negative gender norms and stereotypes. Certain communities embrace drag queens. As well, Netflix and TV shows are showing more gender affirming pictures. For example, the TV show, Schitt’s Creek, is affiming of same-sex marriage. At one point, the topic of drag queens was taboo. At Wisdom Within Counseling, we affirm LGBTQIA+ expression on gender and sexuality. For instance, you are welcome to come to a counseling session in drag. We offer a safe space to talk about gender and sexuality. Or, you are welcome to wear anything you would like!
Learn to be your authentic self through holistic, creative sexuality and gender identity counseling
In the midst of exploring drag and gender expression, you may have other challenging feelings. Perhaps, one of your parents has a mental illness or bi-polar disorder. Or, your sibling has an addiction or alcohol issue and is in rehab. Family chaos can add stress to your life that therapy can help you release. We help you release and let go of anxiety, depression, loss, and trauma. Struggling with anger management issues? Our therapists help with releasing anger and sadness as well as LGBTQIA+. In Madison, Connecticut, and the Southeastern Ct area, we offer positive coping skills for LGBTQIA+ children and adults.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, if you are a man who like to wear feminine clothing, we welcome all parts of you here.
So, through doing or dressing in drag, males express part of the opposite sex. Lastly, working in gender identity counseling and with a LGBTQIA+ specialist can help you thrive. Never, should you be ashamed of what you feel regarding sexual expression. Often, people who are exploring their sexuality and gender expression have intense feelings. As well, a break-up of a romantic relationship can add big feelings to life. You can gain positive coping tools for confidence and clarity from gender identity counseling.
Begin in gender identity counseling and work with an LGBTQIA+ specialist today. Click the pink button below for a phone call.
What is bi gender in terms of gender identity?
Bi gender identity means a person’s sense of personal identity encompasses two genders. So, the change and fluidity is common. At times, a bi gender person may express themselves in feminine ways. For instance, on feminine days, a wig may be worn. As well, wearing a long hair wig can help a man feel more feminine. A transgender person may identify as bi gender initially and evolve. In Madison, Connecticut, and the Southeastern Ct area, we offer holistic, creative LGBTQIA+ affirming therapy.
Holistic gender identity counseling and working with an LGBTQIA+ specialist is possible at Wisdom Within Counseling
Thus, it is very normal to have fluidity in gender feelings. Often, gender identity counseling and working with an LGBTQIA+ specialist supports exploration. As well, have a professional gender identity counselor and LGBTQIA+ specialist outside your family is helpful. You can talk to your therapist about your worries, fears, and losses. Also, your therapist can help you find healthy outlets for big, intense feelings.
In, gender identity counseling, your LGBTQIA+ specialist can help you feel strong and be your true, authentic self.
Other times, a person with a bi gender identity will dress in more masculine ways.
Some days, being seen as masculine feels better. Other days, a person with identifies as bi gender will want feminine expression. Essentially, bi gender identity is different for each person. Sometimes, depending on the person, this is called cross-dressing. A male may purchase wigs, dresses, make up, and bras. A female may cut her hair short, wear sports bras, and no makeup. So, with bi gender, there may be feminine expression and masculine as well. On masculine days, then there may be choices of more masculine style clothes and hair. Often, the development of gender and gender identity happens over time.
How does someone know their gender identity?
Over time, sexuality and gender evolve. In adolescent years, you may realize that you are bisexual. Then, a few years later, you are evolving and thinking you may be bi gender. At Wisdom Within Counseling, you can learn about yourself and express your gender. In Madison, Connecticut, and the Southeastern Ct area, we offer gender affirming care.
And, you can do so in ways that feel authentic to you.
At times, you may realize that you miss the feminine side of yourself. Other times, you may miss the masculine side, and realize that was bi-gender fits for you.
If you, your child or spouse is struggling, the team at Wisdom Within Counseling specializes in LGBTQIA+ counseling.
