You may be watching your friends suffer from failed marriages and painful divorces. And, you want to do everything in your power to avoid separation and make you marriage work. You’ve been through so much loss and trauma. Deep down, you want to trust your spouse will be there for you, forever. But, there are lingering conflicts that never seem to get resolved. Do you find yourselves in high conflict, frustrating, defeating fights where nothing is resolves? And, do you feel hopeless, upset, and angry during conflicts with your romantic partner? Marriage therapy in Greenwich, Connecticut can help you feel safe and close again.
Does it feel like you and your partner need a safe place to talk about sexual, emotional, and general relationship boundaries?
Would you and your spouse like to get on the same page and feel a deep connection again?
When ever you and your spouse have a fight or disagreement, does your spouse share all the details with their friends or parents, violating a relationship boundary?
Does it feel like your spouse is oversharing details of sexual issues with others outside your marriage?
To begin, click below to book a phone consult for intimacy counseling and marriage therapy in Greenwich, Connecticut.
Intimacy counseling and marriage therapy in Greenwich, Connecticut helps distant couples communicate in calm, clear ways
Negative behaviors can lead couples to become distant, aloof, and drift apart.
Are you fighting/arguing and feeling hopeless or sad afterwards? Wondering how to get through this rough time? Working with Katie Ziskind and the team of marriage therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling gives you tools. As specialists with couples, you get professionals who can help you reach your marital goals, from better communication skills, to more intimacy and a healthier sex life.
Whether there has been secret keeping, cheating, an affair or infidelity, or you are wanting to talk about spicing up your sex life with a new sex toy or fantasy, Katie Ziskind and the marriage counselors at Wisdom Within Counseling would love to help you create and maintain a passionate, meaningful connection. Wisdom Within Counseling brings a playful perspective and teaches couples positive skills each counseling session.
Has your romantic relationship fallen to the back burner?
Couples therapy in Greenwich, Connecticut at Wisdom Within Counseling prioritizes your marriage’s health again! Katie Ziskind and the couples therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling give you and your partner a safe place to create the awesome relationship you want.
We are trained as a level two Gottman marriage therapists and I also offer mind-body therapies, art, breathing, yoga and guided meditation for inner peace.
Katie Ziskind and the couples specialists at Wisdom Within Counseling love helping distant couples heal after loss, trauma, and betrayal.
In marriage therapy in Greenwich, Connecticut, couples can learn what intimacy truly means. Intimacy is not just about passionate, erotic sex. Rather, true intimacy is about having a strong, secure emotional attachment to each other. No matter how far apart you are, emotional intimacy is a feeling of closeness.
Emotional intimacy is a skill set that marriage counseling teaches distant couples. Many couples in distress lack emotional intimacy skills that couples counseling can teach. At Wisdom Within Counseling, in Greenwich, Connecticut, couples can learn to rekindle sexual desire and love each other more intimately.
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Long-term and long-lasting love is totally possible through marriage counseling in Connecticut. Furthermore, there are parts of your marriage you feel confused about. When you fight or disagree, it feels like conflicts push you both apart. When fighting, it might feel easier to end your marriage or file for divorce. Rather than feeling like ending your relationship is your only option out of frustration or anger, couples counseling can help you reconnect.
The marriage counseling specialists help couples talk about the most intense topics that they can’t talk about at home due to conflicts. The team of couples therapists in Greenwich, Connecticut specialize with distant couples. Wisdom Within Counseling helps fighting couples develop long-lasting love, meaningful communication, playfulness, and a passionate sex life.
Don’t always have the last word
Having the last word or yelling at one another is never productive.
These negative communication behaviors are damaging and destroy your marriage. The marital and couples therapists in Greenwich, Connecticut can help you pause when you want to have the last word. There are benefits to talk about your emotions from loss, to grief, to betrayal. Rather than yelling and slamming doors, it is important to work with a specialist in marriage therapy. Never call you spouse derogatory names such as, “loser, asshole, or bitch.” It is never positive to call your romantic partner names or slam the door in their face.
Stop the cycle of hurtful fighting through intimacy counseling and marriage therapy in Greenwich, Connecticut
As well, it is dysfunctional and unhealthy to stonewall, or use the silent treatment. Many times, a person uses the silent treatment because they don’t know what to say, or don’t know if saying something will make the fight worse. Instead, of the silent treatment, you can effectively communicate your needs and emotions. Your Greenwich, Connecticut marriage therapist can offer a safe, calm space for you and your partner to listen to each other, rather than talk over or interrupt. There are important healthy communication skills couples therapists in Greenwich, Connecticut at Wisdom Within Counseling can teach you.
When you and your partner are fighting, you may start to notice your heart rate increasing. Your blood starts to boil. And, you immediately think your spouse is causing this negative fight cycle to continue. You may also feel resentment, anger, and feel upset when you think about conflicts with your spouse. Overall, couples therapists in Greenwich, Connecticut helps you overcome anger and gain coping tools. Couples who are stuck in a high conflict fight cycle may not realize how damaging and destructive their negative communication pattern really is.
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When you or your spouse are going tit for tat, this means you need fair fighting skills.
Communication skills can help you and your spouse have a healthier relationship by talking calmly. Rather than having the last word, you and your spouse can learn to improve how you talk to each other. Marriage counseling helps spouses communicate better, which fosters emotional intimacy. Emotional intimacy is the foundation building block to a healthy sex life. When you and your partner are saying hurtful, angry things to one another, this causes emotional distance.
Couples can talk calmly about relationship boundaries in marriage therapy in Greenwich, Connecticut
When you and your romantic partner are fighting, you may have issues with relationship boundaries. So, when you and your spouse never talk about relationship boundaries, this can set you up for failure. At Wisdom Within Counseling in Greenwich, Connecticut, you can talk about relationship boundaries. Boundaries can be different for each couple and range between many areas of life.
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Explore sexual diversity and navigate boundaries in marriage therapy in Greenwich, Connecticut
When you are wanting to explore your sexual orientation and ethical non monogamy, boundaries are key. For one, some couples start off as monogamous and just date each other. However, over time, a female partner may realize she is bisexual and want to start sexual relationships with women. When you love your spouse, you may decide to ethically be non monogamous and open your marriage.
Couples may talk about opening their marriage, so that a female partner can explore sexually with other peoples. A boundary may be a female partner dating and being sexually active with females, but not other males. A male partner may set a boundary that he wants to be out of the house or have a date himself, during his wife’s sexual activities with other women. The boundary may be that we both need to have an activity or date others on the same days.
As well, when couples open their marriage, it is always best to write down boundaries, so everyone is on the same page. When opening your marriage, and participating in ethical non monogamy, couples need help talking about boundaries.
Other boundaries may include getting STI testing after exploring sexually and romantically with a new partners.
Another boundary around an open marriage may include where to find multiple romantic partners, such as not dating people within a current friend group. Instead of dating neighbors or close friends, which can make those relationships uncomfortable, your couples therapist can support healthy boundaries.
In an open marriage, a female partner may prefer meet other females and new dates on a dating app. For instance, a female partner may meet new romantic partners on an app such as Feeld.
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Talk about financial boundaries in intimacy counseling and marriage therapy in Greenwich, Connecticut
Other boundaries may include boundaries around finances and spending money.
Couples often do not talk about spending money, finances, and tend to keep secrets from each other. You may learn that your spouse has racked up thousands of dollars in credit card debt. And, this causes you to feel angry, upset, and frustrated with your spouse. Money spending habits can be a cause for conflict and betrayal. Learning to talk about your relationship with money and get on the same page in marriage therapy in Greenwich, Connecticut can be positive. Sometimes, one or both people have had a dysfunctional relationship with money since younger years.
Perhaps, your spouse tends to over spend money and you feel scared about their money habits. One of you may be more practical when it comes to saving money. Or, one of you may have a gambling problem or issue with online shopping and overspending.
Couples therapy in Greenwich, Connecticut can give you a safe space to talk about money and financial boundaries.
When ever you and your spouse have a conflict, do they immediately share all the details with their parents?
Does it feel like your spouse is oversharing intimate sexual and emotional details with others outside your marriage?
Boundaries in your marriage may also include how much partners are sharing with friends and family about the intimacy and sex life.
Unfortunately, it is very common for couples to lack boundaries that are necessary for a healthy marriage. Your spouse may be oversharing intimate sexual or emotional details with their friends or parents. Boundary violations can lead to marital conflicts, emotional distance, and even emotional cheating.
It might make you uncomfortable to know that your partner or spouse is sharing intimate details of your sexual activities together with their co-workers or their parents.
It may feel inappropriate to you to know that your spouse is talking to their parents about your sex life or sexual issues.
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Talking about boundaries is key in situations like this to support long-term love in your marriage. When you or your spouse is oversharing intimate details of your romantic relationship with others, this can lead to marital distance and be damaging.
Keep your sexual passion and intimacy alive with intention and purpose
Sexual dysfunctions, erectile dysfunction, intimacy issues, and differences in sex drives can lead to intimacy conflicts.
For instance, when you have a high sex drive and your partner has a low sex drive, you might experience a sexual rejection. One partner may feel insecure or anxiety about talking to their spouse about their sexual urges and sexual desires.
We often grow up an environment of religious shame and guilt. Thinking back to your upbringing, your parents may have never talked to you about your sexual urges and never normalized your sexual urges. You may have even been shamed or felt like your sexual urges were evil or bad.
Now, sexual rejection is something you want to talk about in marital therapy in Greenwich, Connecticut. You feel turned on and excited to touch your partner’s body. However, they are always telling you they are not in the mood for sex or are too tired to have sex.
When one person in a relationship has a high sex drive and the other person has a low sex drive, sexual conflicts can occur. When couples do not talk about sexual rejection, it can lead to resentment. It is actually pretty normal for one person in a relationship to have a higher sex drive than the other.
Greenwich, Connecticut intimacy counseling and couples therapy can help you feel comfortable talking about your sexual needs and intimacy.
Many times, couples do not have these important sexual conversations. Due to sexual rejection, sexual insecurity, and performance anxiety, couples avoid talking about sex. You might be in a long-term relationship with your spouse and never talk about your sexual needs.
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Sadly, avoiding sexual topics and sexual intimacy can lead couples to feel distant. Marriage counseling in Greenwich, Connecticut can be a safe place to talk about sexual fantasies. Couples therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling fosters conversations around pornography use.
You and your spouse can rebuild a passionate, erotic connection. Your a couples therapist can foster a playful and adventurous environment for sexual conversations. Talking about sex promotes deeper intimacy.
In marriage therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling, you can talk about your sexual needs and explore touch means to each other. Also, you can talk about non-sexual massage and building emotional safety. Couples in therapy can learn about erogenous zones and ways to create suspense.
To note, many couples lack proper sexual health education regarding the female orgasm. A female’s sexual partner may have questions about where to find her clitoris.
So, couples counseling can be a place to support a female partner in orgasming and multiple orgasms. More often than not, couples need to increase the length of foreplay to support the female part in experiencing orgasms. Additionally, when talking about intimacy in Greenwich, Connecticut marriage therapy, couples can explore sex toys. When growing up in a strict, religious environment, you’ve been told that sex toys are off-limits.
Marriage therapy in Greenwich, Connecticut gives couples a safe place to build an adventurous, playful, and passionate sex life.
Working with an intimacy therapist and marriage counselor can help you understand the benefits to self pleasure and masturbation.
Couples can gain insight around the messages received in childhood play a role in current sexual struggles.
Growing up in a strict, religious home can be traumatizing. Sometimes, we grow up in environments where we are told that masturbation and self pleasure is evil or bad.
Couples need encouragement from an intimacy specialist to start talking about sex. Intimacy counseling and marriage therapy in Greenwich, Connecticut helps couples confidently talk about sexual fantasies and sexual pleasure.
Exploring your own body in a sexual way can help you identify what types of touch and areas of your body like touched. You can use the information you gather from self pleasuring and masturbation to better inform your partner of where you like to be touched.
Marriage therapy in Greenwich, Connecticut supports honest, open, and playful sexual conversations around pleasure and orgasming
Many females have learned to fake orgasms in order to avoid confrontation. Our society tells women that faking an orgasm helps a male partner feel good about himself. Instead of having pressure to fake orgasms, females get a safe palce to talk about sexual needs. Male partners can also learn how to support the female orgasm and learn positive sexual skills. Commonly, female partners may fake an orgasm to make a male partner feel good about themselves. Faking an orgasm doesn’t actually support true intimacy.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, couples can talk about sexual pleasure, orgasming, and even societal pressures around sexual performance. To add, talking about faking orgasms and what is needed to experience amazing orgasms is a part of intimacy counseling. Understanding if a female partner is sexually satisfied is a key part of marriage therapy in Greenwich, Connecticut.
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In intimacy in marriage counseling, you can confidently explore using different sex toys.
You might want to explore different types of orgasms like a nipple orgasm. Women can orgasm in a variety of different ways and experience amazing orgasms through clitoral stimulation as well.
Many men carry sexual insecurities due to sexual stereotypes and stigmas. Exploring anal orgasms can be empowering and part of marriage therapy in Greenwich, Connecticut. As a man, you might want to explore your anus, a butt plug, or an anal orgasm. But, you may feel afraid that your romantic partner may reject you, humiliate or judge you for wanting to explore you anus. Intimacy counseling is a safe place to talk about all of these emotions. Men may feel shame or guilt from a strict religious upbringing when waiting to explore anal play. Men and their sexual partners can learn to have intimate conversations around different erogenous zones. Many men can experience orgasms from anal stimulation and anal penetration. Marriage therapy and intimacy counseling in Greenwich, Connecticut supports sexual confidence.
Many women find it easier to orgasm from clitoral stimulation rather than from vaginal penetration. Sexual health education regarding orgasm and female pleasure could be wonderful benefits of couples therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling.
Has your sex life stopped or have you found yourself in a sexless marriage?
Right now, you and your spouse might be so focused on the responsibilities of running a house.
You may be focused on childcare, dealing with chronic pain, and even financial stress. All of your sexual passion is gone. After years of being together, it feels like you want to rebuild the erotic, passionate components of your love life. But, you don’t know where to start. Working with the team of intimacy and marriage therapists in Greenwich, Connecticut can help.
Being able to talk about orgasming, sex toys, sexual pleasure, and what satisfies you is liberating. In not many environments can couples feel safe talking about intimacy and sexual urges.
Also, one of you may get stuck always initiating sex. Therefore, talking about the process of initiating sex can be healthy and positive in couples counseling in Connecticut. Building an intimate sex life and passionate sex life can be a beautiful part of your marriage.
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Marriage therapy in Greenwich, Connecticut helps couples listen and validate each other’s feelings
Are you and your spouse having the same argument over and over?
Does it feel like you and your spouse have conflicts regarding the division of household responsibilities?
Maybe, there are lingering feelings of resentment.
Does one of you take on most of the household responsibilities?
Do the arguments take a toll on you?
Has your marriage and relationship felt rocky for some time now?
Are you and your spouse fighting on and off, more than usual? There may be certain topics that cause you both to get stuck in a negative cycle. Katie Ziskind, licensed marriage and family therapist, and her team specialize with couples.
Marriage therapy in Greenwich, Connecticut helps distant couples playfully and creatively talk about intense, triggering topics. You can learn to communicate calmly when it comes to triggering topics. From childcare, to household responsibilities, to your sex life, you get a safe place to talk about it all. Finances, social media, parenting, and quality time together may all be triggering.
Many times, couples are looking for a third party to mediate. Katie Ziskind and team of marriage therapists help fighting couples through challenging conversations.
From healthy communication tools, couples can actually work through and resolve conflicts. Couples therapy helps you and your romantic partner feel heard and validated.
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Understand dysfunctional, complex trauma childhood patterns that you may be repeating
In general, working with the team of couples therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling can help you understand unresolved childhood trauma. For instance, you may have been raised by a narcissistic mother. Having a narcissistic mother means that you grew up in an unstable and unsafe emotional environment. Your narcissistic mother may have lied to you. Also, a narcissistic mother is often very selfish and self-centered.
As a child, you may have felt like you had to be happy all the time. You never were able to cry or show any emotion besides happiness. Growing up with a narcissistic mother, made you feel like you were never going to be good enough. Your narcissistic mother always criticized you and belittled you.
Growing up was difficult and emotionally unstable. At times, you had to be the caretaker for your narcissistic parent.
Growing up in an environment where you saw your parents get into high conflict fights can also lead you to think that angry fighting is normal. From working with a couples therapist that Wisdom Within Counseling, you can learn to slow down and self regulate.
Self-regulation tools allow you to recognize when your heart rate is increasing. Instead of reacting out of anger, you can learn new ways to communicate your emotions.
Holistic coping tools include art, yoga, meditation, and outdoor walking therapies
The intimacy in marriage specialist at Wisdom Within Counseling in Greenwich, Connecticut help couples bond and reconnect. Learning to self soothe and practice self-care are important skills for a healthy relationship.
More so, mindfulness meditation can be a technique that can help couples calm down and slow down. Right in your marriage counseling session in Greenwich, Connecticut, your therapist can teach you how to do a body scan. Mindfulness meditation supports self-regulation skills. Learning to tune into your breathing rhythm can help you reduce anger and stress. And, mindfulness breathing techniques can be very helpful in your romantic relationship.
Talking with your spouse can be helpful. However, an angry tone of voice only creates more conflict.
Rather than reacting out of anger, doing a mindfulness meditation can be a skill you use outside of counseling. In couples therapy, you can learn mindfulness breathing skills. Doing these together in couples therapy can give you self-soothing strategies to use outside of session when you feel upset.
Learning how to do mindfulness meditation skills can improve intimacy and emotional security for a couples. Couples can slow down racing thoughts through mindfulness skills.
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What are positive coping strategies in Greenwich, Connecticut intimacy and couples counseling all about?
Rather than feeling frazzled or angry, you can learn to ground into yourself and tune in to your intuition.
This way, you don’t have to insult your partner or yell. Practicing other coping strategies can be helpful parts of couples counseling. You and your couples therapist can talk about what strategies you can use when angry.
Learning to stop a conflict is a skill you can learn in marriage counseling.
So, you can learn to know when talking is no longer be productive due to hurtful words. Then, you can take a shower, go for a walk, paint, do watercolors, listen to music, and cook. Using positive coping strategies help you return to the marital conversation refreshed. Learning to soothe yourself is a key part of having a long-lasting, healthy marriage. Your Greenwich, Connecticut couples therapist can go over positive strategies to reduce stress in your marriage.
Intimacy and couples therapy in Greenwich, Connecticut helps couples overcome childhood trauma symptoms.
Couples therapy in Greenwich, Connecticut helps partners acknowledge the challenges they faced in their childhoods. And, couples can talk about how they want to create a healthier, calmer family than they had growing up.
Childhood influences how you react to one another in a romantic way and in your marriage.
Growing up in an unstable environment and not having very good teachers when it comes to communication are good reasons to get into couples counseling.
Having a parent who was an alcoholic could be damaging. Maybe, your father was always drunk and you always felt afraid to bring friends home after school.
As a child, you spent all your free time outside of your home, doing sports, and even at neighbor’s houses. You avoided being home because your alcoholic parent was always arguing. Your alcoholic parents always picked fights with you and yelled at you.
It was difficult to grow up in an environment of emotional instability and narcissistic abuse.
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Couples therapy can be a safe place for you to share these different traumas with your spouse.
The more understanding your spouse has regarding your childhood, the better they can understand your triggers. When spouses talk about their childhood upbringings, they can create new values together.
As well, talking about childhood trauma creates a sense of emotional intimacy. Better understanding what your spouse went through can also help you understand their triggers.
Perhaps, your spouse was yelled at as a child. In your marriage, your spouse may be more sensitive to when you raise your voice. Keeping this in mind, you can learn to use a quieter tone of voice and a quieter volume, to help your spouse feel safe.
Learning about childhood trauma helps one another feel cared for and important. Spouse can talk about which negative patterns they don’t want to keep repeating for future generations.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, marriage therapy supports a long-lasting, loving bond and relationship.
Distant coupes get an opportunity to build a confident sex life, and a lasting, loving bond. Connect with your partner in new ways and create an authentic, satisfying love life through marriage therapy!
Let’s talk about building a nurturing, vibrant, marriage in counseling together. Katie Ziskind and the team of couples therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling love helping couples thrive.
