Are you walking on eggshells around your spouse?
Feeling upset by something they have done or said to you?
Intimacy is taken away in the same way it is given. You’re in the right place! There are many different types of intimacy too. The one that people miss and crave a lot is emotional intimacy. Essentially, emotional intimacy paves the way for pleasurable physical intimacy. For many long-term couples, a feeling of distance and resentment may settle in with when emotional intimacy lacks. In that case, holistic, marriage counseling in Westport, Connecticut can help you repair intimacy and closeness.
What role does emotional intimacy play in marriage therapy?
You and your spouse might realize you are living two separate lives without strong emotional intimacy. Deep down, you want to stay together. Essentially, emotional intimacy is the glue that holds you together and helps you feel secure. One of you pursues the other and wants to connect. Then, the other just feels too tired to respond. This is saddening. Both people start to feel unimportant and undervalued over time. Additionally, learning to build a passionate, loving marriage is a skill set that many adults often lack.
Often, romance is lost in building a career, making more money, and parenting.
It’s very common for spouses to try to parent each other and then fight. Parenting is helpful for children, but not for a spouse. Furthermore, parenting a spouse or directing a spouse around reduces intimacy. When looking at emotional intimacy, building up emotional intimacy in your marriage can help create strength and security. Couples therapist at Wisdom Within Counseling specialize in helping you do so.
To begin, use the pink button below to book a phone consultation to help your marriage thrive.
How does emotional intimacy play a role in a marriage?
Emotional intimacy is not some thing that can be bought with money. Instead, emotional intimacy is the feeling of genuine closeness that is built. It’s possible!
How can a couple build emotional intimacy and marital strength?
Well, simply from spending quality time together, praising one another, and feeling playful! Often, distant couples get stuck in goal oriented thinking and feeling like they need a plan for everything. Fighting couples have too high expectations for themselves and each other because they lack in essential communication tools to share those needs with each other. Working with a Gottman level 2 couples therapist here at Wisdom Within Counseling can help you learn to connect playfully with your spouse.
What are forms of intimacy from a marriage counselor in Westport, Ct?
Some people like to share thoughts because of something called intellectual intimacy. Sometimes, couples will read the same book or enjoy the same mystery movie. The plot line brings a sense of intellectual intimacy. Some couples desire physical intimacy. As you may think, physical intimacy includes touching, kissing, holding hands, and hugging.
As well, true intimacy develops over time when people are vulnerable together. Essentially, when a person allows the other person in. There is the process of accepting influence, and giving and taking. This is because overtime, loving, safe moments create emotional intimacy.
What is an example of emotional invalidation where someone might feel unimportant?
The next day, as one person is talking about their day, the other person picks up their phone and starts texting a friend back. This leaves their romantic partner feeling dismissed. Often times, couples do not understand how numbing out on a cell phone negatively impacts romance. Interrupting your partner by looking at your phone while they are speaking can make your partner feel unimportant. Often times, feelings of being unimportant or unwanted can lead to an affair later on down the road. As such, sadness and low self-worth develop.
What takes away from intimacy and connection?
Simply put, being on social media takes away all opportunities to be playful and engage with your partner. Also, drinking alcohol takes away emotional intimacy. Alcoholism and drug use prevent true connection. Many times, exhaustion from parenting and working all day can leave people depleted. In addition, people feel pressure to be the best they can be, buy more, and make more money. These material desires take away from the pleasure of a relationship with your romantic partner.
How does marriage therapy help couples find a sense of closeness again?
Couples need help organizing time together and prioritizing their marriage. On that note, physically attending couples therapy means that you are prioritizing your marriage.
Wisdom Within Counseling offers holistic relationship and marriage counseling in Westport, Connecticut. Sometimes, people feel anxious if they have never been to a marriage counselor before. Do not worry if you are afraid to go to therapy. Your therapist creates a welcoming atmosphere for your first session. Our team supports your marriage goals through counseling. Also, we offer creative and expressive arts to help bring playfulness back and help you build positive experiences together. Working with a couple therapist in Westport, CT can help bring people closer.
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What are the benefits of using art therapies and yoga therapy with high conflict, fighting couples?
Fighting couples need another form of communication beyond just talking. To add, talking about painful past experiences in therapy can bring back trauma. Often, speaking about past traumas in traditional counseling can lead to a PTSD flashback. One spouse may become incredibly sad, hurt, angry, and tearful. This may trigger the other person. Now, two people are having a fight while in a PTSD flashback. Then, other person may not have any idea what to do with their own intense emotions. And, in an angry, yelling PTSD flashback, a high conflict fight breaks out. Yelling and fighting are often PTSD trauma responses.
How can yoga, music, drama, and art therapy help couples who have anger and high conflict flights learn to build intimacy?
Art therapy and yoga therapy help teach couples how to communicate. Many times, couples are communicating with negative body language without even realizing it. Yoga therapy brings body movements to your attention.
Also, couples therapy using art and yoga help with calming the parasympathetic nervous system in the poly vagal response.
High conflict couples benefit from yoga, drama, and expressive therapies.
This is an important skill for high conflict couples to be successful together. Many times, going for a walk and talk session by the ocean can help. Studies show that couples who practice techniques like yoga therapy are calmer overall. So, couples therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling includes painting, art and breathing techniques to help you feel calm and close in moments of conflict. Lastly, you can learn all about co-regulation in marital counseling sessions.
Holistic couples therapy supports intimacy and emotional connection
Ideally, you and your spouse can talk calmly about how you were feeling without getting triggered and having a PTSD flashback. Also, PTSD symptoms are relieved through the use of yoga therapies and art therapies. If you in experience tearfulness when you think about past moments in your relationship due to pain, art and yoga may help you. Painting about how you feel to be incredibly healing.
Art therapy is healing in marriage counseling in Westport, Connecticut
Using clay to mold and shape memories of the past into positive outlets. As well, using watercolor or markers to be a relaxing way to cope with trauma. Breathing and other tools to stay calm are available through relationship and marriage counseling in Westport, Connecticut.
Why try something unique, holistic, and different in relationship and marriage counseling in Westport, Connecticut?
Many couples have horrible experiences in counseling because only talk therapy is involved. Simply talking about the past only involves your mind. So, at Wisdom Within Counseling, post traumatic stress disorder therapy is available within relationship and marriage counseling in Westport, Connecticut. We also treat mental health disorders within a marriage counseling session. The use of art therapies, music therapies, and drama therapies are available.
And, these expressive arts in marriage counseling in Westport, CT help you release intense emotions and healthy ways.
Also, a healthy release of anxiety might be journaling, using clay, drawing, or going for a walk. You could even write a song in music therapy sessions. Using songs to be one of the most healing ways to release emotions because music is so relatable. As well, a song might represent what you are feeling more than what you could say with words. So, marriage counseling can be one of a kind. Wisdom Within Counseling offer holistic, expressive arts in relationship and marriage counseling in Westport, Connecticut. There’s nothing like what we offer in the entire state of Connecticut.
To start relationship and marriage counseling in Westport, Connecticut, use the pink button below to book a phone consult.
In counseling, you can stop fighting, and build a sense of connection. Marriage counseling in Westport, Ct provides coping tools for overcoming the hard times. In couples therapy, you can start recognizing each other’s beauty. Many times, couples who are fighting and distant take each other for granted. And, distant couples often end up only thinking about the things that are not working. Have you begun to live separate lives? Many times, people in these situations learn to keep feelings to themselves. And, this is because they feel unheard by their partner more often than not.
Holistic marriage counseling in Westport, Connecticut helps your reboot your sex, love life and romance
Intimacy is easy once you have positive coping strategies. In marriage counseling, you can learn how to be calm. As well, you can learn to receive and show affection and communicate what you need. Additionally, you can recognize your partner when they are triggered by their own trauma responses. You can understand not to take it personally. Couples therapy in Westport, Connecticut is an opportunity for you to develop intimacy with the help of a therapist.
How do I meet for marriage counseling in Westport?
With that said, marriage counseling is available both on video across the miles to anywhere in Connecticut.
What towns do your marriage counseling and family therapy services cover?
And, there is counseling is also available in person along the southeastern Connecticut shoreline. We also serve the neighboring towns of Madison, Guilford, Old Lyme, East Lyme, Salem, Montville, Mystic, Stonington, Westerly, and Noank. And more of a Central Connecticut area, we serve towns of Hartford, Naugatuck, Camden, Granby, East Granby, Wilton, Avon, Farmington, and Tolland. In Eastern Connecticut, we serve the towns of Newington, West Hartford, Cromwell, and Rocky Hill. As well, we offer video and in person therapy near Middletown, Meriden, Middleberry, Southbury, Woodbury. We also offer counseling to Woodbridge and Waterbury.
