If you are in a trauma bond and needing couples therapy, you are not alone. How do you know if you are in a trauma bond? You might experience intense high moments and good times, followed by low moments and bad times. One moment, you are feeling close and comfortable together. The next moment, your spouse has started getting angry. They are picking up the bottle and drinking alcohol again in excess. When they drink, they call you horrible names, criticize you, and belittle you. The person that you fell in love with seems like two different people. Sometimes, they are loving. Other times, they are unpredictable and emotionally unstable. Trauma bond marriage therapy in Florida is a speciality at Wisdom Within Counseling.
Being in a trauma bond is a sign that you could use the help of a couples therapy specialist at Wisdom Within Counseling in Florida.
Many times, couples who are stuck in a trauma bond cycle need help breaking this unhealthy pattern of communication. For one, you might think your spouse is a narcissist. But, you don’t have to end your marriage to create a sense of normalcy, calm, and consistency in your marriage.
To begin, click below for your phone consult for trauma bond marriage therapy in Florida for healthy communication skills which create a calm, loving, and secure bond.
Working with a trauma bond couples therapist can help you and your partner understand the root cause of severe mood swings. Also, trauma bond marriage therapy in Florida can ease tension in your relationship.
Often times, one or both people in a trauma bond marriage have severe childhood trauma.
The childhood trauma is often unresolved leading to negative behaviors, continuing to hurt the romantic relationship. We bring unhealthy behaviors from childhood into adulthood. Often times, because of feeling helpless in childhood relationships with parents, this is expressed in marital life. In a romantic relationship, a person wants more power and control due to feeling helpless as a child. Whether this is conscious or subconscious, seeking power creates tension and stress in the marriage.
It can feel emotionally draining and exhausting to be in a trauma bond.
You are hoping for a sense of consistency and reliability. However, you constantly feel defeated because it feels like you’re on a hamster wheel. Sometimes, you and your spouse have wonderful times together. These are the good times. They are holding you together. However, when high conflict, fight breaks out, things get bad very quickly.
Yelling, slamming doors, and name-calling are unhealthy forms of communication trauma bond marriage counseling in Florida can help reduce.
When couples use criticism, defensiveness, or yell at one another, this damages the emotional security of the relationship. Overtime, couples who are stuck in a trauma bond may get used to this way of interacting. It starts to become normal to yell at one another in a trauma bond.
Instead of relating to each other in a negative way, trauma bond marriage therapy in Florida can break the trauma bond pattern.
You don’t have to raise your voice to be heard in a healthy relationship.
Growing up may have been chaotic for you, or your spouse leading to an even stronger desire for calmness in your current marriage.
Trauma bonds can slowly be examined and unstuck in the process of marriage counseling at Wisdom Within.
If one of you starts to get triggered or becomes highly emotional, we can use a grounding technique to help you feel more centered. Meditation, yoga, mindfulness, and even art and painting, support couples and getting in touch with expression.
Underneath anger is often a host of different emotions from hurt to betrayal to loss and grief. We help couples figure out what is going on underneath the anger. By slowly talking about sensitive issues, you and your spouse can break the cycle of high conflict fighting.
The team at Wisdom Within Counseling specialize in complex PTSD and trauma bond couples counseling in Florida.
What do boundary violations look like and how can trauma bond couples therapy in Florida help with healthy boundaries?
For instance, on a small scale, you may have asked your partner to only text you here or there and let you reply. But, your partner might not stop texting you, or compulsively text you. They might text you at all different hours of the day. Your spouse might text you when you have asked them not to text you. They might text you 15 messages without you replying. There is a breakdown of this boundary here. When you say a need, your spouse can learn to respect you in trauma bond marriage therapy in Florida.
Boundary violations in a marriage often can lead to resentment and conflict.
On a much larger scale, your spouse might not be able to control or manage their alcoholism.
Alcohol can lead to abuse in relationships.
To begin, click below for your phone consult for trauma bond couples therapy in Florida for healthy communication skills which create a calm, loving, and secure bond.
Trauma bond marriage therapy in Florida helps couples change negative behaviors and learn positive ones.
Being in a trauma bond means that you have forgiven your partner over and over for things they have tried to apologize for. However, after they have apologized, they seem to do the same negative behavior again. It almost seems like your spouse can’t stop being abusive.
And, you try to forgive them to be a good partner. You strive to be a good spouse because they are showing remorse and asking for forgiveness. However, within just a few days, they are back to their old self leading to a trauma bond cycle.
In a trauma bond, your partner may be making mistakes over and over again.
They might be an alcoholic, using drugs, or even being unfaithful. You may have found your partner having an affair multiple times, and have forgiven them for it. Forgiving, infidelity repeatedly is part of being in a trauma bond. A travel bond is characterized by very intense moments, followed by happy times, followed by more very intense, abusive moments.
For some couples, who are stuck in a trauma bond, they experience a cycle of high conflict fighting.
Fights tend to escalate. Name calling, door slamming, and yelling are common reasons to start in trauma bond marriage therapy in Florida. It seems like both of you were saying the exact worst thing. You and your spouse say things that are very hurtful. Often times, alcohol is involved in trauma bond, relationships, leading to more intense fights.
You can learn how to fight fairly and communicate what you’re feeling to break the trauma bond through couples therapy.
How can trauma bond couples counseling in Florida at Wisdom Within Counseling help with communication?
Your partner may not have learned how to communicate in their childhood, especially if they felt helpless and emotionally neglected as a child. Trauma can be different for each person. Losing a parent at a young age is a trauma memory. Or, going through sexual abuse is traumatic for a child. All trauma memories can lead an adult to have fluctuations in their mood and negative behaviors.
To begin, click below for your phone consult for trauma bond relationship therapy in Florida for healthy communication skills which create a calm, loving, and secure bond.
Working with a trauma bond couples therapist can help both adults in the relationship understand healthy behavior changes. As well, your trauma bond marriage therapist in Florida can help you and your spouse understand where these changes in mood are coming from, such as unhealed childhood trauma.
Being in a trauma bond can lead one person to crave attention and attachment, and the other person to withhold love.
This trauma bond cycle creates unhealthy negative attachments for each person. Instead, trauma bond couples counseling can help both of you in the relationship to create a secure sense of attachment.
Couples therapy for breaking your trauma bond can give you positive reinforcement and emotional validation skills. Overall, from trauma bond marriage therapy in Florida, couples can gain better communication skills for lifelong love.
Self-regulation and self-care skills are key for healthy relationships
Couples can learn to calm down on an individual level. Learning to soothe and calm down when angry is key for a healthy marriage. And, meditation, mindfulness, and holistic therapies help each person do so. You can learn meditation in process of couples therapy. Each person is responsible for their own mental health, and their own ability to stay calm.
To begin, click below for your phone consult for trauma bond marriage therapy in Florida for healthy communication skills which create a calm, loving, and secure bond.
What happens in a trauma bond for couples?
Often times, in a trauma bond, each person is relying on the other person to help them calm down. This creates an impossible cycle of abuse and frustration. Each person needs to learn skills to ground themselves and center themselves in order to bring the best version of themselves to the relationship.
In a trauma bond, people are usually overly enmeshed with each other.
being enmeshed makes talking about issues very difficult because there’s always tension and stress. In a trauma bond, you might feel like you can ever get space or time alone away from your partner. They might be suspicious about your whereabouts, or anxious to be left alone. As well, you might be afraid of leaving the relationship or even taking time to yourself.
Trauma bonds are possible to break with the help of the right professional.
Right now, you might feel afraid, uneasy, and anxious within your relationship. Sometimes, it feels like your spouse does not listen to you. Counseling for breaking trauma bonds can bring about more permanent change that allows you both to feel safe and secure. Blowups and emotional outbursts do not need to be a part of your marriage, especially if you want to create a healthy one.
Right now, you might feel like the victim at the wrath of a narcissistic spouse. Couples therapy can give you newfound hope. You might notice your spouse is denying their actions. Or, they are accusing you of things you didn’t do, or threatening you. Sometimes, you feel humiliated and embarrassed. Other times, you feel angry and frustrated. Your couples therapist at Wisdom Within understands the complexity of C-PTSD and trauma bonding.
There are times of high emotion and low emotion and all trauma bonds.
As well, couples counseling with the help of a complex post traumatic stress disorder specialist can help you remember your self-worth. From strong self-worth, you can be grounded and calm. That way, you can bring your most authentic self to the marriage. You can get back to hobbies you enjoyed and remind yourself of the respect you deserve.
Working with a trauma bond couples therapist can help you both develop positive coping tools rather than yelling.
Rather than drinking alcohol together and getting into a high conflict fight, you can meditate and repeat positive affirmations. Starting to pause for ten seconds before speaking or talking is a great tool for defusing high conflict fights. This prevents saying something hurtful you don’t mean.
How can trauma bond counseling help?
You can start to breakthrough negative beliefs that your narcissistic spouse has told you through counseling.
As well, you spouse can start to express emotions in more clear, calm ways. You don’t have to end the relationship or your marriage in order to change the negative dynamics. Instead, working with a couples therapist, who specializes in narcissistic abuse and trauma bonds, can help you be clear in what you need. At Wisdom Within Counseling, your spouse understand and learn about healthy examples of love.
Couples who work together can create sense of freedom and deeper connection rather than repeating childhood trauma patterns
Often times, when people are in a trauma bond, they refocus all of their energy on the romantic relationship.
As a result, this causes a lack of friendships, and a lack of self development. You might find yourself giving up certain hobbies and putting all of your time into the relationship. As well, you might find that your romantic relationship has elements of gaslighting and love bombing.
To begin, click below for your phone consult for trauma bond marriage therapy in Florida for healthy communication skills which create a calm, loving, and secure bond.
What is gaslighting in a trauma bond marriage?
Your partner might be denying that they have been drinking, when they have clearly then drinking alcohol. And, you smell the alcohol in their breath, and you ask them about it directly. However, they gaslight you by telling you that you are the one that is crazy when they have clearly been drinking alcohol. After you find them drinking alcohol, they become overly loving to compensate. They are giving you lots of attention, and even buying you different gifts to distract you. This is called love bombing.
Art therapies support mind-body connection and calm nervous system. Painting, clay, yoga, and meditation are skills we teach couples to learn to be calm. Instead of getting angrier and angrier, each person can take deep breaths and gain self-soothing tools. Also, options beyond just talking foster deeper emotional connection for couples recovering from complex trauma.
In trauma bond marriage therapy in Florida, couples can break these unhealthy patterns by gaining more positive skills.
Marriage therapy in Florida can help couples create more genuine connection, meaningful, love, and a healthier version of their marriage.
You can start to establish boundaries, and feel respected in your marriage. From working with a trauma bond a couples therapy specialist, you can feel loved consistently.
Healthy versions of love allow you to feel safe and secure within your marital commitment.
Getting communication skills to talk about what is deeply going on underneath our beautiful parts of therapy.
Are you a highly empathetic person?
Empathetic people are more susceptible to being in a trauma bond.
As well, in a trauma bond, it is very common for one person to be highly empathetic and forgiving, and the other person to be abusive. The empathetic person may become the victim of an abusive person, because they are so forgiving and loving.
To begin, click below for your phone consult for trauma bond marriage therapy in Florida for healthy communication skills which create a calm, loving, and secure bond.
If you identify as an empathetic person, you may be more susceptible to being in a relationship with a narcissist or an abusive person.
When you’re living with a narcissist or stuck in a trauma bond, you might feel afraid, you are walking on eggshells all the time. It doesn’t have to be this way though.
Couples therapy and individual counseling can help you identify if your spouse is a narcissist, and if they are willing to change their behaviors.
Trauma bond marriage counseling in Florida can help you identify and break the cycle of the trauma bond.
From marriage therapy for trauma bonding in Florida at Wisdom Within Counseling, you can start to relate to each other in healthier, more functional ways.
This way, you no longer have the lows, and the highs followed by more lows and highs. You can start to have a more stable relationship rather than being bonded through trauma and conflict.
You can start to be bonded through emotional validation, healthy, communication, and secure love. Instead of having anxious attachment, you can create a secure attachment with your partner and stop all unhealthy, communication styles.
If you’re stuck in a trauma bond, trauma bond marriage therapy in Florida can help you break, unhealthy and dysfunctional patterns.
We don’t get to learn communication skills or trauma coping tools in school when we are learning about science and math.
So, trauma bond marriage counseling in Florida is a safe place for partners to talk about childhood trauma. As well, couples can heal from the trauma bond cycle of dysfunction together.
To begin, click below for your phone consult for trauma bond couples counseling in Florida for healthy communication skills which create a calm, loving, and secure bond.
The team of trauma specialists at Wisdom Within Counseling would love to help you create a different type of relationship and marriage. You can gain skills to create one that is healthier than ever before.
What is more effective about holistic, mind-body therapies for breaking a trauma bonding?
Wisdom Within Counseling offers holistic, mind-body therapies for couples to gain self-soothing skills.
Art therapy, yoga therapy, drama therapy, and outdoor walking therapies support couples. Talking can only offer so much. And, talking can lead to conflict and arguments. Music therapy can offer a language beyond words for bettering communication. Yoga therapy can help couples connect through stretching and gentle breathing.
Where can you receive trauma bond marriage counseling in Florida?
We help couples and families in all of Florida and Connecticut. If you live in the following towns, we can help. Parkland, Melbourne, Sarasota, Palmetto Bay, Tampa, Saint Petersburg, Daytona Beach, Key Largo, Key West, Coral Gables, Southwest Ranches, Palm Bay, Miami, Marco Island, Cocoa Beach, Cape Canaveral, Pinecrest, Naples, Palm Beach, Orlando, Sebastian, Jacksonville, Fort Lauderdale, Pensacola, Florida.
Mind-body therapies help couples get unstuck from a high conflict fight cycle.
These holistic therapies re-train the nervous system and brain to feel safe.
As well, mindfulness meditation brings couples mentally into the present moment. From present moment thinking, couples can make grounded choices rather than fear-based choices. Healing trauma requires mind-body therapies for releasing big feelings. So, you can paint or do a meditation to feel inner peace. That way, you can bring you most authentic self to your marriage.
