What prevents an amazing orgasm in women and females?
Females may struggle to orgasm for a number of reasons. For one, females may have anorgasmia or challenges with orgasming due to anxiety, obsessive thoughts, or inner criticism. Body image issues, feeling unattractive, or having an overactive mind can prevent an orgasm. Women who believe they need to change or fix the shape fo their body may develop anorgasmia. A limitation to orgasming is not loving and accepting yourself just the way you are. Self-love and self-acceptance are precursors to a massive orgasm.
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Self-pleasure or mastrobation is key
Lack of self-pleasure or mastrobation can lead to anorgasmia. Anorgasmia is the inability to feel and reach an orgasm. When women get bogged down by childcare, parenting, laundry, household responsibilities, and their career, they lose touch with their body.
Orgasming is an important muscle that needs to be worked out just like any other muscle. So, the more a woman sets aside time for self-pleasure and mastrobation, the more she knows what she likes.
Self-pleasure and mastrobation allows females to bathe in self-love. Also, women get to become aware of the mental change needed for orgasming and practice present moment thinking. A women needs to have time each week to touch herself, her skin, feel the sensations, and practice being mindful of her own touch to know how to orgasm.
Self-pleasure and mastrobation can lead to more self-awareness in partner sexual activities.
Also, anorgasmia can develop in some women due to too much caffeine. Too much caffeine can lead to adrenal fatigue and prevent your body from making important sex hormones. Working too much, drinking too much caffeine, and running on air lead to anorgasmia. When you are drinking too much caffeine, you may struggle to feel sexually aroused. The body needs a relaxed and calm state of mind to overcome anorgasmia. Caffeine also leads to racing thoughts, anxiety, and a focus on doing rather the receiving. Women also develop anorgasmia due to low desire and low sexual arousal from overuse of caffeine and focusing on others too much.
Anorgasmia can develop from not having time for self-pleasure and mastrobation
Unfortunately, a female puts their needs, both emotional and sexual, last. Often, the only person in a female’s life who encourages her to touch herself sexually is her intimacy and sex specialist.
At Wisdom Within Counseling in Southeastern Connecticut, self-pleasure and mastrobation are steps to overcome anorgasmia. When a female takes part in self-pleasure and mastrobation, she is dedicating time to her own pleasure.
Self-pleasure and mastrobation are acts of mindful touching and self-acceptance. And, self-pleasure and mastrobation have a positive impact on sexual health, sex drive, and libido.
Where does self-pleasure fit in when overcoming anorgasmia?
From scheduling time for self-massage and self-pleasure, a female can prioritize her sexual needs and sexual pleasure first and foremost.
Just because life gets stressful doesn’t mean sexual needs should be put aside. Adding in teasing and edging to self-pleasure and mastrobation activities can lead to a positive, passionate orgasm. Plus, from self-pleasure and mastrobation, a woman can get to know the type of touch, pressure of touch, and feelings she likes.
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A lack of foreplay can lead to sexual dysfunction, anorgasmia, and challenges orgasming in females
If there is too little foreplay, anorgasmia can develop. Also, an orgasm can be blocked by drugs, alcohol, and medication use. Not having enough time to become aroused sexually is a problem many women face in partner sexual experiences. Many couples do not give the female in the relationship time to open up sexually. When foreplay is too short or non existent, a female may seem like they have anorgasmia. Issues orgasming develop due to not having long enough to feel aroused sexually. The female body takes about 45-90 minutes to become sexually aroused. There is a sensual, passionate, hot build up in the foreplay phase that builds up a female’s sense of sexual desire. A man’s body may take 3-12 minutes to become sexually aroused. On the other hand, a female’s body requires 45-90 minutes of foreplay, teasing, and edging to feel turned on. Sex and intimacy therapy can be a safe place to gain sexual health education you may not learn anywhere else in life.
Did you know that SSRI’s and anti-depressants can lead to anorgasmia, low sexual desire, and a low libido?
Taking SSRI’s and anti-depressants can lead to libido issues and a low sex drive, or none at all. SSRI’s and anti-depressions have side effects of low sexual desire and low sexual arousal. Working with a holistic sex and intimacy therapist at Wisdom Within Counseling can give you positive cooing tools for depression.
To note, if you are taking an SSRI or anti-depressant, you may have anorgasmia and problems orgasming. For women, SSRI’s and anti-depressants directly impact sexual arousal and anorgasmia. Talking with your doctor can help understand if alternatives to medication may be right for you.
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Lack of nutrition can lead to anorgasmia and issues orgasming. On that note, females who may be struggling with an eating disorder, fad diet, body image issues, or over exercising may struggle with anorgasmia and not be able to reach an orgasm.
Negative habits like fad dieting and over exercising can cause a woman to lose her sex drive. Also, a strong inner critic can lead to criticisms in the bedroom both internally and verbally with her partner. If a woman is skipping meals and critical of her own body, she may doubt she is worthy of love and touch.
Anxiety about body weight, body shape, and body image play a role in anorgasmia and orgasm dysfunction.
To add, the body and mind need nutrient rich foods as fuel to preform sexually. Restrictive diets can lead to anorgasmia and orgasming issues. Also, women who count calories may lose their sex drive due to restrictive behaviors with food. The body will make sex hormones last, so if basic needs of nutrition are not met, sexual health will not flourish. Any eating disorder, anorexia, bulimia, OCD, or anxiety can deeply impact positive sexual experiences for females.
Hormonal birth control can be topic in sex and intimacy therapy in Connecticut at Wisdom Within Counseling
Some women develop anorgasmia and problems orgasming due to hormonal birth control. Many women can easily learn to track their menstrual cycle if hormonal birth control is not right for them.
What Are Benefits for Orgasming For Women?
Did you know that orgasms and having a passionate sex life can lower stress and anxiety?
Orgasms can relieve stress and anxiety. Many women have stressful careers, parenting roles, and responsibilities in life. An orgasm is a passionate, loving, mindful experience just for you as a woman. You get to let go of mental responsibilities and feel how good and pleasurable touch really is. So, these stressors are even more reasons to practicing orgasming and self-pleasure regularly.
When a female orgasms, their brain releases oxytocin, dopamine, and serotonin, feel good chemicals. And, these chemicals are also released during exercise, yoga, running, petting a dog or cat, breast feeding, and even 60-second hugs. Why not boost your mood naturally with self-pleasurable activities? An orgasm by yourself or with a sexual partner, is a way to create a natural boost in these uplifting chemicals in your brain.
Orgasms can improve a female’s sleep
Also, orgasms in the evening can improve sleep. Due to the rush of chemicals in the brain, there is a sense of calm that comes after an orgasm. Some women find they have a more restful sleep after an orgasm. Orgasming before bed can also help women who have trouble falling asleep feel more sleepy and relaxed.
Did you know that a healthy sex life and orgasming regularly relieves pain for women?
Additionally, orgasming can be a pain reliever. The boost of oxytocin, dopamine, and serotonin, can relieve inflammation and pain. Orgasming during a menstrual cycle can reduce pain from cramping. A minimum of three orgasms per week for females have benefits of pain relief. From closeness and touch, you may feel free form body pain. The female’s clitoris has a multitude of nerve endings that provide pleasure and can kill pain.
Orgasming promotes a healthy immune system
From orgasming and sexual pleasure, you have a stronger immune system to fight off germs, colds, and pathogens. Orgasming can help your body be stronger because you are sexually satisfied, calmer and more relaxed.
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How To Orgasm with a Sexual Partner? Sex and Intimacy Therapy For Females
Some women struggle to orgasm with a sexual partner. Intimacy therapy for females at Wisdom Within Counseling can help bridge that gap.
Many times, women to take part in self-pleasure and mastrobation regularly know themselves very well. For these women who are proficient at self-pleasure and mastrobation, doing sexual activities with a partner can be a new hurdle.
For some women, orgasming during self-pleasure and mastrobation may be very easy. However, partner sexual activities can lead to anorgasmia. When in a partner sexual activity, everything can change.
What can cause challenges with orgasming for women when having a sexual experience with their partner?
A women’s sexual partner may not have the education necessary to provide adequate length in foreplay for a female to orgasm. Foreplay for 45-90 minutes is essential for a woman to fully enjoy a sexual experience.
Or, a female may feel anxiety about pleasuring and pleasuring her sexual partner, putting her own sexual needs on the back burner. As well, a woman with orgasming issues in partner sex may find anxiety surfaces in partner oriented sexual pleasure. Also, a female may have a history of sexual trauma when it comes to partner sexual activities. However, her sexual trauma experiences don’t resurface when she is alone in moments of self-pleasure or mastrobation. A women may care more about her partner’s sexual experience over her own pleasure.
Why don’t many women feel comfortable speaking up to ask for what they need during sex with a partner?
Commonly women a known to fake orgasms to please their partner. Females may make noises or move their body to fake an orgasm than speak up to have a better sexual experience. Women are not taught by pornography that sex should be pleasurable for them, but put their partner’s needs first.
Porn culture does a dis-service to women making them overly responsible for their sexual partner’s pleasure. Also, women are told by society, culture, and pornography to just act happy and pleasured when it is uncomfortable, rather than actually speaking up and being pleasured they way they want.
A female is told to put her own sexual pleasure and sexual needs to the side due to cultural expectations around sex.
Intimacy therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling in Connecticut can support women in feeling empowered to ask for what they want and need sexually.
Many women learn from society, culture, and lack of proper sexual education they should fake an orgasm.
There is not reality to pornography. Often, pornography often shows women being in service, degraded, and responsible for their partner’s sexual enjoyment. Pornography shows women giving to their partner during many sexual experiences rather than truly enjoying themselves in adequate foreplay experiences, getting teased, or receiving sexual pleasure. Faking an orgasm is a way to be non confrontational for women.
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Fear of communication in the bedroom with a partner can lead to problems with orgasming, and sexual issues in women
Instead of asking a sexual partner to change what they are doing, many women just fake an orgasm.
If a woman tries to tell her sexual partner to stop touching her in a certain way, her partner may become insecure or take it personally. Many times, women try giving their sexual partners feedback, but their partner doesn’t know how to integrate it. So, if a woman tries to tell their sexual partner what to do, their partner may not want feedback and feel she should just enjoy it.
Women tend to get told to take it from pornography expectations, rather than vocalize needs or changes in the sexual experience. The intimacy and sex specialists at Wisdom Within Counseling in Connecticut helps partners communicate what they need in an artful way.
Healthy communication around sexual activities has meany benefits.
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Develop confident communication around sex.
A female and her sexual partner can learn to talk about what went well and what needs to change to have a better sex life together. Rather than feeling rejected or not good enough, a female can have support in sharing with her partner what her sexual needs are. Instead of getting inaccurate information from pornography, sex and intimacy counseling at Wisdom Within supports a satisfying sex life. Also, a female and her partner can receive proper sexual education from intimacy therapy in East Lyme, Connecticut.
How many orgasms should a woman have per week?
Many sexual health and intimacy therapists speak to this important question in intimacy counseling sessions with females. Most studies suggest three orgasms per week for women is a healthy number. Any less than three per week and her body starts forgetting how to orgasm.
Essentially, to have a satisfying sex life wit yourself or a partner, you need to practice feeling those muscles and tissues. Touch on sensitive areas and sexual touch makes a female’s brain want more of that sexual pleasure again and again.
Think of the female orgasm as an exercise that needs to be maintained to work.
You have to eat food three times a day at a minimum. In that same way, orgasming three times a week keeps women in tune with their bodies and the mindfulness skills to orgasm. Just like working out, orgasming takes practice regularly for the muscle to stay alert and alive. Having less than three orgasms per week can lead a female to find sexual touch less and less interesting.
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She may begin to take part in other non-sexual hobbies and not prioritize her sexual expression as much. From not orgasming as frequently, a women may lose touch with her sexuality and her sexually playful side.
A woman who no longer can orgasm, but wants to feel it again, can benefit from working with our intimacy and sex specialists through couples therapy
On that note, intimacy therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling in Connecticut can inspire a female to get in touch with her sensual, playful, sexy side again. And, with more self-pleasure and sexual pleasure from waking up sensitive areas, a female may start develop a higher and higher sex drive.
What is mindfulness when it comes to orgasming?
When a female is learning to orgasm from working with an intimacy and sex specialist at Wisdom Within Counseling, mindfulness is key. Mindfulness directly relates to breathing and inner awareness.
An orgasm is not something you attain, but rather something you feel deeply into. Your sex and intimacy therapist will talk about mindful breathing. Essentially, in order to orgasm, a female needs to be in tune with her own breathing rhythm.
Breathing slowly is going to help a female learn to feel the touch mindfully on her skin, body, and sensitive areas to eventually orgasm.
Naturally, she may want to breath faster. But, taking slow, deep breaths will help her be mindful to feel and experience the massive pleasure of an orgasm. Notably, don’t hold your breath when trying to orgasm. So, one tip for overcoming anorgasmia is to notice your breathing. Each time your mind wants to wander to the future or past, keep focusing on your breathing.
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Working with a sex and intimacy specialist at Wisdom Within Counseling in Connecticut gives females and their partner mindfulness skills to use for creating a more satisfying sex life.
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Did you know that females are more likely to orgasm from a variety of sexual activities?
It might seem like males and females are two very different types of sexual beings. And, they are very unique in sexual needs! Men tend to orgasm from vaginal intercourse and penetration. Whereas, women are more likely to orgasm from clitoral stimulation, nipple stimulation, or oral sex. Some women need a combination of all three and more to feel so desired and wanted that they orgasm. An orgasm is not just physical, but also emotional and spiritual for females.
Many women do not find they can orgasm from vaginal intercourse and penetration.
It is essential that in partner experiences, a female’s sexual partner knows how essential clitoral stimulation is for sexual pleasure. Most women orgasm from clitoral stimulation of some kind, plus lots of foreplay and teasing. A key in an orgasm is feeling desired, wanted, and sexually valued. Sex toys like a vibrator may be useful for self-pleasure, mastrobation, and partner sexual play time.
On that note, our intimacy and sex specialists in Connecticut at Wisdom Within Counseling can help females and their partners incorporate diverse, playful, and do multiple sexual activities.
Touching erogenous zones can be a big part of lengthening foreplay for a healthier sex life. Having a variety of sexual activities that include teasing, edging, and foreplay, support female sexual pleasure and healing from sexual dysfunction.
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What is edging?
Edging is the practice of engaging in sexual stimulation, but stopping right before an orgasm. This creates pleasurable sensations for a woman, making her wait for more pleasure. Sexual pleasure needs to be somewhat of a game and tease. Also, edging can allow a female to more deeply enjoy the slow, drawn out process of being sexually pleasured. In self-pleasure, mastrobation, or partner sexual play, she gets to the point right before an orgasm, but touch stops before she can orgasm. This process continues until a massive, powerful, euphoric orgasm occurs. Edging and teasing in foreplay involves cycles of stimulation that lad women to have a more intense, amazing, pleasurable orgasm.
Women and their partners should never feel shame for needing professional help building and maintaining a suspenseful, regular, healing, passionate sex life.
Can females have different types of orgasms?
Yes, females can feel sexual pleasure, orgasm, and climax in a variety of ways. For instance, oral sex is one way females can climax and orgasm. Sometimes, a female’s partner feels insecure about giving oral sex. Her sexual partner may have anxiety due to lack of experience, or fears of not doing oral sex as well as her last sexual partner. Comparisons become a limitation to oral sex.
Other times, a female has limitations and blocks to receiving oral sex, even though it can be very sexually pleasurable. She may be afraid her vulva or vagina smells foul if a past sexual partner made fun of her for the smell of her body. There can be anxiety, body image issues, or fears that get in the way of oral sex. Also, a woman may wonder if her vulva or vagina looks, “normal.” So, intimacy therapy and marriage counseling in Connecticut at Wisdom Within Counseling can help a female’s partner build confidence around giving oral sex.
Learn about the importance of clitoral stimulation when working with the intimacy and sex specialists through couples therapy
Oral sex supports clitoral stimulation and a clitoral orgasm. There can be different types of clitoral orgasms such as through oral sex, touch, or vibrators.
Meeting with the intimacy and sex specialists in couples therapy in Connecticut at Wisdom Within Counseling teaches women how to have orgasms in different ways
Also, a female can orgasm from nipple stimulation. A nipple climax and nipple orgasm may feel different than a clitoral orgasm. Through gentle nipple stimulation at first, and working up to more and more touch, a female can have a nipple orgasm. Gently stimulating the nipples can activate pleasure centers in the brain. As well, when a person touches themselves or their partner touches them on the nipple area, the same part of the brain wakes up that comes alive from genital stimulation. Nipples contain hundreds of nerves, similar to a female’s clitoris. Likewise, the nipples are one of the many erogenous zones, making them sensual and sensitive. Not everyone enjoys a nipple orgasm. But, for those who do enjoy their nipples played with or touched gently, touching these nerves play an important role in arousal and the female orgasm.
Talking about anal sex when working with an intimacy therapist in East Lyme, Connecticut at Wisdom Within Counseling
Women can also climax, feel sexual pleasure, and orgasm through anal sex. Lubricant is essential for anal sex to be pleasurable for females and males. In the anus is another G-spot, which can be very pleasurable when stimulated.
Special oil and silicone lubricants are required for anal sex. Do not use water based lubricant for anal sex as it is not viscous enough. To note, there is no natural lubricant in the anus as there is with the vulva and vagina.
About anal sex with your intimacy and sex specialist in couples therapy
As pleasurable as anal sex can be, 45-90 minutes of foreplay is necessary to feel aroused sexually. No matter the type of penetration, vaginal or anal, foreplay prepares a female’s body and mind. Sanitary practices are essential when having anal play and anal sex.
Also, once the anus is penetrated, the penis or dildo should not go back into the vulva or vagina until fully washed with soap and water. Going from the anus to the vulva or vagina can lead to urinary tract infections (UTI’s). Remember, clitoral stimulation is often the easiest way for most women to orgasm. Some females orgasm from vaginal penetration and anal penetration, but it is more common for women to desire clitoral orgasms and orgasm from clitoral stimulation.
To note, a female’s clitoris has over 15,000 nerve endings just for her sexual health and pleasure.
Many women can benefit from meeting with the intimacy and sex specialists in Connecticut. At Wisdom Within Counseling, women and their spouses can learn about orgasming.
A female’s sexual partner can support her in reaching orgasm through clitoral stimulation. There are just so many nerve endings in the clitoris that support female sexual pleasure and orgasmic euphoria.
Relationship conflicts are important topics in intimacy therapy and marriage therapy in Connecticut
Lack of emotional intimacy and trust issues can contribute to anorgasmia and orgasming issues in women. As sensitive beings, a female’s body will respond to feeling unsafe in a relationship pretty quickly. If a female feels her sexual partner has been unfaithful, she may no longer be able to orgasm. She may no longer feel sexually safe or open due to trust issues, and fake an orgasm to please her partner. Therefore, any unresolved conflicts, trust issues, or betrayal lead to sex life issues.
Loss and conflict are great topics when working with the intimacy and sex specialists in couples therapy
Issues like IVF, depression, anger, infertility, miscarriage, having a child with special needs, alcoholism, drug use, divorce and blending families, loss of a parent, having an affair, or domestic violence all contribute to sex life problems.
Having a male partner with erectile dysfunction can lead to anorgasmic in a female partner as well. Working with an intimacy and sex specialist in East Lyme, Connecticut at Wisdom Within Counseling can help couples understand how to team up around these sex life issues.
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Have you never had an orgasm?
Some women seek out intimacy counseling in Connecticut because they have never had an orgasm.
If you want to have an orgasm, intimacy and sex counseling can be a great place to gain those important skills.
You may have new problems with orgasming due to other factors. The team at Wisdom Within Counseling in Southeastern Connecticut loves helping females and their sexual partners build an amazing sex life. Talk to a sex and intimacy therapist at Wisdom Within Counseling with concerns about your sex life and sex drive can be empowering. You can learn about sexual education, female sexual anatomy, your ability to have an orgasm, and how to use different sex toys.
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If you are a female suffering from anorgasmia, sexual dysfunction, sex issues, or marital problems, you’re not alone. Anorgasmia can lead to depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem. If you are a female and you want to have an amazing, pleasurable, massive orgasm, this is possible through sex and intimacy therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling. Women commonly experience delayed orgasm, absence of orgasms, fewer orgasms, and less-intense orgasms with anorgasmia.
In East lyme, Connecticut, sex and intimacy therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling helps females and couples who want a better sex life.
You get a safe place to talk about how past sexual trauma, rape, or emotional abuse impacts your ability to orgasm. As therapists, we know emotions and the body have a deep connection. Some females and coupes struggle with sex life problems due to lack of knowledge about sexual stimulation and the importance of clitoral stimulation. Some people have only received sexual education from pornography, which is not accurate education whatsoever.
Messages from pornography show women being in service to their partner. Pornography videos do not acknowledge the 45-90 minutes of foreplay a female’s body needs for orgasming to occur. Poor body image, sexual shame, sexual guilt and more can all be great emotions to talk about in in East lyme, Connecticut in sex and intimacy therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling.
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