Do you want to feel like yourself again sexually and have a better sex life with your partner? Is your relationship with your romantic partner not going smoothly, emotionally or sexually? Do you feel sexually rejected, sexually unwanted, or that you are your partner are stuck avoiding sex? As well, is your sex life is not satisfying or frequent enough? Struggling with religious trauma and shame and guilt around your sexuality from a strict, conservative, and religious upbringing? Wanting help learning to step away from parent or caregiver modes and into your sexual, playful, and erotic self? Feeling like your sex life is dull, painful, boring? Does your sex like need mystery, novelty, fun, more pleasure, and excitement? Sex focused couples counseling in Westfield, New Jersey with Katie Ziskind can support you.
Shame and guilt can lead to sexual challenges too.
Do you struggle with fears of inadequacy, failing sexually, or disappointing your partner sexually?
Are you wanting to express your sexual side and sexual self without shame or fears? In your marriage, do you feel very aligned cognitively and intellectually? But, sexually, do you feel like you are not compatible? In your marriage and relationship, has sexual incompatibility always been a background issue?
At times, feeling unwanted, alone in your sexual frustration, and rejected sexually can lead to conflict in your relationship.
Sexual rejection can lead to feelings of shame, guilt, disappointment, and even insecurity. When one person has a higher sex drive, they are often always be stuck in a position of initiating sex and touch. The other spouse tends to get stuck in a cycle of avoiding sex. A lower sex drive partner gets stuck withdrawing sexually. As well, a lower sex drive partner may begin criticizing their higher sex drive partner for wanting sex and touch. This can be incredibly painful for you both.
When your spouse rejects you sexually, you may become self-critical, insecure, and self-conscious.
You might wonder if your body smells bad and you may question if your spouse still finds you attractive. Furthermore, feelings of sexual rejection can be very lonely, leaving you craving connection. You might also feel sad and hurt when your spouse withdraws and pulls away from your touch when you are initiating connection. Emotional conversations around sex and intimacy support bonding.
Couples counseling with Katie Ziskind, intimacy focused marriage therapist, helps you when you desire a deeper sense of emotional expression. You both learn skills to foster emotional connection, closeness, to feel bonded, and on the same page. These emotional skills transfer to the sexual realm. Emotional intimacy means talking about your feelings around sex. In turn, this sex positive conversations supports relaxation and an increase in sexual desire.
Sex focused couples counseling in Westfield, New Jersey with Katie Ziskind helps you have safe, playful, and sex positive conversations.
Were you raised in a strict, conservative, religious upbringing?
Religious trauma plays a huge role in sexual expression and building a healthy sex life. Have you grown up in a strict, conservative, religious, evangelical, or purity culture?
Did your strict, conservative, religious upbringing and culture severely and negatively impact your sexual development? Katie Ziskind, licensed marriage therapist and certified sex therapy informed professional, in New Jersey, gives you a safe space to process shame-based and fear-based religious massaging.
You are not alone if you were raised in a purity culture. From a young age, you may have been taught that premarital sex would be sinful. As well, you learned that the act of sex should only be for the purpose of procreation and having children. From a young age, you learned that sex is dirty, taboo, and would make you impure if done before marriage. You may have been told that masturbation would make hair grow on your palms.
Commonly, in a Christian, strict, and purity culture, young girls are taught to remain pure until marriage.
To add, this means pushing away any sexual urges or sexual desires. As well, and a strict conservative and purity focused culture, body boundaries and consent are not topics talked about. Girls in do not learn about how to say no sexually.
And, girls don’t learn how to have a voice or what consent really means. In some strict, conservative, religious cultures, a girl holding hands or touching a boy, is devilish and sinful. Absence, fear of sexuality, and obedience are what taught to young girls. Being an adolescent, you soaked up these fear-based and shame-based beliefs around sexuality. Sex positive couples therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching helps you identify these beliefs that may be lingering.
As well, Katie Ziskind talks about how being raised in a strict, conservative, religious upbringing and culture can lead to self-disgust, shame, guilt, fear, and hesitation around sexual expression, even in a safe, trusted marriage. Sex focused couples counseling in Westfield, New Jersey with Katie Ziskind can help you unpack the religious trauma you have experienced.
Have you ever found yourself grappling with feelings of shame, guilt, or fear when it comes to sexual expression?
Perhaps you’ve experienced a sense of sexual shame, hesitation, or discomfort, even within the confines of your loving relationship. If so, you’re not alone. Many people who have grown up in strict, conservative, religious, evangelical, or purity cultures can relate to this struggle. To add, the impact of such upbringings on sexual development are lasting. Growing up with fear, guilt, and sexual shame often leads to religious trauma.
In the journey towards building a healthy sex life, it’s essential to acknowledge the role that religious trauma plays. This form of trauma is deeply rooted in the teachings and beliefs imparted by rigid religious structures. Being raised in a strict, conservative, and purity culture instills feelings of self-disgust, shame, guilt, and fear surrounding sexuality. Katie Ziskind, licensed marriage therapist and certified sex therapy informed professional in New Jersey gives you a safe place to gain sex positive perspectives.
These fear-based and shame-based religious messages become internalized from a young age, shaping your attitudes and behaviors towards sex well into married life.
Licensed marriage therapist and certified sex therapy informed professional, Katie Ziskind, offers a compassionate and understanding approach to navigating the effects of religious trauma on sexual expression.
Growing up in a strict, conservative religious environment can create a complex web of emotions surrounding sexuality.
From teachings on abstinence until marriage to the demonization of certain sexual acts or desires, when you are raised in a purity culture, you often find yourself grappling with conflicting feelings and beliefs about your own sexuality.
The pressure to adhere to strict moral codes can lead to a profound sense of shame and guilt for any perceived deviation from these norms. Sex focused couples counseling in Westfield, New Jersey with Katie Ziskind opens the conversation to heal from sexual shame, fear, guilt, and insecurity.
Licensed as a marriage therapist in New Jersey, Ziskind provides a safe space for couples to process the shame-based and fear-based messaging that is ingrained in them from a conservative, religious upbringing.
Moreover, the fear of judgment from religious communities and the looming threat of eternal damnation can further exacerbate these feelings of inadequacy and unworthiness. As a result, you may struggle to fully embrace your sexuality. And, religious trauma comes up blocking and limiting sexual desire and playfulness within the context of your loving and committed relationship.
Ziskind emphasizes the importance of unpacking and challenging these deeply ingrained beliefs in order to cultivate a healthier relationship with sex and sexuality. Through sex positive marriage therapy and intimacy couples counseling, you both can explore the root causes of your religious trauma.
In sex and intimacy focused couples counseling, you can begin to dismantle the shame-based narratives that have held you back from building and maintaining sexual desire and a healthy sex life.
Central to this healing process is the recognition that sexual expression is a natural and integral part of the human experience. Sexual desires are organic and healthy parts of who you are. You don’t have to exile these normal urges or push them away. By reclaiming agency over your body and desires, you can overcome the stifling effects of religious trauma. From couples counseling, you can confide in your spouse regarding the religious trauma you experienced growing up. As well, you can learn to embrace a more liberated, playful, empowered, and fulfilling approach to sex. Doing so supports creating and maintaining a healthy sex life in your marriage.
When you have grown up in strict, conservative, religious, evangelical, or purity culture, the journey towards building a healthy sex life can be fraught with challenges.
In general, the impact of religious trauma on sexual expression cannot be understated. Feeling safe to sexually express yourself is a key part in rebuilding sexual desire and creating a positive sex life.
However, by seeking support from professionals like Katie Ziskind, you can find the guidance and validation you need to heal from past experiences of religious trauma.
Shame, guilt, fear, and anxiety from a young age leaves wounds that couples counseling helps you process. From sex positive intimacy therapy in New Jersey with Katie Ziskind, you can embrace a more authentic and fulfilling relationship with your sexuality. Then, you can share, express, and explore your sexuality with your loving, safe partner.
Remember, you are not alone in this journey, and there is hope for healing and growth.
Sex focused couples counseling in Westfield, New Jersey with Katie Ziskind supports you and your partner in creating and maintaining sexual desire, satisfaction, playfulness, pleasure, and enjoyment.
Emotional disconnection and distance plays a role in sexual intimacy issues.
Are you having the same arguments and can’t seem to resolve conflict? Is there the silent treatment, defensiveness, resentment, and sexual avoidance? Does it feel like you lack emotional expression and emotional closeness in your marriage? Emotional intimacy is a foundation for sexual desire and sexual intimacy.
You get a safe place to build emotional intimacy in sex focused couples counseling in Westfield, New Jersey with Katie Ziskind. At Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching, you can learn to talk about what you need, rather than criticizing each other.
Expressing needs, wants, and desires can sadly come out as criticism, leading to a cycle of avoidance and withdrawal.
Have you ever found yourself trapped in a cycle of arguments with your partner, unable to find resolution?
Do you experience moments of silence, defensiveness, or resentment that seem to linger in the air, creating a barrier between you and your partner? Perhaps you’ve noticed a distinct lack of emotional expression and closeness in your marriage, leaving you feeling disconnected and unfulfilled.
If so, you’re not alone. Many couples grapple with these challenges, which impact sexual desire, sexual playfulness, and sexual intimacy. Sex focused couples counseling in Westfield, New Jersey with Katie Ziskind can teach you how to build a secure, emotionally strong foundation. There is an interweaving between emotional intimacy, security, safety, and sexual desire, flirtatiousness, and sexual passion.
Feeling off emotionally significantly impacts your sexual intimacy and overall relationship satisfaction.
One often overlooked factor that contributes to sexual intimacy issues is emotional disconnection and distance. Just as emotional intimacy serves as a foundation for a strong and fulfilling relationship, it also plays a crucial role in fostering sexual desire and intimacy.
When emotional needs go unmet or when there is a breakdown in communication and understanding, it creates barriers to sexual expression.
At Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching, sex focused couples counseling in Westfield, New Jersey with Katie Ziskind helps you reassure each other.
It is difficult to experience sexual fulfillment when you don’t feel secure on an emotional level. Reassurance is one of the main components to building trust. A healthy level of reassurance helps your partner know that they matter to you. As well, reassurance is an emotional skill that helps you feel like you are special and important to your partner.
On the other hand, when you feel ignored, cast aside, or unwanted, this creates a level of emotional insecurity in your marriage. In your marriage, healthy level of reassurance, safety, and comfort allows for a healthy foundation for sexual desire and playfulness.
Arguments are a common occurrence in any relationship, but when they become repetitive and unresolved, they can erode trust and intimacy over time. To add, the silent treatment, defensiveness, and resentment that often accompany these conflicts only serve to widen the emotional gap between you both.
Also, these make it difficult to reconnect on a deeper level.
Moreover, sexual avoidance may arise as a coping mechanism for dealing with unresolved emotional issues within your relationship.
When you and your partner feel emotionally disconnected or distant, you may struggle to find the desire or motivation to engage in sexual activity. To add, avoidance can lead to feelings of frustration, rejection, and further exacerbate the cycle of withdrawal. Essentially, sex focused couples counseling in Westfield, New Jersey with Katie Ziskind helps you break the cycle of conflict and sexual avoidance.
Recognizing the importance of emotional intimacy is the first step towards addressing sexual intimacy issues within your relationship. Building emotional closeness in your marriage involves fostering open and honest communication.
Intimacy and sex focused couples counseling in Westfield, New Jersey with Katie Ziskind gives you emotional and sexual skills.
Often, these are skills no one teaches us growing up. If anything, we see parents and caregivers talk down to us, give us the silent treatment, guilt trip us, and be cruel to each other. Commonly, you and your spouse are building a loving, meaningful emotionally expressive marriage in ways that you didn’t see your parents or caregivers portray.
At Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching, you can learn skills to begin actively listening to each other’s needs and concerns. As well, in intimacy and sex focused couples counseling in Westfield, New Jersey with Katie Ziskind, you can learn marital bonding tools for empathy and understanding.
Couples therapy and marriage counseling provides you with the tools and support to navigate challenges and rebuild emotional intimacy.
By creating a safe and non-judgmental space to explore your feelings and experiences, you and your spouse can learn to communicate more effectively. You learn ways to resolve conflicts constructively, and strengthen your connection on both emotional and sexual levels. At Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching in New Jersey, you can learn how to build closeness.
It’s important to remember that cultivating emotional intimacy is an ongoing process that requires commitment and effort from you both. By prioritizing emotional connection and closeness in your relationship, you can then improve your sex life. Emotional bonding and security will lay the groundwork for a more satisfying, pleasurable, playful, and fulfilling sex life.
In general, emotional intimacy is a fundamental aspect of a healthy and fulfilling relationship. Talking about feelings vulnerably plays a crucial role in fostering sexual desire, erotic expression, and physical intimacy. When emotional needs go unmet, this causes sex life issues. Or, when there is a breakdown in communication and understanding, it creates barriers to sexual expression and sexual fulfillment.
By prioritizing emotional connection and closeness in marriage counseling, couples can overcome these challenges. Through intimacy and sex focused couples counseling in Westfield, New Jersey with Katie Ziskind, you can create a more loving, intimate, and satisfying relationship. Remember, you have the power to nurture the emotional intimacy and learn these skills. Through emotional intimacy skills, you can build a stronger, more fulfilling sexual connection with your partner.
Intimacy and sex focused couples counseling in Westfield, New Jersey with Katie Ziskind helps you prioritize your sex life over parenting and caregiving
Has your romantic relationship, sex life, and intimacy fallen to the back burner? Stuck in roles of parenting all day and struggling to shift into sexual expression? Are you and your partner leaving sex until the very end of the day when you are exhausted and tired?
Do you feel you have focused time on your career and now want to explore letting go sexually and erotically? Needing help prioritizing sexual desire and building sexual excitement?
Intimacy and sex focused couples counseling in Westfield, New Jersey with Katie Ziskind can help you balance parenting, your career, and your sex life.
Becoming parents and building your career takes presence and energy. During sex and intimacy focused marriage counseling, you get to prioritize your sex life. And, focusing time and attention on your sexual selves means learning to help each other feel attractive and wanted. Katie Ziskind helps you both support each other in feeling desired, wanted, significant, and appreciated.
When your sex life isn’t going well, Katie Ziskind, licensed marriage therapist and certified sex therapy informed professional, in New Jersey, can help.
Have you ever felt like your romantic relationship, sex life, and intimacy have taken a backseat in the midst of life’s demands?
Katie Ziskind, sex and intimacy specialist at Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching helps you rekindle the love you once had, feel passion again, and create an authentic, satisfying sex life.
Are you and your partner stuck in the routine of parenting all day, finding it challenging to transition into a mode of sexual expression and connection?
Do you often find yourselves postponing intimacy until the end of the day, only to feel disinterested, exhausted, and drained by then? If so, you’re not alone. Many couples struggle to prioritize sexual desire and build excitement in their busy lives. And, this is especially true when juggling responsibilities like parenting and career aspirations.
The demands of modern life can often overshadow the need for sexual intimacy and connection within your romantic relationship. From the moment we wake up until we finally collapse into bed at night, your days are often consumed by work commitments, household chores, and the demands of raising a family.
In the midst of this chaos, it’s easy for sexual intimacy to fall by the wayside. And, a lack of sexual connection can leave you both feeling disconnected, distant, and unfulfilled.
Katie Ziskind, a seasoned couples therapist specializing in relationship and sexual issues, understands the challenges that couples face when trying to navigate intimacy in busy lives. With her guidance, couples can learn to prioritize their sexual desires. As well, you and your spouse can build excitement in your long term marriage and relationship, even amidst the chaos of everyday life.
One common challenge that couples face is finding the time and energy to prioritize sexual intimacy.
With the responsibilities of parenting and career obligations taking precedence, it’s easy for physical and sexual intimacy to become an afterthought. Sadly, sex is often relegated to the end of the day when exhaustion sets in. However, by intentionally carving out time for intimacy and making sexual connection a priority, you both can reignite the passion and desire in your relationship.
At Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching in New Jersey, Katie Ziskind emphasizes the importance of nurturing sexual desire and building excitement.
We don’t just shift from a career mindset to sexy mood instantly. Building sexual excitement is a process that takes time, often during foreplay. From sex and intimacy focused marriage counseling, you can create a safe and supportive environment where both of you feel desired, wanted, significant, and appreciated. Katie Ziskind encourages you and your spouse to strengthen your physical connection and deepen your sexual intimacy.
Moreover, Katie Ziskind, sex and intimacy specialist, helps couples explore new ways to explore sexual expression and eroticism. These allow them to break free from the constraints of routine and monotony.
Whether it’s trying new activities, exploring fantasies, or simply setting aside dedicated time for intimacy, Katie Ziskind provides couples with the tools and support they need to reignite the spark in their relationship.
In conclusion, prioritizing sexual desire and building excitement in a busy life can be a challenging but rewarding endeavor. With the guidance of a skilled intimacy therapist like Katie Ziskind, couples can learn to navigate the demands of modern life while nurturing their intimacy and connection.
By prioritizing your romantic relationship and creating space for intimacy, you and your spouse can rediscover passion and build a stronger, more fulfilling bond.
Intimacy and sex focused couples counseling in Westfield, New Jersey with Katie Ziskind can empower you both to prioritize sexual desire and build excitement in your relationship. No matter how busy life may seem, it is possible to rebuild sexual connection and erotic desire.
Katie Ziskind, licensed marriage therapist and certified sex therapy informed professional, in New Jersey, helps couples get comfortable talking about sex and intimacy.
From marriage therapy with a focus on sex and intimacy, you can build a confident sex life. In turn, you are also creating a lasting, loving bond, and learning how to connect with your partner in playful ways. Intimacy and sex focused couples counseling in Westfield, New Jersey with Katie Ziskind encourages you to try new sex toys, positions, lengthen foreplay, and be your authentic selves with each other.
Is there touch in your marriage, but it is only caring verses sexually arousing?
Couples get easily stuck feeling very comfortable with quick pecks and briefly hugging. But, touch never becomes sexual or erotic. You may be great friends and be mildly affectionate. But, you both have difficulty progressing touch to a flirtatious, passionate, sexy place. You feel safe hugging your spouse. But, letting your sexual self out and shifting into your sexual self is difficult.
Are you and your spouse feeling stuck in a pattern of comfortable, but routine physical affection in your marriage?
Katie Ziskind, licensed marriage therapist and certified sex therapy informed professional, in New Jersey, helps you in shifting from caring touch in your marriage to sexually arousing touch. Sexually arousing touch builds sexual desire, excitement, and physical arousal. Shame, guilt, and many other aspects can be limiting to getting in a sexy mood and building desire.
To add, touch is a powerful form of communication that transcends words and fosters intimacy between you and your partner. From gentle caresses to passionate embraces, the way you touch and are touched by can profoundly impact you.
Intimacy and sex focused couples counseling in Westfield, New Jersey with Katie Ziskind gives you a safe space to talk about the meaning behind touch.
As well, touch is a key element in sexual experiences and emotional connection. Katie Ziskind delves into the nuances of transitioning from nurturing, caring touch, which is often non-sexual touch to erotic, sensual, sexually arousing touch.
Do quick pecks and brief hugs characterize your interactions, leaving you yearning for a deeper, more passionate connection with your partner?
Transitioning from caring touch to sexually arousing touch can be a challenging journey for many couples. Intimacy and sex focused couples counseling in Westfield, New Jersey with Katie Ziskind can help you create greater intimacy and fulfillment in your relationship. To add, Katie Ziskind, a licensed marriage therapist and certified sex therapy informed professional based in New Jersey, offers guidance and support to couples seeking to reignite the spark of passion in their marriage.
It’s not uncommon for couples to fall into a routine of affectionate but platonic touch over time.
The demands of daily life, coupled with the familiarity of long-term relationships, can sometimes lead to a sense of complacency in physical intimacy. While gestures like quick pecks and brief hugs may convey love and affection, they lack the depth and intensity of sexual passion. Erotic, desire focused touch is different from caring touch. There is a special type of touch needed to foster a truly erotic connection between partners.
In intimacy and sex focused couples counseling in Westfield, New Jersey with Katie Ziskind, you can understand the importance of shifting from care and comfort, to sexual eroticism in physical intimacy.
Through her expertise in marriage therapy and sex focused couples therapy, Katie Ziskind helps couples explore new ways of connecting with each other on a deeper, more sensual level.
By creating a safe and supportive environment for couples to express their desires and fantasies, Katie Ziskind encourages New Jersey couples to break free from the constraints of routine and explore the full spectrum of erotic touch.
One common obstacle that couples face in transitioning to sexually arousing touch is a fear of vulnerability and rejection. It can be intimidating to express desires and fantasies to your partner, especially if you’re unsure of how they will be received.
However, Katie Ziskind provides you both with the tools and guidance you need to communicate openly and honestly with each other. Learning to communicate openly fosters a sense of trust and intimacy that is essential for a lasting erotic, sexual connection.
Moreover, Katie Ziskind helps you both explore techniques and strategies for enhancing sexual arousal and pleasure. From sensual massage to playful teasing and flirting, she empowers you to embrace your sexuality. You get encouragement to explore new avenues of sexual pleasure together.
By cultivating a sense of curiosity and adventure in your physical intimacy, you both can ignite safety, passion and sexual desire.
With the support of a skilled marriage therapist like Katie Ziskind, in New Jersey, couples can navigate this journey with confidence and discover the joy and fulfillment that comes from deepening their erotic connection.
In general, transitioning from caring touch to sexually arousing touch is a journey that requires patience, communication, and a willingness to explore new possibilities.
Essentially, you both have the power to transform your physical intimacy and reignite the spark of passion in your marriage.
As well, Katie Ziskind, licensed marriage therapist and certified sex therapy informed professional, in New Jersey, helps you enhance your sexual intimacy. Understanding any mental and emotional blockages and limitations to sexual arousal are key parts in rebuilding desire. Trauma of any kind can be one of those major blockages to authentic sexual expression.
Discuss trauma with Katie Ziskind, licensed marriage therapist and certified sex therapy informed professional, in New Jersey at Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching
Are you needing help getting over some difficult life experiences (grief, trauma, PTSD) related to your sex life? Maybe, you have experienced emotional neglect from a caregiver or parent. Or, you had a narcissistic parent or caregiver. You felt dismissed by an emotionally unstable parent growing up, making trust and sexual openness difficult in your adult life.
Have you experienced multiple abusive and manipulative relationships and have struggled to connect to your sexuality without shame and disgust? Do you feel nervous and self-conscious about your sexuality due to past sexual and emotional trauma?
Have you found yourself grappling with difficult life experiences that have left a lasting impact on your sex life? Perhaps you’ve experienced grief, trauma, or post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) that has deeply affected your ability to connect with your sexuality.
Maybe you grew up experiencing emotional neglect from a caregiver or parent, or you had to navigate the complexities of having a narcissistic or emotionally unstable parent. These experiences can leave deep emotional scars, making it challenging to trust others and embrace sexual openness in your adult life.
Licensed marriage therapist and certified sex therapy informed professional, Katie Ziskind, based in New Jersey, offers a compassionate and supportive space for couples who are struggling to overcome past trauma and reclaim your sexual wellness.
With her expertise in trauma-informed therapy and sex therapy, Katie Ziskind helps clients navigate the complex interplay between emotional wounds and sexual intimacy.
One common challenge that you both may face is the lingering impact of emotional neglect or abuse from childhood. Growing up in an environment where your emotional needs were dismissed or invalidated can lead to deep-seated feelings of insecurity and mistrust. As well, a lack of safety in childhood transfers to the realm of sexuality in married life. Moreover, having a narcissistic or emotionally unstable parent can further exacerbate trust issues, leaving you feeling unsupported and misunderstood.
Furthermore, experiencing emotional abusive or manipulative relationships in relationships with past sexual partners can compound these feelings of shame and disgust surrounding sexuality.
Sexual trauma, physical abuse, emotional trauma, and psychological trauma contribute to fear-based and anxiety-based reactions around touch.
Commonly, trauma makes certain types of touch feel unsafe. Having experienced trauma, self-protection mechanisms can make receiving and giving touch scary and induce anxiety. When wanting to withdraw, avoid touch, or pull away from a partner initiating, marriage counseling can support emotional safety.
Traumatic experiences can leave you feeling vulnerable and exposed. As well, trauma experiences make it difficult for you to connect with your sexuality in a healthy and fulfilling way. As a result, many people struggle with feelings of nervousness and self-consciousness when it comes to expressing sexual desires and needs. Due to past trauma experiences, it may not feel good to be sexually open, even with a safe, loving partner.
Intimacy and sex focused couples counseling in Westfield, New Jersey with Katie Ziskind can support you in healing from past trauma
Katie Ziskind recognizes the importance of addressing past trauma. Addressing past trauma is key in order to heal and reclaim your sexuality. Through trauma-informed therapy techniques, Katie Ziskind helps you process your painful experiences in a safe and supportive environment. Couples therapy allows you to work through feelings of shame, guilt, and self-doubt around sex.
Exploring the root causes of hesitation, avoidance, inadequacy, fear, and self-criticism can mean processing trauma. As well, healing from trauma means learning coping strategies for managing triggers. You and your spouse can begin to rebuild trust in yourselves and your ability to connect with each other sexually.
Moreover, Katie Ziskind provides you and your spouse with tools and techniques for cultivating a more positive and empowering relationship with your sexuality.
From mindfulness practices to communication skills, she empowers couples to explore their desires and boundaries in a way that feels safe and authentic.
By fostering a sense of self-compassion and acceptance, you can begin to embrace your sexuality with pleasure, safety, confidence, and joy.
In general, navigating past trauma and reclaiming sexual wellness is a journey that requires courage, patience, and support. With the guidance of a skilled therapist like Katie Ziskind, you and your spouse can work through emotional wounds and cultivate a more fulfilling and empowering relationship with your sexuality.
Learn skills in marriage therapy in Westfield, New Jersey to step away from sexual performance anxiety and refocus on pleasure and enjoyment
In order to shift into sexual desire, pleasure and enjoyment need to be prioritized. Many times, it can be hard to shift into a sexy mood because of performance anxiety rooted in unrealistic expectations from pornography. For instance, men feel they have to stay hard or have a hard penis in order to be good at sex.
In reality, hand, mouth, hot breath, and sex toy stimulation is more supportive for the female orgasm. So often, men or penis owners receive messages from pornography that a hard, erect penis is required to be a good lover. Men actually do not need a hard, erect penis to sexually satisfy a female partner, or vulva owner. In reality, many women or vulva owners do not orgasm from penis in vagina penetrative sex. Instead, many women and vulva owners orgasm from clitoral stimulation from hands, a sex toy, mouth, or fingers. Intimacy and sex focused couples counseling in Westfield, New Jersey with Katie Ziskind can support you in releasing and overcoming sexual performance anxiety. Overcoming sexual performance anxiety is a process of talking about pleasure, enjoyment, and letting go of having sex have to be a specific way, often portrayed by pornography.
In Westfield, New Jersey, intimacy and sex oriented marriage counseling with Katie Ziskind helps you focus on pleasure and release sexual performance anxiety.
Have you ever found yourself struggling with sexual performance anxiety, feeling overwhelmed by unrealistic expectations and pressures imposed by society, media, or pornography? Licensed marriage therapist and certified sex therapy informed professional, Katie Ziskind, based in New Jersey, offers guidance and support to couples seeking to understand and address the roots of sexual anxieties.
Through her expertise in sex positive couples therapy, Katie Ziskind helps couples identify and challenge the misconceptions surrounding sexuality. Doing so paves the way for healthier, pleasure-oriented, and more fulfilling sexual experiences in your marriage.
A common source of sexual performance anxiety lies in the unrealistic expectations perpetuated by pornography.
In mainstream pornography, there is often a focus on penetrative sex and achieving orgasm through vaginal intercourse alone. However, the reality is that many women, or vulva owners, do not orgasm from penetrative sex alone. Instead, clitoral stimulation is often necessary for achieving orgasm.
Yet, this important aspect of female pleasure is frequently overlooked or misrepresented in pornography.
Pornography videos don’t show an adequate length of foreplay, which is necessary for female sexual desire to increase.
Plus, pornography doesn’t provide sex positive education on the biological needs of 45 to 90 minutes of foreplay women, or vulva owners require in order for sexual desire to actually have time to increase.
Generally, pornography videos often fail to depict adequate foreplay, which is essential for increasing arousal and sexual desire, particularly for women. Research suggests that women, or vulva owners, typically require 45 to 90 minutes of foreplay in order to fully experience heightened sexual desire.
However, pornography typically glosses over this crucial aspect of sexual intimacy, leading to unrealistic expectations and misunderstandings about the sexual needs of women.
Katie Ziskind helps couples recognize the importance of sex-positive education and realistic expectations when it comes to fostering sexual pleasure.
By providing accurate information about sexual anatomy, arousal, and pleasure, she empowers couples to embrace their bodies and desires without shame or judgment. Through open and honest communication, Katie Ziskind helps couples explore diverse forms of sexual pleasure and sexual expression. This means that sex and intimacy become more about mutual pleasure and satisfaction rather than what you see in pornography. We take the focus off penetrative, penis in vagina sex, and shift to pleasure.
Sexual success means removing the focus of penetrative, penis in vagina sex, and refocusing on enjoyment and pleasurable touch
Moreover, Katie Ziskind assists couples in reframing their perceptions of sexual performance and success. Rather than focusing solely on achieving orgasm or conforming to societal norms, she encourages couples to prioritize connection, communication, and pleasure in their sexual encounters.
By shifting the focus away from performance and towards mutual enjoyment, couples can experience a greater sense of relaxation and ease in their sexual relationships.
In general, addressing sexual performance anxiety requires a compassionate and informed approach that challenges unrealistic expectations and fosters a deeper understanding of sexuality.
With the guidance of a skilled therapist like Katie Ziskind, couples can unravel the misconceptions surrounding sex. You and your spouse can embrace a more authentic, pleasurable, erotic, and fulfilling sexual experience. Taking the focus off penetrative, penis in vagina sex means being more relaxed and in the moment. Sex focused couples counseling in Westfield, New Jersey reminds you that you deserve pleasure. Sex does’t just have to be about your partner’s pleasure, or end a certain, specific way. Katie Ziskind, provides sex positive education on the female pleasure system.
In intimacy and sex focused couples counseling in Westfield, New Jersey, you both can approach sexuality with confidence, curiosity, and joy, free from the pressures of unrealistic expectations.
Essentially, there are cultural expectations around sex from pornography that lead to limitations and mental blockages when understanding sexual arousal and desire.
Katie Ziskind, licensed marriage therapist and certified sex therapy informed professional, in New Jersey, also helps couples discuss:
- The importance of establishing trust, safety, and consent as foundations for intimate touch.
- Prioritizing enjoyment and pleasure during intimate moments.
- Increasing communication when initiating sexual touch with your partner.
- The role of mindfulness, presence, and vulnerability in deepening your connection through touch.
- Ways to incorporate eroticism and playfulness into your intimate interactions while maintaining emotional connection.
Whether you’re seeking to reignite the spark in a long-term relationship or exploring new avenues of intimacy with a partner, Katie Ziskind offers valuable insights and actionable advice.
You can listen to her podcast “All Things Loves and Intimacy,” and take part in couples therapy sessions. Intimacy and sex focused couples counseling in Westfield, New Jersey guides you both towards greater physical, sexual, and emotional fulfillment.
Tune in to the “All Things Love and Intimacy” podcast with Katie Ziskind on Spotify and Apple Podcasts.
On a more personal level, couples counseling helps you discover skills for emotional intimacy, deeper love, connection, and sexual desire. You get a safe place to let go of religious shame, guilt, and fear-based massaging. From there, you can fully enjoy your body’s sexual arousal signals and experience mind-blowing sexual pleasure. Marriage counseling with Katie Ziskind in Westfield, New Jersey helps you both understand the transformative power of intimate touch in your marriage and relationship.
When we look a loss of sexual desire, sexual disinterest, and sexual avoidance, grief and loss are major contributors to blockages and limitations around getting in a sexy mood.
Loss and grief can significantly impact sexual connection in your marriage.
Here are a few examples:
Loss of a Child:
The loss of a child can be one of the most devastating experiences for a couple. It can lead to deep grief, depression, and a sense of emptiness. In such cases, both partners may struggle to find solace in each other, and the emotional toll can make it difficult to engage in intimacy.
Infertility:
The inability to conceive or carry a child to term can bring about feelings of loss and grief. Couples may experience frustration, sadness, and a sense of inadequacy, which can strain their sexual relationship. The pressure to perform sexually while dealing with the emotional burden of infertility can create tension and distance between partners.
Death of a Loved One:
The death of a close family member or friend can trigger grief that affects a couple’s sexual connection. One or both partners may be preoccupied with their loss, making it challenging to engage in intimacy or feel emotionally present during sexual encounters.
Chronic Illness or Disability:
A chronic illness or disability can alter a couple’s sexual dynamic significantly. The person experiencing the illness or disability may feel physical discomfort or limitations, while their partner may grapple with feelings of helplessness or guilt. This can lead to a decrease in sexual activity and intimacy as both partners navigate the changes in their relationship.
Job Loss or Financial Strain:
Loss of employment or financial instability can create stress and anxiety within a marriage. Concerns about providing for the family and maintaining a certain lifestyle can overshadow sexual intimacy, as both partners may be preoccupied with practical matters and worry about the future.
Divorce or Separation:
The end of a marriage, whether through divorce or separation, can bring about profound feelings of loss and grief. Even if the decision is mutual, both partners may mourn the end of their relationship and the dreams they had together. This emotional turmoil can make it challenging to engage in sexual activity or feel emotionally connected to a new partner.
In each of these examples, the experience of loss and grief can create barriers to sexual connection in a marriage. It’s essential for couples to communicate openly, seek support from one another, and consider professional help if needed to navigate these challenges and rebuild their intimacy.
Healing as a couple after experiencing grief and loss can be a challenging journey, but there are specific ways to support each other and rebuild your sexual connection:
Open Communication:
Create a safe space for honest and open communication about your feelings, including grief, sadness, and desires. Listen to each other without judgment and express your needs and concerns regarding your sexual relationship.
Seek Professional Help:
Consider couples therapy or marriage counseling with a therapist, such as Katie Ziskind, experienced in dealing with grief and intimacy issues. A trained professional at Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching can provide guidance, facilitate communication, and offer strategies to navigate grief and rebuild your sexual connection.
Physical Touch and Affection:
Physical touch can be comforting and healing, even if it doesn’t lead to sexual activity right away. Spend time cuddling, holding hands, or giving each other massages to nurture intimacy and connection.
Take Things Slow:
Be patient with yourselves and each other as you navigate the healing process. It’s okay to take things slow and not rush into sexual intimacy before you both feel ready. Focus on rebuilding emotional intimacy first, and the sexual connection will follow naturally.
Explore Sensuality:
Engage in activities that promote sensuality and pleasure without the pressure of sexual performance. This could include sensual massages, taking baths together, or simply spending quality time cuddling and enjoying each other’s company.
Create Rituals of Connection:
Establish rituals or routines that promote connection and intimacy in your relationship. This could be setting aside time for regular date nights, sharing meaningful experiences together, or engaging in activities that you both enjoy and find fulfilling.
Honor Your Differences:
Recognize that you and your partner may grieve differently and have different needs when it comes to intimacy. Respect each other’s boundaries and preferences while finding common ground to support each other’s healing.
Focus on Self-Care:
Take care of yourselves individually by prioritizing self-care practices such as exercise, meditation, spending time with supportive friends and family, and engaging in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment.
Celebrate Milestones:
Acknowledge and celebrate milestones in your healing journey as a couple, whether it’s a significant anniversary, reaching a milestone in therapy, or simply experiencing moments of joy and connection together.
Stay Connected Outside the Bedroom:
Strengthen your emotional bond and connection outside the bedroom by engaging in meaningful conversations, sharing your hopes and dreams, and supporting each other through life’s ups and downs.
By actively supporting each other’s healing journey, fostering open communication, and prioritizing emotional intimacy, couples can gradually rebuild their sexual connection after experiencing grief and loss.
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