First, do you want more touch in your relationship? Is you love language touch?
First, various sensate focus couples counseling exercises are sexually therapeutic. Sensate touch in couples therapy in New Canaan, Connecticut allows for a sense of playfulness. Sometimes, couples lose touch with each other. As well, sensate focus in helpful for couples to learn about each other in a fun, sensual way. In addition, sensate touch allows you to feel in the present moment. Sensate touch in marriage therapy in New Canaan, Connecticut helps couples get to know each other better sexually. For one, this might mean pressure of touch or areas of touch.
As well, sensate focus exercises require partners to experience a deeper sense of sexuality.
Often, sensate touch exercise are slow, to help partners move more slowly. Manytimes, sensate focus will be on just one part of the body. And, working with a sex therapist improve sensuality and helps partners see their sexuality with fresh eyes. So, sensate touch in couples therapy in New Canaan, Connecticut gain new insights for creating intimacy together. Plus, partners can begin in identifying their sexual accelerators as well as intimacy blocks and sexual brakes. Sometimes, people can have fears and nervousness around sex or sexual performance. Lastly, going to a sex therapist and doing sensate requires an open mind, patience, and encouragement from both of you.
To begin, use the button below to book a phone consult for sensate touch in couples therapy in New Canaan, Connecticut.
What a reasons couples start in sex therapy?
Sexual anxiety can be a reason to start learning about sensate touch. Often, new couples may need help getting to the next place in their relationship. As well, new steps in a relationship can bring sexual inhibitions to the surface. Some times, premarital couples find sensate touch to be great preparation for their honeymoon. Without sensate touch, couples may experience a rude awakening. Essentially, sensate touch can teach skills for positive and pleasurable sexual experiences.
Often, sex therapists in New Canaan, Connecticut will provide sexual home work assignments.
Just like you learn math and do math homework, the same is true for sex. Manytimes, couples who take part in homework improve their sex life faster. So, expect your sex therapist to prescribe sensate focus and sensate touch exercises. And, schedule these exercise into your day, just like you would goto the gym. As well, sensate touch is very much about not having sex. Yes, it is a practice of going slow and truly building emotional safety. And, when working with a sex therapist in New Canaan, Connecticut, you can talk about how the homework went. Maybe, it was harder than you thought or came easily. Your sex therapist can support healthy touch skills. As well, when you find a sex therapy homework technique that works well, you can use it again.
And, working with a sex therapist and learning sensate touch is a great tool to put a playful spark back in your marriage.
How can I start today to improve my sex life?
Often, couples can start improving their sex life by changing their sheets. Maybe, you want to purchase soft sheets or special silk bedding. Sometimes, the texture of bedding can bring out a more sexual energy. As well, you can set up soft music to play in your bedroom. This way, when you go to do you sensate touch homework from your sex therapist, you can use music. Often, music helps to set the scene for relaxation. For one, try putting on light piano, or something you would find in a low lit, holistic massage office.
Setting up your bedroom for sensate touch
As well, set up lit or battery candles to provide a comfortable, sexual, calming, inviting and relaxing sexual environment. Often, you may not realize the impact of a messy bedroom. Furthermore, children’s toys that are visible can lead to challenges relaxing. As well, if you have photos of family members in your bedroom, put them face down. This can help you feel more private in your sensate touch experience. Look at your room for any stressors. Maybe, you feel safer closing the window. Other times, you want the fresh air and breeze coming in for relaxation. To add, many couples have dirty laundry visible which can lead to feelings of responsibility. And, thinking about responsibilities may be a block to sex for many.
In New Canaan, CT sex therapy, you can learn sensate touch to improve the closeness and desire in your relationship.
What is one sensate touch technique I can try today?
First, it is important to say that sensate touch homework always has a time of reflection. And, this verbal reflection is powerful when a professional sex therapist supports it. Now, during sensate touch exercises each spouse will take turns being in the the “giver“ or the “receiver” role. Often, couples are stuck in a position where one person gives more than the other. And, one person takes and takes, and they get stuck in that cycle. Then, in sensate touch, the giver will touch their spouse for a specific time. For instance, plan to do back rubs for each other.
To start, give a ten minute back rub and then switch. Remember, to set up your bedroom for calming energy.
To add, it is important to always start with the lower-desire partner being the receiver position. As well, focus on being in the present moment. Often, with trauma and PTSD, giving and receiving touch can bring up many intense emotions. You can share if you feel an emotion, but try to focus on the present moment touch. As well, it can feel new or unfamiliar to give or receive in this way. And, to avoid mental distractions and keep the focus on present moment bodily sensations and pleasure. Lastly, both give and receiver can focus on breathing.
What is sensate touch and how do you not have sex?
To note, many couples rush to have sex. And, our couple also puts pressure on partners, so there is sexual anxiety. Often, couples feel a pressure to preform. For instance, sensate touch may include touch not leading to or about sex. So, there is touching, stroking, or kissing anywhere on the body, but not the breasts and genitals. Sometimes, couples will start by touching the face, ears, neck, hair, and cheeks of their spouse. As well, couples may take extra time to explore and touch areas of their spouse’s body they would not normally touch. As well, couples doing sensate touch can also explore different types of touch. For instance, this may include rubbing, squeezing, or tickling. To note, the goal of sensate touch is to experience the sensation of touching, but not sex.
