Are you finding that you get into the same pattern or the same fight over and over? You just feel like you’re not making any progress together when you do talk? If you’re frustrated, fighting, irritable, or hopeless after conflict, couples therapy can really benefit you. Do you want a couples therapist who can help you feel understood, and also help translate what you might be saying so your partner can hear it? And, do you and your spouse need help reducing anger and the intensity of fights, and gaining some communication tools? The team at Wisdom Within Counseling can help you talk about rebuilding trust after an affair, finances, addictions, relationships with in laws, childhood trauma, conflict resolution, and having another child. At Wisdom Within Counseling, New London couples therapy can help you gain happiness and satisfaction together.
What issues or problems cause couples to seek New London couples therapy?
Wanting to grow your family is a good reason to start in marriage counseling
Other couples come to therapy as they are dealing with infertility, miscarriage or talking about pregnancy. Going through a miscarriage can be a challenging, heartbreaking loss. You may want the privacy of your therapist’s office to talk about having a baby or getting pregnant again. If a female had a past traumatic birth experience, getting pregnant again can feel scary or daunting. Talking about having a new baby can bring up anger, excitement, jealousy, loss, anxiety, and joy. Adding to your family can bring up conflict as well. The team at Wisdom Within Counseling can help you talk about growing your family and having another child.
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Emotional or verbal abuse can be stopped in marriage counseling
Couples who struggle with emotional or verbal abuse can benefit from counseling at Wisdom Within. Yes, couples therapy can fix a toxic relationship pattern of interacting and negative communication. A good couples therapist, such as one at Wisdom Within Counseling, knows that human relationships are difficult. Your couples counselor will help you communicate in the best way possible and help you both apologize for things you regret.
What are examples of emotional or verbal abuse?
When your partner is emotionally or verbally abusive, they hurt your feelings without caring. You or your partner might be saying something something derogatory or degrading. There may be hurtful name calling behaviors. Your partner may belittle or criticize your character. Couples counseling in New London, Connecticut can help couples identify a harsh tone of voice. From there, couples can use a gentle, soft tone of voice. Therefore, just like you’d work on your house with tools, couples therapy teaches you skills. In the same way, you need a hammer to hang a picture on the wall, couples counseling provides couples with a relationship tool kit of skills.
If you’re fighting or yelling, you need conflict resolution skills.
Talking calmly has become really challenging in your marriage. You feel like your partner is shutting you out when you talk. And, you and your intimate partner tend to emotionally shut down. You feel really hopeless after a fight. And, you might even have some resentment due to not feeling appreciated. When you give one another the silent treatment, you are two ships passing in the night, like strangers to each other. Working with a couples therapist in New London, Connecticut helps couples identify a toxic relationship pattern.
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Couples can learn to stop negative communication and gain positive communication skills for a happier marriage.
New London couples therapy can help you close that distance, and rebuild meaningful connection. Overall, couples in distress can build a coping toolbox to build honesty, trust, and playfulness. From better communication, couples can increase desire and of course, physical intimacy. A lot of times, couples don’t learn how to build healthy relationships in school or growing up. We learn about math and science, but we don’t really learn about how to have an intimate relationship. In no other environment but couples counseling can couples learn how to be emotionally vulnerable. Overcoming anger means sharing deep fears and worries. New London couples therapy helps couples even how to talk about their deepest worries and fears.
If you feel stuck in a conflict, your therapist can kind of look at what’s going on under the anger.
Your New London couples therapist can help analyze the deeper feelings underneath anger. With healthy communication skills, your partner can hear you. Your marriage therapist will ask, “What’s underneath that? Is it hurt? Maybe, is it sadness? Is it loneliness? Or, is it a fear of abandonment?” From there, your relationship therapist will translate and teach you both healthy communication tools.
Family dynamics can be great topics to talk about in New London couples therapy
Marriage therapy in Southeastern Connecticut helps couples talk about challenging relationships with in-law’s and parents. Your sibling may have decided to cut off your parents and there is family conflict. Or, your sibling tends to get all the attention from your family, still to this day. Family dynamics can be stressful and challenge your marriage. Perhaps, your mother-in-law seems to push some boundaries. Or, you want to express to your spouse how you want to feel supported around their family. Talking about rituals, such as where to spend the holidays can be a great topic for marriage counseling. You may want to discuss a plan for which family to see when in New London couples therapy sessions.
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Parents with health issues challenge your marriage
Couples therapy can be a safe place to talk about your parents who may have mental or physical health issues. One of your parents may have a new diagnosis like dementia, cancer, neuropathy, or Alzheimer’s. It may feel difficult to deal with your parent who is undergoing a physical decline. Maybe, you also have to take on some of their responsibilities like handling their finances now. Watching your parents age and not take care of themselves can cause marital stress and dampen the mood. Losing a parent can be devastating. Grief, loss, and trauma are parts of New London, Connecticut couples therapy.
Wedding planning and getting married are great topics for starting in New London couples therapy
You might also have some good things coming up like your wedding day. Through it is exciting, it can be stressful too. Planning a party together can challenge communication. For you, getting married could be really exciting. However, if your spouse to be was in a relationship before that didn’t end well, that fear and anxiety can resurface. Your partner may want to talk about anxiety or fear about remarrying. You or your partner may have some fears about a new commitment and need reassurance. The team of therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling help couples prepare for married life. You can start having emotionally intimate conversations, build meaningful connection, and create a foundation for the marriage that you desire.
Affairs, infidelity, cheating and betrayals are good reasons to start in New London couples therapy
Finding out your spouse is cheating is heartbreaking and life shattering. As well, we help couples who have struggle with infidelity, affairs, secret keeping or lying. So, any type of emotional cheating or physical cheating creates betrayal and trust wounds. That trauma of lying and cheating can come up for years into the future. As New London couples therapists, we incorporate Gottman couples therapy to help couples recovery after cheating, lying, and secret keeping. Often, skills for honesty go alongside emotional communication. At Wisdom Within Counseling, we specialize in helping couples understand how to heal from betrayal, trust issues, and the trauma of an affair together.
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At Wisdom Within Counseling, we help couples reconnect who have lost touch with one another.
When couples stop spending quality time together, whether it’s due to parenting, having a new baby, they fall out of sync. You no longer feel on the same page as a couple. The responsibilities of parenting in general is just weighing you down and causing heaviness. Just like you have to tune a guitar before playing, couples need professional counseling to get in tune. Even if something really exciting like having a new baby is taking a toll, New London couples therapy can help support reconnection. Even work schedules and having different work shifts can cause couples to fall out of tune. For instance, if one of you works during the day and the other works during the night, that creates a challenge around important quality time together.
Porn addiction and addition cause a need for New London couples therapy
This might be the first time in your life where you realize your spouse has an addiction. Couples struggle with addictions likes like drug addiction, alcoholism/alcohol addiction, porn addiction, and workaholism. To note, any of these kinds of addictive behaviors are often a sign that something deeper emotionally is going on. Loving a spouse as they struggle with addictive behaviors can be challenging. When couples struggle with addiction or alcoholism, they have an unmet need. As well, childhood trauma memories whether it’s physical, emotional or sexual may be resurfacing. With addictive behaviors, a person is trying to push away shame, guilt, and other emotional pain. As New London couples therapists, we look at healing the trauma that occurred.
Couples therapy helps couples heal from childhood trauma
And any unresolved trauma in childhood can really cause major marital and adulthood problem. Now, if trauma is unresolved, it will cause problems when it comes to being honest in your marriage. At Wisdom Within Counseling, in Southeastern Connecticut, you get a trauma-informed approach. Couples can build compassion for one another and build compassion for themselves.
Bring back emotional intimacy through marriage counseling in Waterford, Connecticut
Has your sex life fallen off? Do you wish you could have passionate, meaningful sexual experiences as a couple again? Well, marriage therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling in Waterford, Connecticut can help. Struggles with sex, orgasming, sexual pleasure, low sexual desire, and intimacy are great reasons to work with a marriage therapist. Your couples therapist can help you have sexual conversations. You might want to use a new lubricant, new sex toy, or talk about where you want to be touched. As well, your therapist can provide education on male and female anatomy for understanding what areas feel the most pleasure. For instance, many couples need help finding the female’s clitoris.
Talking about sexuality, sexual pleasure, and sexual desire are all parts of marriage counseling
Many women find it easier to orgasm from clitoral stimulation rather than vaginal intercourse. As well, couples may want to talk about cultural and religious shame that can go along with sexual expression and sexual pleasure. You or your spouse may have grown up in a strict, religious shame where you received messages that sex was bad or taboo. Maybe, sex was only to be for making babies. So, learning to feel into your body, enjoy your own sexuality, and embrace sexual pleasure can be part of couples counseling. Couples therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling helps you build and create a pleasurable, passionate, healthy, intimate, sex life.
To begin, book your free phone consultation to work with our team at Wisdom Within Counseling to reconnect and rekindle desire.
LGBTQIA+ couples therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling
If you’re in a same-sex couple unit, Wisdom Within Counseling in Southeastern Connecticut would love to help you. The team at Wisdom Within Counseling support transgender individuals. Sometimes, there’s some unique struggles that same-sex and LGBTQIA+ couples face. For instance, LGBTQIA+, same sex, and queer couples may face rejection from family. There may be trauma memories and shame in the coming out process. As well, and there may be more fears of abandonment coming up due to childhood trauma. New London couples therapy is LGBTQIA+, transgender, poly, consensual non monogamy, queer, bigender, bisexual, asexual, pansexual affirming, supportive, and LGBTQIA+ educated.
New London couples therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling can actually be the time set aside each week to connect.
Having a time for marriage counseling weekly can help you chip away at your issues. You get to have a playful guide, you New London couples therapist. At Wisdom Within Counseling, we are a team of holistic marriage and family therapists. We can help you on video or in person.
As you can see, a variety of stressful topics can cause couples to seek out the help of a marriage professional.
In addition to emotional abuse, negative communication, having a new baby, parents with health issues, family dynamics, wedding planning, trauma, affairs, and infidelity, there are many more stressors.
Each couple faces unique cultural, religious, gender, race, ethnicity, and family stressors. The team at Wisdom Within Counseling can help you deal with stress as a couple in a healthy way.
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Why start in New London, Connecticut couples therapy now?
A lot of times, when couples get together it’s really fun and easy. But, then stressors like buying a house, losing a parent, a death of a loved one, losing a grandparent, moving, or changing careers adds up. These big major life transitions can really create conflict. Couples also face challenges with parents, in-laws, siblings and with parenting. So, Waterford, Connecticut couples therapy can help you gain a toolbox of skills. you can rebuild your love and create a long lasting connection in marriage counseling at Wisdom Within.
A lot of times when we grow up, we don’t really learn how to be in a healthy romantic relationship.
In childhood, many do not learn how to communicate in a calm way when feeling angry. And, anger is often the easiest emotion to show. Yelling and name calling many have been normal in your young years or normal to your spouse. Couples also need counseling to know how to say what they want to say. Being critical can be hurtful in your marriage. It’s a lot easier to yell or say something hurtful or mean, than it is to be emotionally vulnerable. Marriage therapy is about learning healthy ways to share big, intense things. New London couples therapy helps partners care for one another in a safe, emotional space.
What will New London couples therapy be like?
In New London, Connecticut, marriage counseling and relationship therapy is all about helping you be vulnerable. At the same time, couples in distress get professional help creating emotional safety and security. Often, couples counseling is a process of learning skills for emotional intimacy. Couples counseling in Southeastern Connecticut can help you have emotionally intimate conversations.
Why do couples get stuck in cycles of fighting?
A lot of times, things that a person didn’t get in childhood, they want more from their significant other. For instance, if you didn’t have someone say, “I love you,” as a child, you may crave this from your intimate partner. If you didn’t have a parent nurture you or comfort you, you may deeply want your romantic partner to comfort you. As well, if your caregiver in childhood yelled at you a lot, you may be more sensitive to yelling in your adult years. Any loud noise makes you wonder if you did something to make them mad. Childhood trauma experiences can come up in our romantic relationships. The team of therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling help couples understand one another’s childhood wounds for a healthier marriage.
In New London, Connecticut, marriage counseling can help you build better communication and a sense of emotional closeness.
Yes, emotional closeness brings couples together physically. Emotional connection leads to physical intimacy. New London couples therapy is your playful space to reconnect in a healthy, loving, joyful manner.
To begin, at Wisdom Within Counseling, book your free phone consult for breaking the cycle of a trauma bond in couples therapy.
What is a sign that your relationship is in crisis and you need New London couples therapy?
It might feel like your partner’s words kicked you in the stomach when you need healthy communication skills. There might be certain topics that cause challenges in communication. Do you live in a state of turmoil and tension in your relationship? New London couples therapy helps couples step into a positive, meaningful and connected state. Marriage therapy helps couples in distress create a sense of togetherness.
What is unique, holistic, and different about the team at Wisdom Within Counseling in New London, Connecticut?
We offer outdoor walking sessions to build anxiety coping mechanisms for couples. As well, you get to pick from art therapies, yoga therapies, music therapies, and DBT therapies. Holistic, mind-body therapies support couples in getting in sync together again after trauma and loss. Couples can express creatively beyond words. Words and talking only offer so much. So, art therapies, creative therapies, yoga therapies, and walking in nature support slowing down and self-regulation.
Art, yoga, music, outdoor nature therapies for couples in counseling
At Wisdom Within Counseling, our team of therapists are also Gottman trained couples therapists. So, we specialize with couples who need help healing after an affair, infidelity or some type of secret keeping.
If there has been emotional distance due to like lying, mind-body, holistic therapies can promote self-connection.
Online and in person in Niantic, we help couples in neighboring towns. We help couples in Bozrah, Waterford, Old Lyme, Ivoryton, Centerbrook, Essex, East Lyme, Franklin, Griswold, Groton, Ledyard, Lisbon, Montville, Glastonbury, Colchester, East Haddam, Hadlyme, Hamburg, Old Saybrook, and Madison. In farther away towns, we offer video counseling in Connecticut to Portland, Berlin, East Hampton, Haddam, Litchfield, Simsbury, Fairfield, Cobalt, Cromwell, Rocky Hill, West Hartford, Clinton, Wethersfield, Middlebury, Waterbury, Guilford, Chester, Deep River, Moodus, Durham, and Middletown.
Holistic couples therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling can help you improve your relationship.
As well, couples can build happiness through holistic health together. From couples counseling, you can feel stronger in your communication and you can feel more interconnected. For many couples, stress, conflict, betrayal, secret keeping, addictions, and anger get in the way of building a meaningful connection.
