Do you feel distant in your marriage due to bad memories of a past relationship? Is it hard to trust your romantic partner due to past childhood trauma? Does it feel like kissing and touch trigger past sexual trauma? Are you thinking about starting couples therapy to better your connection after childhood sexual abuse and trauma? Were your parents alcoholics and abusive? Do certain issues cause conflicts, emotional frustration, and you want professional marriage support? Trauma and PTSD marriage counseling in Connecticut can help. You might be feeling lonely due to abandonment form parents in childhood, and lonely in your marriage when you want to get started in couples counseling.
Also, you might be wondering if your spouse still loves you, which can be from trust issues in childhood.
Often, growing up, we do not learn how to express emotions in healthy ways. With unresolved childhood trauma or sexual abuse, one person may become possessive, anxiously attached, or jealous. Anger issues are common with trauma and PTSD.
To begin, click the button below to book a phone consult for holistic trauma and PTSD marriage counseling in Connecticut.
Wisdom Within Counseling in Connecticut helps couples who want positive skills for communication after experiences of childhood abuse and sexual trauma.
Furthermore, counseling helps couples build a foundation for a long-term marriage and talk about past pain in a safe space.
As well, there might be a history of trust issues even after childhood from an ex-partner or even within your current marriage. At Wisdom Within Counseling in Connecticut, our marriage therapists give you tools for a strong foundation.
Many times, childhood trauma and childhood abuse resurfaces in an intimate partnership and marriage.
Anger, jealousy, anxiety, and worry can all be symptoms of trauma and PTSD that negatively impact your marriage. Trauma and PTSD marriage counseling in Connecticut for couples is available at Wisdom Within Counseling.
What are examples of childhood trauma and PTSD that play a role in marriage conflicts to this day?
Were you or your spouse hit or beaten by a parent or caregiver in childhood? Have you or your spouse been sexually abused or molested in childhood by someone you trusted?
Also, were you or your spouse punished by being hit with a belt, spanked, or slapped? As a child, did you feel unwanted, unloved, or abandoned by your parents or caregivers? Do these bad memories flood your brain and come out during disagreements with your romantic partner? Wisdom Within Counseling specializes in trauma and PTSD marriage counseling in Connecticut.
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Did a parent or caregiver kick you or leave you feeling hurt emotionally?
Was a parent an alcoholic and emotionally or physically neglected you? Were you burned with hot water, a cigarette, or an iron as a helpless child? As a child, did someone leave you without food or punished you by withholding food?
These are all examples of abuse that leave a lasting impact of trauma and PTSD for all future relationships. Holistic trauma and PTSD marriage counseling in Connecticut can help you and your spouse build a healthy relationship after witnessing and experiencing unhealthy parents.
Now, what are trauma and PTSD symptoms?
Often, victims of childhood abuse feel angry, guilty, or anxious when memories of the event come back. Trauma and PTSD symptoms can lead a person to avoid something. For instance, if sexual trauma occurred in childhood, an adult or spouse may avoid kissing or making out.
Subconsciously or consciously, physical touch and affection is connected to unwanted touch, anxiety, and fear from childhood.
As well, victims of childhood trauma tend to avoid thinking or talking about the traumatic event. But, couples therapy in Connecticut can be a safe place for partners to share their stories and grow together as intimate partners. It is normal for romantic partners to not fully understand why their partner may not want touch or not want to kiss them.
Sexual trauma and sexual abuse in childhood can lead to fears and anxiety around touch and sex in adult years
Being physically connected and building a healthy sex life can be challenging for a number of reasons.
Often, being physically intimate with one another is not always easy. It’s so important in a romantic relationship that you have that physical connection. Your couples therapist can understand how sexual abuse and sexual trauma impacts touch in your marriage. As well, your therapist can figure how to create safety around touch like talking about holding hands.
Perhaps, it feels safe to give your partner a foot rub or foot massage. But, vaginal penetration or sexual intercourse is scary and anxiety provoking. Also, from the Gottman method, one of the marital therapy approaches at Wisdom Within Counseling, helps you heal from trauma and PTSD.
Gain understanding
But, when couples can talk about childhood trauma experiences, their partner can more fully understand why they may be avoiding places or activities. Couples can learn why their partner may be avoiding specific things, places, or people that remind them of the traumatic event from childhood.
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You can benefit from couples counseling
If you’re missing the friendship you once had, and feel distant, Wisdom Within Counseling can help. Emotional distance is a symptom of PTSD and trauma. A lot of couples loose connection with their partner. You feel like the security of your relationship just isn’t there anymore.
That’s a great time to come into marriage therapy. We can help you connect with your partner and rediscover intimacy again.
If you’re looking for marriage counseling for PTSD flashbacks, a high state of anxiety, and anger, Wisdom Within Counseling can help.
Working with a trauma specialist can help your partner understand your trauma symptoms and support you better. At times, people forget how to be playful after experiences of pain and trauma in childhood. It might feel as though you are walking on eggshells around your spouse if they have anger or anxiety issues. Holistic trauma and PTSD marriage counseling in Connecticut helps couples understand current avoidant behaviors more deeply.
Childhood sexual trauma, physical abuse, and emotional abuse lead some people to grow into adults with those same problems
Growing up witnessing domestic violence or aggressive parenting styles can lead to a normalization of anger. Having a parent show aggression and anger, even physical violence, makes this feel normal to a young child. As adults, we are more likely to attract what is familiar to us, even if it is abusive and dysfunctional.
It my have been normal for your parents to yell at you as a child.
This may have taught you that verbal abuse is normal, but it is not.
Couples therapy for trauma and PTSD in Connecticut can support couples in communicating in healthy ways. If you watched your parents throw things or punch walls when they are mad, you may think this is a normal way to cope.
Marriage therapy for PTSD and trauma can help you and your spouse talk calmly and be kind to one another even in times of high emotion.
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However, without couples counseling, couples and adults often repeat dysfunctional family patterns from childhood.
By identifying negative, abusive family patterns, you and your spouse need professional marital help. The team at Wisdom Within Counseling in Southeastern Connecticut specialize in trauma bonds and helping couples communicating emotions calmly.
When you try to talk to your spouse, do they get mad?
You might want couples therapy in Connecticut because you wish you could talk about anything. But, you know certain topics tend to cause them to withdraw. Shutting down and withdrawing may be childhood coping mechanisms that helped the survive abuse.
What is a trauma cycle and trauma response that cause marital conflicts?
In childhood, your spouse may have learned speaking up would cause them to get abused or hit. Now, sharing emotions leads them to feel uncomfortable and anxious of abuse again.
Having highly critical parents can be traumatic and lead to PTSD symptoms. If you or your spouse had parents who were dominant, verbally abusive, and physically abusive, you grew up in trauma and may have PTSD symptoms now.
As well, from marriage counseling at Wisdom Within, you can learn to laugh with your spouse again after painful, childhood trauma experiences.
What is trauma and PTSD marriage counseling in Connecticut all about?
Recurrent, unwanted distressing memories are common when a person has PTSD and trauma. Trauma and PTSD marriage counseling in Connecticut can help individuals and couples talk about the lasting effects of a traumatic event.
You may feel sexual rejection when you goto kiss your spouse, but they pull away. Or, if you spouse has experiences of childhood sexual abuse, they may be pulling away or avoiding sex all together.
Reliving the traumatic event can occur if a spouse tries to touch you or kiss you.
If you experiences sexual abuse as a child, you may feel fear every time your spouse tries to touch you or kiss you. When your spouse tries to hug you or kiss you, it feels as if sexual trauma and unwanted touch are happening again.
To begin, click the button below to book a phone consult for holistic trauma and PTSD marriage counseling in Connecticut.
Massive, negative memories that are painful are called flashbacks, which couples therapy can help reduce.
It is also common for adults who have childhood trauma experiences to have upsetting dreams or nightmares about the traumatic event. You or your spouse may wake up crying or having a panic attack. Understanding how childhood physical, sexual, and emotional trauma and abuse cause adults to attract these same type of relationships in adulthood. As a child, growing up with abusive parents can lead to low self-esteem and low self-worth in adult years.
People who grow up in childhood trauma and experience sexual abuse often find themselves involved romantically with an abusive person who mirrors an abusive parent.
Severe emotional distress or physical reactions to something that reminds you or your spouse of the traumatic event are common PTSD symptoms. Couples therapy in Connecticut at Wisdom Within Counseling can help you and your spouse communicate your needs. You can both learn to break the cycle of verbal abuse and name calling. Instead, you can commit to healthy communication, honesty, and emotional expression.
How can trauma and PTSD marriage counseling in Connecticut help?
Marriage counseling in Connecticut supports couples in building a sound, safe, healing relationship together. Each counseling session, you can strengthen your relationship and marriage through carious skills. Holistic trauma and PTSD marriage counseling in Connecticut can bring back safety, love, and passion.
A lot of couples have lost this sense of playfulness and joy that they once had when they first met.
In addition to childhood trauma, how can stress of daily life contribute to arguments and marriage problems?
The pile of responsibilities, of work and career stress, and having to make money can be burdensome. As well, having too many responsibilities of in-laws and parenting can weigh down on a marriage. Sometimes, it feels like the stress of daily life tries to like pull you both apart.
So, holistic marriage counseling can help you rebuild that security, trust.
As well, a couples counseling session can give you a scheduled time to talk about all the things that might be putting pressure on your marriage.
Wisdom Within Counseling in Southeastern Connecticut can teach you tools for managing stress and balance life and work. As well, couples can learn positive tools for rebuilding positive connection and meaningful desire. Your marriage therapist in Connecticut can help you and your spouse notice when you are starting to have a fight.
To begin, click the button below to book your phone consult for overcoming childhood sexual, emotional, and physical trauma and building a healthy, long-lasting marriage.
Trauma and PTSD marriage counseling in Connecticut helps couples express what they are feel rather than being critical
You can learn to identify negative thoughts or critical thoughts about your partner. Then, you can work with your couples therapist to understand if these are rooted in childhood trauma, like a parent who was critical to you. Marriage therapy can help couples share feelings in calm, emotionally expressive ways.
Trauma and PTSD counseling can help couples identify when negative communication is occurring. Going out late drinking alcohol, being at a bar, or staying up late drinking are signs your romantic relationship is in trouble. It is difficult to have emotionally close conversations when one or both people are hungover or drinking alcohol.
Couples can learn from counseling to tune into their mind-body connection for a better marriage.
So, couples can notice their mind-body connection for self-regulation skills after trauma. Instead, of feeding into fight, flight, freeze responses, couples can learn to slow down. Your couples therapist at Wisdom Within Counseling can help you know when your heartbeat increases, and identifying when your blood pressure.
In what ways can marriage therapy for trauma and PTSD support a healthy marriage?
You can become aware of when past trauma memories start causing a physical reaction of fear and anxiety.
Stress hormones may start flowing through your veins and you can identify it from mind-body skills in marriage counseling. In those moments, your couples therapist can help you express your feelings in healthy ways.
Emotional expression skills also help you break the cycle of anger, jealousy, and anxiety.
Your marriage therapist will help you notice when when you’re no longer smiling or no longer making eye contact.
To begin, click the button below to book a phone consult for holistic trauma and PTSD marriage counseling in Connecticut.
Fears and anxiety from childhood get projected into an intimate, romantic relationship
After childhood trauma and PTSD, couples tend to get into a negative place or start thinking about resentment.
Many times, couples in distress start thinking about all the things that aren’t going well. Marriage therapy for trauma and PTSD can help you notice that and start to tell yourself positive affirmations. In order to have a healthy marriage, each person needs to learn to bring their most grounded self to the relationship. You may choose to say, “My partner is not my worst enemy, even though I am flooded with negative memories. My partner and I are on one, strong team.”
Sharing feelings in a calm way allows couples to more effectively communicate what they need at their core. So, trauma and PTSD specialized marriage counseling at Wisdom Within helps you take a moment to be self-aware. Couples can start to acknowledge just how they each can share anger, anxiety, and insecure feelings more calmly.
Trauma bond and PTSD marriage counseling in Connecticut helps couples set aside quality time together
Holistic couples therapy with a trauma specialist supports couples in scheduling regular time to talk together.
Once you have children, stress about in-laws, a disease, chronic illness, work overwhelm, and major losses, trauma and PTSD marriage therapy helps couples reconnect together.
Just like you would schedule time to go to the gym or to a yoga class, couples therapy supports healthy communication.
In the same way you schedule in your breakfast before you go to work, you need to schedule in time to build a healthy marriage. So, therapy builds a strong couple bubble. A lot of couples focus on work and their careers. Unfortunately, couples start working 40 plus hours a week, 60-hour weeks, and this damages the romantic, intimate relationship.
To begin, click below for a phone consult for a healthy marriage through trauma and PTSD marriage counseling in Connecticut.
Trauma focused marriage therapy helps make your physical intimacy and sex life a priority.
A healthy marriage is about maintaining a strong and healthy couple bubble. Working too much or feeling an addiction to being busy are trauma symptoms. Becoming a work-a-holic is a sign you may have past childhood trauma. Maybe, your parents were too hard on you. A lot of times, after childhood neglect and trauma, couples turn to work or get exhausted from parenting. Feeling overly stressed out can lead to issues with physical intimacy and sex. Couples no longer have energy at the end of the day for their romance, sex life, or intimate relationship. Marriage therapy in Connecticut can improve your sex life too.
Is working too much a sign of needing trauma and PTSD marriage counseling in Connecticut?
Couples therapy in Connecticut can help you become focused on setting aside time for each other. We have to set aside time for a healthy sex life and a better relationships. It’s very important to set aside date nights.
They don’t even have to be out of the house. You can spend ten minutes sitting on your bed holding hands talking about your day. That time together is going to help each of you feel valid, important, and really start to prioritize your marriage again. Weekly couples therapy sessions help prioritize quality time together for a better marriage.
Holistic marriage counseling for PTSD and trauma can be that time set aside to creatively work together to rebuild a healthy sex life again.
You and your spouse can start having sexual conversations you might be avoiding. In the presence of a professional marriage guide, we really help you navigate these sexual conversations. You and your spouse can feel positive having sex life conversations.
After childhood sexual abuse, talking about sex in your marriage can bring up intense feelings.
Overall, more touch will create more closeness. But, if you have a barrier to touch, you may have a history of sexual trauma and sexual abuse. Touch and sex can lead to anxiety or make a person feel uncomfortable. That is where our marriage counseling experts can come in and help pinpoint what’s going on. The team at Wisdom Within Counseling can help look at PTSD and trauma responses due to sexual trauma in childhood. Marriage therapy in Connecticut can help you both build the security and meaningful connection you desire together.
Maybe you’re stuck in your work brain, too busy, or you feel a sense of sexual pressure, or sexual tension or anxiety. If you have have lost passion or sexual playfulness, trauma and PTSD marriage counseling in Connecticut can help understand why.
To begin, click the button below to book a phone consult for holistic trauma and PTSD marriage counseling in Connecticut.
What is a healthy sex life all about anyway?
Now, this doesn’t mean having sex or vaginal penetration. A healthy sex life means expressing your sexuality with your parent confidently. So, touch can simply be holding hands. As well, you may simply start by rubbing your thumb on the back of your partner’s hand. You can start putting your hand on your spouse’s shoulder or your hand on their knee. Incorporating more playful touch are benefits of trauma and PTSD marriage counseling in Connecticut.
You and your spouse can talk about aversion to touch and fears of sexual activity due to childhood sexual trauma. Taking the time to hug your partner when they come home from work after a long day is a big way to help them feel loved. Marriage counseling helps couples take that time to offer touch and kiss for a longer amount of time.
We also work with queer, consensually non monogamous couples, and couples who are exploring LGBTQIA+.
LGBTQIA+, consensual polyamory, and consensually non monogamous couples are some of our specialties. So, if you’re questioning your gender, or wanting to talk about coming out as transgender with your spouse, we can help.
Often, anxiety, fear, worry will arise when opening a marriage. Consensually non monogamous couples need a space place to talk about childhood trauma and fears. Trauma and PTSD marriage counseling in Connecticut can help consensually non monogamous couples and LGBTQIA+ couples feel safe being themselves.
To begin, click below to book your phone consult to work with an LGBTQIA+ affirming therapist who specializes in ethically non-monogamous relationships and polyamory.
What is unique and different about Wisdom Within Counseling?
At Wisdom Within Counseling in Connecticut, we have options of traditional talking on a couch. You can build meaningful connection and playfulness through holistic, creative therapies. Our team of marriage and family therapists incorporate trust activities right in marriage counseling sessions through art, yoga, and music. For instance, couples yoga, meditation, and mindfulness provide couples in distress with self-regulation skills. Also, walking sessions outdoors by the beach with your marriage therapist provide a positive experience for couples right in session.
Trauma and PTSD symptoms lead to anxiety, fear, and nightmares.
For people who are dealing with some dysregulation in their nervous system, positive coping tools can help. Dysregulation can feel like stress, a racing heart, getting hot, feeling numb, and can be a whole range of anxious feelings.
Trauma and PTSD marriage counseling in Connecticut can give you positive coping strategies
Naturally, relationship will trigger you. You will need coping skills for anger, insecurity, jealousy, worry, and anxiety. So, your Connecticut couples therapist can help you both find ways to cope with triggers and anger in healthy ways. For instance, sucking on peppermints or sour candies can snap you out of a nightmare or trauma flashback. As well, sucking on a mint or candy can get you in touch with your senses. Rather than focusing on anxiety and emotional dysregulation, tasting mint can be calming. Marriage counseling teaches couples self-regulation skills. These grounding skills are especially important for for survivors of childhood neglect and abuse, which can bring you back to the present moment.
Let’s work together to help you overcome trauma and PTSD symptoms in holistic marriage counseling in Connecticut today.
If you’re struggling on your own anger, or feeling lonely in your marriage, Wisdom Within Counseling can help. Maybe, you feel like you are in a stuck cycle of yelling and negative energy. We would love to help support you both and help your marriage thrive. Wisdom Within Counseling teaches you lifelong tools that you can use to build a strong, loving, and healthy long-term marriage.
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Couples therapy will also give you skills to be able to notice, validate, and appreciate one another.
Maybe, you are the partner who is really thankful and really appreciative. However, your partner is not able to receive it. After childhood verbal abuse or severe criticism, it can be uncomfortable to accept appreciation and thanks.
If you’re struggling, fighting, or feeling distant, lonely, we can help you have a better marriage.
When you come into trauma and PTSD marriage counseling in Connecticut, we can practice skills of giving and receiving appreciation. You can be more on the same page, be appreciative of each other, and become fond of one another again. Marriage counseling a mutual positive experience. It will be so helpful in bringing you and your partner back together.
Wisdom Within Counseling can help you build romantic closeness after trauma and loss.
You deserve to regain a sense of playfulness, desire and emotional intimacy in your marriage. We look forward to helping you and your spouse build passion and desire. As well, we are excited to help you both overcome childhood trauma symptoms that impact your marriage negatively to this day.
No matter what struggle you’re facing; we would love to help you.
We love helping distant struggling couples build healthy communication and emotional intimacy. Couples therapy supports a sense of playfulness, where you can actually have an experience right in session. Using art, drama therapy, yoga, outdoor walking sessions in nature are a non-traditional holistic couples therapies.
If you are in Fairfield country, Connecticut, we can help you over video.
The Fairfield, Connecticut towns that we serve include Belltown, Darien, Old Greenwich, Redding, Byram, New Canaan, Riverside, Southport, Trumbull, Easton, Monroe, Brookfield, Wilton, Norwalk, Newtown, Shelton, Pemberwick, Bethel, Bridgeport, Danbury, Newtown, Stratford, New Fairfield, Sherman, Bethel, Fairfield Beach, and Greenfield Hill, Connecticut.
In Middlesex County, Connecticut, we help couples thrive
In Middlesex County, Connecticut, we help couples in the following towns Centerbrook, Chester, Clinton, Cobalt, Cromwell, Deep River, Durham, East Haddam, East Hampton, Essex, Haddam, Higganum, Ivoryton, Killingworth, Middle Haddam, Middlefield, Middletown, Moodus, Old Saybrook, Portland, Rockfall, and Westbrook, Connecticut.
We are also licensed in Florida as well as Connecticut.
In Southeastern Connecticut, we help couples in the following towns, Bozrah, East Lyme, Niantic, Westbrook, Salem, Old Saybrook, Colchester, Franklin, Griswold, Groton, Ledyard, Lisbon, Mystic, Stonington, Pawcatuck, Montville, and Old Lyme, Connecticut.
Wisdom Within Counseling offers you holistic alternatives to talking to really express the trauma and PTSD symptoms you’re been keeping on the inside.
We find that just sitting and talking sometimes isn’t enough for couples. Couples sometimes will need more, like a tool to take home to build that trauma coping toolbox. We would love to help you at Wisdom Within Counseling build meaningful connection in your marriage. Couples therapy for PTSD and trauma sets you up for a loving, nurturing, long term marriage.
