Gottman couples therapy is all about helping you rebuild your relationship after betrayal.
Heal together after loss, and the pain of being blindsided.
Right now, you know that you want to figure it out together. However, there are a lot of challenges from conflicts, to work schedules, to lacking intimacy. Also, because there are things that you value about your relationship, you want to try working through it. However, there are also things about your relationship that cause you inner conflict, frustration. As well, more deeply than ever, you want a sense of trust and security. Gottman marriage therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling helps you heal after infidelity. You can learn tools to rebuild trust and gain closeness like you never had before.
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Gottman couples therapy is a method that we use at Wisdom Within Counseling. Katie Ziskind is a Level two Gottman marriage counselor and works with couples who struggle with addiction. Also, Katie Ziskind and her team of therapists love supporting couples in sobriety after alcoholism. As well, Wisdom Within Counseling helps distant couples come together after betrayal, trauma, and affairs and infidelity. For instance, finding out your partner is having an affair is a major betrayal in your marriage and relationship. Gottman couples therapy helps you have a system and organized plan to rebuild. In Gottman marriage counseling, we use the sound relationship house model. Affairs mean that there is no trust remaining. The sound relationship house is a format for rebuilding your relationship.
How does couples counseling help you build safety, playfulness, and trust again?
You can even look up the sound relationship house online and look at pictures of the model that we use. The two main walls of all relationships are trust and commitment. So if you are building a house, your house will not be strong unless there are walls on the sides protecting you from the outer elements. We believe that commitment and trust are these two important and foundational walls. Any sort of emotional cheating or physical cheating, or anything that is perceived by a partner as infidelity or betrayal, breaks commitment and trust and so these walls are in shambles. Positive coping skills in Gottman couples therapy can help you rebuild trust and commitment. Overall, you can start to rebuild the walls and floors of your relationship, using the sound relationship house. In the sound relationship house model, there are seven levels or floors to your relationship house.
To begin, click the button below for your phone consult for Gottman marriage therapy in Connecticut.
How can couples counseling support a healthy, loving marriage long-term?
In addition, couples counseling can support a healthy marriage. In couples therapy, you get to learn the things that each marriage needs to be successful. Research studies show that any negative thinking, negative communication, criticism, defensiveness, or even stonewalling can cause your marriage to decline long-term. One single fight will not cause your marriage to end. However, negative fights and high conflict interactions as well as a sense of loneliness. Then, over years and months, fighting and distance will create more tension and conflict.
Changing the way you and your partner communicate to be more positive and loving can be a great start.
Couples counseling gives you the communication tools to share what you are feeling in a calm, healthy, and loving way.
Right now, you might feel unheard, betrayed, or unwanted, or your partner may have confided in someone outside of your marriage.
Emotional and physical cheating create the same wounds. When couples come to counseling to heal after an affair, they get to rebuild their relationship from the ground up, as if they are starting fresh. There is often complex PTSD or complex post-traumatic stress disorder that develops in a partner that was cheated on. So our therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling know how to handle complex trauma symptoms in couples counseling.
To begin, click the button below for your phone consult for Gottman marriage therapy in Connecticut.
Starting from the ground up means getting to know your partner again.
You and your partner can relearn each other‘s favorite foods, favorite beverages, favorite things to do to relax, and how each of you a desire to spend a day off. In addition, your couples counselor can understand if there are power dynamics, power struggles, or imbalance of power in your marriage. One of you might feel like you don’t have a voice at all and the other one might feel like they have to be controlling. As well, in your marriage, you may have a belief system that has developed over the past few years. In addition, your couples counselor can teach you how to share admiration, fondness, and verbal positive affirmations.
Does it feel like you’re romantic partner is taking you for granted and now your business partners, or simply roommates?
Many times, couples stop complementing each other. As well, with stresses and responsibilities of life, even if a complement is given or praise is given, it might not be able to be received in an effective way. So, couples counseling help you and your partner give and receive in balancing ways that helps to fulfill you both on an emotional level.
In addition, the team at Wisdom Within counseling help same-sex, transgender, queer, non-binary, and LGBTQIA+ couples.
LGBTQIA+ couples have a different set of stressors that include shame and rejection. Simply being in a same sex relationship can make it feel like going to your family is a harder choice. As well, for same-sex couples, affairs and betrayals hurt just as much. However, queer, transgender, and same-sex couples are less likely to reach out for help and support when going through affairs, betrayal, or infidelity because of shame and guilt. At Wisdom Within Counseling, one of our specialties is working with affairs, infidelity, and betrayals within a marriage. As well, we have a deep passion and education and working with LGBTQIA+, nonbinary, queer, and same-sex couples who have a history of affairs, cheating, betrayal.
How does Gottman marriage therapy help couples in conflict reduce aggression and anger?
Gottman marriage therapy helps couples learn tools to overcome conflict and fighting. At this moment, you might feel like the fighting is leaving you hopeless, upset, angry, and anxious. As well, you might not feel uncertain or not very confident about the future of your relationship because of the amount of fighting.
Gottman marriage therapy helps conflict managment and builds hope
When you do fight, afterwards, it feels like you walk on eggshells.
You don’t know if your partner will have another angry blowup or snap at you. It is really hard to tell if your partner is in a good mood or a bad mood. Fights leave your doubtful and questioning. Furthermore, fighting doesn’t have to be a part of your communication in your relationship. Many times, when couples do not have the coping tools or the communication tools to share what they are feeling, a fight breaks out. There might be childhood trauma, losses, abandonment, or childhood pain that plays into the fight that your couples therapist can help you both talk about. Maybe, your spouse had parents that were emotionally neglectful, emotionally immature, or you might even identify as an adult child of alcoholics. Any childhood stress and trauma plays and major role in conflict in your relationship in your marriage today.
To begin, click the button below for your phone consult for Gottman marriage therapy in Connecticut.
Gottman marriage therapy can help you learn how to fight fairly.
You can learn how to calmly express what you are feeling. Another important skill when healing and managing conflict is called self soothing. Self soothing tools or some thing that your therapist can help teach you. For instance, not all the time will your partner be able to listen to you and might not be able to hold space for you. In the moments when your partner does not have the ability to listen or be a calm caretaker, you can practice self soothing such as showering, bathing, going for a walk, doing an adult coloring book, playing with your pets, or even journaling positive qualities about yourself. Self soothing and self-care tools are very important part of any healthy relationship.
Sometimes, the stressors and responsibilities of life, parenting, in-laws, and building your career can make your marriage move to the back burner.
Gottman marriage therapy helps to prioritize your relationship and your romance again.
Long-term love is possible through Gottman marriage therapy in Connecticut
When you first began dating, you had a lot of passion for each other. However, fighting, responsibilities, and obligations put a damper on your romance and your playfulness. Gottman marriage therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling can help bring back a sense of playful desire.
Connecticut video and in person Gottman marriage therapy
We offer in person and video counseling to Connecticut towns including Fairfield, Cos Cob, Darien, Watertown, Colebrook, Woodbridge, Old Greenwich, Rye, Greenwich, Southport, Cornwall, Easton, Darien, Byram, New Canann, Essex, Weston, Barkhamsted, Bridgewater, Fenwick, Hartford, Norwalk, East Lyme, Simsbury, Westport, Redding, Greenwich, Middletown, Bloomfield, Stamford, Washington, Kent, Madison, Glastonbury, Ivoryton, Washington, Bethlehem, Morris, Middlebury, Sharon, West Hartford, Colchester, Columbia, New Milford, Griswold, Guilford, Tolland, Stonington, Goshen, Salisbury, Monroe, Killingworth, Bloomfield, Rye, Plymouth, Enfield, Lyme, Madison, Clinton, Litchfield, Warren, Avon, Wilton, Mystic, Ridgefield, Shelton, and West Hartford. We also offer counseling to residents of Massachusetts and Florida.
