Is sex painful, boring, or dull? Is sex no longer satisfying? Wishing you had more passion and playfulness in your sex life? Looking to explore new sex toys and lubricants? Does one of you want more sex than the other? Needing sexual strategies to spice up your sex life? Wondering how to rebuild the “hot and heavy” moments and passionate loving making experiences you once had? The team of therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling specialize in helping couples bring back their sex life. Right now, you might not be having as much sex as you want to have. We can help you rebuild your sex life and bring in passion and adventure. Learning about what you like and desire and what your partner likes are important parts of sex therapy. As well, sex therapy and kink affirming marriage counseling in Florida helps you create variety and diversity. Working with a sex therapist and kink affirming marriage counselor, you get time and space to share your deeper feelings about sex too. Upsetting feelings, inner conflict, anger, and loss play a role in how satisfying sex is too.
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At Wisdom Within Counseling, we help couples develop passion and creativity around sex life.
What are some common sexual challenges couples face?
Differences in sexual desire lead to sex issues
Often times, couples come to intimacy therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling because there are imbalances in desire. One person wants to have more sex and feels sexually rejected regularly. Now, when one person wants to have sex much more frequently, and the other person does not, this can lead to sex issues. Later, in this article, you can learn more about desire discrepancies, differences in libido, and dealing with sexual rejection.
Avoiding talking about sex brings couples in for counseling
Usually, couples are not talking about sex, and avoiding talking about sex. Learning about your own erotic menu can help you understand how to talk about sex with confidence. Talking with a sex and intimacy therapist at Wisdom Within Counseling can help you understand what you need on a personal level. Talking about erotic topics together often fades away with the stress of life. Sex therapy and marital counseling sessions can help you make satisfying sex a priority again.
Sexual rejection issues when one person doesn’t want to have sex
One main sexual issue that couples experience is a female partner rejecting her partner. Female partners may have a disinterest in sex as a whole from lack of pleasure. If a female feels sex is a chore, sexual experiences are too short and boring, or sex is only about her partner’s pleasure, she will decline. Learn more about the female orgasmic system and female sexual pleasure later in this article.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, we teach a female and her partner about the female orgasmic system. Supporting female sexual pleasure and orgasms makes a female more interested in future sexual experiences. There can be many good reasons as to why couples start in intimacy therapy and kink affirming marriage counseling in Florida at Wisdom Within.
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Commonly, couples stop touching themselves. When people stop self-pleasuring, partner sex often dies away.
Sex and marital therapy in Florida can be a safe place to discuss self pleasure and masturbation. Often, a person focuses on their career or is working too much. They sadly stop having sexual thoughts and feelings. Parenting responsibilities, career development, family stress, financial problems, and alcohol use can get in the way of a healthy sex life. Due to stress and poor coping tools, a person stops making time for sex and self-pleasure.
However, you can more deeply understand what you need sexually from self-pleasure. So, when working with a marriage and intimacy therapist at Wisdom Within Counseling, you can talk about self-pleasure. Touching yourself is an essential part to a healthy sex life. From sex therapy, couples can both get what they want from their sexual experiences, and learn to communicate what they like better.
Another reason couples benefit from sex therapy is they feel they don’t have time for sex
It might be hard to find time to have sex together. Between your children, their after school activities, finances, extended family, and your job, it feels like there is no time. It can be hard to create time when you feel like you are on a hamster wheel of life. Learning how to manage stress and put yourself first are positive aspects of marital counseling at Wisdom Within.
Being sexual is almost impossible when you are caring for others. Having a healthy sex life is about making time for your own sexual pleasure. Intimacy therapy and kink affirming marriage counseling in Florida is all about remembering you deserve sexual pleasure.
Going to sex therapy and confirming marriage counseling appointments can be the time set aside each week to better your sex life.
Fears of rejection keep couples distant and alone
Learning to ask for what you want in the bedroom is an important benefit from sex therapy and marriage counseling. However, fears and worries about sexual rejection are very common.
Fears of rejection keep couples distant and couples therapy can support intimate conversations. Couples goto to sex therapy sessions expressing fears of rejection very often. Often times, one or both people are repressing sexual desires out of fear of rejection. This creates disconnection and causes people to feel alone in their marriage.
If you feel afraid of sharing your kinks or sexual desires with your spouse due to fears of rejection, you are in the right place.
If you have kinky desires, or unique, sexual fetishes, intimacy therapy in Florida at Wisdom Within Counseling can help you share and enjoy them with your partner.
Let’s talk more about sex!
What is a sexually erotic menu?
At Wisdom Within Counseling, the team of marriage therapists specialize in intimacy therapy and kink affirming marriage counseling in Florida. As part of your sex therapy experience, you and your therapist can talk about an erotic menu. In a way, an erotic menu is a yes, or no list. From couple therapy, all people in the romantic relationship get a voice.
Why is a voice important for women in intimacy therapy and kink affirming marriage counseling in Florida?
Many women do not have or give themselves a voice sexually. Often, women say, “Yes, that feels good,” when sex really doesn’t. Females often fake orgasms in order to care take for their parent’s emotions. In order to have a healthy sex life, women need to openly talk about what they don’t like.
Fears, insecurities, and anxiety can get in the way of having a voice sexually. It can be scary asking for what you want sexually. In intimacy therapy and kink affirming marriage counseling in Florida, your therapist can support communication around kinks and what turns you on. You can build an authentic, playful, and courageous sex life.
In sex therapy, couples can share different ways they like their body touched and what ways they don’t. Each person gets a voice in intimacy therapy appointments at Wisdom Within Counseling.
Can sex therapy be a place to understand my partner’s sexual interests more?
Yes, one person might really enjoy anal sex, where another person does not. You and your partner can build communication and trust around kinky sexual experiences. One person may want to be in a submissive role, be held down, and be spoken to in derogatory ways. As well, playing with dominant and submissive roles in sex can be very positive. Other people may enjoy spanking or pain. Kinks come in many forms and are normal.
In intimacy therapy sessions, you receive a nonjudgmental space where we can talk about your kinks. Couples therapy sessions in Florida at Wisdom Within support partners in sexually embracing one another. You can be seen as a sexually expressive human being through the process of intimacy therapy and kink affirming marriage counseling in Florida.
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Remember, every single person has a different sexual menu and sexual needs.
Exploring your sexual desires with a intimacy therapist at Wisdom Within Counseling can support a satisfying sex life. Talking about what you desire sexually in sex therapy and marriage counseling sessions gives you and your partner a way to understand one another.
Couples can gain connection together more intimately from intimacy therapy and kink affirming marriage counseling in Florida.
Each of us have different needs such as romantic needs, spiritual needs, primal needs, and mysterious needs. And, talking with your spouse about these all helps you grow sexually. Sometimes, in a sexual experience, you will want to take on a more submissive role, or a more dominant role. Maybe, your partner has anxiety about trying BDSM or exploring your kinks. Couples therapy in Florida can be a safe place to talk about kinks and power play.
You can start to have more meaningful dialogues about sex, and improve your communication and sexual expressiveness.
Can pornography use be helpful when it comes to sex therapy and kink affirming marriage counseling?
At times, pornography can be beneficial for a couples to watch together. Pornography is not educational though, but paid actors. Going into watching pornography, couples should know that it is not educational. However, porn can be visually stimulating and erotic. Watching pornography and people having sex can triggers those pleasurable neurons in your own brain.
Pornography can help couples feel sexually aroused and get on the same page.
If you have been looking at Excel spreadsheets all day, your brain is probably very focused on the memories of Excel spreadsheet.
Instead, watching partners experiencing sexual pleasure and receiving pleasure in a pornography video can help stimulate those mirror neurons in your brain. Porn can get couples in the mood. Your intimacy therapist might give you and your partner homework to watch pornography together.
What about pornography addictions?
It is important to know that pornography can become an addiction just like alcohol or drugs. Using pornography too much can lead to compulsive and impulsive behaviors. If you are struggling with a pornography, addiction, intimacy therapy and marriage counseling can help. Working with the Wisdom Within Counseling team can support you in understanding yourself further. You can find healthy coping tools and alternatives to compulsive porn use from intimacy therapy and kink affirming marriage counseling in Florida.
Want confidence to purchase sex toys?
Your sex specialist offers intimacy therapy and kink affirming marriage counseling in Florida. And, we can give you the confidence to purchase new sex toys. Sex toys can spice up your sex life. However, religious shame and cultural shame can make you feel insecure about buying a sex toy. Maybe, you grew up in a strict, religious household and never talked about sex. Perhaps, grow up, sex was a taboo word or a bad word to say.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, intimacy therapy and kink affirming marriage counseling in Florida can help you overcome sexual shame.
Talking with your therapist can give you the permission you need to love yourself sexually. As well, talking about how society and religious views shame children and teens about sexual desires in their growing up years can be liberating.
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What are benefits of sex toys?
Well, sex toys can give you a different type of pleasure than another human.
Overall, sex therapy can give you the confidence to purchase new sex toys. If you are in a committed relationship, your romantic partner can use a sex toy on you during vaginal intercourse. As well, you can incorporate a sex toy self-pleasure and masturbation experiences too. There are all different types of sex toy is from nipple clamps, to butt plugs, to anal beads, to vibrators.
Finding which sex toy meets your sexual needs can be part of what you talk about with a sex therapist. As well, sex toys can help you in exploring different types of sexual pleasure on different erogenous zones. Finding what turns you on is an essential part of working with a king, affirming marriage counselor.
There are different sex toys for everyone.
You might want a remote control vibrator that your partner can turn on from miles away. Remote control vibrators can bring in suspense related to sexual pleasure. There can be a sense of mystery about when your partner will turn on the remote control vibrator to pleasure you sexually. Role-plays and sex toys can be incredible part of a healthy sex life.
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How does the female orgasmic system work to support female sexual pleasure?
Intimacy therapy and kink affirming marriage counseling can support female sexual pleasure in new ways. One main issue that couples experience sexual rejection from the female partner. One reason why a female partner doesn’t want to have sex is because sexual experiences are too short and boring. She may not be given enough sexual attention. A female partner will lose interest in sex when she is not orgasming regularly.
Education on the female orgasmic system
For instance, a male only requires 4 to 7 minutes to become sexually aroused. On the other hand, a female’s body requires 45 to 90 minutes to become sexually aroused. A female does not have time mentally and physically to become sexually aroused in 5-10 mins. If her partner is orgasming quickly, she won’t be pleasured sexually.
Sexual experiences to support an orgasm should include all different erogenous zones. Sex should be an experience to optimize orgasming and female sexual pleasure. A male partner should not orgasm before his female partner. Anytime that sexual expressive energy is being exchanged, a female’s body should be prioritized.
To foster a positive, satisfying sexual experience, a female partner should have at least 45 to 90 minutes to receive sexual pleasure.
Learning to stimulate a female’s clitoris is key in sexual pleasure. The female orgasmic system takes more time than a male’s to become aroused. As a female is becoming more sexually aroused, her vagina will get more wet. Her sexual partner can play with her breasts, kiss her neck, and massage her body for 15-30 minutes.
Her clitoris becomes engorged with blood during the process of sexual arousal.
A female’s clitoris is other genital area and is a main pleasure center. The clitoris is what supports a female orgasm and multiple orgasms. Stimulating the clitoris shouldn’t be done first, but after a female becomes aroused and turned on, her clitoris can be touched.
Each female takes a different amount of time to orgasm and an orgasm is a combination of both physical and emotional components.
When a female clitoris is touched, she will feel deep pleasure. Talking about the pressure and speed of touch is healthy too. A female needs to feel safe emotionally and physically to have an orgasm. Importantly, a female needs to feel safe emotionally with her sexual partner in order to orgasm.
Why is foreplay important?
As well, her body needs to be properly stimulated over time, not just quickly for her to enjoy the sex. Foreplay is so fun and can spice up a couple’s sex life. It is the build up of fun and passion.
It’s a female is not having at least 45 to 90 minutes of foreplay, her vagina will not have enough time to get wet and naturally lubricated.
Painful sexual intercourse can be a reason for sexual rejection and declining sex
Therefore, sex will become painful when a male partner tries to penetrate her vagina with his penis, if her vagina is dry.
Having adequate foreplay allows a female’s vagina to become naturally lubricated for penetration.
The use of extra lubricant can also help if you are experiencing painful sex. Playing around with different lubricants can make sexual intercourse more pleasurable. Overall, learning about the female orgasmic system to support the female orgasm is a part of intimacy therapy.
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So, why is sex education important?
Many times, we do not get education from health classes in school about the female orgasmic system.
Females can also have multiple orgasms, which can be very fun to play with. After having one orgasm, a female can continue to be stimulated sexually and orgasm multiple times thereafter. And, playing around with multiple orgasms can be very fun for a couples when it comes to the female body.
How intimacy therapy and kink affirming marriage counseling in Florida can help with sexual repression?
Sexual repression and repressing sexual desires can lead to emotional problems. For instance, from repressing sexual desires, you may experiences fatigue, chronic tension, low self-esteem, irritability, anxiety, aggression, and insomnia.
People may be repressing sexual desires and kinks for many reasons, with one being a strict religious upbringing.
Maybe, you learned from your upbringing to wear modest clothing under all circumstances. And, that if you didn’t you were attracting the wrong attention. As children and teens, we learn to buy into these shameful and fearful religious beliefs.
Growing up in a strict religious home can lead a growing child and teenager to feel shame for parts of themself that are sexual.
Some people learn never to talk about sex because it is a bad word. Other people learn that sex with the same gender is bad. As well, religious shame can include fear statements like if you get pregnant before marriage, you’ll die and goto hell. There is a lot of fear around sexual expression around punishments from God.
Perhaps, you learned your adolescent, developing body should be covered up. Growing up, you may have learned sexual intercourse was “wrong,” “dirty” or “devil-ish.”
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Talking about sexual expressiveness in marital and sex counseling can bring a sense of freedom and self-connection.
Maybe, due to a strict religious culture, you learned sex was only for procreation and baby making, and not for sexual pleasure. From a strict religious upbringing, a person learns to push away sexual parts of themselves, unfortunately.
More often than not, a strict religious upbringing teaches us that masturbation is dirty and unnatural. In reality, from working with with a intimacy therapist at Wisdom Within, you can learn to masturbate and self-pleasure, and the value in your own pleasure.
Learning to value your own sexual pleasure is a positive part of sex and intimacy counseling for couples.
We receive sexual messages that are shameful and cause us to feel and carry guilt. Marriage therapy can help us overcome sexual shame and guilt that hold us back.
When you or your spouse struggle with sexual repression, sex therapy can help. You may have an inability to openly and confidently share what you like, want, or desire sexually. Couples therapy can help partners express their sexuality to each other more confidently.
In order to have a healthy sex life, each person needs to love an accept all parts of themselves.
Having sexual urges is very normal and healthy. Couples counseling can help couples overcome sexual shame from a strict religious childhood. Through marriage therapy and intimacy therapy in Florida, you can discover, explore, and embrace your sexuality.
From confidence in your sexuality, you can love and nurture yourself and your kinks. Embracing yourself as a sexual being physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually is very positive for mental health.
It is vulnerable to talk with your partner about your sexual desires and kinks.
Why are sexual fantasies important?
Sexual fantasies are important because it allows couples to get out of their own heads. Also, sexual fantasies can build an erotic vibe in your romantic relationship. Sadly, people keep their sexual fantasies and kinks to themselves out of fear their spouse will think they are crazy or weird.
Sexual fantasies be played out through a role-play scenario. And, they could include taking on a different tone of voice. As well, a sexual fantasy could be going to a restaurant and pretending it is your first date again. Sexual fantasies can also include power-play. Talking about your sexual fantasies can promote a sense of sexual expressiveness and sexual freedom.
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You can learn to build a sense of connection together and a fulfilling sex life by talking about your sexual fantasies.
Even if some of your sexual fantasies cannot be played out, talking about them can increase sexual desires you have for your partner.
You can feel supported sexually through the process of intimacy therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling.
Intimacy therapy and kink affirming marriage counseling helps couples communicate about sexual needs and desires
If you are not communicating in a healthy way, it can be very challenging to have a healthy sex life.
Communication is one of the major issues that couples run into when it comes to marriage therapy. Learning to talk about what you want and need sexually is really important.
For instance, if you feel like your partner is abusive, manipulative, or you are holding onto guilt yourself, these issues can get in the way of a healthy sex life.
If you feel bullied by your partner, or your partner has been cheating on you, having a healthy sex life can be very difficult.
In order to have a good sex life, you will need to feel supported emotionally by your partner and protected. If your partner is very critical, has a problem with drugs or alcohol, or gets angry easily, it can be very difficult to build a healthy and satisfying, sex life.
At times, we all can come off as insensitive. With that said, if you are not emotionally supported by your romantic partner, it can be very difficult to open up sexually to them. Wisdom Within Counseling can teach you both skills for emotional support and emotional intimacy.
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How do other stressors, emotions, and resentments play into sex life?
Over caretaking, alcoholic spouse, anger, and emotional neglect leads to problems with sex. If there is bitterness or resentment, this plays into negativity or rejection around sex.
Additionally, different stressors, play into having a healthy and satisfying, sex life. If your spouse struggles to be emotionally, vulnerable and bottles up their feelings, exploding and anger, it can be difficult to have a good sex life.
Now, intimacy therapy and kink affirming marriage counseling in Florida can support talking about these topics calmly. Sex is not just a physical interaction. Often, there are many lingering emotions like anger, resentment, anxiety, and more that can prevent sexual openness.
Any lingering resentment can take away from an erotic, romantic sex life
Maybe, you feel like you are doing more of the household chores and are overly responsible. When one person is stuck in an overly caretaking role, this can lead to resentment.
Resentment that is a lingering can prevent couples from feeling close and safe. In order to have a positive sex life, couples need to feel emotionally safe. Emotional validation skills are essential for a healthy, satisfying sex life. In couples therapy appointments, you can learn skills for emotional validation.
There may also be family resentment and stress, such as job, changes, unemployment, or career opportunities. Resentment needs to be talked about in marriage counseling sessions in order to make a foundation for a healthy sex lie.
Parenting values that are different can in fact can bog down a healthy, satisfying sex life.
If you have different parenting values, or feel that your partner is being disrespectful in front of your children, this can play a role in a negative sex life. Ay negative communication styles like yelling or name calling can lead to a dull sex life. Emotions play a huge role in sexual satisfaction and a healthy sex life.
Living with in-laws can be stressful for couples
Couples who have children and even extended family members living with them may feel shame for expressing affection in front of in-laws. Living with extended family in a full house can be stressful for couples.
Responsibilities can bog down sexual pleasure
You might have to replace the refrigerator or washing machine suddenly. Maintaining a house can be stressful. Dealing with plumbing issues can be a huge turn off. Learning how to deal with stressors from academic studies, to job stress, to parenting can be a part of couples counseling.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, our team of marriage therapists in Florida specialize in helping couples build a playful, passionate, satisfying sex life.
By improving communication and dealing with stress in a healthy way, you can start to have a more passionate, erotic, and fulfilling, sex life.
A clean bedroom can make all the difference when it comes to getting in a sexy mood
If your bedroom is cluttered and disorganized, this can lead to challenges being erotic and expressing sexual pleasure. Looking over and seeing all the laundry piled up can take away from the romantic vibes.
Our senses are all involved in sexual pleasure and orgasming. So, if you have bad smells of dirty laundry in your bedroom, it will be difficult to get in a sexy mood.
So, having a dresser with random mail and papers on top is not arousing sexually. It can be very helpful to see a clean, tidy space in order to get in the mood mentally.
Working with a sex and intimacy therapist in Florida can support you in taking the steps to clean your bedroom in order to set the scene for sexy time.
Where can Wisdom Within Counseling help couples?
We help couples in Palm Beach, Palm Bay, Pinecrest, Weston, Melbourne, Orlando, Sebastian, Punta Gorda, Parkland, Naples, Miami, Miami Shores, Coral Gables, Southwest Ranches, and Jacksonville, Florida. Over video, we support couples who are looking to rebuild their sex life, explore sexual pleasure, and overcome sexual dysfunction. We also support couples in Connecticut.
We would love to help you rebuild your sex life and bring the passion back.
Instead of feeling sexually rejected, or stuck in a boring sexual routine, you get a safe place to feel seen and heard. If you are struggling with sexual dysfunctions like issues reaching orgasm, painful sexual intercourse, premature ejactulation, or erectile dysfunction, Wisdom Within Counseling can help. Sex should never be painful or uncomfortable. So, if you are experiencing sexual pain, talking with a sex therapist can help you gain clarity and sexual confidence. You can have a safe place to talk about your upbringing, religious views, and overcome sexual shame from childhood.
No matter what you are going through, our team of couples therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling support all couples. We are kink affirming, transgender affirming, open relationship, and LGBTQIA+ affirming.
The team of marriage and family therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling love talking about sexual dysfunctions, sex, and sexual pleasure.
