Are you experiencing high conflict fights? Is the sex not satisfying or as frequent enough in your marriage? Want a safe place to talk about orgasming, intimacy, emotional security, and your sex life? Do you notice childhood trauma experiences impact your ability to be intimate and sexually open? Do you want to gain more playfulness and fun in your marriage again? Working with Katie Ziskind, couples therapist and intimacy specialist near Melbourne Beach, Florida can be a safe place to do so.
To begin, click below for a phone consult to meet with Katie Ziskind, couples therapist and intimacy specialist near Melbourne Beach, Florida.
Orgasming, females sexual pleasure, sexual intimacy, and low sex drive issues
We do not often get proper sexual health education that you don’t get growing up. On that note, your parents may have caused you to feel ashamed in adolescent regarding your sexual development. Your parents may have objectified your developing body. As well, you may have received negative messages around sex and sexual pleasure.
Due to a strict, religious upbringing you may feel uncomfortable masturbating and practicing self-pleasure. Working with Katie Ziskind, couples therapist and intimacy specialist near Melbourne Beach, Florida can help you get comfortable touching yourself sexually. Many times, couples do not talk about sex. Couples in counseling can start to have open, vulnerable conversations around sex and intimacy.
To note, many couples avoid talking about sex due to negative messages from childhood. Couples in therapy in Brevard County Florida can have a safe place to explore sexual pleasure. Maybe, as a female, you have never experiences orgasming. But, you have always wanted to learn how to orgasm. Females can experience multiple orgasms. As well, Melbourne, Florida couples therapy can help you explore orgasming in a variety of different ways.
Leanring to have a good sex life means developing a healthy relationship with your sexual identity. To add, talking about sex can become less taboo and more comfortable. Being able to ask your romantic partner for longer foreplay or other sexual desires. As well, you might want to share that you want sexual diversity with in Melbourne, Florida marriage counseling. Perhaps, you are curious to use a new sex toy can be a part of gaining sexual confidence.
What is emotional security as a foundation for sexual playfulness?
At times, yelling, anger and passive aggressiveness can cause marital conflicts. If you are criticizing one another, it can damage your marriage and sex life. Learning to feel upset, but communicate your needs in a calm way is key for a happy sex life. It might feel difficult to be sexual together when you feel your spouse shuts you out. Learning to be less defensive can be helpful in improving your sex life and intimacy. First, couples need to learn healthy communication skills to foster emotional security and safety.
Gaining healthy communication skills can be a new process if you didn’t learn how to do so from your parents.
From healthy communication tools, spouses can better understand what causes their partner to shut down. then, spouses can take positive actions to emotionally validate each other, rather than getting defensive. Learning about your attachment style and communication style can help your sex life improve.
Rebuilding your sex life and intimacy through couples counseling in Melbourne, Florida is about emotional safety first
Our physical and sexual closeness relates to how safe spouses feel emotionally. If you feel hurt, sad, or angry with your spouse, you may be unable to have meaningful sex. Resentment in your marriage is a major turn off. Rather than harboring resentment, Space Coast Florida couples in therapy can learn to communicate needs. talking about your needs and feelings is very positive for a healthy sex life.
In your marriage, you may be struggling when you get into conflicts, and understanding how to resolve them. Marriage counseling along the Space Coast in Florida helps couples stop hurting each other with dysfunctional communication. Self-awareness is a beautiful part of working with Katie Ziskind, couples therapist and intimacy specialist near Melbourne Beach, Florida. You can gain professional guidance to talk about your emotions calmly and slowly. Rather than getting into a high conflict fight or yelling, couples in counseling learn emotional security tools.
To begin, click below for a phone consult to meet with Katie Ziskind, couples therapist and intimacy specialist near Melbourne Beach, Florida.
Let’s talk about childhood trauma, whether sexual, physical, and emotional trauma.
Sexual trauma, feeling violated sexually as a child, and physical abuse can impact your marriage and sex life. When you have experiences of sexual molestation, incest, rape, or unwanted touch, these impact intimacy. Sexual trauma whether in childhood these experiences impact your sex life and intimacy.
With PTSD from childhood, the sympathetic nervous system becomes overactive, so a person lives in a state of high anxiety all of the time. The parasympathetic nervous system, responsible for your relax and digest modes, forgets how to work when your brain is always on the lookout for and identifying danger.
Furthermore, the sympathetic system is what helps us respond to a threat, elevating our heart rate and our breathing, creating the “fight-or-flight” (and freeze) response to better protect us from harm.
This emergency system, the sympathetic nervous system, is only meant to work for a short period of time. Think of your sympathetic nervous system as an ambulance response within your body. After sexual trauma, your body goes into alert mode with a hug, or any sexual touch.
Flight, fight, and freeze symptoms after sexual trauma
PTSD symptoms after sexual abuse can cause that fight, flight, or freeze responses all the time. In a heathy nervous system, your nervous system should only go in alert mode when a short-term danger is present.
People with PTSD may freeze up, like a raccoon in headlights as well as fight, or flee, when they sense danger to be present. This can occur during the most intimate moments and during sexual experiences with a trusted partner.
Suffering from PTSD can make a person feel constantly on guard and prone to exaggerated anxiety responses. Sexual trauma can lead to behaviors of sexual rejection. Space Coast Florida marriage counseling can help partners grow together after sexual abuse and unwanted touch. Understanding your spouse’s emotional triggers can help you better make you home a safe place.
To begin, book your phone consult to work with Katie Ziskind, couples therapist and intimacy specialist in Melbourne, Florida.
What are symptoms of PTSD that can cause marital conflicts?
For people who live with PTSD, the shock, anger, numbness, nervousness, fear, and even guilt they experience from a traumatic event linger and sometimes intensify. PTSD can cause the following behaviors and symptoms in your marriage.
After trauma, you may flashbacks to the event or sexual trauma experience. This can especially occur when you spouse tries to initiate sex. Additionally, after sexual trauma, you may have nightmares and have bad dreams. To add, you may suffer from emptiness, self-blame, and think negatively about yourself. There may be a sense of detachment and disconnection that brings you to tears. You may have fears of being alone and abandonment from your spouse. After experiences of sexual abuse, you may find it difficult to concentrate. It might be hard to feel motivated to goto work or even take good care of yourself.
Also, your memories of sexual trauma may be re-triggered by sexual interactions with your spouse. You might find yourself angry, having intense emotions, or crying during sexual activities.
Do you find yourself distracted or unable to concentrate when having sex with your spouse?
As well, you may find yourself distracted when having sex with your trusted partner. even though you trust your spouse, it might be hard to get intimate with them. You may be easily started after PTSD symptoms are not resolved. To add, anxious of your spouse’s sexual motives due to past trauma. Due to sexual trauma, you may avoid all sexual interactions.
As a result of sexual trauma, you may become nervous when your spouse tries to touch your body. When your spouse kisses you, reject your partner’s sexual advances. Instead of suffering from PTSD in silence, you can learn to vocalize your symptoms. As well, couples can learn to talk about how to be sexually intimate and reduce trauma and PTSD symptoms. In order to build intimacy and improve your sex life, couples therapy helps process trauma. Your spouse may have no idea why you are avoiding sex. As well, you spouse may internalizing rejection and fearing you don’t find them attractive anymore.
Katie Ziskind, marriage therapist and intimacy specialist near Melbourne Beach, Florida, teaches healthy coping strategies after trauma
Children who become adults, who have been through trauma will have trouble sleeping. Adults may choose to cope with trauma symptoms in negative ways. Unfortunately, adults who have PTSD may excessively drink alcohol, self-harm, and use drugs.
Due to PTSD symptoms, an adult may use pornography compulsively. An adult may develop a pornography addiction due to past trauma. As well, an adult may be cheating, being unfaithful, or partying. After childhood trauma, you may suffer from disordered eating habits, OCD, dieting, and extreme impulsivity. If trauma symptoms are left untreated, adults can also end up in using these negative coping tools causing dysfunctional behaviors in romantic relationships. After trauma, adults can find themselves with major trust issues in their marriage.
To begin, book your free phone consult below for more trust, closeness, intimacy, and a better sex life.
Do you want to gain more playfulness and fun in your marriage again?
When couples get together, there is often a time of fun dating. For instance, you love going out to eat in Melbourne, Florida, but feel overwhelmed with parenting. Maybe, you used to go to the park. But now, being married and having a career is stressful. You find it easy to make time to date and get together. Each of you are on the back burner. Your romance and sex life has fallen to the bottom on the to do list. It can be challenging to navigate the stressors of life when you are two ships passing in the night.
After years together, couples may become parents. It may feel like the responsibilities are overwhelming. When you have children, worries and anxiety can run high. As well, when you have sick grandparents, or even have a sibling with addiction issues these play a role in stress. When your sibling, who you share childhood memories with, has alcoholism, it can be painful. Additionally, your boss or work environment may be toxic or stressing you out. Personal stressors like having a narcissistic parent can be stressful for your marriage for sure.
Maybe, you both have very different parenting values or styles causing conflicts. When you feel like you are living on two different planets, communication skills can be positive. Marriage therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling is that time set aside each week to rebuild communication skills. From better communication and stress management skills, you can feel closer. As well, Space Coast Florida couples counseling can give you positive coping strategies for managing stress.
Learning to talk about stress and worry can be a positive part of working with a couples therapist and intimacy specialist near Melbourne Beach, Florida.
More so, marriage counseling near Cocoa Beach, Florida can provide couples in distress positive strategies. Learning mindfulness meditation, yoga, and relaxation skills is key for connection. And, when couples in counseling learn stress management skills, sexual pleasure and sexual intimacy can increase. It doesn’t feel good to feel flustered and anxious, and like your spouse doesn’t understand your needs or feelings.
Stress as a whole can take away from your sex life, ability to orgasm, and lead to low sexual desire. Furthermore, when couples don’t manage stress, they get distant. There may be conflicts and emotional distant that occur from lack of playfulness. Gaining a playful mindset is a beautiful skill, Katie Ziskind, couples therapist and intimacy specialist near Melbourne Beach, Florida, can teach you.
Maybe, you don’t like you job or have struggles with your in-law’s and how they treat you. Stress management skills are necessary for couples to better communicate. Perhaps, one of you may work long hours and you lack quality time together.
Book your free phone consult for a better sex life and tools for more emotional connection in your marriage below.
Let’s work together to get your romantic relationship feeling more fun, exciting, and strong through marriage counseling in Melbourne, Florida.
Hi, I’m Katie Ziskind, couples therapist and intimacy specialist near Melbourne Beach, Florida!
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist in Florida and Connecticut. As well, I am a holistic health expert, and the owner of Wisdom Within Counseling in Melbourne Beach, Florida as well as Niantic, Connecticut. I run a team of holistic, expressive marriage and family therapists and help families thrive. I help children, teens and am passionate about working with distant couples. On that note, I help couples after affairs develop their foundation of trust, love, and playfulness to feel safe growing together. I also help distant couples with sexual dysfunctions and intimacy issues improve their sex life and sexual pleasure.
I help couples overcome anxiety and frustration. Katie Ziskind also help couples who are struggling with depression, eating disorders, and LGBTQIA+ expression, and GI issues. These issues can impact intimacy, orgasming, closeness, and your sex life. In addition to talk therapy, couples in Melbourne Beach, Florida can take part in painting, art therapies, yoga therapies, music and drama therapies for confidence and positive coping tools. I help couples and families build calm communication tools and a loving bond after complex childhood trauma. Couples in therapy in Melbourne, Florida can also take part in meditation and yoga therapy alongside talk counseling and marriage therapy.
I have also thought hundreds of yoga classes in the last 15 years and love yoga. To add, I specialize in meditation, mind-body connection, breathing techniques, and a holistic, yogic lifestyle. I do trainings in the local area at schools, the library and for pediatricians on advocating for transgender and gender expansive teens, the gut and brain connection for adults, and educate pediatricians on teen self-harm. And, I also have my 500 hour yoga therapy training and children’s yoga trainings. In person and video sessions are available. My pronouns are she/her/hers.
In addition to Brevard County Florida, where can we help couples needing marriage therapy?
The team of intimacy and couples therapy specialists at Wisdom Within Counseling help couples in Connecticut and Florida. In Connecticut, Wisdom Within Counseling helps couples in Stamford, Stratford, Wilton, Danbury, Hartford, Litchfield, Clinton, East Lyme, Westport, Riverside, Darien, Mystic, and Stonington, Old Greenwich, Glastonbury, Meriden, Old Saybrook, Weston, and Greenwich.
Additionally, in Florida, Katie Ziskind helps distant couples in Orlando, Jacksonville, Homestead, Key Largo, Key West, Melbourne, St. Cloud, Ocala, Indian Harbor, Palm Beach, Key Biscayne, Pinecrest, Parkland, Southwest Ranches, Miami Shores, Palmetto Bay, Naples, West Palm Beach, and Miami. We offer in person counseling as well as video therapy sessions in Florida and in Connecticut.
Katie Ziskind and the team of therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling specialize with couples needing more intimacy, trust, playfulness, and secure bonding.
Due to the counseling compact, Katie Ziskind helps distressed couples in Georgia, Alabama, Mississippi, Arkansa, Louisiana, Tennessee North Carolina, Kentucky, Virginia, West Virginia, Ohio, Maryland, Delaware, Nebraska, Colorado, Wyoming, Utah, New Hampshire, and Maine.
