Recovering from an emotional or physical affair in marriage counseling
Finding out your partner is cheating breaks your world in half. You did not know that they could lie to you so well. They were manipulating you this whole time by leading you on. At one time, you actually believed them (their lies) and thought you had the same values. The marriage and honesty you once knew are gone. And, the person you thought they were is not at all who they are. They are living two fake lives and you get to feel hurt, mad, angry, and betrayed. You wanted to feel closer over time, and you thought that is what marriage was. Colchester affair and infidelity marriage counseling can help you heal.
When you drive by their affair location, do you feel angry, hot, teary, and out of balance emotionally?
Is it difficult to get the image of your partner cheating out of your head?
Building trust is not actually what was happening for your spouse. You feel taken advantage of and betrayed. Used and hurt. Angry and sad. Like yelling and crying all at the same time. The marriage vows you took and were committed to are gone, and it wasn’t your fault at all. At Wisdom Within Counseling, the team of therapists specialize in affair recovery, PTSD, trauma, and loss in marriage counseling in Colchester, Connecticut.
To begin, click the button below to schedule your phone consult for healing after an affair or cheating.
Most couples find themselves in the shattered remains of their marriage after infidelity.
Both an emotional and sexual affair count as infidelity. Maybe, your spouse sent a flirty text or lied about getting into credit card debt. Lying and secret keeping are negative parts of uncovering infidelity and an affair. Your partner may be keeping secrets and doing sabotaging things to your marriage without your knowledge. Affairs, infidelity, and secret keeping destroy commitment and trust. Even something like watching pornography, having virtual sex with someone other than your partner, or texting with an ex on social media are forms of infidelity and cheating. Essentially, there is a loss of honesty and deep betrayal in each of these. Colchester affair and infidelity marriage counseling supports you as your rebuild safety, trust and clarity.
Infidelity breaks a marriage in two, but can betrayal be healed in couples therapy?
The answer is yes. In marriage counseling, in Colchester, Connecticut, both people start talking about their pain, loss, sadness, and grief about the relationship. In couples therapy, partners get a safe, calm place to truly understand the function of secrets and lying. Affairs, emotional cheating, and infidelity can be an opportunity to rebuild from ground zero. At Wisdom Within Counseling in Colchester, Connecticut, the team of marriage and family therapists specialize with hurting couples after an affair.
If your found out your spouse has been lying, keeping secrets, or hiding, couples therapy in Colchester, Connecticut can help you gain clarity on your future.
What happens to you, after you find out your spouse has been having an affair?
Is post-traumatic stress disorder therapy helpful?
Many times, if you find your partner cheating, you will experience PTSD or even complex PTSD. PTSD therapy brings attention to your new symptoms, panic attacks, anxiety, and fears of this happening again. You may wonder if your spouse could ever actually be honest as a whole. Should you even reconsider fully trusting them again?
Will they just take advantage of you and lie all over again?
Does the image of them concealing major secrets, lying, and being deceitful make it impossible to heal?
Well, these are normal trauma and PTSD symptoms when you find out your partner is cheating. Colchester affair and infidelity marriage counseling at Wisdom Within brings you better communication. In order to heal, your spouse will need to understand your PTSD and trauma. Therapy helps couples talk about the trauma and the pain that is now present after an affair. As well, your marriage counselor at Wisdom Within Counseling has expertise in couples post affair and betrayal. When you are embarking on a trusting marriage, and you feel side swiped by your partner’s infidelity, PTSD develops. After finding out another lie or manipulation, you will often meet the criteria for post-traumatic stress disorder.
What are post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) symptoms after realizing your spouse is cheating?
Going to sleep at night may feel impossible because your brain has flashbacks to your spouse with another person. When your spouse has a romance outside of your marriage, it is heartbreaking. Colchester affair and infidelity marriage counseling helps you understand your new u and PTSD symptoms. It might feel like this is the first time you have felt all these intense emotions. You don’t feel like yourself right now. Counseling can help you create inner peace and balance to navigate these big feelings.
Does healing feel complex? Colchester affair and infidelity marriage counseling can support you.
Your children may be the joy of your life. Sharing your children brings you close together. There are moments of joy and connection. However, you cant take the cheating, lies, manipulation, or betrayal any longer.
You have these big, intense, adult emotions like anger, loss, sadness, fear, and jealousy caused by such painful experiences.
When you think about your relationship and your marriage, these intense emotions of anxiety and anger are pulsing through your body. There is so much inner conflict because at the same time you are raising children together.
An affair, infidelity, and cheating leaves you doubting your own worth as a person. Lying, secret keeping, and lack of commitment to your marriage cause you to feel hurt, tired, overwhelmed, stressed, and shocked.
You may not even want to sleep in the same bed because you feel so much betrayal.
It may feel like you don’t know your spouse anymore like you used to when you first began dating. It is normal to have flashbacks of negative memories with PTSD and trauma.
Laying in bed or driving yourself to work, loss, anger, tears, and frustrations flow out of your eyes, mouth, and body.
You have never felt this much uneasiness, panic, or anger before in your life. Being cheated on creates a PTSD response in your nervous system. The sense of trust you thought was there is ripped away leaving a hurting wound.
What is it like to have trauma from an affair?
Your spouse tries to hug you and you pull away feeling they don’t deserve your love anymore. Because of the infidelity, cheating, and affair, you do not want to let your spouse get closer. You are afraid of restoring commitment and giving them another chance. It feels hurtful and painful to think about your marriage in this state of loss, betrayal, and anger.
Sometimes, the heart break and loss of trust you feel causes you to cry non stop and feels so overwhelming.
Why is it important to work with a marriage therapist who is an affair and infidelity specialist?
An infidelity specialist will understand trauma and the intense trauma responses that your brain, body and life will go through.
Rage, tears, anger, fears of abandonment, panic, anxiety, jealousy, and betrayal all come out of no where.
Your marriage counselor who specializes in affairs, trauma, and infidelity can help you heal from these intense feelings. You feel like you want to try to work it out since you have children together. However, at the same time, you know you want to take back what is left of yourself and sanity. Living with someone who lied like this to you makes you feel like you’re living in a mine field. Walking on eggshells is no way to live or be in love./
What is trauma after finding out your spouse in cheating, lying or being dishonest like?
One day, you start to feel safe again and become playful, and maybe intimate physically. But, you feel afraid to open up at the same time. You wonder if you can ever truly trust again.
The next moment, your mind is flooded with remembering the negative impact of your spouse’s lies, cheating and secretive, manipulative behaviors.
You think back to your life and you had good parents who taught you honesty. Your spouse didn’t have an easy childhood, but that is not your fault. Working with a specialist means you have a marriage therapist who understand complex PTSD. As well, holistic PTSD marriage therapy supports trauma in a unique, peaceful, mind-body way. Art therapies, yoga therapies, music therapies and drama therapies support the release of trauma, anger, pain, and hurt.
To begin, click the button below for a phone consult to work with a trauma and PTSD marriage therapist to gain self-worth back after an affair or infidelity.
Couples therapy after an affair in Colchester, Connecticut can help you both heal, and finally communicate together. Infidelity creates trauma symptoms and PTSD in the spouse who finds out about it. As well, the holistic process of weekly couples therapy for infidelity at Wisdom Within Counseling helps you and your spouse talk openly about this pain and trauma. Many times, a general therapist doesn’t have the specific training to understand how affair and cheating negatively cause PTSD. Unfortunately, a general therapists blame the person who was cheated on for not being sexual enough.
As well, many couples post affair come to Wisdom Within Counseling because a past therapist told them to ”get over it” too quickly or ”stop talking about it.”
Being a group of PTSD and trauma specialists, saying, ”get over it,” is not okay. After cheating, saying this actually creates more trauma. At Wisdom Within Counseling, affairs, betrayals, trauma symptoms, and emotional pain are a speciality. We nurture you with compassion and give you a coping tool box. Importantly, general therapists do not have the extensive training or passion to work with the intense, deep trauma that affair and cheating causes in your marriage. Colchester affair and infidelity marriage counseling supports couples in healing together after complex trauma. You can rebuild trust and understand each other better than ever before.
In Colchester, Connecticut, marriage counseling helps you and your spouse have better communication tools for lifelong moments of meaningful connection.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, marriage therapy post affair and infidelity supports hurting couples in communicating in positive ways. It might feel overwhelming yo communicate about what you feel. Your spouse may be angry or upset you found out they were cheating. When you found out, they denied, they pulled away emotionally, and were not fully transparent. You are afraid that your spouse, as great of a parenting that they are, will not be able to be honest.
To begin, click the button below for a phone consult for counseling to communicate your emotional pain and betrayal after finding out about an affair and infidelity.
In marriage counseling after infidelity, cheating, affairs, or dishonesty, you get a chance to openly communicate about betrayal, anger, and your hurt feelings.
Your marriage therapist who specializes in trauma, PTSD, cheating and affairs will help your spouse gain understanding for the negative and severe impact of their actions. In marriage therapy, if you were cheated on, your spouse will be held accountable to owning what they have done.
Wisdom Within Counseling specializes in couples therapy after infidelity, cheating and helping couples repair meaningful connection and gain clarity.
Often, your cheating spouse may not know how to take accountability, live with integrity, or be honest with themselves. Marriage counseling after cheating at Wisdom Within supports you in sharing your values of honesty and setting healthy boundaries with your spouse. Affairs and cheating on is not what you deserve.
After finding out your spouse has an affair, holistic couples therapy helps you rebuild your self-worth.
From experiencing dishonesty, an affair, cheating and betrayal, you may doubt your own worth. You are even begining to believe that being cheated on is normal or permissible. Essentially, your couples therapist, who specializes with trauma and PTSD, can help you rebuild trust and understand negative signs of mistrust upfront. Working with a PTSD and trauma specialist when it comes to infidelity and marriage counseling in Colchester, Connecticut can help you rebuild confidence and mental clarity. Over time, you can learn to connect to your feelings of betrayal, anger, sadness, and loss. Essentially, it is normal to need to process loss, anger, and grief in Colchester affair and infidelity marriage counseling. You will have grief about the marriage you thought you were creating after an affair is found out. Right now, it feels like the carpet is being pulled out from under your feet learning these things about your spouse.
The team at Wisdom Within Counseling in Colchester, Connecticut specializes with PTSD, trauma symptoms, emotional and physical cheating, and manipulative secret keeping.
Colchester affair and infidelity marriage counseling helps you talk about painful emotions in healing ways.
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