For transgender teenagers, coming out to their siblings can be a daunting experience. There may be fear of rejection or alienation. Siblings are often the first people that transgender teens come out to and confide in. And, their reactions can have a significant impact on the transgender teen’s well-being. At Wisdom Within Counseling, the team of therapists specialize with non-binary and transgender teens. Family therapy can support the coming out process and family acceptance. Sibling relationships play a huge role in reducing anxiety, depression, and suicidal ideation. To add, the process of transgender teens coming out to their siblings can be positive with family therapy. Transgender teen counseling can boost self-esteem, foster self-confidence, and self-exploration.
LGBTQIA+ family therapy can help family members be supportive, caring, and open minded.
Working with the LGBTQIA+ affirming therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling can be helpful.
Furthermore, family members can explore the challenges that transgender teens face when coming out to their siblings. LGBTQIA+ affirming counseling can help family understand why it is important to come out to siblings.
As well, family therapy can be about how parents and siblings can support transgender teens during this process. Wisdom Within Counseling specializes in supporting LGBTQIA+ expressive, transgender teens in coming out to siblings and parents.
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Challenges of Coming Out to Siblings
One of the biggest challenges of coming out to siblings is the fear of rejection or negative reactions. A sibling who lacks education on transgender identity may have a negative reaction.
To add, transgender teens may have high levels of anxiety when coming out to their sibling. Transgender teens may worry that their siblings will not understand or accept them. As well, transgender teenagers may feel apprehensive to talk about their gender identity with their sibling. Coming out can be anxiety provoking, incredibly isolating, and discouraging.
Cisgender siblings may have a difficult time understanding what being transgender means.
As well, from not knowing other transgender people, a sibling may be confused. Additionally, siblings may have a negative view of the LGBTQIA+ community. Negative views regarding transgender people are often due to societal stigmas and misinformation. Growing up in a strict, religious home can make coming out very challenging for a transgender teenager.
Counseling helps siblings process the emotions they may be experiencing
Additionally, siblings may feel like they are losing the person they knew before. Counseling can support the many emotions such as grief and excitement, that can come along with having a transgender sibling. Using they/them pronouns may be an adjustment for a sibling. Family therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling can help siblings become more familiar with their sibling’s gender identity. Siblings may struggle to adjust to their sibling’s new gender identity.
Another challenge that transgender teens face when coming out to their siblings is the fear of being treated differently. Transgender teens may worry that their siblings will treat them differently or distance themselves from them after coming out. Siblings can also become bullies and be very mean. It can be scary to have a close relationship one day and then be treated poorly the next. A transgender teenager may also worry that their siblings will tell others without their permission. Transgender teenagers may fear that their sibling will out them to their parents, potentially leading to unwanted disclosures and discrimination. Transgender teen counseling helps with open communication within your family. Siblings and transgender teens can become more close and improve communication.
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Why It Is Important to Come Out to Siblings
Despite the challenges, coming out to siblings is an important step in the transition process for transgender teens. Siblings can provide a valuable support system for transgender teens. As well, siblings can offer emotional support that friends and parents simply can’t. Furthermore, siblings can offer encouragement and acceptance.
Coming out to siblings can also help transgender teens feel more comfortable and confident in their identity. When a sibling is affirming and accepting, a transgender teen is at a much lower risk for self-harm. Family acceptance also puts a transgender teenager at a lower risk for suicidal thinking. Overall, sibling and family acceptance leads to better mental health outcomes.
Moreover, siblings can play a critical role in advocating for their transgender sibling.
Siblings can stand up to bullies. As well, siblings help educate others on what being transgender means. Siblings can challenge negative stereotypes and misinformation, and support their sibling in their journey.
Wisdom Within Counseling specializes in the process of transgender teens coming out. Parents, siblings, and family members can learn to be LGBTQIA+ affirming. Siblings can also play a role in creating a safe and welcoming environment for their transgender sibling. When a transgender sibling feel safe, this helps to foster a sense of belonging and acceptance. Transgender teens deeply need their home environment to be a place to belong. Feeling acceptance and belong at home, rather than rejection, supports confidence.
Transgender teen counseling at Wisdom Within teaches positive coping tools.
Identifying emotions like anger, jealousy, anxiety, and loss are key parts of coming out. Likewise, learning to cope with anxiety, depression, and bullying can be a part of therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling. Transgender teens face more bullying, marginalization, and prejudice than cisgender teenagers. Queer, non-binary, intersex, gay, lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, and asexual teens need to work with an LGBTQIA+ specialist. Wisdom Within Counseling helps teenagers learn self-regulation tools and self-soothing skills.
In general, our LGBTQIA+ teen therapists offer holistic coping tools to address intense emotions. Transgender teen counseling fosters lifelong cope tools and strategies. Creative art, yoga, music, and outdoor walking therapy can be a part of LGBTQIA+ affirming transgender teen counseling.
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How do we gain misinformation about gender?
From a young age, we learn about what being a boy or a girl means from society. Gender stereotypes can be very challenging for transgender people. Teachers, friends, family members, and religious leaders teach us about gender. However, most times they are misinforming us.
Someone is not male or female simply based on their biological sex organs. A transgender person identifies differently than their physical sex organs. Transgender people feel differently on the inside from how they look on the outside. Often times, transgender teenagers feel ashamed, bullied, inferior, and worried because they are different than cisgender teenagers.
Part of family therapy to support transgender youth means overcoming misinformation. Your Wisdom Within Counseling family therapist can support LGBTQIA+ affirming education. You can learn that anyone of any gender can act and feel masculine, feminine, neither, or both. There are many different ways for people to identify in terms of gender, sexual orientation, and express themselves. Families in counseling can learn about term transgender.
As well, family counseling for transgender teens can help parents and siblings no there is no right way to be.
There is no one way for someone to be. Every person and teenager has their own personal process to coming out. At first, a teenager might be unsure about their gender and a therapist can help a teenager understand their feelings. Additionally, family therapy can help teenagers, siblings, and parents overcome negative stigmas regarding transgender people. Family therapy can offer advice around coming out and increase a family’s understanding of LGBTQIA+.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, we are inclusive of LGBTQIA+ youth.
LGBTQIA+ inclusivity in counseling means we support lesbian, gay, bisexual, non-binary, queer, gender non-conforming, and transgender youth and teenagers.
When coming out, it’s very important to be accepting as a sibling. Transgender people need sibling and family support to live fully as themselves. To note, a teenager should never feel forced to have to dress a certain way to fit in, in their family. Parents should never tell their teenager to stop being a certain way.
Unfortunately, many parents and siblings make core mistakes that family therapy and transgender teen counseling can help families heal from.
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What shouldn’t you do as a parent when you have a transgender teenager?
Parents should never diminish their teen’s voice saying what their teen is going through is “just a phase.” This can be very hurtful. Parents should never be critical, belittle, or intentionally hurt their teen. As well, parents should understand how emotional abuse can be just as damaging as physical abuse. Many times, highly religious parents who are homophobic and transphobic act out of fear and become abusive. As well, parents should never become physically abusive or try to smack, punch, or use fear tactics to scare their teen out of being transgender. Family therapy can help parents create an emotionally safe home for their children and teens.
The impact of parental emotional abuse, threats, and criticism on transgender teens
When teenagers face this abusive treatment from parents, a teen may grow up and cut their parent out of their life entirely. Family estrangements are very common when parents act in emotionally unsafe and abusive ways. Family counseling while your teen is living in your home can help foster a lifelong positive relationship with them into adult years.
For instance, parents and siblings should not tell a transgender teen to stop wearing nail polish, stop wearing make up, or to dress in a certain color. Therapy can help parents understand, become open minded, and look at their own upbringing. Growing up, parents may be socialized with very limiting beliefs around gender. Family therapy can helps parents learn to connect and relate to their transgender teenager.
Family therapy and transgender teen counseling can help parents and teens communicate better.
From counseling, parents can ask for a redo, and learn to be accountable, when they have made past mistakes. Part of helping a transgender teen feeling secure in themselves comes from having a strong, healthy parent child relationship. Any criticism or abuse from family members or siblings can lead a transgender teen to become self-critical and even hate themselves. When transgender teenagers face hatred from family members, self-harm and suicidal thoughts increase drastically. Instead, seeking the support from Wisdom Within Counseling supports playfulness, curiosity, and bonding within your family.
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Awareness of generational patterns and unhealthy stereotypes are parts of family therapy
Parents can gain insight in family therapy regarding their own negative upbringing. To note, parents may not realize how they are continuing negative, critical, and hurtful generational patterns of communication. Therapy helps parents hold themselves accountable and understand positive parenting styles.
Furthermore, family therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling can help parents understand that they may unconsciously be doing the negative things their own parents did to them. For instance, a parent of a transgender teen may have had a domineering, critical parent, and now they are being critical to their transgender child.
It is powerful to look at how you were raised, what you saw was normal, and be a witness to your own growth. A parent can learn from counseling how not to be like the cricial parent that raised them, that they grew to dislike and avoid.
From working with the therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling, families can become closer, open, and honest.
Parents can learn about the traits they learned form their own parents. As well, from counseling parents can learn how they are bringing negative behavioral traits around gender into their relationship with their transgender teen. To add, transgender teen counseling at Wisdom Within helps parents become affirming by gaining an open mind. Family therapy helps parents and their transgender teens feel a sense of connection and curiously understand one another.
What age do transgender people come out?
Many times, when teenagers grow up in strict, religious homes, they hide how they really feel and stuff away their gender identity. Transgender people come out at all different stages and ages. A teenager who is accepted by their parents, may come out around eleven or fifteen years of age.
Whereas, a teenager who grows up in a highly religious home with homophobic parents, may wait until their parents have passed away to come out as transgender to avoid being rejected. This person may come out at 55 years old.
Essentially, everyone has their own process of being ready to come out as transgender. Individual and family therapy can help transgender teens become honest with themselves. As well, therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling can help transgender teens to discover how they are feeling about their gender identity.
What Is The First Step In Coming Out As Transgender?
The first step of coming out is coming out to yourself. Self acceptance and self love are very important for transgender people. A transgender teenager can talk with their LGBTQIA+ therapist about their gender identity. Therapy can include talk about different LGBTQIA+ definitions found on the internet.
Additionally, watching videos of other transgender people and gender non-conforming people can help a transgender teenager understand how they feel. Coming out to yourself and being yourself are key parts of coming out to a sibling or parents.
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How Parents Can Support Transgender Teens Coming Out to Siblings
Notably, parents play a critical role in supporting their transgender teen when coming out to siblings.
On that note, here are some tips for parents to help support their transgender teen in coming out to their sibling:
Encourage open communication.
Support and encourage your transgender teen to have an open and honest conversation with their siblings. Be there, as a parent, to ensure their siblings are kind. Let them know that you support their decision to come out as transgender. As well, let their siblings know you expect respect in your home and will not tolerate bullying. Let your transgender teen you are there to help them navigate the process.
Provide education.
Give your children age-appropriate information about what it means to be transgender. There are a plethora of children’s books on gender diversity. For instance, “Julian Is A Mermaid,” “Jacob’s New Dress,” “My Awesome Brother,” Dotson,” “Phoenix Goes To School,” “She’s My Dad!” “Being Jazz,” are just a few.
Reading books about transgender people can be very positive. Gaining LGBTQIA+ education can dispel myths and negative stereotypes. Reading LGBTQIA+ affirming books helps siblings better understand and accept their transgender sibling. Additionally, reading about The Trevor Project and P Flag can be positive.
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Set boundaries.
Talk to your children about the importance of keeping their sibling’s identity confidential and not sharing it with others without their permission. Setting boundaries can help prevent unwanted disclosures and discrimination.
Seek support such as at Wisdom Within Counseling.
Consider seeking support from a therapist or counselor who specializes in working with transgender youth. At Wisdom Within Counseling, our team of therapists specialize in LGBTQIA+ expressive children and teens. A therapist can provide guidance and support for both the transgender teen and their family. Family therapy and individual therapy for the teen helps in navigating the coming out process and any challenges that may arise. There may be additional challenges with friendships, dating, school avoidance, losses of grandparents, moves, parental divorce, and eating disorders that may also be present. Teens are facing school issues, frustrations with a part-time job, fitting in, competing in sports, learning to drive, as well as friendship and communication skills. Transgender teen counseling can help with obsessive thoughts.
Family therapy can reduce family arguments and improve emotional safety within your home.
Counseling in a family therapy setting gives parents, siblings, and LGBTQIA+ teens time to ask questions. In general, queer and transgender teen counseling fosters positive coping strategies. No matter what difficult, intense emotion your teen is facing, LGBTQIA+ affirming and transgender teen counseling supports outlets.
Rather than self-harm as a result of bullying and low self-esteem, transgender teen counseling supports self-confidence and self-acceptance.
Therefore, the team at Wisdom Within Counseling can address all of the stressors your transgender teen may be facing. Therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling helps teach positive coping strategies using art, yoga, music, and walking therapies in nature.
How Siblings Can Support Transgender Teens
Siblings can also play a vital role in supporting their transgender sibling during the coming out process.
Here are some tips for siblings to help support their transgender sibling:
Siblings can listen.
Be there and listen to your sibling and try to understand their perspective. Also, ask questions and show interest in their experience. Be curious and don’t judge your sibling. Perhaps, you and your sibling can read a book together like the “Heartstopper” series and talk about the main character’s coming out process.
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Educate yourself as a sibling.
As well, educate yourself on what it means to be transgender. Read books, watch videos, and talk to others who have gone through similar experiences. Youtube videos can be educational as well as netflix movies. Essentially, each person’s experience of identifying as transgender looks different.
Be supportive.
Let your sibling know that you support them and accept them for who they are. No matter how your sibling identifies, love them just as they are. Continue to check in on them, ask about their day, and be supportive. Be there for them and offer emotional support.
Now, if your sibling feels uncomfortable talking to your parents about their gender identity, see if you being there for the conversation would be supportive.
Advocate for your transgender sibling.
Also, advocate for your sibling by challenging negative stereotypes and misinformation. Politely correct friends or family members if they misgender your transgender sibling.
Likewise, help create a safe and welcoming environment for your sibling. For instance, put a rainbow flag in your bedroom to symbolize it is an accepting space. You can even put a rainbow flag sticker on your school binder to show support.
The team at Wisdom Within Counseling supports transgender, non-binary, queer, bisexual, lesbian and gay teenagers.
Teenagers are in a stage of experimentation and personal exploration. A teenager who comes out as transgender still may not be 100% sure. At times, gender identity is very fluid. Therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling can be a safe and private space to talk about who you are as a person.
To begin, click below for a phone consult for LGBTQIA+ transgender family counseling for better communication skills.
To add, LGBTQIA+ queer affirming therapy can also help transgender teenagers be less swayed by influences of their peers.
Instead of trying to change themselves to fit in, therapy can support transgender teenagers in being their authentic self. As well, LGBTQIA+ affirming therapy can be a liberating experience where teenagers can gain coping tools for anxiety and depression. Wisdom Within Counseling offers a mix of creative art, yoga, and music therapies to help teenagers unload the burden of social shame.
Friendship issues may be a challenge for your teenager alongside food or in the eating disorder. Family therapy can help siblings and parents be supportive of their transgender teen and other transgender people. This might mean going to transgender affirming events or a pride parade as a family.
To note, LGBTQIA+ teen therapy helps teenagers develop a sense of ease and acceptance with themselves. Part of this process means getting education, breaking down stereotypes around gender, and overcoming transgender myths.
A LGBTQIA+ therapist at Wisdom Within Counseling can help siblings and parents overcome transphobia and homophobia. If parents or siblings have negative emotional reactions, family therapy is necessary. As well, family therapy can be a safe place to foster healing and repair damaged parent child relationships. The last thing a transgender teenager needs to feel rejected and ostracized by their parents and siblings. Overall, Wisdom Within Counseling specializes with transgender teens and their families.
Wisdom Within Counseling is a group of transgender teen therapists who specialize in LGBTQIA+ queer youth.
To note, transgender teen counseling can foster self-confidence, a healthy sense of self, and self-love tools. Many times, we don’t get a space space to talk about gender identity, sexuality, or the coming out process.
Wisdom Within Counseling supports transgender, queer, non-binary, and gender diverse teenagers in coming out
Coming out to siblings can be a challenging experience for transgender teens, but it is an important step in the transition process. Siblings can provide valuable support and advocacy for their transgender sibling. Additionally, siblings play a key part in helping a transgender teen feel more comfortable and confident in their identity.
Parents and siblings can play a critical role in supporting transgender teens during this process. Some ways to show LGBTQIA+ affirming support include providing education to others on what it means to be transgender. Also, siblings and parents can set boundaries and offer emotional support. With the right support and resources, transgender teens can navigate the coming out process and thrive in their new identity. Overall, the team of LGBTQIA+ therapists would love to help you and your transgender teen communicate better. Reducing anger, overcoming fear, and showing curiosity are benefits of LGBTQIA+ family therapy. From there, parents and teens can create a foundation for a long lasting, strong relationship.
