Why do couples want to try Tolland sex, inimtacy and marriage counseling in Connecticut?
Couples in Tolland, Connecticut may reach out for a sex and intimacy therapy for a number of different reasons. Intimacy and sex therapy can help couples create a deeper level of physical connection through a better, more satisfying sex life. When it comes to improving your sex life, there are both emotional and physical aspects that need to be considered. Working in Tolland sex, inimtacy and marriage counseling can give you a safe space to process emotions like anxiety, worry, frustration, rejection, and joy. If you have issues orgasming, feel vaginal sex if painful, experience low sexual desire, or sexual dysfunctions, Wisdom Within Counseling can help. Wisdom Within Counseling also helps couples where on or both people struggle to have an orgasm. At times both women and men may have challenges reaching and experiencing an orgasm.
You might be wanting a safe place to try out new sex toys, outfits, role play, and need a kink affirming and sex positive therapist. Maybe, you and your partner want to explore power dynamics, submissive, and dominant roles, or even consensual non-monogamy.
Sex, marriage, and intimacy therapy teaches couples different techniques to overcome different sexual dysfunctions, fears, emotional hurdles, and communication issues.
Lack of sex education is a great reason to start in Tolland sex, inimtacy and marriage counseling in Connecticut
Was talking about sex growing up was a short, awkward conversation that your caregivers or parents hoped would be enough?
Or, did you parents or caregivers try to use scare tactics saying you would die if you had sex before marriage?
Do you want a safe place to talk about sex, your body, your partner’s body, sexual desires, and build sexual confidence?
You might be wondering what areas on your partner’s body should be touched during sexual activities. Sometimes, couples struggle with lack of sex education.
They do not know how to find certain body parts and don’t know what each truly need sexually to feel satisfied. Pornography is not proper sex education. But, that is where so much of our education comes from.
Couples therapy can be a safe place to have sex positive conversations
Growing up, we never learn about sexual health, sexual pleasure, or sexual anatomy. Many adults can not name sex organs on the opposite gender or themselves without laughing or feeling awkward. Adults may also feel shame and guilt saying certain body parts and need confidence to talk about sex.
Female sexual anatomy is a big part of couples, intimacy, and sex therapy.
Often, couples come to sex therapy to better understand what body parts support sexual pleasure and orgasming.
Couples, intimacy, and sex therapy can help partners understand erogenous zones in foreplay. Supporting the female orgasms is a wonderful part of what couples can learn in sex therapy. For instance, regarding female anatomy, the clitoris is key when it comes to sexual pleasure.
Women more easily feel sexual satisfaction and sexual pleasure from clitoral stimulation over vaginal penetration.
If a woman has not had a clitoral orgasm, vaginal penetration will feel painful and uncomfortable.
When a woman experiences an orgasm before vaginal penetration, her vaginal area becomes wider and deeper and more lubricated. Orgasming before vaginal penetration is key in helping a female feel sexually ready and eager for vaginal penetration.
Many male partners and females themselves may not realize the importance of the clitoris.
The clitoris is such a small part of the female body, but so powerful for sexual pleasure.
Men are not educated on female sexual pleasure as all education they attain is from pornography. Unfortunately, many male partners do not know how to find the clitoris or where it is on the female body to support the female sexual pleasure and orgasm.
Marriage, intimacy, and sex therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling can help male partners feel confident finding and stimulating a female’s clitoris to support an orgasm.
To begin, click the button below to book your phone consult for Tolland sex, inimtacy and marriage counseling for an amazing sex life.
Tolland, Connecticut sex, inimtacy and marriage counseling can help couples find the clitoris to support female sexual pleasure
Clitoral stimulation can support the female orgasm more than vaginal penetration can. When can orgasm more easily from clitoral stimulation from oral sex, touching with fingers, or a vibrator.
A lot of men, females, and couples do not know how to find the clitoris in order to stimulate it to support sexual pleasure. Encouraging women to relax and receive is key in female sexual pleasure.
Understanding and being confident in female anatomy is a benefit from marriage, sex, and intimacy therapy
Working with a sex and intimacy therapist at Wisdom Within Counseling in Connecticut can help partners identify where the clitoris is on the female body. It is a small dot that when a female is turned on, becomes engorged and larger. Touching the clitoris in the process of foreplay give a female a massive amount of sexual pleasure.
Foreplay, teasing, flirting, massage, and clitoral stimulation can support a healthier, more satisfying sex life.
Also, learning about male and female sexual anatomy can give partners confidence when pleasuring themselves and one another.
Often, couples are avoiding these sexual topics of conversation as they can lead to shame, guilt, anxiety, and rejection. Talking about female sexual pleasure in counseling leads to greater emotional intimacy. And, emotional safety and emotional intimacy is essential and necessary for a good sex life.
Marriage, sex, and intimacy therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling can help you overcome different sexual dysfunctions, communication issues, or sexual problems your face.
Tolland sex, inimtacy and marriage counseling in Connecticut can benefit couples in many ways
Sex intimacy therapy can help treat female and male sexual dysfunctions. Commonly, there are both physical and emotional elements when it comes to treating sexual dysfunction through sex therapy.
Many times, sexual dysfunctions for men and women lead to challenges, rejection, anxiety, and tense emotions around future sexual activities. One female sexual dysfunction is painful sexual intercourse.
To begin, click the button below to book your phone consult for Tolland sex, inimtacy and marriage counseling for an amazing sex life.
Sex, intimacy, and marriage counseling can help when a woman experiences painful intercourse
When sex is painful, females may develop low desire disorders, trouble orgasming, or avoid sexual activities all together. As well, females who find sex painful may show a disinterest in sex. A woman may wince or show pain on her face when having vaginal sex that is painful.
Without the help of a sex, intimacy, and marriage therapist, a female’s partner may feel rejection, unimportant, or confused as to why she no longer wants to be intimate. At times, painful intercourse can be due to vaginal dryness or in adequate natural lubrication.
There can be many reasons that cause painful sex that your sex and intimacy therapist at Wisdom Within Counseling can address. If you are experiencing painful sex, one way to play around at home is to make out, flirt, tease, and lengthen foreplay.
How does lack of foreplay lead to a dissatisfying, painful sex life?
Many times, inadequate foreplay will lead to a lack of lubrication and wetness. When a male inserts his penis into a female’s vagina, it is very painful for the female. Sex and intimacy therapy in Connecticut can teach male partners about foreplay and how much time women actually need to feel warmed up sexually.
Often, women need to be prepared through out an entire day to feel sexually aroused by afternoon or evening. Females have less spontaneous desire than males do. Foreplay in at a minimum should be 45-90 minutes before vaginal penetration occurs.
Sex and intimacy therapy can encourage and normalize the use of lubricants. If painful sex is an issue, using lubricants in foreplay can reduce friction, burning and chaffing.
What is foreplay when it comes to sex, marriage and intimacy therapy in Connecticut anyway?
As well, foreplay can include dirty talk, sexy texts, talking about sexual pleasure, massages, making out, french kissing, and so much more. Foreplay is the beginning that also helps a woman’s mind get connected to her body.
As well, foreplay helps a female sexual part feel desired, wanted, and attractive. Feeling emotionally attractive is an important aspect for women to become sexually aroused and turned on. For instance, part of sexual arousal for women includes consent and feeling respected.
Do females and males need different things sexually?
The female body has different sexual needs than the male body does. Male partners may find their body is sexually aroused more quickly than their female partner’s.
Erotic audiobooks and reading erotic books can be parts of foreplay for building sexual desire. Foreplay can be passionate, fun, adventurous, and loving without the pressure of it needing to lead to sexual penetration.
Couples, intimacy, and sex therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling can also help couples talk about sexual desires more openly. No matter your age, you and your partner can have an amazing, positive, and orgasmic sex life.
Sex and intimacy therapy in Connecticut at Wisdom Within Counseling can offer education on female sexual arousal needs.
Lengthening foreplay helps a woman’s body physically and sexually become aroused. From kissing, foot rubs, listening to erotic material and books, and foreplay, a woman will become sexually aroused. Foreplay can also include sexy talk and dirty talk in a consensual way.
For instance, a woman’s clitoris will become engorged with blood when she feels sexy. Her clitoris will swell and throb as she becomes more sexually aroused and turned on. Then, her partner can go for it and touch her clitoris over her clothing, building the heat even more.
How to know a female is sexually aroused or turned on?
As a female becomes more sexually aroused, a female’s nipples will become erect too. Her body will begin to sweat. When this clitoral swelling occurs, this is also a sign her vagina is becoming more wet and naturally lubricated. A woman’s body needs 45-90 minutes to become sexually aroused. In the process of becoming turned on sexually, a female’s vulva and vagina will become wet and naturally lubricated. Wisdom Within Counseling supports couples in building a playful, meaningful, LGBTQIA+, kink positive sex life.
Tolland sex, inimtacy and marriage counseling in Connecticut supports proper sexual health education.
In couples counseling, you can learn skills for lengthening foreplay, touching erogenous zones, and supporting satisfying, pleasurable sex. Sex toys can also be a fun, adventurous part of lengthening foreplay for more pleasurable sex.
If you are a female, and you suffer from painful sex, it is possible with the help of a sex and intimacy therapist to have an amazing sex life.
Couples therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling supports painless, orgasmic, and enjoyable sexual experiences
With a few techniques from sex and intimacy therapy, couples can learn about how to prepare the female body and learn about savoring the sensual experiences before sex. A longer, more passionate foreplay will help a female become more eager and excited for more touch and ready for vaginal intercourse.
Unfortunately, pornography does not show adequate foreplay either.
Only in sex, intimacy, and marriage therapy in Connecticut do couples get a safe place to learn about adequate foreplay and a healthy sex life. Couples can ask questions in a judgement free space at Wisdom Within Counseling.
So, if a male partner is used to watching porn, he may not understand what his female partner needs to feel sexually pleased and become more eager. And, many adults are getting sexual information and all they know about sex from pornography.
BDSM is a great reason to reach out to work with an intimacy and sex therapist
Wisdom Within Counseling in Connecticut can support partners in expressing BDSM and kink desires and roles.
Some women may want to be spanked, tied up, or restrained in some way. Women may have fears about expressing these kinky desires to her partner, especially if her partner is more vanilla. Marriage, intimacy, and sex therapy can be a safe place to talk about trying new sex toys, roles, and exploring diverse sexual activities. Being a part of the the BDSM community and practicing submissive and dominant roles can be very positive for couples who want to try that. The team at Wisdom Within Counseling in Connecticut are affirming to the BDSM community.
Why work with the team at Wisdom Within Counseling in Connecticut if you want to explore kink and BDSM?
A more traditional couples therapist may get freaked out or become scared when couples start talking about BDSM and kink. If you start talking about BDSM or kink to a non-affirming therapist, you may be told to stop. Unfortunately, kink and BDSM, which are consensual, get confused with domestic violence and physical abuse.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, we support consensual power dynamics, pleasure, and pain in sexual experiences.
Sensation play, teasing, and kinks are much more common that one may imagine. There is a large population of people who enjoy power dynamics in sexual activities. BDSM can lead to a high level of sexual arousal due to the respect and consensual boundaries discussed beforehand.
What are submissive and dominant relationships in the bedroom?
Some people like to be in control and make others obey. In a basic sense, they often take a dominant role. As well, some people may like to be told what to do and take a submissive role. Some people stay in these roles and other people switch between being dominant and submissive. BDSM and kink can be a healthy and healing part of consensual sexual play. In a positive submissive and dominant relationship, a person inflicting intense sensations wants to know that their partner enjoys it and finds pleasure in the pain too.
With consent from a submissive partner, a dominant may enjoy inflicting verbal degradation, physical pain, or humiliation. For each person, what they like to do or have done to their body is different.
Some couples may want to try exploring BDSM and want to learn more in marriage, intimacy, and sex therapy.
These are discussed beforehand in a positive, calm way. A submissive partner may become very turned on from degradation or humiliation play in a consensual way. There is an endorphin rush that comes from BDSM for all people involved.
Contrary to what many may perceive about the BDSM community, many dominant people have a deep level of empathy. Taking part in BDSM is always consensual and often gets mixed up with domestic violence or abuse due to lack of education. Couples and sex therapy can ensure you and your partner are taking part in safe BDSM play.
To begin, click the button below to book your phone consult for Tolland sex, inimtacy and marriage counseling for an amazing sex life.
What are other reasons to reach out for sex, inimtacy, and marriage therapy in Connecticut?
Sex and intimacy therapy can help you learn to orgasm
Additionally, in Connecticut, Tolland sex, inimtacy and marriage counseling helps women who want to reach and experience an orgasm. Many women may not know if they have had an orgasm. Maybe, as a female, you have always faked orgasms to make your partner feel good. Or, you have always wondered how other people can orgasm, but you can’t seem to have one. As well, if a female feels she doesn’t deserve to experience sexual pleasure or orgasm due to cultural and religious view, therapy can help.
There can be personal limitations and self-sabotaging beliefs that can get in the way of pleasure. If you are a female and want to experience an orgasm, Sex and intimacy therapy can help you have a pleasurable, massive orgasm, and multiple orgasms too. If you have challenges orgasming, Wisdom Within Counseling can help.
To begin, click the button below to book your phone consult for Tolland sex, inimtacy and marriage counseling for an amazing sex life.
Orgasming for females and multiple orgasms
The female body has a shorter refractory period. This means that it is more possible for females to have multiple orgasms. Once a female learns to experience one orgasm, she can learn to have as many more as she would like.
There are many benefits to orgasming, which can help motivate you to go for one too.
With each orgasm, the brain release more oxytocin, a natural pain reliever.
As well, dopamine and serotonin, feel good chemicals, flow after each orgasm as well. These are the same chemicals released by the brain after exercising and are natural mood stabilizers. So, orgasming can be a wonderful part of a sexual activities, that do not have to lead to vaginal penetration as well.
Sex, intimacy, and marriage therapy can help female and male sexual dysfunctions.
For men, sexual dysfunction can include erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, anxiety about sex, as well as body image issues.
Marriage, intimacy, and sex therapy in Tolland, Connecticut can help males and females overcome different sexual dysfunctions. With sexual dysfunctions, couples therapy can help with processing the emotional components. Many times, with sexual dysfunctions, couples can feel anxious, apprehensive, or reluctant about future sexual activities.
Differences in libido and sex drive lead couples to reach out for sex, intimacy, and marriage therapy
Couples can get into disagreements when partners have different sex drives and sexual needs
By working with a Tolland, Connecticut sex, marriage, and intimacy therapist, you and your partner can process different emotions. Differences in libido and sex drive differences can lead to sadness, rejection, frustration, fears, and confusion.
When partners have differences in libido, sex therapy can help partners understand one another. Sometimes, one person in a relationship has a higher libido than the other person.
What does having a higher libido or higher sex drive mean in a relationship?
This means that one person desires and craves sexual activities more often during the week than the other person. As a result, when one person has a higher libido or higher sex drive, there can be frustration and even sadness.
For the person who wants more sex and who has a higher libido, they may feel rejection when their lower libido partner turns them down.
Additionally, a person who has a lower libido may feel anxiety that all touch from their partner has to lead to sex.
Couples with libido and sex drive differences need help talking about the emotions and pressure that builds.
Talking with a marriage, sex, and intimacy therapist in Tolland, Connecticut can help couples pay attention to these differences in libido. As well, couples can learn to use a variety of different techniques to feel more relaxed around sexual activities.
Learning to self-pleasure and masturbate can be a part of Tolland sex, inimtacy and marriage Counseling
Has your sex life become routine, boring, and dull? Well, sex therapy can help you bring more diversity, adventure, and playfulness to your sex life.
If you sex life has been the same for the last 20 years, you may need to try something new.
To begin, click the button below to book your phone consult for Tolland sex, inimtacy and marriage counseling for an amazing sex life.
If you want to learn how to better pleasure your partner sexually, watch them touch themselves.
One intervention for better understanding what your sexual partner enjoys to watch them pleasure themselves. You can learn what your partner likes is observing them masturbating and self pleasuring. Also, you learn a lot about how your partner likes to please themselves when you wash them masturbate.
You can learn the ways your partner likes to be touched when you watch them self-pleasure.
Marriage and intimacy therapy can help couples feel confident giving touch after watching their partner masturbate and self pleasure. Watching your partner in the act of masturbation can be a great way to understand what areas of their body they like to be touched in order to help them reach an orgasm.
For all you know, you might think they like one area touched, but watching them self-pleasure may give you information on where they touch themselves to reach orgasm.
Couples, sex, and intimacy therapy can help take the focus on vaginal penetration and bring sexual diversity
When your sex life is boring, you may be focusing too much on vaginal penetration and not enough on other forms of sexual pleasure. For instance, sensate focus and non-sexual touch are concepts of mindfulness.
Often couples only focus is on vaginal penetration.
There is so much more to sexual play than just vaginal penetration.
So, sensate focus and touching non-genital areas can help take the focus off genital stimulation. As a result, just feeling touch without the pressure of that touch leading to sex if key in mindfulness activities.
What other issues can get in the way of a passionate, orgasmic, amazing sex life?
There can also be emotional elements like cultural shame and guilt. Sometimes, one or many people have a fear of receiving or giving pleasure. There can be sexual anxieties that get in the way that therapy can help release.
Remember, your sex life didn’t take a turn for the worse overnight. Many couples suffer from a dissatisfying sex life for many months and years. So, healing and building a healthy sex life is a long-term, playful, adventurous process.
To begin, click the button below to book your phone consult for Tolland sex, inimtacy and marriage counseling for an amazing sex life.
Body image issues can lead to a negative sex life
What is one way I can build body confidence right now for a healthy sex life?
Any sort of body shame or body image issues as well eating disorders can play a huge role in your sex life.
Compliment yourself when naked in the mirror
Even using mirrors to look at your genital organs and complimenting yourself can be a technique. Remember, talking positively to yourself when you are naked in the mirror can be a technique to build body confidence.
In Connecticut, Tolland sex, inimtacy and marriage counseling can help you be your own best friend rather than listening to your inner critic.
Regular exercise and yoga
As well, regular exercise is key for a thriving, passionate, and meaningful sex life. So, becoming more aware of pelvic floor muscles in a yoga class or exercise class can help. the more your mind can feel into your body, the easier it will be to feel sexual when the time comes.
In addition to traditional talk counseling for couples, you can do yoga therapy, art, therapy, walking therapies, and body scan meditations. Wisdom Within Counseling is a holistic, creative marriage and family therapy practice.
In addition to mind-body skills from exercise and yoga, therapy can give couples sexual health awareness tools. Talking about your body in a loving way and appreciating your body are key for an orgasmic, healthy sex life.
You can build body confidence and overcome body shame through sex and intimacy therapy. Building body confidence and self-love skills are very beneficial for couples who want to have a better sex life.
Learning how to relax and be mindful and reduce stress can improve your sex life
Many times, if one or both people are feeling tense or anxious about work , parenting, or in-laws, this can create tense energy. And, stress from work, school, or parenting leads to stress in the bedroom.
For many people, if they are worried about a big project at work, they will be unable to focus on sexual pleasure. Taking the time to prioritize sexual health and sexy time can be an important step in improving your sex life.
If you are are stressed out about parenting responsibilities or caring for others too much, it will be difficult to become sexually aroused.
When your body under stress, your brain sends signals to the rest of your body to be in alert mode.
However, being in alert mode means your body puts stress hormones like adrenaline into your blood stream. Instead of relaxation and sex hormones, your body and brain are on the look out for danger. Living in a constant state of anxiety and worry can make a person sexually unresponsive.
In Connecticut, Tolland sex, inimtacy and marriage counseling can help make sexual activities a priority in your busy life again.
Talking about sexual goals in counseling can bring the focus away from work, parenting, and other stressors and back on to a healthy sex life.
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Do you feel exhausted, over worked, and drained? Is sex the last thing on your list?
Both women and men can volunteer, work, or parent too much. Unfortunately, taking on an overly caretaking role within family life and within their career takes passion and sexy energy away.
Instead of being open sexually, your body is exhausted and tired from being over stressed. Not eating well, skipping meals, and being dehydrated can cause an unsatisfying sex life.
Are you stressed out?
Marital therapy and sex therapy helps couples reduce stress in other areas of life to have a positive, satisfying sex life
As well, drinking too much caffeine can take energy away from sexual activities. Too much caffeine can lead to adrenal fatigue leading to stress hormones being produced. Therefore, couples therapy can help couples learn to lower stress and better manage stress.
A holistic approach to helping couples thrive
At Wisdom Within Counseling in Connecticut, couples can learn muscle relaxation skills, meditation, and mindfulness skills to reduce stress. On video or in person, you can do walk and talk therapy outdoors in nature for self-care. As well, couples can practice yoga therapy, stretching, and poses together in counseling to reduce stress. As a holistic marriage and family therapy counseling practice, we believe in mind, body, spirit connection.
We are a holistic, creative arts marital and family therapy practice.
So, painting with acrylics, using clay, or doing watercolor paintings in couples therapy can open new pathways of communication. You can pick from art, yoga, music, and creative arts as well as traditional talk counseling.
As a result of lowering stress, couples can improve and build a meaningful sex life.
LGBTQIA+ same sex couples therapy in Tolland, Connecticut
At Wisdom Within Counseling, one of our specialities is working with queer, bisexual, gay, lesbian, non-binary, polyamorous, consensually non-monogamous couples.
Some couples seek sex, intimacy, and marriage therapy to explore dominant and submissive roles. Wanting to try certain, kinky sex toys can be a great topic to bring to the safety of marriage counseling.
As you play around with new roles and toys consensually, sex therapy can be a safe place to talk about the emotions that come up in your sexual experiences.
We are open, affirming, and educated in working with a variety of relationship styles and couples. Wether you and your partner are looking to consensually open your marriage, or try a new kink or BDSM, our team of marriage therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling would love to support you.
No matter what is happening for you and your partner, from jealousy to rejection, to sexual performance anxiety, our team of therapists can help.
Seeking professional help sooner than later can be very positive. Marriage, sex, and intimacy therapy in Connecticut can help couples talk about fears and anxiety around sexual activities. You can also gain insight and education on physical anatomy, erogenous zones, and foreplay to support orgasming. Learning about female anatomy and finding the clitoris can be very positive for increasing female sexual pleasure.
Couples therapy can help you spice up your sex life and relationship.
Building joy, excitement, and sexual desire takes the help of a marriage and family therapist. Our team at Wisdom Within Counseling in Connecticut would love to support you in building sexual confidence. You can overcome sexual boredom and create a playful, passionate, diverse sex life. Couples, intimacy and sex counseling can also be a safe place to talk about overcoming sexual shame from culture and childhood.
Tolland sex, inimtacy and marriage counseling in Connecticut helps couples build a positive, satisfying, orgasmic sex life
The team of therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling help adolescents, teens, adults, and couples in Andover, Bolton, Columbia, Coventry, Ellington, Hebron, Mansfield, Somers, Stafford, Tolland, Union, Vernon, and Willington, Connecticut.
Windham County Connecticut marriage counseling
Wisdom Within Counseling also help couples in Windham County Connecticut. Couples in Ashford, Brooklyn, Canterbury, Chaplin, Eastford, Hampton, Killingly, Plainfield, Pomfret, Putnam, Scotland, Sterling, Thompson, Windham, and Woodstock, Connecticut can meet on video therapy with the team at Wisdom Within Counseling.
New Haven County sex and intimacy therapy in Connecticut
In addition to Tolland, Connecticut, Wisdom Within Counseling supports couples in New Haven County. The marriage and family therapists help couples who want a better sex life in Ansonia, Beacon Falls, Bethany, Branford, Cheshire, Derby, East Haven, Guilford, Hamden, Madison, Meriden, Middlebury, Milford, Naugatuck, New Haven, North Haven, Orange, Oxford, Prospect, Seymour, Southbury, Wallingford, Waterbury, West Haven, Wolcott, and Woodbridge, Connecticut.
The team at Wisdom Within Counseling offer video and in person therapy to support couples in building a passionate, loving, and orgasmic sex life.
