Are you struggling painful, emotional aspects of being in a sexless marriage and feeling distant and rejected? Do you wish you felt more comfortable and confident expressing your sexuality? Have you both, for many years, only felt a connection as roommates, rather than as flirty, playful partners? It can feel lonely, be sad, and a grief experience to find yourself in a sexless marriage. Parts of you wonder if the stress of building your careers, growing your business, parenting, caring for elderly parents, and personal stress detracted from your sex life. Long ago, you remember moments of sexual pleasure, sexual suspense, excitement, and playful erotic energy together. But, now, you don’t know how to get the fireworks and sexual pleasure back in your marriage. Sexless marriage counseling for low sex drive and sexual rejection supports rebuilding spice, passionate, sexual tension, playfulness, and flirty vibes.
Katie Ziskind, relationship coach, certified sex therapy informed professional, Gottman level two marriage therapist, sex and intimacy specialist, helps couples rebuild emotional connection and sexual intimacy.
Work with Katie Ziskind, who specializes in intimacy focused couples therapy for low sex drive and sexual rejection issues.
In addition to wanting a better sex life, you notice that there are also emotional expression issues in your marriage you want help with.
There are many pieces to the pie when it comes to rebuilding sexual chemistry, physical intimacy, sexual desire, and sexual confidence.
Working with Katie Ziskind, sex and intimacy specialist, you and your partner can learn skills to repair conflict, connect emotionally, and build a foundation for a secure, sexual bond. Emotional closeness and emotional bonding skills are not tools many people learn growing up.
Stress and always living in a state of panic and chaos takes away from your hormone reserves to make sex hormones.
As well, growing up in a culture that emphasized absence culture, created shame and guilt around sex, and fear-based messages can influence you sexual openness in your marriage. There are many components and aspects to rebuilding intimacy.
Growing up with parents who don’t show affection can make it more challenging to be physically affectionate in your marriage. As well, yelling, anger issues, conflicts, the silent treatment, and criticism negatively impact your sex life. You are not alone if you are feeling frustration with the state of yoru sexual, intimate life.
Working with Katie Ziskind, relationship coach, certified sex therapy informed professional, Gottman level two marriage therapist, sex and intimacy specialist, helps you make sex and physical touch a priority again.
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Want sex and intimacy focused couples therapy to break the sexless pattern and go beyond roommates?
Marriage is not always pudding, jello, and positive moments. But, when you feel distant, you begin to question the sacred bond between you both. Sexless marriage counseling for low sex drive and sexual rejection can help you create more love, trust, and mutual understanding. It can be a kick to your self-esteem to find yourself in a sexless marriage.
However, for some, the vision of your future becomes clouded by the stark reality of emotional disconnection that shows up as a sexless marriage.
To add, the absence of physical intimacy can lead to a plethora of painful and emotional challenges for you both. When you are your spouse feel like roommates, it can feel like a big part is missing from your marriage. Rather than the flirty, passionate, and playful you once were, you are stuck in a sexual stand off right now.
Without physical touch and intimacy, you may feel unwanted, cast aside, or like you don’t matter.
You may begin to question your attractiveness as a result of no longer being desired sexually. There is doubt and insecurity that seeps into your marital bond and romantic relationship when you are only roommates. When you are stuck in a continuous cycle of sexual avoidance and sexual disconnection, you feel unwanted, sad, and alone.
As well, you may question if you spouse is having an affair or being unfaithful due to their disinterest in sex. You feel confused as to where the sexual insecurities have come from and how to get sexual confidence back.
There is sadness and grief that comes with feeling sexually unwanted and rejected. You don’t have to continue with the silent treatment around sex and feel alone in your sexual desires. Instead of staying stuck in your sexless marriage, you can learn to be emotionally vulnerable and talk about sex. Learning to talk about your sexual and physical needs and desires is a key part in communication.
Katie Ziskind, relationship coach, certified sex therapy informed professional, Gottman level two marriage therapist, sex and intimacy specialist, specializes with couples who need help building emotional and sexual intimacy.
Work with Katie Ziskind, who specializes in intimacy focused couples therapy for low sex drive and sexual rejection issues.
Feeling like you don’t matter, that you are misunderstood, ignored, unwanted, due to the lack of sexual desire and lack of physical touch?
You might be sleeping in separate rooms because you feel so disconnected. Or, you may still be sharing a bed with your spouse, who you once cherished deeply, only to feel a gaping void of loneliness. You don’t know how to close this painful emotional gap and speak about your unfulfilled desires.
As well, you might even feel lost and trapped in your sexless marriage. What was once a source of comfort and passion has now become a source of frustration and resentment. Sexless marriage counseling for low sex drive and sexual rejection gives you a safe space to verbalize sexual needs.
Couples therapy with Katie Ziskind helps you and your partner verbalize your needs.
Often, we don’t have a safe place to stop the negative spiral when it comes to sexual needs.
Often, couples are not expressing emotional needs, which negatively impacts passion, sexual fun, and erotic desire. This emotional disconnection impacts your sexual expressiveness.
Building emotional intimacy and emotional bonding skills are essential for sexual passion and erotic desire. You both can learn to talk about what you need for comfort, safety, security, and reassurance. We all have needs for reassurance and we all want to matter. Emotional intimacy and sexual intimacy are interconnected.
From improving emotional expression and intimacy, a foundation for sexual safety and sexual respect evolves. Katie Ziskind, sex and intimacy specialist and couples counselor, specializes in helping couples develop emotional and sexual intimacy.
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Experiencing emotional stress and disconnection due to sexual rejection?
Are you and your spouse struggling with both sexual intimacy issues and emotional distance?
The emotional toll of an emotionally distant and sexless marriage is tremendous. Being in a sexless marriage that lacks playfulness can creates feelings of inadequacy, rejection, and unworthiness. Essentially, each rejected advance or avoided touch chips away at one’s self-esteem. It leaves behind deep emotional scars that create marital cracks.
For many couples, the lack of sexual and physical intimacy is not just about the act itself but also about the loss of connection and closeness. It’s the absence of those stolen glances. You remember feeling desired and wanted long ago.
A lack of sexual passion also means that playful touches are no longer existent. As well, the safe, playful, erotic, sexual, and intimate moments that define a healthy relationship no longer exist for you both.
Without these, you and your spouse find yourselves drifting apart. Without sexual expression, you become cohabitants in the same space who share a mortgage. Sexless marriage counseling for low sex drive and sexual rejection with Katie Ziskind supports prioritizing healthy conversations about sexual needs and urges.
How can couples therapy with Katie Ziskind, relationship coach, certified sex therapy informed professional, Gottman level two marriage therapist, sex and intimacy specialist, bring my flirty, fun, passionate, sexual, and erotic self back into my marriage?
Bringing back the flirty, fun, passionate, sexual, and erotic aspects into your marriage can breathe new life into your relationship. When you get accustomed to no physical intimacy, you might feel awkward brining back the spice at first.
Couples therapy with Katie Ziskind can help you start by having an open and honest conversation with your partner about your sexual desires and intentions. Essentially, expressing your feelings lets your partner know that you want to rekindle the passion in your marriage.
Often, in a sexless marriage, both people shy away from talking about sex, which only worsens the sexual intimacy.
Work with Katie Ziskind, who specializes in intimacy focused couples therapy for low sex drive and sexual rejection issues.
Marriage therapy with a focus on sexual confidence and physical intimacy allocates time where you can prioritize your relationship.
Couples therapy helps you spend quality time together talking. From there, you can start doing activities that you both enjoy like cuddling, holding hands, massaging each other, and showering together. To add, quality time can be going on dates, taking walks, cooking together, or engaging in shared hobbies. Building emotional connection and intimacy outside your bedroom leads to a more fulfilling sexual relationship. As well, talking about more physical and sexual intimacy and touch in couples therapy helps you focus more on that aspect.
In your marriage, take time to increase physical affection and touch in your everyday interactions. Intentionally hold hands, hug, kiss, and cuddle more often. Instead of sitting on separate chairs, cuddle on the same couch watching a TV show. If you always sit across from each other at a restaurant, sit in the same booth. Touch when possible such as putting your hand on your partner’s leg or forearm. Physical touch is essential for maintaining intimacy and closeness in all healthy relationships.
When Katie Ziskind works with couples in counseling, she teaches them how to flirt again.
You may be very stuck in parenting or career building mode, which isn’t flirty. Or, you may be stuck parenting your spouse, which is not sexy at all. If you feel stuck in rigid roles, it can be hard to get back into a sexy, sensual, and romantic mindset and let your sexual self out. From years and decades of being business partners roommates, you may forget how to flirt. Playful tones of voice are key in flirting. As well, caressing touch is a key part in flirting too.
Furthermore, flirting with your partner like you did when you were dating is a skill you can both relearn through marriage therapy. In addition, you can start to send playful texts, leave love notes, or engage in playful banter to keep the spark alive. And, when your partner does these things, you can make a point to appreciate and acknowledge them by showing affection back and verbalizing gratitude.
Couples therapy with Katie Ziskind at Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching encourages verbalizing desire.
Often, sexless couples don’t talk about sexual desire. Rebuilding connection to libido and overcoming low sexual desire means verbalizing desirability. All of us want to be seen as sexy, desirable, and we all want to feel wanted by out signifiant others. So, couples therapy encourages you both to talk about what you find hot and sexy about each other’s bodies. You can learn how to let your partner know that you desire them emotionally, intellectually, sexually, and physically.
Compliment your spouse, express appreciation for their attractiveness, and make them feel wanted and desired.
As well, we all have different things that turn us on and sexually arouse us. There is no right or wrong in terms of sexual desires as long as respect, clear verbal consent, and safety are there.
Essentially, through the process of sex and intimacy focused couples therapy, you and your spouse can talk about exploring new things together in the bedroom. Commonly, this often means lengthening foreplay to support female sexual pleasure and orgasming.
To add, you may want to try new positions, introduce toys or role-playing, or experiment with fantasies. A foundation of emotional intimacy can help you both keep an open mind and be willing to explore each other’s desires. Working with Katie Ziskind at Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching supports you both in understanding what has contributed to intimacy issues and the lack of sexual desire.
From there, you can rebuild emotional intimacy elements of comfort, reassurance, and respect, that support sexual pleasure, physical touch, affection, and sexual enjoyment.
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Communication breakdown is another common consequence of a sexless marriage that you can work on improving in sexless marriage counseling for low sex drive and sexual rejection with Katie Ziskind.
As the frustration mounts, you both may find it increasingly difficult to discuss your feelings openly and honestly. Talking about sex leads to the silent treatment or yelling. Resentment builds as both of you struggle to articulate your needs and desires, leading to a cycle of silence and withdrawal.
Moreover, the societal stigma surrounding sexless marriages can exacerbate the emotional pain you experience. There is a prevailing notion that a lack of physical intimacy signifies a failed marriage or a lack of love between partners.
To add, social stigma and pressures only add to the feelings of shame and isolation you feel already. When you are struggling with your marital situation, sexless marriage counseling for low sex drive and sexual rejection with Katie Ziskind can help.
Katie Ziskind specializes with distant couples who need help rebuilding and maintaining emotional bonding skills and sexual intimacy.
Over time, the emotional toll of a sexless marriage can spill over into other areas of life, affecting your mental health, work performance, and overall well-being.
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Depression, anxiety, rejection, avoidance, and feelings of hopelessness are common when you feel trapped in a sexless marriage situation.
However, it’s essential to recognize that sexless marriages are not irreparable. At Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching, you can work on developing patience, understanding, and get professional help from Katie Ziskind. As well, distant couples work together to address the underlying issues contributing to their lack of intimacy.
A lack of sexual and physical intimacy means emotional vulnerability and emotional intimacy needs repairing as well. To add, sexless couples therapy with Katie Ziskind includes both individual counseling and couples sessions. Sexless marriage counseling for low sex drive and sexual rejection with Katie Ziskind helps you have open and honest conversations about sexual needs, desires, and boundaries.
Rekindling the flame of sexual intimacy in a sexless marriage requires both of you to be committed to change.
Growing together means both of you need to be willing to put in the effort to rebuild your connection. It may not be easy, and progress may be slow. But, with perseverance and a genuine desire to reconnect, it is 100% possible to breathe new life into your struggling romantic relationship.
In general, the emotional pain of being in a sexless marriage goes far beyond the physical absence of intimacy.
A sexless marriage makes you feel disconnected from the person you love.
And, you are grappling with feelings of rejection, loss, and inadequacy. As well, you may also be navigating the societal stigma and pressure of what a happy marriage means. You and your spouse can process and reflect on the influences of a conservative, strict, and religious upbringing on your sexuality. Sex is often considered a taboo or dirty subject when growing up in a strict, conservative, and religious home.
So, sexless marriage counseling for low sex drive and sexual rejection with Katie Ziskind gives you a space to gain sex positive education.
You can push through religious trauma and any lingering sexual shame and guilt that impacts your marriage. As well, from couples therapy with a focus on sex and intimacy, you can develop confidence around your sexual needs and sexual urges.
However, with patience, communication, and a willingness to seek professional help, you both can overcome sexual challenges.
You can team up in sexless marriage counseling for low sex drive and sexual rejection with Katie Ziskind to rebuild a stronger, more pleasurable, more fulfilling sexual relationship.
Sexless marriage counseling for low sex drive and sexual rejection gives you a safe space to talk about inadequacies and sexual insecurities. Generally, couples counseling focused on intimacy and sex makes sex a normal thing to talk about. We often learn to talk about finances, retirement, health issues, and parenting, but never get support to talk about sexual needs and sexual urges.
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When in a sexless marriage, how does sex to fall to the back burner over time?
In a sexless marriage, prioritizing other aspects of life over intimacy often occurs as a result of a combination of factors. You and your spouse may feel distant because you have put time and energy into personal priorities over eroticism and sex. As well, you may have faced a variety of external stressors that take time and attention away from your sex life.
Couples counseling with Katie Ziskind, sex and intimacy specialist, can address some reasons why you and your spouse may find yourselves prioritizing other things over sexual expression. For instance, you may focus careers, parenting, health issues, family life, and running a business over sexual playfulness.
Sexless marriage counseling for low sex drive and sexual rejection can help you rebalance busy schedules:
More so, modern life can be hectic, with both of you juggling demanding careers, childcare responsibilities, health issues, and other commitments. As a result of lack of balance in career, work, and parenting responsibilities, you and your spouse may find yourselves exhausted by the end of the day.
Being burnt out and exhausted leaves little time or energy for sexual passion and physical intimacy. Couples therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching with Katie Ziskind can help you make intimacy a priority in your relationship. You can talk about setting aside time for intimacy regularly.
It might mean waking up earlier to cuddle together or going to bed earlier to have time to caress each other’s bodies. As well, it can mean scheduling date nights weekly, getting a babysitter, and spending quality time alone together mid-day.
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Self-care is an essential part of rebuilding sexual desire, libido issues, and restoring sexual intimacy
On that note, self-care skills are important when it comes to creating a satisfying, pleasurable, erotic, and enjoyable sex life. Sex isn’t just penetrative sex. It doesn’t just have to be penis in vagina sex. Having a pleasurable sex life can be french kissing, spooning on the couch, or taking a bath together. But, if you are burnt out emotionally due to other areas of your life, you can’t bring the best version of yourself to your marriage and sex life.
To have a good sex life, it is important to take good care of yourself. Being overly stressed drains your hormone system, depleting your body’s ability to make sex hormones.
Overall, couples therapy can encourage you to take care of yourself physically and emotionally. Self-care can include going to a yoga class for exercise. When you feel confident and good about yourself, it can positively impact your romantic relationship and your ability to connect with your partner intimately.
How does being overly stressed play a role in low sexual desire and your sexless marriage?
Chronic stress can profoundly impact our bodies in various ways, and one significant area it affects is our sex hormone system. The intricate interplay between stress and hormones can have a cascading effect. Having lots of high anxiety, chaos, and panic ultimately leads to a decrease in sexual desire and libido.
When you and your spouse experience stress, whether it’s due to work, relationship issues, financial worries, or other factors, your bodies release hormones such as cortisol and adrenaline as part of the “fight or flight” response.
To add, these hormones help you cope with immediate threats by increasing heart rate, boosting energy levels, and sharpening focus. However, when stress becomes chronic, it disrupts the delicate balance of sex hormones in your bodies.
One of the primary ways chronic stress affects the hormone system is by dysregulating the hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal (HPA) axis, which plays a crucial role in the body’s stress response. Continuous activation of the HPA axis leads to sustained elevation of cortisol levels, which can have several negative effects on the body and your sexual energy levels. Cortisol is a stress hormone your body makes when you experience anxiety, panic, or are under stress. And, your body will always prioritize stress hormones and responding to stress over sexy time and sexual arousal.
Elevated cortisol levels interfere with the production of sex hormones such as testosterone, estrogen, and progesterone.
Testosterone, in particular, plays a significant role in regulating sexual desire and libido in both men and women. When cortisol levels remain high due to chronic stress, it suppresses the production of testosterone. As a result of chronic stress and not managing stress properly, you and your spouse can experience decreased sexual desire and arousal.
Moreover, chronic stress can also disrupt other physiological processes involved in sexual function, such as blood flow, muscle relaxation, and mood regulation. Stress-induced changes in neurotransmitters and brain chemistry can contribute to feelings of anxiety, depression, and fatigue.
Feeling stressed and anxious further diminishes interest in sexual activity.
On a biological level, it is impossible to become sexually aroused when anxious and stressed out.
In addition to directly impacting hormone levels, chronic stress can also lead to unhealthy coping mechanisms such as overeating, substance abuse, or neglecting self-care practices, all of which can further exacerbate hormonal imbalances and diminish sexual desire.
Addressing chronic stress is a part of marriage therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching with Katie Ziskind. You and your spouse can learn about the impact of stress on the sexual hormone system is crucial for restoring healthy sexual function and libido.
This may involve implementing stress management techniques such as mindfulness meditation, yoga, regular exercise, adequate sleep, and eating foods with good nutrition. Balancing and managing stress and anxiety is essential when it comes to self-care and awareness.
From inner peace and balance, you can more effectively being the best, more confident, and calm version of yourself to your marriage.
By reducing stress levels and restoring hormonal balance, you both can reclaim your vitality and enjoyment of intimacy within your relationship.
At Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching, Katie Ziskind, relationship coach, certified sex therapy informed professional, Gottman level two marriage therapist, sex and intimacy specialist, helps you bring your best self to your marriage to co-create a healthy sex life.
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Parenting responsibilities can lead to a sexless marriage:
Raising children can be all-consuming. Parenting can leave you with little time or energy for yourselves, let alone your romantic relationship. Having a child with special needs, health problems, and academic issues can be stressful. The demands of parenting, from feeding and bathing to helping with homework and attending extracurricular activities, can leave little room for sexual intimacy.
When overwhelmed with parenting, it is easy to loose touch with the sexy, flirty, passionate, and erotic sides of yourselves.
Parenting is a rollercoaster ride of emotions, filled with moments of exhaustion, overwhelming challenges, and heartwarming rewards.
You may find parenting exhausting and overwhelming some days. Other days, you may find parenting so enjoyable, funny, and rewarding. You and your spouse may be really good and excel at parenting.
One day, you may find yourself struggling to keep up with the demands of parenthood. At times, you feel drained and depleted by the endless cycle of feeding, diaper changes, and sleepless nights. Yet, amidst the chaos and fatigue, there are also moments of pure joy, laughter, and deep connection that make it all worthwhile.
However, amidst the joys of parenthood, it’s all too easy to lose touch with the sexy, flirty, passionate, and erotic sides of yourselves.
As a couple, you and your spouse may excel at parenting. You may seamlessly navigate the ups and downs of raising children together. But, you feel disconnected when it comes to your sexual side and sexual self-expression.
You work as a strong parenting team. As well, you support each other through the toughest of times and celebrating the small victories along the way. Your children are thriving, and your family is a picture of love and togetherness.
The demands of childcare, household responsibilities, and work commitments leave little time or energy for nurturing the romantic and intimate aspects of your relationship. Date nights become a rare occurrence. And, with parenting overwhelm quiet moments alone together are few and far between.
To add, the physical and emotional toll of parenting can also take a toll on your romantic relationship. Sleep deprivation, stress, and the constant demands of caregiving can leave you feeling disconnected from each other and from your own sexual desires. The spontaneity and excitement that once defined your relationship may now feel like distant memories, overshadowed by the responsibilities of parenthood.
Moreover, societal expectations surrounding parenthood often prioritize the needs of children above all else. Being in parent mode all the time leaves little room for prioritizing the needs of your couple bubble.
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The focus shifts from nurturing your romantic relationship to ensuring the well-being and happiness of your children, sometimes at the expense of your own sexual intimacy, physical touch, marital happiness, and sexual fulfillment.
Yet, amidst the challenges of parenting, it’s important to remember that your relationship with your spouse is the foundation upon which your family is built. Nurturing your connection with each other is not only essential for maintaining a strong and healthy partnership but also for setting a positive example for your children.
Finding ways to reconnect with the sexy, flirty, passionate, and erotic sides of yourselves requires creativity, effort, and commitment.
Sexless marriage counseling for low sex drive and sexual rejection means doing couples therapy homework. For instance, Katie Ziskind, marriage therapist, may give you homework to carve out time for date nights. Or, you may get couples therapy homework to cuddle for 15 minutes per day. Perhaps, marriage counseling homework is to goto a sex toy shop and buy a sex toy.
Essentially, couples counseling homework is about prioritizing intimacy and physical affection. You get to explore new ways to reignite the spark in your relationship.
Couples counseling with a focus on sex and intimacy also means being open and honest with each other about your desires, fears, and vulnerabilities. As well, you get professional help as you work together to create a romantic relationship that is sexually expressive, nurturing, and fulfilling.
Nurturing your connection with each other is essential for maintaining a strong and healthy partnership amidst the demands of parenthood and life.
In general, parenting is a journey filled with moments of exhaustion, joy, and everything in between. While you and your spouse may excel at parenting, it’s important not to lose touch with the romantic and intimate aspects of your relationship.
By prioritizing intimacy, communication, and mutual support, you can create a relationship that is both fulfilling and rewarding, both as parents and as partners.
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Career ambitions get in the way of a healthy sex life and emotionally secure marriage:
More so, many couples are driven by their careers and may prioritize professional success over personal relationships. Our society prioritizes career development and making more income.
Likewise, long hours at the office, business trips, and the constant pressure to excel can leave little time or energy for intimacy.
In today’s fast-paced and competitive world, career success often takes center stage in many couples’ lives. Sometimes, career development can overshadow friendships, personal relationships, and sexual intimacy.
Driven by ambition, financial stability, and societal expectations, you both may find yourselves caught up in a relentless pursuit of professional achievements. Being so focused on work leaves little room for nurturing your sexual intimacy and emotional connection with each other.
To add, the modern workplace is a demanding environment, where long hours, tight deadlines, and the pressure to excel are the norm rather than the exception.
Do you both pour your time and energy into climbing the corporate ladder or building successful businesses, often at the expense of sexual intimacy?
As a result, you both may find yourselves spending more time at the office or on business trips than you do with each other. This leaves little opportunity for emotional conversations, sexual intimacy, and quality time together. Sexless marriage counseling for low sex drive and sexual rejection can help you understand how to allocate quality time for intimacy.
Moreover, our society places a high value on career development and financial success. Overall, society equates professional accomplishments with personal worth and fulfillment. The pursuit of higher income, status, and material possessions becomes a driving force for many couples.
Unfortunately, this strive can lead you both to prioritize your careers above all else.
The fear of falling behind or failing to meet societal expectations can fuel a relentless pursuit of success. Feeling pressure to be seen as successful leaves you feeling exhausted at the end of the day.
To add, the rise of technology and remote work has further blurred the lines between work and personal life. Being on a screen all day can make it feel normal to keep scrolling on your phone more common at night. You may find it challenging to disconnect from your professional responsibilities.
With email notifications buzzing around the clock and remote access to work files, it’s all too easy for work to spill over into evenings, weekends, and even vacations. This overflow of work erodes opportunities for sexual intimacy and quality time together.
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In this relentless pursuit of professional success, couples may also experience heightened levels of stress, burnout, and emotional exhaustion.
The constant pressure to perform can take a toll on mental and physical well-being, leaving you both feeling drained and depleted at the end of the day. In such a state, the thought of engaging in intimacy may seem like just another task to check off the list. Sex can become an obligation or chore rather than a source of joy and connection.
Despite the allure of career success and financial stability, it’s essential for couples to recognize the importance of nurturing their relationship and prioritizing intimacy. Without a strong foundation of love, trust, and connection, even the most successful careers can feel hollow and unfulfilling. Finding a balance between professional aspirations and personal relationships is key to building a life that is rich in both achievement and intimacy.
In general, the relentless pursuit of career success can often come at the expense of personal relationships and intimacy for many couples.
Long hours at the office, business trips, and the constant pressure to excel can leave little time or energy for nurturing connections with loved ones.
It’s crucial for you both to recognize the importance of finding a balance between parenting, professional ambitions, and your sex life.
Sexless marriage counseling for low sex drive and sexual rejection is about prioritizing intimacy and quality time together amidst the demands of the modern workplace.
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Health issues and medication side effects can lead to a low sex drive, impacting your sex life:
More so, physical or mental health issues can also impact a couple’s sex life. Chronic illnesses, mental health disorders, and medication side effects can all contribute to a decrease in libido or sexual dysfunction. Side effects of medication like low sex drive issues can make intimacy less of a priority.
Furthermore, selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) are a class of antidepressant medications. And, they are commonly prescribed to treat conditions such as depression, anxiety disorders, and certain mood disorders. For some, SSRIs can be highly effective in managing symptoms and improving overall quality of life. However, antidepressants can also have side effects that impact sexual health and libido.
One of the most common side effects of SSRIs is a decrease in sexual desire and libido.
This phenomenon, often referred to as SSRI-induced sexual dysfunction, can manifest as a reduced interest in sex. As well, antidepressants can lead to a difficulty becoming sexually aroused. Furthermore, antidepressant can lead to a decreased ability to achieve orgasm. For some, these changes in sexual function can be distressing. They may significantly impact your relationships and overall well-being.
The exact mechanisms underlying SSRI-induced sexual dysfunction are not fully understood. It is believed to involve alterations in neurotransmitter levels within the brain, particularly regarding serotonin.
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SSRIs work by increasing the levels of serotonin in the brain, which can lead to changes in sexual function and arousal.
Additionally, SSRIs and may affect other neurotransmitters, such as dopamine and norepinephrine. These play a role in sexual desire and sexual arousal.
The impact of SSRI-induced sexual dysfunction can vary widely from person to person. Some may experience mild to moderate changes in sexual function. And, others may find that their libido decreases a lot. Factors such as the type and dosage of the medication can all influence the severity and duration of these side effects.
As well, when experiencing SSRI-induced sexual dysfunction, it’s essential to communicate openly with your healthcare provider. In some cases, adjusting the dosage of the medication or switching to a different antidepressant may help alleviate symptoms. Additionally, a person should always work with a prescriber to reduce or make changes to your dose of your antidepressants.
Sexless marriage counseling for low sex drive and sexual rejection helps you and your partner to approach these changes in sexual function with patience, compassion, and empathy.
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Sexual health is an integral part of overall well-being, and experiencing changes in libido or sexual function as a side effect of medication can be frustrating and distressing.
Open and honest communication with your partner can help navigate these challenges and maintain intimacy and connection within your relationship.
In general, SSRI-induced sexual dysfunction is a common side effect of antidepressant medication. Antidepressants can significantly impact libido and sexual desire.
Financial stress impacts your sex life and marriage counseling can help:
Furthermore, financial worries, such as debt, unemployment, or the pressure to maintain a certain lifestyle, can put a strain on your relationship.
Sexless marriage counseling for low sex drive and sexual rejection helps you prioritize intimacy over work and financial stability over.
General worries can exert a significant toll on many aspects of our lives, including our sex life and intimacy within your relationship. To add, the stress and anxiety associated with maintaining a certain lifestyle can create a myriad of challenges that impact your ability to connect intimately with your partners.
Manage increasing stress levels in sexless marriage counseling for low sex drive and sexual rejection.
Constantly worrying about making ends meet, paying off debts, or finding stable employment can leave us feeling overwhelmed and exhausted.
As a result of worrying, you may find it difficult to relax and be present in the moment. Worries make it challenging to engage in erotic, playful, and intimate activities with your partner.
Moreover, financial stress can also lead to feelings of inadequacy or insecurity. You may feel ashamed or embarrassed about your financial situation. This is particularly true when you are struggling to maintain a certain standard of living or provide for your family. To add, these feelings of insecurity can undermine your confidence and self-esteem.
Insecurities can make it difficult to feel desirable or attractive to your partner.
For one, you may have body image issues that impact your sex drive and libido. A part of you may feel pressure to look a certain way. You may feel that you have to change your shape or weight in order to be attractive, desirable, or sexy. As well, you may feel that you can’t have good sex until you look like the models on TV or on social media. Ot, that good sex has to be done a certain way or certain number of times a week.
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A major component to restoring your sex life is having pleasurable sex.
If you don’t have a sex drive, you are not broken. Sexual desire will wax and wane. Low libido issues and a sexless marriage can be from sexual criticism from past partners, as well as body image issues. You might have a self-critical thoughts about your body shape and weight that affect your sexual desire. As well, if you are in a sexual standoff, sex may be a chore, dull, and boring, or even lead to pain and chaffing. You may not be having pleasurable, fun, or satisfying sexual experiences. Overall, for sex to come back into your marriage, you and your partner need to feel seen as your authentic selves by each other rather than pretending to have an orgasm.
Many women learn from a young age to fake orgasms.
To note, this creates an inauthentic sexual experience. Furthermore, faking an orgasm only makes your sex life more confusing and disconnected for both you and your partner. Sexual pleasure it needs to be the focus as well as sexual enjoyment. So often we focus on having to change our weight, looking at a number on the scale, or feel like the size of our belt is too much. If you get focused on having to change your weight or go on a diet, this creates pressure and intensity. And, if you get focused on certain outcomes, like orgasming, you may struggle with pressure to fake an orgasm.
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If sex is dull, painful, or boring, women commonly fake an orgasm to have the entire sexual experience to be done with as soon as possible.
Is sex dull, painful, uncomfortable, and disappointing? When we are having sex that feels obligatory, part of the to do list, and is painful, we don’t want to have more sex.
Furthermore, when sexual activities incorporate elements of playfulness, pleasure, enjoyment, and fun, that you’ll want to do more of that. Instead of thinking of sex as this thing that “has to” get done, or always has to end in penis in vagina sex, think of what you can do to have more pleasure. Incorporating more enjoyment, fun, pleasure, and playfulness increases sexual desire naturally.
For instance, for many couples, this means incorporating 45 to 90 minutes of foreplay. Much too often, foreplay is too short, and only focused on the male sexual arousal system.
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The female body or vulva owners need 45 to 90 minutes of foreplay to have time to feel sexually aroused.
From 45 to 90 minutes of sexual play, desire builds, circulation to the vulva increases, natural vaginal lubrication increases, and this supports orgasming.
On the other hand, for penis owners, the male sexual arousal system only needs four to right minutes of sexual stimulation to reach peak sexual arousal. Again, men only need a couple of minutes to reach and achieve an orgasm.
Women need 45 to 90 minutes of time in order to experience sexual pleasure and reach orgasm and climax. When men apply what works for their sexual arousal system with a female partner, it is too short for a female partner.
Women need 45 to 90 minutes of foreplay before penetrative sex is even considered, if it is at all. A female partner may not even want to have penetrative sex, and end with oral sex, for instance. So, when men get all they know about the female sexual pleasure system from pornography, they don’t learn adequate foreplay needs of the female body.
At Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching, sexless marriage counseling for low sex drive and sexual rejection means learning how to create more playfulness, pleasure, enjoyment, fun, and learn to build desire.
We never learn how to build sexual desire anywhere else in life. With Katie Ziskind, sex and intimacy specialist and couples therapist, you and your partner can learn to build sexual desire. Building sexual desire means gaining sex positive education about the female biology and sexual arousal system requirements. In couples therapy with a focus on sex and intimacy, with Katie Ziskind, you can ask questions and learn how to increase pleasure, desire, and help each other feel sexually seen.
Learning about the female orgasmic system and pleasure system supports more enjoyable, fun, and loving sexual experiences. To note, pornography leads to unrealistic expectations for men especially.
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Men who watching pornography may learn misinformation and think a female body would like things they really don’t. From pornography, a male may think that females find certain things pleasurable that they really do not.
Plus, pornography may also make men think they need a hard, erect penis in order to pleasure a female sexually. Many times, pornography videos do not show foreplay that is 45 to 90 minutes. As well, pornography is paid actors and actresses, faking orgasms, and pretending to like the sex they are having.
Pornography is not sexual education, but many males especially get all they know from pornography.
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In reality, many females do not orgasm from penetrative, penis in vagina sex, and instead need clitoral stimulation.
Females will commonly find sex dull, painful, morning, and disappointing when there is not enough time dedicated to building desire. Sexual arousal takes time for females, and more time than males. Sexless marriage counseling for low sex drive and sexual rejection supports sex positive education on understanding the female sexual arousal needs.
Females biologically require about 45 to 90 minutes of foreplay to reach peak sexual arousal.
Through this process of building desire and foreplay, erotic excitement, passion, enjoyment, playfulness, and desire increase.
As well, during foreplay, there should be no feeling of being rushed and no feelings of pressure.
At Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching, Katie Ziskind, specializes with helping couples access sexual pleasure. As well, couples counseling can help you and your spouse create more playful, enjoyable sexual experiences.
As well, you can create sexual experiences that don’t have to end in penis in vagina penetration all the time. Sexless marriage counseling for low sex drive and sexual rejection means learning about the female sexual arousal system. Katie Ziskind, the owner of Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching, gives you a positive place to talk about sex confidently.
Developing a better sex life means talking about what feels pleasurable, enjoyable, fun, and lengthening foreplay to 45 to 90 minutes.
This can mean exploring erogenous zones luxuriously. Foreplay can also include sending sexy texts, talking about what you find sexually arousing, caressing each other’s bodies, and taking time to enjoy touch together.
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Pornography doesn’t show adequate foreplay, which supports female sexual pleasure, enjoyment, playfulness, erotic desire, and satisfaction.
This cycle of morning, painful, and unsatisfying sex leads to low sexual desire and a sexless marriage.
There is societal stress about sex having to go a certain way or end a certain way. The stress around having to look a certain way takes away from your ability to have sexual pleasure and sexual enjoyment. We have to look at how we feel about our body shape and body image in order to increase sexual desire. Self-acceptance and self-love are important ingredients in a healthy sex life. For one, you can’t be worried your partner will body shame you or speak disrespectfully about your body in order to be sexually expressive.
Emotional intimacy skills support a healthy foundation for sexual desire, erotic passion, connection to libido, and sexual self-expression.
Part of experiencing sexual desire and increasing your libido is feeling safe being seen.
Appreciating your own body and sexual arousal signals are a key part of co-creating a positive sex life. When women learn to fake orgasms, this process leads to self criticism and self abandonment.
Women often learn to be inauthentic in sexual experiences leading to self criticism and self abandonment.
Additionally, you and your partner may also need help connecting to sexual sensations and developing a sense of sexual self-awareness. Having a strong sense of sexual self-confidence means pushing away societal and cultural pressured to look a certain way or act a certain way, such as faking an orgasm, in order to have “good sex.” Rather, good sex is about communicating and experiencing pleasure.
Instead of abiding by or trying to meet these unrealistic societal standards, good sex about truly enjoying each other.
Good sex is about attending to your partner’s needs and feeling a sense of trust, sexual openness, and connection.
Opening up with your sexual partner is about exposing yourself both emotionally and sexually. This means stepping away from always striving to meet some cultural standard of what beauty is or what good sex is.
Pornography often leads up to develop unrealistic standards about what we think good sex should be. Couples therapy with Katie Ziskind is about identifying and letting go of these unrealistic sexual standards. Marriage therapy involves gaining sex positive education. Learning accurate sexual health information is about learning that unrealistic sexual standards contribute to sexual insecurity, avoidance, and frustrations.
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Appreciating yourself as a sexual being is a key part of rebuilding sexual desire and increasing physical intimacy.
Knowing yourself as a sexual being allows you to communicate with your partner about what brings you pleasure. As well, good sex is about talking about and doing more sexual activities that bring you pleasure. In general, co-creating a good sex life means communicating with your partner. You might want to say that they don’t have to look a certain way or have to behave in a certain way, like faking an orgasm. In order to have positive sexual experiences, experiencing genuine pleasure is key.
Having sex that you like and enjoy it is a big part of shifting away from self criticism and self abandonment.
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If your sex life is painful, dull, boring, an obligation, or something you do at the expense of your own pleasure, you’ll have a low libido.
Being disinterested in sex is normal when is is not satisfying.
So, part of relationship counseling for your sexless marriage is about creating more pleasure.
At Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching, Katie Ziskind gives you a safe place to talk about what pleasure looks like to you both. Katie Ziskind, relationship coach, certified sex therapy informed professional, Gottman level two marriage therapist, sex and intimacy specialist, helps you understand the five facets of intimacy. Having more sexual pleasure doesn’t mean overindulgence. And, having pleasure doesn’t mean having to go on a fat diet.
Good sex isn’t about it being to a certain standard, or it ending a specific way society tells us it should.
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Instead, good sex and positive sexual experiences begin with talking about desire, pleasure, and enjoyment. Bringing in more sexual pleasure and enjoyment means talking about what experiences you have enjoyed in the past.
As well, marriage counseling for overcoming sexual avoidance and low sexual desire is about creating sexual routines that feel enjoyable. It is about making enjoyable, pleasurable, erotic, and satisfying sexual activities matter.
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The pressure to maintain a certain lifestyle can create tension and conflict within your relationship.
You both may find yourselves arguing over money management, budgeting, and spending habits. Maybe, you feel pressure to buy the brand name watch, new car, or go out for fancy meals. Arguments lead to resentment and frustration in your sex life. To add, ongoing money conflicts create a hostile environment that is not conducive to sexual intimacy and emotional connection.
Furthermore, financial worries can also impact your libido and sexual desire. When you are preoccupied with financial concerns, your mind may be consumed with worries and anxieties. As well, financial or work worries may leave little room for thoughts of intimacy or sexual pleasure.
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As a result, our desire for sex may decrease, and we may find ourselves withdrawing from physical intimacy with our partners.
In some cases, financial worries may even lead to a loss of interest in sex altogether. Depression, anxiety, and feelings of hopelessness can take a significant toll on your mental and emotional well-being.
These leave you feeling numb or disconnected from your own desires and needs.
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It’s important to recognize the impact that financial stress can have on your sex life and intimacy within your romantic relationship.
By acknowledging and addressing these challenges, you both can work together to find constructive ways to cope with financial worries. Through marriage counseling, you can strengthen your bond sexually and emotionally.
This may involve open and honest communication about money and seeking professional help and couples counseling. And, it is about finding ways to prioritize intimacy and emotional connection despite the challenges you face.
Sexless marriage counseling for low sex drive and sexual rejection with Katie Ziskind includes emotional skills and conflict resolution skills.
Ultimately, sexless marriage counseling for low sex drive and sexual rejection helps you support each other through difficult times.
There are emotional conversations that lay a positive foundation for a healthy, regular, and erotic sex life. Talking about money in the safety of your couples therapist’s office supports emotional intimacy. From sexless marriage counseling for low sex drive and sexual rejection, you can rebuild emotional intimacy. Emotional intimacy is about overcoming conflicts as a team.
In couples counseling, you can learn to work together as a team to rebuild and maintain emotional and sexual intimacy. Overall, couples can navigate the ups and downs and cultivate a more fulfilling, pleasurable, playful, and resilient relationship.
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How can never seeing parents and caregivers show affection or a happy marriage lead to lack of affection and lack of emotional vulnerability and lack of emotional expression in my marriage?
Did you or your spouse grow up in an environment where affection and emotional vulnerability are absent? If so, never seeing your parents say, “I love you,” can have massive effects on your ability to navigate affection and physical touch in adulthood.
Children learn by example. And, when parents and caregivers fail to model healthy expressions of love, affection, and emotional connection, it can leave a lasting impact. As a result, you may struggle to know when to hug, hold hands, kiss, or offer physical touch in your romantic relationship later in life.
When you or your spouse have never witnessed your parents or caregivers showing affection, it makes showing physical intimacy more confusing in married life.
Or, when you have a lack of positive role models, this can contribute to a sense of uncertainty and confusion about what constitutes a healthy relationship.
Without seeing examples of healthy communication, emotional intimacy, and affectionate gestures, you both may struggle to understand how to express your own emotions. Emotional expression skills are essential to form a meaningful connection with your spouse.
As a result, when you who grow up in such environments, you may find it challenging to express affection or vulnerability in your own marriage. You may struggle to communicate their feelings openly and honestly. As well, you may fear rejection or judgment from your partner. The idea of being emotionally vulnerable may feel unfamiliar or uncomfortable. So, you both may adopt a more guarded and reserved approach to intimacy in your marriage.
Moreover, the absence of affection and emotional expression in childhood can contribute to a lack of self-awareness and self-esteem in adulthood.
Without experiencing unconditional love and acceptance from your parents or caregivers, you both may struggle to develop sexual touch. And, you may struggle with self-worth and insecurities regarding how to give and receive affectionate touch.
In romantic relationships, this can manifest as a reluctance to express affection or to open up emotionally.
Furthermore, lack of sex and physical touch can lead to feelings of distance and disconnection between you both. To add, the fear of being rejected or abandoned prevents you both from fully investing yourselves in your relationship. As well, this ultimately undermines the intimacy and trust that are essential for a strong, fulfilling marriage and partnership.
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A lack of positive relationship role models can perpetuate unhealthy patterns of behavior and communication.
Additionally, you and your spouse may unknowingly replicate the same distant marital dynamics you observed in your parents’ or caregivers’ relationships. Unfortunately, this perpetuates cycles of marital dysfunction and dissatisfaction in your own lives. Essentially, sexless marriage counseling for low sex drive and sexual rejection can help you both talk about your childhoods. You can have a safe place to reflect upon your role models. As well, you can talk about the portrayals of marriage and partnership you saw in your youth.
In sexless marriage counseling for low sex drive and sexual rejection, you both can learn healthy ways to increase physical and sexual intimacy.
Breaking free from these patterns requires a conscious effort to unlearn old habits and cultivate new, healthier ways of relating to each other.
To add, this may involve seeking marriage therapy to explore past experiences, With Katie Ziskind, relationship coach, certified sex therapy informed professional, Gottman level two marriage therapist, sex and intimacy specialist, you both can develop strategies for building a more fulfilling relationship. It also requires a willingness to step outside of your comfort zone. Both of you can learn to take risks in expressing affection and vulnerability with each other
Ultimately, healing from the wounds of a childhood marked by emotional neglect or lack of affection is a journey that requires patience, self-reflection, and a commitment to personal growth.
By acknowledging the impact of past experiences on your present relationship, you both can actively working towards positive change. As well, you both can cultivate a deeper connection and find greater fulfillment in your marriage together.
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Communication breakdown issues can lead to a sexless marriage and low libido issues:
In some cases, couples may struggle to communicate openly and honestly about their needs and desires.
Resentment and misunderstandings can build over time, leading to a decrease in intimacy as couples become emotionally disconnected.
Relationship arguments impact your sex life and ability to express yourself sexually:
Over time, the dynamics of your marriage may shift, with both of you being blaming and critical of each other. This can be due to a lack of communication skills. Criticism, blaming, and hurtful communication contribute to complacency, boredom, and disinterest in sex.
In your long-term relationship, the dynamics between you both can shift over time. Sometimes, unresolved conflicts, anger issues, and defensiveness drain your sexual connection.
Complacency often sets in when couples become comfortable with the status quo.
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You both may start taking each other for granted, which leads to sexual disconnection in your marriage.
To add, the initial excitement and passion of the relationship may give way to a sense of routine. It leads partners to prioritize other responsibilities over nurturing their bond. As a result, sexual intimacy takes a backseat to work, family obligations, or other interests.
Boredom can also play a role in diminishing intimacy within your romantic relationship.
As the novelty wears off and the routine of daily life sets in, you both may find themselves craving excitement and stimulation outside of your relationship. This can lead to a lack of effort in maintaining intimacy. To add, both of you can become disengaged and uninspired.
Additionally, unresolved conflicts, anger issues, yelling, and cruel language, can create barriers to sexual intimacy within your relationship.
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When issues are left unaddressed or ignored, resentment, anger, and insecurity can fester beneath the surface, creating a toxic environment that inhibits emotional and physical closeness.
Let’s talk about some pieces of the pie that can create a sexless marriage and low sexual interest.
As well, you both may avoid intimate moments out of fear of triggering conflict or facing uncomfortable emotions. Fear of rejection from your partner can further exacerbate the distance between you both.
In such cases, ineffective communication patterns like anger issues and yelling contribute to the breakdown of intimacy.
Rather than addressing underlying issues in a healthy and constructive manner, you both may resort to yelling, dysfunctional communication, contempt, stonewalling, or the silent treatment.
These negative behaviors not only create barriers to effective communication. But, they also erode trust and emotional intimacy, making it difficult for you both to connect on a deeper level.
The impact of these negative communication patterns on sexual bonding cannot be overstated.
Creating sexual openness and playfulness is all about feeling sexually safe and enjoying each other. When you both feel unheard, invalidated, or dismissed, it hurts your sex life and can lead to sexual avoidance.
In order to have fun and be playful taking part in sexual activities together, emotional safety is key.
Part of emotional safety for a healthy sex life means talking about sexual pleasure, sexual fantasies, and sexual urges without fears of rejection or criticism. Many times, negative communication tactics can lead to feelings of emotional disconnection, criticism, blame, anger, and rejection.
And, these feelings trigger a lack of safety and emotional disconnection in your emotional connection and sex life. Underneath anger may be fears of abandonment, fears of rejection, and fears of inadequacy that couples shy away from speaking about. Actually, talking about these fears, worries, and insecurities openly fosters a foundation of emotional vulnerability.
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Being emotionally vulnerable is an important part of emotional bonding conversations, which are essential for sexual connection.
If you feel rejected in your attempts to communicate your needs and desires, it can create a sense of emotional distance. To note, this emotional disconnection causes sexual disconnection. This, in turn, can lead to a decline in sexual intimacy. You both may struggle to find common ground in conflicts and navigate the complexities of your romantic relationship.
Ultimately, addressing the underlying issues and conflict resolution means having a willingness to confront uncomfortable truths.
It is essential that you both engage in open, honest communication. By addressing complacency, boredom, unresolved conflicts, and ineffective communication patterns, couples can begin to rebuild trust. From sexless marriage counseling for low sex drive and sexual rejection, you both can strengthen your connection. As well, from couples therapy, you can rediscover the joy of sexual intimacy and emotional intimacy within your romantic relationship.
It takes effort, patience, and a commitment to growth. But, the rewards of a deeply fulfilling and intimate partnership are well worth the investment.
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Cultural or societal influences impact your sexual confidence and sexual expression:
As well, cultural or societal norms surrounding gender roles, sexuality, and marriage can also impact a couple’s sex life. Religious, strict, and conservative expectations and pressures can play a role in a lack of sexual expression together. Due to unspoken societal, religious, and cultural pressures can lead to stress, fear, and anxiety around sexual exchanges and sexuality. Certain beliefs especially fear-based, shame-based, and guilt-based messaging can contribute sexual disconnection.
Pressure to conform to traditional expectations or societal ideals may lead couples to prioritize other aspects of their lives over intimacy.
Overall, the prioritization of careers, parenting, health issues, family life, and running a business over sex in a marriage can be influenced by a myriad of factors, both internal and external.
Recognizing these factors and making a concerted effort to prioritize intimacy can be crucial for maintaining a healthy and fulfilling relationship.
Communication, empathy, and a willingness to address underlying issues are essential for overcoming these challenges and reconnecting with your partner on a deeper level.
Growing up in a strict, conservative, religious, and Christian household shape your beliefs and attitudes towards sexuality.
Unfortunately, this upbringing often perpetuates misinformation, fear-based messaging, and feelings of shame surrounding sexual expression, masturbation, and sexuality.
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In many conservative religious communities, sex is often portrayed as a taboo subject, surrounded by secrecy and shame.
Discussions about sexuality are typically limited in strict, conservative, and religious upbringing, if not entirely avoided. Not talking about sex and sexuality leaves young people to navigate their sexual desires and curiosities with little guidance. There is often misinformation and lack of accurate sexual information in strict, conservative, and religious upbringing.
Instead of being provided with comprehensive sex education, children may be subjected to fear-based messaging. In a strict, conservative, and religious upbringing, children learn about the negative consequences of sexual activity outside of marriage. Often, there is fear around sex, such as unwanted pregnancies, sexually transmitted infections, exile from the church, and eternal damnation.
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Childhood experiences of purity culture and fear-based massages around sex can lead to an avoidance of physical intimacy in your marriage.
Moreover, the concept of sexual purity is often emphasized within conservative religious communities.
There is a massive emphasis on abstinence from sex until marriage. While promoting abstinence can be a valid approach to preventing unintended pregnancies and STIs, it can also contribute to shame and guilt. Growing up in a strict, conservative, and religious upbringing leads to shame and guilt surrounding natural sexual urges and desires.
Masturbation, in particular, is often condemned as a sinful and immoral act in a strict, conservative, and religious upbringing. As well, seeing masturbation as an immoral act leads young people to internalize feelings of guilt and shame for engaging in a normal and healthy aspect of human sexuality.
Additionally, strict gender roles and expectations may further compound the shame and misinformation surrounding sexuality within conservative religious communities.
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Women, in particular, may be taught to prioritize modesty, purity, and submission, while men may be encouraged to suppress their emotions and sexual desires.
These rigid gender norms can create unrealistic expectations around sexuality. As well, rigid gender roles can lead to feelings of inadequacy and shame for those who do not fit neatly into traditional gender roles.
The consequences of this fear-based and shame-based messaging around sexuality can be far-reaching and profound. When you or your spouse were raised in such an environment, you both may struggle with low self-esteem, body image issues, and difficulties expressing your sexual selves. Sexual expression and sexual confidence may be a struggle in your intimate relationship as a result of a strict, conservative, and religious upbringing.
If you have premarital sex, you may feel ridden with guilt and find it hard to enjoy sexual pleasure.
Due to a strict, conservative, and religious upbringing and culture, you may want help connecting to experiences of sexual pleasure and getting comfortable and confident orgasming.
So, you may default to avoiding sexual activities or making them as short as possible. To add, you both may experience anxiety, depression, and feelings of worthlessness as a result of internalized shame and guilt surrounding their sexuality.
Furthermore, the lack of accurate information about sexual health and consent can put both of you at risk for harm, including unintended pregnancies, STIs, and sexual violence. Without access to comprehensive sex education and support, young people who grow up with a strict, conservative, and religious upbringing may be ill-equipped to make informed decisions about sexual health and well-being.
Marriage therapy with Katie Ziskind helps you both recognize the harmful effects of strict, conservative, religious, and Christian upbringing on your attitudes towards sexuality.
From couples counseling, you can work together to create shared values around a more open, inclusive, and sex-positive marriage. This means gaining accurate sexual education and releasing fear-based and shame-based messaging around your sexuality.
Part of couples therapy is promoting healthy, shame-free conversations about sexuality, consent, and bodily autonomy.
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In today’s fast-paced world, maintaining a healthy and fulfilling sex life can be challenging for many couples. Whether it’s due to communication breakdowns, unresolved conflicts, or external stressors, the spark of intimacy can often flicker and fade over time. But fear not, because there are powerful tools and couples therapy can help you. Marriage therapy helps break through the sexual standoff and avoidant cycle you are currently in.
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From working with Katie Ziskind, you both can address the plethora of underlying issues that are impacting your sexual intimacy and sex life.
With Katie Ziskind’s guidance, distant couples learn effective communication skills, conflict resolution strategies, and techniques for cultivating emotional intimacy and connection.
By delving deep into your relationship and uncovering hidden barriers to intimacy, you can begin to heal old wounds. Co-creating a healthy sex life is about building trust and being emotionally vulnerable. When you want to reignite the passion that brought you both together in the first place, Katie Ziskind, relationship coach, certified sex therapy informed professional, Gottman level two marriage therapist, sex and intimacy specialist, would love to help.
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But, perhaps the most powerful aspect of a couples retreat is the opportunity for couples to reconnect on a deeper level and rediscover the joy and excitement of being together. Away from the stresses and distractions of daily life, couples can fully immerse themselves in each other’s presence.
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In Connecticut, where does Katie Ziskind help distant couples who want to improve low sexual desire issues and overcome sexual avoidance?
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You and your spouse can work on rekindling the spark of passion and desire that has been dormant for too long.
Whether through weekly counseling sessions or a three-day couples retreat, couples therapy with Katie Ziskind, relationship coach, certified sex therapy informed professional, Gottman level two marriage therapist, sex and intimacy specialist, offers a powerful path towards healing and transformation.
By providing couples with the tools, support, and guidance they need to navigate the complexities of relationships and intimacy, Katie Ziskind empowers couples to create the deeply fulfilling and passionate relationship they desire.
So, if you and your partner are ready to embark on a journey of healing, growth, and transformation, consider couples counseling with Katie Ziskind and experience the power of reconnecting with each other in a whole new way.
Your relationship deserves it, and your future together depends on it.
If you struggle with roommate syndrome, you are not alone. Working with Katie Ziskind provides you with specific emotional expression skills as well as sexual connection tools. Creating softness, gentleness, safety, and openness are key elements of emotional intimacy. When looking at rebuilding sexual desire, emotional relaxation and security are key parts. You can learn more about the positive feedback loop between emotional and sexual intimacy in couples therapy.
