On a diagnosis level, painful vaginal sex is called dyspareunia. At Wisdom Within Counseling in Connecticut, we see a lot of women who experience dyspareunia and painful vaginal intercourse. Overcome painful sex in intimacy and couples therapy by working with the sex and intimacy specialists at Wisdom Within Counseling in Connecticut.
Women with dyspareunia and painful sex experiences have various types of pain in the abdomen, vulva, and vagina area during sex. As a result, some women feel shame, guilt, fear, and anxiety about their dyspareunia and painful sexual intercourse experiences. Often, when sex is painful, a female’s partner needs to give more time to emotional intimacy and sexual foreplay.
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Intimacy and couples therapy gives women a safe palce to voice painful sex experiences and learn solutions
In our culture, women are not given a sexual voice, so they often do not share their pain with their sexual partner.
Many women feel shame and guilt admitting to their partner they are in pain during sexual intercourse. As well, a woman may not tell her romantic partner she is in excruciating pain because she doesn’t want them to feel bad.
Women take on the role of caretaker even in sexual experiences, forfeiting their own pleasure. More often than not, a female may grin and bear it while experiencing pain during sexual intercourse.
Working with a sex and intimacy specialist at Wisdom Within Counseling in Connecticut can help women and their sexual partners understand solutions for dyspareunia. Talking about sex is one of the first steps. But, many couples avoid talking about sex all together.
What are problem areas that may be interfering with your sex life and causing painful sex?
Why do some women experience painful sex?
Painful sex makes intercourse uncomfortable.
From pain during sex, sex can become anxiety provoking. Overcome painful sex in intimacy and couples therapy by working with a sex specialist at Wisdom Within Counseling. One of the first steps is getting comfortable talking about sex, foreplay, building desire, and orgasming.
Due to lack of vaginal lubrication, sex can cause chafing, heat, friction, or burning during. Male partners often rush into vaginal sex, leading to disappointing and dissatisfying sexual experiences for a female partner.
Some women experience pain from dyspareunia and sex for hours and days after intercourse is over. Painful sex can make women dislike their spouse or romantic partner. A woman may become anxious about future sexual experiences due to past painful sexual ones.
Wisdom Within Counseling helps couples understand why sex is painful.
And, couples can learn ways to increase foreplay, and gain education on the female sexual pleasure system. Females can learn to have a voice and speak up when something is painful in the moment too, without feeling guilty.
By overcoming painful sex in intimacy and couples therapy, you can feel closer and build meaningful connection.
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Also, many women start avoid sexual activities when experiencing painful sex and dyspareunia.
In a relationship, their partner may suffer from confusion or sexual rejection.
When a female turns their partner down repeatedly, this can lead to marital issues, conflicts around sexual activities, resentment, and fights. Untreated dyspareunia can lead to other issues like affairs, pornography addiction, or communication problems.
What causes dyspareunia and painful sexual intercourse? How you overcome painful sex in intimacy and couples therapy?
There can be a number of reasons from physical, emotional, and psychological, that play a role in dyspareunia and painful intercourse. First, we will address physical aspects that can influence dyspareunia.
How can vaginal dryness play a role in pain during vaginal penetration?
Now, if a female’s body and sex organs are not properly warmed up, she will experience dyspareunia and painful vaginal intercourse.
Adequate and lengthy foreplay can help a female’s body become ready and excited for vaginal penetration.
Often, a female’s partner gets all their sexual education from porn, which is not education. Porn can be sexually arousing, but doesn’t show adequate foreplay.
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For instance, a porn video may show seven to fifteen minutes of sexual activities.
In reality, for a female to feel sexually satisfied before vaginal penetration, she needs a minimum of 45-90 minutes of foreplay.
As well, part of working with a sex and intimacy therapist at Wisdom Within Counseling in Connecticut is understanding emotional foreplay.
What is emotional foreplay and how does it help with dyspareunia?
Emotional foreplay is the foreplay before any sexual touching begins. Intimacy counseling and couples therapy can help couples understand the purpose and importance of emotional foreplay.
Emotional foreplay can include relieving stress for a female who feels overly responsible. Often, for women, they need their sexual, romantic partner to help with chores and lessen their responsibilities. Painful sexual intercourse is something many couples need help talking about with a marriage, intimacy, and sex specialist.
What does emotional foreplay and emotional bonding look like?
If you and your spouse are raising children together, part of emotional foreplay may be giving a female time by herself. Emotional foreplay to help a female overcome painful sex can include listening to her feelings. When a romantic partner listens empathetically, this can help promote more trust and foster bonding.
In order to feel sexual with a partner and sexually aroused, a female needs time to let go of her responsibilities.
Talking together as a couple about how to lessen responsibility for a female partner can help improve sexual satisfaction and improve sex drives. As a partner, you can lessen her to-do list.
Overcome painful sex in intimacy and couples therapy by talking about mindfulness and being emotionally present. Meditation and mindfulness activities can lower anxiety and worry.
If a female is worrying about doing laundry during sexual activities, it will be difficult for her mind and body to receive sexual pleasure.
Also, if a female feels pressure or obligated to sexually preform, this can immediately decrease natural vaginal lubrication. She needs help stepping out of the overly caretaking roles she has in her life.
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Can foreplay begin in the morning to support adequate vaginal lubrication to reduce dyspareunia symptoms?
To add, a female needs to feel wanted sexually and desired. The female body works differently than the male body or a penis owner’s body.
The last things a female needs is to feel that sex is an obligation or another responsibility on her plate. Feeling as if sex is a responsibility will lower her sexual desire and libido. A female needs to feel freedom, sexual expression, be creative, and playful to have her sex drive increase. So, in order to make sexual activities more satisfying for a female, she needs to have time to become aroused sexually. Overall, woman needs to feel emotionally close and like she can trust her partner as well.
Trust is a huge part of creating a healthy sex life with an intimacy, marriage, and sex specialist.
Of course, teasing, sexy text messages, and talking dirty can begin early in the day to help a woman’s mind become sexually open. But, if a female feels on edge around her romantic partner or walks on eggshells emotionally, she will not feel open to trying a new sex toy.
Intimacy and couples therapy can help females and their partners talk about new sex toys.
Working with a marriage, intimacy, and sex specialist can help a female’s romantic, intimate partner understand her needs for emotional foreplay.
In order to feel aroused sexually, a female needs to feel desired, wanted, and be given attention.
She needs to be able to emotionally confide in and trust her partner with her deepest feelings and fears. If she fears rejection from her partner, she will not be able to open up sexually. Sexual arousal for females begins mentally and emotionally.
Overcoming painful sexual intercourse and dyspareunia occurs emotionally and mentally in her mind before any part of her body is touched.
Fighting, negative communication, and yelling can lead to emotional trauma in a marriage that makes sex painful
Any sort of anxiety, fear, or feeling scared can also lead to dyspareunia and painful vaginal intercourse. Maybe, a female fears her partner is cheating emotionally or physically on her.
Suspecting or being suspicion her partner is having an affair or betraying her can lead to painful sex. If a female feels emotionally unsafe with her partner, she will often experience dyspareunia and painful sexual intercourse.
A female needs to feel safe emotionally and bond with her partner to be able to open up. When a female has negative feeling about her spouse or romantic partner, she will not be able to open up sexually.
Any sort of unresolved conflict or arguments can be great topics to bring when working with a marriage, intimacy, and sex specialist.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, start talking about sex in a positive way and overcome painful sex in intimacy and couples therapy.
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Understanding female anatomy and sexual pleasure are keys in overcoming dyspareunia
Why is clitoral stimulation and foreplay important?
A female’s clitoris is a power center for her sexual pleasure. Sometimes, a female’s partner will not know where to find her ciltoris.
Many male partners have no idea the pressure or touch a female likes on her clitoris. At times, her partner has gone through life without the education of female sexual health or sexual pleasure. Many men and women do not know how to stimulate or identify where a female’s clitoris is.
Finding a female’s clitoris is important in dyspareunia treatment
Some women do not even know where their own clitoris is. So, self-pleasure actives and masturbation can help a woman get more in touch with her own sexual expression.
Touching herself sexually three days per week for an hour each time can help a woman get in touch with her sexual side. She can learn about her body and what feels sexually pleasurable.
As well, when overcoming dyspareunia symptoms, a female can use self-pleasure and masturbation to understand how to orgasm. Orgasming before vaginal penetration is key in supporting natural vaginal lubrication. In self-pleasure and masturbation actives, a female can learn what type touch, pressure, and speed of touch she likes to give to herself.
She can better communicate what she needs and wants with her romantic partner from getting to know herself sexually.
Touching her clitoris can help a female’s body and vagina become wet and naturally lubricated.
The clitoris is important for orgasming and natural vaginal lubrication to help treat dyspareunia.
If you are a female’s romantic partner, you want to build up her libido, sexual desire, and play before touching her ciltoris. The clitoris on a female is sensitive, so you don’t want to jump right there.
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Why doesn’t my wife want to kiss me back? I feel sexually rejected by my female partner.
Notably, a female’s sexual pleasure and feeling sexy begins with her mind and emotions. Talking, building trust, and bonding emotionally allow a female to feel excited to make out, kiss, and feel passion.
Then, from deep conversations, emotional support, and erogenous zones being touched, she will want to have her clitoris stimulated. Then, touching a female’s clitoris can provide a great sense of sexual pleasure and support orgasming. Multiple orgasms can also be great topics when working with a marriage, intimacy, and sex specialist in Connecticut.
Females and their romantic partners can talk about ways to overcome painful sexual intercourse in intimacy counseling and couples therapy
Increase emotional intimacy for more female pleasure
By talking about emotions, sharing feelings, and being vulnerable, females will feel more sexually expressive and open.
After talking and bonding, then making out will feel more natural to a female. As well, touching erogenous zones, and even doing sensual massages can be parts of physical foreplay.
A female will feel her clitoris become engorged, swollen, and pulsating when she is aroused sexually. When kissing, she will feel her vulva becoming more wet and naturally lubricated. Maybe, a female wants her breasts played with or nipples touched for a period of time.
Playing around with erogenous zones in foreplay can help women heal from dyspareunia and painful sexual intercourse
While her partner touches her erogenous zones, she will feel her vulva and vagina getting natural lubrication. Natural vaginal lubrication can remedy painful sexual intercourse.
You can talk all about this openly with your intimacy specialist and in couples therapy.
Her partner can then touch her vulva, vagina, and clitoris area on top of her clothes, teasing her more. Touching her clitoris over clothing slowly builds a female’s sense of desire and can help her feel wanted and loved.
Additionally, medication‘s can lead to a lack of vaginal lubrication.
Can medications play role in causing painful sex?
Antihistamines and SSRI antidepressant medication‘s can lead to vaginal dryness and a little libido. Working with a prescriber or APRN can help understand if a woman may be ready to come off of these medication‘s or have a lower dose.
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If a female is prescribed antihistamines or anti-depressants or SSRI medication‘s, she will naturally have less vaginal lubrication and lower sex drive.
If she needs to keep taking his medication‘s, working with us accident Missy therapist in Connecticut at Wisdom Within Counseling and help pinpoint other areas to improve sex life.
A variety of different techniques and tools can be gained from working with a sex, marriage, and intimacy therapist in Connecticut.
We love helping women and their partners develop passion, desire, and overall get to know their bodies better.
Some women struggle to reach an orgasm, where other women want to experience multiple orgasms, and other women have painful sexual experiences.
Working with a marriage, intimacy, and sex specialist in Connecticut helps address different problem areas that may be interfering with your sex life and your marriage.
Sexual issues can lead to resentment, anxiety, and even conflict and frustrations. Working with a therapist can help air out all these different emotions and help you and your partner develop a sense of emotional connection.
Wisdom Within Counseling in Connecticut helps women overcome painful sex in intimacy and couples therapy.
Work with a sex and intimacy specialist in Connecticut
Orgasm mean can help a female develop more natural lubrication in her vulva and vagina area. From having an orgasm before vaginal penetration, a female can feel more open.
During an orgasm, if females physical anatomy changes and her cervix opens and deepens.
Therefore, if a female is experiencing painful sexual intercourse, Wisdom Within Counseling can help. In Connecticut, work with an intimacy, marriage, and sex specialist to learn about the importance of orgasming before vaginal sex. Your sex specialist can teach partners how to encourage and prioritize a female’s orgasm before vaginal penetration.
Vaginal penetration that occurs before orgasm mean can be uncomfortable, cause chafing, and burning.
A females body needs 45 to 90 minutes to feel sexually open. Think about making banana bread. If you take your banana bread out of the oven too soon, the middle of it will be runny and inedible.
Building a woman sexual desire and sexual pleasure is very similar to baking banana bread. On the other hand, a males penis will often become erect within just a few minutes. It’s important to notice the differences between female sexual arousal, female pleasure, and male pleasure and sexual arousal.
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Having vaginal sex too soon before a females body is properly aroused and warmed up can lead to painful intercourse.
Working with a sex and intimacy specialist in Connecticut can help you and your partner understand the needs every female has to have pleasurable intercourse.
If a female is experiencing painful intercourse, she will often avoid sex. Also, she may have negative feelings around sex, or reject her partner sexually when advances or me.
Working with a Connecticut marriage, intimacy, and sex specialist can help females understand where general pain is coming from before, during, and after sexual intercourse.
As well, seeing a sex and intimacy specialist helps a female’s partner truly understand how to arouse her sexually. Sex should never be painful. Overcome painful sex in intimacy and couples therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling in Connecticut.
Also, working with an intimacy, marriage, and sex specialist helps a romantic partner build desire. Building desire makes sexual activities more playful and fun rather than an obligation for females.
Lastly, the sex and intimacy specialists in Connecticut at Wisdom Within Counseling can help couples develop a passionate, playful sex life.
Lengthening foreplay and sexual play naturally lubricates a female’s body, which can help with painful sexual intercourse.
A marriage, sex and intimacy specialist can help recommend different lubricants.
In intimacy and couples therapy, learn about sex toys, and different ideas for foreplay to promote natural vaginal lubrication.
There can be a variety of issues that impact painful sexual intercourse, and working with a sexy intimacy therapist at Wisdom Within Counseling and help pinpoint what is going on for each females body.
Often times, many couples just need a new set of techniques and sexual education skills to have a successful sex life. Sex life issues are often easily fixed with new sexual skills. At Wisdom Within Counseling, you can work with a marriage therapist can help you both find a solution for painful sex.
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