All about increasing sex drive for women in marriage, intimacy and sex therapy in Connecticut
Women may experience female sexual desire disorders for a number of reasons. Marital, intimacy and sex therapy in Connecticut can address and treat the reasons why women lose what was once a healthy sex drive. Some women no longer have sexual motivations that lead to emotional challenges in their relationship. Also, some women experience shame and guilt when they think about being sexual, self-pleasure, or behaving in sexual ways. At times, couples lack adequate sexual education that is necessary for a passionate, meaningful, and satisfying sex life. The intimacy specialists in marriage therapy in Connecticut support couples in building a playful, satisfying sex life.
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Here, we will talk about different ways women can increase their sexual desire, overcome sexual dysfunctions, and embrace sexual pleasure. Marriage, intimacy and sex therapy in Connecticut can help women feel confident and overcome cultural shame.
Why does it take longer for women to feel sexual verses males?
So, often women are in the role of the caretaker and the responsible one. They never get to allow themselves to dive into being a sexually expressive being due to stressors in life.
Women often take on responsibilities like making doctors appointments for children. As well, women give to others all day making sure everyone in their house is well fed and nourished. Often, women give their time and energy to furthering her academics, job, and career.
Unfortunately, women are in positions where society and culture tells them to make sure everyone else is happy before themselves. So, sexual pleasure falls to the way side and likewise libido and sex drive decrease.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, the intimacy specialists in marriage therapy in Connecticut, support couples in building and creating a sex positive marriage.
Can being overly responsible play a role in a low sex drive and love libido?
These responsibilities women have of caregiving and being too responsible for everyone else’s happiness can get in the way of a happy sex life. Also, if young children are having nightmares and pile into a woman’s bed, this can lower libido and sex drive.
Having a child with special needs or autism can decrease libido and sex drive. Tending to children, a spouse, and family members who are sick and in need of caregiving takes a toll on a female’s sex life and sex drive.
Giving to others can prevent a woman from being able to get in a sexual mood when the time arises with her romantic partner. Working with a sex specialist, marriage therapist, and intimacy therapist at Wisdom Within Counseling in Connecticut can help women feel confident regaining power of their sexual expression.
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Eating disorders and body image issues can lead to sexual dysfunctions in women
For one, women who have eating disorders, a restrictive diet, vomit, limit food groups, or are over exercising will often have an imbalance in hormones. Women who have disordered eating behaviors may not have proper hormonal levels to have healthy libido or healthy sex drive. When a woman is suffering from anorexia, bulimia, binge eating disorder, or purging, her body will be in starvation mode.
Menopausal women can have an orgasmic sex life
Likewise, it is a common misconception that sex drive lowers in menopause. Do not let menopause stop you from having a vibrant sex life. It is not normal or post menopausal women have a lower sex drive. Instead, often times women who are low in libido and post menopausal need the help of a profession marriage, sex, and intimacy therapist better understand the issues outside of menopausal changes.
It is unfortunate how society blames menopause and normalizes a low sex drive for women without looking at a variety of relational, emotional, and physical factors.
Unfortunately, doctors and medical professionals do not have any professional education on sex and intimacy. They will often blame a woman’s changing body for her low sex drive. Thinking a lower libido is normal when menopausal can be a limiting belief playing a role in sex drive. If you are menopausal, you can have a vibrant, healthy, and orgasmic sex life from working with the team of sex and intimacy specialist at Wisdom Within Counseling in Connecticut.
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Another reason why women stop wanting to have sex is due to a boring sex life.
A woman may find the same sexual routine boring and no longer want to participate if she doesn’t feel desired. Females need creativity, spontaneity, mystery, and to feel desired in order to have a good sex life.
Sometimes, women feel they have to be the giver sexually, which decreases her sex drive, libido, and interest in sex. You may not feel pleased sexually if you are always giving in the bedroom and outside the bedroom.
Women who experience libido may a boring sex life because they have been with the same person in a long-term relationship.
Couples tend to get stuck in the same routine after being together for a long time. Nothing is new anymore, so women stop showing an interest in having sex. Often times, sex and intimacy therapy in Connecticut can help couples who are in a long-term relationship develop a vibrant, rich, and diverse sex life.
A boring sex life can absolutely inhibit sexual excitement. In turn, spicing up your sex life by working with a sex, intimacy, and marriage therapist at Wisdom Within Counseling in Connecticut can increase a female’s libido, desire, probability of orgasming, and sex drive.
Inadequate length of foreplay leads to sexual dysfunctions for females and couples
If a woman doesn’t have enough foreplay this is another major issue as to why she has no sexual desire. Working in couples in marriage therapy, partners can better understand the female arousal system from a holistic perspective. A women requires 45-90 minutes of non-sexual and sexual touching to feel into her sexual body. Adequate foreplay support preparation for orgasm, building of sexual desire, vaginal wetness, and natural lubrication.
Marriage, sex, and intimacy therapy in Connecticut can help her partner understand female anatomy, such as where to find her clitoris.
Many times, a male partner may think vaginal penetration is what leads a female to orgasm. Really, foreplay, clitoral and nipple stimulation lead to an orgasm much faster. Unfortunately, the effects of too little foreplay can play a big role in a female’s decreased libido and sexual desire.
By increasing foreplay to 45 to 90 minutes at a minimum, women can experience a greater increase in sex drive.
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The intimacy specialists in marriage therapy in Connecticut can help a female’s partner better understand what builds her feelings of desire.
Wisdom Within Counseling helps couples create suspense, and how to incorporate mystery within sexual activities.
So, often our culture focuses just on vaginal intercourse as a sexual activity. If a woman is just having vaginal intercourse, her partner may not realize that she needs and wants a variety of different spicy sexual experiences.
A woman may no longer want to be sexual with her partner if vaginal intercourse is all that is occurring when it comes to their sex life. Women need 45-90 minutes of foreplay in order to feel needed and want to open up more sexually.
Too much focus only on vaginal intercourse leads to low libido and low sex drive in women
Also, there is such an emphasis on vaginal penetration that is just not important for female sexual pleasure. Therefore, couples and intimacy therapy can help partners focus on sexual activities without sex having to lead to vaginal penetration. Using different sex toys, vibrators, lubricants, and blindfolds can be fun. As well, trying new sex positions can be positive. Lastly, having sex in different environments can build sexual desire in females. Trying new things sexually increases a female’s sex drive and desire.
Bringing in new sex toys, vibrators, lubricants, and diversifying sexual activities are all important components of sex intimacy therapy in Connecticut.
Some couples do not know what an erogenous zone is, so sex, marriage, and intimacy therapy can help prove proper sexual education. For females, they need to be massaged in non-sexual areas.
Then, females need to have their erogenous zones touched, be caressed, fondled, and more. Part of sex, marriage, and intimacy therapy in Connecticut is proper sex education on what females need.
Setting aside time for self-pleasure and masturbation can increase sexual desire and libido in females
Additionally, a woman needs to learn how to use self pleasure. Self-pleasure is key for a healthy and vibrant sex life. A woman cannot solely rely on her partner for pleasure sexually. Having time for masturbation and self pleasure at least three times a week for about an hour is key. Also, masturbation and sexual self pleasure helps a woman get more aware of her needs. She can learn what sexually arouses her and turns her on. Then, she can communicate that to her spouse or romantic partner.
She can learn how to be mindful and relaxed in her body. As well, a female can begin paying attention to the pressure she likes around touch. She can learn what pressure feels good underneath her fingertips and on her skin. Enjoying herself a few times a week is important for increasing libido, sex drive, and female sexual pleasure.
Masturbation and self pleasure in a sexual way is a very important thing for a woman to be able to sexual experiences with a partner.
During self pleasuring masturbation, a woman can learn about herself and see what helps her feel aroused. For instance, she can see if she likes to listen to music or prefers silence. Also, masturbation and self pleasure allows a woman to see what types of sex toys she likes.
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She can explore the mental space and mindfulness of sexual fantasies. As well, a female can learn what time of day feels best for her masturbation and self pleasure routines. A female who feels cultural shame around masturbation and self pleasure due to a strict religious upbringing may need the help of a sex, intimacy, and marriage therapist.
Shame, guilt, and anxiety around masturbation and self pleasure can be processed in sex, intimacy, and marriage counseling in Connecticut
At Wisdom Within Counseling in Connecticut, our team of sex, intimacy, and marriage therapists specialize in helping women feel confident. Part of masturbation and self pleasure is learning to be comfortable receiving and deserving sexual pleasure.
Any shame, guilt, or religious beliefs can get in the way of truly enjoying her own sexual pleasure. As well, some religious practices teach women as children to fear masturbation and self pleasure. Also, some strict, religions tell women that their body is not for pleasure, but for having children, pregnancy, and child bearing only. In these religious upbringings, women learn to turn off sexual needs and never learn that masturbation and self pleasure is acceptable and a positive form of self-care.
Where does shame and guilt around masturbation and self pleasure come from?
Some religious teachings tell women that their body is completely for their partner’s pleasure and not her’s. As well, a strict religious upbringing can make a woman feel shame and guilt for wanting to explore masturbation and self pleasure.
There may be many reasons why a woman feels apprehensive about masturbation and self pleasure. So, working with a marriage, sex and intimacy in Connecticut at Wisdom Within Counseling can help women talk about shame and guilt around masturbation and self pleasure.
Marriage, sex, and intimacy therapy in Connecticut can help women overcome anxious thoughts, cultural shame, overthinking, and any feelings of nervousness.
Self pleasure and masturbation is just as important as eating doos regularly and other self-care activities like exercise throughout the week. Just like a woman might go to the gym for an hour or take a yoga class for an hour, setting aside time to practice self pleasure is key.
Self-exploration can help a woman trust her body again and assists in rebuilding a healthy sex drive.
The more woman gets to know her own body, the more she can talk with her partner in a shared experience about what she needs and wants sexually. It is a sign of sexual confidence for women to have a voice and speak up with their partner. When a woman is with her partner, she needs self-pleasure to know what she likes. Self pleasure is one of the keys to sexual confidence in a romantic relationship and marriage.
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Benefits of masturbation and self pleasure for women with a low sex drive and low libido
A woman can understand what types of sexual fantasies she wants, what boost her sexual arousal, and how she likes to orgasm. Some women prefer nipple stimulation to orgasm and other women prefer clitoral stimulation to orgasm. If a woman does not know what feels good to her, being in a partner sexual experience can bring up a lot of anxiety.
Women can decrease alcohol and drug use to improve sex and intimacy
As well, if a woman struggles with alcoholism, this can create exhaustion, lethargy, and tiredness that decreases her ability to become sexually aroused, turned on, and perform sexually. Studies show that women who have alcohol in their bloodstream take longer to orgasm.
As well, alcohol can make women unable to orgasm when they normally could orgasm when they didn’t alcohol. Sexual dysfunctions in all genders and ages of people are more common after drinking alcohol. The nervous system has to be calm and relaxed in order to become sexually aroused and orgasm. So, if you or your partner have been drinking alcohol at night to try to get in the mood, try avoiding this and see how it changes your sex life.
If you are a female, see how avoiding alcohol and limiting alcohol changes your libido and your sex drive.
Often times, the best sexual experiences are the ones when the mind is clear and couples are sober. Notably, this is because couples can truly be more sensitive and aware of what both need sexually when they are sober. Even though you might think that alcohol can loosen you up and reduce inhibitions, it can also make it more challenging to perform sexually or reach an orgasm.
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Marriage, sex, and intimacy therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling in Connecticut helps women and their sexual partners confidently talk about sexual needs
As well, females and their partners often avoid the topic of sex. talking about sexual needs can lead to sexual rejection and sadness if those needs seem impossible to meet. Perhaps, a female feels nervous bringing up a new kink or BDSM scene she would like to try sexually.
A woman may feel awkward or anxious sharing her sexual fantasies. For some couples, talking about sex leads to anxiety and pressure. As well, a female may deeply care about her partner’s emotions and feel worried about offending their partner.
Why do couples avoid talking about sex, when it can be so healthy for a satisfying sex life?
As well, some couples avoid talking about sex because it can lead to conflicts and bring out communication problems. When females avoid sharing their sexual needs and feelings with her romantic partner or spouse, this can lead to a low libido.
Not feeling safe to share or express sexual needs or feeling shut down when these topics are brought up leads women to develop a disinterest in having sex all together. Sex, intimacy, and marriage therapy in Connecticut can help couples become more confident talking about your sexual needs.
Why talk about sex with the help of a marriage, sex, and intimacy therapist in Connecticut?
Talking about sex in your relationship and your marriage can help you, as a female, feel heard, and express your sexual fantasy thoughts.
Starting to talk about sex can lead to more intimacy and emotional intimacy, which is a precursor for healthy sex life. Working together in sex, intimacy, and marriage therapy can improve discussions couples are having about sex. Some couples may find a sense of playfulness and adventure they never thought possible by talking about sex.
As well, couples who talk about sex often have more pleasurable sexual experiences outside of their bedroom. Therefore, intimacy, and marriage therapy in Connecticut can help women and their partners have confident sexual conversations.
Can opening up conversations about sex be good for me and my romantic partner or spouse?
Absolutely, couples can talk about what they enjoy, fetishes, kinks, desires for deepening your sexual connection to one another, and goals. Just like you talk about budgeting, food shopping, or what you want to eat for dinner, talking about sex can be very healthy. Women can talk about what makes them feel excited sexually.
It actually which might be brand new information to a female’s spouse or romantic partner. You can learn new things about your romantic partner or spouse, even if you have been married for 10 or 35 years. Working with the team of therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling in Connecticut help help you grow a sexually expressive part of yourself, as a female. Lastly, sex, marriage, and intimacy therapy can help couples diversify your sexual activities and create a more satisfying sex life.
How can working with the intimacy specialists in marriage therapy in Connecticut at Wisdom Within Counseling help couples thrive sexually?
Well, the intimacy specialists in marriage therapy in Connecticut at Wisdom Within Counseling in Connecticut can help you and your partner.
If you have difficulty saying what you like sexually, build confidence by working with the intimacy specialists in marriage therapy in Connecticut.
You might feel embarrassed to share a kink that turns you on with your spouse.
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A woman may be afraid that she will offend her partner.
She may want to tell her partner about something she doesn’t like. Furthermore, couples therapy can get to the root of libido and low sex drive issues. As well, talking about sexual needs is a great part of working with a sex, intimacy, and marriage therapist in Connecticut.
How can the team of intimacy specialists in marriage therapy in Connecticut at Wisdom Within Counseling help holistically?
In addition to traditional talk counseling, couples often ned help with communication, getting to know one another again, and being playful. Therefore, in addition to talking about about sex and intimacy topics, couples can try a variety of holistic therapies to foster better communication.
Gaining anger management skills, talking about childhood trauma, and building emotional connection are parts of holistic couples counseling. At Wisdom Within Counseling in Connecticut, we offer couples art therapies, yoga therapies, drama therapy, meditation, music therapies, and outdoor walking therapy.
Expressive arts, painting, and yoga therapies support couples in therapy to connect in ways beyond words can offer.
As well, art, yoga, music, and creative, expressive arts help each person individually improve self regulation and self-calming tools. Holistic, creative therapies foster healthy communication skills and meaningful connection. The holistic intimacy specialists in marriage therapy in Connecticut at Wisdom Within Counseling give you a safe place.
Our team of marriage therapists support both you and your spouse in deeply connecting.
Can can women can embrace their sexy side?
Sex and intimacy therapy helps women develop a sense of sexual confidence. Every female has a sexy, sexually expressive side.
Listening to audiobooks that portray women in sexual positions can build sexual desire. Hearing about another woman being sexually pleased can be liberating. As well, it help you increase your awareness of what turns you on. As well, many women need external stimuli to feel in a sexy mood. Erotic material can give women permission that it is okay to receive sexual pleasure. If a woman is worried about paying bills, it is unlikely she will spontaneously aroused. Listening to erotic audio books can make a woman want to be sexual. She can learn how to release sexual energy.
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Any mental stress gets in the way of being a sexually expressive being. Therefore, the team of marriage, sex, and intimacy therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling in Connecticut can help couples connect sexually.
Sexual pleasure for females in counseling through erotica
Reading and listening to erotica has incredible benefits for female sex drive and increasing sexual pleasure. Erotica not only improves desire but also increases sexual arousal. Listening to erotic audio books increases sex drive and libido. From building sexual desire, vaginal wetness and lubrication naturally occurs. That, in turn prepares a female’s body for orgasm, and multiple orgasms.
Listening to an audio book that is hot and steamy prepares a woman’s body for sexual activities. As well, reading erotica can help a woman get in a sexy mindset. As well, reading erotic books such as one’s by Sylvia Day can also support female sexual pleasure. Reading and listening to erotic material can help women get in the mood and increase libido.
Talking about sexual trauma supports couples in building a satisfying sex life through marriage, inimtacy and sex counseling in Connecticut
A female might need a safe space to talk about sexual trauma she experienced in adolescent years that still impact her sexually. As well, sexual trauma or sexual abuse in college may be a part of her life that her romantic partner may know nothing about. Sexual trauma is a major part of the treatment of female sexual dysfunctions and low libido issues. To note, any sort of sexual trauma or sexual abuse history can have a role in feel worried or uneasy about sex. After experience sexual trauma or sexual abuse in childhood or in a past relationship, a woman may have a hyper or hypo sex drive.
Working with the intimacy specialists in marriage therapy in Connecticut can help a female feel more comfortable.
Learn to be vulnerable sharing how your sexual trauma impacts your sex drive and sex life.
A female may feel apprehensive or scared to talk with her partner about past experiences of sexual abuse or sexual trauma at home.
As well, a female may need the guidance and encouragement of a Connecticut marriage and intimacy therapist if she feels scared of her partner having a negative reaction to her past.
Due to the nature of sexual trauma and sexual abuse, a female may fear her romantic partner will shame or reject her when she does share her story of sexual abuse.
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A therapist, such as one at Wisdom Within Counseling in Connecticut, who understands the cycle of trauma can help couples step into a place of healing together.
Also, couples therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling can help a female’s partner process their feelings regarding the impact of her newly shared trauma story. Sharing and talking about sexual trauma and sexual abuse in counseling can be a safe place to heal.
Exploring consensual non-monogamy in couples therapy in Connecticut
Marriage and inimtacy therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling in Connecticut is a great place to talk about consensual non-monogamy. Some women are worried that if they tell their partner they want to have a threesome, their partner may become angry.
Or, a female may want to take part in consensual non-monogamy and wants the guidance of a professional to support opening the marriage up. At Wisdom Within Counseling in Connecticut also support couples in consensually opening their relationship, trying polyamory, or consensual non-monogamy of any kind.
Working with the intimacy specialists in marriage therapy in Connecticut can support couples when exploring BDSM and dominant and submissive roles in your romantic relationship
Couples need the support of a marriage, sex, and intimacy therapist who understands BDSM is not something deviant. A therapist who does not understand the BDSM culture may pathologize couples who want to explore BDSM. Unfortunately, many couples therapists do not have the proper training or understanding to support couples in dominant and submissive rules.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, you and your romantic partner or spouse can feel safe exploring and talking about BDSM fantasies, kink, pleasure and pain, and sexually expressive topics.
Why work with the team at of marriage therapy and intimacy therapists in Connecticut at Wisdom Within Counseling?
Often, BDSM is a topic that may be seen by other non-affirming therapists as taboo or problematic. As well, it is important to note that a more traditional therapist may view BDSM as the reason a couple is having marital issues, when in fact consensual BDSM can be healing for many couples to partake in.
Part of couples counseling with a focus on BDSM is having a safe, non-judgmental space to overcome different emotions that may come up in the BDSM scene and process them together.
At Wisdom Within Counseling in Connecticut, our team of marriage, sex, and intimacy therapists can support you and your partner in building a healthy, meaningful, and passionate sex life.
