When you are looking for intimacy and sex counseling, you are not alone. Many times, couples in long-term relationships and in short-term relationships find themselves struggling sexually and intimacy wise. Parenting and running a home can lead to sexual issues. Feeling anxious or unhappy at work can cause sex life dysfunctions. As well, a past history of sexual trauma can lead to problems in the bedroom too.
Do you are your partner have differences in sex drives that lead to sex problems? Would you like to have more physical and sexual intimacy in your romantic relationship? Do you and your partner want to talk about new sex positions or sex toys in intimacy and sex counseling? Does it feel like talking about sex causes frustration, rejection, and fears? Do you or your spouse have a history of sexual trauma from childhood that negatively interferes with your sex life? Or, do you feel sexually awkward or anxiety about sexual performance? Are you questioning your sexuality? Wisdom Within Counseling in Connecticut helps couples have positive conversations about sex, orgasming, sexual pleasure, and building sexual desire.
Emotional, physical, and sexual intimacy are connected together. Many times, couples struggle with sexual performance anxiety or lack of education the female orgasmic system. Learning to orgasm may feel challenging or difficult and is a good reason to start in intimacy and sex counseling.
Sex therapy can help individuals and couples talk about sexual pleasure, orgasming, foreplay, and teasing.
For each person, intimacy can mean different things. One person may feel that sexual activities and intercourse lead to a deeper sense of intimacy. The other person may feel that emotional intimacy and sharing feelings can lead to a deeper soulful connection.
Building physical intimacy does not have to feel like like an obligation and can be more of an adventure. Intimacy and sex counseling can help couples get playful leading up to an orgasm and build a healthy sex life.
Can couples therapy help us if we feel like sex is an obligation?
Many couples feel like having sex is annoying, an obligation, or causes anger.
Sadly, many couples avoid sexual conversations out of fear and worry. On that note, couples who want a healthy sex life need the professional guidance of a marriage therapist.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, working with a sex therapist can bring pleasure, playfulness, and passion to boring sexual activities.
Couples can feel more intimate and experience bonding from counseling in ways that they have never had before. Building sexual and physical intimacy does not have to feel like like an obligation.
Learning your partner’s body and experiencing a pleasurable orgasm can be more of an adventure from marriage and sex therapy appointments.
To begin, click the button below to start with a phone consult for sex and intimacy therapy in Connecticut at Wisdom Within.
Talking about intimacy and the meaning of sex in counseling and help couples get closer together.
Sometimes, couples get into arguments, feel angry, or rejection due to misunderstandings around intimacy and sex. Couples who are upset share distress as frustration and anger. Intimacy and sex therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling can help you and your partner share deep emotions like jealousy, insecurity, and sadness. As well, you can learn how to talk about your fears and when you feel scared in a calm way. Often times, couples who are in high conflict share distress and it comes out as frustration and anger. Being angry and pushing your partner away inhibits emotional intimacy.
Intimacy has many different forms
What are physical intimacy and sexual intimacy?
Physical intimacy can be anything from holding hands, a back rub, or kissing your partner sweetly on their neck. Learning about your partner’s erogenous zones can also improve physical intimacy.
What are erogenous zones?
Erogenous zones are areas of the physical body that create sexual excitement and closeness. Often times, couples do not know how to properly stimulate the erogenous zones. People tend to get overly focused on vaginal or penetrative sex. Instead, intimacy and sex therapy helps couples slow down and focus on erogenous zones.
Unfortunately, many couples skip the erogenous zones, focus too much on vaginal penetration, and need help in intimacy and sex counseling to focus on building desire and foreplay.
When you touch your partner’s neck gently, you are sharing love with them. Kissing your partner’s neck can improve your sex life inadvertently. Touching their ears may lead them to feel excitement and sexual feelings. As well, breasts and lips as well as the butt are also erogenous zones that lead to positive sexual feelings.
Many couples fall into sexual frustration and struggle with sexual dysfunctions.
Couples just starting out may have hot and heavy, regular sexual activities. Over time, the sexual passion may fade and sexual rejection surfaces. Sexual anxiety may increase due to pressure from other areas of life.
Low sexual desire issues are good reasons to get into intimacy and sex counseling
However, couples who have lost their sexual activity or have low sexual desire may need help from a sex therapist. Some couples have desires differences. Some partner has a low sex drive and the other partner has a high sex drive. Unfortunately, couples may feel hurt or rejection due differences in to sexual expectations.
Challenges orgasming or an inability to orgasm
As well, couples who have difficulty achieving orgasm need help from an intimacy and couples therapist to learn about the erogenous zones.
There can be many issues that lead to issues orgasming that intimacy and sex counseling can help with.
Some couples may feel anxious or insecure talking about orgasming. One partner may feel uncomfortable talking about orgasming. There can be fears about orgasming due to painful orgasming in the past. If foreplay is too short, one partner may not be able to orgasm. As well, betrayal or worries can lead to problems orgasming.
Emotional, intellectual, and trauma from the past can all lead to issues with orgasming.
Couples counseling can help couples feel playful rather than insecure or frustrated about not orgasming.
Learning to talk through hurt and fears are parts of supporting an amazing, powerful orgasm. There can also be sexual pressure to preform and fake an orgasm instead of talking about it can help. Sex and intimacy counseling at Wisdom Within Counseling can help couples talk about orgasming with confidence.
Learning about the erogenous zones can help you and your partner understand how to build desire and have a powerful orgasm.
To begin, click the button below to start with a phone consult for sex and intimacy therapy in Connecticut at Wisdom Within.
How can intimacy and sex counseling help with orgasming, sexual exploration and sexual playfulness?
Often, vaginal penetration is the main focus when it comes to sex. Instead, understanding the importance of touching breasts and nipples comes from sex therapy counseling sessions.
Partners can learn how to stimulate the breasts and nipples, such as with both hands or the mouth.
Taking time to work through the erogenous zones increases foreplay and promotes a powerful orgasm.
Learning about how the female body functions sexually can also be a great part of sex and intimacy therapy.
Often times, part of couples counseling can be about providing education about these powerful erogenous zones. Intimacy and sex counseling is a safe place to learn how to stimulate them.
Learning how to stimulate erogenous zones improves your sex life. From sexual play and touch, couples can increase sexual desire and improve libido. Learning about foreplay and erogenous zones can support achieving orgasm.
Each person has a different side of needs and desires when it comes to erogenous stones.
Some men may enjoy their nipples being simulated and so do some women. However, some men may not like nipple stimulation as part of foreplay.
The erogenous zones have many more nerve endings and receptors than other areas of the body. So, touching them can increase passion, connection, and intimacy.
Learning about your intimate partner can make a huge difference in building desire and sexual passion. Each person is different when it comes to sexual needs.
Some people might like their erogenous zones touched very gently or softly. Other people may like their erogenous zones touched more deeply or with a deeper pressure.
To begin, click the button below to start with a phone consult for sex and intimacy therapy in Connecticut at Wisdom Within.
Why kiss with passion for a better sex life?
The nape of the neck is a great spot to kiss or lick if you are trying to turn your partner on. Making out and passionately kissing and also be a great way to improve sexual desire.
Kissing, touching with your hands, or even licking your partners ears can allow them to feel loved.
When it comes to physical intimacy, of course, the clitoris and vagina are important area on the female body. Through kissing, more blood flow goes to the clitoris and vagina.
However, you don’t want to start by touching the clitoris right off the bat. The clitoris is very sensitive.
How to touch a female’s body to improve intimacy and sex throughout the counseling process?
Couples who come in for intimacy and sex counseling will be given homework to try at home. For example, kissing for one minute per day is often sex therapy homework. Making out, kissing, and then work a female’s body from the head down.
If the clitoris and vagina are touched too soon, a female may feel protective over her self. This is why calm, healthy communication is important during sexual activities and sexual experiences.
In order to improve physical intimacy, working with a sex intimacy therapist at Wisdom Within can help with communication skills.
Intense emotions like jealousy, fear, or rejection can cause an adverse reaction. Therefore, when it comes to improving communication, sex therapy gives you and your partner can have tools to talk.
You might want to verbalize if you feel scared or sad due to past trauma. Sometimes, a history of past sexual trauma can lead to negative memories or negative flashbacks during physical intimacy.
If you or your partner have a history os sexual trauma in childhood, this can lead to physical intimacy issues.
Sexual abuse and sexual trauma in childhood can cause victims to feel isolation, fear, and distrust in future relationships. Even with a trusted sexual partner, past sexual trauma can lead to a negative flashback or panic attack. If you or your spouse was sexually abused these trauma experiences can translate into lifelong psychological issues.
Childhood sexual abuse, being raped, or molested can lead to physical sexual difficulties, low self-esteem, and depression. At Wisdom Within Counseling, intimacy and sex therapy can support healing from childhood trauma.
Couples therapy with a focus on sex therapy can help couples who have a history of sexual trauma form trusting, safe, sexual relationships.
Intimacy and sex counseling at Wisdom Within support holistic trauma coping tools.
How can intimacy and sex counseling support a healthy sex life?
Touching your partners erogenous zones before vaginal penetration for 45-90 minutes stimulates more sex hormones. Many couples run into struggles because there is too much of a focus on physical penetration of the penis and vagina. Sex and intimacy therapy in Connecticut at Wisdom Within Counseling can support couples in creating passion, spontaneity, and build sexual desire.
Couples therapy supports couples in creating bonding and a give and take in their sex life.
What about the male body?
On the male body, kissing the mouth, lips, ears and the nape of the neck can be very positive.
Playing just above the pubic hair line with your fingers or with your mouth can stimulate feelings of desire, emotional safety and connection. After you’ve touched the pubic hair line, an important erogenous zone, you might play with the penis, scrotum, or perineum.
To note, the male body may become aroused more quickly than the female body.
The female body may take 45 to 90 minutes to become sexually hot and aroused. Touching a female on her erogenous zones can lead to positive feelings of sexual arousal.
However, with that said, it is important to give the female body time. The female sexual system needs patience to allow blood flow to increase to her clitoris.
Her clitoris will become engorged with blood as she becomes sexually aroused. About 45 to 90 minutes can allow a female to feel emotionally safe as well as physically stimulated before orgasm. If foreplay is too short, a female may not orgasm.
To begin, click the button below to start with a phone consult for sex and intimacy therapy in Connecticut at Wisdom Within.
Working your way down the female body to her clitoris and vagina can promote feelings of sexual excitement.
Sex intimacy counseling and help when couples need support and education around sexual arousal.
As well, sex and intimacy therapy helps couples who want to learn more about erogenous zones and incorporate different sex toys.
How long do male and female bodies take to become ready for orgasm?
The male body only needs about 5 to 7 minutes to become fully aroused. This is not to say that men don’t enjoy foreplay and sexual teasing. However, it is important for male partners to understand that the female body needs more sexual stimulation.
The female body may need 45 to 90 minutes of foreplay to become ready for orgasm. As well, some males may need more sexual stimulation than others. Involving all erogenous zones during foreplay leads to a more powerful orgasm.
Some people may need a longer time of foreplay to orgasm and other people may need a shorter period of time to orgasm.
As well, once a female has one orgasm, she can have multiple orgasms. Playing around with multiple orgasms can lead to playfulness in the bedroom. On the male body, erogenous zones can create feelings of excitement. Touching the head of the penis, the band of skin that runs from the bottom of the penis down to the shaft, and the skin around the testicles can sexually arouse a man.
For many males, having these areas touched and fondled leads to an orgasm. Leading up to an orgasm can be the most playful and adventurous part of a healthy sex life. Touching a male partner‘s inner thighs can lead to sexual excitement.
What is emotional inimtacy in sex counseling?
Physical intimacy is not the only kind though. There are also elements of emotional intimacy and sex counseling that are important to talk about. Emotional intimacy is the process of sharing the feelings underneath anger or frustration.
Emotional intimacy builds a healthy sex life too.
Telling your partner how much you appreciate them as a form of emotional intimacy. As well, letting your partner know that you love them, and all parts of them, and fully accept them, is emotional intimacy.
To begin, click the button below to start with a phone consult for sex and intimacy therapy in Connecticut at Wisdom Within.
The opposite of emotional intimacy, where many couples get stuck, is criticism.
One or both partners may nitpick, look for the bad, and not be able to appreciate one another fully. Criticism or calling your partner names leads to sex life issues. The emotional and physical sexual systems share a connection.
Couples therapy in Connecticut at Wisdom Within helps partners reduce criticism and instead, share emotions in healthy ways.
Any sort of criticism can make your partner feel like they are not good enough. As well, calling names like, “asshole,” or “crazy bitch,” are traumatizing and hurt sexual activities. Yes, all couples get into fights and disagreements. However, any hurt emotions from name calling or criticism can lead to problems in the bedroom.
Stressors in life can lead to intimacy and sexual problems for couples in counseling
Likewise, having a sexual, romantic partner who is struggling with mental health issues can lead to intimacy problems. A partner who is angry, aggressive, an alcoholic, or asserting power can lead to fears about getting closer sexually. Couples therapy in Connecticut can help partners support one another in being the best version of themselves.
Losses can contribute to emotional challenges around sex drive and libido
Dealing with loss like a miscarriage, loss of a sibling, or loss of a parent can impact sex life satisfaction and sex drive. Unexpected loss and grief can lead to emotional shifts that impact sexual dysfunctions.
Stressors like work, sleep, body image, and career stress impacts sex life
Dissatisfaction at work and in life is a major impact on your sexual satisfaction and sexual happiness. If you feel you’re constantly tired from working too many hours, this can lead to sexual problems. Drinking too much caffeine rather than eating nutritious meals can cause sexual dysfunctions. Even, struggling with an eating disorder can contribute to sexual dysfunctions. Also, if you are stressed or anxious, holistic couples therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling can help you make some lifestyle improvements.
Dealing with arguments and disagreements in healthy ways is possible through sex and intimacy counseling.
As well, learning how to talk about intense emotions calmly promotes a passionate, meaningful sex life. Intense emotions could be anger, anxiety, worry, frustration, betrayal, insecurity, and loss.
Many couples blame one another and feel loonily within their romantic relationship. Often, couples therapy helps couples who do not know when to stop talking, as it is no longer productive. Saying hurtful things can be damaging, especially when criticism and blame are involved.
If you or your partner feel uncared for or hurt, this leads to issues orgasming.
Feeling unappreciated can also lead to sex life issues, low libido, low sexual desire, and sexual dysfunctions. When couples run into issues with emotional intimacy, they are often walking on eggshells around their partner. Any emotional apprehension, fears, or worries, can lead to sex life issues. At Wisdom Within Counseling, our team help couples talk about emotions in intimate ways to build a passionate sex life.
There is pressure, anxiety, and there is not a safe space to talk about this within the relationship. Therefore, intimacy and sex counseling at Wisdom Within can help couples develop trust, appreciation, and emotional intimacy skills.
Emotional intimacy helps you and your partner feel united and safe together.
You can be yourself, you can express yourself.
Through intimacy and sex counseling, we can help you understand how to build trust and meaningful connection.
Often times, people grow up believing that they should stuff their emotions away. When they feel scared, they hold it in and put on a fake, or brave front. This is the opposite of emotional intimacy.
Instead, emotional intimacy and sex counseling means being able to verbalize what you are feeling in the given moment, and share it without feeling ashamed for it.
If you feel guilty, sharing that with your partner builds trust and emotional intimacy. Or, if you feel proud of yourself or excited, sharing that build trust. Talking about your emotions and naming and identifying them as a way to improve your sex life.
Also, these emotional communication skills play a huge role in helping your partner feel loved and bonded. Emotional intimacy helps lower expectations too. Lastly, learning emotional intimacy skills in couples therapy helps you be your authentic self.
Emotional bonding and trust is what allows for an amazing sex life.
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Sharing of emotions is key for a healthy sex life.
If you are looking for intimacy and sex counseling, the team at Wisdom Within Counseling would love to help you. We specialize with couples who gets stuck in an argument and need help sharing emotions. And, then this impacts sex life.
Wisdom Within Counseling supports couples in trying different sex toys and improving their sex life.
Couples may have experiences of painful sex, or even pain when orgasming. You might feel like sex has gotten boring or is the same old routine. Wisdom Within Counseling can help. Intimacy and sex counseling can help you improve sexual excitement.
You can also learn about improving sexual desire from se and intimacy therapy. As well, in couples counseling, partners can learn about their partners erogenous zones.
Couples dealing with sexual issues can learn how to increase the length of foreplay to build a more passionate orgasm.
Why start in couples counseling?
Learning about sexuality is not some thing we get in school. So, for many couples, working with a sex and intimacy therapist can be an incredibly playful for your sex life. As well, meeting with a sex therapist can be an eye-opening experience. At Wisdom Within Counseling, our team offer art, yoga, music, and holistic, creative therapies in addition to talk counseling when needed. The team at Wisdom Within Counseling are Gottman marriage counseling level one and level two trained.
We specialize with couples in distress who want to fight for a healthier, meaningful, more passionate relationship and sex life.
You can gain sexual education skills about your partner’s body that you may not have ever had before.
Wisdom Within Counseling offers professional support to couples who want to improve their sex life and intimacy.
You get a safe space at Wisdom Within Counseling to build all forms of intimacy. Building intimacy in emotional and sexual ways can lead to a healthy, happy, satisfying sex life.
Sexual intimacy, physical, spiritual, and emotional intimacy are important parts of rebuilding a healthy sex life. Intimacy is not just physical.
Couples counseling in Connecticut can help pinpoint the areas your relationship needs growth and support, as well as your relationship’s strengths. We can help you do so at Wisdom Within Counseling.
