Do you and your spouse live parallel lives or feel like roommates?
Also there indicator that a distant couple needs marriage counseling in Connecticut is that they can’t stop fighting. Essentially, an unhealthy, fighting couple will fight and fight and fight. They get stuck in the negativity and the fight just continues for hours. Essentially, a sign couples need professional intervention and treatment is they can’t repair the conflict independently. A therapist can help you and your spouse build a repair cycle for after a fight to argument. Often, couples who need the help of a professional marriage counselor also have trouble self-regulating, flooding and being triggered. Wisdom Within Counseling offers a holistic version of Gottman marriage counseling in Connecticut.
Do you have commodities like sharing a home or being parents, but feel alone and like the joy of your marriage is missing?
To add, the team at Wisdom Within Counseling supports couples in knowing triggers, verbally communicating triggers, and using mind-body therapies to promote relaxation. When couples need counseling, they show negative emotions and intense anger, also known as the four horsemen. For instance, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling, toxic language, and criticism.
Is there distress in how you talk or argue?
Also, when couples need therapy one or both people feel superior and make their partner feel inferior or less than. Essentially, when partners put down their partner or put them in their place, this is a sign couples therapy will be beneficial. To add, if you are in relationship misery, marriage counseling with a Gottman specialist can provide a more positive relationship. Also, when couples need therapy, they will often be escalating in their negative, hurtful jabs. Lastly, the team at Wisdom Within Counseling offer a holistic options of art, yoga, nature, and drama therapies as well as Gottman marriage counseling in Connecticut.
To start, book a phone consult for clarity and confidence through Gottman marriage counseling in Connecticut and a holistic approach.
As well, one or both people may be emotionally separate or distant when couples need Gottman marriage counseling in Connecticut.
Couples who need counseling have conflict, contempt, resentment, anger, and jealousy. Essentially, fights like this get stopped from your couples therapist. Your couples therapist will stop you when you Stevie or assault one another verbally. So, when couples start to criticize each other or an air of negativity, your marriage therapist will help you grow in a more sensitive, positive, and intentional way.
Gottman marriage counseling is a way of helping couples thrive.
Marriage and family therapists often want extra training in helping couples. In addition, Gottman marriage therapists are additionally trained to help couples post affair and infidelity. Often, Gottman marriage counseling helps couples who are feeling angry and hurt digest and process their emotions and feelings.
Essentially, Gottman marriage counseling helps your therapist teach you about your problems and fights.
At Wisdom Wisdom Counseling, we find couples who have alcoholism and substance abuse issues also need help building secure relationships. Plus, for spouses dealing with daily living challenges around chronic illness or chronic pain, couples therapy can help. In a distant couple unit, criticism, defensiveness, and anger will be present. Essentially, your couples therapist offers the Gottman marriage counseling method to provide structure that is missing.
How does Gottman marriage counseling in Connecticut provide structure?
This structure allows couples to know what skills they need to work on and focus on growing those. Couples know what they are working on each week with this structure. For example, a couples unit may go through changes such as being married to someone in the military means moving more often. And, military spouses can feel separation anxiety, which can lead to a feeling of being uprooted and needing a community. Multiple moves can be traumatic for couples when cracks in security are present in the relationship. But, Gottman marriage counseling in Connecticut provides steps and structure for working on challenging issues. Manytimes, couples don’t know where to start. But, your Wisdom Within Counseling Gottman marriage counselor will know exactly where to start.
Also, Gottman couples therapy in Connecticut supports growing together long term together.
Sometimes, couples feel distant and start growing apart. Your marriage counselor is trained to to see the beginning and end of all relationships. At the end of a relationship, couples fight viciously, emotionally hurt one another, feel resentment, have a high conflict cycle, and struggle to get back to safety and closeness. So, Gottman marital therapist works to provide couples who are premarital or high conflict or shutdown emotionally, positive conflict resolution skills.
How does Gottman couples therapy improve relationships?
Well, first a Gottman marriage therapist uses research to understand the current issues a couple is facing. For instance, Gottman marriage counselors have tools to assess levels of betrayal vs. level of trust in each couple. After, trauma or infidelities, betrayal, anger, and distance increases. On the other hand, for satisfied and joyful couples, they have a higher level of relationship satisfaction and happiness. So, levels of security, trust, anger and betrayal can change through the course of a marriage or relationship. And, your Gottman marriage therapist in Connecticut can help you realize not all conflicts are the same. So, based on gender, culture, childhood trauma, and hidden agendas play a role in marriage conflicts.
Also, the Gottman marriage counseling method provides couples with tools to use at home when challenges arise.
So, each couples therapy session, you can learn about developing an even closer, more meaningful marriage.
What is different about Gottman Method couples therapy?
Well, Gottman couples therapists in Connecticut step outside the traditional topic of conflict resolution. Instead, Gottman couples therapists understand that problems never actually go away. Often, couples are arguing about the same problems and are perpetual in nature. With that said, most problems are perpetual. Perpetual problems need perpetual management. So, couples therapy teaches you that the same issues will keep coming up and to expect that.
And, there’re is nothing wrong or broken about the relationship or the people in the relationship.
But, your marriage therapist will help you create the best, most loving relationship possible. Essentially, Gottman marriage counseling helps couples deal and manage their perpetual problems in calm ways. Also, all couples have perpetual problems and couples therapy helps couples feel calm in their conversations and communication.
To begin, book a phone consult for clarity and confidence through Gottman marriage counseling in Connecticut and a holistic approach.
Some problems are perpetual and some a gridlock issues
Next, couples have issues when there is grid lock where couples get very stuck. Essentially, bitterness and negativity follow when there is a grid lock issue or fight. So, not all conflicts are the same. Now, grid lock issues are ones where a marriage therapist can step in and help provide support too. At times, couples come into a relationship with childhood feelings, culture, and past meaning, and couples don’t explore this on their own. So, in couples therapy, your counselor can help you slow down and understand the meaning behind a grid lock conflict or issue. On that note, a gridlock issue can dive couples far, far apart. Working with a Wisdom Within Counseling Gottman marriage therapist helps you build a nurturing, calm, emotionally centered relationship and marriage.
What does Gottman marriage therapy focus on?
The focus of Gottman marriage therapy is to observe the interactions between partner and emotional exchange. Often, partners are so caught up their own unmet needs, they miss out on what their partner is expressing too. So, a couples therapist can help you and your spouse build skills for friendship again. Also, couples get education how to create shared meaning again together. In Gottman marriage counseling, the team at Wisdom Within Counseling help couples focus on talking about emotions verses each other. Couples can learn to take ownership and accountability about their own emotional experience.
Also, Gottman couples therapy is a positive experience for couples to rebuild emotional connection and relationship confidence.
Often, childhood memories are not always positive. So, trauma from childhood can play a huge role in skills for managing conflict in your marriage.
How does trauma and PTSD play a role in marriage conflict?
To begin, trauma of any kind impact romance and relationship security. Therefore, if you or your spouse have a trauma history, your couples therapist can help you share how your trauma is influencing your emotions in this present moment. Sometimes, childhood trust issues and attachment issues play a role in couples who have resistance to deepening shared meaning and building friendship.
Within a safe space of your marriage counselor’s room, you can emotionally express your needs calmly.
So, with guidance from your marriage therapist, you can learn to be with various emotions like anxiety, fear, anger and betrayal and calmly express them. In Connecticut, Wisdom Within Counseling teaches couples emotional regulation skills to both self-soothe and share their emotions together at the same time. Your therapist will ask about non verbal expression of feelings in a collaborative way. Also, your marriage therapist will want to know about some childhood experiences and a bit about your last relationship.
Many times, more traditional couples therapy methods leave out evidence based Gottman couples therapy techniques and skills. Therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling helps distressed, distant couples build stability, talk about conflict calmly, and build deep friendship and emotional connection.
Gottman Method Marriage Therapy in Connecticut
We offer in person and video counseling to Connecticut towns including Fairfield, Cos Cob, Darien, Watertown, Colebrook, Woodbridge, Old Greenwich, Rye, Greenwich, Southport, Cornwall, Easton, Darien, Byram, New Canann, Essex, Weston, Barkhamsted, Fenwick, Hamburg, East Haddam, Norwalk, East Lyme, Simsbury, Westport, Redding, Greenwich, Middletown, Bloomfield, Stamford, Washington, Kent, Madison, Monroe, Glastonbury, Ivoryton, Washington, Danbury, New Haven, Bethlehem, Morris, Middlebury, Sharon, West Hartford, Colchester, Columbia, Milford, New Milford, Griswold, Guilford, Tolland, Stonington, Goshen, Salisbury, Killingworth, Bloomfield, Rye, Plymouth, Enfield, Lyme, Madison, Clinton, Litchfield, Warren, Avon, Wilton, Bridgewater, Chester, Deep River, Hartford, Colchester, Mystic, Ridgefield, Shelton, and West Hartford. We also offer counseling to residents of Massachusetts and Florida.
