At Wisdom Within Counseling, we love helping distant, fighting couples who feel hopeless or betrayed. Maybe, you feel upset because your spouse is using pornography. Or, you feel hurt and stuck after an affair. As well, you might remember when your romantic relationship was good. But, you don’t know how to get back to that playfulness, sexy time together, passion, and intimacy.
Missing healthy, passionate touch in your marriage?
Are you feeling rejected sexually by your spouse and at a loss for next steps to get over this hump?
Many stressors lower intimacy
There may be lying or infidelity that has hurt your marriage. Therefore, Essex, Connecticut couples therapy for intimacy and sex issues can help rebuild connection, desire, hope and trust. What you are going through may be painful, upsetting, angering, and hurtful. Wisdom Within Counseling support distant couples in rebuilding intimacy, sex, and romantic, healthy touch.
Essex, Connecticut Couples Therapy Supports Trust and Communication
If you feel yelled at or criticized, Katie Ziskind and the team at Wisdom Within Counseling would love to help you and your partner step away from blame.
Instead, you can take a leap into emotional closeness and intimacy. Without the guidance of a marriage therapist, having passionate conversations when in pain and hurt leads to conflict.
To begin, book your free phone consult for Essex, Connecticut couples therapy using the pink button below.
Have you are your spouse had a decrease in intimacy?
Essex, Connecticut couples therapy supports understand what happened. Sometimes, not having sex can lead to feelings of rejection. There is a lot more underneath the silent treatment that you may realize. Counseling for couples dealign with sexual issues can help provide clarity. Maybe, one partner may feel irritation due to advances that feel pressuring from their partner. The other partner may feel rejection or shame.
Essex, Connecticut couples therapy for intimacy and sex issues helps couples talk about sex openly.
At times, you may feel hurt, used, or confused about the loss of desire in your marriage.
Overall, not having sex can lead to feelings of insecurity, sadness, and shame. You might be wondering what happened to your marriage over time.
You might even doubt if you partner still loves you when you are not having sex.
A healthy sex life is an important part of a healthy romantic relationship. So often, couples never have deep conversations about sex, libido, and intimacy.
Instead, couples may talk about social parties, going out with friends, and stumble awkwardly around the sex talks. Talking about sex may feel uncomfortable or like you don’t get anywhere. So, therapy can be a safe place to die into your fears, worries, and sexual goals. In Essex, Connecticut couples therapy, you can have a calm place to talk about sexual needs and sexual desires.
You can talk about religious shame and cultural shame.
Being sexual may be seen as taboo in your culture. So, learning to be sexually expressive and sexually open can take the help of therapy. For one, you may feel guilty or ashamed for having a sex drive. Counseling can help you let go of shame and guilt around your sexuality. As well, you can talk in therapy about how you can create the best love life. Often, with a history of sexual trauma or domestic violence, sex can have different meanings or fears attached.
What causes a low sex drive?
Infertility lowers sex drive
If you had a high sex drive and your relationship was hot and heavy, things may change. And, it can feel very strange to go through these changes sexually.
The stress of infertility, IVF treatments, and the pressure to have a baby leads to a low libido.
For one, it can feel challenging to be struggling with infertility to stay playful and present in an intimate experience. Fears about not being able to have a child may cause severe anxiety and worry.
As well, having a baby and getting pregnant leads to less sexual desire.
A woman’s body goes through many changes after having a baby and giving birth. Unfortunately, parenting worries can lead to a decrease in intimacy.
Having parenting stress and worry doesn’t help improve your sex life at all. For instance, if you have a child with a developmental disability or personality disorder, this can lead to low sex drive in your marriage.
To begin, book your free phone consult for Essex, Connecticut couples therapy using the pink button below.
Emotional rejection can lead to low sex drive
One partner may feel rejection or feel they don’t have a voice. Overall, a good sex life is created and not an instant thing that magically occurs. However, betrayals, anger, and hurt feelings may cause partners to distance themselves.
Essentially, emotional issues and hurts lead to sexual challenges and breaks in intimacy. Maybe, there has been an affair or betrayal leading to trust issues.
In general, any dishonesty or lying leads to fears, lower intimacy.
For instance, a partner may be domineering, critical, or bossy. Likewise, criticism leads to sexual performance fears and sexual performance anxiety. Any fears about sexual performance can create insecurity and decrease passion. Or, partners may be angry, yell, or even shutdown emotionally. In general, any negative communication like one upping or needing the last word leads to sexual problems. It can be hard to have sex when you don’t feel like you have a friend in your partner. Counseling can help you develop safety and intimacy again.
So, criticism, anger, and rejection can take away playfulness, desire, and romantic vibes. As well, Essex, Connecticut couples therapy supports intimacy and communication skills.
You don’t have to resort to putting each other down or name calling.
On that note, Wisdom Within Counseling in Southeastern Connecticut teaches distant couples who how to share feelings about sex in calm, caring ways. If there is a problem with anger management, sex may feel elusive.
Essex, Connecticut couples therapy for intimacy and sex issues can be a safe place to create the loving, positive, safe marriage you desire.
Busy schedules prevent intimacy
Maybe, you are busy and work a lot. In general, it feels like you are always doing things for others and burnout. Unfortunately, lack of time together leads to intimacy issues. Maybe, you feel so tired that you don’t even want to be sexually intimate. So, it feels like everything else comes before your sex life and you don’t know where to start. Right now, thinking about sex may cause you to feel sad, mad, hurt, rejected, or unwanted.
Essentially, Essex, Connecticut couples therapy for intimacy and sex issues supports making time for one another.
Additionally, your marriage therapist at Wisdom Within Counseling can give you homework to try in between sessions. It might always feel like you have another thing to do and never have time for sex.
Avoiding conflict and talking lowers intimacy
Other times, you might use work, being around co-workers, and your career to avoid your partner. Talking about sex may be causing fights, so you avoid intimacy all together.
At times, when sex is difficult and intimacy feels challenges, couples get into fights.
To note, trust issues can lead to fears and worries about being intimate. Conflict may increase when sexual desires are unmet needs. Sometimes, couples yell, name call, and blame one another for a difficult sex life. Instead, couples counseling helps you share your intense emotions in a healthy way. From betrayal, to anger, and to sadness, couples counseling in Southeastern Connecticut supports better communication. To add, talking about sex may lead to anger, embarrassment, or sexual shame. Likewise, letting go of shame and communicating calmly are skills of marriage therapy. Essentially, Essex, Connecticut couples therapy for intimacy and sex issues supports making time to talk about sex.
To begin, book your free phone consult for Essex, Connecticut couples therapy using the pink button below.
Katie Ziskind and her team of therapists would love to help you grow an emotionally intimate, playful, and beautiful connection in your romantic relationship. In tough times, you deserve support.
We offer video telehealth from the convenience of your home as well as in person therapy in Southeastern Connecticut.
As marriage therapists, we want to help you work it out, gain laughter and joy together again.
Trauma and surgery lowers sex drive
Experiencing a trauma like sexual abuse, rape childhood neglect, and even a natural disaster can lead to severe fears and stresses. These PTSD memories stay in the body and mind. So, a certain touch can re-trigger painful memories.
As well, recovering from a C-section, colostomy bag, or having a major surgery leads to body image issues. Now, a person may feel angry, confused, or irritable after a surgery like this. Furthermore, counseling can support couples in emotionally validating one another’s pain and trauma.
Furthermore, surgeries like vasectomy, hysterectomy, and cancer treatments all impact intimacy and libido. More so, mind-body therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling support trauma recovery in marriage therapy. Overall, Essex, Connecticut couples therapy for intimacy and sex issues allows couples to share emotions around sex.
Menopause changes sex drive
As well, menopause will create changes in sex drive and sexual needs. Vaginal wetness may decrease during menopause making sex painful and uncomfortable.
Also, having hot flashes, headaches, and hormonal changes may dampen intimacy. At times, it might feel like your body isn’t even yours. It is difficult to have a healthy sex life when you feel out of sorts with yourself and your body.
To begin, book your free phone consult for Essex, Connecticut couples therapy using the pink button below.
Wisdom Within Counseling can help you feel comfortable in your skin and improve your marriage trust issues.
Notably, a healthy sex life begins from self-connection. Therefore, your therapist at Wisdom Within Counseling can help support playfulness in this new phase of life. Menopause doesn’t have to leave your marriage sexless.
Overall, Essex, Connecticut couples therapy is a safe space to talk about your sex drive and goals.
How can Essex, Connecticut marriage counseling support rebuilding intimacy and sex life?
Katie Ziskind and her team at Wisdom Within Counseling near Essex, Connecticut also focus on holistic lifestyle changes and self-care tools to help you create the best romantic, relationship. You can talk about sexual needs, desires, and wishes. As well, you can talk about incorporating sex toys to spice things up.
To note, your marriage therapist in Southeastern Connecticut can help your marriage get back on the right track. Additioanlly, what you are going through doesn’t have to cause divorce, separation, or conflict. To add, therapy can be a safe place to talk about your needs and rekindle passion that is lost. As well, talking about sex in therapy with a professional marriage counselor helps to remove shame, guilt, and fears.
In marriage counseling, you can rebuild trust and emotional closeness.
We have locations in Niantic, Connecticut and in Florida. As well, we help couples in Hebron, Colchester, Franklin, Groton, Ledyard, Lisbon, Montville, Mystic, Stonington, Griswold, and Old Lyme. Video sessions are available for couples living in Newtown Borough, Greenwich, Westport, Simsbury, Middlebury, Waterbury, Darien, Avon, Weston, Wethersfield, Newington, Litchfield, New Canaan, Canton, Farmington, West Hartford, Glastonbury, Fairfield, and Bloomfield, Connecticut. In Flordia, we offer video counseling from the comfort of your home.
Lets heal hurt, anger, resentment, betrayals, and heartbreak. Katie Ziskind and her team love working with couples who feel complex emotions.
As well, you and your spouse may have trouble eating, sleeping, due to an affair, PTSD, anxiety, trauma or even a challenging childhood. So, Essex, Connecticut marriage counseling is your safe place to talk about it all and unload the past.
Therefore, the team at Wisdom Within Counseling love helping frustrated, fighting couples rebuilt connection, hope, and a passionate, intimate sex life.
