Are you suck in a sexually frustrating cycle? Do you feel sexually rejected and sexually unwanted by your spouse? And, does your spouse always criticize you for wanting touch, physical affection, and sex? Does your romantic partner yell, withdraw, and avoid sex with you? Are you feeling alone, hurt, sad, and even resentful yourself as a result of feeling so upset about this disconnection? Has there been infidelity, cheating, and unfaithfulness in your marriage that has caused betrayal, loss, and tension? But, you both want to commit to each other and work through it as a team? At Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching, Katie Ziskind, sex specialist and marriage therapist, helps couples build emotional intimacy, as well as sexual passion and sexual intimacy.
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When your spouse is always dodging your bids for affection and pushing you away, it is normal to feel rejected.
You may be experiencing loneliness and sadness in your marriage because your spouse avoids your touch and pushes away your hand. Do you want more than anything to feel close and loved? But, right now, you are feeling sad, alone, unwanted, and angry.
It’s hard not to get upset when your spouse always says they are tired and don’t feel like they are in the mood sexually. The more your sexual needs go unmet, and the longer you don’t know when you’ll be intimate again.
For you, sex is important in marriages. And, sex helps you feel reassured and know that you matter and are attractive to your spouse. You want to know that your spouse wants you to let out your sexual, passionate, and erotic side.
You want to know that your spouse loves that sexy, romantic side of you and sexually desires you.
And, you have memories of sex being so fun, playful, amazing, and hot and heavy when you first met. That is partly why the lack of good sex makes you so sad, hurt, and confused.
It used to feel so good to be sexually desired by your partner.
Regular physical intimacy helps you know that your romantic partner finds you attractive and hot. When your spouse is avoiding sex and you are stuck in a cycle of sexual rejection, Katie Ziskind, sex specialist and marriage therapist can help. Katie Ziskind specializes in sexual avoidance, sexual rejection, and sexual frustration issues with couples in counseling.
When you are sexually pushed aside, you may feel unimportant, alone, hopeless, and like your spouse no longer loves you, because they aren’t showing desire.
Through marriage counseling with Katie Ziskind, you can better understand if your spouse is experiencing sexual performance anxiety. As well, any mental chaos related to their own sexuality can take them out of being in the hot and heavy moments and creating more fireworks with you.
Other issues, like pornography addiction, infidelity, betrayal, body image issues, and not managing stress well can impact your sex life and intimacy. These can all be barriers when it comes to giving and receiving love via physical touch and sexual intimacy.
Katie Ziskind, sex specialist and marriage therapist helps you verbalize core emotions and be vulnerable
Navigating a sexually frustrating cycle within your marriage can be emotionally taxing and challenging. You both often find yourselves grappling with feelings of rejection and sexual undesirability. This leaves you both in a state of emotional and sexual disconnection.
The experience of being sexually rejected by your spouse can lead to major feelings of loneliness and sadness within your marriage. To add, as your spouse avoids physical touch and your affectionate gestures, this avoidance cycle worsens the emotional distance between you both.
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Right now, you face criticism for expressing your desires, initiating touch, physical affection, and sex.
When you try to reach for your partner’s hands or go in for a kiss, these fun, romantic, sexual initiations are often met with rejection from your spouse. As well, your spouse might reject you, and criticize you for wanting to get sexually playful. This vicious cycle of disconnection is incredibly painful for you. Your spouse’s criticism is creating an atmosphere of tension in your romantic relationship. And, criticism for your natural, erotic desires further contributes to the breakdown of emotional intimacy and sexual intimacy in your marriage.
More than anything, you want your partner to see you as sexually desirable. You want to have fun together again and turn each other on. It hurts so much when your partner sexually avoids you. You question everything because your partner sexually avoids you and rejects you. And, you may doubt that you are still attractive because your spouse avoids sexual play.
Katie Ziskind, at Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching, can help you both when you want to have fun getting lost in sexual pleasure.
Couples counseling with Katie Ziskind can help you prioritize long hugs, French kissing, foreplay, and sensual massages.
The dynamics of your romantic relationship become even more strained when your resorts to yelling, withdrawal, and avoids sexual encounters. These behaviors intensify the emotional turmoil in your marriage. As a result, you struggle with sexual rejection, hurt, and even feelings of unimportance. Essentially, emotions such as loneliness, hurt, sadness, and resentment may be at an all time high. These emotions lead to more disconnection between you both. Then, these feelings contribute to a challenging and negative marital environment.
Many times, additional issues such as infidelity, pornography addiction, cheating, and affairs also contribute to disconnection. In instances where infidelity, cheating, and unfaithfulness have occurred, you both struggle with betrayal, loss, and heightened tension.
Despite these challenges, you both have a shared commitment to work through the issues and rebuild your romantic bond and relationship.
Working with Katie Ziskind, sex specialist and marriage therapist, can help you both work together through betrayal, rejection, and hurt, to rebuild sexual and emotional intimacy.
When you both have a strong desire to commit to each other and overcome the challenges you face, this is a great first step.
To add, the journey towards healing requires mutual effort. Working with Katie Ziskind, sex specialist and marriage therapist, helps you both address the underlying issues that contribute to your sexual frustration.
Feeling rejected when attempting to initiate physical affection is a common response when your spouse consistently dodges bids for intimacy.
Feeling sexual rejection can leave you feeling unimportant, alone, and hopeless within your marriage and relationship.
To add, the impact of sexual avoidance extends beyond the immediate emotional response. This affects your sense of self-worth and love within your marriage. You wonder if your spouse is cheating or struggling with a pornography addiction behind your back. Understanding the importance of regular physical intimacy becomes crucial in addressing these emotional challenges.
Katie Ziskind, a sex specialist and marriage therapist specializes in emotional bonding and physical, erotic and sexual areas of intimacy. She offers valuable insights and guidance for couples stuck in a cycle of sexual rejection. Recognizing the significance of addressing these issues is the first step towards rebuilding intimacy and fostering a healthier connection.
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How can Gottman marriage therapy with Katie Ziskind, sex specialist and marriage therapist, help with verbalizing core emotions such as rejection, hurt, and sadness, when you face sexual avoidance in your marriage?
Gottman marriage therapy, coupled with the expertise of Katie Ziskind, provides a comprehensive approach to addressing the challenges of verbalizing core emotions within the context of sexual avoidance in a marriage. The Gottman method of couples therapy, developed by renowned psychologists John and Julie Gottman, focuses on fostering emotional connection and communication between you both.
In the initial stages of marriage therapy, couples engaging in Gottman therapy with Katie Ziskind are encouraged to create a safe and open space for dialogue.
To add, this involves establishing ground rules that promote respectful communication. This allows both of you to express yourselves without fear of judgment or criticism.
Verbalizing core emotions such as rejection, hurt, and sadness is a central aspect of the therapeutic process. Through guided sessions, you and your partner can explore the underlying issues contributing to sexual avoidance. Counseling with Katie Ziskind sex specialist and marriage therapist, provides a platform for the expression of these complex, deeper emotions under anger.
Katie Ziskind, as a sex specialist and marriage therapist, brings a specialized understanding of the emotional intricacies surrounding sexual intimacy and emotional intimacy.
Her expertise allows you both to delve into the specific challenges you face. At Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching, Katie Ziskind, sex specialist and marriage therapist, offers tailored strategies for addressing and verbalizing emotions related to anger, such as rejection and loneliness.
You can learn marriage therapy techniques such as “softened start-up,” a Gottman method that encourages you both to express your emotions in a non-confrontational manner. This approach helps in preventing defensive reactions.
As well, you and your partner learn tools for fostering a more emotional receptivity and closeness. You can shift your home environment from tension to bonding especially when it comes to discussing sensitive topics.
Gottman therapy also introduces the concept of “repair attempts,” where you both learn to recognize and respond positively to each other’s emotional bids.
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Katie Ziskind guides couples in implementing these repair attempts, facilitating a healthier cycle of communication when rejection, inadequacy, and hurt arise.
In couples counseling, Katie Ziskind sex specialist and marriage therapist, assists you both in identifying patterns of communication that contribute to sexual avoidance. By examining these patterns, you both can gain insights into your emotional responses. And, you can learn to articulate your core feelings more effectively.
Ultimately, the combination of Gottman marriage therapy and Katie Ziskind’s specialized emotional and sexual intimacy-oriented approach enables you both to develop stronger communication skills. You get to learn to talk about core emotions like rejection, hurt, and sadness openly.
Emotional vulnerability as a foundation for a healthy, thriving sex life
Being vulnerable is a key part when to comes to expressing and understanding each other. We often do not learn how to verbalize our deepest fears and insecurities. Especially, men are taught to stuff emotions inside and look happy and perfect.
More so, many men struggle a sexual performance anxiety because they do not realize it is safe or healthy to talk about sex. Couples counseling with Katie Ziskind becomes a safe place to talk about sex, sexual insecurities, and sexual expectations. You can your spouse can overcome and breakdown unrealistic expectations around sex due to pronography and culture.
To note, talking about sexual insecurities and fears actually help an avoidance partner feel emotionally safe.
Katie Ziskind helps you create emotional safety and emotional bonding, which are important foundational building blocks and a healthy sex life.
Your partner, who is avoiding sex, might need a safe place to talk about how they feel sexually inadequate.
And, your romantic partner may need a safe place in couples counseling to talk about how they feel like they can’t live up to societal standards around what they think is successful sex. We often get negative, fear-based messages around sex and intimacy growing up. A strict, conservative religious upbringing can also play a role in misinformation around sex, leading to intimacy problems.
Your partner may have gotten all that they know about sex from pornography, which creates unrealistic standards. Katie Ziskind, at Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching, provides sex positive education, supporting mutual pleasure, satisfaction, and erotic openness.
This collaborative therapeutic process paves the way for healing and rebuilding emotional intimacy within your marriage.
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Is sexual performance anxiety related to an avoidance of sex, and is it at core of your sexual avoidance and sexual rejection cycle?
Sexual performance anxiety is a psychological phenomenon that can significantly impact your sexually avoidant spouse’s ability to engage in sexual activities with you.
Your spouse may have a deep fear of not meeting your perceived expectations. For one, this could be because you may have more sexual confidence than them. Maybe, you have different sexual histories.
On top of that, you spouse may struggle with the pressure to perform sexually at a certain level due to their own internal unrealistic expectations. Plus, pornography addiction issues can lead to unrealistic expectations around partner sex. Pronography is not proper sexual education. Combine pornography addiction issues with being raised in a strict, conservative, and religious home. In a strict, religious home, your partner may have never gotten positive information around healthy sex and their sexuality.
These fear-based messages create a cycle of anxiety, which leads to the avoidance of sex with you.
To add, this sexual performance anxiety often stems from inaccurate societal norms due to porn that create unrealistic standards surrounding sexual performance. Pornography makes men think they have to have a hard penis to be a good sexual partner, which is just not true. Many times, men struggling with sexual performance anxiety put so much pressure on themselves to live up to and compete with what they see in porn.
For you sexually avoidant spouse, they may worry about sexually performing well in bed. This sexual performance anxiety becomes a constant mental preoccupation. As well, this mental preoccupation can manifest as fears of not satisfying you. Your sexually avoidant spouse doesn’t want to disappoint you, or let you down.
As well, your partner may fear losing their erection, so they avoid sex. There can be pornography induced erectile dysfunction that Katie Ziskind, sex and intimacy specialist, can help address. When your partner isn’t able to maintain their erection, they may be disappointed in themselves. This creates a cycle of low self-worth, too much focus and pressure to have an erect penis, and sexual frustration.
At Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching, working with Katie Ziskind, sex specialist and marriage therapist, can provide sex positive education, breaking the cycle of disconnection and avoidance.
If you partner has lost their erection in the past during sex, this can make them even more anxious about having good sexual performance.
Your sexually avoidant partner may fear disappointing you, so they reject you sexually.
And, when your partner loses their erection, they feel shame for not living up to unrealistic cultural notions of sexual masculinity. As a result, the anticipation of potential sexual failure can create a heightened sense of sexual performance anxiety that interferes with your spouse’s ability to initiate or enjoy sexual encounters.
At Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching, working with Katie Ziskind, sex specialist and marriage therapist, you can overcome pornography induced erectile dysfunction.
From marriage therapy with Katie Ziskind focused on sexual pleasure, you better understand how to connect emotionally, and build a passionate, playful, sexy, erotic bond, rather than get stuck on performance anxiety.
Counseling with Katie Ziskind, sex specialist and marriage therapist, can help your partner verbalize their sexual performance anxiety with you
In the context of your romantic relationship and marriage, sexual performance anxiety can be a major factor contributing to your spouse’s avoidance of sex.
The fear of disappointing you, coupled with the pressure to meet societal expectations, leads your spouse to withdraw from intimate, sexual moments. To add, this avoidance is an attempt to sidestep the emotional overwhelm associated with sex. With sex, your partner may have lost their erection in the past, so due to that negative experience, they feel a sense of sexual inadequacy.
To add, your spouse’s fear of sexual avoidance is rooted in their fear of sexual rejection, which is intricately tied to sexual performance anxiety.
When your spouse experiences anxiety about their sexual performance, they fear that you will reject them. Your spouse fears you’ll be dissatisfied if they don’t meet certain sexual standards.
Couples therapy with Katie Ziskind at Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching helps your sexually avoidant spouse understand their sexual standards may be unrealistic, due to pornography use.
Their fear of rejection becomes a powerful motivator for them avoiding sexual encounters all together.
To add, the anxiety surrounding sexual performance often creates a negative feedback loop. Your romantic partner’s fear of not performing well can contribute to difficulties in achieving or maintaining an erection.
Then, this fear of not staying hard or erect further reinforces your sexually avoidant spouse’s sexual performance anxiety. This cycle can perpetuate sexual avoidance, making you feel alone and sexually rejected. Your spouse may seek to escape the distress associated with potential sexual failure by not having sex all together. Marriage therapy with Katie Ziskind at Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching can help you build emotional bonding, closeness, and security.
Overall, emotional bonding, closeness, and security are foundational pieces for a healthy, regular, passionate, and pleasurable sex life.
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Sexual performance anxiety can also affect emotional communication and emotional intimacy within your relationship.
Your spouse may be hesitant to discuss their sexual anxieties openly with you. Maybe, growing up, when your spouse was raised in a strict, conservative, and religious home, they may have been shamed or punished for asking a question about sex. Being raised in a strict, conservative, and religious family means your sexually avoidant spouse never got sex positive education.
Many times, there is a focus in a strict, conservative, and religious upbringing around penetrative sex being for procreation. Instead, sex positive couples counseling can help you prioritize female sexual pleasure more. As well, with Katie Ziskind at Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching, your sexually avoidant partner can learn about prioritizing sexual pleasure, over procreation and sexual performance.
Your spouse may not know how to pleasure the female body, or how to prioritize you orgasming first over his own ejaculation due to being raised in a strict, conservative, and religious family.
As well, being raised in a strict, conservative, and religious home means your sexually avoidant spouse may not how to feel confident giving or receiving oral sex. Your spouse may not know how long foreplay should be, or how to bring in emotional connection and playfulness to sex.
Many times, when a person is raised in a strict, conservative, and religious home, there is inherent shame, guilt, and self-hatred around sexual expression. Marriage therapy with Katie Ziskind, sex and intimacy specialist and couples counselor, helps you gain awareness for how being raised in a strict, conservative, and religious family can lead to shame, guilt, fear, and a lack of sex positive education around sex.
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If you partner has been sexually rejected or criticized by their past partners, this impacts your current sexual dynamic and their sexual confidence.
Rejection from their past partners before you, may be leading to sexual hesitation. This is because your romantic partner fears judgment or a negative reaction from you.
Furthermore, this lack of emotional communication can exacerbate the avoidance of sex. You and your partner may be unaware of the underlying issues causing distress.
No talking about sex or avoiding talking about sex doesn’t make your sexual problems go away.
Instead, learning emotional vulnerability skills support bonding, security, and trust. Emotional vulnerability skills are a key part in working with Katie Ziskind, sex specialist and marriage therapist, at Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching. From emotional security and trust, you can talk about sexual fantasies, sexual urges, and increase sexual pleasure.
The pressure to conform to societal expectations of sexual performance can lead to a focus on external validation, rather than fostering a genuine, flirty, sexy, passionate, and emotional connection.
This shift in focus contributes to a sense of anxiety and sexual disconnection. Also, disconnection then leads to the avoidance of sex as your partner grapples with the anxiety surrounding meeting unrealistic external standards.
Addressing sexual performance anxiety often requires a holistic approach, such as with Katie Ziskind, sex specialist and marriage therapist.
At Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching, you can learn skills for open communication, mutual support, and receive professional intervention. Sex positive couples counselors like Katie Ziskind specialize in navigating these delicate intimacy matters.
Katie Ziskind, sex specialist and marriage therapist, provides guidance and strategies to help you both overcome performance anxiety and rebuild intimacy. Overall, you both can create a healthier, more fulfilling sexual dynamic within your relationship.
How can worrying about performing well and maintaining an erection for a man lead to an avoidance of sex in a marriage?
Worrying about performing well and maintaining an erection is a common concern for many men, and the impact of this anxiety can be significant within the context of a marriage. The societal pressure and expectations around male performance in sexual encounters contribute to a sense of performance anxiety, which can lead to avoidance of sex.
The fear of not meeting perceived standards and what your spouse things is sexually “normal” may create a cycle of anxiety. Pornography creates unrealistic standards of what many men perceive as normal. This worry can come into play in your in long-term relationship and marriage. Your spouse has the desire to please and satisfy you, but not being able to do so becomes a massive source of sexual stress.
As well, your spouse may have mental anxiety and constantly think, “I am not good enough in bed.” Anxious thoughts like this leads to sexual avoidance and sexual performance anxiety. These intrusive, obsessive sexual thoughts around performance come in rather than just enjoying the sexual energy in the moment, and feeling sexual desire build.
Plus, performance anxiety can lead to a heightened self-consciousness during intimate, sexual, and erotic moments.
More so, your male partner may fear sexual judgment or disappointment from you. Your partner may have a fear of disappointing you, leading to their reluctance to engage in sexual activities. To add, your partner’s sexual avoidance is partly driven by their desire to avoid the emotional anxiety and overwhelm associated with fears of sexual inadequacy.
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The pressure to perform well and successfully becomes a mental barrier that interferes with the natural flow of sexual intimacy.
Many times, men may find themselves preoccupied with concerns about erection maintenance during sex.
This preoccupation prevents many men from truly enjoying sex and being in the moment. And, this preoccupation detracts from the emotional connection and spontaneity that are crucial elements of a satisfying sexual relationship.
The anxiety surrounding sexual performance may lead to a negative feedback loop.
Any fear of not performing well becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Then, this cycle of worry can contribute to a reluctance to initiate or participate in sexual activities, ultimately resulting in sexual avoidance.
Couples counseling with Katie Ziskind, sex specialist and marriage therapist, gives you both a safe space to communicate
Communication is essential in addressing these concerns within your marriage. More so, many men are told that showing emotional vulnerability is a sign of weakness. From a young age, boys are taught to stuff emotions away and not cry. However, in couples therapy with katie Ziskind, men can learn to show emotional vulnerability, which fosters emotional bonding. Boys are often punished for showing emotional vulnerability and taught about how being strong and holding it in equates to masculinity.
However, the fear of vulnerability may prevent men, especially your spouse, from expressing their anxieties openly. Your male spouse may think he has to hold it in, or shouldn’t show his emotions with you, our of the fear you’ll see him as weak. Part of marriage counseling is developing tools for emotional vulnerability and emotional bonding.
Due to culture and society, men think they have to live up to the unrealistic sexual standards set by pornography.
Men often feel they have to hold in all their fears and insecurities, rather than verbalizing them.
But, healthy realtionships and marriages to thrive, we need emotionally vulnerable communication. This might mean speaking up about fears and insecurities. Or, emotional vulnerability might mean asking for comfort through holding hands or cuddling. Essentially, emotional vulnerability might be asking for reassurance when a man feels insecure. You and your spouse might need help in marriage counseling speaking about about emotional needs when it comes to needing security and closeness. A man might need reassurance to hear how his partner finds him attractive, or what his partner loves about him. In addition to holding emotions in and having to keep it all together, many people don’t learn how to talk confidently about sex itself.
This lack of communication can further contribute to the avoidance of sexual encounters. Due to the lack of communication, you and your partner may be unaware of the underlying, core emotions and insecurities each of you have.
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Couples therapy with Katie Ziskind, sex specialist and marriage therapist, plays a crucial role in breaking down the barriers created by performance anxiety.
Katie Ziskind is a skilled intimacy therapist, who can provide a safe space for open communication.
Having a safe place to talk about sex, emotional connection, sexual fantasies, pornography use, and intimacy allows both of you to express your concerns and work together.
You can team up to create solutions that promote a more playful, relaxed, fun, and healthier sexual dynamic.
Understanding and addressing the psychological aspects of performance anxiety, with the assistance of am intimacy therapist like Katie Ziskind who specializes in sexual matters, can help you both navigate these challenges.
There are both emotional intimacy and sexual intimacy pieces to sexual avoidance and sexual rejection issues.
By fostering a supportive environment and focusing on emotional connection rather than sexual performance, you and your spouse can work towards overcoming avoidance as a team. From couples therapy, you can work on rebuilding a fulfilling, pleasurable, and positive sexual relationship within your marriage.
How can pornography addiction can lead to unrealistic standards surrounding sexual performance?
Now, pornography addiction can have a major impact on your spouse’s perception of their own sexual performance. Pornography addiction issues lead to the development of unrealistic standards around sex. And, a man may feel he has to meet unattainable standards of sexual perfection.
The accessibility of explicit content on the internet allows individuals to immerse themselves in a world of exaggerated sexual scenarios.
Furthermore, pornography often features unrealistic depictions of idealized bodies, behaviors, and sexual performance.
As your spouses engages in prolonged and frequent consumption of pornography, they will develop skewed expectations about what constitutes normal sexual behavior. Your spouse may feel they have to live up to and recreate what they watch and see in pornography.
The scripted and often idealized nature of pornographic content can create a distorted view of real-life sexual intimacy.
Unrealistic expectations fueled by external influences, such as media portrayals of idealized sexual relationships, contributes to sexual performance anxiety.
Comparisons to fictionalized depictions of perfect intimacy may create a distorted perception of what is, “normal.” When your spouse overuses pornography, they develop thoughts and beliefs that lead to feelings of sexual inadequacy. Having a pornography addiction will increase your spouse’s anxiety, straining within your sexual intimacy and erotic connection.
If you spouse has a pornography addiction, it contributes to unrealistic standards regarding real-life sex and sexual performance.
The variety and abundance of explicit material available online can lead to a constant exposure to diverse sexual acts.
Pornography shows heightened intensity and unrealistic duration of sexual activities. Over time, your spouse who is struggling with pornography addiction may internalize these unrealistic standards.
This makes it challenging for your sexually avoidant spouse to align their sexual expectations with the realities of your marriage. If your spouse looses their erection during your real-life intimate activities, they then feel immense shame, guilt, and feelings of failure.
When your spouse has a pornography addiction, it leads to a disconnection between fantasy and reality when it comes to sexual performance.
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Pornography makes it difficult to differentiate between the staged performances vs. the authentic, human experiences within your healthy real-life, sexual relationship.
To add, the prevalence of certain physical attributes, exaggerated genital sizes, and specific sexual acts in pornography can contribute to a sense of sexual inadequacy.
When your sexually avoidant spouse is struggling with pornography addiction, they will develop an unrealistic belief that their own bodies and sexual performance should mirror what they observe in explicit content.
When your partner sees in pornogrpahy isn’t possible real-life sex. But, not often are couples openly discussing pornography, masturbation, sex, and sexuality. Pornography is like thinking real-life sex will be like Disneyland or a Hollywood movie, when it comes to marriage.
Over time, your spouse’s consumption of pornography can lead to sexual desensitization.
This is where your spouse requires increasingly extreme or unconventional content to elicit sexual arousal. They need to watch pornography for longer and longer to feel the same high.
To add, this sexual desensitization further perpetuates unrealistic sexual expectations. Your spouse becomes less responsive to the subtleties of your body language, your sexual initiations, and your sexual sounds. Due pornography addiction issues, your spouse may have limitations when it comes to emotional connection, which is needed for pleasurable, real-world erotic, sexual experiences with you.
Your spouse’s pornography addiction can negatively impact the emotional aspects of intimacy as well.
The emphasis on physical appearance and performance in explicit content and pornography overshadow the importance of emotional connection.
Pornography doesn’t show emotional communication in real-life partner sex. And, pornography doesn’t show mutual satisfaction within a genuine, loving relationship.
Also, addressing the impact of pornography addiction on unrealistic standards surrounding sexual performance requires a multifaceted approach. Breaking the cycle of sexual avoidance and sexual rejection in your marriage means recognizing the influence of explicit content and pronography on your spouse’s self-perception.
Seeking professional help such as therapy or counseling with Katie Ziskind, sex specialist and marriage therapist, fosters open communication around pronography and sex within your intimate relationship.
Breaking free from the grip of pornography addiction through intimacy counseling allows your spouse to develop a healthier and more realistic understanding of sexual performance.
This process in sex and intimacy focused couples therapy helps address the root of their sexual performance anxiety. Talking openly about your emotions in couples counseling with Katie Ziskind promotes genuine intimacy and satisfaction in your romantic relationship.
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What else contributes to sexual performance anxiety and the cycle of sexual rejection and sexual avoidance?
Several factors contribute to sexual performance anxiety within your marriage, creating a complex interplay of emotional, psychological, and relational dynamics. One significant contributor is societal expectations and cultural norms surrounding sexuality.
You and your partner may be dealing with the pressure to conform to idealized standards of sexual norms. As well, your partner may be struggling with not knowing how to satisfy you sexually, which can create a sense of inadequacy. Your partner may not understand your sexual anatomy, what adequate foreplay for the female sexual pleasure system means, or how you like to orgasm.
Sexual inadequacy creates more anxiety about your spouse’s ability to meet unrealistic sexual expectations, leading to sexual frustration and disconnection within your marriage.
Katie Ziskind, sex specialist and marriage therapist, can help you process past trauma and sexual trauma
Plus, past experiences and traumas can also play a crucial role in the development of sexual performance anxiety. When you or your partner who have encountered negative or distressing sexual experiences, you both may carry that emotional residue into your marriage.
As well, this creates a heightened fear of repeating or confronting those past challenges. If either of you have unresolved issues from previous relationships, these can contribute to anxiety within your current marital dynamic.
Lack of communication plays a role in intimacy
Communication barriers within a marriage can exacerbate sexual performance anxiety.
A lack of open dialogue about desires, concerns, and expectations may lead to misunderstandings and assumptions. When you and your partner may struggle to express your needs, Katie Ziskind, sex specialist and marriage therapist, at Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching can help. Lack of communication leads to a sense of uncertainty.
You and your spouse may never talk about about whether you both are meeting each other’s expectations. This lack of communication intensifies anxiety about sexual performance.
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Criticism, yelling, fights, and the silent treatment play a role in sexual and physical intimacy issues.
As well, any criticism, defensiveness, yelling, or frustration will make your relationship more tense. Emotional security and reassurance plays a huge role in how open and receptive you both are sexually to each other. Because your partner feels criticized, they may be avoiding sacks. Or, because you don’t like your partner is reactive anger, you may be feeling sexually distant.
How physical touch is received is a huge indicator in the depth of emotional connection and trust you have in your marriage.
When you are communicating through anger, yelling, and using the silent treatment, these harm your physical passion, sexual connection, and sex life. Or, if you are even walking away while your partner is talking, this leads to sexual communication problems.
When you don’t feel safe talking about your emotions, there is no security in your relationship.
And, a lack of security emotionally and lack of emotional bonding plays a role in sexual issues. Katie Ziskind, sex specialist and marriage therapist, at Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching, helps you rebuild emotional intimacy and sexual intimacy.
Did you know that metal stress plays a role in sexual issues?
Stress and pressure in various aspects of life, such as work, finances, or family responsibilities, can spill over into your sexual, erotic life and lead to disconnect in your bedroom.
High levels of stress can create a mental preoccupation that interferes with the ability to be fully present and engaged during intimate moments. Not being able to be mindful contributes to anxiety surrounding sexual performance.
If you are worrying about bills and your to-do list, this takes away from sexual connection and sexual playfulness.
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How can working with Katie Ziskind, sex specialist and marriage therapist, at Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching, help with body image issues?
Body image issues can significantly contribute to sexual performance anxiety within your marriage.
Any concerns about physical appearance, weight, or self-perceived flaws may lead you and your partner to feel self-conscious and insecure during intimate moments. Body image insecurities creates a barrier to authentic playful connection and enjoyment.
When you or your partner have body image issues, this can cause limitations around physical affection and sexual intimacy.
Furthermore, body image issues and insecurities can lead to mental anxiety that causes sexual issues.
To add, they way both you and your spouse perceive your own bodies plays a pivotal role in your comfort and confidence during sexual, naked, and intimate moments.
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When one or both of you have negative thoughts about your physical appearance, it can create a barrier to genuine connection and sexual passion.
As well, negative thoughts you or your spouse have about your bodies hinders the ability to fully enjoy and engage openly in sexual activities.
To add, the societal emphasis on idealized body standards, often perpetuated by media and cultural influences, can contribute to the development of body image insecurities. Comparisons to unrealistic ideals may lead you both to feel sexually or physically inadequate.
You are your partner may fear smelling bad, or have body image insecurities that prevent emotional and sexual intimacy.
When you compare yourself to airbrushed, photoshopped models, this fosters a sense of self-consciousness.
And, this self-consciousness manifests as anxiety during sexual, playful, erotic, and intimate moments within your marriage.
When your spouse has insecurities related to body image, they may be keeping their pervasive fear of judgment from you, stuffing it away.
For one, your spouse have have the worry that you may perceive them negatively due to physical imperfections or deviations from societal norms. When your spouse is insecure, this lead to heightened anxiety about being vulnerable, naked, and exposed during sexual, intimate encounters.
Your spouse may struggle with the fear of sexual rejection. Sexual avoidance may deep down be due to fears of dissatisfying you.
Fears of not being, “a good enough sexual partner” can lead to an avoidance of sex.
Your spouse may worry about not meeting your sexual expectations or about you losing interest. These body image issues and mental fears leads to a heightened sense of pressure and anxiety when it comes to sex.
Your partner may be frozen mentally and unable to show sexual playfulness.
Negative body image can also impact communication within your marriage. This particularly shows up when expressing sexual desires or concerns related to physical intimacy. Your partner may hesitate to share their feelings about their body. For one, your partner my dislike their shape or weight.
Deep insecurities may be part of what is making your partner avoid being naked.
And, your spouse may fear that such emotional openness may lead to rejection or judgment from you.
Keeping these insecurities and fears stuffed inside only exacerbates sexual performance anxiety and sexual avoidance.
Overall, Katie Ziskind, sex specialist and marriage therapist, at Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching, helps you have emotionally vulnerable conversations. By verbalizing insecurities and fears, you can develop more emotional bonding, relationship security, and trust.
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Your spouse may avoid sex and sexually reject you because they are afraid to be criticized during sex, and can’t relax into the moment.
The anticipation of being scrutinized during intimate moments can lead your spouse to be hyperaware of your body.
To add, this fixation and obsession makes it challenging to be fully present and engaged in sexual experiences.
This self-consciousness can interfere with the natural flow and organic playfulness of sexual activities. Fear of being criticized or scrutinized hinders spontaneity, inhibiting the ability to relax and enjoy the sexual, erotic experience.
Your spouse’s body image issues may contribute to a reluctance to undress or be physically intimate with you.
Also, avoidance of certain sexual activities or positions due to insecurities about their body can limit the variety and spontaneity of sexual encounters within your marriage. Your spouse may fear not being good enough. Or, your romantic partner may fear that they smelled bad, and preventing you from giving oral sex to them. But, you want to give them oral sex.
As well, avoiding undressing or being naked further intensifies sexual performance anxiety and the sexual rejection you face.
Comparisons to societal beauty standards can create a distorted perception of what is considered attractive, may be leading your spouse to internalize a negative self-image.
The fear of not meeting these perceived standards may result in anxiety. Your spouse may carry anxiety about their ability to fulfill your sexual expectations during intimate, sexual moments.
As well, addressing body image issues within the context of your marriage involves fostering open communication and creating a supportive environment.
Couples can work together to challenge unrealistic societal ideals with Katie Ziskind, sex specialist and marriage therapist. At Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching, you can learn to celebrate each other’s unique qualities, and prioritize emotional connection over external appearances.
Couples therapy alongside individual counseling can be instrumental in navigating body image concerns. Working with Katie Ziskind, sex specialist and marriage therapist, can alleviate the impact of insecurities on sexual performance anxiety within your marriage.
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Let’s talk about sexual frustration due to lack of sex positive education on the female pleasure system
The female orgasmic system needs 45-90 minutes of foreplay. But, the male orgasmic system only takes about 5-8 minutes. There is a desire discrepancy immediately when a couple consists of a male and female. , Couples often need to lengthen foreplay and support the female in orgasming before the male partner ejaculates.
Understanding the intricacies of the female and male orgasmic systems is crucial in addressing desire discrepancies within couples.
Research suggests that the female orgasmic system typically requires a longer duration of arousal compared to the male system. While the male orgasm can be achieved relatively quickly, the female orgasmic response often necessitates 45-90 minutes of foreplay.
This fundamental difference in timing can contribute to sexual frustrations, upset, and desire imbalances within your intimate relationship.
To add, the female orgasmic system is intricately linked to various physiological and psychological factors.
It involves a complex interplay of emotional connection, sexual arousal, and responsiveness to stimuli. Lengthening foreplay is required for women is not merely a matter of physical stimulation but encompasses a holistic approach that considers emotional intimacy. An important part of foreplay is emotional and sexual communication. Foreplay is often not long enough in many sexual encounters.
Lengthening foreplay will improve satisfaction, desire, passion, and playfulness in your sexual encounters.
Couples often experience a desire discrepancy when the timing and duration of foreplay do not align with the needs of both of you. To add, the shorter timeframe required for male orgasmic response may lead to a mismatch in arousal levels.
If a male partner ejaculates and orgasms before a female partner, it leaves the female partner feeling unfulfilled, dissatisfied sexually, and angry.
A female partner may feel upset or rushed. Compared to the male body, the female body, clitoris, vulva, and female sex organs more time and stimulation to reach the same state of heightened sexual arousal.
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Katie Ziskind, sex specialist and marriage therapist, teaches skills for lengthening foreplay and improving sexual satisfaction, pleasure, and bonding.
Likewise, lengthening foreplay becomes a crucial aspect of addressing desire discrepancies and sexual frustration in couples counseling with Katie Ziskind.
Developing and improving your sex life involves recognizing and acknowledging the differing needs each of you have. And, in recognizing your different sexual needs, Katie Ziskind, sex specialist and marriage therapist, helps you approach intimacy in holistic ways that go beyond the physical act of sex.
Sex can be a bonding, emotionally connecting, and playful experience when both of you are enjoying the moment.
It is much more than penis in vagina penetrative sex. Foreplay is something many sexually frustrated and sexually distressed couples need help developing.
Katie Ziskind, sex specialist and marriage therapist, at Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching specializes in helping couples talk about developing more affection. As well, sex positive couples counseling helps you both improve your emotional communication and sexual communication. Lengthening foreplay leads to more sensual exploration, affection, bonding, and increases desire.
Marriage counseling with Katie Ziskind, sex specialist and marriage therapist, helps you both to create a sexually playful environment conducive to satisfying the female pleasure system and desires to orgasm first, before a male partner ejaculates and orgasms.
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Get comfortable and familiar talking about sex with Katie Ziskind, sex specialist and marriage therapist, at Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching
Communication around sex plays a pivotal role in navigating desire imbalances. Often, distressed and frustrated couples don’t talk about sex. Sex because an emotionally triggering or charged subject for many couples. So, then couples who are sexually frustrated just end up blowing up, or holding it all in.
In marriage counseling, Katie Ziskind helps couples who are sexually frustrated to openly discuss their sexual needs, preferences, and expectations surrounding intimacy.
By fostering a safe space for dialogue about sex, you both can work collaboratively to express sexual needs.
You can work together find a balance that accommodates the longer arousal timeframe required for the female orgasmic system. Lengthening foreplay to 45-90 minutes and prioritizing female sexual pleasure supports bonding, relationship satisfaction, playfulness, and erotic connection.
Likewise, sexually disconnected couples may explore various techniques and activities during foreplay to enhance arousal and create a more fulfilling sexual experience.
Essentially, experimentation with different forms of touch, communication styles, and sensual activities can contribute to a richer and more satisfying sexual connection. Lengthening foreplay is about creating playfulness and sexual connection. Overall, lengthening foreplay addresses the sexual desire gap, and helps close the gap.
By lengthening foreplay, you both can more fully increase erotic playfulness and chemistry in your romantic relationship and marriage.
Sex positive couples counseling with Katie Ziskind, sex specialist and marriage therapist, includes sex positive education for both of you. You both can learn about the physiological and psychological aspects of sexual desire and sexual arousal.
Learning about building sexual desire and increasing libido is beneficial in fostering sexual understanding and empathy for each other. Recognizing that the female orgasmic system requires a more extended period of time for sexual arousal than the male body allows couples to approach intimacy with patience.
From talking about sex positive education in couples counseling, a male partner can understand more about the female pleasure system. From sex positive marriage therapy, your male partner can support you, his female partner, in orgasming before he ejaculates. Overall, prioritizing female sexual pleasure means lengthening foreplay and understanding the female sexual arousal system.
Then, sex is about focusing on enjoying giving and receiving pleasure, rather than so focused on penetrative sex or staying hard and erect.
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Sex positive marriage therapy with Katie Ziskind, sex specialist and marriage therapist, helps you openly discuss your shared commitment to creating a mutually satisfying, erotic, and pleasurable sexual experience.
In summary, addressing desire discrepancies is key when it comes to the treatment of sexual avoidance, sexual frustration, and sex life problems.
Overall, addressing sexual desire discrepancies related to the timing of the female and male orgasmic systems involves a combination of communication, sex positive education, and a commitment to lengthening foreplay.
By embracing the complexity of arousal and intimacy, couples can learn from Katie Ziskind to navigate the differences in their orgasmic responses. Talking about sexual needs and sexual desires in marriage counseling creates a more harmonious, pleasurable, erotic, and fulfilling sexual connection within your marriage and relationship.
How to lengthen foreplay, to prioritize female sexual pleasure and orgasms before a male partner ejaculates?
Lengthening foreplay supports marital playfulness and erotic connection in your marriage.
Likewise, lengthening foreplay to prioritize female sexual pleasure and orgasms before a male partner ejaculates is a crucial aspect of fostering a satisfying and mutually fulfilling sexual experience within a marriage. Recognizing the unique needs of the female orgasmic system, which often requires more time and stimulation than the male body, is essential for promoting intimacy and connection between you both.
Essentially, effective emotional and sexual communication is foundational to the process of lengthening foreplay. In sex positive marriage therapy, couples are encouraged to openly discuss their sexual desires, sexual preferences, and sexual boundaries surrounding physical intimacy.
Creating a safe space in marriage counseling for dialogue allows both of you to understand each other’s needs. And, you can collaborate on ways to prioritize female sexual pleasure and build desire during foreplay.
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Exploring different forms of touch and sensual activities can be a part of lengthening foreplay.
To add, taking the time to engage in playful activities that enhance physical and emotional connection, such as sensual massages, gentle caresses, and shared moments of vulnerability, creates an atmosphere conducive to heightened arousal and pleasure for both of you.
Incorporating variety into foreplay can be an exciting way to prolong the playfulness in the sexual experience and prioritize female sexual pleasure. Experimenting with different sensations, textures, and techniques adds an element of novelty and unpredictability.
Marriage therapy with Katie Ziskind helps you keep the spice alive by changing up the boringness of the same routine. Going from kissing to penetrative sex in five minutes makes sex dull, and makes a female partner feel unsatisfied, upset, and unimportant sexually. To feel sexually satisfied, a female partner needs 45-90 minutes of foreplay, caressing, gentle massage, and time to feel safe opening up to become sexually aroused.
Lengthening foreplay helps keep your erotic, passionate, and sexual connection dynamic mentally and physically stimulating.
Prioritizing emotional intimacy is equally important when lengthening foreplay.
Engaging in meaningful conversations, expressing affection, and nurturing a sense of closeness outside of the bedroom contributes to a deeper connection. Essentially, emotional intimacy enhances the overall sexual experience. Emotional intimacy skills allows you and your spouse to feel more attuned to each other’s desires.
We don’t learn emotional intimacy skills in school.
Really, we learn about math, science, and literature. So, couples counseling with Katie Ziskind, sex specialist and marriage therapist, helps you have a safe place to express core emotions and be emotionally vulnerable. Emotional vulnerability is a way to increase emotional bonding and form a deeper connection.
Sex positive marriage counseling with Katie Ziskind, sex specialist and marriage therapist, helps you create a foundation for fulfilling, satisfying, and playful sexual encounters.
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Katie Ziskind, sex specialist and marriage therapist, at Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching, gives you a sex positive place to learn about female anatomy
Essentially, educating both of you about female anatomy and erogenous zones can be empowering in lengthening foreplay.
Exploring erogenous zones during foreplay can significantly enhance the overall sexual experience by tapping into areas of the body that are particularly sensitive and responsive to touch.
Understanding and incorporating erogenous zones into foreplay can contribute to heightened arousal, increased pleasure, and a deeper sense of intimacy between partners. Exploring erogenous zones can help in foreplay to build desire and playfulness.
Focusing on erogenous zones, such as the neck, ears, lips, and inner thighs, can intensify sensations and stimulate nerve endings.
Gentle caresses, kisses, and nibbles in these areas can elicit pleasurable responses and increase arousal, setting the stage for a more satisfying sexual experience.
Exploring different erogenous zones allows for variety and novelty in foreplay. Each person’s sensitivity may vary. So, discovering and experimenting with various areas of the body can keep the experience fresh and exciting, preventing routine and monotony in sexual, intimate moments.
To add, the process of exploring erogenous zones encourages communication between partners. Discussing preferences, likes, and dislikes helps build a deeper understanding of each other’s desires. Open communication creates a collaborative and responsive environment, fostering a more connected sexual experience. Erogenous zones are often linked to emotional responses.
By focusing on these areas, couples in sex positive marriage counseling can strengthen emotional intimacy during foreplay. To add, the physical touch and attention to sensitive zones convey a sense of care, affection, and attentiveness, contributing to a deeper emotional connection in your marriage.
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Erogenous zones extend beyond traditional areas and can include less obvious places like the back, belly, wrists, or feet.
Exploring these zones allows for a holistic approach to pleasure is key in foreplay. As well, sex positive marriage counseling helps you both acknowledge that the entire body is capable of responding to sensual touch, creating a more comprehensive and fulfilling experience.
Deliberately exploring erogenous zones builds anticipation and arousal, increasing sexual pleasure for a female partner.
However, many men watch pornography, which does not show adequate foreplay. Pornography videos demonstrating men pleasuring women often through penetrative sex. So, sex positive couples counseling helps you understand your erogenous zones. And, couples counseling helps you slow down, and pleasure your partner’s erogenous zones rather than jumping right to penetrative sex. Your partner can learn about which of your erogenous zone like pleasured, elongating foreplay and slowing down sexual experiences.
By gradually moving from less sensitive to more sensitive areas, you both can heighten the sexual excitement. Building anticipation and sexual excitement is what also builds and increases sexual desire. And, with slower, longer foreplay, you prolong sexual pleasure.
This process of gaining sex positive education with Katie Ziskind in marriage counseling builds desire and increase libido. And, slowing sexual activities down contributes to a more gradual, playful, erotic, and satisfying progression of sexual pleasure.
Sex positive marriage counseling can help you feel comfortable talking with your partner about what areas of their body are hot spots as well as your erogenous zones.
Everyone’s erogenous zones are unique, and what works for one person may not be as effective for another.
As well, exploring erogenous zones helps you and your spouse understand each other’s individual preferences. You can both learn to turn each other on more and more. In sex positive couples counseling with Katie Ziskind, you can talk about lengthening foreplay in ways that align with both of your desires and sexual sensitivities.
More so, mixing gentle touches, kisses, and teasing sensations on different areas of the body allows for a versatile. fun, and personalized foreplay experience.
Incorporating erogenous zones into foreplay expands the repertoire of techniques available to you both. Both of you can to cater to the specific needs and sexual preferences to teach other during foreplay. Furthermore, lengthening foreplay not only supports the female pleasure system and supports you in orgasming, but also the giver. Likewise, lengthening foreplay allows your male partner to get pleasure from pleasuring, hearing sounds, and giving to you sexually.
In summary, exploring erogenous zones during foreplay is a dynamic and interactive way for couples to enhance their sexual connection.
By prioritizing sensitivity and responsiveness, couples can create a more playful, exciting, and fulfilling foreplay experience. Lengthening foreplay sets the stage for deeper intimacy and satisfaction in your sexual relationship and marriage.
To begin, click below to book your phone consult to work with Katie Ziskind, sex specialist, intimacy and marriage therapist, at Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching.
Understanding the intricacies of the female body in sex positive marriage counseling allows couples to explore and target areas that contribute to heightened arousal and sexual pleasure.
This knowledge fosters a sense of confidence and attentiveness in satisfying the unique needs of female sexual pleasure.
Incorporating playful and erotic elements into foreplay can enhance the overall experience for both of you. Experimenting with fantasies, incorporating role-play, and introducing elements of surprise contribute to a sense of adventure and playfulness.
In sex positive marriage counseling with Katie Ziskind, you both can work together to create an erotic connection that prioritizes pleasure for both of you.
Finally, maintaining a shared commitment to mutual pleasure and satisfaction is essential in supporting marital playfulness and erotic connection.
In marriage counseling, sexually frustrated couples are encouraged to view sexual intimacy as a collaborative and ongoing exploration.
Talking about sex in couples therapy with Katie Ziskind allows for continuous communication and adaptation to each other’s changing sexual desires.
By prioritizing female sexual pleasure through extended foreplay, sexually frustrated couples can create a sexual dynamic that is not only satisfying but also fosters a deeper and more connected marital relationship.
To begin, click below to book your phone consult to work with Katie Ziskind, sex specialist, intimacy and marriage therapist, at Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching.
What to expect in couples counseling with Katie Ziskind, sex specialist and marriage therapist, at Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching?
To support a better sex life, you can learn to increase emotional vulnerability and improve verbal communication around emotional needs and desires.
You might get book recommendations and resources to support you in gaining sex positive education. Katie Ziskind has a podcast, “All Things Love and Intimacy,” which covers a range of topics related to fostering a healthy relationship, navigating challenges, and enhancing emotional and sexual intimacy.
When working with Katie Ziskind, sex specialist and marriage therapist, may recommend you read, “She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman” (Kerner).
Often, couples who are stuck in an avoidant cycle of sex, where you feel rejected, sexual activities are often too short.
Sex may have become dull, boring, and you may not have sex frequently. So, part of your homework for outside of intimacy and sex focused couples counseling might be to lengthen foreplay to 45-90 minutes. Many times, couples do not get sex positive sexual education on the female pleasure system growing up.
A female will become frustrated, sad, and angry if her male partner doesn’t prioritize her pleasure over his own. So, lengthening foreplay supports female sexual pleasure. A male partner especially often becomes sexually aroused much more quickly than a female partner. So, homework in marriage therapy with Katie Ziskind, sex specialist and marriage therapist, might be to help and assist the female partner in orgasming first, before he ejaculates and orgasms.
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Develop confidence giving and receiving oral sex
Sex positive marriage counseling with Katie Ziskind, sex specialist and marriage therapist, will help you both better understand how sexual pleasure helps you both feel close, desire, wanted, attractive, and bonded as a couple. Maybe, one of you is comfortable giving oral sex, but the other is self-conscious about giving or receiving.
Couples counseling with a focus on sex and intimacy can help you both get comfortable giving and receiving oral sex. If you are self-conscious about giving oral sex, you may worry that you’re doing it wrong. So, with out sexual confidence around oral sex, you may avoid doing it all together.
There may also be sensory aspects to giving and receiving oral sex. So, in sex positive couples therapy, you can get comfortable talking about the feeling of saliva and your partner’s genitals in your mouth. Couples counseling is a safe place to talk about oral sex and have a sex positive atmosphere to overcome oral sex anxiety. Working with Katie Ziskind, sex specialist and marriage therapist, helps you both give and receive oral sex confidently.
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Talk about incorporating sex toys and increasing sexual diversity
Sometimes, couples fear incorporating sex toys, but they can be very fun and playful. One person fears using sex toys will be bad for their relationship. Or, fear around sex toys in due to religious shame and guilt. Working with Katie Ziskind, sex specialist and marriage therapist, at Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching, can help you increase the use of sex toys. You can gain sex positive education on how sex toys offer different pleasurable sensations than the human body.
You both can work together to diversify the sex positions you both do, as you might only do one position right now.
How can working with Katie Ziskind, sex specialist and marriage therapist, at Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching, help you break the cycle of sexual avoidance, sexual rejection, and sexual disconnection?
Working with Katie Ziskind, a couples therapist and intimacy specialist, at Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching, can offer valuable insights and guidance in breaking the cycle of sexual avoidance, rejection, and disconnection within your marriage.
Katie Ziskind’s specialized expertise in the realm of intimacy allows you both to explore the root causes of your challenges. Together, you both can develop tailored strategies for fostering a healthier, more erotic, resilient, and more fulfilling sexual dynamic.
Katie Ziskind’s approach to couples therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching involves creating a safe and non-judgmental space for open communication.
As well, Katie Ziskind supports you both in establishing a safe space in marriage counseling where both of you feel heard and validated. Katie Ziskind facilitates a collaborative exploration of the issues deep under sexual avoidance, loneliness, and rejection within your marriage.
To begin, click below to book your phone consult to work with Katie Ziskind, sex specialist, intimacy and marriage therapist, at Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching.
As a couples therapist and sex specialist, Katie Ziskind helps couples navigate the intricacies of sexual intimacy and sexual desire.
Her expertise allows you both to understand the emotional, psychological, and physical factors influencing your vicious cycle of avoidance, distance, and disconnection. Through targeted discussions and therapeutic interventions, you both can gain clarity on your individual needs. You get a safe place to verbalize your emotional needs and sexual concerns.
Katie Ziskind, at Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching, encourages couples to explore the emotional aspects surrounding sexual rejection.
By delving into feelings of rejection, hurt, and disconnection, you both can identify underlying issues and work towards a mutual understanding of each other’s needs and desires.
To add, your marriage therapy process with Katie Ziskind includes addressing any past traumas or unresolved issues that may contribute to your cycle of sexual avoidance. Her skill in navigating sensitive topics allows you both to confront and heal from past wounds. Doing so creates a foundation of emotional bonding and emotional connection for rebuilding sexual intimacy.
Katie Ziskind, sex specialist and marriage therapist, at Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching, employs evidence-based therapeutic techniques.
Overall, these include renowned approaches such as Gottman Therapy and Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy. These techniques focus on enhancing communication and emotional connection.
Couples therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching supports mutual satisfaction, both emotionally and sexually.
At Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching, you and your spouse gain practical tools to break the cycle of sexual avoidance and disconnection.
Couples working with Katie Ziskind, sex specialist and marriage therapist, at Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching, are guided in developing a shared commitment to rebuilding intimacy.
Building intimacy is about communicating your deeper feelings of rejection, loss, and emotional pain, which are under anger. Talking about emotional vulnerability is a key part in rebuilding emotional intimacy and relationship security. Intimacy means feeling close, special, and like you matter to your partner. To note, intimacy is both about emotional closeness and sexual connection.
And, intimacy is also expressing sexual desires, sexual passions, and sexual fantasies. Through collaborative goal-setting and targeted interventions, you and your spouse can establish a roadmap for overcoming challenges emotionally and sexually. At Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching, you can work on fostering a renewed sense of emotional connection, which supports a more passionate, erotic sexual relationship.
Katie Ziskind’s comprehensive and holistic approach to couples therapy addresses the emotional, psychological, and physical dimensions of intimacy.
By providing a personalized and empathetic therapeutic experience, Katie Ziskind, sex specialist and marriage therapist, empowers you both to break free from the cycle of sexual avoidance, rejection, and disconnection. You and your partner can verbalize emotional affection, letting each other know what you love about the other.
As well, you can express how you value your marriage and physical partnership through sexual touch and erotic playfulness. We often don’t learn sex positive skills growing up.
Being stuck in a cycle of sexual avoidance and sexual rejection leads to marital loneliness and disconnection. By working together in couples counseling, you can verbalize your emotional needs for bonding and security. As well, you can learn about the female pleasure system, how to incorporate sex toys, how to bring in more sexual diversity, and how to lengthen foreplay. You both can learn about female sexuality and your male partner can learn to support your sexual pleasure and satisfaction.
You and your partner can develop more bonding, closeness, and a fulfilling and intimate marital relationship from working with Katie Ziskind.
