Do you feel frustrated with your sex life? Constantly sexually rejected by your partner? When you reach out to touch them, do you feel them pull away? Are you afraid to talk to your partner because you want to avoid conflict? Do it feel that every time you and your spouse talk, it escalates and gets too overwhelming and intense? Your sexual intimacy is directly connected to emotional intimacy. You can learn skills to rebuild sexual intimacy in marriage counseling at Wisdom Within Counseling.
Right now, in the cycle or “dance” of disconnection, you feel stuck, hopeless, and frustrated. You want to connect with your spouse so deeply, but it feels almost impossible to get emotionally close. Your emotional disconnection has lead your sex life to be so insignificant. Maybe, your partner has begun avoiding sexual intimacy, leading you to feel lonely.
How can couples therapy help you and your partner with sexual performance anxiety?
Right now, you feel stuck in a negative cycle of conflict and a hopeless “dance” where no matter what you say, it makes the fight worse.
Couples therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling can be a valuable resource for addressing sexual performance anxiety and improving both emotional and physical intimacy between you.
Often, anger, hostility, yelling, criticism, aggressive communication, and emotional withdrawal are negative forms of communication that hinder a healthy sexual life.
Couples therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling provides a safe and non-judgmental space for both of you to express your feelings underneath anger, avoidance, and pulling away behaviors.
Emotional intimacy is a foundation for sexual passion and intimate connection. In marriage counseling, you and your spouse can voice your concerns about communication. You can see how negative communication cycles are related to sexual performance anxiety, sexual rejection, and sexual avoidance behaviors.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, our marriage therapists facilitate open communication, helping you each understand the other’s perspective. Part of rebuilding sexual desire and sexual intimacy means learning tools for building emotional intimacy. To rebuild sexual intimacy in marriage counseling, our marriage counselors help you both learn empathy skills.
We help you rebuild sexual intimacy in marriage counseling by starting with emotional connection, vulnerability, and emotional confidence tools.
When you are sexually rejected and looking to rebuild sexual intimacy in marriage counseling, emotional communication tools are key.
Our Wisdom Within Counseling couples therapists help identify any underlying issues contributing to sexual performance anxiety, such as dysfunctional communication cycles.
Often, we learn math and science, but we don’t learn empathy skills in school. You and your spouse may have grown up with parents who showed you high conflict communication styles. Or, you may have seen emotional avoidance behaviors, where your parents never talked about their feelings. You both want to be better role models for your children too.
Both high conflict fighting behaviors and emotional avoidance behaviors, where people sweep things under the rug, are dysfunctional.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, you can learn healthy, calm and positive communication skills.
From doing so, the emotional bonding, security, and playfulness in your relationships improves. Feeling emotionally safe with each other directly relates to a healthy, passionate, and playful sex life.
Deep down, you know that you have a beautiful relationship, that is worth fighting for. However, in the moment of conflict, disconnection, hopelessness, and loneliness, you both can’t see that beauty any longer. That is where our Wisdom Within Counseling couples therapists come in.
When rebuilding sexual intimacy in marriage counseling, you can look at the impact of past trauma.
Past trauma experiences can lead to a fight, flight, and freeze state. When your spouse is yelling at your, do you feel emotional and like you can’t think straight? Well, this is your body going into fight, flight or freeze. Reacting emotionally from a state of flight, fight or freeze only leads to the negative cycle of communication continuing.
Rebuilding sexual intimacy in marriage counseling is all about creating more positive relationship dynamics. From shifting from a negative “dance” to a positive one, you can understand your partner’s fears and insecurities. Your partner can also learn to show emotional support for your fears and insecurities.
What can self-protection look like in your recent fight?
To share, there are a variety of unhealthy self-protection mechanisms in the cycle of high conflict fighting, such as emotional withdrawal, avoidance, yelling, criticism, that can lead to a disconnection in sexual intimacy. Because of negative communication, right now, you are experiencing sexual avoidance behaviors. Sexual disconnection and avoidance further contributes to marital stress and a need for couples counseling.
When you are looking to rebuild sexual intimacy in marriage counseling, this means identifying unhealthy self-protection mechanisms in high conflict fighting
In the tumultuous cycle of high-conflict fighting within your relationship, you both probably resort to unhealthy self-protection mechanisms as a means of coping with the emotional disconnection.
For one, emotional withdrawal is where one or both of you retreat into yourselves, creating a formidable barrier between you both. To note, this withdrawal serves as a defense mechanism. You perceive a threat, and then attempt to shield yourself from the perceived threat. But, couples counseling is about supporting more emotional vulnerability and emotional bonding conversations.
Unfortunately, emotional withdrawal fosters a disconnection, limiting emotional intimacy and hindering communication essential for resolving conflicts. Overall, healing emotional withdrawal and disconnection tactics are key factors that need attention when you are looking to rebuild sexual intimacy in marriage counseling.
Do you both use emotional avoidance as a destructive strategy?
Also, another damaging self-protective mechanism is avoidance, where you both actively steer clear of confronting the issues at hand. You sweep conflict under the rug.
Avoidance, a negative behavior, may manifest as sidestepping difficult conversations, evading emotional topics, or steering away from any form of vulnerability.
Notably, avoidance exacerbates your fights and problems over time. Avoidance behaviors contribute to a growing negativity and disconnection between you both. In the context of sexual intimacy, avoiding discussions about needs and desires can lead to a significant disconnection. Not talking and avoiding each other or conversations fosters an environment where sexual avoidance behaviors become your norm.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, avoidance behaviors of all kinds foster emotional disconnection.
Instead of avoidance, marriage counseling helps you both be vulnerable, open, receptive, and empathetic while rebuilding sexual intimacy and sexual connection.
Is there verbal warfare in your marriage? Yelling, criticism, and defensivness pushing you both away from each other in a negative fight or “dance?” You get used to the negative pattern over time. Both of you feel triggered emotionally and stuck right now.
High-conflict fighting is a pattern of heightened emotions, leading to destructive verbal behaviors such as yelling and criticism. Yelling becomes a way to overpower your partner and gain a false sense of control. As well, equally destructive and negative, criticism serves as a shield against your own insecurities by deflecting blame onto your partner.
In the realm of sexual intimacy, constant verbal warfare creates an atmosphere of fear and insecurity. Yelling and high conflict fighting makes it challenging for your both to feel emotionally safe and vulnerable in a sexual way together.
To add, the shutting down, being critical, snappy, and attacking one another erodes trust and emotional safety. A lack of trust and emotional safety leads to sexual avoidance, sexual rejection, and sexual frustration as a protective measure. Instead of perpetuating your negative “dance” or cycle of marital stress, marriage counseling is about rebuilding sexual intimacy from emotional connection.
Our team of couples counselors help you get unstuck from this negative “dance” of constant fighting, and build emotional safety, which foster a healthy sex life.
Does emotional avoidance lead to sexual avoidance?
When unhealthy self-protection mechanisms persist, sexual intimacy often becomes far out of reach. The disconnection caused by emotional withdrawal, avoidance, yelling, and criticism extends to your sex life and bedroom. Disconnection emotionally leads to sexual avoidance behaviors, sexual intimacy issues, and sex life problems.
Furthermore, fears of emotional vulnerability spill over into the realm of physical intimacy. You are stuck in a negative, emotionally painful cycle where you and your partner gradually distance yourselves from each other, both emotionally and physically.
Sexual avoidance and sexual rejection becomes a manifestation of your broader marital distress and disconnection. When you experience sexual avoidance and sexual rejection, Wisdom Within Counseling specializes in helping couples break the dysfunctional cycle and restore emotional and sexual connection.
Couples counseling at Wisdom Within Counseling is a path to healing sex life issues
Recognizing the detrimental impact of these fear-based, self-protection mechanisms on both emotional and sexual intimacy is key in rebuilding sexual intimacy in marriage counseling. At Wisdom Within Counseling, couples counseling sessions are a crucial step towards healing your sexual connection. Our skilled intimacy and sexuality therapists guide distant couples in breaking down defensive walls. You and your partner can learn open communication skills for rebuilding trust.
Through targeted interventions for emotionally bond, you and your spouse can learn healthier conflict resolution strategies. In marriage therapy for bettering your sex life, you can address the root causes of your high-conflict fighting cycles. You can learn how to communicate in positive, loving, reassuring, and emotionally secure ways through marriage counseling.
By addressing the disconnect in sexual intimacy, couples counseling at Wisdom Within Counseling becomes a pathway to rekindling your flame. Rebuilding sexual intimacy in marriage counseling helps you foster a renewed sense of sexual connection, and provides tools for navigating conflicts constructively.
Instead, how can couples therapy help you shift into vulnerability, supporting sexual connection and intimacy?
In a fight, your partner may be yelling, angry, or emotionally shut down, giving the silent treatment. Part of learning to rebuild sexual intimacy in marriage counseling at Wisdom Within Counseling is sharing vulnerable emotions deep under anger.
Deep down, though, your partner may feel like they are unworthy of love or acceptance. Under anger, your partner may fear abandonment or fear rejection, leading to sexual disconnection and sexual avoidance behaviors. Perhaps, you may feel alone, and fear not being worth it in your partner’s eyes, under your snappy responses.
Being vulnerable is saying, “I fear you and going to give up on me, and our relationship.”
That is very different than yelling, “Shut up!” Yelling back and fourth is a sign you could use the professional help of our intimacy and couples therapists. It can be extremely difficult to be emotionally vulnerable in conflicts without the help of the Wisdom Within Counseling sexual intimacy and marriage counseling specialists.
Our team of marriage therapists specialize in helping you and your partner share emotional vulnerabilities and building emotional bonding. Rather than yelling, criticizing each other, you can talk about the fears of despair, loneliness, and fears of rejection.
Instead of continuing your negative cycle of conflict and dysfunctional “dance,” couples therapy can help you both can work on sharing what you need.
For instance, in a moment of need, you may want softness, gentleness, and reassurance from your spouse. But, right now, shouting, yelling, and emotional withdrawal prevent what you from getting need most from your partner.
Marriage counseling for more sexual intimacy at Wisdom Within Counseling, you can learn to speak about your needs, desires, and communicate clearly.
By addressing the root causes of sexual intimacy issues, couples therapy can help you work together to find solutions and develop playfulness strategies.
To rebuild sexual intimacy in marriage counseling, you and your partner may need sex positive education on sexual health.
In addition to building a healthier, more secure emotional bond in couples therapy, our couples counselors teach you about physical anatomy, role play, foreplay, sex toys, and sexual diversity. Essentially, education on sexual health from our couples therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling can also help you rebuild sexual connection and intimacy.
To add, our marriage therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling specialize providing education on sexual health, anatomy, and sexual physiology.
You may carry sexual shame and guilt, leading to sexual frustration due to having a conservative, religious background or upbringing. In general, part of rebuilding sexual intimacy in marriage counseling is about dispelling sexual myths, fears, and misconceptions that contribute to sexual anxiety and sexual avoidance. Understanding how you and your partner may have different sexual responses can help alleviate unrealistic expectations and reduce performance pressure too.
Sensate focus exercises support you and your spouse in rebuilding sexual intimacy in marriage therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling
Our couples therapists and intimacy specialists introduce sensate focus exercises to help you rebuild sexual intimacy in marriage counseling. To note, these involve non-sexual touch and exploration to enhance intimacy without the pressure of performance. These exercises can help you both reconnect on a physical and emotional level, fostering a sense of safety and comfort.
To note, learning to overcome anxiety-provoking sexual situations includes building a foundation of emotional safety and comfort in each other. Couples therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling helps you build that foundation of emotional intimacy by talking about uncomfortable emotions, fears, and deeper feelings under anger.
Building emotional intimacy and rebuilding sexual intimacy in marriage therapy is possible with the help of our team of specialists at Wisdom Within Counseling
Couples therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling focuses on building emotional intimacy. Notably, a strong emotional connection often translates into improved sexual intimacy. Feeling emotionally disconnected, alone, and hurt means that emotional intimacy tools and skills are needed.
Developing trust and vulnerability within your marriage and relationship creates a supportive environment for addressing sexual disconnection, sexual avoidance, and sexual performance anxiety.
Our Wisdom Within Counseling marriage therapists specialize in sex, intimacy, and sexuality.
In couples therapy, you can work specifically on sexual issues and intimacy problems within your relationship. At Wisdom Within Counseling, when rebuilding sexual intimacy in marriage counseling, our couples therapists provide guidance on enhancing sexual communication. As well, you and your partner learn skills for physical intimacy and sexual pleasure.
More so, learning mindfulness and relaxation techniques can help you both manage anxiety and fears. Mindfulness practices can be applied both in and out of the bedroom to promote a more relaxed and enjoyable sexual experience. Learning to be in the present moment is a great benefit of mindfulness skills.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, tools for rebuilding sexual intimacy in marriage counseling are all about enhancing both your emotional intimacy and bonding, and physical intimacy.
Couples therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling is your safe place to talk about sex comfortably. You can learn tools for addressing sexual avoidance, sexual rejection, sexual frustration, and sexual performance anxiety rooted in emotional intimacy skills.
From emotional safety, reassurance, and more trust, you can improve your sexual, intimate connection.
How can emotionally focused couples counseling help you heal sexual intimacy issues?
Emotionally focused couples counseling (EFT) offers you the ability to move from a negative dance into a positive dance with your spouse. Generally, emotionally focused couples counseling is a transformative approach to addressing the complex interplay between emotional intimacy and sexual connection within your marriage.
When you are grappling with feelings of rejection, avoidance, and disconnection, emotionally focused couples counseling at Wisdom Within Counseling provides a structured and empathetic framework. You and your partner get to explore and heal your emotional bond that contributes to intimacy and sexual issues and challenges.
When you are looking to rebuild sexual intimacy in marriage counseling, emotionally focused couples counseling supports you in understanding your negative dance
Essentially, emotionally focused couples counseling at Wisdom Within Counseling begins by helping your both delve into the emotional landscape of your relationship. Emotionally focused couples counseling allow you and your spouse to express your needs, fears, and vulnerabilities in a safe and supportive environment.
You can break the hurtful, painful cycle and dance of disconnection in emotionally focused couples counseling at Wisdom Within Counseling.
By unraveling the emotional intricacies that fuel sexual rejection and avoidance, you and your partner can gain insights into your negative patterns that leave you both feeling alone and frustrated.
It is possible to break the negative, dysfunctional cycle you are currently stuck in. By learning to create the best relationship that you can, Wisdom Within Counseling helps you build a secure bond.
Understanding each other emotionally lays the foundation for rebuilding emotional intimacy, which is a crucial element in revitalizing your sexual intimacy and sexual connection.
What does it take to create and maintain a secure, loving attachment, rather than a cycle of negativity, disconnection and distance?
Now, one of the core tenets of emotionally focused couples counseling is the exploration of attachment needs. Our Wisdom Within Counseling intimacy and marriage therapists help you recognize that you and your spouse are seeking emotional connection and security. But, the way you are currently trying to get needs for emotional security met, through fighting, snappy responses, criticism, and avoidance, aren’t productive.
The team at Wisdom Within Counseling show you how to respond in positive, loving, and reassuring ways rather than yelling or avoiding emotions.
That way, you can create and maintain a secure, loving, and meaningful bond emotionally and sexually within your relationships.
When sexual rejection or avoidance is occurring, it often stems from unmet attachment needs. In general, emotionally focused couples counseling empowers you and your spouse to identify and articulate these deep needs. Sadly, you might be yelling, criticizing on another, and avoiding talking all together right now.
This only creates more emotional pain and hopelessness. You can learn to confidence in each other, and build trust in a way that you never have before. In couples therapy, you can learn to get close to each other and truly build a meaningful relationship. Being emotionally vulnerable means talking about loneliness, sadness, and fears of rejection and fears of abanondoment.
In counseling, learning to rebuild sexual intimacy in marriage counseling is about fostering a more secure emotional bond. At Wisdom Within Counseling, developing a more secure emotional bond paves the way for enhanced sexual connection and satisfaction.
Our team of couples and intimacy specialists at Wisdom Within Counseling help you develop deep intimacy and trust.
How can couples therapy help you break the cycle of sexual disconnection?
To add, emotionally focused couples therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling offers practical strategies for breaking the cycle of sexual disconnection.
By reshaping negative interaction patterns and fostering positive communication, you can establish a more supportive and understanding foundation. Your emotionally focused couples therapist at Wisdom Within Counseling guides partners in expressing their desires, fears, and expectations surrounding intimacy. As a result, this vulnerability creates a roadmap for reconnecting on a physical and emotional level.
Right now, you may be feeling rejected, hopeless, sad, and frustrated.
Feelings of hopelessness often accompany sexual rejection and disconnection in your marriage. So, emotionally focused couples therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling intervenes by rekindling hope through the gradual reconstruction of emotional bonds.
As you and your spouse learn to communicate more effectively, you gain skills for expressing vulnerabilities. Overall, you can attune to each other’s needs, and a sense of connection is reestablished. Your renewed emotional closeness becomes a catalyst for rebuilding trust and sexual intimacy.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, our emotionally focused couples therapists provide give you a safe place to express frustration and talk about how lonely you feel, in a healthy, calm way.
With our couples therapists present, you don’t have to fear rejection from your spouse. We guide your spouse in learning how to emotionally encourage and support you. Our emotionally focused couples therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling help you partner empathize with you, fostering trust.
Wisdom Within Counseling teaches you and your partner skills for creating a fulfilling sexual connection and sexual intimacy
Emotionally focused couples therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling equips you and your partner with the skills you don’t have right now. By learning these skills from our professional couples therapists, you can create and maintain a fulfilling sexual connection. We don’t learn these skills growing up or in school. Often, we watch parents demonstrate dysfunctional ways to communicating too. At Wisdom Within Counseling, you get an opportunity to practice and integrate emotional connection tools, which are a foundation for sexual intimacy.
From addressing communication gaps, part of rebuilding sexual intimacy in marriage counseling means you now have skills to explore sexual fantasies and sexual desires. At Wisdom Within Counseling, emotionally focused couples therapy helps you both feel like you can rely on one another. The process of talking about emotions facilitates a deeper understanding of each other’s sexual and intimate needs.
This newfound awareness, combined with the emotional security cultivated through emotionally focused couples therapy, allows couples to embark on a journey toward a more satisfying and connected sexual relationship. Overall, our couples counselors help reduce and eliminate any sense of aloneness and frustration that may have characterized your marriage previously. Through learning skills to rebuild sexual intimacy in marriage counseling, you get to see each other in a positive, loving, and playful way.
