What is a trauma bond? Do you feel you are trapped in a cycle of abuse with your spouse? Are you with a narcissistic person? Do you think you are stuck in a trauma bond due to the intense highs and lows? Would you like to meet with a specialist for trauma bonding therapy? Do you feel like you are walking on eggshells around your spouse? Are there angry, high conflict fights that leave you feeling broken and scared? Or, are you in love with someone who has harmful, toxic, abusive behaviors? At Wisdom Within Counseling in Florida, you get complex PTSD and trauma specialists to work with. To note, narcissistic abuse and trauma bond therapy specialists in Florida at Wisdom Within Counseling support reconnecting with your mind, body, and spirit after abuse.
Being in a trauma bond can lead you to feel self-doubt, anxiety, depression, have appetite changes, and even question your reality.
Maybe, you got married, and hoped to have children, but before you were able to do so, you found your spouse cheating. When you talk with them about cheating on you, they explode in a violent rage. You are hurt and betrayed and cry.
When they see you crying, they start yelling that it was your fault. And, when you cry, you are mocked or ridiculed by your significant other. They throw a chair and punch a wall. This is abusive behavior. Working with a therapist at Wisdom Within Counseling supports healthy relationships.
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High conflict fights
Every week, you are getting into intense, high conflict arguments at always ended with anger, violence, and door slamming. Maybe, you get called, “a loser, a bitch, a jerk, an asshole, or slut.” Fights where name calling is present are more hurtful. Learning about healthy ways to share your feelings in a great part of narcissistic abuse counseling in Florida at Wisdom Within.
Narcissistic abuse and trauma bond therapy specialists in Florida at Wisdom Within can help you decide if you want to stay with your partner or break up. You deserve to have a romantic, playful, and emotionally safe relationship that you enjoy.
Gaslighting is a form of abuse in a trauma bond
In your relationship, your partner tells you that you are crazy for crying. Your romantic partner tells you that you smell bad, criticizes your habits, is emotionally irrational, and isolates you from friends and family.
These are ways to gaslight you and cause you to feel insecure. Gaslighting breaks down your self-confidence and causes you to feel doubt. When you want to talk, your romantic partner tells you that you should not feel the way you do. Your partner might even tell you that them yelling at you is your fault. To note, gaslighting is a form of manipulation to create doubt, confusion, and power. As well, gaslighting distorts a victim’s reality making the victim more attached to the abuser.
From trauma bond counseling, you can learn to identify abusive signs and gaslighting. Trauma bond therapy specialists in Florida at Wisdom Within Counseling encourage skills for healthy communication.
Trauma bonds in a marriage can look different than trauma bonds when dating
Or, you have been married for over 30 years and your spouse has been in and out of rehab for alcoholism and drug use. There have been times your spouse destroyed property in a rage.
You have felt scared and confused. It feels like there are good times, so you don’t want to throw years of your marriage away. However, when you do have bad times, the bad times are very negative. You can’t stop remembering the bad times. You wonder if you are with the right person for you.
What is a trauma bond when it comes to counseling?
A trauma bond is a bond that forms with you and your romantic partner. Not all couples are stuck in a trauma bond. Rather, after episodes of high conflict fights, painful emotions, and hurtful words, a trauma bond forms.
Your romantic partner is kind and loving to you at times. But, they are also explosive, controlling, and aggressive at times. So, a trauma bond counseling, you can learn that there are good, romantic, and calm times.
However, these good times are always followed by abusive times. Before you know it, you are back in the cycle of fighting, abuse, hurt, anger, and hopelessness. Not all couples stuck in a trauma bond are conscious of this.
So, trauma bond couples therapy in Florida can help couples develop awareness of this dysfunctional pattern. As well, counseling helps couples gain healthier communication skills.
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How do I know if I am in a trauma bond in my marriage and need the speciality of trauma bond therapy?
Your spouse may also be struggling with alcoholism, drug use, or another addiction. The person you deeply love has said incredibly hurtful things to you and keeps doing it after apologizing. Apologizes start to mean nothing. You share your feelings in a calm, clear way and your narcissistic partner dismisses you.
Your romantic partner comforts you after episodes of abuse. One late evening, your romantic partner is blaming you for their problems. But, the next morning is hugging you and comforting you. Commonly, abusive, narcissistic people have a bad temper.
There is a sense of unpredictability regarding anger episodes and anger outbursts in your relationship. Getting angry and yelling hurtful things is typical abusive behavior. Verbal abuse is a form of abuse that is often overlooked, but causes PTSD symptoms just like physical or sexual abuse. Narcissistic abuse leads to a PTSD diagnosis in many people.
Anger, threats, and social isolation is a form of narcissistic abuse
Threats
Along with anger may come threats. Your abusive partner gets upset and instead of telling you about how they feel, they threaten you. They may threaten to call your boss, interfering with your career. Or, your romantic partner may threaten to share a secret with your family that you shared with them in confidence.
There is an invasion of privacy.
Even when you have nothing to hide, you romantic partner or spouse seems skeptical, accusatory, and suspicious of your whereabouts. Your romantic partner may look at your social media accounts to see who liked your photos.
Alcoholism and anger
Having a spouse who has alcoholism or an addiction can be a compound stressor on top of being in a trauma bond. Getting into fights after drinking alcohol is never a good sign. Alcoholism and abuse can go hand in hand. If alcohol has been a problem in your relationship, Wisdom Within Counseling can help.
Reducing alcohol consumption can help your relationship with yourself and others improve. After you get into a fight after drinking alcohol, you feel sad and hurt. You wonder if the anger and aggression is your spouse’s true nature, or if it is the alcohol that is making them more mad. Confusion, self-doubt, and anxiety are huge parts of being in an abusive relationship.
To begin, click the button below to start with a phone consult for confidence, clarity, and skills for healthy, calm, and close romantic relationships.
If your partner is unstable when they drink alcohol, frequently loses their temper, gets into fights, and is easily reactive, you may be in an abusive relationship.
Why is is hard to leave when you are feeling stuck in a trauma bond?
Well, you may be a person that has been in a trauma bond for years or decades. Commitment and being there for your romantic partner is valuable to you. You fear throwing away the good times, along with the bad.
Also, being married is important to you. Your values of being committed to your partner seems to be with holding you both together. You feel attached, close, and unified when times are good, making it hard to leave. It is normal to fear abandonment or fear living alone too.
Wondering about leaving after each fight?
After each fight, you wonder if you should leave the relationship. There is doubt in trying something new, and venturing into a new life. You wonder how to leave, if you should leave, and wish your relationship felt more loving. Therapy for narcissistic abuse can help determine if you should separate from a toxic relationship. However, when you try to leave, an abusive person may even threaten to kill themselves or suicide.
Having unexplained body pain from abuse and trauma?
Naturally, an empathetic person, who falls into a victim role, is caring and doesn’t want a loved one to die. Staying in a trauma bond relationship becomes an emotional roller coaster. You may have somatic, body symptoms like stomach aches, headaches, joint pain, digestive issues, and even back pain. Body pain that has no other cause, like being from a recent work out or injury, is often from trauma experiences.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, trauma bond therapy specialists in Florida support you in making an authentic decisions, whether that is to leave or stay.
From counseling for trauma bond recovery, you can gain clarity and confidence. Having time to reflect in counseling can give you self-worth. From there, you can tune in with yourself, you mind, body, and spirit.
Working on yourself, taking good care of yourself, and reducing conflict are all benefits of trauma bond therapy. In abusive relationships, slowly, we give thing sup that make us happy. You and your therapist can work together to rebuild what you may have lost from being with a toxic, abusive, and narcissistic partner.
Overall, trauma bond counseling in Florida can help you gain hobbies and strength to do fun things without the permission of your abuser.
To begin, click below to book a phone consult to meet with the team of trauma bond therapy specialists in Florida at Wisdom Within Counseling.
Can the trauma bond therapy specialists in Florida help me and my spouse stay together, but still break a trauma bond?
Yes, even if you do want to stay with your partner who may be emotionally abusive, trauma bond therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling helps. Couples who gain awareness and want to change can grow. Often, adults learn that abuse is normal from dysfunctional parenting relationships.
Even if you or your spouse has an alcohol or addiction issue, going to trauma bond therapy and working with a specialist in Florida can help you. Dealing with getting sober is a huge step in a better future. The first step to having a healthier relationship with another person is having a healthier relationship with yourself.
Getting sober, not drinking alcohol, and not using drugs are important steps to having a healthier romantic relationship.
For one, on an individual level, you can gain self-worth. You can learn how to be more honest in your communication with your friends and family. Couples who learn about trauma bond can build healthier communication styles.
Often times, a victim of abuse will lie to their friends and family about the abuse minimizing it. Instead of lying, individuals in trauma bond counseling in Florida at Wisdom Within can learn to be honest. Being honest is a form of healthy communication.
When does a trauma bond start?
A trauma bond is often started in childhood with emotionally neglectful or abusive parents.
You may have had a parent who emotionally neglected you. Or, your spouse had a parent who was an alcoholic or physically or sexually abusive. Your spouse may have had a parent who called them horrible names, and now have issues calling you derogatory names, their significant other, names.
You may wonder if your current marriage and relationship is worth saving with the roller coaster of emotions.
The trauma bond therapy specialists at Wisdom Within can support you in gaining mental clarity and confidence. You can learn to nurture your inner child, that deeply needs your attention and love. Self-love is a skill trauma bond counseling teaches survivors of emotional and physical abuse.
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How can a trauma bond be so hard to break?
There are many reasons that make it challenging to leave an abusive person. Maybe, you had a parent chase you around the house or fight with you. A a child you felt scared and afraid. Having a parent with violent tendencies, anger issues, and problems with alcohol shapes you. Growing up, this negative behavior becomes normal. Naturally, humans attract what is familiar.
So, having a parent who was violent means that when your spouse it violent, it becomes acceptable to you. Unfortunately, intimate partner violence is never acceptable. Over the years of poor treatment, you slowly believe love means violence.
Parents and caregivers often teach us through unhealthy, dysfunctional love examples. Love in reality should be consistently reliable, caring, positive, and healing.
Growing up in a home where a primary caregiver did not adequately meet your love needs means that you are more susceptible to being in a trauma bond in a romantic relationship. In a trauma bond, romantic partners love each other deeply. However, the why in which partners show love is sad, hurtful, intense, and overwhelming to the point it becomes abusive.
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Trauma bonds are very complex and emotional because of the compounded trauma that occurs.
In a trauma bond, both people are often suffering from fear, insecurity, lack of confidence, depression, anger, issues, and more.
Examples of childhood abuse that get carried into romantic relationships include intimidation, ridiculing, and harassment.
As well, it is common for children to be belittled or very criticized. As an adult, these adults may treat other adults like a child, using criticism. Parents and caregivers who are abusive tend to isolate their children from family and friends.
Often, when a child wants to talk or connect, a parent who is abusive will use the silent treatment. Abusive parents and caregivers also yell or swear which results in confusion, self-blame, and mental distress for children. Working with a trauma bond specialist in Florida can help you identify signs of emotional and narcississtic abuse.
Being in a trauma bond creates complex PTSD symptoms.
When fights occur, both people have intense, angry emotions that unravel.
Each person in a trauma bond has an unhealthy and dysfunctional pattern similar to the romantic relationship from growing up in childhood trauma. If a parent was neglectful, a child believes its okay for a romantic partner to neglectful too. Childhood trauma causes people to settle for low standards. Often, two people find each other and bond over past trauma, and their trauma gets re-triggered too.
What are examples of childhood trauma that can impact romantic relationships in the future?
Childhood trauma can look like sexual abuse, molestation, or incest. As well, childhood trauma can include watching parents, get into yelling fights, observing domestic violence, or having a parent hit you.
In adult, romantic relationships, two people come together and form a bond. Then, to people who are romantically involved, start getting into high conflict fights together. After a high conflict fight, they have a time of reconnection and calmness. This is a bonding cycle of abuse. And, this time of calmness after a fight is considered the honeymoon phase. All abusive relationships have good times followed by tense, angry, and aggressive times. A trauma bond is a cycle of abuse in a relationship or marriage.
Within the romantic relationship, the cycle of trauma and abuse begins again.
It is very hard to leave a person you are with romantically when you are in a trauma bond.
Trauma bond therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling in Florida helps couples understand how to break a trauma bond.
Whether you want to stay with the person you are with or you want to leave them, learning about trauma bonding is important through counseling.
Understanding the cycle of trauma bonding can help provide mental clarity.
From learning about trauma bonding, you can understand attachment styles and then attach in healthier ways. And, physical, sexual, or emotional trauma in your childhood has molded and shaped you, as well as your spouse. Trauma bond therapy in Florida can help you understand which areas you are compatible and where you need strengthening.
However, when you have a bad fight, it gets very intense and even aggressive and violent at times.
Living and being a trauma bond can lead to communication styles that are abusive. After each intense fight, where there might be criticism or name-calling, the trauma bond cycle draws people back together.
Romantic partners might feel hopeless about the future of their relationship in a trauma bond. After a fight, there might be elements of fear, or worry about it getting worse in the future. The bonding occurs when both people get back together and bond after the fight.
In a trauma bond, therapy session, your counselor can help you identify elements of emotional abuse that you want to stop.
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Understanding clear signs of emotional abuse takes the help of a trauma bond specialist in Florida as emotional abuse is often normalized in childhood.
If you or your partner call one another other names, this may be a normal part of your fighting pattern. However, in trauma bond counseling, you can learn that calling each other names is actually a form of emotional abuse. It is hurtful, even if childhood abuse made it seem normal. Your therapist at Wisdom Within Counseling can teach you healthy communication styles.
Emotional abuse and physical abuse are not elements that make a healthy relationship.
In order to have the best marriage and relationship possible, working with a trauma bond therapist can help you strengthen your sense of self. Gaining healthy communication skills can help individuals and couples in all areas of life.
Traits of abusive people
An abusive person may outwardly seem very charming. They appear good looking, but over time, with an intimate partner, there is unpredictably between emotions. An abusive person will blame you for their shifting moods.
As well, an abusive, narcissistic person will often find ways to isolate you from friends and family. Frequently, they fail to follow through on promises, including apologizes and vows to improve how they treat you.
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But rebuilding your own self-worth and your own self confidence, you can learn to identify signs of physical and emotional abuse.
Then, either by yourself or with your partner, you can develop a healthier form of love. Working with a trauma bond therapy specialist in Florida can help you understand the signs of abuse to look out for. Wether you are in Key Biscayne, Parkland, Orlando, Naples, or Pinecrest, Florida, the narcissistic abuse and trauma bond therapy specialists in Florida at Wisdom Within can help you thrive. You can start to learn you are worthy of love and respect. Learning about the root cause of issues can help you feel a sense of motivation.
Often times, experiences of childhood trauma of abuse and neglect make us feel like we are unworthy of love.
So, when someone who is abusive gives you love, you take it. But, you might look away, in denial, about the emotional and physical trauma and abuse they may also be doing.
Love bombing and gaslighting
Abusers are really good at love bombing. Love bombing is a form of gift giving that makes the victim live in denial more so. Overwhelming you with gifts and giving excessive praise are ways an abusive person will try to make you forget or deny the fights and emotional pain. An abusive, narcissistic person will apologize, shower love and gifts, but never change their abusive behavior. The apologies start to mean less and less, and eventually nothing. An abusive person may say they won’t ever do it again, but not have the tools to stop jealous, controlling, gaslighting behavior.
After a big, angry fight, yelling, door slamming, or physical abuse, your partner might buy you a large gift. Or, after you try to share your emotions and they dismiss and blame you, they buy you a gift. Instead of listening genuinely, your romantic partner purchases you a large gift. This habit of love bombing can lead to confusion and intense, close trauma bonding in the cycle of abuse.
The purchasing of a gift may be a form of an apology, but never directly do they say sorry. Love bombing doesn’t mean your partner will change their behavior for the better. It is a gift to make you fall back in love with them.
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Being in a trauma bond is not something anyone deserves, but often people stay because it is more familiar.
People stay in a trauma bond because it is familiar to them since it mirrors childhood. The familiarity of childhood patterns is apparent in adult romantic relationships. As well, working with a trauma bond therapy specialist in Florida can help you identify additional issues.
Narcissistic abuse and trauma bond therapy specialists in Florida support healthy boundaries.
Who can fall into a cycle of narcissistic abuse? Who may need the help of trauma bond therapy specialists in Florida at Wisdom Within Counseling?
Couples in any socioeconomic status can fall into a trauma bond pattern of abuse. LGBTQIA+, transgender, polyamorous, queer and same sex couples can find themselves in a trauma bond too. At Wisdom Within Counseling in Florida, we are LGBTQIA+ queer affirming too.
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The trauma therapy specialists in Florida at Wisdom Within Counseling help you take back your power.
You can learn to associate with friends that give back to you rather than take. Being in a trauma bond means that you have been used to giving. Now, from trauma bond counseling, you get to give back to yourself.
Learning about trauma bonding through counseling at Wisdom Within can help you regain self-esteem.
Being in an abusive relationship means that you are always doubting yourself. No matter what you do, you feel like you are inadequate and can’t make your spouse happy. Trauma bond therapy can help with self-worth tools and self-esteem repair.
It might be normal to feel like you are walking on eggshells, unsure of the next time your spouse will explode in rage. In a trauma bond, the uncertainty is part of the cycle of abuse. You don’t know if your spouse will be nice to you when they drink alcohol, or mean to you. The team of trauma bond specialists at Wisdom Within Counseling support couples and individuals in building healthier forms of love.
There is a sense of uncertainty in your romantic relationship around being in a trauma bond.
From working with a trauma bond therapy specialist in Florida at Wisdom Within Counseling, you can learn to understand and be compassionate for yourself. Getting education about the trauma bond cycle can help you break the cycle of abuse.
How can trauma bond counseling help?
Now, not everyone needs to end a relationship entirely or separate to break the trauma bond cycle. Breaking a trauma bond in therapy means learning healthier and more functional ways of interacting. Both people need to learn skills regarding self regulation.
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What are healthy ways couples connect and talk about tough subjects?
When partners notice a conversation is getting too intense or heated, they can learn to have stress reducing conversations. Self-regulation skills help individuals cool down. At Wisdom Within Counseling, narcissistic abuse and trauma bond therapy specialists in Florida guide stress reducing conversations.
Learning to change the topic or talk about something else is often very difficult for couples stuck in a trauma bond. So, working with a trauma bond counselor can help survivors of trauma heal, feel empowered, and gain confidence.
As well, both people in a trauma bond need to fully take ownership for any past hurt or betrayal that has occurred. Often times, there are elements of cheating or betrayal from the past in an abusive relationship.
Both people in a trauma bond relationship can go to therapy to better understand their own childhood trauma. Talking about childhood trauma with your romantic partner can help you break the cycle of a trauma bond.
Learning to challenge negative beliefs and replace them with positive self talk is an important part of trauma bond therapy. If you are in an abusive relationship, you are not to blame and you’re not alone. There are thousands of people feeling the way you are. Therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling can help you overcome symptoms of PTSD and trauma. You can learn to take the very best care of yourself after surviving trauma and abuse.
Who can go see a trauma bond specialist at Wisdom Within Counseling in Florida?
You can attend therapy for breaking a trauma bond, individually and with your spouse. The trauma bond therapy specialists in Florida at Wisdom Within Counseling can help you understand that you no longer have to accept abusive and dysfunctional behavior. Narcissistic abuse and trauma bond therapy specialists in Florida at Wisdom Within specialize in helping survivors of abuse.
You can use better communication skills to create a more equal relationship rather than one that is focused on power and control.
Also, in counseling, you can talk about what it means to feel shame, jealousy, embarrassment, anxiety, and worry. We teach your positive ways to release big feelings like through art, yoga, meditation, and walking therapies. Self-care is part of healing after a toxic relationship. Learning healthy coping outlets for intense feelings is a part of work with your trauma bond therapist.
Why work with a trauma bond counseling specialist?
In Florida, there are not many therapists that specialize with trauma bond. Trauma bonds are a complex specialty at Wisdom Within Counseling in Florida. There are many different ways that you can work on breaking a trauma bond from working with a specialist.
Not all therapist understand the complexity of childhood trauma, being in a relationship that you might want to try to salvage, and being in a trauma bond.
The trauma bond specialists in Florida at Wisdom Within Counseling can be the place to let go.
You can talk to someone professional outside of your family and friends. We give you a safe space to talk about your feelings.
Journaling about what you were experiencing and what you’re going through can be a great coping tool. Therapy for trauma bonds can also help you develop mind-body therapies that you can use outside of session.
Painting, journaling, and expressive arts are all available in your counseling session. At the end of your counseling session, your therapist can guide you in a ten minute body, scan or meditation to help you feel inner peace. Grounding and centering yourself are essential skills in any healthy relationship.
Your trauma bond therapy specialist at Wisdom within counseling can help you feel emotionally validated.
You can find other healthy coping tools, such as using expressive art and painting through therapy. Going for a walk, physically, exercising, and even doing yoga, are all parts of rebuilding your self-care toolbox.
Knowing how to deal with anxious thoughts when they pop into your mind will be a skill that you can learn with your trauma bond, therapist.
In counseling, you get a safe place to learn how to step away rather than react, emotionally to situations that are triggering.
You can talk about what emotional triggers from childhood trauma are still on your mind.
To begin, click the button below, to book your free phone consultation to work with a trauma bond therapy specialist in Florida at Wisdom Within Counseling.
A big part of trauma bond therapy is the grief process.
You had hopes and dreams with your romantic partner that may not be able to be fulfilled.
Your romantic partner might not be able to give you exactly what you are needing from a romantic relationship. As well, grieving what you thought you had is a part of trauma bond therapy. For instance, you may have hoped for children with your romantic partner, who has turned out to be very abusive.
In a fight, do you get or give the silent treatment?
You and your spouse won’t talk to each other for days, making it impossible to communicate about the core issues. Stonewalling and not talking is unhealthy and leads to intense conflicts. Every time you fight, it feels like hurtful things from the past are being sad.
The silent treatment is a form of abuse. As well, not talking due to taking space is a coping tool that needs to be communicated artfully. Working with a trauma bond counseling specialist in Florida at Wisdom Within can support better communication.
Trauma Bond Therapy Specialists in Florida Can Help You Thrive
It is possible for couples who want to stay together, to learn how to have a different type of communication pattern. As well, if you feel like it is your time to end the relationship and leave, your therapist can help you cope in a healthy ways with that loss. When working with a trauma Bon therapy specialist in Florida, you get a safe place to deal with PTSD and trauma symptoms.
To begin, click the button below, to book your free phone consultation to work with a trauma bond therapy specialist in Florida at Wisdom Within Counseling.
Post traumatic stress disorder symptoms are very common in a trauma bond.
Even if you were staying in a relationship or ending a relationship with someone abusive, you will have PTSD symptoms.
When people are living in a trauma bond relationship, it can be confusing and emotional. Working with a trauma bond therapy specialist at Wisdom Within Counseling, you can gain positive coping tools to manage PTSD flashbacks.
Can a trauma bond feel like an addiction?
You might feel like you are addicted to the toxic person in your life. You might crave time with them or sneak around to see them. Your family and friends might be telling you to stop seeing them. However, you might feel like you are addicted to the toxic person in your life. As well, when you go to sleep at night, you might have obsessive and compulsive thoughts about past fights. It all feels overwhelming to manage by yourself.
Therefore, the trauma bond therapy specialists in Florida at Wisdom Within Counseling would love to nurture and support you.
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What are PTSD and trauma symptoms from being in a trauma bond?
You might go over every single fight that has happened in your mind on repeat. It’s normal for people who are in a trauma bond to seek therapy because they are in an anxious state. Every memory feels so real and alive. The sadness, the hurt, the feelings of pain are so real. You might feel anxiety and worry that you are making a wrong decision. Or, you might have self doubt that you cannot have a life without the toxic person that you love.
All of these big thoughts and feelings can be processed with your trauma bond specialist in Florida at Wisdom Within Counseling.
Understanding emotional abuse and getting education on the trauma cycle are first steps to healing.
You don’t have to make any decisions today about staying or leaving. But, having a trauma therapist on your team can help you make a decision that is authentic for you.
It is very difficult to leave a trauma bond relationship due to the pull back to what is familiar. Also, it is hard to leave because there is a bond and attachment. A person remembers the good times and denies the bad times. It is natural to break up and get back together many times, when stuck in a trauma bond. Also, a victim in a trauma bond may feel hopeful their abuser will change for the better. Being hopeful the relationship may improve can be a fantasy. Emotional abuse can turn into physical and sexual abuse in some toxic relationships.
So often, victims, feel trapped in the cycle of deciphering through the good times versus bad times. One moment, the relationship feels positive and safe. The next, it feels tense, abusive, and hopeless. Rather than feeding this dysfunctional, abusive cycle, counseling can give you emotional and mental relief. Therapy can help you gain awareness and perspective on the type of healthier relationship you want to create. Counseling at Wisdom Within can be a safe place to reflect, restore your mental state, and give back to yourself.
To begin, click the button below, to book your free phone consultation to work with a trauma bond therapy specialist in Florida at Wisdom Within Counseling.
The next moment the relationship feels toxic, suffocating, and angry.
Narcissistic abuse and trauma bond therapy specialists in Florida help couples and individuals identify unhealthy patterns and change for the positive.
Learning how to deal with post-traumatic stress disorder is a part of trauma bond therapy.
Symptoms can help you overcome cravings for the toxic person in your life. Learning how to separate from an abusive person who is physically and emotionally are important skills from trauma bond therapy.
Working with a counselor who specializes in trauma bond can help you love yourself. By rebuilding self-worth, learning healthier communication skills, and being your own best friend, gives you mental clarity again.
It is normal to feel like you can’t stop loving the narcissist in your life.
Gain confidence and self-worth from trauma bond counseling
Being with a narcissist for years can make you believe that every romantic spouse or partner will treat you the same way. You may have doubt that you deserve a playful, emotionally safe, and fun relationship. However, counseling for trauma bonding can help you set positive goals for yourself in your healing.
Gain self-esteem
You may feel like your self-esteem is low and in the dumps after leaving or being in a toxic relationship. Your therapist for trauma bonds and complex PTSD can help you gain self-awareness too. You can think about setting boundaries moving forward in future relationships. From counseling for trauma bonding and complex PTSD, you can use positive self-talk to remind yourself of all that you deserve.
Develop self-compassion
However, from having a strong relationship with a therapist who specializes in trauma bonding, you can develop a sense of compassion for yourself. For some, this means accepting generational patterns of family trauma. You may come from a legacy of abuse, and you can stop the cycle.
To note, you no longer have to accept abuse as okay, and you don’t have to perpetuate accepting it. With trauma bonding therapy, you can realize abuse and identify it.
Then, you can create new, emotionally safe, and healthier family patterns, that also benefit your children and their children. You can learn to stop abuse and identify love bonding and gaslighting early on in romantic relationships. If you begin dating again, you can have the tools and confidence to attract a healthy partner.
Starting to date again
Dating again can be scary and it is normal for have fears of commitment. As well, it is common to have PTSD and trauma symptoms resurface in any new relationship. What are triggers for you?
You may be more sensitive to loud voices or yelling, if you ex used to yell at you.
Maybe, the smell of alcohol causes you to feel scared. It is tied to a memory where your ex used to drink alcohol and be verbally abusive.
Additionally, a new relationship may cause you to feel suspicious, skeptical, and afraid due to past trauma bonding experiences.
Even in a new relationship, you may feel pulled back to talk to your ex.
You may always have romantic, flirty, or sexual feelings for your ex, even if they were abusive to you.
As well, it is common to feel a craving to reach out to an abusive person who was once your significant other.
Working with a therapist who specializes in trauma bonding and complex PTSD can help you understand trauma symptoms. Wisdom Within Counseling in Florida can also teach you positive ways to cope when you experience a PTSD flashback.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, narcissistic abuse and trauma bond therapy specialists in Florida support healthy, meaningful, and emotionally safe realtionships.
We help couples and individuals in the following towns include Naples, Jacksonville, Melbourne, Palm Bay, Marco Island, Manalapan, Coral Gables, Golden Beach, Pine Crest, and Parkland. As well, we help in Palm Coast, Neptune Beach, Weston, Longboat Key, Belle Isle, Lake Mary, Ponce Inlet, Orlando, Homestead, Miami Shores, Palm Beach, Southwest Ranches, Atlantic Beach, and DeBary, Florida.
Wisdom Within Counseling is a group of PTSD, trauma bonding, and trauma specialists.
You are not alone if you find yourself in an abusive relationship where the power dynamics are out of balance. Working with a therapist who understands and specializes in complex trauma is essential for healing and empowerment.
Growing up with trauma is never your fault. So, part of this process of healing is letting go of self-blame. We would love to help you live an authentic, safe, and healing life free from abuse.
