You may have experienced gaslighting, hurt, or compulsive lying from your lover, your spouse, or your romantic partner. As well, you and your significant other may be getting into daily, distressing fights. You want healing, but constant fighting is pulling you back into a trauma bond cycle. Learning to heal from toxic, narcissistic relationships takes the support of a counselor or therapist at Wisdom Within Counseling. Trauma bond couples therapy supports couples who are stuck in a cycle of fighting, hurt, and want meaningful connection.
To begin, click below to book your phone consult for help breaking a trauma bond and a healthier, more positive relationship.
What questions can you ask yourself in order to know if trauma bond couples therapy in Southeastern Connecticut is right for you?
Feel like you are walking on eggshells at home, not knowing what will make your spouse angry? Do you or your spouse feel like you are two ships passing in the night and completely ignored? Avoiding certain conversations? Are there intense fights, and then times of powerful closeness, followed by another fight? Have there been problems with alcohol in your marriage that lead to conflict? Do you and your spouse have a high conflict cycle of communicating and want a healthy relationship?
Marriage therapy can help couples manage stress on an internal level
As well, stressors can increase tension in a trauma bond. Understanding how to manage stress in healthy ways is a part of trauma bond marriage therapy. If you are experiencing stress from work, finances, or your education, this can contribute to internal stress. Internal stress that is not being released in a healthy way can lead to romantic relationship issues. Getting too little sleep, having too much caffeine, and even having a history fo trauma in childhood play a role in romantic relationship fights. Using drugs or alcohol can lead to mood instability. Even a new diagnosis like cancer, an eating disorder, or diabetes can lead to internal stress and relationship arguments.
Marriage therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling in Southeastern Connecticut can be a safe place to talk about and manage these stressors.
Not dealing with stress in a healthy way can contribute to a trauma bond cycle.
What is a trauma bond when learning how to heal from toxic, narcissistic relationships?
A trauma bond is a bond between romantic partners that feels intense, but can be negative. Spouses start interacting in negative ways that leads to an intense cycle of bonding.
Couples in the most severe trauma bonds can heal and recover with the help of professional trauma bond marriage therapy. Often, trauma bonds are patterns of interacting and bonding that resemble childhood experiences.
Romantic partners unconsciously replicate negative, abusive childhood patterns.
What do trauma bond couples therapists mean when they say adults replicate abusive, childhood patterns?
Regular conflict growing up
Maybe, you observed your parents yelling daily, so yelling became normal to you in childhood. In your marriage, it might feel normal to yell at one another. But, yelling actually has a negative impact on bonding, trust, and emotional security in marital fights.
Fears of abandonment
Secondly, one of your parents abandoned you at a young age, so you have a fear of abandonment. Now, every time your spouse wants alone time, you feel afraid that they are leaving and never coming back. Childhood fears of abandonment have a major impact on current romantic relationship fight cycles.
Couples stuck in a trauma bond may not be able to break free without the help of a professional marriage therapist.
Working with a marriage therapist at Wisdom Within Counseling can help couples learn about which patterns they want to break. Couples therapy supports understanding the issues and feelings that drive trauma bonding. Also, working with a marriage therapist helps couples gain insight and clarity on healthier communication skills.
To begin, click below to book a phone consult for trauma bond couples therapy and a healthy marriage.
How can childhood experiences play a role in a current trauma bond?
As another example, a parent was very critical and hard on your growing up. You never felt good enough in their eyes. Now, that makes it difficult for you to show praise to your spouse and you may be overly hard on everyone in your life. Having an overly critical parent in childhood can play a role in marital arguments to this day.
Working with a trauma therapist at Wisdom Within Counseling in Connecticut can help you and your spouse uncover these negative patterns and gain emotional connection.
By meeting with a couples therapist, you and your spouse can gain healthier love and more emotional security.
Trauma bond couples therapy in Southeastern Connecticut teaches positive communication skills for long-lasting love
A trauma bond in couples therapy means that certain skills for a healthy relationship are lacking. And, there is no where better to learn how to have a healthy relationship and overcome childhood trauma than marriage and couples counseling.
The team of therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling specialize in helping couples understand childhood trauma that still has an impact on their marriage and communication.
Why do couples get so stuck in fighting when they need help healing from toxic, narcissistic relationships?
Often, these trauma bond fights couples get into are a mirror of childhood observations and experiences of abuse. Negative communication includes name calling, yelling, or criticism. Learning to be a listening ear to your partner is part of couples therapy.
As well, gaining skills for calm, effective communication are benefits of working with a marriage therapist. Couples need help from a third party to point out unhealthy coping skills. When couples a stuck in a trauma bond, their childhood wounds are getting re-triggered in their current pattern of fighting.
Trauma bond couples therapy in Southeastern Connecticut supports better communication
In a trauma bond, you may feel jealousy, anger, loss, and betrayal to the max. Speaking from these intense places is not often productive and can be hurtful.
Instead of saying something you don’t mean out of anger, working with a marriage counselor in Connecticut can help you communicate your needs.
To begin, click below to book your phone consult in trauma bond couples therapy.
When we look at how to heal from toxic, narcissistic relationships, understanding trauma bonds is a key to creating healthy relationships.
What is love bombing when it comes to trauma bond couples therapy in Southeastern Connecticut?
Living in a trauma bond means that you experience love bombing. Love bombing is when you partner calls you a hurtful name, or belittles you, and buys you a large gift to win you back over. Instead of changing an unhealthy behavior, couples will buy each other gifts to try to amend, which never works long term.
Love bombing may have been common growing up in your childhood too.
The love bombing behavior can be a great topic to talk about in trauma bond couples therapy in Southeastern Connecticut. Therefore, learning to apologize, say sorry, and ask for forgiveness are parts of marriage counseling. Often, couples need education and skills to create a healthy marriage. Romantic partners can talk about what it feels like to be called certain names. From there, marriage therapy helps spouses communicate their needs and wants more clearly.
Does healing from toxic, narcissistic relationships start with childhood experiences?
For many people, negative communication became normal from abusive childhood experiences. Yelling may have been normal. Drinking alcohol excessively and getting drunk may have been normal. Also, physical, sexual, and emotional abuse in childhood can make future trauma bonds more familiar.
What are examples of childhood trauma and neglect?
In childhood, you or your spouse may have moved a lot. Moving a lot can be really difficult and create a lack of security. Maybe, you had parents who fought constantly, argued, and even argued in front of you. It can be really hard to create a healthy relationship if you or your spouse never saw a healthy bond.
Childhood abuse and neglect can include being bullied. Witnessing or experiencing domestic violence are forms of childhood abuse and neglect that leave a lasting impact.
Losing a parent, loss of a sibling, or sudden death of a loved one can leave a lasting impact. Loss and grief are huge components that lead to PTSD and trauma symptoms. Anger can be a major symptom of loss and grief. Marriage therapy for grief and loss can support anger management skills.
Marriage counseling helps couples in a trauma bond address and cope with trauma and PTSD symptoms in healthy ways.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, the team of therapists specialize in complex PTSD and trauma support.
In childhood, your parent may have been very critical, hurtful, or belittled you.
A parent, who you are supposed to trust, may have hurt you emotionally or sexually. As well, you may have learned that everything bad that happens in your fault.
From childhood abuse and neglect from narcissists, you may need help believing in yourself and creating a healthy relationship. Growing up with abusive parents leads to challenges in romantic partnerships in the future.
To start, book your phone consult for trauma bond couples therapy and a healthier, more meaningful relationship after trauma.
Can working with a couples therapist and improving a trauma bond help with sex life challenges and sexual issues?
Being in a trauma bond can be exhausting, hurtful, and confusing. However, when both people want to have a better relationship, it is possible to create a healthier relationship. Working with a marriage therapist who specializes in trauma bonds can help you turn your relationship around.
For many couples, sexual energy and emotional security go hand in hand. Talking together, attending couples therapy conversations, and feeling comfortable together can have a big impact on your sex life.
When couples start to have healthy conversations, they start to feel safer to tackle intimacy goals together.
If your sex life has been challenged, marriage therapy in Connecticut can help. You can work on the deeper issues and repair after conflict. These skills help couples in a trauma bond break free and have a more playful, passionate sex life.
To note, a deeper sense of emotional security can lead to a better sex life and more intimacy.
From more emotional bonding and trust building skills, couples can experience an improvement in their sexual energy, passion, and sex life.
To begin, click below for a phone consult to work with a specialist in trauma bond couples therapy.
Fighting, making up and breaking up, and making up again are parts of a trauma bond cycle.
At Wisdom Within Counseling in Southeastern Connecticut, you can work with a trusted therapist to support you in learning positive coping skills.
Studies show that couples in trauma bonds who gain weekly counseling skills can change and evolve a healthier cycle of interaction.
For many people stuck in a trauma bond, they experience high conflict fights. There may be times of peacefulness or the honeymoon stage again, where things seem good. But, within a moment, emotions are running high again. One or both people may manipulate, yell, criticize, and belittle each another.
Trauma bonds are not permanent, and with weekly couples therapy, couples can gain healthier communication skills.
Being in a trauma bond can be a great reason to begin in couples therapy.
How can couples therapy and individual counseling help couples heal from toxic, narcissistic relationships?
A mixture of individual and couples therapy sessions can help couples stuck in a trauma bond break this negative communication pattern. Gaining self-awareness, taking responsibility, and changing abusive patterns are all part of counseling.
Part of breaking a trauma bond is learning about childhood abuse and neglect.
Learning healthy patterns like setting boundaries is one example of how couples therapy can help.
Therapy for you and your spouse can help you share feelings, validate one another, and bond in a healthy way. As marriage therapists, we help you and your spouse feel safe and comfortable together. If you are constantly fighting, it can feel really difficult to keep going. When you come in for couples counseling, you can healthy relationship skills and a safe place to share feelings. You and your spouse can learn to gain meaningful communication skills as well as honesty, love, compassion, and acceptance.
The team at Wisdom Within Counseling offer holistic, creative options for families and couples who want meaningful connection.
As well, you can pick from art, painting, yoga, music, and walking therapies by the beach. Being outside and going for a walk can be calming in couples therapy in Southeastern Connecticut. Painting, expressive arts, and drama therapies can also help couples communicate better. Options beyond just sitting and talking in therapy can support closeness and trust building. Furthermore, the therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling specialize in trauma, Gottman marriage therapy, and complex trauma bonds in couples therapy.
Learning to cope with anger, loss, abandonment, and jealousy in healthy ways in therapy helps couples build a deeper connection.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, you can heal from toxic, narcissistic relationships by gaining self-worth skills.
