Right now, do you feel rejected, hurt, and confused by the arguments and disconnection in your relationship? Wanting to create a closer bond, but feeling like you need a professional guide, as you both have past trauma? Do you and your partner both have experiences of hurt, betrayal, pain, and childhood emotional, physical, and/or sexual abuse, that leads to fear of loss and abandonment in your marriage? At times, does you spouse know exactly what to say to kick you in the stomach with their cruel words? In your fights, does it escalate because you and your partner triggering each other’s fears of abandonment by threatening divorce? At Wisdom Within Counseling, trauma bond couples counseling on Mercer Island, Washington helps you and your partner stop the frustrating cycle, and learn how to share your deepest fears and insecurities with each other and ask for your emotional needs to be met.
Learn how to turn towards each other, build emotional closeness, and relationship security, after experiencing hurt and pain in childhood.
Stuck in a cycle of the silent treatment in your marriage? Would you like tools and skills to work as a team and break you dysfunctional cycle of frustrating fights? Trauma bond couples counseling on Mercer Island, Washington at Wisdom Within Counseling supports you and your spouse in creating playfulness, meaningful connection, and a loving bond after the pain of childhood trauma. You both my have complex post-traumatic stress disorder due to (C-PTSD) your childhood experiences of emotional neglect and narcissistic abuse.
Our trauma bond marriage therapists specialize with couples who both have a history of childhood trauma and narcissistic parents, which adds complexity to the marriage therapy process.
Does it feel like you and your spouse can never truly be united no matter how hard you try? Perhaps, in your relationship, does it feel like your spouse is overly close with their narcissistic parent? Like their narcissistic parent still has power over your marital decisions?
Have you never felt trust or safe, really with anyone? Do you wish you and your spouse could feel close together, and you could finally relax and trust your spouse?
When you or your spouse grow up experiencing sexual abuse, emotional abuse, and physical abuse, you grow up as a survivor of trauma.
Childhood trauma and abuse can make you fall into a pattern of negative communication in adult relationships. You may have a parent who is narcissistic, cruel, and emotionally unavailable.
Or, your spouse had a mother or father who even physically abused them when they were just a little child.
For you, your narcissistic mother or father may still be self-centered to this day. Everything they do revolved around wanting all the attention. Growing up, you had to be the parent to your emotionally unavailable parent. So, you missed out of a playful, safe childhood. This leads to complex-post traumatic stress disorder, and flight, fight, and freeze symptoms of trauma.
Reacting from fears of loss, fears of abandonment, and fears of rejection, and reacting from flight, fight, and freeze states create a negative conflict cycle in your marriage.
As a child, your narcissistic, emotionally neglectful parent was highly critical of your every move. You felt inferior, small, helpless, and out of control in your childhood due to the narcissistic abuse.
Growing up, you walked on eggshells at home.
Perhaps, your narcissistic, emotionally abusive parent also called you horrible names when they were angry.
Having a parent who screams, yells, and explodes in anger can contribute to deep needs for emotional safety in your romantic relationship. When your spouse pulls away, uses the silent treatment, and gets angry, you feel like sad, inferior, and overwhelmed, like a little child all over again. You want your spouse to help you feel emotionally safe more than anything in the world, but you feel so alone, defeated, and hurt by the cycle of conflict in your marriage.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, trauma bond couples therapy on Mercer Island, Washington helps you communicate how you deeply feel inferior, alone, defeated, and so very sad about your marriage to your spouse. Your couples counseling can help you both communicate and build an emotionally intimate and emotionally secure bond.
What happens in conflicts with your spouse?
When your spouse or your romantic partner raises their voice, your nervous system automatically begins self protecting and going into fight, flight, or freeze modes.
The memory of your abusive mother or father resurfaces when you and your spouse are fighting.
To note, having narcissistic parents who yelled at you means that you might yell back in a conflict with your spouse. Or, you might give your spouse the silent treatment, shutting down emotionally because it is safer to not talk. When you suffer from complex-post traumatic stress disorder, it can feel like no one, not even your spouse is a safe person. At Wisdom Within Counseling, our team of complex trauma bond specialists help you build emotional closeness and emotional intimacy.
In couples counseling, you both can better understand how to emotionally reassure each other, which you never learn anywhere else outside of marriage therapy.
As well, you can manage complex-post traumatic stress disorder symptoms as a team, and learn co-regulation strategies.
Additionally, you might freeze, just like a raccoon in car headlights, in hopes to avoid danger.
Instead of logically thinking about the situation, your body immediately goes into alert mode and survival mode. At Wisdom Within Counseling, trauma bond couples counseling on Mercer Island, Washington can help you develop self-soothing, relaxation, and self-calming skills.
You watched your parent explode, get violent, withhold love and affection, and even hurt your body as a child.
And, you had to grow up fast because of the narcissism your parent demonstrated. As a result, you were in survival mode and in an overly alert state from a young age. Being in survival mode means that your nervous system is in a state of fight, flight, and freeze.
It means that you are constantly self protecting and looking out for danger to this day. However, your nervous system isn’t always meant to be in survival mode and fight, flight, and freeze.
Trauma bond couples counseling on Mercer Island, Washington at Wisdom Within Counseling can help restore balance through co-regulation techniques.
Your hart beats faster and faster in your marital conflicts. You feel hot, overwhelmed, and emotionally flooded. These feelings trigger survival mechanisms, such as emotional avoidance, criticism, yelling, the silent treatment, and emotional withdraw. On the other hand, trauma bond couples therapy supports you in turning towards your partner, asking for your needs to be met, and de-escalating fights. You can learn co-regulation skills to be there for each other rather than fight against each other. Essentially, co-regulation means both of you showing effort in making your relationship better.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, trauma bond couples counseling on Mercer Island, Washington teaches you how to talk it out calmly and lovingly, and how to co-regulate emotionally by breathing together to build emotional security.
Co-regulation is when you and your partner learn to turn towards each other and lean on each other for emotional safety.
Couples therapy supports you both in breathing together, offering one another safe and healthy touch, and positive statements of reassurance. You can learn to balance your nervous system from skills in couples counseling.
When your nervous system is in healthy balance, you feel emotionally safe, relaxation, and calmness.
When your nervous system is in survival mode and fight, flight, and freeze from a very young age, this emotionally reactive place starts to feel like a normal state of living. Likewise, living with a very high level of anxiety is common after emotional abuse from a narcissistic parent.
As well, you may feel like you are on edge all the time, and have low self-esteem after surviving emotional trauma. Unfortunately, reacting from anger and survival mechanisms, such as emotional avoidance, criticism, yelling, the silent treatment, and emotional withdraw, only perpetuate your marital conflict cycle of aloneness.
Our team at Wisdom Within Counseling helps you both build emotional intimacy, closeness, and meaningful connection after trauma.
How can trauma bond couples counseling on Mercer Island, Washington at Wisdom Within Counseling help you break fight, flight, and freeze patterns that perpetuate dysfunctional patterns?
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) and trauma bond couples counseling are specialities at Wisdom Within Counseling.
Working with our trauma bond couples counselors on Mercer Island, Washington offer you powerful tools for breaking your entrenched fight, flight, and freeze patterns.
Staying stuck in fight, flight, and freeze survival mechanisms often lead you both to stay stuck in destructive avoidance behaviors, perpetuating loneliness and disconnection.
Couples counseling with our trauma bond specialists help you gain awareness for dysfunctional survival mechanisms, such as emotional avoidance, criticism, yelling, the silent treatment, and emotional withdraw.
These dysfunctional relationship patterns can manifest as the silent treatment, explosive anger, criticism, and emotional withdrawal.
Many couples who feel distant emotionally need help from our trauma bond couples therapists on Mercer Island, Washington at Wisdom Within Counseling to identify these negative patterns.
From bringing awareness to these patterns in marriage therapy, you both can stop your negative cycle that currently hinders your healthy communication and emotional connection. Couples counseling helps you talk calmly about your future, goals, and your dream relationship.
Emotionally focused couples therapy focuses on understanding attachment dynamics within your marriage and relationship.
Trauma bond couples therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling in the Seattle area takes this a step further by addressing how both of your past traumas influence your conflict cycle and negative dynamics.
By recognizing attachment patterns and the impact of childhood narcissistic abuse and emotional trauma, both of you can gain insight into the root causes of your fight, flight, or freeze responses.
To add, this understanding from trauma bond couples therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling is crucial in breaking the cycle of destructive behaviors.
From trauma bond couples counseling on Mercer Island, Washington, you can learn to open up, be receptive to each other’s needs, and be emotionally vulnerable.
Both emotionally focused couples therapy and trauma bond therapy together at Wisdom Within Counseling create a safe space for you both to explore and express your emotions.
To add, these marital therapies recognize that avoidance behaviors often stem from underlying emotional pain or fear. Our team of trauma bond couples therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling encourage both of you to share your deeper vulnerable feelings and fears together in counseling.
Through trauma bond couples counseling on Mercer Island, Washington, our Wisdom Within Counseling marriage therapists guide you toward a deeper understanding of each other’s needs, fostering emotional intimacy, empathy, and meaningful connection.
As well, the silent treatment is a common manifestation of the fight-flight-freeze trauma response. Essentially, emotionally focused couples therapy with our Wisdom Within Counseling trauma bond specialists can help you both break the silence by teaching effective communication strategies.
You don’t have to resort to days of the silent treatment, and suffering while you feel alone, distant, angry, and upset.
Right now, you and your partner re-trigger each other’s trauma wounds, pushing each other away during fights.
Through structured dialogues in couples therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling with our complex trauma bond specialists, you and your spouse can express your needs and concerns in a way that encourages understanding rather than triggering defensive reactions.
This process in trauma bond couples counseling on Mercer Island, Washington gradually dismantles your fight pattern and avoidance pattern.
You both can gain awareness for how you each turn away and hurt each other, due to your, fight, flight, and freeze responses.
Instead of turning away, avoiding, and isolating, your trauma bond couples therapist at Wisdom Within Counseling on Mercer Island, Washington will guide you in turning towards each other emotionally right in session.
Both of you can practice how to build a secure emotional bond in each marriage counseling session you have.
Explosive anger and criticism often result from unmet emotional needs and unresolved conflicts.
Yelling and shouting never feels good. And, yelling isn’t a healthy way of interacting, but it commonly happens in conflict. When you are yelling, you are angry and flooded with deeper emotions of fear. And, being yelled at makes you feel small, insecure, helpless, and inferior.
Emotionally focused couples therapy and trauma bond counseling at Wisdom Within addresses these issues you struggle with. Our trauma bond couples therapists on Mercer Island, Washington give you both tools for managing intense, angry emotions.
Couples in counseling can learn to communicate assertively rather than aggressively.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, trauma bond couples counseling on Mercer Island, Washington fosters a climate of safety where both of you feel can feel heard, valued, wanted, desired, and respected.
Our team at Wisdom Within Counseling promotes a secure attachment between you and your partner.
By fostering a sense of emotional safety and calm responsiveness in marriage counseling with our trauma bond specialists, you both are less likely to resort to fight-flight-freeze patterns.
Through guided interventions, our trauma bond couples therapists encourage you both to turn to each other for support. In couples counseling, we help you both a foundation of trust that mitigates the need for avoidant and defensive behaviors.
Essentially, emotional withdrawal can be a defense mechanism in response to perceived threats, which is common when you have complex-post traumatic stress disorder.
Emotionally focused couples therapy and trauma bond counseling at Wisdom Within Counseling helps distant couples address emotional withdrawal by uncovering its underlying causes.
Your couples counselor helps you create an environment where you both feel validated and supported.
As well, your trauma bond marriage therapist can guide you both toward rebuilding emotional intimacy and dispelling the need for avoidance, the silent treatment, and withdrawal.
In conclusion, emotionally focused couples therapy and trauma bond couples counseling at Wisdom Within provides you with a holistic, comprehensive approach to breaking destructive fight, flight, and freeze patterns in your marriage.
We specialize in distant couples who get stuck in fight cycles due to re-triggering each other’s past trauma wounds.
By understanding your attachment dynamics, trauma bond marriage therapy help you explore safe emotional exploration.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, trauma bond couples counseling on Mercer Island, Washington helps you break the cycle of the silence treatment, avoidance, and fighting.
You can learn positive, holistic skills to manage intense emotions, promote secure attachment, and address the root causes of emotional withdrawal.
Our team of Wisdom Within Counseling marriage therapists specialize in complex trauma and trauma bonded couples.
We specialize in helping you cultivate a healthier, calmer, more fulfilling relationship and marriage while processing childhood trauma and narcissistic abuse from your parents.
Trauma bond couples counseling on Mercer Island, Washington at Wisdom Within Counseling helps you understand the fight, flight, and freezer reactions that occur in your nervous system when facing conflict with your partner.
At Wisdom Within Counseling on Mercer Island, Washington can help you both develop a secure, emotionally safe bond that no longer forces you to react from fight, flight, or freeze. In couples therapy, you and your partner can talk about insecurities and be there to comfort each other.
Right now, you are both re-triggering each other’s unhealed emotional wounds in your fights and disagreements.
To note, the cruel things that your spouse says really hurts your feelings and makes you feel emotionally unsafe.
When you react out of anger or give your spouse silent treatment, this triggers their abandonment fears and fears of rejection. Speaking about this together with our Wisdom Within Counseling trauma bond marriage specialists on Mercer Island, Washington fosters bonding, emotional closeness, and helps you both feel wanted, secure, and connected.
Essentially, right now, you are both stuck in a negative cycle and dysfunctional pattern that is very difficult to break by yourselves.
With the help of our professional team of complex trauma bond specialists at Wisdom Within Counseling, you can unravel the complexities of your trauma bond and create a secure connection.
In trauma bond couples counseling on Mercer Island, Washington at Wisdom Within Counseling, you can both learn to be emotionally vulnerable with each other.
Wisdom Within Counseling specializes in marriage counseling for survivors of emotional, sexual, and physical trauma.
Our team of trauma bond couples counselors on Mercer Island, Washington support you both in developing emotional closeness. From emotional abuse and narcissistic abuse in childhood, you may have never learned what a secure relationship feels like. You can talk about what you need from your spouse to build trust and create an emotionally close relationship.
Through trauma bond marriage therapy, you can talk about the emotional needs your narcissistic, emotionally abusive parents never met.
And, with an understanding of your spouse’s trauma experiences, you can learn to validate your spouse’s emotionally painful childhood experiences.
What is a trauma bond with a narcissistic, emotionally unavailable, and hurtful parent?
When you grow up with experiences of sexual abuse, emotional abuse, narcissistic abuse, and physical abuse, you may have been in a trauma bond with your narcissistic parent.
Trauma bond couples counseling on Mercer Island, Washington at Wisdom Within Counseling helps you start having healthy relationships, when no one modeled them for you growing up.
To note, this means that as a child, you constantly had to monitor if your narcissistic parent would explode in anger, yell, or hurt you. Your narcissistic mother or father withheld love, affection, and attention. So, under your anger and conflict, you deeply want to feel loved, cared for, and have a close relationship with your spouse now.
You were only given love, affection, and attention if you did what your narcissistic parent wanted.
Growing up with a narcissistic, emotionally abusive and physically abusive parent creates a power imbalance and traumatized you, as a child.
As a child, you felt responsible for fixing your narcissistic parent’s emotional experience. If your narcissistic parent was unhappy, you felt like it was your fault. Constantly, you were criticized. Being called cruel names really hurt your feelings. Your narcissistic parent often blamed you for their unhappiness.
As a result, you and your narcissistic, emotionally abusive parent have a trauma bond. Maybe, you still walk on eggshells around your narcissistic parent to this day. A part of you feels incredibly grateful for your narcissistic parent’s attention, when they do choose to give it to you. However, another part of you feels incredibly hurt, used, betrayed, confused, and even angry at your narcissistic parents for how they treated you.
They didn’t give you emotionally safety growing up. But, you crave emotional safety in your marriage more than anything.
As a result of childhood narcissistic abuse, you are more likely to end up in a marriage and romantic relationship where there is a power imbalance and create another trauma bond.
You may struggle to communicate your emotional needs with your spouse due to experiences of narcissistic abuse. From a young age, you learned to people please and you put your needs last.
Having a narcissistic mother or father means you’ve never learned how to say, “No.”
You always had to please your parent. And, you gave and gave to your narcissistic parent who always wanted more. Trauma bond couples counseling on Mercer Island, Washington at Wisdom Within Counseling can help you identify patterns that helped you survive trauma experiences in childhood.
To note, these are survival mechanisms that no longer serve you when you are trying to create a healthy adult relationship with your spouse.
For one, trauma bond couples counseling and be a safe place for you to verbalize to your spouse the unfortunate experiences you went through as a child.
Having a narcissistic, physically abusive, and angry parent who is emotionally irresponsible is traumatizing. Your spouse may not truly understand the effect that this had on you.
Speaking about your unmet needs helps foster a meaningful bond in your marriage in the process of couples therapy.
Therefore, trauma bond couples therapy on Mercer Island, Washington at Wisdom Within Counseling specifically with our complex trauma specialists helps you share with your partner how much you desire emotional safety.
Trauma bond couples counseling on Mercer Island, Washington at Wisdom Within Counseling is a safe place to name, identify, and verbalize your emotions.
To add, there may be so much that you have stuffed away and held in due to childhood trauma that you immediately yell, criticize, or give your partner the silent treatment. In your marital fights, things go south quickly and escalate.
Trauma bond couples counseling on Mercer Island, Washington at Wisdom Within Counseling can help you both slow your fights down.
In trauma bond couples counseling on Mercer Island, Washington at Wisdom Within Counseling, our therapists help you acknowledge that you have been incredibly hurt by your narcissistic parents.
Our marriage therapists help you verbalize that you feel neglected and rejected by them. In trauma bond marriage therapy with our complex trauma specialists, you can share with your partner how much you deeply want security, intimacy, and connection from them.
Your partner may not understand your emotional world, and how their actions continue to hurt you.
When your partner pulls away in a fight, your abandonment and rejection wounds get re-triggered all over again.
That pattern is what escalates and makes your fights worse. Couples therapy is a safe place to understand how this negative cycle unfolds, and start to create more emotional closeness.
Talking with your partner about these deep emotional needs in trauma bond couples counseling on Mercer Island, Washington create a safe emotional environment in your marriage.
These same dysfunctional relationship patterns that you experienced from your narcissistic mother or father may show up for you in your marital argument and fight cycle.
Trauma bond couples counseling on Mercer Island, Washington at Wisdom Within Counseling can help you function together in a more calm, healthy, and loving way.
All humans learn how to be in relationships in adulthood from relationships with parents in childhood.
How can experiencing childhood trauma and having a trauma bond with an emotionally abusive parent lead to a trauma bond romantically?
Now, when you have an emotionally abusive parent, you’re more used to saying yes to everything. It’s a very difficult thing to be able to set a boundary and maintain a boundary. When you want to say, “No,” your childhood fear of disappointing your narcissistic parent kicks in.
So, you impulsively saying, “Yes,” to everything even in your adult life. Survivors of trauma have a very difficult time standing up for themselves and setting healthy boundaries. With your spouse, you might say, “Yes, I can do that,” when you mean, “No, I have too much on my plate already.”
And, you might be be a people pleaser and identify as a pushover due to narcissistic abuse from your parents.
You may be very bad at speaking up in your marriage due to childhood narcissistic abuse.
Right now, playing small and not having a voice, may be a survival mechanism from experiencing childhood trauma.
You may be timid, and not know how to assert your voice. When you try, you either yell, scream, or give your partner the silent treatment. Holding in your voice leads to a lot of inner pressure to please others, especially your spouse.
As well, you may fear disappointing your spouse, but your spouse may not know that. Couples counseling with our trauma bond specialists can help you articulate and verbalize your deeper fears like disappointing your spouse.
As well, you may struggle with inner turmoil, conflict, and frustration because you feel you don’t have a voice in your marriage. This leads to resentment over time, leading to escalated conflicts in your marriage.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, trauma bond couples counseling on Mercer Island, Washington can help you set and maintain boundaries. This process of self-advocacy supports you in creating a healthier, more balanced, and emotionally safe bond in your marriage.
Experiencing childhood trauma and having a trauma bond with your emotionally abusive parent directly impacts your romantic relationship.
A trauma bond is a strong emotional connection that develops between you and your narcissistic parent, and it can set you up for more intense marital conflicts.
As a child, you experienced intense, emotional experiences at the hands of your narcissistic mother or father. Your narcissistic mother or father alternated between periods of kindness and emotional abuse. A trauma bond started with your narcissistic parents. And, these ways of interacting can transfer to your romantic partner.
When you grow up in an emotionally abusive environment, you become accustomed to unhealthy relationship dynamics. Yelling, the silent treatment, or avoidance behaviors may seem normal. Your narcissistic, emotionally abusive parent commonly used manipulation, control, anger, fear, and had emotional explosive tendencies.
These dysfunctional patterns can become ingrained in how to interact with others, including your romantic partner.
Having a narcissistic mother or father makes it challenging to recognize and avoid repeating similar dysfunctional dynamics in your romantic relationship.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, trauma bond couples therapy on Mercer Island, Washington helps you in creating a secure, loving, and positive bond in your marriage, even if this is the first time in your life you are having healthy conversations.
Plus, people often seek relationships that feel familiar, even if the familiarity is associated with negative, traumatic experiences.
In your marriage, you may not know how to verbalize your emotional needs, so fights escalate.
You might be so used to lack of kindness, angry arguments, and criticism from your narcissistic parent. So, in your adult relationships and marriage, you may unintentionally surround yourself with other abusive people.
And, when people treat you poorly, you don’t know what to say. For instance, when dating around, you may not know how to navigate it when your romantic partner is absent, abandons or ignores you, and is emotionally unavailable.
Right now, your spouse may pull away when you deeply need emotional security and closeness the most.
To add, you may unconsciously gravitate toward a dysfunctional cycle that is familiar to you.
The cycle of high’s and low’s feel comfortable, even though there is pain emotionally. When you and your avoidant spouse fight and argue, at least you are getting some form of attention, rather than feeling ignored.
Survivors of narcissistic abuse in childhood may replicate the emotional dynamics of their childhood, recreating the trauma bond.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, trauma bond couples counseling on Mercer Island, Washington can help you speak with your partner about your emotional vulnerabilities and fears.
This process supports opening up in your marriage in a way you never have before. In couples counseling, you can talk about how you feel a deep desire for connection, closeness, and intimacy, and what that looks like to you.
Your partner can better understand, from trauma bond marriage therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling on Mercer Island, Washington, how to support your emotional needs, fostering a more emotionally secure connection.
Childhood trauma leads to low self-esteem and a low sense of self-worth. You may seek validation and love externally.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, trauma bond couples counseling on Mercer Island, Washington, your spouse can learn to validate you and encourage you in the ways you deserve.
Instead of replicating the dynamics of your abusive parent in your marriage, you can learn how to grow and increase your self-worth in couples counseling.
Through your narcissistic parent didn’t give you the support you needed, trauma bond marriage therapy on Mercer Island, Washington at Wisdom Within Counseling can help you ask your partner to meet your needs directly.
You can talk with your spouse about what the kind of love you deserve looks like to you.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, trauma bond couples counseling on Mercer Island, Washington can help you build a secure, loving, meaningful, and playful connection in your marriage.
Specific skills and techniques from trauma bond marriage therapy can support you both in having emotionally secure conversations, unlike you have ever had before.
Trauma bond couples counseling on Mercer Island, Washington at Wisdom Within Counseling, you can break the high intensity conflict cycle that only leads to emotional disconnection in your marriage.
You may be recreating the trauma you experienced in childhood by recreating similar dynamics in your marital relationship. This can be an attempt to gain mastery over your traumatic experiences.
As a child, with a narcissistic, emotionally abusive mother or father, you felt helpless and out of control. So, in an attempt to to assert control, you may unconsciously fall back into the high conflict fight cycle in your marriage that you lived through in childhood.
Marriage therapy with our complex trauma bond specialists on Mercer Island, Washington at Wisdom Within Counseling help you build more positive, loving, and fulfilling connection in your romantic relationship.
Having an emotionally immature and emotionally hurtful parent leaves a lasting impact and can lead to painful arguments in your marriage.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, trauma bond couples counseling on Mercer Island, Washington supports you in turning your fights around and building emotional vulnerability.
In marriage therapy, you and your spouse can learn to talk deeply about your emotional needs, fostering emotional security and closeness.
Trauma bond couples counseling, especially with our Wisdom Within Counseling specialists who have training the complexities of trauma bonds, can be a game-changer when you’ve endured narcissistic abuse from your parent.
Our couples therapists offer a guided process you can your partner can have more meaningful conversations about your trauma histories than ever before.
At Wisdom Within Counseling on Mercer Island, Washington, our couples therapists are skilled in both trauma bonds and emotionally focused couples therapy (EFT).
Our trauma bond couples therapists help you and your partner understand and break free from harmful patterns in your marriage and relationship.
At the start, our Wisdom Within Counseling complex trauma bond specialists help you and your partner acknowledge and accept the existence of trauma bonds with your parents resulting from past narcissistic abuse.
To note, this understanding is crucial for untangling the emotional ties that hold you back from interacting in healthy, calm, and loving ways in your marriage.
Our complex trauma bond couples therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling encourage open communication, allowing you and your partner to reflect on how your past experiences influence your interactions and contribute to recurring conflicts in your relationship.
The combination of emotionally focused couples therapy and trauma bond expertise at Wisdom Within Counseling on Mercer Island, Washington focuses on building a secure and trusting connection between you and your spouse.
To note, this means helping you and your spouse recognize and express your emotional needs and vulnerabilities. This process in trauma bond couples therapy fosters a more understanding, emotionally secure, and responsive dynamic in your marriage.
When you have faced narcissistic abuse from your parent, this process is vital in reshaping your view of what a healthy emotional connection looks like.
You may have never been in a healthy emotional relationship growing up.
So, when you are a survivor of complex childhood trauma, this process at Wisdom Within Counseling is the first time you get to create a healthy, loving, safe relationship with your spouse.
Trauma bond couples therapy on Mercer Island, Washington at Wisdom Within Counseling helps you see how your marital fights are rooted in experiences of narcissistic abuse from your parent
Plus, part of the trauma bond couples counseling on Mercer Island, Washington involves identifying and addressing the recurring fight patterns that stem from past narcissistic abuse.
Our trauma bond specialists at Wisdom Within Counseling guide couples in recognizing these patterns and collaboratively replacing destructive behaviors with healthier alternatives.
By tackling the root causes of conflict, you and your spouse can rebuild trust and security in your marital relationship. As well, you can learn how to break free from the negative impact of your trauma bond.
Using emotionally focused couples therapy, our Wisdom Within Counseling trauma bond specialists guide you and your spouse in redefining intimacy and emotionally closeness.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, trauma bond couples counseling on Mercer Island, Washington encourages you both to create positive experiences together right in your therapy session.
Our complex trauma bond specialists at Wisdom Within Counseling teach you how to counter the negative impacts of past narcissistic abuse.
This involves building a secure emotional connection, helping you and your spouse rebuild your sense of self-worth.
From trauma bond couples therapy on Mercer Island, Washington at Wisdom Within Counseling, you both can work on challenging distorted beliefs about love and relationships.
In summary, trauma bond couples counseling at Wisdom Within Counseling, offers a tailored approach to healing your marriage and even parental relationships affected by narcissistic abuse.
Our complex trauma bond specialists are skilled in emotionally focused couples therapy. We help you understand, empathize, and develop a secure attachment with your spouse.
Trauma bond couples counseling on Mercer Island, Washington allows you and your partner to move away from destructive patterns. Instead, you can build a foundation, with our complex trauma bond couples therapists, for a healthier and more fulfilling connection.
How can trauma bond couples counseling on Mercer Island, Washington at Wisdom Within Counseling help you understand your fight pattern?
Trauma bond couples counseling, coupled with our expertise in emotionally focused couples therapy (EFT), can help you and your spouse navigate the aftermath of narcissistic abuse from a parent.
Our Wisdom Within Counseling complex trauma bond specialists play a crucial role in validating your experiences of past trauma when who have faced narcissistic abuse.
Through a combination of empathetic listening and therapeutic techniques, our complex trauma bond specialists help you both feel understood.
To add, this emotional validation is a fundamental step in breaking the isolation that often accompanies trauma bonds.
Trauma bond couples therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling on Mercer Island, Washington allows you both to acknowledge the impact of your childhoods and pasts on your current relationship dynamics.
Do you want better communication skills to break the negative cycle of fights?
One common consequence of narcissistic abuse in childhood is the lack of effective communication patterns.
Trauma bond couples counseling, especially when incorporating emotionally focused couples therapy principles, focuses on improving communication.
When you grow up experiencing narcissistic abuse, you don’t have good models or teachers to show you emotional vulnerability.
In marriage counseling with our trauma bond couples counseling specialists on Mercer Island, Washington, we help you and your partner learn to express your needs, fears, and vulnerabilities in a safe and supportive environment.
By fostering open and honest communication with the guidance of our complex trauma bond couples therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling, you and your partner can rebuild trust, relationship safety, and emotional connection.
Narcissistic abuse can severely damage your self-esteem. Therefore, our Wisdom Within Counseling trauma bond specialists work with you to help you rebuild a positive self-image.
Through personalized strategies, a mixture of couples and individual therapy helps you challenge your distorted beliefs and promote a healthier sense of self-worth.
You no longer have to react from survival mode and fight, flight, and freeze states.
As your self-esteem improves, you become better equipped to engage in more fulfilling, emotionally close, and calm conversations.
Our trauma bond specialists on Mercer Island, Washington at Wisdom Within Counseling are skilled in helping couples identify harmful relationship patterns where you may unintentionally be repeating cycles of past abuse in your marriage.
Whether it’s a tendency to avoid conflict or a fear of vulnerability, these patterns are disruptive in your marital fights.
Through targeted interventions, our Wisdom Within Counseling complex trauma bond marriage therapists guide you both in recognizing these patterns.
From becoming aware of these negative patterns, you can pause, breathe, and disrupt the vicious cycle. This process involves replacing destructive behaviors with healthier responses that promote mutual understanding and emotional connection.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, trauma bond couples counseling on Mercer Island, Washington helps you talk about your insecurities, share your deepest fears, and develop emotional intimacy in your marriage.
Emotionally focused couples therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling emphasizes the creation of secure attachment bonds.
For one, when you experience emotional neglect, childhood trauma, and narcissistic abuse from a parent, you never had a secure attachment bond.
Your primary caregiver neglected your emotional needs and was emotionally unresponsive. More than anything in the world, you want your spouse to be there for you. As well, your spouse has their own trauma triggers that come up, creating a negative cycle of conflict for you both.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, trauma bond couples counseling on Mercer Island, Washington, supports you both in becoming aware of this pattern of re-triggering each other. Our trauma bond specialists guide you both in consciously building positive experiences together.
By fostering a sense of safety and responsiveness, you and your partner can create new, positive relationship dynamics that counteract the negative imprints of past abuse.
From trauma bond couples therapy with our specialists at Wisdom Within Counseling, you can both learn to rely on each other for support and emotional connection, rather than isolating, avoiding one another, yelling, and turning away.
In addition to couples counseling, addressing individual healing is crucial.
Our trauma bond specialists at Wisdom Within Counseling offer a mixture of individual and couples support. We often work with individuals separately and in combination to couples counseling to delve into personal traumas.
Individual counseling can help you develop holistic, positive, and creative coping mechanisms for trauma symptoms.
You can learn more about your fight, flight, and freeze responses in trauma bond couples counseling and break free from survival mechanisms that no longer serve you.
To note, in combination with marital therapy, individual counseling contributes to the overall health of your partnership. As you become more self-aware and capable of contributing positively to your relationship, your marriage can evolve and grow.
In summary, at Wisdom Within Counseling, trauma bond couples counseling on Mercer Island, Washington helps you process your emotional experience.
You get to work with our team of marriage therapists who have extensive expertise in emotionally focused couples therapy.
Likewise, learning to have healthy, loving, and caring interactions in your marriage after experiencing childhood neglect, narcissistic abuse, and childhood trauma is a multifaceted, complex process.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, your trauma bond couples counselor on Mercer Island, Washington can help teach you both how to validate each other’s past trauma experiences. Experiences of past trauma and having a narcissistic parent doesn’t have to keep you stuck in self protection mode. Instead of communicating from an angry place or from a place of fear, couples therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling can guide you both to build emotional vulnerability and emotional security as a team.
You have each been through such intense emotional pain in childhood. And, your fears of more pain, fears of rejection and abandonment, get in the way of creating loving interactions in your marriage.
Where does the Wisdom Within Counseling team of trauma bond marriage therapists and complex-post traumatic stress disorder specialists (C-PTSD) help couples?
Wisdom Within Counseling helps distressed couples who are stuck feeling overwhelmed, angry, hurt, and hopeless due to flight, fight, and freeze responses. We help you unravel your trauma bond, communicate your emotional needs, be vulnerable, improve trust, closeness, and emotional intimacy on Mercer Island in Lake Washington, in Hunts Point, Bellevue, Clyde Hill, Medina, Seattle, Yarrow Point, Sammamish, Woodway, Redmond, Issaquah in King County, Bainbridge Island, Kirkland, Enatai, West Bellevue, Houghton, Carnation, Broadmoor, Madison Park, Novelty Hill-Union Hill, Duvall, Queen Anne, West of Market, Juanita, Snoqualmie Ridge, Bridle Trails, Innis Arden, Clyde Beach, View Ridge, Lake Forest Park, Washington.
We also specialize with trauma bonded couples with C-PTSD to help them connect emotionally, love each other, and help each other feel emotionally secure in Connecticut, Florida, Georgia, Alabama, Mississippi, Arkansas, Louisiana, Tennessee, North Carolina, Kansas, Kentucky, Virginia, West Virginia, Ohio, Maryland, Delaware, Washington, Montana, North Dakota, Oklahoma, Indiana, Vermont, Iowa, Missouri, Nebraska, Colorado, Wyoming, Utah, New Hampshire, and Maine.
Trauma bond marriage therapy on Mercer Island, Washington at Wisdom Within Counseling is all about improving your communication, rebuilding self-esteem, recognizing harmful patterns, and creating new dynamics.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, trauma bond couples counseling on Mercer Island, Washington supports co-regulation, nurturing each other, and marital healing.
Through this comprehensive, trauma specialized approach, you and your partner can break free from the impact of childhood narcissistic abuse.
Overall, at Wisdom Within Counseling, our trauma bond marriage therapists help you both foster a relationship characterized by understanding, security, emotional intimacy, and emotional connection.
