Do you wish your sex life was more frequent and fun? Have arguments, criticism, mocking, the silent treatment, eye rolling, and disrespect hurt your sex life? Wanting more novelty, playfulness, mystery, and excitement in your sex life? Do you wish that you felt more excited, desired, and important during sexual activities with your partner? Wishing you could experience mind blowing orgasms, but don’t know how to orgasm? Does it feel like your partner is bored and would rather be doing something else when you are having sex? Looking to meet with couples therapists who are intimacy and sexuality specialists? Would you like to feel safe talking about your sexual fantasies, role playing, and introducing sex toys?
Need help building sexual desire? Do you have mismatched libidos, where you want more sex, but feel rejected constantly? Or, is sexual intercourse painful and unpleasant? Do you experience challenges keeping an erection or erectile dysfunction? Are you struggling with premature ejactulation?
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Do you wish your sex life was more frequent and fun?
Walking on eggshells in your relationship?
Have conflicts been getting out of hand with the silent treatment and yelling? Fearing an explosive reaction?
Feeling anxious like your partner will be upset with you?
Do you feel more like roommates than romantic partners?
Wishing you had more quality time together?
We understand that your sex life isn’t frequent enough, you feel distant and alone in your relationship, you want conflict resolution skills, you want to feel valued, heard, and understood, and you deeply want to create more quality time together.
Marriage therapy is a safe space to help you feel connected in so many ways as a couple again! Couples therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching can help you grow and develop a loving, strong, and secure bond.
We are a team of intimacy experts who teach you skills for playfulness, which help you prioritize your marriage, communication skills, and rebuild emotional connection again.
So commonly, married couples never talk about sex because it feel dirty or taboo. Or, couples eventually stop talking about sex. And, this leads. to emotional distance, rejection, loneliness, disconnection, and sadness. Sex falls on the back burner in many long-term relationship. Maybe, sex is uncomfortable to talk about due to your strict, religious, and conservative upbringing.
Perhaps, you are busy parenting, building your career, being the breadwinner, and paying your mortgage down. And, it all feels overwhelming.
To add to your plate, your parents may be dealing with cancer, a new illness, and you may be stressed out.
It can be really difficult to prioritize and enjoy your sex life when you are overwhelmed with stress. It’s difficult to balance a positive and fulfilling sex life among caring for others and parenting.
Though it may feel like you have a great marriage even though you avoid talking about sex, you can create an even better marriage by rebuilding your sex life.
You don’t have to stay stuck in a sexless marriage. More often than not, couples who struggle with intimacy and sex also struggle with emotional disconnection, communication issues, and stagnation.
Couples therapy with our sex and intimacy specialists in Fairfield, Connecticut can help you grow sexually together.
As well, you can embrace your sexuality, talk about your sexual orientation, and be more of yourself with your partner.
Starting to open the conversation and developing confidence around talking about sex can help you brighten your marriage and feel a deeper bond.
To add, talking about sex, your sexuality, and sexual fantasies are ways to begin to make sex more fun.
You may want to experiment with sexual activities and playing around in different environments.
Instead of having sex in your bed, you may want to have sex on your couch. Changing up your routine and experimenting with different environments can bring a new sense of playfulness. Or, instead of having sex on your couch, you may want to have sex on your washing machine or dryer. Maybe, you take sex to your backyard at night. Additionally, you may want to have sex at different times of the day. If you always have sex in the evening, you may want to start to make time for sex in the morning or mid day. Creating sexual diversity in your environments and times of day that you are having sex can be very fun.
Couples to counseling with the Fairfield, Connecticut Wisdom Within Counseling sex and intimacy specialists can help you add new sexual positions to your routine.
Right now, you may get stuck in the same, old, and dull sexual routine. This is like eating the same thing for lunch every single day. Sex may be boring, but you want your sex life to be fabulous and great. You will get bored of eating the same thing for lunch every single day. And, the same thing applies to your intimacy and sex life.
Adding in new, diverse sex positions can bring in more novelty, exciting feelings, mystery, and passionate energy.
Try having doggy style sex, switching who is on top in missionary, shower sex with lubricant, playing around with reverse cowgirl, standing sex, and all different positions.
You can even buy a book on sex positions and go through each page trying out each one.
Remember, when adding in new sex positions, there is no specific end goal in mind. You don’t need to orgasm. And, you don’t even need to like the position. But, have fun, be playful, and change up your regular routine with more variety.
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What are some more ways to make your sex life was more diverse, exciting, frequent and fun?
Also, another way to make your sex life more fun, exciting, and mysterious includes talking about fun sexual times from the past.
Just like you tell a great story about good memories or your vacation, talk about positive past sexual experiences with your spouse. To note, talk to your partner about the things that you love them doing to your body.
If you like the way your spouse caresses your belly, legs, or your back, tell them. Verbalizing the sexy things that you love about your partner can also help your partner feel desired, wanted, and significant. Let your partner know how much you love the curves of their body or the smell of their skin. Or, you might verbalize to your partner how much you love the sounds that they make when you give them oral sex.
Let your partner know how beautiful, handsome, desirable or incredible they look in the morning light.
More so, married couples get so caught up in talking about parenting, childcare, bills, who the next babysitter will be, and the business aspects of marriage. Distant couples often forget how to talk in sexy ways, tease, and flirt, to foster ongoing sexual connection.
Make a point to talk about the passion and your sex life to build erotic desire.
And, make these sexy, seductive conversations normal part of your day. At first, you might feel embarrassed, anxious, or uncomfortable if you have never verbalized anything about sex before. If sex was a tattoo subject in your home growing up, couples therapy and intimacy counseling can help you feel confident talking about sex.
At first, it might feel uncomfortable to physically say the names of genitals or body parts out loud. You might wonder if someone could be listening, what they would think. However, overcoming these sexual fears and learning to talk about your sex life with your partner can bring excitement. And, sexy storytelling together can be a form of foreplay. Couples counseling with our sex and intimacy specialists in Fairfield, Connecticut can help you overcome anxiety and build confidence to talk about your sex life.
Talking about the past sexual experiences that have been really fun for you both can be a form of foreplay.
Leading the conversation and talking about the fun times you’ve had together sexually can help your partner get back in a sexual mood.
The female body needs about 45 to 90 minutes of foreplay. On the other hand, the male body only needs about 3 to 8 minutes of foreplay. So, especially for females, having, “sexy story time” built into the day can be a part of foreplay. Also, think of the mind is one of the most important sexual tools for getting in a sexy mood. For females, thinking about childcare, caretaking, money, paying bills, and even the family meal that night can all be overwhelming. By having sexy conversations, a female partner can start to get the juices of her mind going in a sexual direction.
Retelling fun sexual experiences you’ve had together can be a great way to get your mind on sex and thinking about how good these times were.
Verbalizing appreciation can go along way too. Therefore, let your partner know how much you appreciate them being patient with you, organized, kind, empathetic, and a good listener. Essentially, emotional intimacy is the foundation of a thriving, healthy sex life.
Learning to talk about the things that you like about your partner to them, will go along way and building your sex life.
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Talking with your partner about even the most difficult subjects in a calm, effective way can be a skill that you learn at Wisdom Within Counseling.
As well, when you do find yourself in a disagreement, use a calm tone of voice to support a healthy sex life. Any sort of criticism, defensiveness, name-calling, door slamming, or the silent treatment will negatively impact your sex life.
Criticism, defensiveness, being explosive, and angry can make your partner feel unsafe. In order to have a healthy, loving, and frequent sex life, both people need to feel emotionally safe.
Essentially, criticism can lead to a high level of anxiety in your relationship. You and your partner may feel like you are walking on eggshells around each other after a fight. Defensiveness can lead to uncertainty, insecurity, and fears that decrease sexual intimacy and harm your sex life.
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Couples therapy in Fairfield, Connecticut at Wisdom Within Counseling can help you verbalize and share feelings such as betrayal, shame, anger, loss, and loneliness in a calm way.
Instead of yelling at your partner or calling them a derogatory name when you are angry, you can learn to share with your partner where your feelings are coming from.
As well, couples counseling in Fairfield, Connecticut with our sex and intimacy specialists can help you team up against the problem at hand. Instead of feeling like a problem is splitting you both apart, you can start to get on the same team against the problem.
Often times, couples who begin marriage and intimacy therapy are not even aware that they are using criticism, defensiveness, or the silent treatment.
Therefore, your Wisdom Within Counseling couples therapist who specializes in intimacy can help you become aware when you may be criticizing your partner. You may not realize when you are being harsh, defensive, or pushing blame on them until beginning the process of marriage counseling.
Overall, when you are using criticism, name-calling, explosive anger, or the silent treatment, this breaks down security in your relationship. Using more, “I feel,” statements helps you take ownership for your emotions. In turn, these couples therapy skills can help reduce the level of hurt that is caused an argument. You and your spouse can learn to de-escalate fights through marriage counseling and intimacy therapy skills.
If you find yourself getting angry, make sure not to explode. Couples therapy can help you learn to do a self regulation tool. Each person can learn to use positive coping strategies to calm themselves down. Marriage counseling and help you reduce and stop criticism, mocking, disrespect, eye rolling, and hurt.
From intimacy counseling and marriage therapy in Fairfield, Connecticut at Wisdom Within Counseling, you can develop a more genuine communication and emotional intimacy in your marriage.
Emotional intimacy is a foundational building block for a healthy sex life.
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Wanting more novelty, playfulness, mystery, and excitement in your sex life?
From the foundation of emotional intimacy, there are many ways that couples counseling can help you spice up your sex life.
It’s very common to have a passionate, hot and heavy beginning to your relationship. But, as different stressors arise, you may have lost touch with your spicy, sexy side. The Fairfield, Connecticut Wisdom Within Counseling sex and intimacy specialists can help you rebuild your well deserved, passionate sex life.
Add date nights on to your weekly calendar to prioritize your intimacy again.
For instance, your couples therapist may give you homework to schedule weekly date nights. It’s very common for couples in a sexless marriage to prioritize raising children, parenting, making money, and building your careers. Sex falls to the back burner and intimacy is lost.
Therefore, plan a weekly date that is no less than 120 minutes. During your date, do not talk about anything stressful. You’re not allowed to talk about parenting, your children, your in-laws, bills, or anything that could distract you from building connection.
What to do on a date night?
You don’t have to have sex, but if it happens, that’s great. So, on this date night, just talk about each other. Talk about things that are fun, lighthearted, enjoyable, and even sexy.
This date night can take place at home where you can put on some romantic music or romantic movie. You might light a candle or two to set the scene for romance.
Take the time to shower, and prepare your body for a connected evening, even if you may not have sex.
As well, you can add on layers to your date such as doing couples massages. Use extra-virgin coconut oil or other massage oils. Try a blindfolded massage.
Or, you might even take on different rules, and take part in role-playing characters. This idea can easily turn into a sexy, playful evening.
You might even get a hotel for the night to get complete a change of environment.
Truly enjoy each other during your date night and make it a non-negotiable part of your week.
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Do you wish that you felt more excited, desired, and important during sexual activities with your partner?
During sexual activities, you may wonder if your partner is mentally present. Parts of you feel concerned and confused. You may be truly enjoying a sexual experience, but when you look down at your partner, they seem half asleep and disconnected emotionally. And, you would like them to feel more passion for you.
We all want to feel desired, significance, and emotionally connected during sexual activities.
Feeling desired, appreciated, and wanted are emotions that lead to massive, pleasurable orgasms.
The male body gets sexually excited more quickly than the female body. So, what this means is that the female body will take more time to reach the same level of sexual arousal and sexual excitement as the male body.
To start, increasing the length of foreplay can increase sexual desire. As well, increasing the length of foreplay to be around 45-90 minutes can increase libido, and make sexual activities more pleasurable and enjoyable for females.
Due to education from pornography, many males unfortunately rush the process of building sexual desire for a female partner. Males may mean well, but simply lack knowledge on the female body, erogenous zones, and clitoris. Lack of sexual education as a whole is a challenge that couples counseling can help support with.
In Fairfield, Connecticut, at Wisdom Within Counseling, you can gain proper sexual health education.
Overall, foreplay is all about building sexual desire, anticipation, mystery, and helping both partners feel sexually desired. When there isn’t enough foreplay, sexual intercourse can be painful, unpleasant, and hurt. As well, without adequate foreplay, a female partner may develop a negative association with sex.
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Why is foreplay really important for the female sexual desire system and incredible sexual experiences ?
Unfortunately, once a negative association with sex develops, a female may continue to sexually reject her partner. A female may feel that her partner is not prioritizing her sexual pleasure. She may feel like her partner is being selfish sexually. As well, she may decline her partner’s sexual advances. And, she may not initiate sex at all what so ever. A female partner may start avoiding sex due to a negative association.
Furthermore, foreplay is what allows a female’s mind and body to become excited. From foreplay, which is the core of a positive sexual experience, she will then really want the foreplay experience to progress to sex.
What happens during foreplay and why should we think of it as the core of sexual pleasure?
Over time, during foreplay, a female’s clitoris and vulva are becomes engorged with blood.
Learning to master foreplay means learning to build sexual desire both physically and emotionally with a female partner.
Essentially, think of foreplay as the core of an experience. This is pre-intercourse attention all over the female body. To note, this level of pre-penetration focus and attention supports the female orgasm and multiple orgasms.
Foreplay supports more satisfying, fulfilling, and pleasurable sexual experience for females.
Now, foreplay should not just be quick or with the focus of getting to penetration and sex. Females can feel when a partner is being emotionally attentive and emotionally present, vs. selfish.
So, think of penetrative sex as the desert, and foreplay as the cooking process, appetizer, and main course of the meal.
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Wishing you could experience mind blowing orgasms, but don’t know how to orgasm?
If you are a female, and you have never orgasm before, you are not alone.
Maybe, you never grew up feeling like it was safe to explore your body sexually. Perhaps, you were told that if you self pleasured or masturbated, you would grow hair on your palms. Fear-based threats are very common.
You may have been given anxiety-based misinformation about your sexuality and developing body and adolescent years.
As well, you may have been told by strict, conservative, and religious parents that if you self pleasured or masturbated, you were no longer considered a virgin. And, that self-pleasure was evil and sinful. You learned to fear your body’s sexual signals and push away sexual urges of pleasure.
And, you felt pressure from your family to be a virgin and sexually pure until marriage.
At Wisdom Within Counseling in Fairfield, Connecticut with your intimacy and sexuality specialist, you can develop reconnection with your sexuality and reconnect to your sexual urges.
Your intimacy and sexuality specialist and couples therapist can talk with you about healing into your feminine energy. You can learn that your sexuality and sexual pleasure are healthy part of who you are. You don’t have to fear your sexual side. Also, with your intimacy and sexuality specialist, you can learn from self pleasure and masturbation what types of touch that you enjoy most. Self pleasuring and masturbation can help you learn about your self in a healthy way.
In general, from working with your intimacy and sexuality specialist at Wisdom Within Counseling, you can release any religious shame and guilt.
Part of orgasming means having adequate preparation and foreplay.
When you are self pleasuring and masturbating, massage your body all over. Notice how your nipples, clitoris, and vulva begin to swell with blood. Feeling a pulsing or throbbing during arousal on your clitoris is called clitoral engorgement.
The more in tune you are with your clitoral engorgement process during self pleasure and masturbation, the more you can communicate with a partner in person. You can share with your partner about what you like and what you want them to do with your body.
Learning to orgasm is a great reason to begin with the Fairfield, Connecticut intimacy and sexuality specialists at Wisdom Within Counseling.
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Would you like to feel safe talking about your sexual fantasies, role playing, and introducing sex toys?
Working with our intimacy and sexuality specialists in Fairfield, Connecticut at Wisdom Within Counseling helps you incorporate sexual fantasies and different sex toys.
Dildos, blindfold, cock rings, strap on’s, nipple clamps, mini vibrators, app controlled vibrators, but plugs, anal beads, bed restraints, feathers, and even board games can all make your sex life more fun.
When it comes to sexual fantasies we all have different ones.
As long as everything is consentual, they are all okay. Some people have group sex fantasies which include swinging, polyamorous, and open relationships.
Other people have different fetishes and kinks such as having sex outdoors or exhibitionism.
Sexual fantasies can also include degradation talk, and humiliation.
As well, sexual fantasies may include wearing costumes, uniforms or even cross dressing.
There can be BDSM power dynamics that go into sexual fantasies. There can be dominance and submission oriented sexual fantasies. Some people like being in a submissive role, and some like a dominant role, and others like both.
Bondage being restrained can’t be sexual fantasies. Even sensation play like using heat, feathers, and ice cubes can be forms of sexual fantasies.
Double and triple penetration can also be part of fantasies.
Road head and giving and receiving oral sex in different locations like a dirty bathroom can be sexual fantasies for many. No matter what your sexual fantasies may entail, it is very common for couples to keep them to themselves. Feeling like you can’t be yourself around your partner blocks intimacy. There may also be shame, guilt, or anxiety that comes up around certain fantasies due to religious shame and trauma.
In intimacy and sexuality therapy, you can start to get more open about your sexual fantasies with your partner.
However, in intimacy and sexuality focused couples counseling, you can talk about what turns you on, build your own sense of erotic desire, and certain fantasies you would like to try with your spouse.
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Holistic sexuality and intimacy focused marriage therapy in Fairfield, Connecticut at Wisdom Within Counseling
As well, our team of couples therapists specialize with sexuality and intimacy matters and help you rebuild intimacy by starting with relaxation tools.
You can’t force anxiety to go away. Learning to relax and breath are important skills for enjoying sexual pleasure. But, in holistic couples therapy, you can learn different skills like meditation, and mindfulness breathing tools. And, you can even use music therapy to relax more deeply together. When you and your spouse relax together, deep connection can begin. Then, you can transfer that connection to your bedroom experiences and sex life.
Our holistic couples therapists offer you meditation, yoga therapy, music therapy, and creative nature therapies for unity, connection, and togetherness. Mindfulness breathing skills can support relaxation, inner peace, intuitive energy, and connection.
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Do you have mismatched libidos, where you want more sex, but feel rejected constantly?
When you have a high sex drive, and your partner has a low sex drive, you may feel frustrated. With a higher libido, you may wonder when your spouse will want you, and desire you. It might feel confusing as to why your spouse don’t want to be intimate or sexy with you. You remember having such good sex in the past. But, you wonder why your spouse no longer wants to express and share love through touch. Couples therapy with our sexuality and intimacy specialists at Wisdom Within Counseling can help you rebuild your sex life.
Marriage therapy can be an effective way to address mismatched libidos and sexual desires within your relationship.
Mismatched libidos, where one partner has a higher or lower level of sexual desire than the other, can create frustration, emotional distance, and tension within a relationship.
Here’s how sexuality and intimacy focused couples therapy can help:
Communication:
One of the primary benefits of couples therapy is improved communication. A therapist can create a safe space for both partners to openly discuss their desires, concerns, and feelings about their sexual relationship. Improved communication helps partners understand each other’s perspectives and needs, reducing misunderstandings and resentment.
Emotional Education:
The Fairfield, Connecticut Wisdom Within Counseling marriage therapists can provide information about the normal range of sexual desires and variations in libidos. Sometimes, individuals might feel anxious or self-conscious about their level of desire, and understanding that these differences are common can alleviate some of that stress.
Exploration of Underlying Issues:
Mismatched libidos can sometimes be a symptom of deeper underlying issues within the relationship or in the individuals’ lives. Our sexuality and intimacy therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling in Fairfield, Connecticut can help uncover any potential factors such as stress, anxiety, past traumas, relationship conflicts, or medical conditions that might be impacting sexual desire.
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Intimacy Building:
Therapists can guide couples in building emotional intimacy beyond just physical intimacy. By fostering emotional closeness and connection, partners may find that their sexual relationship improves naturally.
Negotiation and Compromise:
Couples therapy can help partners negotiate and find compromises that work for both individuals. This could involve finding ways to meet each other’s needs while also respecting boundaries and limitations.
Sensate Focus Exercises:
Our Wisdom Within Counseling sexuality and intimacy therapists recommend sensate focus exercises, which are designed to help couples rediscover each other’s bodies in a non-sexual context. This can help reduce performance anxiety, improve body image, and increase comfort with physical touch.
Sex Education:
In some cases, lack of sexual knowledge or understanding about one’s own or the partner’s body can contribute to issues with libido. Couples therapy in Fairfield, Connecticut at Wisdom Within Counseling can provide education about sexual anatomy, pleasure, and techniques to enhance the sexual experience.
Mindfulness and Stress Reduction:
High stress levels can negatively impact libido. Therapists can teach mindfulness and stress reduction techniques that can help partners manage stress and anxiety, potentially leading to improved sexual desire.
Empathy and Understanding:
Couples therapy encourages partners to see the situation from each other’s perspectives. This fosters empathy, understanding, and the realization that both partners are invested in finding a solution.
Setting Realistic Expectations:
Our Wisdom Within Counseling sexuality and intimacy focused couples therapists help couples set realistic expectations for their sexual relationship. This involves understanding that sexual desire naturally fluctuates over time and that there is no “normal” level of libido.
It’s important to remember that every relationship is unique, and the effectiveness of couples therapy may vary. Both partners should be committed to the therapy process and willing to work together to address the issue.
If you’re considering couples therapy for mismatched libidos, it’s a good idea to consult with a licensed therapist at Wisdom Within Counseling in Fairfield, Connecticut who specializes in couples, initmacy, and sexuality therapy.
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Do you experience challenges keeping an erection or erectile dysfunction?
Sexuality and intimacy therapy with a Wisdom Within Counseling marriage therapist, can be very helpful in addressing issues like erectile dysfunction (ED) and premature ejaculation (PE). Wisdom Within Counseling helps couples with sexual concerns and overcome sexual challenges. Our Fairfield, Connecticut sexuality and intimacy therapists help couples improve their sexual well-being.
Here’s how sexuality and intimacy therapy can help with erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation:
Education:
Our Fairfield, Connecticut sexuality and intimacy therapists provide accurate and evidence-based information about the physical and psychological factors that contribute to erectile dysfunction and PE. Understanding the underlying causes can alleviate anxiety and shame, which often accompany these issues.
Identifying Underlying Factors:
Fairfield, Connecticut sexuality and intimacy therapy helps individuals and couples identify any emotional, psychological, or relational factors that might be contributing to erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation. This could include stress, anxiety, depression, trauma, relationship conflicts, or performance pressure.
Cognitive-Behavioral Techniques:
Our Fairfield, Connecticut sexuality and intimacy therapists often use cognitive-behavioral techniques to help individuals reframe negative thought patterns and beliefs that can exacerbate erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation. These techniques can help reduce performance anxiety and build confidence.
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Sensate Focus Exercises:
Similar to what was mentioned in the previous response, sensate focus exercises involve non-sexual touch and exploration of each other’s bodies. These exercises can help individuals and couples rediscover physical sensations, reduce anxiety, and improve body image.
Communication Skills:
Marriage therapy encourages open and honest communication between partners about their desires, concerns, and needs. Effective communication can reduce pressure and create a more supportive environment.
Behavioral Techniques for premature ejaculation:
Our Fairfield, Connecticut sexuality and intimacy therapists often teach techniques to manage and control premature ejaculation, such as the “start-stop” technique or the “squeeze” technique. These techniques involve specific patterns of stimulation and control to delay ejaculation.
Mindfulness and Relaxation:
Learning mindfulness and relaxation techniques can help individuals manage anxiety, stress, and performance pressure. These techniques can improve overall sexual well-being and help with both erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation.
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Gradual Exposure:
For individuals with performance anxiety related to erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation, therapists might use gradual exposure techniques. These involve gradually increasing the level of sexual intimacy over time to reduce anxiety and build confidence.
Partner Involvement:
Fairfield, Connecticut sexuality and intimacy therapy often involves partners, as their support and understanding can play a crucial role in overcoming sexual challenges. Partners can be included in discussions and exercises to enhance intimacy and communication.
Medical Referral:
If your couples therapist suspects that a medical condition is contributing to erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation, they might refer the individual to a medical professional for further evaluation and treatment.
It’s important to note that Wisdom Within Counseling specializes in intimacy, bonding, sexuality, sexual health, and romantic relationships. Not all couples therapists generally speaking, have training in sexuality and intimacy matters. Individuals or couples seeking help for erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, or other sexual concerns can get help from Wisdom Within Counseling in Fairfield, Connecticut.
Struggling with a sex addiction, compulsive use of pornography, and pornography addiction?
Also, compulsive pornography use and having a pornography addiction can lead to erectile dysfunction issues. When you have a pornography addiction and masturbation addiction, you may be withdrawing and isolating. Instead of going to your child’s sporting event, you might choose to stay home alone so that you can have the house to yourself to masturbate.
As well, instead of having sex with your partner or spouse, you may choose to isolate yourself in a room so that you can masturbate and watch pornography. Isolation is a common trait of those with compulsive pornography problems and pornography addiction.
Pornography is often the way that many people receive sexual education. However pornography is not proper sexual education. Rather, it’s important to think of pornography as erotic material. Pornography can be very sexually arousing. However, watching it compulsively can lead you to train yourself to only become sexually aroused by watching porn. Your spouse’s body or sounds may no longer turn you on.
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A pornography addiction can take away your ability to become organically sexually aroused with a real human, your partner, in real life.
You may find that when you have a compulsive pornography addiction, that you can only become sexually aroused and watching pornography. As well, pornography addiction can lead to compulsive masturbation. Self pleasure and masturbation can be healthy parts of your weekly routine.
As mentioned before, self pleasure and masturbation can help you learn about what types of touch you like and how your body becomes sexually aroused. However, compulsive masturbation can lead to genital chaffing, burning, and an inability to become sexually aroused with your partner in real life. You may even have bruising or dry skin on your genitals from compulsive masturbation. As well, you may feel shame, guilt, or self-depreciating thoughts after masturbating.
Often times, under compulsive masturbation and pornography addictions are elements of emotional abuse in childhood trauma.
In sexuality and intimacy therapy, you can talk about different sexual abuse experiences and emotional abuse experiences from your parents and caregivers.
In childhood, you may have had a parent that showed you pornography at a young age. This is a form of non-contact sexual abuse. Being exposed to pornography at a young age can lead to compulsive masturbation and pornography addiction behaviors.
Pornography addiction can be rooted in childhood trauma.
As well, you may have had a parent who was emotionally abusive, physically abusive, sexually abusive, or narcissistic.
Having parents were self-centered, lack empathy, highly critical, and verbally and emotionally abusive can lead to addictive behaviors in adulthood. Masturbation addiction pornography addiction can develop because you’re trying to numb away pain.
You are trying to get more dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin in your brain which are your pleasure chemicals, to push away depression and anxiety.
Instead, you can gain positive and healthy coping strategies through couples therapy and individual counseling. You can learn to self soothe through healthier outlets. You can diversify how you increase serotonin, dopamine oxytocin.
In marriage counseling, you can develop shared coping strategies such as going for a hike together, playing golf, going for a swim, or going out dancing.
Instead of just turning to sexual behaviors and isolating yourself from your spouse, you can start to feel better together.
Cooking nutritious meals, getting out of the house such as going to the aquarium, creating a healthy bedtime routine, and exercising together can all improve serotonin and dopamine naturally. Talking about childhood trauma and emotional abuse can also help get to the root cause and help you overcome sexually addictive behaviors.
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What to expect in couples therapy with a focus on sex and intimacy in Fairfield, Connecticut?
At Wisdom Within Counseling in Connecticut, we help you gain proper and accurate sex education and gain awareness for misinformation you have received. You can have a safe place to process and talk about sexual trauma. Maybe, you are struggling with feelings of anxiety, fear, insecurity, jealousy, or shame related to sex.
We are LGBTQIA+, queer, same sex, bisexual, bi-gender, cross dressing, gay, lesbian, transgender, non-binary, and gender questioning affirming and friendly.
So, if you are having issues related to gender identity and questioning your sexual orientation, our team of LGBTQIA+ affirming couples therapists would love to help.
Additionally, our couples therapists who specialize in sex and intimacy work help when you have been raised in a strict, religious, and sex-avoidant culture.
Your couples therapist can help you gain awareness of, expand, and broaden your cultural, religious and societal views of sex. In general, marriage therapy in Fairfield, Connecticut helps with improving communication about sex and intimacy between you and your partner. You may be avoiding talking about sex all together.
Wisdom Within Counseling offers a safe place to talk about your sexuality, sexual expression, and sexual desires together.
When you struggle with mismatched sexual desire, the higher libido partner often feels like sex is being withheld. You can address mismatched sexual desire issues at Wisdom Within Counseling in Fairfield, Connecticut.
Commonly, conflicts, arguments, and relationship issues stem from sexual difficulties. One of you may want to have sex, but the other refuses sex. So, improving sexual connection and sexual passion in couples therapy can create a positive feedback loop in your relationship.
Overcome body image issues together
Couples therapy with our sex and intimacy specialists can help you address confidence issues such as poor body image and how it impacts sex. Maybe, body image issues create insecurity. Perhaps, you fear your partner will reject you due to the smell of your body or your body weight. Overcoming body image issues and body fears can be a safe topic to talk about in counseling for couples.
Additionally, Wisdom Within Counseling is a safe place to talk about hypersexual disorders, sex addictions, compulsive use of pornography, and pornography addiction.
Why work with the team at Wisdom Within Counseling?
Sexual activities can be fun, playful, and exciting, even in a long term relationship. At Wisdom Within Counseling, you can talk about your sex life and sexual activities including intercourse, masturbation, sex toys, oral sex, shower sex, BDSM, power dynamics, and more. Building a healthy, passionate sex life involves important emotional, mental and physical components.
To Begin, Book Your Phone Consult To Work With Our Intimacy and Sexuality Specialists at Wisdom Within Counseling in Fairfield, Connecticut.
Couples therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling can help when you want to increase desire, have more meaningful sex, and gain education regarding sexual function.
A healthy sex life is an important part of your life and marriage. Couples who take the time to create a healthy, loving, and exciting sex life report more physical and mental well-being and increased relationship satisfaction.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, you can gain sexual education on a variety of topics including desire (libido), arousal (excitement), orgasm, and aftercare.
Sexual issues can arise at any point such as when building desire, during foreplay, orgasming, and in the aftercare process. Knowing yourself and where you need support can be a part of working with our team of couples therapists.
From working with marriage therapists who specialize in sex and intimacy, you can become aware of how you respond mentally and physically during sexual arousal.
Working with our sexual health specialists in Fairfield, Connecticut at Wisdom Within Counseling, you can improve your sexual experiences and learn skills to overcome and remedy causes of sexual dysfunction.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, your marriage therapist who specializes in sex and intimacy helps you process the mental and emotional aspects of of sexual dysfunctions. For instance, lack of desire and arousal, difficulty orgasming, pain during sexual intercourse, erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, and more.
