How do couples benefit from therapy? Marriage therapy in Mystic Connecticut can be a safe space to overcome conflict. You can talk about sex life challenges, and set positive goals for your relationship. There are many reasons why fighting, distant, or hurting couples seek the help of a marriage therapist. No matter why you want help, marriage therapy can be very beneficial and supportive.
Does your romantic relationship shouldn’t feel like it’s taking years off your life?
Is your fighting cycle causing you to feel hopeless?
Are you having fights about sex or money?
If any of the following apply to you, you may be a good fit for working with our team in Mystic, Connecticut at Wisdom Within Counseling.
Should couples who have sexual challenges come to marriage therapy in Mystic Connecticut?
Yes, sex issues can be emotionally painful. The first reason why couples often come to counseling is because affection is gone. It feels sad when you think about how your sex life has changed. Couples stop being curious about sexual pleasure and passion. Unfortunately, sexless marriage are not uncommon. For many couples, sex as a whole has decreased drastically. Oftentimes, you might feel like you’re on two different planets with your partner. Emotional wounds, pain, and betrayal can lead to sexual problems. Distance may feel very real.
What’s poor communication and how does it make a couples sex life suffer?
Sex issues lead to rejection and hurt, that can come out as anger. When angry, couples tend to resort to negative communication. Damaging or hurtful communication is negative and unhealthy. A lot of times, distant, fighting couples don’t recognize when they’re getting escalated.
What happens in the body when fighting escalates for couples?
The heart rate starts to go above 100 beats a minute. And, the hairs on the back of your neck come alive. Under stress, your pupils dilate and adrenaline’s rushing through your veins. When you’re in a stressful mode, it is hard to feel playful sexually too. Just like being chased by a wild animal would alert us right away, so do emotions. You don’t have to be chased by a wild animal to feel fear, timid, or the urge to run. Uncomfortable conversations can trigger those same emotions. Sexual conversations can be stressful. Even talking about sex can make people want to run out of the room. As well, heated topics include fertility, infertility, IVF, prenatal and postpartum depression, loss of a loved one, death of a grandparent, loss of a spouse ect.
You might be feeling unimportant, pushed aside, ignored, even wounded by sexual experiences.
Marriage therapy in Mystic, Connecticut gives couples a space to self-soothe. Self-soothing and self-care skills help couples slow down and relax. When triggered emotions around sexual experiences are intense, couples might need support around healthy coping skills. For instance, some yoga, have a glass of water or food, and go for a walk. What are additional positive coping tools for times of high emotion? Do a craft project, read a book, a journal, or some distraction technique to lower that heart rate. Sex and finances can be triggering. So, take your time to come back into inner peace.
The first step to healthy communication is understanding when is not a good time to communicate.
So, when you’re feeling angry, heated and your blood is boiling, this is not the time to have a deep conversation. Instead, you want to have inner peace and calm, because it will just often escalate. And, having self-awareness and self-acceptance of your limits is essential. Healthy communication is about taking ownership for your personal limits. Clearly defining your own personal boundaries is a big step in having a healthy relationship.
Yelling, name-calling, hurtful jabs, criticism, personal attacks and these things are just not productive
When communication is very negative, partners can leave a hurtful, lasting wound. So, in terms of healthy communication, focus on complimenting your spouse. You want to look out for urges to criticize your partner. When your partner is criticizing you, take a moment to breathe and speak calmly. You want to look out for defensiveness as this is an unhealthy communication tool. Instead, focus on owning your faults. Learning to apologize is part of marriage therapy in Mystic, Connecticut too.
To begin, book your free phone consult using the pink button below for marriage therapy in Mystic, Connecticut.
You might feel like two ships passing in the night.
Differences in work schedules can make sexual experiences hard to create. Couples who work different schedules may need extra professional support making quality time for one another. Essentially, your couples counselor can pinpoint and target problem areas. Couples counseling in Southeastern Connecticut is a safe place to talk about sex toys, vibrators, lubricants, libido, and desire. You can get couples therapy homework to improve your sexual passion and desire.
You may really be missing passionate, beautiful good morning kisses.
If you feel lonely in your marriage, couples counseling can build emotional closeness. As well, if there is lack of physical touch or lack of affection, marriage therapy in Mystic Connecticut can be helpful. Meeting with a therapist helps you figure out what’s missing to help you meet your playful, positive, healthy relationship goals.
Should couples seek marriage therapy in Mystic Connecticut if arguments becomes too intense?
Yes, reach out to work with a marriage therapist in Mystic, Connecticut if you both get angry and yell. Arguments that get out of hand can turn into domestic violence. If you and your partner have started fighting, learning to self-regulate, deescalate, and self-soothe are key skills. Bickering, name calling, criticism, or high conflict fights mean you need help sooner than later.
Couples therapy can support noticing body language skills.
So, if your partner’s armed are crossed, notice that and see that they are a bit closed. See if you can bring the intensity and escalation down. If your partner is not smiling, see that and smile or make a joke. Non-verbal communication is a big thing. Always try to see if you can make eye contact with your partner to show connection. Eye contact is a big piece of building desire and intimacy. To note, eye contact can be very intense in an argument, so sitting side by side holding hands can be a little bit less confrontational.
Improving communication in holistic marriage therapy in Mystic, Connecticut
Engaging in that nonverbal way means a lot more than words too. Talking with your backs turned to each other is not real presence. Sometimes, having backs turned can lead to more fights and more escalation. So, be face to face. Furthermore, take time to have your hearts facing each other and your eyes connected. Overall, from couples therapy, you gain an understanding of how you’re reading body language and facial expressions. Communication is about gestures, body language, and sensing that. You can really sense your partner’s energy, or that its tense. Couples therapy can support healthier communication and more emotional closeness.
To begin, click the button below to book a phone consult for marriage therapy in Mystic, Connecticut.
Fighting couples wait too long before it is too late to get therapy.
So, if you have intense arguments, you can gain better communication skills. You can process emotions such as anger, hopelessness, frustration or defeat after an argument. At Wisdom Within Counseling, we can help you feel confident coping when there is distress or upset.
A lot of times, couples don’t learn how to build healthy communication tools in school.
So, couples therapy can be that safe, confidential place to learn how to express your needs and vocalize your wants. As well, couples therapy in Southeastern Connecticut helps partners validate one another. Plus, couples can build healthier communication tools from counseling.
Should couples goto counseling for trust issues like an affair, cheating, or infidelity?
Absolutely. It can be heartbreaking to find out your partner is cheating. When your partner has been sneaking around to see someone else, it is normal to feel hurt, mad, and betrayed. Couples post affair come to counseling to heal trust issues. Infidelity, affairs, and cheating are forms of secret keeping. As a whole, marriage therapy in Mystic, Connecticut helps figure out why secret keeping took place. Understanding why an dhow a betrayal has occurred is another important element in recovering from an affair.
Long after an affair is over, the heartbreak and trust issues linger.
Maybe, your partner had an affair, or you have been cheating on your partner, or both. No matter what, affairs, infidelity, and cheating create trust issues long term down the road. Whether it’s emotional or physical, affairs and infidelity create a fear cycle. Affairs and infidelity create a major sense of betrayal and trust issues. It is cheated on for a partner who was cheated on to experience nightmares. There may also be trauma symptoms like, worry, trouble sleeping, digestive problems, appetite changes, mood swings. The partner who was cheated on may show a heightened sense of caution, anxiety and fear.
To begin, book your free phone consult using the pink button below for marriage therapy in Mystic, Connecticut.
Couples therapy can help you if you want to stay together after trust has been broken through an affair or cheating.
If you want to try to work it out, Mystic, Connecticut marital therapy rebuilds a new sense of commitment. All meaning of trust is gone. So, couples work together to talk about what trust truly looks like post infidelity. As relationship specialists in Southeastern Connecticut, we want to figure out what happened to create infidelity.
Another key to building healthy communication after an affair is to really validate.
So, validating your partner after an affair or infidelity doesn’t mean that you are accepting something is right or wrong. Instead, you are letting go of judgments to choose healthy communication. And instead, when you validate your partner, you’re allowing them to feel heard. Don’t argue or defend yourself. Just focus on giving your spouse permission to feel the way they do in front of you. Hung them if they are crying, and be gentle to promote healthy communication.
Discovering and understanding how couples get an affair going is a key part in healing trust issues.
Furthermore, couples need help healing from this painful place. Your therapist can help you both understand that trust needs to be rebuilt. Talking about trust and betrayal are essential to meeting your goals.
When couples struggle with money issues, marriage therapy in Mystic, Connecticut is supportive.
A lot of times, couples have different backgrounds around money. Money may have fear attached to it, money may have power attached to it. There may be a lot of emotional meanings that each of you have connected to finances and money. On that note, couples tend to fight about money a lot. Negative communication around money can lead to really painful arguments, where not so nice things are said.
Financial arguments and how to spend money are common reasons for seeking marriage therapy in Mystic, Connecticut.
Couples may show negative jabs, criticism, name-calling due to money issues, budgeting, and saving money.
To begin, click the button below to book your phone consult for holistic marriage therapy in Mystic Connecticut.
Decisions around money can be intense emotionally.
For one, you may want to remodel your house and your spouse wants to save to travel. One of you may want something different than the other when it comes to spending money. As well, if your partner has been lying about credit card debt, you may feel hurt. Especially if there are lies and secret keeping around money, it normal to feel anxious about this conversation.
Marriage therapy in Mystic, Connecticut supports couples who want to get on the same page with finances.
With therapy, you can talk about intense topics like money in a playful, joyful way. You don’t have to be anxious about finances. Instead, you can feel confident on the same page while building emotional intimacy. And, we want your relationship is something that makes you feel better.
Financial fights are a great reason to reach out for couple’s therapy.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, we specialize with couples who have money issues along with childhood trauma, loss, anxiety, depression.
Our team of marital and family therapists specialize with couples in building a long-lasting, loving, committed and playful relationship.
Learning to apologizing is a huge skill for couples.
So let’s say your partner is angry. Emotional validation prevents conflict. Therefore, say,” “I see you’re angry, and whatever you’re angry about is important to me.” That helps to validate your partner and it de-escalates the argument. Another thing you can do is say, “I see you’re really upset, and I did not mean to offend you.”
Couples can increase emotional connection by saying, “You’re really important to me and what you feel is important to me.”
If your partner is sad or crying, go over next to them, put a hand on their back. Ask you partner what you can do to support them emotionally. “What do you need from me in this moment? Do you need a hug? Do you want me to get you a tissue?”
How do couples talk about tough subjects?
When you want to have an emotional conversation with your partner, go over to them, find them whichever room they’re in. See if you can get as close as you can to them and sit next to them. To add, offer touch, hold the back of their neck and hold their body. Touch their arm, their waist, or back. Essentially, support a calm entrance into the conversation connecting physically, emotionally and spiritually. A lot of how couples communicate is through non-verbal communication. When couples struggle to be close and have blocks to giving and receiving touch, couples therapy can help.
Can holistic marriage therapy in Mystic, Connecticut support connection?
Remember you’re on the same team with your partner. A lot of times couples end up trying to one-up each other. What is one-upping? Well, it is needing to be competitive. Also, having the last word is a negative communication tactic. Marriage therapy in Mystic, Connecticut helps couples know that their partner is on their team. Couples can use one another as a resource in this world.
Marriage therapy in Mystic, Connecticut improves your communication. You can feel loved and your partner can feel heard. Couples counseling teaches great ways to build safety and security.
Emotional security is the foundation for playfulness, passion, hope, silliness and intimacy.
If you’re looking to get into couples counseling, needing help better in communication, the team at Wisdom Within Counseling can help. You may want help talking about intense topics with the help of a therapist. Therapy improves the strength, mindfulness and even meaningful connection in your relationship. Our team here at Wisdom Within Counseling would love to help. Katie Ziskind, licensed marital and family therapist owns the practice. As a licensed marriage and family therapist and trauma specialty yoga therapist, she loves helping couples.
Creative, holistic, mind-body marriage therapy in Mystic, Connecticut
At Wisdom Within Counseling, we offer holistic, creative therapies. Sometimes, you can use art and painting. On other days, you may want to go for a walk outdoors by the beach. Our team of holistic therapists embrace joyful movement. So, you can take your session outside for a couples outside for a walking session. You can walk and talk with your therapist in the fresh air and in the sunshine.
To build that mind-body connection, art, yoga, music, and walking therapies are available. Mindfulness meditations and couples yoga build inner connection, flexibility, and strength.
Locations for couples counseling in Connecticut
Portland, New Haven, Middletown, Cromwell, East Hampton, Meriden, New Britain, East Haddam, East Hampton, Hebron, Colchester, Salem, Wethersfield, Ivoryton, Centerbrook, West Hartford, Darien, Ridgefield, Moodus, Fairfield, Westport, Newington, and Hartford, Redding, Connecticut. We offer video counseling and in person sessions in Connecticut and Florida.
Marriage therapy in Mystic and Groton, Connecticut can bring out playfulness to talk about anything with ease.
As well, marriage counseling can be your safe, confidential space every week for you to new skills. Building a healthy, loving, meaningful connection is a healing part of couples counseling. And overall, relationship therapy lowers some of those fears and anxieties around intense topics.
Our team of family and marriage therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling, would love to help you.
To begin, book your free phone consult using the pink button below for marriage therapy in Mystic, Connecticut.
