Are you feeling a mix of resentment, loss, and anger all at once?
In marriage fights, do you feel like you are in a vicious cycle of burnout, exhaustion, fighting, hostility, like you can’t trust your partner to be there for you?
Also, are you in a long term marriage, but overwhelmed with parenting and childcare so much that you are missing the playfulness and romantic parts of married life with your spouse?
Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching help couples worldwide, from any location bring playfulness, joy, connection, laughter and have fun together again!
You’re in the right place! Katie Ziskind and the team at Wisdom Within Counseling specialize with high conflict couples. Watch the video below to learn more.
What should we expect in marriage counseling?
Marriage counseling is a journey of self-love and extending this love to your marriage bubble. First, we begin with a free 30 minute phone consultation where I can hear about your marriage goals. From there, we plan a weekly or twice a week schedule for rebuilding your marriage!
How can marriage counseling online or in East Lyme, Connecticut help with anger, hostility, and high conflict fights?
To add, online marriage counseling allows you to slow down your conflicts and arguments. Your couples therapist in Southeastern Connecticut will help you understand what your spouse is really saying. From there, you can understand what’s really underneath the anger and hostility in your marriage. Often, under anger and aggression is hurt, pain, and sadness. But, when both partners are hurting, it can be hard to have a clear and calm conversation. From marriage counseling online or in Connecticut, you can step into creating our dream marriage and relationship.
Why do couples fight to begin with? Getting to the real root of the fight
Often, couples fight because they are both trying to get love needs met. Sometimes, you may want time with your partner, or sex, but it comes out all wrong. Katie Ziskind LMFT, RYT500 specializes with high conflict couples find themselves yelling, but they really want to be held tight by their spouse, emotionally loved, and heard. Couples counseling helps you break the vicious cycle or negative interactions. From there, you can learn to communicate in emotionally open and healthy ways. Together, we help your marriage feel less chaotic and more stable and secure. Overall, couples and relationship therapy and coaching are services available over video to any worldwide location or in person.
What happens when couples fight in negative ways?
However, when you’re fighting with your best friend who is also your spouse, it can get messy. Well, crazy, intense feelings can be an understatement. Many times, do you feel hurt because your spouse said some mean things? And, do you find with you or your spouse closes up, stops talking, and shuts down?
If you have a negative, vicious cycle of shut down, anger, or withdrawal, marriage counseling online or in person and East Lyme, Connecticut can be exactly what you need to develop intimacy and trust again.
What about recreating a healthy sex life?
From an emotionally safe relationship, then and only then can sexual desires can be expressed in received. So, if you have stopped having sex out of self protection, you’re not alone. But, not having sex and not talking to your partner, isn’t going to help you grow. Holistic marriage therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching can help though. When you go to couples counseling and marriage therapy, you’re changing your family pattern for the better!
How can seeking couples therapy online or marriage therapy in Southeastern Connecticut help your children and family thrive?
By learning ways to express your emotions and holistic, healthy ways, you’re teaching your children that talking is healthy. Also, expressing emotions calmly and having calm family communication is positive modeling. To note, if you grew up in a house where there was tough love or you didn’t get emotionally nurtured, it can be really hard to try to give this in your marriage. Essentially, couples therapy is an investment in learning skills! Just like you might learn engineering or to be a doctor, couples therapy is about learning to emotionally nurture yourself and your spouse. Unfortunately, couples don’t get taught these skills in life or school, outside of couples therapy.
We are LGBTQIA+ affirming therapists
Also, we are LGBTQIA+ affirming therapists, so we specialize in helping with gender questioning thoughts, same sex couples, transgender parents, bisexual, gay, lesbian, homosexual, all types of marriage, and sexual identity exploration.
How does childhood play into married life?
Often times, emotional neglect, child abuse, sexual trauma, or even betrayal can lead to trust issues in a marriage. Maybe, there was an affair betrayal, or maybe it was lying about spending money and secret keeping. When you’re working on rebuilding your marriage, it starts with creating emotional security. Sometimes, these are negative coping skills to get needs met, from childhood. They once worked as a child with parents, but now these coping tools are causing problems in you married life. Overall, couples and relationship therapy online helps you share vulnerable moments from childhood with your spouse. And, the therapist helps your spouse learn to listen, empathize, validate, and offer emotional support. Also, couples therapy can help you calmly and clearly talk about goals for what you want for your marriage around meaningful time together. Holistic marriage counseling online can help you reignite the love you once had!
How is Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching unique, out-of-the-box, holistic and different?
Playfulness, joyfulness, and creativity in couples therapy using art, yoga, music, and nature walking therapies can help rebuild playfulness and trust in your marriage. Holistic marriage counseling is very different than any type of traditional talk counseling that you may have done in the past. When it comes to improving your marriage, you have a positive experience together right in session. Using creative, alternative, holistic art to help couples rebuild trust. Art, couples yoga, music, and nature are a one of a kind at Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching.
What are some examples of holistic couples therapy exercises that are different from sitting and talking in counseling?
When was the last time you both had a chance to paint or do water colors together? Probably never, or a really long time ago before your children were born. Overall, couples therapy online can help you step into self-love, self leader ship, and bring bubbly energy back. Plus, Katie Ziskind offers expressive arts, guiding couples in art activities for meaningful connection together. As humans, we miss expressive arts when we hit adulthood. These holistic methods help to unstick couples from their vicious cycle of conflict. And, art, yoga, and nature helps move stuck energy from past fights into a positive direction in the present moment. In East Lyme Connecticut and along the Southeastern Connecticut shoreline, couples may choose to come in person for sessions. Call or text 860-451-9364 to get your phone consult booked with Emily, the intake coordinator, or Katie the owner. Emily and Katie can both share about the rest of the team and the best fit therapist for your marriage goals.
What is a couples yoga therapy example?
As a holistic therapist, I might guide you in healing touch such as a hand rub for each other as a step to rebuild connection. Another mind-body connection activity is doing a back to back breathing exercise that promotes intimacy and bonding. To add, couples therapy also lays an important emotional foundation to help you be prepared if you plan on having more children, or move to a new home. Couples therapy also sets a healthy boundary around you and your spouse! This forms a strong, confident couple bubble, which helps to improve intimacy, meaningful connection, and laughter together.
What is Katie Ziskind’s speciality?
As a couple therapist, I love working with couples who have been together a long time. But, they are looking to build that spice, playfulness, and wonder back into their marriage relationship. I am confident I can help you build intimacy, meaningful connection and bond creatively again. At Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching, in Southeastern Connecticut, we help couples thrive.
If you’re stuck in a vicious cycle of conflict, hostility, and aggression, and you deeply want to figure out how to have a connected and loving marriage, Katie Ziskind is the marriage and family specialist for you. Combining art, yoga, holistic therapist, and meditation, she brings couples to a place of deep meaningful connection beyond just traditional words. Click the pink button below to book a phone consultation for couples therapy and a healthy love life today.
What will you gain from marriage counseling online or in Connecticut?
Each session is an opportunity to have a positive connection with your spouse guided by a professional, holistic marriage counselor. Katie Ziskind loves guiding couples in yoga poses, breathing, and unique methods for reconnecting in mind, body and spirit.
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