Why I love Being A Family Therapist
Hello, everyone! My name is Ebonee and I am a Child, Adult, Couple & Family Therapist here at Wisdom Within Counseling in Niantic, CT. Thank you for being brave enough to stop by and visit our website. I hope that we get the opportunity to work together!
I love being a therapist, because I genuinely enjoy connecting with and helping people who are in need. Life can be extremely challenging at times and we all need someone to talk to who is understanding, affirming, empathetic, resourceful and open minded.
I enjoy working with children, teens and couples who are feeling hopeless in their current situation and need problem & emotion-focused coping skills to manage their daily lives. Being able to inspire others to live a fulfilling and meaningful life, gives me the greatest joy!
Support for Couples in Therapy
Why I Help with Couples Therapy
Working with couples is extremely gratifying to me. Seeing couples go from being high conflict and distant, to walking in harmony and grace is a beautiful experience. As a couple, you face so many different aspects of life together. From falling in love and experiencing new exciting milestones, to facing challenging obstacles and unforeseeable situations.
Couples experience the good, bad and ugly together and may need help resolving conflict that places strain on the relationship. This does not mean you have to throw in the towel and give up on your relationship. I believe that if you and your partner are willing to put in the work, then there is hope and you can both live a fulfilling life together.
Sex and Intimacy Counseling with Couples
Working with couples brings me the most joy as a therapist. I find it so intriguing how two people can come together and create a life full of shared meaning and fulfillment. As we know, relationships can get challenging at times. When this happens, we often forgo communicating with our partners or get to the point where effective communication isn’t even an option.
When we start having conflict with our significant other, sex and intimacy are typically one of the first places where our needs stopped being met. As a result, a couple may experience more tension, distance and lack of affection in the relationship.
I am a firm believer that if two people are willing to work together, then anything is possible. Maybe you and your partner are struggling with sex and intimacy in your relationship. Maybe your partner just disclosed they are having an affair.
I work with couples who experience a range of sex, intimacy and communication issues. What I have found is that sometimes the lack of emotional connection, trust, and not addressing existing issues can mold and shape our romantic relationships.
On that note, I love to help couples who are experiencing a lack of desire, decrease in emotional connection, high conflict situations, difficulties with orgasm and erections, discomfort during sex, increasing pleasure, overcoming sexual abuse, infidelity, the feeling of falling out of love with your partner, trauma bonds, intimate partner violence and building effective communication skills.
My approach to working with couples is upbeat, honest, supportive, collaborative, out of the box, empathetic and nurturing to each person in the relationship.
I am Gottman Level 1 & 2 trained and love using this framework to support my couples. I have created a space where my clients can come to work on their relationship in a judgement free setting. This is the place where you can truly be yourself and be honest.
I understand that most people and couples are uncomfortable talking about sex. It can be challenging to open up about the most intimate parts of ourselves. I want you to know that talking about sex is normal and it can improve the quality of your relationship for the better.
You might be thinking that you’re unsure whether or not to start couples counseling. “When is the right time”? “Our relationship will eventually get better with time. “Our situation isn’t that bad”. My response is, why wait? Regardless of where you are in your relationship, every couple can benefit from counseling. I would love to help you reach your sex and intimacy goals.
My Favorite Quote as a Family Therapist
“People tell you the world looks a certain way. Parents tell you how to think. Schools tell you how to think. TV. Religion. And then at a certain point, if you’re lucky, you realize you can make up your own mind. Nobody sets the rules but you. You can design your own life”. – Carrie-Anne Moss
Client Testimonial For Individual Therapy: “Ebonee is a good listener. I’m open to her helping me figure out how to go forward. Looking forward to the next session.” – September 2023
This is one of my favorite quotes because I am a firm believer in individuality. As individuals, we all bring something new and innovative to the table. Carrie-Anne Moss inspires us to create the life that we truly desire to live, regardless of societal norms.
This quote can also be inspirational to children, teens and couples who are trying to create a life that they love according to their individually standards and what works for them. We are all uniquely made and we don’t fit in the same box. I challenge you to create your own set of rules and boundaries that you need to feel whole.
My Favorite Thing to Do on The Weekend
On the weekend, you can catch me checking out a new restaurant, bakery or food truck. I am a huge foodie and I love trying different cultural dishes and Instagram worthy foods.
I am also a huge fan of being outdoors and spending time with nature. On the weekend, you can find me hiking, laying on the beach, riding my bike or taking a walk outside to soak up the sun.
My Favorite Anxiety Coping Skill
When I’m feeling anxious, playing music is my go to. There is something about music that relaxes my mind and soothes my nerves. Music is an extremely powerful emotional tool that not only calms the mind but the body too.
Deep breathing as a coping tools for anxiety
Another anxiety coping skill that I use is practicing slow deep breaths. As a human being, sometimes we are constantly on the go. Being able to take even two minutes to stop and listen to your breathing can help put things into perspective and provide a sense of balance.
Fun Fact About Me
I am a Wedding Videographer. My Husband and I own a Wedding Photography & Videography business that we built together. I love to capture people celebrating the best day of their lives. Candid moments are my favorite, and they tell the stories of each individual couple. You can also find me singing any chance that I get. Expressing myself through song is how I get through the day!
Client Testimonial: “My session yesterday was great, no complaints at all. Ebonee really took the time to understand the situation and gave very insightful and helpful feedback.”
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