Have you found your spouse cheating, having an affair, and being unfaithful? Discovery of your partner’s infidelity is an emotionally devastating experience. Do you want a couples therapist who specializes in infidelity recovery to help repair the foundation of your marriage? Did you always used to think,”My spouse would never cheat on me,” and now the feelings you have are surreal? Do you go through many emotions including betrayal, anger, grief, shock, disbelief, sadness, and fear of it happening again? One moment, you feel nauseous, the next moment, you feel your heart pounding and tightness in your chest. At Wisdom Within Counseling, infidelity and betrayal couples therapy on Mercer Island, Washington can help you process this massive break in trust. As the betrayed partner, all the feelings you are experiencing including shock, surprise, loss, anger, mood swings, anxiety, and disappointment are normal.
Your mind races, as images of your spouse cheating run through your mind. You can’t concentrate at work. All your brain power is used to figure out how your honest, loving, caring spouse could betray you like this. Your spouse was the person knew and trusted. Working with our Wisdom Within Counseling, infidelity and betrayal couples therapists on Mercer Island, Washington can help you process and comprehend it all.
What are normal emotions when you find your spouse cheating and being unfaithful?
To start, at Wisdom Within Counseling, infidelity and betrayal couples therapy on Mercer Island, Washington can help you slow down the emotional rollercoaster that feels intense. At night, you find it hard to sleep, as you think about the heart break and betrayal of your spouse going behind your back. Laying awake at 3am, the betrayal triggers a profound sense of loss. You feel that you can’t trust your spouse anymore. The sense of marital security and the shared dreams that were the foundation of your romantic relationship are gone. It feels like the carpet has been pulled out from under your feet.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, infidelity and betrayal couples therapy on Mercer Island, Washington help you process grief, anger, loss, sadness, anxiety, and betrayal in healthy ways.
After finding your spouse cheating and lying, you feel sad. You wonder how this could have happened. Thinking back to the beginning of your relationship, before all of this, you remember feeling secure and loved. You remember thinking that you and your partner made other people jealous because of how much you loved each other.
But, now, you are mourning the death of what was. You struggle with the harsh reality that your person, your spouse, was once a source of comfort and companionship for you, but has become a source of emotional pain.
Sometimes, you feel angry like your spouse doesn’t deserve your loyalty to work through this together. At times, you feel like crying, full of self-doubt, wondering if you were inadequate or caused this in some way. You wonder why your spouse found someone else more attractive that you, and question your worthiness and desirability.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, infidelity and betrayal couples therapy on Mercer Island, Washington can help you process all the emotions you feel. Couples counseling with our infidelity specialists gives you a safe place to talk about repairing, restoring, and recovering trust wounds.
Our infidelity specialists at Wisdom Within Counseling on Mercer Island, Washington guide you in taking specific steps to rebuild emotional security and emotional intimacy after an affair.
The aftermath of discovering your partner’s infidelity is marked by a profound sense of emotion. You may have high’s and low’s. It is common for you, as the betrayed partner, to struggle with post traumatic stress disorder symptoms.
You are constantly hyper anxious about your partner’s location and whereabouts. As well, you struggle with feelings of humiliation and self-doubt. You wonder if you are somehow insufficient or unworthy of your partner’s loyalty.
Your spouse’s cheating and unfaithfulness has eroded your ability to trust them even with the smallest things. In general, it is normal to experience moments of anger, sorrow, emotional pain, and self-reflection.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, infidelity and betrayal couples therapy on Mercer Island, Washington give you and your partner a safe place to rebuild love, trust, and respect each other again. In couples counseling with our infidelity and affair specialists, you can talk about emotional needs and emotional security to rebuild trust and love again.
Infidelity and betrayal couples therapy on Mercer Island, Washington at Wisdom Within Counseling supports you in grieving the marriage you through you had, and working together to build a brand new one from the ground up.
In the midst of your emotional turmoil, you realize that the relationship you knew was a lie. Your marriage has irrevocably changed. You wonder if your partner wants to change for the better and grow with you.
As well, there is a small part of you that is curious to see what you could both be and do together, if your partner started being honest. Infidelity and betrayal couples therapy on Mercer Island, Washington at Wisdom Within Counseling helps you cope with emotional complexity of working together.
Our team of infidelity and betrayal specialists help your partner explore the root of lying, dishonesty, and why they withhold information.
By addressing the root cause of lying and cheating, couples counseling offers a platform from which you both can work together to rebuild a life after cheating, an affair, and betrayal.
One of the key pieces of infidelity and betrayal marriage counseling is to help the person who cheated understand why they cheated. In order to look at why someone lies and cheats, we have to look at why they don’t want to be vulnerable.
Why does this person lie and withhold? What are they getting from the affair? In a relationship, we enter in, often times being sexually monogamous. With that said, we know that cheating and lying happens in all relationships, even polyamorous relationships.
How can a sex addiction can be the root cause of an affair and lying?
Sex addictions like pornography addiction and chatting with live people online can contribute to the root cause of an affair. Having a sex addiction is often intertwined with complex emotions, personal histories, and relationship dynamics. When your spouse, who cheated, is grappling with a sex addiction, they may experience an insatiable need for sexual gratification.
To add, their sexual compulsions and addictive behaviors are commonly driven by underlying emotional voids, past trauma, or self-esteem issues.
In the quest to fulfill their sexual needs, your spouse might engage in risky sexual behaviors. Deep down, your spouse is seeking validation and a temporary escape from their internal emotional struggles through their sex addiction.
Within the context of your relationship, your spouse’s sex addiction can strain your emotional bonds.
Due to your spouse’s sex addiction, they may have had one or many extramarital affairs as a way to feed their sexual compulsions.
Furthermore, individual counseling can help your spouse process the internal guilt and shame from desperately trying to conceal and manage their sexual addiction.
Their affair becomes a manifestation of their ongoing battle with their inner demons. To add, their sexually compulsive behaviors not only impact themself, but also you. When one piece of the pie is sex addiction, your partner needs help shifting from secrecy and betrayal, to honesty. The first step is counseling to help your partner have an authentic relationship with themselves.
The consequences of your spouse’s sex addiction on your marriage are emotionally painful.
For one, your spouse can use counseling to process guilt and a sense of powerlessness over their sexual compulsions. As well, counseling can help them process childhood trauma. They can learn why they are numbing out through their sexually addictive behaviors. As well, couples counseling helps your spouse in recognizing the harm they caused you and how they broke your trust.
From your perspective, discovering your spouse’s affair can lead to severe emotional devastation, triggering feelings of inadequacy. It is normal to feel deep betrayal and elements of suspicion all the time.
In infidelity and betrayal couples therapy on Mercer Island, Washington at Wisdom Within Counseling, you both can process the emotional turmoil due to the affair driven by sex addiction. Your couples therapist can determine the other complex root causes of the cheating and affair behaviors too. As well, addressing these complex dynamics often requires a combination of individual therapy and couples counseling.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, our infidelity and betrayal couples therapists help you both understand and recognize the underlying issues contributing to cheating, lying, and affair behaviors.
How can infidelity and betrayal couples therapy on Mercer Island, Washington at Wisdom Within Counseling help my spouse stop lying and cheating?
Sometimes, a person learns how to lie from a young age.
Growing up, a person who cheats in their adult relationships, may have seen their parents lie. Having a parent who lied to them, can make them think lying and withholding information is normal. Growing up in a dysfunctional family home where lying is a common communication tactic, can make a person grow up to think lying is okay.
As well, if a parent demonstrates cheating, has affairs, and lies, a child may grow up observing these behaviors, thinking that it is perfectly ok to cheat and lie.
Often times, we have to look at our upbringing, childhood, and family of origin when repairing and bonding after cheating, lying, and infidelity.
Likewise, looking at how you were raised and how you grew up can give you insight and awareness onto who you are today. Commonly, people repeat generational patterns without realizing it. Infidelity and betrayal couples therapy sessions at Wisdom Within Counseling on Mercer Island, Washington can give you insight into your generational patterns. You can learn about which generational patterns you would like to break and which patterns you would like to pass down.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, in infidelity and betrayal couples therapy on Mercer Island, Washington, you and your spouse can talk about your upbringings.
Also, another reason why adults keep secrets and don’t share information is because they don’t know how to be vulnerable emotionally. Your spouse may have been punished for speaking up in childhood. In some homes, “children are not meant to be heard.” Growing up, your spouse, who cheated on you, may have had a high conflict parent that yelled and screamed.
From a young age your spouse learned to, “keep their mouth shut” and stay quiet in order to survive. As well, if your spouse said anything to go against their parent, they may have been brutally punished. Growing up in a home with a parent who was an alcoholic, yelled, was highly critical, and was narcissistic may have taught your spouse to stay quiet.
To this day, your spouse may continue the survival mechanism of, “keeping the peace.”
Unfortunately, this means that your spouse avoids conflict with you, doesn’t share their emotions, and hold everything in. Your spouse may feel like they are in a pressure cooker. And, they do not know how to express what they are feeling, which is where infidelity and betrayal couples therapy on Mercer Island, Washington at Wisdom Within Counseling can help.
Through the process of infidelity and betrayal couples counseling on Mercer Island, Washington at Wisdom Within Counseling, your spouse can gain awareness for their childhood survival mechanisms.
To note, this survival part of your spouse developed and learned to stay quiet to avoid conflict growing up. However, it is more beneficial to have an authentic marriage where both people can speak freely. Infidelity and betrayal couples therapy on Mercer Island, Washington at Wisdom Within Counseling can help you both have a voice in your marraige.
Additionally, your spouse may still feel afraid that they will face punishment, humiliation, or rejection if they speak up in your marriage. Fears of rejection may be preventing your spouse from being authentic and vulnerable with you. As well, fears of abandonment, of you leaving, may also be preventing your spouse from being vulnerable. Our couples therapists can help your spouse learn how to talk with you about their deepest vulnerabilities and fears.
Couples counseling on Mercer Island, Washington at Wisdom Within Counseling gives both you and your spouse a safe place to talk and hear each other.
Unfortunately, your spouse may fear that you will react in a harsh, aggressive, or angry way if they speak up, just like their parent did when they were a child. Infidelity in betrayal therapy on Mercer Island, Washington at Wisdom Within Counseling can bring awareness to the survival mechanisms that they developed. Overall, your spouse can start to talk about the trauma they experienced when they were growing up. To note, sharing about past trauma is a form of emotional vulnerability. Having a highly aggressive, angry parent can make your spouse withhold information to this day.
Societal shame and guilt
Additionally, there is suicidal shame and guilt around lying and cheating. Being unfaithful and having an affair can mean that you are ostracized from your religious group or community. There can be fear around speaking up. Within a social views, infidelity, betrayal, and cheating are looked down upon. As a result, there is shame and guilt associated with infidelity and cheating can make it more difficult for a person having an affair to speak up. Furthermore, they may have internal feelings of shame, guilt, low self-esteem, and worthlessness that they are playing out through infidelity.
Couples counseling specifically with our infidelity specialists at Wisdom Within Counseling on Mercer Island, Washington, can help you and your spouse learn how to be emotionally vulnerable.
As well, our Wisdom Within Counseling cheating and infidelity couples therapists will ensure you both hear each other. You can talk about emotional needs. As well, our couples counselors will pause you both if either of you become critical, harsh, interrupt, or cut each other off. We will pause you because we want you both to learn how to get comfortable having a voice and hearing each other.
Additionally, our infidelity and betrayal couples therapists on Mercer Island, Washington at Wisdom Within Counseling teach you how to be emotionally vulnerable with each other.
If anything, growing up, we learn how to be emotionally avoidant. So, learning to be emotionally vulnerable with our affair and infidelity specialists supports rebuilding a secure bond and love and connection together.
Couples therapy for infidelity recovery at Wisdom Within Counseling is a safe place to practice learning how to be emotionally vulnerable. Often times, growing up, the only emotion we see shown by our parents is anger.
At Wisdom Within Counseling on Mercer Island, Washington, couples therapy can help you unpack and process the emotions you may be feeling under anger such as loneliness, sadness, neglect, unwanted, grief.
Essentially, emotional vulnerability skills are a form of building emotional intimacy and closeness back. Many times, before cheating an affair takes place, emotional intimacy is lacking.
To note, this is like trying to make a brownie recipe without any sugar. A key ingredient for a healthy marriage is missing. But, you don’t realize it until after your partner cheats and lies for some time. You and your partner trying the best you know how, with the skills you were given from your parents and caregivers.
Couples therapy with our infidelity specialists on Mercer Island, Washington at Wisdom Within Counseling can teach you emotional vulnerability skills.
Together, you can both how to exchange emotions, even intense, difficult ones. We do not learn how to be emotionally vulnerable growing up. And, emotional vulnerability is important after trust issues and betrayals have occurred. Likewise, learning to talk about your emotions together is part of building a loving, meaningful connection after cheating, lying, and an affair. Our team at Wisdom Within Counseling on Mercer Island, Washington can help you have intimate, emotionally expressive conversations.
Additionally, when it comes to infidelity, cheating, and affair behaviors, we have to look at what it was like for your spouse when they were cheating. The stress of a long-term relationship can be overwhelming. This is no excuse to cheat. However, we do have to look at what your spouse was going through emotionally, leading to the cheating.
For instance, something may have caused your spouse to feel inferior or less then, and the affair partner was making them feel good enough and significant.
Let’s say your spouse was a man. Both of you wanted a child together. This put stress and pressure on sex, making sex feel like a duty or obligation. You were struggling with infertility for a number of years.
As much as you wanted to have a child with your spouse’s biological sperm, you eventually both chose to go to a sperm bank instead. Without realizing it, going to a sperm bank made your spouse feel insignificant, dissatisfied with himself, and personally critical. Keeping these insecurities to himself, he pushed on.
He felt low in his self-esteem, because he felt that he was lacking in the important biological aspects that other men have. His sperm was not good enough to make a baby. Your spouse may have felt emasculated that you both had to go to a sperm bank to have a child. Your spouse may have felt inadequate to be your partner.
Overtime, these feelings piled up. Someone at his work began complementing him, making him feel confident about himself. Overtime, this emotional relationship turned sexual. Again, this is no excuse for infidelity or lying. However, the reasons behind infidelity, cheating, and affairs are complex.
Our infidelity and betrayal couples therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling on Mercer Island, Washington look at affairs, cheating, and dishonesty at from a holistic view.
For instance, let’s say a female partner is the one who has an affair and cheats. Let’s look back a few years before the affair takes place.
She is in a relationship where she has a higher sex drive than her partner. And, she feels rejected regularly from her partner, leading her to feel defeated and not good enough. Her partner often pulls away when she tries to hold their hand, leading her to feel self-critical and insecure. As well, she finds herself feeling very alone and sad in her marriage. She wonders if she should diet or change her body weight to get her partner to have sex with her.
They have good times together, but, deep down, she struggles to tell her partner how alone in her marriage she truly feels. When her partner ignores her bids for affection and attention, she begins to feel insecure, questioning if she is attractive. She loves her partner deeply and wants the relationship to work. However, at work, one day she receives attention she has been craving from someone else. The affair partner compliments her and shows her attention in ways her partner never has, and it begins to feel good. This then develops into a physical affair.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, infidelity and betrayal couples therapy on Mercer Island, Washington can help partners understand the emotional side to a physical affair.
In couples therapy for infidelity, cheating, and betrayal, we look at affairs holistically. To note, our infidelity and intimacy specialists help you and your partner understand the issues snowballing that needing nurturing and attention, that contribute to the affair.
Notably, there is often a lack of awareness both partners have as to what is lacking in the relationship before the affair begins. Being in a dissatisfying relationship can create an imbalance and unhappiness for both people.
Overtime, this can create a crack in the marriage foundation leading to low self-esteem and insecurity.
Then, feeling alone, not good enough, and insecure become a breeding ground for infidelity. A person seeks validation and attention from other people outside of their marriage. And, the cycle of lying continues.
Additionally, there are different types of affairs. Some people have a one time affair where is other people have chronic cheating behaviors. There are also emotional affairs. Emotional affairs can be just as heartbreaking and wounding as physical affairs. In some cases, finding out your partner has been having an emotional affair and confiding in someone else more than you, can be even worse. Realizing your spouse has a deeper bond and has been sharing more of their emotional vulnerabilities with someone else can be very painful.
In infidelity and betrayal couples therapy on Mercer Island, Washington at Wisdom Within Counseling, you can learn how to build a better, more emotionally close relationship.
Marriage counseling on Mercer Island, Washington at Wisdom Within Counseling is a safe place to talk about the painful emotions you are both experiencing.
As the person who has betrayed, you may feel a variety of different painful emotions and even post-traumatic stress disorder symptoms. Couples counseling with our infidelity specialists can be a safe place to talk about your cultural values. You can both talk about your commitment to healing your marriage.
Additionally, you can share how shocked, betrayed, sad, frustrated, and disappointed you are.
Your spouse may also be need to express shame, guilt, humiliation, embarrassment, and more. Sometimes, the person who cheats is very angry with themselves. Your spouse, who cheated, may also be incredibly sad that they have betrayed you.
Couples therapy with our infidelity specialists can help your spouse accept that they acted in a way that was not authentic to who they really want to be.
How does infidelity and betrayal couples therapy on Mercer Island, Washington at Wisdom Within Counseling work to help us heal?
Additionally, we use a mixture of individual therapy sessions and couples therapy sessions. At times, individual therapy can help you both process the intense emotions you are experiencing. In individual sessions, you can emotionally process, regulate, and get grounded. And, a mixture of couples therapy sessions can help you talk about healing and repairing your relationship together. You can learn to express needs, desires, and values in ways you never have before.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, we use a mixture of Gottman marriage therapy and emotionally focused marriage therapy when treating and helping you both recover from infidelity and betrayal.
To note, the moment that you find out your spouse is cheating, you may be flooded with intense emotions. Anger is very common, but it is best to calm and center yourself before making any decisions.
Individual therapy sessions support emotional regulation skills through meditation and breathing techniques. In couples therapy, our infidelity specialists help you both communicate your emotions and needs and calm, effective, and clear ways.
Couples counseling can be a safe place to reduce and eliminate high conflict fighting and yelling after cheating.
If you find yourself yelling at each other after an affair, this is only going to cause more damage in your marriage. Right now, you may find yourselves interrupting each other and cutting each other are off. Unfortunately, you both may be speaking in harsh ways, and screaming at the top of your lungs. To note, taking part in these negative communication behaviors will only make matters worse.
Marriage counseling on Mercer Island, Washington helps ensure that you both are using calm, effective communication tools.
Even though there is a lot of emotional pain, it is essential to speak using healthy communication skills. In infidelity and betrayal couples therapy on Mercer Island, Washington at Wisdom Within Counseling, you both can learn calm, effective communication tools. This means we will pause you both if you speak in a way that is harsh, demeaning, belittling, or critical in couples counseling.
And, our team of In infidelity and betrayal couples therapists on Mercer Island, Washington at Wisdom Within Counseling will offer you an alternative way of speaking using an, “I feel…” phrasing. As well, our marriage therapists support you both in learning emotional validation skills and empathy skills.
How can infidelity and betrayal couples therapy on Mercer Island, Washington at Wisdom Within Counseling benefit us?
Couples therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling on Mercer Island, Washington can serve as a lifeline in the aftermath of discovering your partner’s infidelity. Our infidelity specialists offer you both a safe space where you can voice the complex web of emotions you feel. Both of you can learn tools and skills to rebuild trust, be emotionally vulnerable, and navigate loss.
To add, your decision to seek marriage counseling reflects a shared commitment to understanding one another better and healing together. Additionally, seeking infidelity and betrayal couples therapy means you both are acknowledging that the wounds of betrayal that run deep. You both see that it takes effort and reassurance from you both to rebuild trust.
In infidelity and betrayal couples therapy on Mercer Island, Washington at Wisdom Within Counseling, we give you both the opportunity to express your pain, remorse, and intentions openly.
Our infidelity and cheating specialists at Wisdom Within Counseling on Mercer Island, Washington help foster a sense of emotional vulnerability that can be transformative.
Your marriage counselor becomes a compassionate guide through this tumultuous emotional terrain. At Wisdom Within Counseling, your couples therapist will help you both explore the underlying issues that have contributed to the breach of trust. We provide a non-judgmental space where both of you can voice their perspectives, emotions, and experiences.
Your infidelity and betrayal couples therapist helps you both unpacking the layers of hurt, betrayal, and loss. You can learn skills for understanding and addressing the root causes of the infidelity. As well, your infidelity specialist and marriage counselor helps you confront difficult truths about yourself and your relationship as they arise.
In couples therapy, you can have authentic, vulnerable, and honest conversations, for the first time.
Often times, in life, we are not expected to be emotionally vulnerable. Your marriage therapist at Wisdom Within Counseling on Mercer Island, Washington can help you both identify when to validate each other’s feelings. And, you can both learn when listening or speaking may be better.
It’s normal for you, the person who was cheated on, to experience post-traumatic stress disorder. There’s constant anxiety, and either reassurance, shock, sadness, and tearfulness.
Individual and couples counseling can provide holistic, creative, and positive coping strategies.
For example, practicing self-care, exercising daily, doing yoga, finding hobbies you enjoy, journaling, meditation, and socializing with friends are all important.
Take good care of yourself when you find your partner having an affair and cheating
To note, when you find out your partner has been having an affair, you may try to numb out what you feel in negative ways. Or, you may want to disassociate from your intruding thoughts and feelings with drugs and alcohol. Unfortunately, having intense emotions may cause some people to turn to numbing, dysfunctional behaviors.
Unhealthy coping mechanisms include drinking alcohol in excess, smoking cigarettes, using drugs, and overusing prescription medication.
As well, do not go out and have an affair yourself out of revenge. Don’t bad mouthing your partner all over social media, or call their place of employment and badmouth them. Infidelity and betrayal counseling helps you make sense of your emotions and cope in holistic, creative, and positive ways.
What not to do when you find you partner having an affair, and how can infidelity and betrayal couples therapy on Mercer Island, Washington be a safe space?
With that said, it is not helpful to degrade, bad mouth, or belittle your partner behind their back to your friends or family. All of the betrayal, hurt, shock, and anger you feel is completely valid.
However, working with your partner, with a professional couples therapist at Wisdom Within Counseling, can help you examine the entirety of your relationship. Our team of infidelity specialists understand how to assess and help you both repair using evidence-based marriage therapy practices.
As well, no friend or family member, as well meaning as they may be, knows your marriage like you do. Many times, people give unsolicited advice.
Marriage therapy on Mercer Island, Washington with our infidelity specialists at Wisdom Within Counseling is your a safe place to process the feelings you have around learning your partner it was unfaithful and betrayed you.
Furthermore, friends and family might pressure you to leave in haste, or file for a divorce out of anger. However, couples counseling and individual counseling gives you a confidential space to reflect on what your marriage, love, and partnership means to you. It may mean more to you to work together to address what was happening before the affair took place. You can gain communication skills that you never had before from marriage counseling.
Through marriage therapy on Mercer Island, Washington at Wisdom Within Counseling, you can gain an understanding for your partner’s emotional needs and communicate your emotional needs more clearly. At Wisdom Within Counseling, you both can better understand how to create a new, healthy relationship dynamic moving forward.
Couples counseling after cheating is not just about navigating the betrayal, it is also about rebuilding and renegotiating a better, new relationship.
Overall, our marriage therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling on Mercer Island, Washington work collaboratively with you both to establish new communication patterns. Your couples therapist will ensure you both are communicating in ways that foster empathy and understanding.
This is a shared journey of introspection and healing. As you communicate in marriage therapy better than you ever have before, you both may discover unmet needs, unresolved conflicts, and communication gaps that contributed to the breakdown of trust. Couples counseling allows for the gradual reconstruction of trust and emotional intimacy.
From emotional intimacy, physical intimacy can feel safe and take place. At Wisdom Within Counseling, in infidelity and betrayal couples therapy on Mercer Island, Washington, you both get to learn skills for connection for a renewed, more resilient relationship.
In infidelity and betrayal counseling, your Wisdom Within Counseling marriage therapist will help you both talk about the affair.
Your couples therapist at Wisdom Within Counseling will help your partner show remorse and apologize. Taking ownership for hurting you is a key part in recovery. In infidelity marriage counseling, your couples therapist will guide your partner and aid them in tuning into your emotional experience of betrayal. Then, your partner can learn how their behaviors have hurt you and betrayed you on a very deep level.
As a result, your partner may then feel sadness, and become aware of the sadness and loss you are experiencing. From becoming aware of your emotional experience, your partner may also feel regret for their actions.
In infidelity therapy and marriage counseling on Mercer Island, Washington at Wisdom Within Counseling, you can both see your negative relationship patterns from an eagle eye view.
You can both understand the negative relationship dynamics that played a role in how rejected and lonely you both felt, which contributed to the cheating.
For instance, before the affair and cheating, you may have ignored each other. Or, you may have avoided each other, not talking about your core emotions. Perhaps, there was criticism that neither of you were aware of. Gaining awareness for what criticism looks like can help you both work towards a better marriage dynamic.
Perhaps, neither of you verbalized how much you appreciate the other. So, you were both left feeling unappreciated and unwanted, leaving a crack in your marriage for an affair. Sometimes, you resorted to giving each other the silent treatment.
At the time, you were tired, and neither of you realized that these behaviors added up overtime. In infidelity and betrayal couples therapy on Mercer Island, Washington, at Wisdom Within Counseling, our therapists help you reflect on your old marriage. To note, this marriage number one is the marriage you are leaving behind, and growing from. You are creating marriage number two together through marriage counseling together .
In marriage counseling, your partner, who cheated, may share with you how rejected and lonely they felt. Though this never justifies having an affair, you can understand their pain too.
In infidelity and betrayal couples therapy on Mercer Island, Washington at Wisdom Within Counseling, you can better understand each other’s emotional needs moving forward.
From couples counseling, you can better understand each other’s emotional needs moving forward. You can come up with strategies to focus on your marriage and prioritize each other emotionally on a daily basis. Just like you put gas in your car, prioritizing each other emotionally helps feed your marriage in a healthy direction.
In infidelity and betrayal couples therapy on Mercer Island, Washington, you can talk about sexual desires, sexual fantasies, and crate a more emotionally and physically connected bond than ever before.
Through the process of marriage therapy, you can explore forgiveness.
Forgiveness is a profound and deeply personal journey for both of you. As you learn about each other and the needs you both have, you can talk about forgiveness. Furthermore, forgiveness, is not something you have to rush into.
And, forgiveness doesn’t mean you forget the pain of betrayal. Instead, forgiveness is a conscious decision to release the grip of resentment for the sake of personal and relational well-being, and work together to build a new marriage. To add, your Wisdom Within Counseling marriage counselor supports you both in this emotional opening and delicate process. Forgiveness is about helping you both navigate the complexities of rebuilding trust while acknowledging the scars left by the betrayal.
Infidelity and betrayal couples therapy on Mercer Island, Washington at Wisdom Within Counseling offers a roadmap for marital transformation.
Ultimately, our team of couples therapists encourage both of you to evolve personally and within your relationship. Healing after infidelity and cheating means talking about emotions and emotional needs more deeply than every before. Additionally, doing couples therapy together shows your resilience, growth, and how you can heal together.
Through emotional vulnerability, empathy, and commitment to change, our team of couples therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling help you both emerge and create your marriage number two. From infidelity and betrayal couples therapy on Mercer Island, Washington, you can create a stronger marriage than the one you left behind.
From couples counseling, you both can gain a deeper understanding of yourselves and each other.
Infidelity and betrayal couples therapy on Mercer Island, Washington at Wisdom Within Counseling lays the foundation for creating a new relationship that is more authentic, compassionate, and based in emotional vulnerability than ever before.
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