Everyone gets angry. And, anger is a very intense emotion. Often, it comes with hurt, betrayal, loss, and abandonment.
But, what do you do when your child’s anger starts to become more than you can handle?
It’s not uncommon for children to have outbursts and meltdowns. At times, anger can get the best of all of us. Children, especially under the age of 7, don’t always know how to express anger and frustration. Therefore, creative, play therapy can help children and adolescents know what and how they’re feeling.
A child therapist steps into an angry child’s world creatively. Often, children won’t be able to verbalize anxiety or sadness. This lack of communication can make it hard for adults to understand how to help. Overall, when children don’t have the right words to fit with the emotion they’re experiencing, they may collapse onto the floor into a puddle of tears or a fit of rage. At Wisdom Within Counseling in Connecticut, the family therapists help children communicate their anger, anxiety, and worry. Plus, art, yoga, music, and animal therapies support healthy emotional expression for families in unique ways. One of our specialities is going beyond words. Overall, as creative, therapists, we offer other ways like art and music to communicate build confidence.
To get started with a free 30 minute phone consult, click the pink button. Let our team of holistic marriage and family therapists help reduce anger outbursts your children using outdoor nature therapy, play, music, and children’s yoga. These build self-confidence and self-esteem naturally!
What does anger and a temper tantrum mean for families and children?
To add, tantrums and crying fits are common for young children. Also, just because children are having a temper tantrum, it doesn’t mean that they have an anger problem. Even hitting and kicking, especially among siblings, can be normal behavior. Sometimes, boys will play fight and wrestle.
What type of anger is a sign a professional counseling is needed?
However, as children emotionally mature, their brains develop. Then, they begin to understand consequences better. Over time, some children may begin to learn that tantrums and physical altercations are not appropriate ways. And, these can be hurtful ways to express themselves. But, some children may continue regressing and have anger. Then, child therapy can be very helpful for understanding the root of frustration, irritability, and anger. Overall, anger outbursts in children can signal a deeper pain like grief, loss, or trauma. Therapy helps anger, withdrawn, high energy and anxious children develop an expanded emotional vocabulary, giving them better ways to communicate how they’re feeling.
To get started with a free 30 minute phone consult, click the pink button. Let our team of marital and family therapists help reduce anger outbursts in your children, support self-care for parents, and teach holistic, art and yoga skills for emotional confidence.
What is underneath childhood anger issues?
Sometimes, we see signs and fits of anger are going beyond normal child behavior. When that happens, there is likely something else going on. Any number of things can contribute to a child becoming angry. Also, children in emotional pain may show frequent crying, nightmares, panic, tearfulness, or hostile behaviors. Additionally, a history of trauma or being bullied can contribute to anger. To add, unresolved feelings following the death of a loved one or death of a sibling may linger. For children, a divorce or other major life change may leave them behaving poorly. Really, children with anger issues need positive coping tools to self-soothe. Also, anger outbursts in children are a sign child therapy would benefit your family. All of family stressors like divorce things can all lead to a child becoming so overwhelmed with emotions and feelings. Lastly, it comes as anxiety, emotional meltdowns, anger outbursts, and rage.
A child that feels anxious, depressed, or one struggling with untreated ADHD may also show increased irritation and anger. Anger outbursts in children are a sign therapy can help give your child a positive coping skill tool box for lifelong emotional success.
Having an angry child can make your life very challenging. Many times, emotional children tend to exhaust caregivers and challenging siblings. So, how do you know if your child’s anger is something to be concerned about? Here are a few things to look out for.
Now, is your child’s anger keeping them from enjoying activities that other kids enjoy? What about playing on the playground with other children or having friends over?
Also, are they unable to play or participate in a game with siblings without melting down, cheating, lying, losing control, yelling and being disruptive?
Does your child have a hard time connecting with classmates socially? Or, is making friends at school due to emotional outbursts or impatience hard?
Well, you are in the right place for help with anger outbursts in children. At Wisdom Within Counseling in East Lyme, Connecticut, we are a group of holistic marriage and family therapists. Now, if your child’s tantrums getting worse the older they get, our therapists can help. Often, it’s normal for a toddler to resort to tantrums. At times, children hit when something upsets them. But, that shouldn’t be the case for a child of 7 or 8. So, if you’ve noticed that their ability to express emotion in a healthy way hasn’t improved with age, call/text 860-451-9364 today.
As marriage and family therapists, we help children with anger express emotions. And, we offer creative, play, art, yoga, music, and outdoor nature therapies. In general, we are an LGBTQIA+ affirming practice. So, your child may be angry about their gender dysphoria. We specialize with children who are gender expressive, gender non binary, bisexual, gay, ender non confirming, and transgender. Sometimes, when ender questioning behaviors are criticized, children may show anger from the shame. Using art, yoga, music, and animals, we help children develop confidence.
Your child doesn’t accept responsibility for his actions.
If your child constantly blames you, or other children, for their outbursts, you may be dealing with an underlying issue. By age 5 or 6, children start to learn that there are consequences for their actions, and start to understand that taking responsibility for their behavior is important. If your child can’t—or won’t—do this, it may be time to dig deeper into why they’re unwilling to accept that responsibility. At Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching in Southeastern Connecticut, we teach creative emotional expression skills to reduce anger outbursts in children.
They can’t get control of themselves.
If it’s just a tantrum, you will likely be able to distract your child after a few minutes. However, a child that is consumed by his or her anger will not be able to calm down. Also, they will continue to scream and get increasingly more disruptive. And, they may even violent, until they exhaust themselves. At Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching in Southeastern Connecticut, we teach parents a new way, and children who are frustrated creative emotional confidence skills. And, it is one of a kind!
Do you start to feel like your family is being held prisoner by your child’s anger and outbursts?
Now, do you find that you’re walking on eggshells around your child all of the time?Or, that you’re afraid to take them out into public for fear they will get out of control? Again, we’re not talking about occasional temper tantrums. We’ve all seen (or been!) that parent in Target or a family gathering, who’s child is laying on the floor kicking and screaming because they can’t have a toy. Or, because they’re not ready to go home. Additionally, all children act out in this way at one time or another. But, if your child’s anger is starting to disrupt your daily life, there’s something more serious going on. Our team of marriage and family therapists in Southeastern Connecticut can help your family thrive. At Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching in New London County, the therapists teach creative emotional expression skills to angry children for better self-esteem.
Professional child therapy help for anger outbursts in children
If you’re reading this, and you’re starting to feel like there is something more serious going on with your child, it’s important to know that you’re not alone. At Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching in East Lyme, Connecticut, we can help. Our counselors use art, yoga, music, and nature therapies to help children with movement and play. And, when children have emotional outlets beyond words, your family life gets calmer.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, the holistic, creative, alternative, and playful marriage and family therapists help your family build meaningful connection and thrive.
Additionally, there are many things you can do to help your child with meltdowns. And, there’s support for you in family therapy. Often, caregivers of angry children bear the worst of the blows. Mostly, the safer a child feels, the more likely they are to direct their anger at you. And, this makes it even harder to figure out how to help them. So, a professional outside the family, a family therapist, can help. Creative art and holistic therapy helps anger outbursts in children stop. If your child is struggling with anger, here are some things you can do.
Often, anger outbursts in children mean they need self-esteem and communication skills. So, don’t try to reason with them.
Children do not have the sense of logic like an adult does. So, trying to explain to them why they should calm down is ridiculous. Don’t explain why what they’re doing is inappropriate, or it will just lead to more frustration. Your child’s therapist can help you learn what you need to do when they are angry to calm them efficiently, using nurturing.
Also, do not match their anger with anger of your own.
Remember, your child is feeling out of control, and if you start yelling, you will likely start to feel out of control. Also, do not try to physically hurt, restrain, or discipline them. To note, this is note effective parenting. And, more anger and physical contact will only escalate the situation. Instead, try to remain as calm as possible, and walk away if you need. As family therapists, we specialize in helping reduce anger outbursts in children and build emotional confidence.
Give consequences for the behavior, and not the emotion.
Once your child has calmed down, have a conversation with them about things that were said or done while he or she was out of control. If they stomped, yelled, or slammed doors, you may consider letting that go. Anger is normal, and if they acted out in a way that didn’t cause harm to people or property, it may be better to show them that you are understanding of how they felt. If they damaged things, hurt anyone, or said anything unkind to anyone, discipline that behavior accordingly.
Teach your children that apologizing is positive
You may require them to apologize to family members. In that regard, you or other family members may need to apologize to them, as well. If things get heated, any involved party who loses their temper or doesn’t remain calm, may need to apologize to the child, as well. And, this includes adults. To conclude, it is vitally important for children to see the acts of apologizing. Overall, saying sorry and displaying forgiveness is a lifelong skill.
To get started with a free 30 minute phone consult, click the pink button. Let our team of family therapists help reduce anger outbursts in children and teach positive, creative skills for emotional confidence.
If you are feeling overwhelmed by an angry child in your life, we offer holistic, creative, artsy family therapy. In addition to giving your child a safe space to process through their emotions, counseling also help them get to the root of their anger. Creative, holistic marriage and family therapists come alongside the parents for support and techniques to use at home. To get started with a free 30 minute phone consult, click the pink button. Let our team of family therapists help reduce emotional, anxious, panic, and frustration outbursts in children and teach positive, creative skills for emotional confidence.
