There are many reasons why couples need help in marriage and intimacy therapy. Is one of you always initiating sex? Do you feel apprehensive anytime your partner tries touching you as you feel pressure and anxiety to be sexual? When your partner touches you, does it feel aggressive or too rough? Are you feeling sexually rejected by your partner when you do try to be intimate? Fairfield County marriage sex and intimacy therapy is available at Wisdom Within Counseling for all couples.
Others reasons to reach out for Fairfield County marriage sex and intimacy therapy at Wisdom Within
Have stresses of life, responsibility, parenting, work, and caring for others caused your sex life to be non-existent? Do you feel sexual dysfunctions get in the way of a happy, pleasurable sex life? Are you struggling with an affair or worried your partner is cheating on you? Do you want to stay together and have a professional to help you both work through past hurt, betrayal, and trauma?
Marital satisfaction and sexual unmet needs are good reasons to start in couples and intimacy therapy
As well, are you both unhappy with the marriage sexually? Do you want to have a pleasurable, massive, euphoric orgasm, but it just feels so far away? Are you and your partner wanting a stronger, more meaningful, healthier bond and romantic relationship? Are you wanting to try something new together like role play, a new sex toy, or a new kink?
How can we help couples in Fairfield County through marriage, sex, and intimacy therapy?
Your partner might be struggling with sexual rejection or a pornography addiction. Couples come in for sex and intimacy counseling to have a safe place to talk about kink, BDSM, and submissive and dominant role play. Erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, painful sexual intercourse, issues orgasming, and sexual anxiety issues are all things we can help you with. At times, couples come to sex therapy because one or both people have negative thoughts about their own body image issues. If one or both of you have anxiety about sexual performance, this can definitely impact your sex life.
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At Wisdom Within Counseling, we help distressed couples work through a variety of sexual and marital issues from sexual dysfunctions to communication issues.
Additionally, our team at Wisdom Within Counseling help couples where one person is coming out as transgender, non-binary, queer, or bisexual. Sex and intimacy therapy also helps partners understand childhood trauma. Couples can being healing childhood trauma through a current healthy romantic relationship. We also help couples heal their sex life after trust wounds, affairs and infidelity. No matter what you and your spouse are going through, you are not alone and there is professional help to support you. This page is a great place to read about each of these marital, intimate, and sexual issues in detail below.
Have you lost touch with your sex life?
Do you feel stresses in life cause anxiety, overwhelm, and do you feel responsible for taking care of everyone? Often times, couples disconnect over the years sexually and loose touch with their intimate sex life. Additionally, many couples focus on parenting, childcare, and building on their careers over creating a healthy sex life. Parenting responsibilities, caring for elderly parents, making ends meet financially, and doing all the incessant laundry adds up. For a person to feel sexually aroused, they need to be mentally free from worry and free from responsibility.
Where does sex fit into a busy life? This is where sex therapy comes in.
You might feel torn between putting a toddler to bed, dealing with mentally ill parents, responding to work emails.
Is sex the last thing on your long to-do list? Do everyone else’s needs come first before yours? Right now, it feels like sex is the last thing on your long to-do list. As well, part of getting into sex and intimacy therapy is talking about libido, sex drive, and how to rebuild a healthy sex drive. And, at the end of the day, the last thing you want to do is have sex. It can be really difficult to improve your libido and sex drive when you feel exhausted, overly responsible, and there is always something more to do. If you and your partner if you’re too tired to be sexual together, this can also lead to arguments and sexual frustration. Making time for sex and touch in your relationship are parts of sex therapy counseling sessions at Wisdom Within.
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Fairfield County marriage, sex, and intimacy therapy can help you build a passionate sex life.
What is sex therapy in Fairfield County, Connecticut all about?
Has sex become boring and mundane? Do you want to spice up your sex life? Essentially, sex, intimacy, and couples therapy in Fairfield County, Connecticut is a process of learning to hear one another’s sexual needs. As well, couples can learn to talk about emotional bonding and emotional needs.
Sex and intimacy counseling helps couples talk about how to be flirtatious, fall back in love, and overcome different sexual dysfunctions.
After you you have been in a relationship for a long time, you might need encouragement and inspiration to explore one another sexually again. For one, you know something is off, missing, or it feels boring sexually. With the help of the team of couples therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling in Fairfield County, Connecticut, you can start to talk about how to spice up your sex life. Sex doesn’t just have to be intercourse or vaginal penetration.
Sex therapy offers sexual education about female pleasure that you never learned before.
Pornography is not proper sex education. But, that is where most people learn what they know about sex. Unfortunately, porn is not a good way to learn about foreplay or sexual pleasure. So, many couples have fun learning new things about anatomy and sexual pleasure in counseling. Also, sex therapy can include new sex toys, vibrators, lubricants, and new sex positions. You can start having more fun and incorporating sexual activities in new environments and spaces besides your bedroom. Often, couples need professional sex therapy help getting sexually alive, expressive, and exploratory. Sex and intimacy counseling helps you feel passion for one another and improve all parts of your relationship and marriage.
As a female, would you like help learning how to orgasm?
Do you want to experience a pleasurable, passionate, euphoric orgasm? Learning how to orgasm can be a wonderful part of sex and intimacy therapy in Fairfield County in Connecticut. Sometimes, females will wonder if they can even orgasm if they have never experienced one. Additionally, females need more time than males and penis owners in foreplay to be able to experience an orgasm. Therefore, sex education around the importance of foreplay in building sexual desire can be part of marriage counseling.
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Sex and intimacy therapy can help females get to know themselves sexually and learn to orgasm
Types of touch to support orgasming
In the beginning, in early foreplay, you might want to be touched delicately or sensitively on non-sexual areas of your body. Your partner, who lack sex education, may not know how you want to be touched gently first. Later, as you become more sexually aroused and more turned on, you might want more pressure or faster types of touch. Touch and the pressure of touch play a huge role in orgasming. Talking about the types of touch that feel aggressive, too rough, or uncomfortable are important parts of sex and intimacy counseling.
Sexual education from sex therapy on female anatomy and the importance of clitoral stimulation
In sex therapy, we also talk about the importance of the clitoris for female sexual pleasure and sexual health. Many times, couples do not recognize how vaginal penetration alone does not often support a female orgasm. Many women will often have an easier time orgasming from clitoral stimulation rather than vaginal penetration. This is not to say that women cannot orgasm from vaginal penetration. But, it is much more accessible for a female to orgasm through 45-90 minutes of foreplay, teasing, edging, nipple and clitoral stimulation. Increasing the length of foreplay to 45 to 90 minutes before vaginal penetration occurs is an essential part of support he female orgasm.
Mind-body connection is key for orgasming and female sexual pleasure.
So, attending sex intimacy therapy sessions helps females can gain mindfulness skills and self-awareness tools. A woman can learn to connect her mind into her body, which is a key part of orgasming. Instead of being worried about the stresses of life or mentally being somewhere else, female can learn to be in her body during sexual touch. Experiencing touch, feeling the pleasure of touch, and knowing what parts of the body a female wants touch, are keys to support the female orgasm. Learning how to orgasm can take the professional help your sex and intimacy therapist at Wisdom Within. From counseling, you can gain a newfound sense of confidence.
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Self-pleasure for females learning more about orgasming
There are not many safe places in our culture to talk about self pleasure and problems with orgasming. One of the ways to orgasm is to begin with self pleasure and masturbation. Take the time to touch yourself, you can get to know what your body likes and the type of pressure you enjoy. Sex organs are like muscles. If you touch yourself three times per week, your body will be more easily aware of what it feels like to be turned on and sexually aroused. However, if you old self-pleasure or touch yourself sexually once a year, your body will have more difficulty bringing blood flow and circulation to your genitals.
Sex and intimacy therapy in Fairfield County, Connecticut can help you have a more pleasurable sex life.
Sex and intimacy therapy can also help women and their partners und understand what foreplay means, explore the erogenous zones within the body, and spice up sexual activities that occur before penetration.
As well, you can learn how to orgasm, have multiple orgasms, and sexual pleasure. You can have a safe place to talk about sexual needs in a confident way with your partner.
Body image issues play a role in sexual health and a happy sex life
For all genders and ages, body image issues can lead to a negative, dissatisfying sex life. Sometimes, one person is struggling with body image issues or self criticism that takes the focus off of healthy sex life.
Body image issues can play a big role in sex life. If you or your partner is struggling with body shame or feels that you have to go on a diet in order to look better, these can all impact your sex and intimate life. Counseling in Fairfield County, Connecticut can help you gain positive coping tools and self-acceptance. You can learn about where these negative and limiting beliefs about your body image came from. Our culture perpetuates dieting, diet foods, protein powders, and tells people they need to lose weight in order to be good enough.
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Couples counseling can help you overcome cultural shame associated with bondage body image issues.
Many times, body image issues and diet behaviors develop in adolescent years. Without treatment in adolescent and teen years, these issues get stuffed away and resurfaced in couples therapy when exploring sex. Growing up, you may have seen one of your parents dieting or drinking shakes instead of eating real food to change their body weight or shape.
Eating disorders and self-criticism takes a negative toll on your sex life and your marriage.
Our relationship with food is an intimate one. When there is fear, anxiety, shame, and guilt with food, those feelings trickle into sexual health and sex life issues. Being fixated on calories, or always needing to lose weight can lead to brain fog, anxiety, depression, and make it very difficult to be intimate. Having a healthy sex life means developing skills of self acceptance and self-love in sex therapy counseling sessions.
The team of sex and marriage therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling can help you build self-confidence no matter what your body shape. You can learn to overcome body image issues, build body confidence, and improve your sex life in intimacy therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling in Fairfield County, Connecticut.
Better sex life and gain body confidence by working with the team of marriage, sex, and intimacy therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling.
Are sexual dysfunctions like erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation treatable in marriage, sex, and intimacy therapy?
For males, erectile dysfunction is a common a sexual dysfunction that sex therapists work with and help with.
With erectile dysfunction, males may have a low or reduced sex drive. A man may experience soft erections or trouble getting an erection. As well, with erectile dysfunction, a man will have trouble maintaining an erection. Unfortunately, erectile dysfunction leads to sexual challenges. This is because with erectile dysfunction, a man loses their erection and it does not last long enough for sex. Once a male experiences erectile dysfunction, he can use sex therapy and intimacy counseling to process fears of future sexual failure. Couples counseling can also help males manage and balance stress in life in general, which contributes to erectile dysfunction.
Is erectile dysfunction emotional and physical for men?
Yes, there can be physical components and emotions that contribute to erectile dysfunction. Along with physical aspects, like medication side effects, erectile dysfunction can lead to high anxiety. Negative lifestyle choices like not getting enough sleep, using drugs, or drinking too much alcohol can lead to erectile dysfunction. Not managing stress effectively and feeling overly stressed out leads to erectile dysfunction in males too.
Sex and intimacy therapy in Fairfield, Connecticut can support males and their partners in talking about emotions.
A man may feel guilty for not being able to please his sexual partner and be beating himself up emotionally. As well, with erectile dysfunction, a man may experience feeling emasculated or not masculine enough. He may fear his partner will cheat on him or leave the relationship due to sexual dissatisfaction. Therapy can be a safe place for partners to lower anxiety and take away sexual performance pressure.
Sex and intimacy therapy can help men overcome the shame, guilt, fear, and anxiety go along with erectile dysfunction
Emotions that lead to erectile dysfunction can include shame, guilt, worry, and anxiety and future sexual activities. As well, low self-esteem can be a symptom of erectile dysfunction. If a man experiences sexual criticism from his partner, this can compound shame, guilt, and anxiety around getting and maintaining an erection. Due to anxiety around sexual performance, a man may avoid being intimate. From working with a sex and intimacy therapist, there may be performance anxiety that men can learn to overcome underneath erectile dysfunction.
What is a myth that proper sex education in sex therapy can break?
Many times, couples think that with aging, sex drive should decrease. Erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, sexual dysfunctions, and female orgasm disorders are not a result of aging. But, that is simply not true for males or females. Anyone of any gender or any age can have a passionate, healthy, satisfying sex drive, libido, and sex life. Often, working with a sex, marriage, and intimacy therapist can help couples feel confident rather than anxious about sexual activities and intimacy.
Sex and intimacy therapy in Fairfield County, Connecticut can help you feel more confident overcoming different sexual dysfunctions.
We can help to overcome orgasm issues, erectile dysfunction, challenges orgasming, understanding female anatomy, or premature ejaculation. Sex and intimacy therapy can be a process of enjoying the pleasure of sexual exploration, orgasms, and, your sexuality.
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Can Fairfield County marriage, sex, and intimacy therapy improve communication in my relationship?
Communication that is calm, loving, and honest is key for a healthy sex life. Any argument that you are having can negatively impact your life sexually. Name calling can be challenging for building a healthy sex life. If your partner is yelling, putting you down, or blaming you outside of your self life impacts your self life. Couples therapy can help you talk about intense emotions like anger, fear, or jealousy in a calm way. Learning to overcome triggers by using effective, calm communication skills can improve your sex life.
LGBTQIA+, queer, same sex, lesbian, gay, transgender, gender questioning affirming Fairfield County marriage, sex, and intimacy therapy
Coming out as bisexual, transgender, or gender questioning can have an impact on you sex life. If you got married, and now your partner wants an open marriage, or is coming out as transgender, this can bring up a variety of emotions. Maybe, you found your partner cross dressing, putting on make up, or wearing different clothes and now you have questions and fears. Perhaps, your partner is bi-gender or two spirited. Many times, intimate partners do not understand what is going on when their partner has gender questioning feelings.
Further, LGBTQIA+ affirming couples therapy can help partners and family members become accepting and LGBTQIA+ affirming.
Generally, a lack of education around LGBTQIA+ can lead to fear and anxiety. You might feel anxious if you partner has just come out. We are LGBTQIA+ affirming to same sex couples, non-binary couples, and queer couples in Fairfield, Connecticut. Wisdom Within Counseling can be a safe place to explore gender identity, gender diversity, and consensual open relationships.
Fairfield County marriage, sex, and intimacy therapy helps couples talk about childhood trauma
Talking about past sexual, emotions, and physical trauma. Past sexual trauma can impact sex and intimacy. Experiencing sexual trauma can have a lasting negative impact leaving a person to feel afraid of sexual activity. Sexual trauma, molestation, sexual abuse, and rape have the potential to make someone stop trusting others. After sexual trauma, a person will no longer want to be sexual or intimate, or they will take part in reckless sexual behaviors. Childhood sexual abuse and sexual trauma can begin resurfacing once a person is an adult and in an intimate, romantic relationship.
Past experiences of sexual abuse and sexual assault can impact sex life.
A certain type of touch or even a certain smell that is a reminder of the trauma experience can cause a panic attack for PTSD flashback. Trauma responses can range from feeling repulsed about sex and sexual self-rejection, to hyper sexuality where someone become promiscuous and impulsive sexually. The team of Fairfield County marriage sex and intimacy therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling specialize in sexual abuse and trauma.
Sexual confidence after shame and guilt
Many times, couples do not talk about sex intimacy and instead they avoid this topic out of shame and guilt. Maybe, one of you grew up in a strict religious house where having sex was bad or evil. A strict, religious upbringing can lead to internalized shame and guilt for wanting to be sexual. Now, in your adult life and in your healthy romantic relationship, you have an opportunity to overcome shame and guilt associated with your sexuality.
LGBTQIA+ couples counseling can help same sex couples feel confident about their identity, sex life, and relationship.
Growing up, your parents might have told you that be being gay, bisexual or transgender was bad. When you are in a same sex relationship, it can feel really challenging dealing with oppression and marginalization from family. LGBTQIA+ couples counseling can help same sex couples talk about sexual needs too. At Wisdom Within Counseling, we help couples who are coming out and need help opening up the different parts of their sexuality.
Affairs, infidelity, cheating, and dishonesty are great reasons to start in Fairfield County marriage, sex, and intimacy therapy
Infidelity, lying, secret, keeping, or betrayals of any kind immediately impact sex life. Even if you feel suspicious that your partner is seeking someone else, this can lead to low sexual desires and a drop in libido. The mind is the beginning of building a healthy, passionate sex life. In order to feel sexually open, couples need to first create a sense of trust. Building emotional security is a key component of a healthy, satisfying, passionate sex life. If you feel apprehensive or like you can’t trust your partner, you body and mind are connected. Without trust, your body will freeze up and your mind will no doubt become distracted to the anxiety of the affair.
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What happens in sex and marriage counseling after an affair, infidelity, or cheating?
After an affair or infidelity, the partner who was cheated on often develops trauma symptoms, PTSD, and complex PTSD. They experience negative, intrusive, and obsessive memories. Trauma symptoms can include stomach pain, digestive issues, headaches, nausea, as well as appetite changes. A spouse who was cheated on may want to repair the marriage, but may also feel betrayed, hurt, angry, and shocked. The betrayal from the romantic relationship compounds with fear, anxiety, and abandonment from caregivers in childhood. When a person has an affair, and the couple wants to stay together, sex and marriage counseling in Fairfield County in Connecticut can help. From a therapeutic approach, an affair, infidelity, or cheating is a sign the relationship has had cracks in the foundation for a long time.
Couples therapy helps partners reaffirm their love for one another and begin creating a stronger foundation that ever before.
The person who cheated or had the affair needs to take steps to no longer make negative choices when feeling alone. They need to identify their triggers such as feeling alone, hurt, or feeling rejected. The person who had an affair or cheated need to make a choice and commitment to be honest when they feel rejected or triggered. Also, the person cheated and was unfaithful need healthy coping tools and strategies for when they want to self-sabotage or numb out again. Notably, couples counseling after an affair means the person who cheated needs to take full ownership, responsibility and apologize.
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If there have been any trust issues or an affair, these can lead to serious communication issues and sexual problems.
As well, the person who was cheated on need coping tools and strategies for their new PTSD and trauma symptoms. Counseling can help couples understand PTSD and how to cope in healthy ways. Sometimes, the person who was cheated on starts making poor, negative choices as a result of PTSD. As well, talking with family and friends can make emotions like betrayal and anger more intense. Couples healing from infidelity and affairs need professional marriage counseling help to process, talk about, and heal from the affair and infidelity. An affair and cheating are signs important components were missing deep down in the relationship. Furthermore, Fairfield County marriage and family therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling help couples gain the necessary skills to rebuild their marriage after an affair.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, we specialize in Fairfield County marriage, sex, and intimacy therapy
In Fairfield County, Connecticut, we support couples in Bethel, Bridgeport, Brookfield, Danbury, Darien, Easton, Fairfield, Greenwich, Monroe, New Canaan, New Fairfield, Newtown, Norwalk, Redding, Ridgefield, Shelton, Sherman, Southport, Stamford, Stratford, Trumbull, Weston, Westport, and Wilton, Connecticut. At Wisdom Within Counseling, we are a group of marriage and family therapists who offer video and in person sessions.
Through marriage and sex counseling in Fairfield County, Connecticut, you can create a healthy marriage and meaningful, orgasmic sex life.
Couples can use counseling to share a sense of playfulness and lightness in sexual expression again. Having a healthy sex life means taking the time in counseling to learn healthy communication skills and about one another’s sexual needs in counseling. You get professional tools and intimacy skills for building passion and sexual desire back into your marriage and relationship.
