Does your marriage feel empty, lonely, and you wonder if your partner still loves you? Do you feel like you can’t rely on your partner, and just can’t connect? Wishing you had a better sex life? Do you get into “knock them down,” win-win, fight, flight, or freeze fights with your partner? As well, does your romantic relationship feel you are on a small rowboat in like a vast, stormy, and troubled ocean? Do you feel like you are stuck in a vicious cycle fo conflict, tension, and arguments leading to the silent treatment and defensivness? Exhausted from your last couples therapists not being a good match, labeling you, or picking sides? At Wisdom Within Counseling, we specialize in emotionally focused couples therapy and help the most distant, high conflict couples rebuild connection, intimacy, and emotional bonding skills.
To begin, click below to book your phone consult for emotionally focused couples therapy to break your trauma bond and create a secure, loving marriage at Wisdom Within Counseling.
Do you yell and deeply wanting your partner to respond to you, but they give you the silent treatment and keep avoiding you?
At Wisdom Within Counseling, we help you and your partner break the cycle of vicious conflict. You can both become emotionally accessible, open, responsive, loving, and engaged rather than critical, defensive, or shutdown in conflict.
Do you wish you didn’t have to beg your spouse to love you or treat you well?
Our team at Wisdom Within Counseling help you shift from anger and frustration to deep care and emotional responsiveness.
Stuck fighting all the time? Unfortunately, many fighting, high conflict couples get into a cycle of disconnection where they trigger each other. You are pushing each other way, in the moment when you want to feel the most close, without realizing it.
Right now, you and you partner may get stuck in a cycle of disconnection, leaving you both hopeless, distressed, uncared for, and alone.
Wisdom Within Counseling specializes in emotionally focused couples therapy, which helps you create a secure, loving, and emotionally intimate marriage and bond.
Does you partner tend to be dismissive, critical, avoid you, and disengage in fights?
This is an incredibly painful for you when more than anything, you want comfort, reassurance, and connection.
Yelling, criticism, name calling, escalating conflicts, and defensiveness all lead to more disconnection.
And, as emotionally focused couples therapists, we see these behaviors as a cry for connection. Just like a young child cries for connection with a caregiver, adults may use negative forms fo communication as a cry for connection with a spouse. If your parents were narcissistic, neglectful, or abandoned you, you didn’t get the love, connection, and warmth you deserved in your childhood.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, we specialize in couples therapy using an emotionally focused couples therapy approach to create a more positive communication cycle.
Often, high conflict fights are a mix of unmet childhood needs and wounds being triggered, and a deep craving from your spouse for the connection and security you never got growing up.
We all want to feel wanted, desired, loved, and secure, especially with a romantic partner. Couples therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling is a process of learning about how your childhood influences your current communication dynamics.
From learning about emotional presence and a secure attachment style, you can have tools to build a long-lasting connection and overcome conflict. As well, in emotionally focused couples therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling, you can learn to care about each other’s emotions more deeply, rather than staying on the surface cycle of frustration and anger.
You can both learn to respond more openly, and develop a reliable, and closer bond in your marriage from emotionally focused couples therapy and marriage counseling.
To begin, click below to book your phone consult for emotionally focused couples therapy to break your trauma bond and create a secure, loving marriage at Wisdom Within Counseling.
Do you feel stuck in a trauma bond in your marriage?
A trauma bonded couple means you have a strong emotional connection that develops due to shared, intense, and often negative, angry experiences.
These trauma bonding experiences typically mean both romantic partners have experienced forms of childhood trauma, and past relationship trauma. As well as childhood trauma, there has been current relationship trauma such as abuse, betrayal, aggression, explosive anger, or significant emotional distress. Instead of driving you both apart, your shared trauma creates a powerful bond between you two.
Childhood trauma wounds get re-triggered in current arguments. And, trauma bonded couples tend to continue to wound each other deeply. A trauma bond is complex, incorporating elements of fear, dependency, and even a distorted sense of loyalty.
The dynamics of a trauma bond are rooted in the emotional highs and lows that come with traumatic experiences. Sometimes, you feel very, very close and happy. Other times, you feel distant, angry, and find yourself saying very hurtful things.
During times of crisis, you both may rely on each other for support and comfort, creating a deep sense of connection.
However, your trauma bond can also become toxic, as you both may find it difficult to separate from your relationship, even when it is harmful.
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To add, a trauma bond in your marriage can lead to a cycle of repeated trauma, where you both experience temporary relief when you come back together. But, you continue to face challenges that perpetuate the cycle of conflict and distress.
Breaking a trauma bond can be a challenging process, as it requires both of you to confront the underlying issues, verbalize childhood trauma, and make significant changes to your coping toolbox.
Professional support, such as at Wisdom Within Counseling where our team specializes with high conflict, trauma bonded couples in therapy, is often essential.
Our team of marriage therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling can help you navigate the complexities of your trauma bond and establish healthier, more loving relationship dynamics.
You can gain better communication skills. Ultimately, understanding and addressing your trauma bond is crucial for your well-being and your relationship. Emotionally focused couples therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling helps you break the vicious trauma bond cycle and instead, develop communication tools and emotional security.
How Does Emotionally Focused Therapy Help Couples In Therapy?
First, we start with attachment theories and understanding how each of you were raised.
When you grow up with narcissistic parents, who were neglectful and emotionally abusive, you have trust wounds. When you have a parent who was an alcoholic, you couldn’t depend on them. Or, if you had a parent who was cruel and verbally abusive, you walked on eggshells growing up. These childhood trauma experiences lead to anxiety about your spouse being dependable and reliable. Now, you crave security and connection in your romantic bond.
Childhood trauma can stem from relationships with narcissistic parents, and can lead to trauma bonding in your marriage.
And, having narcissistic parents has a profound and lasting effect on your emotional and relational well-being.
One of the complex ways in which having narcissistic parents manifests is through the concept of trauma bonding. You and your partner may be in a trauma bond because you both had having narcissistic parents.
Narcissistic parents often exhibit self-centered, manipulative, and emotionally neglectful behaviors. Growing up in such an environment can shape a person’s perception of love, trust, and intimacy.
Children raised by narcissistic parents may develop coping mechanisms that involve seeking approval and validation. Or, children may learn verbal and emotional abuse is normalized. As well, having narcissistic parents means children learn they are unimportant. You may have grown up with having narcissistic parents learning your own needs and well-being didn’t matter.
As you enter into an adult romantic relationship, the patterns of relating established in childhood can resurface.
To note, trauma bonding is an emotional connection that develops between people who experience intense emotional experiences together. In a trauma bond marriage, there are alternating cycles of love and affection, and hurt and mistreatment.
Here are several ways in which childhood trauma, especially with narcissistic parents, can contribute to trauma bonding in romantic relationships:
Familiarity and Comfort with Dysfunction:
When you both grow up in narcissistic households, you become accustomed to dysfunction, anger, and chaos. Consequently, you might find a certain comfort in mirroring the turbulence of your childhood. Or, if your partner is angry or withholds affection, that appears normal. Often, being in a trauma bond marriage feels familiar and ingrained.
Validation Seeking:
Children of narcissistic parents often learn to seek external validation. Seeking external validation is a way to cope with the lack of emotional support at home. In adult relationships, this validation-seeking behavior can lead to a strong bond with a partner. But, that external validation is intermittent, creating a cycle of emotional highs and lows in your marriage.
Fear of Abandonment:
Narcissistic parents are inconsistent in their affection, leading to a fear of abandonment in their children. This fear can persist into adulthood. You and your partner may be afraid of abandonment. As well, fears of abanondoment foster a deep-seated need for attachment and closeness in romantic relationships. Even if those relationships are unhealthy, you still seek to “make it work.” At Wisdom Within Counseling, you can both learn to build a secure attachment through emotionally focused therapy.
Manipulation and Control Dynamics:
Narcissistic parents commonly use manipulation and control as tools for maintaining power. When you and your partner experienced this dynamic in childhood, you may unconsciously replicate it. In general, you may be doing the same thing your parent did to you. However, passing down the manipulation generationally perpetuates a hurtful cycle of manipulation and submission. Instead of reinforcing the trauma bond, couples can learn healthy communication tools at Wisdom Within Counseling.
Difficulty Establishing Boundaries:
Growing up without clear emotional boundaries can be challenging. As a result, you and your partner to establish healthy boundaries in your marriage.
This difficulty can lead to an enmeshed dynamic where you and your partner become entangled in each other’s emotional struggles.
Breaking free from trauma bonds and healing from childhood trauma requires self-awareness. From emotionally focused couples therapy, you both can make a commitment to establishing healthier relationship patterns.
Professional help at Wisdom Within Counseling can provide the necessary support you need through emotionally focused couples therapy. You can both navigate the complexities of trauma bonding. Overall, in counseling, you both can work towards building fulfilling, secure, and mutually respectful connection.
Couples therapy with our emotionally focused couples counselors can help your partner learn how to support you in feeling safe, rather than causing more insecurity and rejection for you.
If you had a parent who abandoned you when you were a child, you may have fears of abandonment in adulthood and an insecure attachment style.
Couples therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling supports understanding attachment styles and how childhood experiences play a role in creating a secure bond in your marriage.
Emotionally focused couples therapy helps you regulate your emotions, improve how you feel about yourself, and creates positive change in how you and your partner respond to each other.
You can learn to turn towards your partner, so that your partner no longer shuts down or get defensive, but becomes receptive. As well, emotionally focused couples therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling supports transformative change in your marriage.
What are attachment styles in emotionally focused couples therapy and why are they important?
Additionally, attachment styles play a crucial role in emotionally focused couples therapy (EFT), a well-established approach to improving the emotional bonds between romantic partners. Emotionally focused couples therapy is rooted in attachment theory.
To note, attachment theory states that early childhood experiences shape an individual’s attachment style. Your attachment style impacts your adult relationships. If you had a parent that was neglectful, not responsive, and not present, you may struggle to create a secure attachment without marriage therapy. Being disconnected from your partner or spouse leads to feelings of anxiety, hurt, panic, and intense emotions. From couples therapy, you can learn to transform moments of disconnection and learn to turn towards each other.
Understanding attachment styles in emotionally focused couples therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling helps you and your partner identify and address relational patterns.
Essentially, you both trigger each other, causing emotional shut down. Couples therapy helps you both verbalize your vulnerabilities and fears to support more emotional connection in your marriage.
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In emotionally focused couples therapy, there are three primary attachment styles: secure, anxious, and avoidant.
Securely attached people typically have a positive view of themselves and their partners, allowing for open and healthy communication. But, any people don’t have a secure attachment style.
In emotionally focused couples therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling, your marriage therapist helps you strengthen and reinforce your secure bond with your partner. We start by encouraging couples to express their needs and emotions freely.
For those with anxious attachment styles, emotionally focused couples therapy focuses on reducing fears of abandonment. As well, our marriage therapists specialize in teaching couples more effective ways to seek comfort and reassurance.
Emotionally focused couples therapy helps individuals with avoidant attachment styles learn to engage more openly and empathetically with their partners. Doing so helps break down emotional barriers, fostering deep emotional connection in your marriage.
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At Wisdom Within Counseling, our emotionally focused couples therapists use various techniques to support creating a secure attachment.
We often use emotional attunement to help you and your partner recognize and respond to each other’s emotions, fostering a deeper connection.
Additionally, our emotionally focused couples therapists help couples explore and understand the origins of their attachment styles. Doing so offers insight into why certain vicious cycle of conflict and destructive communication patterns exist. Our marriage therapists guide couples through exercises and conversations that challenge negative beliefs and behaviors. From there, you can learn tools to create a more secure attachment bond with your partner.
Overall, attachment styles are a central focus in emotionally focused couples therapy. Learning about your childhood and attachment style can shed light on the underlying dynamics and struggles in your relationship.
By addressing these styles, emotionally focused couples therapy can help you and your partner develop a healthier and more secure bond.
As a result, marriage therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling supports a more satisfying, secure, loving, meaningful, and fulfilling partnership.
How can emotionally focused couples therapy be exactly what you need to stop the vicious cycle of fighting, and build a secure, loving marriage?
Sue Johnson’s Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) is a highly respected and evidence-based approach to helping couples improve their relationships. Developed in the 1980s, emotionally focused couples therapy is firmly rooted in attachment theory.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, we help you from the idea that your primary emotional bonds significantly impact your well-being and overall happiness.
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Emotionally focused couples therapy emphasizes the importance of emotional connection and secure attachment bonds in romantic relationships.
Essentially, emotionally focused couples therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling is structured around a systematic and structured approach, typically conducted in three stages.
The De-escalation Stage
To begin, the first stage of emotionally focused couples therapy focuses on de-escalation. This is where your Wisdom Within Counseling couples therapist helps you both identify negative patterns of interaction and communication that cause emotional disconnection.
As well, the de-escalation stage involves identifying each partner’s emotional needs, fears, and vulnerabilities, and encouraging them to express their emotions more openly.
Next, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy Supports Emotional Engagement
The second stage of emotionally focused couples therapy involves restructuring the attachment bonds by fostering emotional engagement and responsiveness between partners. Right now, your partner may be dismissive, and not know how to connect with you in times of need. Skills from marriage counseling can help your partner develop emotional intimacy skills.
Our marriage therapists guide distant couples in effectively communicating their emotions.
For instance, your marriage therapist will guide you in sharing your deeper emotions under anger and frustration. Doing so fosters empathy, connection, and understanding. This phase encourages couples to build secure attachment bonds by learning to provide emotional support and comfort to each other.
Lastly, Our Marriage Therapists Support You In Creating A Stronger, Closer Bond
The third and final stage of emotionally focused couples therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling aims to consolidate the changes made in the relationship, ensuring that the new patterns of interaction become the new norm.
Couples are encouraged to continue practicing their new emotional communication skills and to maintain the progress they’ve achieved in therapy. We teach you how to deeply connect, reassure and soothe each other. This way you can problem solve as a team better that you ever have before.
Emotionally focused couples therapy helps couples develop a more secure, lasting, and satisfying emotional connection with each other.
We pick up the ques in other people’s faces in milliseconds. Due to the mirror neurons in your brain, when your partner is frustrated, you also mirror that emotion. This is what makes a negative, vicious cycle when in a conflict. Your whole nervous system is build to tune into your partner.
Essentially, you either move into a coordinated dance, and build a deep connection, or go into self-protection and determine your partner as a threat.
Sue Johnson’s Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy has garnered recognition for its effectiveness in helping couples rebuild and strengthen their emotional bonds. It has been supported by extensive research and is widely used by therapists around the world. By addressing the core emotions and attachment needs of individuals within a relationship, EFT provides a framework for couples to overcome challenges, resolve conflicts, and create a deeper, more secure connection with one another.
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What are emotional validation and bonding skills that we don’t learn growing up when your parents withhold love?
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) places a strong emphasis on emotional validation and bonding skills as essential components of strengthening relationships. We often miss out on learning these when raised by narcissistic, emotionally abusive, neglectful parents.
Let’s consider an example of how emotionally focused couples therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling can support these skills:
Imagine a couple, Alex and Sarah, who have been experiencing frequent conflicts, sadness, frustration, and disconnection in their relationship. Alex tends to withdraw and become emotionally distant when they argue, while Sarah becomes anxious and demands reassurance. They both feel misunderstood, upset, and unheard by each other.
In an emotionally focused couples therapy session, your marriage therapist might start by helping Alex and Sarah identify their underlying emotions. Alex may express that he feels overwhelmed and inadequate when they argue.
Feeling inadequate leads him to emotionally withdraw to protect himself from feeling criticized.
Sarah would reveal that she feels unimportant and unloved when Alex withdraws, fueling her anxious behaviors. The more he withdraws, avoids, and pulls away, the more anxious Sarah becomes, craving connection.
Our marriage therapist at Wisdom Within Counseling would then guide Alex and Sarah to communicate their feelings and needs to each other.
Alex might say, “When I withdraw, it’s because I feel like I can’t do anything right, and I just want some space to calm down.” Sarah might respond with, “I get scared when you pull away, and I need to hear that you still care about me.”
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Emotionally focused couples therapy supports emotional validation by helping both partners acknowledge and validate each other’s emotions.
Alex and Sarah learn to express their feelings without judgment or criticism. This emotional validation helps them feel understood and accepted by their partner, which is crucial for secure, emotional bonding.
Emotionally focused couples therapy also promotes emotional bonding skills by encouraging partners to respond empathetically to each other’s emotions.
In this example, Sarah could express understanding and support for Alex’s need for space. And, Alex could reassure Sarah of his love and commitment. This back-and-forth emotional responsiveness helps create a secure attachment bond between them, enhancing their emotional connection.
In emotionally focused couples therapy, this process of emotional validation and bonding skills is repeated and reinforced throughout therapy, allowing couples like Alex and Sarah to rebuild and strengthen their emotional connection.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, we help you create more secure, close, fulfilling, and harmonious relationship.
When you are raised by narcissistic, emotionally abusive, neglectful parents, how does this impact your attachment style in romantic bonds?
Being raised by narcissistic, emotionally abusive, or neglectful parents can significantly impact your attachment style in romantic relationships. As well, attachment theory suggests that early childhood experiences with caregivers shape your attachment style. Then, your attachment style influences how you relate to others in adulthood, especially in your marriage.
In such challenging, abusive childhood environments, several attachment patterns may develop:
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Anxious-Preoccupied Attachment:
Children who experience inconsistent love and care, emotional abuse, or neglect may develop an anxious-preoccupied attachment style.
In romantic relationships, individuals with this attachment style often seek constant reassurance and validation from their partners. Deep down, you fear abandonment and rejection. You may become overly dependent on your partner for emotional support and struggle with trust and self-esteem issues.
Avoidant Attachment:
In response to neglectful or emotionally distant parents, some individuals develop an avoidant attachment style. You may have learned to suppress your emotions and needs, becoming self-reliant and independent. In romantic relationships, with this style, you may struggle to open up emotionally, maintain emotional distance, and have difficulty with intimacy and vulnerability.
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Disorganized Attachment:
Children raised by narcissistic or abusive parents may develop a disorganized attachment style. This attachment style can manifest as a mix of anxious and avoidant behaviors. In romantic relationships, with a disorganized attachment, you may exhibit unpredictable and inconsistent behaviors, making it challenging for your partner to predict your emotional responses.
Your attachment style is formed in response to your childhood environment and your bond with your parents. Having a challenging childhood environment influences your adult relationships, and romantic relationships.
People with narcissistic, emotionally abusive, neglectful parents and these attachment styles may experience difficulties in forming and maintaining healthy and secure romantic bonds.
If you had narcissistic, emotionally abusive, neglectful parents, you might attract a partner who replicates the dynamics of their early caregivers. You may struggle to effectively communicate your needs and emotions in romantic relationships.
However, with self-awareness and therapeutic support, you and your partner can work to understand and change your attachment patterns, leading to a healthier and more secure romantic relationship.
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What does it look like to create a secure bond through emotionally focused marriage counseling, after having narcissistic, emotionally abusive, neglectful parents?
Creating a secure bond through marriage counseling after growing up with narcissistic, emotionally abusive, or neglectful parents can be a challenging but transformative process. At Wisdom Within Counseling, through emotionally focused couples therapy, you can learn tools to build a secure, stable, meaningful emotional bond.
Here are some steps and elements that can help foster a secure bond after having narcissistic, emotionally abusive, neglectful parents:
Self-Awareness In Therapy:
In emotionally focused marriage counseling at Wisdom Within Counseling, both partners need to develop self-awareness and an understanding of how their upbringing has influenced them.
Your childhood leads to specific attachment styles and behaviors in your relationship.
Recognizing the impact of narcissistic, abusive, or neglectful parents is the first step toward change.
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Communication Tools In Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling:
Effective communication is crucial.
Developing active listening skills is equally important, ensuring that both partners feel heard and validated.
Marriage counseling can help partners learn how to express their feelings, needs, and concerns openly and honestly.
Overall, emotionally focused couples therapy plays a vital role in helping partners feel heard and validated within their relationship. One key aspect of this is improving communication.
In emotionally focused couples therapy, couples learn effective communication skills, such as active listening, empathy, and non-defensive responding.
Wisdom Within Counseling marriage therapists guide partners in expressing their thoughts, emotions, and needs in a way that promotes understanding and validation.
On the other hand, moments of disconnection and fighting are seen in the brain as threats, danger, and self-protection, due ot fears of rejection and fears of abandonment.
This helps each partner feel that their perspective and feelings are being acknowledged and respected.
Another significant element of couples therapy is providing a neutral and safe space for partners to express themselves.
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Our Wisdom Within Counseling marriage therapists serve as a neutral mediator, ensuring that both partners have an equal opportunity to voice their concerns and feelings without judgment or blame.
This safe environment encourages partners to be more open and vulnerable, leading to greater emotional connection and validation.
Generally, emotionally focused couples therapy also helps you and your partner identify and address underlying issues that may be hindering validation and understanding within your relationship.
By delving into the root causes of conflicts and exploring each partner’s attachment styles, past traumas, and personal histories, couples can gain a deeper understanding of why certain patterns exist.
To note, the ways in which you and your partner a fighting, as destructive as it is, makes sense based on the trauma you have both endured.
Trauma puts your nervous system in fight, flight, and freeze, leading to disconnection and withdrawal. From emotionally focused couples therapy, you and your partner can learn, for the first time in your lives, to create a secure attachment.
This insight fosters empathy and compassion, allowing partners to validate each other’s experiences and emotions, ultimately strengthening their bond.
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Emotional Regulation Tools:
When you grow up in an emotionally abusive or neglectful household, you may struggle with emotional regulation. Your nervous system learns to be anxious and self-protective at a very young age.
Essentially, emotionally focused couples therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling can help you create emotional balance.
Marriage counseling at Wisdom Within Counseling can teach techniques for managing and expressing emotions in a healthy and constructive manner. Doing so helps reduce high conflict fights, emotional outbursts, or emotional withdrawal.
You and your partner can become each other’s safe haven through emotionally focused couples therapy.
Couples therapy is a valuable context for partners to develop emotional regulation tools.
Marriage counseling provides a structured, supportive environment for understanding and managing intense emotions.
Our emotionally focused couples therapists at Wisdom Within Counseling assist couples in several ways to enhance their emotional regulation skills.
Firstly, emotionally focused couples therapy helps you and your partner identify your emotional triggers, attachment style, childhood, and trauma patterns.
By exploring the origins of emotional reactions, such as past traumas or attachment styles, you both gain insight into why they react the way you do.
This self-awareness is a crucial step in learning how to regulate emotions effectively.
Secondly, our Wisdom Within Counseling therapists teach practical tools and strategies for emotional regulation. Art, painting, yoga, meditation, and music therapies are available at Wisdom Within Counseling.
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Self-regulation tools may include deep breathing exercises, mindfulness techniques, and cognitive reframing.
Couples in emotionally focused therapy learn how to recognize when their emotions are escalating. Then, you can employ these self-regulation strategies to de-escalate and manage intense feelings in the moment.
Lastly, at Wisdom Within Counseling, our team offers couples a safe space. Essentially, you both get to practice these newly acquired emotional regulation tools.
During sessions, you both can apply what you’ve learned in real-time, addressing emotional conflicts as they arise.
To note, this hands-on experience allows you and your partner to refine your skills and gain confidence in your ability to regulate your emotions effectively, both individually and within the context of your relationship.
Over time, these self-regulation tools become more integrated into your daily life, contributing to healthier and more harmonious conversations.
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Boundary Setting:
Setting healthy boundaries is essential in any relationship.
Marriage counseling guides you both in defining and respecting each other’s boundaries. From there, couples therapy helps ensure that each person’s needs for personal space and autonomy are met.
Healing Complex Trauma (C-PTSD) In Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy:
In many cases, individuals who grew up with narcissistic, abusive, or neglectful parents may carry unresolved trauma.
Marriage counseling can provide a safe space to address and process these past wounds, promoting emotional healing and resilience.
Re-Building Trust In Marriage Counseling:
Trust is a fundamental component of secure attachments. From emotionally focused couples therapy, you can learn to support trust through emotional presence. Knowing your partner will be there, for you to reply on, especially in key moments, builds trust.
Each of us need belonging, safety, and connection, especially from a signifiant other. When you and your partner feel distant and disconnected, your brain craves connection and reassurance from your partner. From emotionally focused couples therapy, you both can learn to foster trust through specific strategies regarding emotional presence.
Marriage counseling at Wisdom Within Counseling can help you both work on rebuilding trust. You can do so through consistent and reliable emotionally present behavior. We help you communicate honestly and lovingly.
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Secure Attachment Building Tools:
Marriage therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling often incorporates attachment theory principles. Our Wisdom Within Counseling team helps distant couples identify their attachment styles and understand how these influence their relationship dynamics. Being able to tune into your partner’s emotions helps invite your partner closer, fostering connection.
Couples can work together to create a more secure emotional bond. In marriage therapy, we help you provide each other with emotional support, comfort, and responsiveness.
If you struggle to give each other with emotional support, you have never had good teachers. As well, you may struggle to comfort your partner. This struggle can be from having emotionally neglectful parents, or emotionally abusive parents. You may have learned in childhood that your partner wouldn’t respond to you, and didn’t tune into your emotional needs. So, part of emotionally focused couples therapy is learning to create emotional presence. Overall, empathy, security and connection in your marriage are possible. Building a secure bond in your marriage helps heal childhood trauma.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, you can learn to be there for each other with emotional support, love, comfort, and responsiveness.
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Self-Care:
Encouraging self-care practices is crucial for a happy marriage and a part of couples counseling. From self-love and self-care, you can feel emotionally replenished and full to give to your partner. We can’t give from a burnout space or empty cup. Individually, each person needs healthy routines around sleep, meals, and relaxation time to feel centered and grounded.
How can personal stress lead to high conflict fights in your marriage?
If you both are working long hours, you may be exhausted by the end of the day. Wen you show up to your marriage, with a low battery, conflicts become much more common and intensify.
As well, if you are depleted emotionally from parenting, self-care may look like having time by yourself. Maybe, you skip meals and live off caffeine at work, so you come home emotionally burnout and hungry. As well, having aging, sick parents, or loved ones who have passed away can lead to challenges in your marriage.
You may be suffering from grief and loss. Grief and loss experiences are personal stressors that can lead you to feel emotionally burnout, leading to more marital fights. You may be fighting and at each other’s throats. It can be because you both are tired, hungry, and emotionally burnout from personal stressors.
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From marriage counseling, both you and your partner can learn to prioritize your individual well-being and happiness. In turn, self-care time enhances the health of your marriage and relationship.
Creating a secure bond in the context of a history of narcissistic, abusive, or neglectful parenting requires effort, time, and patience.
Marriage counseling offers a structured and supportive environment for you both to work through your issues, heal from past traumas, and develop the skills needed to build a stronger, healthier, and more secure attachment in your relationship.
Where does Wisdom Within Counseling help distant couples?
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Couples therapy can help you create safety emotionally in your relationship, so you can play, feel connection, and have fun together.
Furthermore, you can gain tools and skills to talk about triggering, intense subjects. For instance, these may include topics like conflict, intimacy, sex, religion, money, and parenting values calmly.
Couples therapy with our trauma bond specialists can help you break the cycle of disconnection. You don’t have to feel so alone, rejected, or hopeless in your marriage. When your spouse tends to be dismissive, avoid you, and disengage emotionally, our Wisdom Within Counseling team can help.
You wish your partner would comfort you and reassure you more.
Right now, in fights, you find yourself overwhelmed crying alone. You wish your spouse knew what you needed to feel safe and close.
More often than not, in conflicts, you feel pushed out, shut out and like your partner withdrawals. You want to feel like you are valued, important, loved, and desired. Couples counseling with our trauma bond specialists can help you feel appreciated. Your partner can learn to acknowledge all the things you do for your relationship.
Emotionally focused couples therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling can help you and your partner be vulnerable, verbalize fears abanondoment and rejection, and turn towards each other rather than away.
Right now, it is so painful when your partner is dismissive, avoids you, and disengages, especially when you want to feel close and comforted.
To note, the high conflict fights you have get out of hand. You want professional help to break the cycle of trauma bonding, and create a loving, safe marriage.
Working with an emotionally focused couples therapist who specializes in trauma bonds can be immensely beneficial when you are facing challenges related to shared traumatic experiences.
Here are several ways in which our team of emotionally focused couples therapists who specialize in trauma bonds at Wisdom Within Counseling can help:
Identifying and Understanding Trauma Bonds Through Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy:
Our team of emotionally focused couples therapists who specialize in trauma bonds at Wisdom Within Counseling can help you and your partner recognize and understand the dynamics of the trauma bond in your relationship.
By exploring the origins of the bond and its impact on your interactions, your trauma specialist and couples counselor can provide insights into your conflict patterns. These are patterns that contribute to your vicious cycle of distress.
Building Emotional Awareness:
Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) at Wisdom Within Counseling emphasizes the importance of emotional awareness and expression. Our team of emotionally focused couples therapists who specialize in trauma bonds at Wisdom Within Counseling can assist you and your partner in identifying and communicating your emotions effectively. This increased emotional intelligence can be pivotal in breaking the cycle of trauma and fostering healthier ways of relating to each other.
Promoting Secure Attachment:
EFT is rooted in attachment theory, which highlights the significance of secure emotional bonds in relationships. Your emotionally focused marriage therapist will work to create a secure therapeutic environment. As well, your couples counselor will help you and your partner feel safe enough to explore vulnerabilities and share your feelings. This can contribute to the development of a more secure attachment within your relationship.
Restructuring Relationship Dynamics:
A key goal of emotionally focused therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling is to reshape the way partners interact with each other. By addressing underlying issues and challenging negative patterns, your emotionally focused couples therapist can guide you in establishing healthier communication and connection. This process involves learning new ways of responding to each other’s needs and creating a more supportive and understanding partnership.
Healing and Moving Forward with Our Emotionally Focused Couples Therapists who Specialize in Trauma Bonds at Wisdom Within Counseling
To note, trauma-focused couples therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling aims not only to understand the impact of past traumas but also to facilitate healing and growth.
Overall, our emotionally focused couples therapists who specialize in trauma bonds at Wisdom Within Counseling can help you and your partner develop coping strategies.
As well, you can feel a sense of resilience, and create a shared vision for the future. This forward-looking approach supports you both in moving beyond the constraints of the trauma bond and building a more positive and fulfilling relationship.
In summary, working with an emotionally focused couples therapist who specializes in trauma bonds can offer a structured and supportive space for couples to navigate the complexities of their shared experiences. Through exploration, emotional awareness, and skill-building, the therapy can pave the way for healing, improved communication, and the establishment of a stronger, more secure connection between partners.
Marriage counseling with our team of specialists can help you both develop a secure, positive connection that you deserve.
In counseling, you can learn skills to better understand your childhood, create loving conversations, and learn about your attachment style.
From emotionally focused couples therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling, you can build a secure, loving bond in your marriage, and gain tools to repair deep hurts.
