In Farmington, Connecticut, there are not many couples therapist who understand trauma and conflict cycles. This takes special training in couples and relationship counseling. The team at Wisdom Within Counseling have a passion for helping distant, fighting, upset couples. If you are experiencing conflicts at home with your romantic partner, holistic couples therapy in Farmington, Connecticut can help you develop a more meaningful relationship. As well, there are stressors like having a sibling who has a substance use disorder. Or, if you struggle with disordered eating or hectic work schedules, your relationship may suffer. If your spouse is cheating on you, keeping secrets, or lying about spending money, you may want couples counseling. Below are some reasons why couples become distant and may need counseling.
To begin, book a phone consult below for couples therapy in Farmington, Connecticut.
Has your relationship become boring?
You may have been dating for a while now and have recently gotten married, and it feels the same old same life. It might feel boring being together. Essentially, you do the same thing, work, school, and sleep. There is no sense of “We” or togetherness anymore. For others, you may have been married for a long time and feel that things need to change. There is no playfulness anymore and it is sad. Sometimes, you feel ignored or forgotten about. Other times, you feel taken for granted. No matter what, arguments become escalated and hurtful words are said. Anger, frustration, yelling, criticism, and negative hurtful comments happen frequently. So, when you fight, it never ends well.
What is a trauma bond in couples therapy in Farmington, Connecticut?
When you have a good connection, it goes really well. You have a good day together and feel safe. However, when you get into an argument or a fight, it is awful and horrible. For couples in a trauma bond, there are high and low moments. And, there is not a real sense of stability or security. In a trauma bond, there are feelings of hurt, betrayal, and loss fueling the connection. Trauma bonding also relates to childhood trauma. Often, if you didn’t get love as a child or had to take care of your siblings, you may crave love more now. As well, in a trauma bond, you may feel intense emotions for the other person. Trauma bonding and understanding trauma bonds are a part of couples counseling at Wisdom Within.
Do you want to work through it and stay together?
At the end of the day, when you think about your relationship, you want to stay together. The good times remind you of how much you want to stay together. Essentially, you know there is hope with the help of a professional therapist. But, the bad times make you feel hopeless and want to quit. Sometimes, you just want to be free from all the emotional pain, suffering, guilt, and anger. Holistic couples therapy in Farmington, Connecticut helps you gain perspective on this cycle. From therapy, you can learn about the cycles of conflict. And, you can learn tools to use to break the conflict and negative mindset that occurs.
It can be stressful having sick family members.
Being married is not as easy as everyone told you it would be. Additionally, being married means watching your partner go through painful losses. You may also have losses and griefs of your own. Miscarriages, infertility, losing a parent, loss of a child, and pet loss are major stressors for couples. As well, both of you having different family members with mental health issues creates stress. There may be important decisions and choices you both need to make together. Losses and grief are really painful to think about, but couples therapy can promote shared healing.
Additionally, you want couples therapy in Farmington, Connecticut because some of your conflicts have gotten to the point of being very intense and physical.
Essentially, if your fights have gotten to the point of pushing or shoving, you need couples therapy immediately. Couples need healthy coping skills on a personal level. Any signs of pushing, shoving, yelling, or intense anger means coping tools are lacking. Essentially, couples counseling teaches both people how to calmly share emotions. And, it is easier to be mad, yell, slam a door, or drive recklessly. You may not know how to handle yourself when angry or triggered with rage.
Couples counseling supports healthy anger outlets and communication tools.
You don’t like the side of you that comes out when you yell. But, you don’t know how to communicate or get your partner to understand you any other way. It feels overwhelming thinking about talking. Relationship conflicts should never get physical. If there are any instances of domestic violence, this means that you both need better communication skills. Holistic couples therapy in Farmington, Connecticut teaches better communication skills.
As well, you may be suffering from anxiety, fear, betrayal, jealousy, or anger.
When you have these intense emotions, it is hard for your relationship to feel like it is going smoothly. Anger prevents intimacy. And, anxiety does too. Couples counseling teaches skills for communicating anger, anxiety, worry, and fear. People commonly hold their emotions in, but this prevents intimacy. As well, when relationship conflicts arise, you both tend to get very bitter for days afterwards. The silent treatment, anger, and resentment pileup. And, harboring bitterness takes away from positive moments in the present that you can have. Working in couples counseling at Wisdom Within supports repairing after a fight.
To begin, book a phone consult below for couples therapy in Farmington, Connecticut.
Do you sleep separately out of hurt and anger, and want to build playfulness again?
You both sleep in separate beds. As well, you avoid talking. And, you avoid interacting or communicating for days out of fear it will get even worse. Learning how to resolve conflict especially in your home environment, can be a great tool. In addition, talking about emotions openly is an important communication tool. You can learn to feel closer and overcome anger and trauma together. Communication skills also trickle down to your children in positive ways too. As well, learning to resolve conflicts in a healthy way can help you understand what your partner is feeling. You might both feel unheard and angry in a conflict. At Wisdom Within Counseling, you can work with a guide to gain understanding, empathy, and compassion for each other.
So, couples therapy in Farmington, Connecticut can help you learn how to talk about angry feelings calmly.
Also, couples therapy in Farmington, Connecticut can help when you and your spouse may want to open your marriage.
Consensual non-monogamy, LGBTQIA+ and sex can be parts of marriage counseling. Additionally, you may want to talk about sex. You may have fears that you have around intercourse or trying different sexual activities. You may have questions about opening your relationship. For one, you may want to set boundaries around opening your marriage. As well, marriage counseling provides a safe space for sexual questions. Many people have sexual questions and couples therapy in Farmington, CT can help. For instance, you may not like giving oral sex. Couples therapy can provide playful ways to try to sexual acts. Maybe, female pleasure is confusing. Or, you want to try a new position, but are afraid to bridge the topic with your partner. Maybe, you feel rejected sexually or they are always too tired to make love.
No matter the marital or sexual issue, our team at Wisdom Within Counseling can help.
Therefore, talking with your holistic marriage therapist at Wisdom Within Counseling can help you find strategies to rebuild love. Essentially, working with your marriage counselor in Farmington, CT can help you talk about the areas of your relationship that need repair. Furthermore, you can have conversations you might not be able to have anywhere else. We know that you don’t want to talk about your sex life with your parents or friends. And, doing so would actually take away from your marriage in a negative way. Marriage counseling in Farmington, Connecticut supports couples in building trust, emotional intimacy, and passion.
Is sex no longer satisfying? So, talking with your couples therapist can improve playfulness and satisfaction in your sex life.
Fears around getting pregnant again, or even challenges with infertility can play a big role in sexual intimacy. If there have been trust issues or betrayals in the past, it is normal to feel apprehensive about being sexual. Sometimes, couples stop having sex. Then, they distance more and begin sleeping in separate bedrooms. A lot of times, there are emotions and feelings underneath sexual activities that never get talked about. In marriage therapy in Farmington, CT, you can talk about your sexual desires and goals.
We work regularly with trans gender, gender questioning, non-binary, queer, same-sex, gay, bisexual, and demi romantic individuals and couples.
Marriage counseling can help you if you are questioning your gender and want to safe place to talk about this with your partner. Your spouse’s sexual orientation or gender identity may be evolving. Sometimes, these gender identity evolutions can be confusing, scary, exciting, and surprising all at the same time. Being in a same-sex marriage can also mean you ned your own cheerleader and couples therapist. Especially when same-sex couples face family rejection, our team at Wisdom Within Counseling can help. We are LGBTQIA+ affirming couples therapists.
Is your partner cheating or keeping a secret?
In Farmington, Connecticut, you may also have suspicions that your partner might be cheating. Any lies can lead to trust issues and cracks in your relationship. Essentially, it hurts anytime you catch your partner hiding something from you. Wether you have suspicions that your spouse is emotionally or physically cheating, marriage counseling in Farmington, Connecticut can help. The might be more aloof or depressed. Your partner might acting in untrustworthy ways. As well, you may have caught your partner keeping secrets or lying to you about who they’re talking to you were texting. Marriage therapy can be a safe place to rebuild the elements of honesty, mindfulness, and emotional connection.
So, couples counseling in Farmington, Connecticut allows you to communicate feelings of betrayal and hurt in a healthy way.
Working with a Farmington, CT marriage therapist can help you develop hope for a positive relationship.
Do you have crazy work schedules?
Some weeks, it feels like you are two ships passing in the night. You never get a hug or even a kiss anymore. Not seeing each other or having time together leads to distance. And, physical intimacy and sex life is deeply decreasing. Working with a couples therapist in Farmington, Connecticut can help you get your relationship back to being in a good place. Additionally, relationship therapy can help you develop passion and emotional intimacy with your romantic partner.
To begin, book a phone consult below for couples therapy in Farmington, Connecticut.
Talking about trauma is a big part of couples therapy.
For instance, trauma could be something like being raped in college or experiencing molestation or sexual abuse in childhood. Trauma also can be from being bullied as a child. Maybe, your trauma is from being yelled at in childhood. Trauma is different for each person, but leaves a signifiant, painful impact. To add, trauma can be losing a parent to an unexpected death. Or, trauma can be finding out your spouse has spent thousands of dollars behind your back and lied. Sometimes, trauma comes from having to survive and live in fear in some way. Trauma plays a role in conflicts you are having in your romantic relationship. Marriage counseling in Farmington, Connecticut supports trauma bonding awareness and positive coping tools.
Do you or your partner have a history of trauma?
To add, experiencing trauma can create negative flashbacks, anxiety, paranoia, low self-esteem, and even insomnia. Having unresolved trauma creates distance in a romantic relationship. As well, in your childhood or adult life, you may have had something really bad happened to you in the past. You may have fears of this bad thing happening all over again. And, learning to talk about PTSD and trauma together brings couples closer. It means being vulnerable, which can be very scary too. So, as couples start to talk about the different traumas they have been through, angry parts become less intense. As well, when couples openly communicate about fear, betrayal, or neglect, they can finally build a healthy romantic relationship.
Holistic marriage counseling creates a safe place to talk about trauma.
Holistic couples therapy in Farmington, Connecticut can help you learn positive coping strategies for personal growth and mind-body connection.
Holistic strategies through our therapies, music therapies, walking in nature by the beach, and holistic approaches can help you heal from trauma. Art therapy can be a safe way to paint, use clay, or markers to show a visual representation of trauma. Sometimes, art therapy, yoga therapy, music therapy, and nature therapy experiences are more healing than words. We offer distance counseling via video to residents of Massachusetts, Florida, and Connecticut. Furthermore, we also offer in person counseling in Niantic, Connecticut.
If you and your spouse want to build more playfulness, joy, and overcome conflicts, our team at Wisdom Within counseling would love to help you.
As well, if you are struggling with violence, pushing, or yelling in your romantic relationship when you are arguing, couples therapy can deeply support you. You can learn ways to manage anger and realize violence is not the answer. Also, you can gain awareness fo problematic childhood patterns. Sometimes, patterns like alcoholism, anger, infidelity, or abuse repeat without us even realizing it. Remember, any bitterness or anger that builds up will take away from building a better future. Lastly, marriage counseling in Farmington, Connecticut can help you build the healthy, safe, caring, passionate relationship you desire.
Marriage counseling can help you talk about your feelings in a calm way.
Right now, we understand that it is not going smoothly. And, you might be afraid of more intense fights breaking out. Couples counseling in Farmington, Connecticut can help you improve your communication skills. As well, you and your partner can learn to be less angry and more clear. Marriage counseling can also help you learn how to handle stress better and communicate when you are feeling stressed out. Often, couples who are fighting, yelling, and hurting need help with healing from past trauma together.
What is unique about Wisdom Within Counseling?
As well, holistic marriage counseling can incorporate mind-body therapies. For instance, holistic therapies like meditation, yoga, music, and even outdoor walking sessions are a part of couples counseling. These promote connection and inner peace. As well, couples can use these holistic therapies outside of session too. Working with a team at Wisdom Within Counseling in couples therapy can help you develop depth, love, and passion in your romantic relationship.
