I had parent who has narcissism, is manipulative, and emotionally abused me in childhood. I always worried about them.
My partner and I fight, disagree, and intensely argue about the same things over and over without ever gaining clarity.
It has been a long time since we had a deep conversation, without getting defensive, critical, yelling, or fighting.
I feel uncomfortable with conflict, and I don’t like it when my partner yells. Sometimes, my partner calls me names and it hurts.
We act like roommates, and two ships passing in the night. I want to feel desired and wanted again and I wish we had more sexy time, romance, and intimacy.
Are you looking to calmly resolve recurring problems by getting to the root of the issues and having a therapist to hear you both?
Right now, it may feel like you are living on two different planets. Yelling gets your no where. There is honestly no emotional connection with your partner and it feels sad. You remember the good times, when you used to laugh together. They seem so far away now. Furthermore, couples counseling for trauma bonds in St. Petersburg, Florida helps you heal from conflict. As well, you can talk about the root of anger, such as childhood trauma. And, your mind is flooded with negative memories of childhood in your high conflict fights.
To begin, click the button below for your phone consult for couples counseling for emotional connection and playfulness.
Currently, you feel alone and distant in your marriage.
Now, it seems that you are at each other’s throats with hurtful words. Furthermore, yelling, anger, and aggression are negative communication styles that couples therapy aims to change. Well, with the support of a professional marriage therapist, you can revitalize the passion in your relationship. Also, you can rebuild trust, love, and connectivity that you once had years ago. At Wisdom Within Counseling in in St. Petersburg, Florida, you can heal from a trauma bond together. Now, let’s talk about childhood trauma and the root of high conflict fights.
How does childhood trauma create arguments and high conflict fights in couples?
Trauma bonding in a romantic relationship is a deep emotional attachment. And, it is one that develops and it mirrors dysfunctional, abusive childhood relationships with caregivers. At times, your romantic relationship may have elements of emotional abuse, criticism, or personal jabs. So, you or your spouse may say things to intentionally hurt the other. In childhood, you grew up with a parent who was highly critical of you. As a child, your narcissistic parent never gave you the approval you wanted. And, you never got love you always wanted from your parent. These childhood traumas play a role in high conflict couple fights now. Couples counseling for trauma bonds in St. Petersburg, Florida helps reduce complex PTSD symptoms.
How is childhood trauma and couples therapy part of the same?
In a trauma bond, in your adult years, it might feel like you rely on your spouse for a sense of validation. When your spouse stops listening or ignores you, you feel immediately angry. And, when your spouse stops talking or shuts down, you feel like you want to be heard even more. Right now, your spouse might not be able to fulfill your emotional needs. These high conflict fights leave you feeling sad, confused, upset, and resentful.
In your childhood, one of your parents or both of your parents or emotionally immature. You still feel hurt.
What is childhood trauma? Well, sexual abuse, rape, molestation, or unwanted touch is trauma. As well, having a parent with a mental health issue like borderline personality disorder or bi-polar is trauma. Maybe, your parent may have lied to you. Or, you parents manipulated you, or used you, and you feel unloved. As well, having a highly critical parent is traumatic for children. Anytime you were told you shouldn’t cry, shouldn’t feel, or were “too sensitive” is trauma. Additionally, in your childhood, your parent did not give you the love and support you deserved. As a youngster, you always craved attention, affection, and closeness with your parent, but they always responded to you by withholding love or being critical.
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Have you experienced childhood trauma, sexual abuse, or emotional abuse from a narcissistic parent?
In your childhood and to this day, your parents justify their bad behaviors, such as alcoholism and drug use. As a child, you may have defended your parent, making excuses for them, or even believed the excuses they made for themself.
Couples counseling for trauma bonds in St. Petersburg, Florida gives you a safe place to process trauma from childhood.
Does childhood trauma cause low self-worth and bad communication in adulthood relationships? Yes, and couples therapy can help change that.
Now, in your romantic relationship, you find yourself defending your partners bad behaviors, and their alcohol use. From childhood, you were taught you deserved less than what you deserve. And, you may have self-esteem issues now. Now, you recognize that in your romantic relationship, you have more power and control than you did in childhood.
But, you feel hurt, upset, anxious, and want a sense of safety. Overall, holistic couples counseling for trauma bonds in St. Petersburg, Florida helps you understand childhood patterns. In your marriage, you can gain awareness and self-worth tools. From counseling, you can break the trauma bond cycle. And, you can change your romantic relationship for the better.
How do trauma bonds with parents, caregivers, and now a romantic partner work?
Right now, you still don’t feel like your best self. And, you often don’t have open communication in your relationship. A part of you is afraid that you will say the wrong thing and get yelled at like in childhood. You were never good enough n your parent’s eyes. You felt exhausted being around your parents and taking care of them emotionally. Just like in childhood, the relationship you have leaves you drained and exhausted emotionally. You want your romantic relationship to feel safer, closer, and more playful.
Trauma bonds are a signal that there is unresolved childhood trauma.
From healing childhood trauma, trauma bonding cycles can repair and communication becomes healthier. When fighting couples go into counseling together, they can look at attachment issues. If you feel you are in a trauma bond, you can use couples counseling for trauma bonds in St. Petersburg, Florida to heal from high conflict fights.
You can truly understand the presence of healing your wounded inner child.
Using therapies like internal family systems, Gottman therapy, emotionally focused therapy, and narrative therapy can help. Also, at Wisdom Within Counseling, you can take part in holistic, creative therapies for trauma. Art therapies, yoga therapies, music and drama therapies, and nature therapies are available for self-confidence.
Couples counseling for trauma bonds in St. Petersburg, Florida incorporates art, yoga, music, drama, and nature therapies.
In your childhood, you didn’t get the love you deserved. Therefore, if you had an emotionally abusive parent, you are more likely to pick a spouse like that. Essentially, if you grow up with trauma, it becomes the normal. So, in adulthood, you may more apt to make negative behaviors okay in your spouse. As well, people with unhealed childhood trauma are more likely to repeat the abusive behaviors done to them. In childhood, we learn what is “normal” treatment, not necessarily healthy treatment. Trauma bonding is the formation of a powerful, emotional attachment. Often, trauma bonding is a characteristic of abusive relationships. At Wisdom Within Counseling, we specialize in trauma bond couples therapy.
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What is a trauma bond in couples therapy?
You might not be able to change your parents level of narcissism or criticism towards you. However, talking in marriage therapy about childhood trauma can help you heal. In general, holistic couples counseling for trauma bonds in St. Petersburg, Florida helps you grieve, and accept that your parent may always be emotionally abusive to you.
In couples counseling, you can learn to set boundaries and feel safer together.
On that note, the process of couples counseling for trauma bonds in St. Petersburg, Florida takes time. For one, your fights may be going on for a while now. So, couples counseling can help you change the abusive dynamic in your romantic relationship. Essentially, your marriage therapist will understand the trauma cycle and bond occurring. From there, you can develop a healthy, romantic relationship. Going to holistic couples counseling can help you understand healthy attachment styles. You can gain skills for better communication, and gain awareness about childhood trauma patterns. Lastly, breaking a trauma bond takes time. With the help of a specialist in trauma bonds and complex trauma, you can gain self acceptance and self compassion.
Working with a marriage therapist who specializes in trauma bonds can help you develop a healthy romantic relationship.
Because you had a narcissistic or manipulative parent, you are more likely to believe that you deserve low quality treatment. Your parent may have punished you or physically hurt you. As well, you may have suffered a lot of emotional trauma and pain in childhood. You may always want to love your parent. And, you may feel guilty even having angry feelings at them.
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How can couples counseling for trauma bonds in St. Petersburg, Florida help me heal anger at my parent for their abuse?
To this day, in your adult years, your parent might still be two-faced or narcissistic. It might not be possible to change your parent. And, you can’t make them treat you differently. However, couples therapy can help you ask your spouse to treat you in the way you deserve. Lastly, by working with a couples therapist, you can build playfulness and safety. At Wisdom Within Counseling, your therapist specializes in trauma bonding. From counseling, you can learn to stop blaming yourself for childhood trauma.
Learn to remove self-blame in the trauma recovery process
In couples therapy for trauma, you can understand how many victims of childhood trauma blame themselves. Many times, victims and survivors of trauma truly believe it is their fault for the way their parent treated them. Your parent’s drunken episodes or emotional outbursts were not your fault. If you parent hit you or slapped you, it was not your fault.
Instead, you can start to gain a sense of reality, confidence, and clear thinking from trauma therapy.
Couples counseling for trauma bonds in St. Petersburg, Florida helps you relax and self-soothe.
In relationship therapy, you can ask your partner questions about their childhood, and share vulnerable experiences and painful emotions from your own childhood. Couples counseling for trauma bonds in St. Petersburg, Florida supports healthy communication.
Marriage counseling in Saint Petersburg, Florida can help you stop the pattern of trauma that you experienced in childhood.
You can learn positive coping tools to communicate when you feel PTSD symptoms occurring. PTSD symptoms may include flashbacks, negative memories, eating issues, or even anger. As a child, you may not have been able to show different feelings that you had. Crying may have been not permissible. In childhood, you may have felt traumatized because if you cried, you were immediately yelled. Or, you were punished for speaking up or having a voice.
Being punished for showing sadness in your childhood makes you push it away in your adult years. Instead, couples therapy in St. Petersburg Florida can be a way to focus on what you are feeling. You can learn healthy ways to nurture and love yourself. From couples therapy, you can gain self-love tools and awareness about all of your emotions.
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How can couples counseling for trauma bonds in St. Petersburg, Florida help with emotional connection?
In marriage counseling, you can share your emotions with your spouse. And, you can learn to be vulnerable to create a more meaningful relationship. Working with a trauma bond couples therapist will help you reset your nervous system.
What happens to your nervous system after childhood trauma?
Going through childhood trauma, physical, sexual, and emotional, causes your body and mind to be overly stressed. Your body turns on the sympathetic nervous system. Therefore, your sympathetic nervous system causes you to feel overly alert, awake, and activated. You might feel like you walk on eggshells all the time. No longer can you digest food because your body wants to flee. You may want to fight, flight, or freeze in response to danger now.
What are symptoms of complex PTSD and childhood trauma?
As well, with PTSD, you may experience trouble sleeping, indigestion, IBS, and low motivation. Additionally, you may have depression and lack of emotional regulation as trauma symptoms. Sometimes, you have really high emotions and other times you have really low emotions. Couples counseling for trauma bonds in St. Petersburg, Florida helps you self-regulate your emotions. And, when your body is overly stressed out, it is very hard to think straight. This is when couples get into high conflict fights.
How can couples counseling for trauma bonds in St. Petersburg, Florida help reduce PTSD symptoms?
When you grow up in an environment with emotional, sexual, or physical abuse or trauma, your body stays in sympathetic state. This means that you are always stressed out all the time and your body forgets how to be relax. So, part of healing in a trauma bond in counseling is learning how to relax. Therefore, this means learning all about relaxing your parasympathetic nervous system. By using polyvagal theory, IFS, and other holistic therapies, you can reconnect your mind and body.
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Calming your parasympathetic nervous system is a lifelong coping tool that you can use outside of your couples therapy session.
For instance, yoga therapy, meditation, and mindfulness practices help you tap into something spiritual, something bigger than you.
Why is holistic marriage therapy more effective for PTSD and trauma?
You can feel different sensations in your body as they arise. Then, you can use mindfulness therapies to slow down PTSD and trauma responses. As well, if you naturally get angry very quickly, calming your parasympathetic nervous system will help. In couples therapy, holistic mind-body therapist are a great coping tool. Couples counseling for trauma bonds in St. Petersburg, Florida teaches you about relaxation skills. Then, you can bring your best self to your romantic relationship.
Learning to sooth yourself, relax, and self regulate will help you understand your emotions more clearly.
You can start training your body and your brain to be more relaxed all the time rather than feeling on edge. Essentially, a trauma bond couples therapist helps educate you on trauma. And, your partner gets to learn about PTSD symptoms and complex PTSD recovery too. When one person is in a high conflict state, irritable, or yelling, they are typically having a PTSD or trauma flashback and intense trauma symptoms. At Wisdom Within Counseling, you can learn to connect in a loving, calm, and playful way and heal trauma together.
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In holistic couples therapy, you can create a loving, deep, meaningful, lasting bond.
After trauma in childhood, it might feel hard to communicate with your spouse now. Couples often stop showing and expressing verbal admiration after hurtful comments. Just like you would use your hammer to work on your house and fix a broken nail, you gain tools in couples therapy too. At Wisdom Within Counseling, we teach you playful and creative ways to heal from PTSD and childhood trauma. Using art therapies, yoga therapies, IFS< and Gottman couples therapy help.
In relationship therapy, you can gain a toolbox of skills to rebuild emotional connectivity to your partner.
Just like you would brush your teeth to get plaque off, you are brushing the teeth of your relationship every couples therapy session. Trauma also creates heaviness, hurt, loss, and anger that clogs up a relationship. Your teeth need brushing, and. your relationship needs therapy to feel fresh again.
Think of couples counseling for complex trauma in Florida as a way to gain skills for a better love life.
How can holistic couples therapy support reconnection and better communication?
Working with a holistic trauma therapist can help you take a step back. From yoga therapy, art therapy, or music therapy, you can gain self-awareness. You can learn to take space, or even journal about how you feel. Your trauma bond couples counselor in St. Petersburg, Florida will help you understand self-care practices.
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What role does self-care play in couples counseling for trauma bonds in St. Petersburg, Florida?
Well, self-care is the first step to self-awareness and healing trauma. From self-care, you can be the best person you can be in your marriage and relationship. A lot of times, when you experience abuse, sexually, physically, emotionally, you stop loving yourself. You get low in self-esteem from negative, hurtful comments. And, in childhood, your narcissistic parent may have been critical. Your parent put you down in negative ways. You didn’t learn how to practice self-care, but you took care of your parent’s mental health. In couples counseling for trauma bonds in St. Petersburg, Florida, you can regain self-care skills.
You may have learned to emotionally or physically take care of your parent as a young child and put yourself on the back burner.
Working with a trauma bond specialist in couples therapy, you can learn positive ways to take care of yourself first and foremost. Couples counseling for trauma bonds in St. Petersburg, Florida helps you let go of self-blame. You can make yourself a priority again and set boundaries with those who are narcissistic in your life. Additionally, you and your partner can learn to live in the present moment together rather than rehashing the past.
Additionally, working with a therapist who understands complex post traumatic stress disorder helps you gain self compassionate and practice self acceptance.
So, when you have complex PTSD, you may feel shame and guilt. Every time you do something for yourself, you might feel you are being selfish. You might hear a voice in your head telling you that you don’t deserve the self-care that you are trying to do. Additionally, you might have trouble concentrating, lose attention, or disassociate. Plus, people who have history of trauma, sexual, and physical may have headaches and chest pain. Essentially, your body physically holds on to the trauma memory. You may have stomachaches, trouble digesting, and even eating disorders. Lastly, you may experience headaches, especially when you are around a narcissistic parent.
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At Wisdom Within Counseling, we can help you gain a positive coping toolbox for confidence and clarity.
Does your childhood trauma impact your romantic relationship and marriage to this day?
At times, you may also find that you have relationship challenges and conflicts. Often, these are due to the complex trauma you experienced in childhood. For one, you might find it hard to trust. Also, you might avoid certain situations that re-trigger trauma memories. Sometimes, going to bed and evening hours can be a trigger for having nightmares or flashbacks. Overall, from complex trauma, you fell hyper arousal in your nervous system.
Overall, lack of emotional regulation is really common in people who have PTSD and trauma symptoms.
On that note, holistic therapy at Wisdom Within Counseling supports the healing of trauma. Art therapy, drama therapy, yoga therapy, music therapy, and walking therapies by the beach support trauma recovery. You can use mind-body, holistic therapies to reduce anger and irritability.
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What are some benefits of working with a trauma bond couples therapy specialist in in St. Petersburg, Florida?
Couples therapy in St. Petersburg, Florida can help you feel confident in your relationship. After childhood trauma, it is normal to feel uneasy, mistrust, and on edge. So, your trauma bond couples therapist can help you feel safe and secure. You can find ways to ask for help and reassurance. After trauma and complex PTSD, you may feel more hurt, angry, have issues sleeping, or irritable.
Wisdom Within Counseling offers a holistic, mind-body approach to healing from PTSD and trauma together.
As well, you can work together to find ways to remove the anger, overcome hut, and understand the sadness. There may be a heaviness and sadness to your past. Childhood trauma is a grief and loss therapy too. And, your partner may not truly understand you, your communication style, or love language. Complex trauma recovery is possible form working with a childhood trauma specialist. From couples therapy in in St. Petersburg, Florida, you can start to feel more understood and appreciated in your marriage. Couples counseling for trauma bonds in St. Petersburg, Florida supports confidence and clarity.
How can holistic couples counseling for trauma bonds in St. Petersburg, Florida help with positive thoughts?
To add, you can regain interest in your favorite activities and develop self-care tools from couples counseling for trauma bonds in St. Petersburg, Florida. As well, doing relaxation skills like yoga and meditation can help reduce negative thoughts about yourself in the world. Also, you can use meditation from therapy to calm yourself down if you have a nightmare. When you have a complex PTSD, the intense, disturbing memories may flood your mind and body at any time. Sometimes, you might feel like you are reliving the traumatic event and are afraid bad things will happen all over again.
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Couples counseling for trauma bonds in St. Petersburg, Florida can help you communicate childhood memories with your spouse.
You may also feel sadness, anger, or really upset on the very deep level after childhood trauma. Holistic therapy can help you regain emotional control too. You can nurture your emotions. As well, you and your spouse can get to know where your anger comes from. Lastly, from couples counseling for trauma bonds in St. Petersburg, Florida, you can heal from emotional and physical abuse from childhood.
Also, emotional and physical abuse you endured in childhood plays a role in your remote romantic relationship today.
Many times, couples just get stuck in high conflict arguments and fights, and don’t realize that the root of these conflicts is often childhood trauma. When one or both people have a history of trauma, there is a deeper sense of hyper vigilance and anger. Learning to understand trauma, and heal from reoccurring nightmares, can be a part of couples therapy. You and your spouse can talk about different painful events from childhood and heal from anger together. Using holistic therapies helps your mind and body regain connection and helps you feel safe in the world again.
Rebuild trust, communication, closeness, hope, and optimism in your relationship through holistic couples counseling for trauma bonds in St. Petersburg, Florida.
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LGBTQIA+, queer, and non-binary affirming couples therapy in in St. Petersburg, Florida
At Wisdom Within Counseling, we specialize with LGBTQIA+ queer, and non-binary couples. To add, couples who are in same-sex relationships may experience complex trauma in childhood too. Now, one or both of you may feel rejection, shame, or like an outcast. As well, when you you came out, you may have felt rejection from family. You may have experienced emotional or physical abuse from parents in your coming out process.
As well, you may have also experienced sexual abuse due to being a member of the LGBTQIA+ community.
Couples who are in same-sex relationships need extra support and emotional validation. Often times, cultural shame and rejection leaves a lasting traumatizing impact. As well, because we specialize with LGBTQIA+ queer, and non-binary couples, we can help you heal from a trauma bond. Not all therapists are LGBTQIA+ and gay affirming.
Gay and same-sex couples may also be afraid to reach out for counseling because they are afraid to face more rejection.
You don’t have to worry about rejection a Wisdom Within Counseling. You can talk about past trauma, feelings of confusion, and your narcissistic parents. If you came out as an adolescent, and felt threatened by your parents for being gay or transgender, this may be something you want to talk about couples counseling for trauma bonds in St. Petersburg, Florida. Additionally, you may have negative emotions or react with anger. Lastly, we know you need a couples counselor to help you and your partner get back to a place of love and communication.
Relationship counseling for gay and same-sex couples in St. Petersburg, Florida.
Same-sex couples deserve to have a place to unload, develop emotional validation, and overcome childhood rejection. If your parents used physical punishment to try to make you less gay, that was trauma. You might want to talk about your relationship with your family. Or, you want to talk about next steps of your relationship such as adoption or having a child.
If you and your partner get into harmful conflicts, and say hurtful things to each other, you can develop a better emotional life together through marriage counseling.
The team at Wisdom Within Counseling specializes in complex trauma, and helps you overcome fear and anger. You can develop an appreciation for your partner, heal from abuse, and gain an understanding for trauma symptoms. You can learn to let go of the negative things you saw in your childhood and build meaningful, loving communication. By understanding trauma bonding, you can develop an even closer emotional connection. Overall, couples counseling for trauma bonds in St. Petersburg, Florida help you build a healthy marriage.
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Overall, couples counseling for trauma bonds in St. Petersburg, Florida supports lifelong communication tools and trauma bond coping tools.
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