What is important to consider when planning a threesome?
Before you have a threesome, it is important to talk altogether about boundaries, expectations, needs, and consent. Everyone needs to understand what they’re getting into. As well, people can talk about different concerns, questions, and anxieties in intimacy counseling. Without talking before opening your marriage or having a threesome, you may have a negative experience. There is a need to think it through and hear what everyone wants to get out of it beforehand. A threesome is one experience with polyamory and ethical non-monogamy. Opening your marriage and having a threesome can lead to anger, anxiety, jealousy, rejection, insecurity, and confusion. Wisdom Within Counseling specializes in intimacy counseling for ethically non monogamous (ENM) couples.
In intimacy counseling, you can talk about opening your relationship or marriage. Couples and individuals can talk about sexual fantasies such as having a threesome. As well, in intimacy counseling you can explore your own erotic map or erotic blueprint. Your erotic blueprint is about how you want and like to be touched. Understanding your erotic blueprint is knowing the foreplay you like. Intimacy counseling can also be a safe place to learn how to have awkward conversations such as asking someone about logistics like a recent STI or STD test.
To begin, click below for a phone consult for intimacy counseling for ethically non-monogamous (ENM) couples and to prepare for a threesome.
Threesomes are a sexual fantasy for many people and couples. It can be very erotic to watch others make out or have sex. As well, it can be very sexually arousing to have to people giving you sexual pleasure at the same time. There are some important details to consider before having a threesome for a successful experience.
Before having a threesome, you want to go out a friends, and not have any sexual activity occurs. You want to have an STI and STD conversation fully clothed, and really get to know each other for a little before having a threesome. Intimacy counseling for ethically non-monogamous (ENM) couples can support navigate and preparing for a threesome.
Threesomes are very intimate experiences and you want to feel comfortable about being naked with someone first. Being naked, using sex toys, and taking part in even dominant and submissive roles where restraints may be used requires a level of trust. It is okay to essentially interview someone in a casual way on a couple of dates. This way, you can know if they mesh well with you and are trustworthy.
What you envision for threesome may be very different than reality.
It is acceptable to plan a threesome and it doesn’t make it more awkward. Planning a threesome doesn’t take the chemistry out of it. Instead, planning a threesome ensures that you are thinking through all of these big decisions.
Some polyamorous couples are looking for a third person to join them for a threesome. At times, polyamorous couples are looking for a single person, at times, called a unicorn. You and your partner can talk to see if your relationship ready for it. Polyamorous partners may want to talk about what could occur in the worst case scenario. Couples therapy can help ensure you have healthy communication skills and tools for when disagreements come up. Whether you are newly polyamorous or have been polyamorous for a while, you may find jealousy, rejection, anxiety, and insecurity come up. You and your partner can talk about these intense emotions in intimacy counseling before having a threesome.
Three single people can all be looking to have a three some also. In this case, no one is already in a relationship.
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When you are in an existing couple unit, looking to bring a third person in, take time to explore other sexual experiences first. One person in the couple unit may not realize how jealousy they may feel when they see their partner flirting with someone else. Instead of jumping right to a naked experience, you can do other prerequisite sexual activities together.
To prepare for a threesome, you may want to begin by watching pornography together.
Watching porn together is something that can trigger emotions similar to a threesome. This activity is about shared sexual arousal. When you and your partner are watching porn together, you can talk about how that feels first before adding an actual human into your bedroom. When watching pornography, your partner may not be flirting with someone.
You can watch pornography of other people having a threesome. But, see how it feels to see images of multiple people having sex appear on the screen for you both. This can also be a good time to talk about your sexual fantasies and if a threesome is a sexual fantasy for you both. Some couples may want to talk about kinks, fetishes, and BDSM regarding sexual fantasies and sexual desires.
Watching pornography of other people having a threesome can bring up many emotions. With that said, talking about these topics can bring up a variety of emotions. All emotions are welcome and acceptable when working with a sex specialist at Wisdom Within Counseling. If you feel any sort of insecurity, confidence issues, or anxiety watching pornography together, pause here.
When these intense emotions come, this is a sign to reach out for a couples and intimacy therapy. It can be very difficult to be told to “Snap out of it,” when it comes to sexual confidence issues. Instead, working with a sex specialist at Wisdom Within Counseling can give you space to talk about sex, your sexuality, and your erotic blueprint. If you find a conflict arises when watching pornography together, getting into intimacy counseling will be really helpful now. Taking it slow by watching porn together is a good way understand if you would like to have a threesome.
As well, couples can do other sorts of things together to prepare for a threesome.
In addition to watching pornography of other people having a threesome, you might decide to go to a strip club together to see how that feels. This is an activity that is one step up from a threesome. More challenging emotions may arise when going to a strip club together. You can ask yourself questions to gain insight and awareness of how you feel from going to a strip club together.
What comes up for you when you see someone coming onto your partner? Does it turn you on when someone comes onto your partner? What is it like to both see someone else naked? Do you feel happy for them experiencing sexual pleasure? Or, do you feel immediately hurt, jealous or possessive? If there is any jealousy or envy, intimacy therapy is very important to start.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, working with a sex and intimacy specialist can support understanding where these emotions come from. Processing these feelings with your intimacy specialist and couples therapist is key before organizing a threesome.
Wether you are in an existing polyamorous couple unit, or you are an individual, a “yes, no, maybe,” list is always a good idea.
We are all individual with different things that shut us down and give anxiety. As well, we all have different things that form and create our erotic blueprint. Writing these down, even in a shared google doc, can give you an idea of your own needs. As well, having a “yes, no, maybe,” list helps your potential threesome partners understand your needs too. Don’t just casually talk about your “yes, no, maybe,” list. Instead, writing it down can be a positive exercise for all people thinking about having a threesome.
Each person can create a “yes, no, maybe,” list and share them
As well, people can talk about their, “yes, no, maybe,” lists. Discussing a “yes, no, maybe,” list should not be done in the moment when sexual activities are occurring. But, “yes, no, maybe,” lists can help all partners talk about what feels good, and what’s off-limits. One partner might have anal sex on their “yes” list. However, another partner may have anal sex on their “no” list. Knowing this in advance will help everyone be aware of what is off-limits and what are green lights. Intimacy counseling for ethically non-monogamous (ENM) couples can help you make a “yes, no, maybe” list.
Remember, saying and asking, “Is this okay? May I touch you here?” is respectful. It can be sexually arousing to feel respected. Consent is not implied and need to be verbalized, if not written down.
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Here is an example of a “yes, no, maybe” list for your open marriage and for polyamorous couples in counseling
Things can move really quickly in a threesome with exciting emotions in the moment. So, taking a moment to understand your erotic blueprint alone, can provide self-awareness.
What does consent look like for you? Do you want boundaries written down, or just verbalized? If you want to change your boundaries or revoke consent, how do you want to communicate this?
How do you feel about flirting, kissing or making out? What about nibbling on earlobes or lip biting? How do you feel about hickies from kissing, and marks, or bruises in general?
And, how do you feel about cuddling or snuggling with clothes on or naked?
Do you enjoy breast massages and nipple play? Are there any areas of your bodies that you want avoided or not touched at all?
How do you feel about oral sex, both receiving and giving? How do you feel about swallowing cum?
And, how do you feel about anal toys, anal sex, both giving and receiving?
How do you feel about vaginal sex, toys being inserted into your vagina, giving and receiving? How do you feel about fingering, giving or receiving?
As well, how do you feel about silicone, oil, and water based lubricants? How do you feel about sex toys, vibrators, and nipple clamps? And, how do you feel about dildos, massage oils, lubes, butt plugs, anal beads, strap-ons, bed restraints, handcuffs, ropes, blind folds, ear plugs, cock rings, and cock cages? As well, how do you feel about watching erotic material alone or together?
Additionally, how do you feel about photos, videos, or recording sex?
Also, how do you feel about group sex? Do you prefer protected or unprotected sex? How do you feel about kinks, fetishes, bondage discipline, dominance, submission, sadism, and masochism? Do you prefer a submissive or dominant role, or switching between both?
What kind of clothes make you feel sexy and confident? Are there certain shoes, or textures, or being naked entirely?
How do you like mirrors?
Do you like being spanked or slapped? If so, what areas? And, if you are desiring to explore kinks and fetishes, which ones? If you want to be restrained, what types of materials do you like best? Would you prefer the sensation of ropes, fuzzy, a silk tie, cotton, or another material?
What are your thoughts on foot play? How do you feel about period sex?
How do you feel about being choked or choking someone else? What are your feelings on double penetration?
Are you a person that enjoys a one night stand and casual sex? Or, are you a person that is demisexual, requiring emotional bonding first?
Are you looking for a long-term relationship with emotional intimacy along side sexual passion?
How often do you want to have sexual activities? Do you want sexual activities daily, weekly, or monthly?
As well, what time of day do you enjoy sexual activities? Are you a person who likes morning, afternoon, or evening sexual play and intimacy? Do you like to give or do you like to receive?
If you get into a long term relationship, what names or labels do you like to use? Do the words boyfriend, girlfriend, partner, or spouse, resonate more?
When thinking about a threesome, are certain people off limits? Are coworkers off limits? Or, are sexual activities with immediate people in your friend group off limits? As well, would having sexual activities with friends be more comfortable for you? Would you rather have a threesome with someone you don’t know yet, off a dating app like Feeld?
How would you handle it if you saw a person you hooked up with in public? Do you want to go out as a triad in public? How out do you want to be about polyamory and your open marriage?
Would you want to live with any of your romantic, emotional, or sexual partners? Or, do you prefer to live alone? How about sharing finances? Do you want to share finances with partners, or do you want to be financially independent? Are children in your future? As well, do you see yourself getting married?
Do you want to go to sex clubs or sex resorts together? Are sex vacations something you want to explore?
How do you feel about exploring outside your identified sexual orientation? And, how do you feel about a variety of genders?
In what ways do you like to receive aftercare and give aftercare? How would you like to be cared for and what would you need if you experienced a trauma response? If something triggers a post traumatic response, how would you want to communicate this?
Are there any medical conditions, medications, allergies that affect your sexual desire, erotic blueprint, or sexual expression?
Do you want to have sexual activities take place indoors or outdoors? Would you like to have sex in your kitchen, shower, living room, by your hot tub, or in your bedroom?
Gaining understanding about yourself can be very positive. Really putting thought into this can be positive for you and your partners.
Overall, you “yes, no, maybe” list allows partners to easily understand where each other stands. Many times, conversations alone don’t include this level of detail. This list can help you get to know yourself and help your partners understand you better. Doing this list can help you identify your intimate desires and understand your partners’ too. You can also use a list like this to bring up kinky interests that you may have been wanting to find a way to share.
Another important component to having successful threesome is discussing how long everyone expects it to be.
It’s important factor in time for foreplay. The female body requires more time than the male body for foreplay. Foreplay will ensure that females involved have a satisfying sexual experience and a positive threesome experience. One female might require 45 to 90 minutes of foreplay to simply become sexually aroused. However, a male partner may think the threesome may only be 15 or 30 minutes, as this is all he needs. Talk about the duration of how long you would like the threesome to last.
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Aftercare needs are important to discuss in threesome preparation
What does aftercare look like? Do you want to shower together after the threesome? Would you like to snack and eat some food and watch a movie together? Will you all be sleeping over together and having breakfast together the next morning? Or, are you expecting partners to leave after an hour? Talking about aftercare is also important part of a successful threesome.
Threesomes boost a lot of different brain chemicals. Oxytocin, serotonin, and dopamine all boost your mood. After the mood is elevated from sexual pleasure, you may feel a drop these chemicals. Sometimes, people get tearful after intense sexual pleasure and aftercare can help offer emotional support. Aftercare will be really important to make sure that everyone leaves in a safe, calm, and grounded mental state. Also, aftercare can be giving a back massage, getting your partners a glass of water, feeding them chocolates, giving them a fuzzy blanket, or helping them find their socks. Intimacy counseling for ethically non-monogamous (ENM) couples can help with understanding the importance, value, and benefits of aftercare.
Can a cuckolding or hotwifing kink be a part of a threesome?
A cuckolding or hotwifing kink that can be a reason why many people have threesomes. A man becomes sexually aroused from watching his wife or female romantic partner be with another man. This man may even organize the cuckolding or hotwifing experience.
A man may ask his wife if she would be okay having sex with another man while being recorded. He may want a video recording of this experience to watch later during masturbation. In a cuckolding, there may be humiliation element. Rather, with a hotwifing kink, there may be less humiliation. Though, cuckolding and hotwifing are used interchangeably, there are slight differences. The three people planning a threesome need to talk in advance to make sure they all feel good about their definitions of these words.
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Pick a comfortable environment for your threesome to ensure a successful sexual, intimate experience
Getting comfortable is a key part of organizing and preparing for a threesome. For many people, an environment can make all the difference. Being aware of the environment that you need to feel comfortable is a key part in having a successful threesome. You may want to have a threesome in a familiar space, like your bedroom. Or, you may want a more neutral space, like a hotel room. In order to fully enjoy sexual pleasure and intimacy, the environment makes such a difference.
Smells are a part of creating a positive, sexual, intimate environment
As well, smells in an environment can lead to positive and negative sexual experiences. You may want to ask your partners not to wear strong perfumes or body sprays if you are sensitive to artificial smells. It is okay and acceptable to ask you partners to not wear strong scents, if you feel these would distract you from enjoying sexual pleasure. When you keep getting distracted by a strong smell, this can cause negative emotions, and issues orgasming. Some people are more sensitive than others to smells. On that note, intimacy counseling can help you learn it is okay to have a voice. You can learn to advocate for yourself and communicate your needs to your partner in intimacy counseling.
Additionally, lighting can play big role when it comes to sexual pleasure, intimacy, and sexual satisfaction. If you are sensitive to bright lights, you may want to use soft lighting and Himalayan salt lamps for low lighting. Instead of overhead lights that can decrease oxytocin production, you can set the mood with low lights.
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Should I have protected verses unprotected sex in a threesome?
Whether you have protected her unprotected sex is up to you. However, it is important to know the pros and cons.
If you are having unprotected sex, you will probably want to ask for a copy of your partners’ STD or STI test. Even if you are having protected sex, you will still want to ask for a copy of your partners STI or STD test. Look for the date of the test, which is on their medical record. This way, you can be sure that no one will be passing around any STD’s or STI’s. Many people can have an STI or STD and not even realize it. They may not have any symptoms.
Looking at someone’s genital area is not a good way to decide if they have an STI or STD. Even if you are having protected sex, it is still a possibility to get an STI or STD. Protected sex may be protecting you from an unwanted pregnancy. Talking with everyone involved before you have a threesome can help you understand everyone’s expectations and needs around protected sex. If you talk, and someone is expecting you to be unprotected, but you want sexual protection, counseling can help.
The importance of STI and STD conversations upfront and addressing this confidently
To note, having a conversation about STI’s in STD’s can be awkward. It is necessary for your protection and the health of others though. However, doing so means you have to have a level of confidence in knowing what you want.
Knowing that you want safety in a threesome and safe sex is great. When you and your threesome partners can have a comfortable conversation about STI’s and STDs, this gives you information.
This conversation can also almost act as an assessment to see if a threesome will go well. If a potential threesome partner clams up and won’t give you any information regarding their STI’s or STD’s, this is a red flag.
If someone is forthcoming about the recent STD or STI testing, and willingly share this information, this is a green flag. This means that they share the same values of safe sex with you and care about not passing something onto you.
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How to find the right third person to have a threesome?
Finding the right person can be challenging. Going on an app like Feeld can be a great place to find people interested in having a threesome. You can great a bio page on Feeld with information on what you are interested in exploring sexually. Going out to a bar and trying to invite someone random into a threesome may work for some people.
But, the odds of this working are much less. Someone in a local bar may be too drunk to consent. It can be very easy to get caught up in the exciting energy and party mode of a bar. It is often best to have a threesome and explore polyamory without alcohol.
Or, someone in a local bar my not be aware what ethically non-monogamy means. Being able to meet up as as friends first to get to know each other to see how the vibes are first is key.
When planning a threesome, what are some important first steps?
Intimacy counseling for ethically non-monogamous (ENM) couples can help you set boundaries around drugs, alcohol, and mind altering substances.
As much as you want to have a threesome and feel excited, you may have social anxiety. Taking shots of alcohol may seem appealing to deal with sexual performance anxiety or to deal with jealousy.
Picking your threesome partners
Furthermore, you may want to talk about preparing for your threesome by talking about who you would like to have a threesome with. You may be questioning your sexuality and wanting to explore different genders, ages, ethnicities, and body types.
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Finding outlets for intense emotions and learning to communicate them are benefits of intimacy counseling for ethically non-monogamous (ENM) couples.
However, drinking alcohol can often exacerbate negative emotions of jealousy, insecurity, and envy. Drinking away feelings of being unwanted is not a healthy way to cope. Drugs and alcohol only stuff these important feelings away, rather than communicating them. Intimacy counseling for ethically non-monogamous (ENM) couples can help partners communicate and voice jealousy, anxiety, and envy. Being able to talk about jealousy and anxiety are healthy parts of being a good communicator.
Being a good communicator, especially when you feel upset or jealous, can benefit all your partners. Drugs and alcohol can bring about negative self-talk, insecurities, and create more irrational fears.
It can feel overwhelming dealing with jealousy, anxiety, and envy when under the influence of drugs and alcohol. Intimacy counseling for ethically non-monogamous (ENM) couples can help you process intense emotions.
Intimacy counseling for ethically non-monogamous (ENM) couples can be a safe place to gain sexual confidence without alcohol or drugs
Sexual performance is not enhanced by mind altering drugs or alcohol use. As well, drinking alcohol in excess can lead to sexual performance problems.
You may want to drink alcohol or think that using drugs can help you be more in the moment. However, you may say something hurtful, that you didn’t mean, when blackout drunk.
It can be much more positive to be mentally and emotionally present and have a sober threesome. When alcohol and drugs are not involved in a threesome, you can be more in tune with your body’s signals. Having a mindset that you need alcohol to loosen up or to socialize can be dangerous. Taking shots can also lead to alcohol poisoning. Intimacy counseling can help you make memories and have an amazing threesome sober.
Intimacy counseling for ethically non-monogamous (ENM) couples can help you feel confident in your yourself without needing drugs or alcohol. As well, you can gain confidence in your sexual skills without thinking you need drugs or alcohol.
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You can learn to be your authentic self and confident in who you are without drugs and alcohol.
From intimacy counseling for ethically non-monogamous (ENM) couples, you can talk about your boundaries in advance of sexual playful activities.
As well, you can talk about fears of peer pressure around alcohol and drugs. If you don’t want any of your partners drinking alcohol during a threesome, communicating this upfront is key.
You get to talk with your threesome partners about what makes you feel comfortable and uncomfortable. Intimacy counseling for ethically non-monogamous (ENM) couples support you in advocating for your boundaries.
It is totally acceptable to not want to have sex or be sexual with anyone who had alcohol or mind altering drugs in their system. Consent and boundaries are important to talk about before engaging and preparing for a threesome. Before a threesome, you can clearly communicate your boundaries around anyone not bringing up drugs or alcohol.
Think about what sex toys you want to use in your threesome
Furthermore, when you have a threesome, you want to plan to have all the fun sex toys that you need handy. If you are planning to goto a hotel room, or another person’s house, you want to pack a bag to bring. In your bag, you may want to bring different types of lubricant.
Silicone lubricant can break down silicone sex toys. If you want to use a dildo, nipple clamps, butt plug, a cock ring, or vibrator, bring these with you. As well, if you squirt or experience fluid leaving your body during the female ejaculation process, bring a waterproof blanket. A waterproof blanket can help you feel relaxed and let go when you are receiving sexual pleasure.
As well, you can feel reassured that you won’t ruin or stand anyone’s couch or bed with ejaculation fluid. More so, when talking about sex toys, you can have a discussion around which body parts you desire to be stimulated.
This can come back to you, “yes, no, maybe,” list. For example, you may have sex toys to be inserted into your mouth, vagina, anus. Or, you may only want sex toys inserted into you vagina and not your anus, or only your anus, and not your vagina.
One person may be very sexually aroused from anal stimulation and anal play. Where as, another person may become very sexually aroused from nipple play, nipple clamps, and nipple stimulation. Another person may feel sexually aroused by the sensation of a vibrator.
You also may want to talk with your threesome parts before being sexual to ask them what sex toys they are planning to use. Each person may enjoy different sex toys. Talking about what each person needs in terms of sex toys can be helpful to understand upfront.
Making sure your favorite sex toys are charged and clean will be important too.
In intimacy counseling, you can talk about what you like and what you don’t like. This process can help you prepare for a threesome and opening your relationship.
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With your sex and intimacy specialist at Wisdom Within Counseling, you can talk about the future
You may want to talk about having a one-time threesome. Or, you may want to talk about a more long-term partnership that develops into a throuple unit. A throuple is a couple unit of three people. Also, a throuple is a triad of non-monogamous people, and very common in polyamory. Some threesomes are just a one-time experience. On the other hand, some threesome evolve into long-term bonds and connections.
Intimacy counseling can be a safe space to talk about having a threesome.
Threesomes can be an incredible sexual fantasy. You can also decide if it is the right decision for you to have a threesome. In some cases, a couple decides to invite another person in. However, sometimes all three people are single and connect together. Consent and healthy boundaries are important parts of a successful threesome. In intimacy counseling, you can work with a sex specialist who can help you articulate what you want and need. You can talk about potential emotional risks that may come up. As well, intimacy counseling can be a safe place to talk about the vetting process. You might want to engage with people who have already had threesomes before. Or, you might enjoy all exploring a threesome together for the first threesome.
If you notice any conflict, attention, or passive aggressive communication, intimacy counseling and working with a sex specialist can help.
Clear and healthy forms of communication will be important for a successful threesome. Instead of feeling like you are unheard or dominated over, intimacy counseling can help you communicate more clearly. Threesomes can be a great enhancement to your sex life. However, without proper communication, they can go very poorly. The most important thing is speaking up about your needs. For instance, you should not try to convince your partner to have a threesome with you. However, you can respect that they have certain needs that may be different from yours.
Working with an intimacy and sex specialist at Wisdom Within Counseling can help you talking about a threesome with your partner.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, you can talk about what you want to get out of a threesome. You may have certain kinks or fetishes that you would like to have fulfilled as part of a threesome. Your other threesome partners may also have fetishes and kinks. BDSM, role-play, and power dynamics during sex can be fun part of a threesome. However, good communication about all of these and consent upfront are important. It’s very important to never force anyone to engage in any sort of sexual activity that they are uncomfortable with.
There should be agreed-upon boundaries and rules to all open relationships. Even though it seems like this might be awkward or can take the fun out of it, having good communication upfront is important.
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Create a safe word with your sex and intimacy specialist at Wisdom Within Counseling
As well, all people in threesome should come up with a safe word. A safe word is one that anyone can say at any time to stop the experience. If someone begins to feel uncomfortable, jealous, or anxious, the safe word will stop all sexual activity. Having a safe word allows everyone to understand that the sexual activities will stop out of respect for the person who said the word. Now, as a safe word should not be a word like “stop.” This word is very commonly said in a variety of different sexual experiences. Instead, a safe word should be an uncommon word, such as “banana,” or “lizard.” Having everyone on the same page about the use of the safe word and the procedure that will take place it is said, is helpful and reassuring.
Why work with a sex and intimacy specialist at Wisdom Within Counseling?
Talking about sex is often taboo in our culture. As well, talking about intimacy and exploring different sexual needs can be uncomfortable. This is where working with an intimacy and sex specialist can be very helpful. Overall, whether it comes to opening your marriage, having a threesome, or exploring your sexuality in another way, Wisdom Within Counseling helps. You may want to lengthen foreplay or have more aftercare. Or, you may want to learn about multiple orgasms. As well, working with a sex and intimacy specialist can support you in increasing your sexual desire. Your sex and intimacy specialist at Wisdom Within Counseling can help you feel more excited to have sex. Couples can talk about their sexual fantasies.
Your sex and intimacy specialist at Wisdom Within Counseling can help you feel more excited to have sex.
So often, we are focused on being responsible, paying bills, and taking care of children and pets.
Intimacy and marriage therapy can also be a safe space to talk about sexual desire. There is a lot on your mind. For instance, having children, paying bills, and grocery shopping all adds up. Now, it seems like sex and intimacy fall to the bottom of your list.
There may also be internalized sexual guilt and shame you have from childhood. If your parents didn’t talk about sex, you may not have a positive association with intimacy. Intimacy counseling might be the first time in your life where you can overcome sexual awkwardness. By working with an intimacy and sex specialist, you can reconnect to erotic desire. As well, your intimacy therapist can encourage self-pleasure activities. You can realize that you are not alone if you struggle with low sexual desire. If deeply want to have a more fulfilling sex life, you are in the right place. Working with a sex and intimacy specialist can help you rebuild your erotic desire. As well, working with a sex and intimacy specialist can help you gain confidence to love your body just the way it is, and have fun buying new sex toys.
Overall, embracing yourself as a sexual being is an important part of experiencing sexual pleasure.
Working with an intimacy and sex specialist at Wisdom Within Counseling can help you have a more diverse, playful, and adventurous sex life.
Threesomes are not the only way to create a diverse and meaningful sex life. However, threesomes can be very fulfilling and positive when done the right way.
The team at Wisdom Within Counseling specializes in intimacy therapy for polyamorous and ethically non-monogamous (ENM) couples looking to explore threesomes
When you are considering having a threesome, the team at Wisdom Within Counseling can help you explore this area. Intimacy counseling can be a safe place to process various emotions that can lead to blockages when preparing for a threesome.
To add, threesomes can bring up anxiety around sexual performance and insecurity. And, even jealousy can come up when seeing your partner flirting or being sexually pleased by someone else. Navigating these emotions without the help of an intimacy therapist can lead to a hurtful, negative or upsetting threesome experience.
At Wisdom Within Counseling, our therapists specializes with polyamorous and ethically non-monogamous (ENM) couples. Threesomes can be fulfilling, erotic, sexually pleasurable, and positive experiences when the right preparation occurs.
