Let’s talk about female sexual health, sexual arousal and sexual desire.
There is a lot that plays into sexual desire and sexual arousal for females. Maybe, at one point, you had a higher libido that you do now. To start, females may struggle with low sexual arousal, low desire, and a lack of interest in sex. When a female has a low sex drive, she may receive a diagnosis of a sexual desire disorder such as female hypoactive sexual desire disorder. Some research suggests that half of adult women struggle with low sexual desire at different points in their life. Sex and intimacy therapy in Connecticut at Wisdom Within Counseling can help women learn about sexual desire and ways to increase libido.
On this page, you can learn how and why females develop sexual desire disorders too.
Sometimes, sexual trauma experiences, mediation side effects, relationship conflicts, and lack of sexual education around foreplay lead to low or no sexual desire. As well, some females with low libido, hypoactive sexual desire disorder, and low sexual desire disorders report sex is dull, a chore, and boring.
Is hypoactive sexual desire disorder the same as a low libido in sex and intimacy therapy in Connecticut?
Not exactly. Hypoactive sexual desire disorder is more severe an only having a low libido. For some women, having a low libido is not impacting them emotionally or in a stressful way. Also, if a woman experiences a low libido one day, she may have a higher sex drive the next day. This would not be considered hypoactive sexual desire disorder. A woman who has hypoactive sexual desire disorder may also have a low libido. However, a woman with a low sex drive or low libido may not have a diagnosis of hypoactive sexual desire disorder.
With hypoactive sexual desire disorder, women experience a deficiency in sexual arousal and sexual interest.
As well, women with hypoactive sexual desire disorder, may feel an absence of sexual fantasies all together. Some women with hypoactive sexual desire disorder once had a higher sex drive and higher libido. Women may find their desires for sexual activities is decreasing or non existent with hypoactive sexual desire disorder. Sex issues can lead to depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, and relationship stress. Holistic marriage, Sex and intimacy therapy in Mystic, Connecticut looks at the psychological, social, emotional, relational, and biological aspects of low sexual desire issues.
Hypoactive sexual desire disorder is given to women who find their low sex drive causes emotional challenges in areas of their life.
With a diagnosis of hypoactive sexual desire disorder, a female will not want or avoid sexual stimulation. As a result of low desire, this causes heightened stress for females personally and in their romantic life. Low sexual arousal in females can be stressful, lead to sadness, low self-worth, frustration, loss, and grief. A woman suffering from hypoactive sexual desire disorder may feel frustrated that he body is not working the way she feels it should. She may also feel hopeless and clueless about where to start to start rebuilding her sexual desire. Therefore, holistic marriage, sex, and intimacy counseling at Wisdom Within can help females and their partners. Suffering from low libido can be very personal, emotional, and private. The team at Wisdom Within Counseling in Southeastern Connecticut give women and couples a safe place to overcome sexual dysfunction.
Have you noticed your libido or sex drive decreasing? Is this causing relationship conflicts?
For many women, working with a sex and intimacy therapist in Connecticut can be a safe place to talk about sexual desire. Your marriage counselor can help normalize the emotions that go along with desire disorders. As well, there are many aspects that contribute to female sexual dysfunctions and a lack of sexual interest in sexual activities. With low libido and low sexual desire, a women may no longer be interested in sexual pleasure or activities. Often, sexual arousal disorders involve mind-body therapies. For females with low libido or low sexual desire, the mind plays a big role in sexual arousal. Emotional expression can be a big part in overcoming difficulties with sexual arousal.
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What is a sexual desire disorder like hypoactive sexual desire disorder all about?
Some women may struggle with becoming sexually aroused in the first place. Other women may have sexual challenges staying sexually aroused and maintaining arousal during the length of sexual activity. Often, couples come to marriage, sex and intimacy therapy in Connecticut at Wisdom Within Counseling for help with the emotions that come up around low sexual desire. For instance, a female’s sexual partner may blame themselves or feel rejected sexually. In couples therapy, females and their partners can have a safe place to gain sexual education. Learning about what the female body needs to experience sexual pleasure is key in overcoming low desire disorders.
Do you struggle with a lack of sexual desire or interest in sex in your relationship?
Many women struggle with low sex drive issues and low libido. Holistic marriage, sex and intimacy therapy in Connecticut at Wisdom Within Counseling can help females gain confidence over and get to know her self sexually. You may be wondering why does Hypoactive sexual desire disorder develop. How can some women go from a high sex drive at one point in life to emotional challenges from a lack of sexual interest. In this article, we will discuss reasons Hypoactive sexual desire disorder and low desire disorders develop for women.
Sometimes, women develop hypoactive sexual desire disorder because of past sexual trauma.
It is very common for women to experience less excitement around sexual activities after sexual trauma. Sometimes, women may go into a PTSD flashback if they feel sexual sensation again. After sexual trauma or sexual abuse, it is common for females to avoid sex, avoid sexual pleasure, and avoid all sexual activities. Holistic marriage, sex and intimacy therapy in Niantic, Connecticut helps women find what feels safe through self-pleasure and mastrobation first.
Past sexual trauma can lead to hypoactive sexual desire disorders in females
Hypoactive sexual desire disorder can develop from childhood sexual abuse, past sexual trauma, or rape. If a female’s body experienced unwanted touch of any kind, she may shy away from future sexual activities. Due to past sexual abuse and sexual trauma, women with hypoactive sexual desire disorder may beginning avoiding sexual situations that are reminders sexual trauma. Having sexual experiences means being vulnerable, which can be unsafe. Holistic marriage, sex and intimacy therapy in New London, Connecticut can help women resolve inner shame and guilt from surviving sexual abuse. Unwanted touch leaves a lasting impact. Holistic therapy can be a safe place to talk about her childhood, early development and heal from sexual abuse.
How do experiences of sexual trauma lead to sexual dysfunctions in females?
If a woman has experienced past sexual abuse, rape, or incest, she may no longer feel safe opening up her body in this way. Therefore, a female with a history of sexual abuse may avoid situations that could lead to sexual activity. Holistic marriage, sex and intimacy therapy in Connecticut at Wisdom Within Counseling can help survivors of trauma feel safe in the world again. In the past, if sexual activities have been painful or non consensual, a woman may inadvertently develop sexual dysfunctions like a low sex drive. Self-pleasure and mastrobation can be parts of sexual exploration that rebuild sexual safety on a personal level.
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What else can lead to hypoactive sexual desire disorder in females and sex issues?
At times, women develop hypoactive sexual desire disorder and a low libido due to medications. SSRI’s and anti-depressants can lead to low sexual desire and a low libido. One common side effect of SSRI’s and anti-depressants is a decrease in sexual interest and a much lower sex drive. If you are taking an SSRI or anti-depressant, this could be one of the factors to your hypoactive sexual desire disorder.
As well as SSRI’s and anti-depressants, hormonal birth controls and hormonal contraceptives can lower sex drive.
Hormonal birth control has side effects of hypoactive sexual desire disorder. In addition, some allergy medications can lead to hypoactive sexual desire disorder and low libido issues. And, blood pressure medications can also contribute to low libido issues in females. Speaking with your prescriber and slightly lowering the dose can improve sexual arousal abilities. Some women choose to use alternatives to medication all together and work with a holistic sex and intimacy therapist at Wisdom Within Counseling.
Relationship problems play a huge role in female sexual arousal
In addition to past sexual trauma and side effects of commonly prescribed medications, relationship problems lead to sex issues. Holistic marriage, sex and intimacy therapy in East Lyme, Connecticut helps females and couples talk about relationship conflicts. If a female doesn’t feel emotionally safe or heard, she will have no interest in being sexually intimate or sexually expressive. A female’s body and mind are connected. So, it is difficult for a female to feel safe sexually and express herself sexually if she feels hurt, betrayed, or sad. She may no longer be interested in sexual activities if she suspects her partner is not being honest, seeing other people, or having an emotional or physical affair. Also, when there have been trust issues, secret keeping, lying, or infidelity, these impact a female’s sexual arousal abilities.
Trust issues, cheating, infidelity, and secret keeping can lead to sex problems and sexual dysfunctions in females
In the beginning of a relationship, a female may have been feeling safe and open sexually. However, after she finds out her partner has been cheating on her, trust issues develop. Now, she finds that she has less and less interest in sexual activities. Working with a marriage, sex and intimacy counselor at Wisdom Within can help couples overcome issues that are holding them back.
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Commonly, opening up communication and talking about betrayals and trust issues is a key part of sex and intimacy counseling at Wisdom Within.
Building emotional security and repairing after conflicts are precursors to increasing a female’s sex drive and libido. Each romantic relationship has conflicts, but when couples lack conflict resolution skills, trust issues arise, and arguments go unresolved, this impacts female sexual desire. Therefore, a female may receive a diagnosis of hypoactive sexual desire disorder as a result of ongoing, unresolved relationship arguments and trust issues where she doesn’t feel emotionally safe.
Lack of adequate foreplay and lead to reduced excitement around sexual activity
Often, a female knows her body best. However, a female’s sexual, romantic partner may need better sexual education to understand her sexual needs. Biologically, females need more time to become sexually aroused both physically and emotionally than males. A female needs 45-90 minutes of foreplay to feel sexually aroused. Females and their sexual, romantic partners can gain sex education from working with a sex and intimacy therapist at Wisdom Within Counseling.
Marriage, sex and intimacy therapy in Southeastern Connecticut can help a female’s sexual partner know how to touch her more sensually
Without proper sexual education, a female’s sexual, romantic partner may rush to vaginal intercourse before she is ready and sexually aroused
If a partner is going straight for a female’s genitalia without touching other erogenous zones, this is a major problem. In sex and intimacy counseling, females and their sexual partners can learn about the importance of foreplay. Foreplay is the time hyping up, building sexual arousal, and increasing the heat she feels around her vulva and clitoris. In order for a female to feel sexually aroused and her libido to increase, she needs her erogenous zones kissed, touched, and stimulated first. A female’s sexual, intimate partner should be touching and kissing her lips and neck first and foremost.
A female’s partner can learn about erogenous zones in sex and intimacy therapy in Connecticut
Erogenous zones are key elements in female sexual pleasure and treating desire disorders
Then, as sexual desire builds, her sexual, intimate partner can bring hot breath to her earlobes, inner thighs, belly, lower abdomen, and pubic area. Also, a female’s sexual partner can take time to stimulate and caress her breasts and nipples with their breath, finger tips, and tongue. When a female feels hot breath on her ear lobes or the nape of her neck, this brings more feel good chemicals into her brain. From there, she will feel her clitoris becoming engorged with blood. In the same way a male’s penis becomes erect and hard, a female’s clitoris grows in size slightly when she becomes sexually aroused. As a female’s body gets tantalized and teased sexually, she will feel heat and pressure building in her vulva and clitoral area, even though her clitoris and vulva are not being touch in that moment.
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Females need touch all over their body to feel desired, wanted, and aroused sexually
The buttocks and scalp also have tons of sensors for female arousal and sexual pleasure. Commonly, women do not have sexually generous partners due to lack of sex education. Therefore, at Wisdom Within Counseling, marriage, sex and intimacy therapy in Essex, Connecticut can teach couples what is necessary to support female sexual pleasure. Increasing foreplay, teasing, and edging, can lead to increases in sexual desire.
When female’s and couples for come in for marriage, sex and intimacy therapy in Groton, Connecticut, sexual education about adequate foreplay is necessary.
A female’s sexual partner may be rushing to vaginal intercourse, which is not playful or adventurous for females. So, to build in playfulness, adventure, and build sexual arousal, touching erogenous zones can be more fun. Therefore, a female’s sexual, romantic partner can touch her scalp. For instance, the scalp alone has many receptors for relaxation and sexual pleasure. To amp up the sensation of sexual pleasure, a female’s partner can give light head scratches. As well, when making out and french kissing, a female’s sexual partner can use their fingernails lightly over the scalp. The space behind the ears, earlobes, and nape of the neck are very sexual areas. As a female and her partner become more in sync, she may request for gentle tugging on her hair. When done consensually, hair pulling can send waves of passion, heat, and sexual pleasure down to her vulva and clitoris.
Touching erogenous zones for 45-90 minutes can build suspense, mystery, playfulness, and sexual adventure increasing sexual desire
The more fun an activity is, the more women want to keep doing that activity. And, the same is true for sexual activities. If a woman feels bored during sex, or that sexually pleasing her parter is a chore, she will not have much sexual desire. If a woman is constantly feeling like she is the only one being sexually generous, she will often develop a low sexual libido. Couples therapy can be a safe place to talk about the balance in giving and receiving sexual activities. Also, if a female feels obligated or responsible to look like she is having fun, she will often not want to be sexual. Remember, spicing things up sexually can have positive benefits on female sexual desire and sexual pleasure. So, marriage, sex and intimacy therapy in Connecticut can be a safe place to talk about making sexual activities more pleasurable and adventurous.
When treating hypoactive sexual desire disorder, one step is increasing foreplay to be 45-90 minutes long before her partner begins stimulating her clitoris or penetration.
Many times, couples are not doing foreplay, teasing, and females with low desire disorders report sex is boring. Therefore, working with a marriage, sex, and intimacy counselor in Southeastern Connecticut can help couples gain sex education. Your sex and intimacy therapist can talk about building desire through foreplay, teasing, and edging to make sexual activities more playful and adventurous. In foreplay, a female’s sexual partner can play around the vulva and clitoral area on top of her clothing, making her want it more and more. Teasing and edging are important sexual skills that rebuild sexual desire in females.
Trying new sex toys can bring adventure and playfulness around sexual activities
When sexual activities are boring, women may feel a decrease in sexual arousal or pleasure during sexual activity. Then, a women may no longer initiate sexual activity within her romantic, intimate relationship due to sex being a chore. Therefore, bringing new sex toys into sexual experiences can bring back the spice and passion. When a woman feels wanted, important, and that her partner is giving her attention, she feels desired. Feeling wanted and desired by her partner is a huge way a female’s body builds sexual desire.
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Most women orgasm from clitoral stimulation and for optimal pleasure, need to orgasm before vaginal penetration and sexual intercourse begin.
To note, sex toys and lubricants can provide clitoral stimulation in a way that vaginal penetration or sexual intercourse alone can not. So, using sex toys can support clitoral stimulation rather than rushing to vaginal penetration or intercourse. Sex toys and lubricants can support female sexual pleasure and the female orgasm before vaginal intercourse. Sex and intimacy therapy in Connecticut can help women and couples pick the best sex toys.
New emotions can arise when using a new sex toy
Couples can also have the safety of their marriage therapist’s office to talk about apprehensions to using sex toys. There may be different emotions that come up after using a new sex toy. One partner may have questions about how to go about using the sex toy with their partner. Therefore, sex therapy and couples therapy in Old Saybrook, Connecticut can be a safe place to talk about integrating new sex toys and lubricants. Sex toys and lubricants can spice up your sex life and support maximum sexual pleasure.
Marriage, sex and intimacy therapy in Connecticut helps women and couples process the emotions around hypoactive sexual desire disorder
To note, women can learn different techniques to increase sex drive issues and overcome hypoactive sexual desire disorder in marriage, sex, and intimacy therapy in Niantic, Connecticut. Hypoactive sexual desire disorder leads to stress, anxiety about future sexual experiences, and emotional struggles.
For each female struggling with hypoactive sexual desire disorder, she may experience different emotions.
A woman with hypoactive sexual desire disorder or a low libido may feel shame or guilt around her sexuality. Other women may have high levels of anxiety or overwhelm from sexual issues. Some women may feel mad at themselves, a sense of inner turmoil and frustration. At Wisdom Within Counseling in East Lyme, Connecticut, women and couples can safely talk about sexual dysfunctions. Sex and intimacy therapy can give women and their sexual partner’s sex therapy homework. There can be emotional, physical, mental, psychological components to a decreased libido and hypoactive sexual desire disorder. Having a safe place to talk about all the emotions is essential to healing and overcoming hypoactive sexual desire disorder.
